ArcadianHarpist Archive

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2	Would you say this statement is true? That’s such a messed up thing to put on a kid. Honestly it sounds like your mom was looking for somewhere to put her own guilt about your sister’s eating disorder, and your body was an easy place to land it so she wouldn’t feel at all culpable. That’s on her, not you. But I get why it stuck. Once someone tells you your body is a problem for other people, it’s hard to unhear that, even years later. Makes total sense you’d start avoiding stuff like shopping trips.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/26 01:32 AM
2	Would you say this statement is true? Very true. I don’t wear makeup (I think, as you said, it would make the problem worse for me) but I have a large chest and it makes clothes look more sexualized even though my dresses have high necklines. The women who lectured me on my style said that I should take my chest into account by intentionally wearing baggy sweaters and dresses that did not come in at the waist or “put my figure on display” (if I took their advice, I would look downright frumpy/pregnant with my body type). Keep in min…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/26 08:15 PM
3	Would you say this statement is true? I definitely think there’s some truth in what you say, but I don’t dress sexy at all but was lectured about my lack of modesty (see my comment above for more detail). I agree people are more likely to make that assumption if someone is wearing overtly risqué clothing, but it’s also true that women really can’t win if they’ve been singled out for whatever reason, no matter what their personal style happens to be. I don’t think there’s a type of clothing that would make women exempt from this kind…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/26 05:58 PM
9	Would you say this statement is true? I don’t think women are homogeneous enough to pick one stance. There are women who dress for the male gaze, women who dress for other women, women who dress for status in general, women who dress for themselves, women who haven’t thought about it one way or the other, etc. I dress for myself (already married, don’t care about status). I definitely don’t do it for other women—I’ve had women give me the side eye, and my (former) best friend and her mother even sat me down for an intervention. For …	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/26 05:16 PM
1	Modest feminine clothing I buy most of my dresses from Ivy City. https://ivycityco.com/collections/all-women-dresses	/r/RedPillWomen	12/06/26 08:11 PM
2	Almost 11 months postpartum with second baby and really struggling First, I think you need to really pay attention to what your body is telling you with these thoughts about the car crash. You need actual support, NOW. And not just practical support in terms of sleep. Have you thought about seeing a therapist? Just having someone neutral you can express your feelings to could really help you right now. On the practical side, have you tried sleep training? I used the advice in the book, Moms on Call: Next Steps Baby Care 6-15 Months with both my kids and it save…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/04/26 08:23 AM
–	Why do women don't date shoort men? She’s not average height. The average height for women is 5’4.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/26 06:07 PM
18	Being a SAHM is idiotic for both the partners. Yep. Notice the OP didn’t mention the welfare of the kids anywhere in his dumb post.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 12:44 PM
3	Which blue pill ideas you don't want to be associated with? Question for purple pill Not who you asked, but…while I believe in a biological basis for traditional gender roles, I don’t think that’s necessarily how life should work as a prescriptive. As a small example, I’m a SAHM and my job is homeschooling our kids; I still expect my husband to help out around the house, just as he would do if he lived alone. That doesn’t make him less masculine or undermine his role as a provider. It only makes sense that he helps, as we are the adults running the show. Another example would be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 11:08 PM
4	I never really understood the appeal of thongs. What am I missing and why do women actually like wearing them? I dunno, I think it’s refreshingly wholesome.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 12:51 AM
1	Boyfriend doesn't want to be a provider You're not wrong to be upset, but I'd reframe what you're actually asking for. The issue isn't really the $300, it's that he made a specific promise when you committed to this dynamic, he now has the means to keep it, but he's refusing. That's a breach of the agreement you two made. The allowance framing is going to make people focus on the wrong thing. What you're describing is a man who benefited from your domestic labor and emotional support while he was broke, and now that he has money he's …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/03/26 05:12 PM
19	What are your thoughts on make-up? Numerous studies have shown that both men and women prefer natural makeup to no makeup or heavy makeup. Personally, I rarely wear makeup and when I do it’s light. My simple advice is to do whatever makes you feel good about yourself. The only possible red flag I could see with the guy you describe is it sucks feeling pressured to perform. What if he expects a full face of makeup 24/7? That would be too much for me.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/26 07:10 PM
8	Struggling With My Girlfriend’s Past and My Own Double Standards Name the real problem here. How does her past truly relate to the present considering how well she is treating you? • “I feel humiliated that she chased someone who treated her like an option.” • “I’m scared she’ll revert when she’s lonely.” • “I keep comparing and it makes me feel small.” It’s usually one (or more) of the above, and the best place to sort them out is therapy. This is really about whether you can learn to respect her and stop punishing her in your head. If she’s shown real chara…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/26 08:35 PM
–	Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters. Exactly! This was so sweet to read, and restored my faith in humanity a bit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 04:17 AM
–	Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters. The first time, I said, “I guess it just goes to show John (friend) has a type. What’s your type?” He said, “I don’t know.” I replied, “Me! I’m your type.” He said, “Well, no, you’re not really my type.” The second time, he mentioned that a woman we know is a 7/10, and I was surprised to hear him rate someone so specifically, so I asked what he’d rate me. He said a 5, maybe a 6 if I tried hard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 04:13 AM
–	Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters. That’s fair, but I think we all say dumb or mean things occasionally that we deeply regret. And unfortunately it’s usually the people we’re closest to that get hurt. I’m sure if he could go back in time, knowing what damage it’s done, he would have kept his mouth shut.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 04:06 AM
–	Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters. Both of us basically married our best friend. If you asked him, he’d say personality is more important than looks, so I think he was just being honest. Me being average wasn’t a dealbreaker for him. Otherwise, he is kind, intelligent, hard working, and a great father. We have a lot in common, enjoy spending time together, and don’t like to fight. I’m just not sure how to stop feeling so insecure and distant now that the truth has come out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 03:54 AM
–	Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters. I dunno man. I’m not sure personality is enough. I love my husband’s personality, but after he told me I’m not really his type and I’m a 5/10, things have gone south and stayed south. He insists he didn’t mean it, and he’s apologized, but I was under the impression that he was attracted to me before that, and it bothers me so much that it’s hard to be intimate with him now. I don’t expect him to rate me a 10/10, but other people have told me they think I’m beautiful (other men have even said so …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 03:01 AM
42	Boyfriend says he’s RP but I’m worried it’s actually toxic behavior He’s justifying all his insecurities with RP. He’s beyond toxic and is squarely in pathetic territory. I really don’t think he’s mature enough for a relationship, much less marriage and fatherhood. I would move on, tbh.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/26 01:13 AM
–	Men who genuinely cannot attract anyone are not as common as people here think. You think music, recreational tennis and Pilates are male dominated? Weird that women outnumber men in all three in my area. I am not surprised baking and cooking aren’t top of the list for single women tbh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/26 11:03 PM
–	Men who genuinely cannot attract anyone are not as common as people here think. I’m sorry those specific hobbies didn’t work out for you. Maybe you should try something different. There are lots of single women in the circles I’ve been in—role playing, LARPs, music (Celtic or bluegrass jams and concerts), tennis, and Pilates. I think you’ve not exposed yourself to enough different groups. There are also churches and political groups, if you’re into either of those. You just have to keep trying new things, because obviously apps don’t work and trying new hobbies has the adva…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/26 10:39 PM
–	Men who genuinely cannot attract anyone are not as common as people here think. Hobbies. Even super geeky hobbies like LARPing have a fair amount of women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/26 08:29 PM
1	Why I prefer to marry a stay at home mom and why I believe this model is healthier for society As long as you realize that your wife should not be expected to do 100% of the housework. I’m a SAHM and I know a bunch of other families who have traditional households, and in all of them, the men pitch in at home. I think it’s a pretty big misconception that the man would just focus on work and put his feet up with a martini when he gets home.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/02/25 11:58 AM
1	Guys Usually Have Problems With Dating Because of Money, Not How They Look or Act I don’t have any experience with dating apps, so I’m probably not in a position to answer this. But yes, I think I would have. We have a lot of similar interests, so that might have stood out in his (theoretical) profile. And I think he’s handsome—I like bigger guys in general, and I think he looks a bit like Russell Crowe. He knows my username and knows I post on this sub. We talk about pilled issues fairly often.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 12:02 AM
1	Guys Usually Have Problems With Dating Because of Money, Not How They Look or Act Ah okay. We have been asked if we’re related before, fwiw. And I think I have a slightly masc look because of my jaw. It is crazy that we are coming to an age where it’s hard to know what’s real or not, I feel you on that one! <image>	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 05:11 AM
4	Guys Usually Have Problems With Dating Because of Money, Not How They Look or Act That’s just how I look when I smile, dude. But thanks for giving me a new insecurity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 04:53 AM
2	Guys Usually Have Problems With Dating Because of Money, Not How They Look or Act Thank you! I wash and condition it, then turn my head upside down and squeeze out most of the water with prayer hands (trying not to break up the natural thicker clumps). Then I put a dollop of Evo Liquid Rollers curl cream in my hands and gently scrunch from the bottom. Then I plop most of my hair on top of my head with my hands and wrap it in a microfiber towel for 15 minutes. Then I take the towel off, divide my hair in two sections, and spritz with Evo Happy Campers leavin conditioner. I cli…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 04:40 AM
4	Guys Usually Have Problems With Dating Because of Money, Not How They Look or Act It’s not AI. We have a pro photographer take our family pictures every fall. I’m not sure how to prove it to you except upload a bunch of other photos, but I’d rather not for privacy’s sake.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 04:21 AM
3	Guys Usually Have Problems With Dating Because of Money, Not How They Look or Act I’ve never used a dating app (I’m 40) so it’s nothing personal, it’s just common sense. People have more luck dating other people in their (physical) social sphere than playing a tinder lottery.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 02:14 AM
10	Guys Usually Have Problems With Dating Because of Money, Not How They Look or Act Dating apps are just a meat market. You said it yourself—your tech bros found wives through their social circles. That’s the lynchpin, not their salaries. You seem to be jumping to the conclusion that they only married them because of their money…the only evidence you provided was that the women are attractive and the tech bros make good money. Anyway, if what you said was accurate, blue collar men wouldn’t be able to marry at all. I married a teacher. We live in an apartment with our two kids. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 02:05 AM
–	"women love sex, maybe they just don't like it with you..." This study and others like it refute your presupposition that married men don’t get sex: https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/what-to-know-how-often-married-couples-have-sex A “dead bedroom” is considered sex 10 times or less per year. 82% of married couples excel beyond that standard. 65% have sex almost every week or more. So to answer your question, based on that it would appear that around 80% of women enjoy sex with the person they are married to. Dead bedrooms are caused by both men and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 03:26 AM
1	AI gfs could change everything I wish that was true, but I know couples who only do email and basic Google stuff because they object to a lot of technology and social media, and they still have problems.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/24 09:03 PM
2	AI gfs could change everything There’s a German movie (with subtitles) starring Dan Stevens with a plot that explores this question, titled I’m Your Man. I wonder if the robots would be just as appealing to women? Imagine a female CEO who wants to have kids before she hits menopause. She could get a sperm donor, then a robot husband to keep house and go down on her as much as she wants. And he would be a 10/10 with a personality that perfectly complements her own. Beyond the sex stuff, human relationships are hard as fuck, so…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/24 12:46 AM
7	Women should be taught that they too can find joy in providing for their partner. As a stay at home mom, I think you overestimate how much free time you’d actually have. It’s honestly more emotionally draining than most jobs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/24 09:16 PM