Arghu40 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Career advice Most men don't start finding stride in their careers until the reach the mid to late 30s. This has been my experience anyway. It looks like you are earlier on the MRP journey. Keep the foot on the gas in all areas of your life and see where you are at 12 months from now.	/r/askMRP	01/05/26 10:19 PM
1	Trying to understand the ‘Pitfall’ You are 25. You don't know shit. I would caution against any man promoting a woman to a relationship in his 20s. You still have a lot of mental, personal, physical, and financial work to do on your life before you can consider having a relationship with any woman. Let's say I do, have some cool sexual experiences with nice women, but how long before I end up back at square one? What are you talking about? AWALT.	/r/askMRP	06/01/26 03:28 AM
4	Red flag from LTR. Overreaction or cause for concern? You are the problem, not her. Looks like you got lost on your way to the sidebar, huh? Lift, sidebar, shut your mouth, map, and own your shit.	/r/askMRP	02/08/25 08:31 PM
3	Is this "anxious wife", tough times, or uninterested woman? I'm late to this thread, but I agree with the other commenter about this woman being a woman you date, rather than someone you should be in a relationship with. Always follow the actions over the words with women. The fact she fucks off for a long period of time before seeing you again just to fuck then leave you again speaks volumes. I would consider demoting her back down to a plate and letting her walk; or, just flat out block/ghost her. It sounds like you have a lot of mental and emotional w…	/r/askMRP	25/06/25 08:10 PM
3	Spinning two plates, should I choose one or let them both go? lol You don't have a fuckin' clue. Read the sidebar, lift heavy, shut your mouth, and kill your ego.	/r/askMRP	25/05/25 01:53 AM
1	Sex Drive Surge in Marriage: Is It Muscle or Mindset related? mostly due to your physical growth from the gym, your phisique change, rather than your mindset. You can't avoid the "lifting" part of your map...	/r/askMRP	14/05/25 07:11 PM
1	Similiar communities? Read the sidebar.	/r/askMRP	11/03/25 01:48 AM
2	5 years in, still back and forth on marriage You are the prime example of a guy who consumes way too much RP content online, without doing any reading or bothering to put together a map. I disagree with redandswollen's comment 100%. Everything you listed comes down to you, as you have a massive ego issue based on the info you provided. Just admit it. You larped the entire time and fucked around for 5 years on a questionable relationship to say the least. Start posting in OYS and document your journey properly, or continue to be in a spin t…	/r/askMRP	28/01/25 09:41 PM
1	Timeframe Where are you on the sidebar? How much work have you put into you?	/r/askMRP	27/01/25 09:22 AM
2	How to differentiate wanting to fsck for validation vs horniness Read the sidebar first.	/r/askMRP	02/12/24 04:53 AM
3	How to differentiate wanting to fsck for validation vs horniness Don't ask me for oys/weights/bf% or whatever other gay metrics you think you need. I don't need a bunch of random dudes to stay accountable. No idea why you bothered to post here in the first place...	/r/askMRP	02/12/24 04:13 AM
11	Potential LTR says I'm not "tuned up with my emotions" and "should learn to be vulnerable" Based on your post, you haven't done any work mentally on yourself. You don't have frame. You wrote a bunch of stuff about this woman you are dating, but you aren't even in a relationship with her? I'm confused, what is your goal here? I'm trying to stick to MRP by the book. You haven't bothered to read the sidebar, other than go and lift. It's great that you lift, but you actually have to do the other stuff on the sidebar. You still have a lot of work to put in on yourself because you are an em…	/r/askMRP	25/11/24 10:14 PM
1	Trying not to mate guard Mate guarding is weak behaviour. You are working on your MAP, so I’m curious how far into the sidebar you are on? There is one aspect of setting a boundary, and another one when it comes to the response. I agree with the other commenter: focus on you. At this moment, you should be more focused on working through your shit and getting your frame sorted out. Keep lifting, keep internalizing the sidebar, and don’t forget to shut your mouth.	/r/askMRP	09/11/24 05:17 AM
2	FR: What happens if you divorce after MRP I'm late to this post, but I want to point on something here the larping TRP idiots on social media/youtube miss... The common reason I've found why this happens is because there is nothing like a woman scorned. And who is aging, hitting the wall, and sees an ex on the other side killing it in life. They hamster that there must be something \wrong and mean** about this man because he is doing so fucking well. Its no different than the libtards who cry about top income earners being evil men. The…	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/11/24 07:36 PM
4	Do you feel like the grass is greener on the other side? His comment history on this sub speaks volumes. Dude doesn't know what he wants, yet talks about how "awesome" everything is going for him - cringe. He hasn't read the sidebar or made a MAP at all yet, just larping.	/r/askMRP	30/10/24 07:12 PM
3	Do you feel like the grass is greener on the other side? Look, you have posted a couple of times on this sub already. You didn't know how to STFU a month ago and now you are telling us your life is awesome. Cool. Do the work by reading the sidebar and taking action. Not sure what you want here...	/r/askMRP	30/10/24 07:07 PM
4	Do you feel like the grass is greener on the other side? Not a fan of this post... I was a skinny nerd in my teens and early 20's, started reading and lifting a few years ago and got to a place where I'm pretty happy with myself. Today I have a great relationship. Not married, mid 20's, and I love it - I like her, her friends, her city, her cooking, our sex, and it's just been a great 2 years with no sign of stopping. So, you became "somewhat" attractive in your 20s, going from a virgin, loser in your early twenties, to a few years later "locking down…	/r/askMRP	29/10/24 08:29 PM
2	Wife says she puts out enough You are a drive-by commenter who doesn't even know what a MAP is...	/r/askMRP	28/10/24 10:40 PM
1	How to STFU correctly? Read the sidebar.	/r/askMRP	24/09/24 09:16 PM
1	Just how poorly am I doing? Where are you now? Where do you want to be? Are you closer now than you were last week? Last month? He can't even answer these questions because he hasn't even started to run a map yet. I agree with the others saying he can't answer shit until he gets to work. No reading on the sidebar and a lack of initiative tells it all...	/r/askMRP	29/08/24 05:00 AM
1	Fiance being a red flag, have a tough conversation or is this relationship doomed Where are you on your MAP? No mention of the work you have done or what you are working on. Give some background info on you and some stats to get quality replies from those veterans from around MRP.	/r/askMRP	25/08/24 06:27 PM
3	Which redpill books are actually about being a better man Why are you even at MRP to begin with? What brought you to this post? Based on your replies and history, you would be better suited over at the Incel or Mgtow subs.	/r/askMRP	21/08/24 07:19 AM
5	Question about boundary setting with pregnant wife Wow, dude. You have a ton, and I mean a TON of work to get going on. Are you lifting at least 3 days a week? Are you reading through the sidebar? Hell, have you started to read through anything on the sidebar? TRP/MRP isn't a magic pill to fix your problems. You have to give in-depth info on you, what you are working on, and what the end goal is before you can get any advice or suggestions for that manner. No mention of your stats, which means you have done no work, which also means you have to …	/r/askMRP	29/07/24 03:04 AM
2	Unsure how to handle this. Let's talk about stats here... I've tried a lot of the techniques in RP, Game, flirting, dating her, bringing it up point blank, etc. I'm at a loss now. Where is your work? What have you been working on? How far along are you on the sidebar? The word you use here, 'techniques', makes me tilt my head... I don't think you understand the purpose of learning all of the golden info that is over on the sidebar > to your right. Once you get going on your MAP, as /u/deerstfu mentioned, you will be laugh…	/r/askMRP	19/07/24 07:31 PM
3	Screening for True Compatibility Beyond Lay Count I agree with the others here, you don't have any idea or internalized knowledge of the sidebar. Dating, relationship, engagement, and marriage are all steps that have a certain degree of qualities that you must have for yourself in order to be successful (on your end). You need to take at least 12 months of dating, bare minimum, before even considering them for a relationship. You sound like a guy who is too eager to settle down with any woman as soon as possible and ultimately, fuck yourself in…	/r/askMRP	08/07/24 01:36 AM
2	Help with dread in the context of WHM I am going to tackle one point in this post... I work from home 8-10 hours a day, locked up in my office. Change that. No reason you should be a monk five days straight for hours on end staring at a screen. I work from home and travel for work when necessary. Even then, I always head out during lunch time to do an errand, grab a coffee, or even meet up with someone for lunch. If you are putting in 10 hour days (50~ average a week), I first question your agenda with your role. You work to live, n…	/r/askMRP	11/06/24 03:57 AM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? Not sure why you labelled this as a 911 post, but none the less... The only question that matters here: 'What do YOU want to do?'	/r/askMRP	01/05/24 05:23 AM
7	Disrespect at the dinner table. All of this BS in your post will be put aside on my end, as the others have already addressed it. Question: As a 44 year old man, are you able to pull women in their 20s? I'm being serious here. I recently entered my 40s and I'm in the best shape physically and mentally in my life. You on the other hand, who is only a handful of years older than me, don't seem to have made any progress on your mental frame. You keep beating your head against the wall here. Do you want permission to leave your wi…	/r/askMRP	18/04/24 04:22 AM
4	Wife wants to use a surrogate lol The covert contracts galore in this post.	/r/askMRP	18/04/24 04:17 AM
12	A bit confused A low effort post, a guy that posts in poverty finance all the time, and a lazy fuck that can't even lift or read the sidebar... Do some work.	/r/askMRP	13/04/24 03:46 AM
3	Need Perspective From You Guys Note to self: keep striving for better. Why haven't you been working through the sidebar yet?!	/r/askMRP	11/04/24 08:54 AM
1	How is post divorce life for you guys? Getting caught cheating can have a significant impact on a divorce. I asked about this with my lawyer during my separation as well. My lawyer mentioned that dating was fine, but getting into a relationship is off the cards during a separation.	/r/askMRP	04/04/24 12:00 AM
2	Am i wrong? This is not MRP worthy... Why did you come here? Fucking idiots.	/r/askMRP	02/04/24 03:37 AM
0	A disasterclass in frame so I'm hoping to understand here my path to unfuck myself. Doubtful... Based on your history, you have been making posts here for well over a year and you continually fail over & over again. You aren't serious about making your life better. Like the rest of us that first came here, you have to post in OYS and start working on your MAP. You have been fucking around the entire time. You aren't making progress because you aren't doing any actual work, just fucking around, retard.	/r/askMRP	02/04/24 01:47 AM
2	A disasterclass in frame I read your first post from yesterday. Sad, just sad... I'm not going to waste my time reading this post, other than to let you know that you are the problem. The problem starts with you. The fact you have wrote two massive posts about a woman who is basically a plate in the rotation, plus, you are 25 years old? Jesus, you may is well fuck off to one of the low quality TRP subs for this.	/r/askMRP	01/04/24 11:26 AM
12	Divorcees - When Did You Know It Was Over? Around 8/9 months into my map back when I first came to the space back in 2018. It wasn't a big moment or a terrible situation that made me want to leave. After I spent a lot of time focusing my energy 100% on me, who I was, and what I wanted to do with my life, my (then) relationship wasn't one of the main priorities. I had nothing against my (now) ex, but I felt there was no value in still being in a relationship with her. Like a lot of guys that come here, we tend to overvalue something or so…	/r/askMRP	29/03/24 02:47 AM
-1	Snapchat and marriage You are a fat fuck who has no frame, no game, and is looking for cheat codes to your situation. Go read the sidebar while you are fasting and lifting weights religiously over the next six months. You say you have plenty of days in the gym, but no one here is buying it. Put together a MAP and forget your wife. A lot of the guys here (including me) are older than you and don't have these problems because... Well, we live for ourselves. You aren't mentally prepared at all to accept the fact your ma…	/r/askMRP	15/03/24 02:15 AM
2	Adventress LSE woman I read your post through when it was first published. I needed time before I came back to read it through again because of how retarded and brain-damaged you sound. Based on the context of the post and your response to the comments here, it's clear that you are a larping' retard who has never put together a MAP. How old are you? 21? 56? Lifts? Work on the sidebar? No info on you. I think you should post this over to /r/relationships or even the main /r/TheRedPill sub, as those subreddits will pu…	/r/askMRP	13/03/24 04:31 AM
3	Feeling Stagnated in Life and Relationship You are a walking red flag. Plain and simple facts have to do with the basis you are autistic and unattractive. If you are serious on the question "How do I fix this?" - it's easy. Sidebar. That said, between this, your post on the main sub, and your post history, this one smells of a troll.	/r/askMRP	03/02/24 08:07 PM
1	Vagiphobia example in NMMNG You have to practice game all the time, whether or not you are married, in a relationship, or dating other women, it doesn't matter. Closing on the situation? That's up for you to decide, not us. There is no moral compass with RP.	/r/askMRP	30/01/24 06:53 AM
1	How far to push my jealous gf? OP is too retarded to post in OYS and start a MAP.	/r/askMRP	23/01/24 09:53 PM
1	How far to push my jealous gf? You have posted here - twice. Stop wasting everyone's time and start posting in OYS.	/r/askMRP	23/01/24 09:52 PM
3	Jealous LTR GF The reason why I know I’m not handling it well is because I’ll try to steer away from stuff that trigger her jealousy. You care too much about the loose lip noises going on with her mouth.	/r/askMRP	22/01/24 09:24 PM
5	Setting up my business, wife suddenly bitchy Married for 10+ years with a 3.5-year-old child. I was laid off four months ago (first time in my life; never had problems, was considering quitting anyway) decided to go full into creating my own business. miss seemed to be fine with it, even excited... Until now. It's because you have low SMV (in general) and you are so far along the traintracks of being too unreliable as a provider in her eyes that she doesn't see this a viable solution. As the others mentioned, this is a branch-swing waiting…	/r/askMRP	21/01/24 03:57 AM
5	Incongruence on desires? Not enough time in the weight room and on active work to fix your mental models.	/r/askMRP	18/01/24 08:30 PM
5	Selecting a gym The basics of lifting heavy includes: barbell plates squat rack/stands You can literally buy the equipment used and put it in an area of your home if need be. Using a boxflex doesn't force you to learn proper form and move up the weight properly that plates give you. I have always had a home gym or a gym in a place that I was living/staying in for work. Find a proper weight lifting gym or get going on your own. Re/endthread.	/r/askMRP	07/01/24 06:08 AM
3	Comfort tests Weren't you the guy that made an RP troll post over a week back? I'm surprised your weren't banned...	/r/askMRP	06/01/24 12:46 AM
1	Helping My Ex Out Occassionally I'm confused... You said you are paying a lawyer to get the paper work done as we speak, right? With regards to the retainer for a lawyer, this has to do with post-divorce and dealing with custody orders down the line. As I told you previously, this can be done after you have the paper work taken care. Depending on your state or area, access to your kids may be determined with legal aid to get join custody or more time spent with them if you are not the primary caregiver.	/r/askMRP	06/01/24 12:41 AM
1	Helping My Ex Out Occassionally I wasn't even "married" by title, but in my area at the time, we were considered as good as married since we were common law. Same practice basically. I had to get a lawyer to serve her before I could even move out to make sure I had everything covered on my side. No kids either, which helped out massively. My point being... Get the paperwork done on the divorce as soon as possible, then sort out the custody with the kids. As for divorce, we make the same amount of money...I make a little bit mo…	/r/askMRP	05/01/24 11:38 PM
1	Helping My Ex Out Occassionally Get the paper work done as soon as you can for the divorce with your wife. With regards to having a lawyer on retainer down the line with future kid access, this can come into place when you have the money and time.	/r/askMRP	05/01/24 10:04 PM
1	Helping My Ex Out Occassionally You need to get that sorted ASAP. The paperwork review/finalization should not be dragged out and it's worth the money. while I can't afford to retain one currently When you can, do it. When it comes to access to kids and future choices, you need to have a lawyer on your side.	/r/askMRP	05/01/24 09:42 PM
1	Helping My Ex Out Occassionally A lot of good comments here. Something I haven't seen mentioned in your post or in your comments has to do with any agreement you have or put in place with the lawyer(s). Whether you are married or separate as a common law, some states and areas have specific rules for a set period of time between both parties. Are you even legally allowed to help your ex out in this type of a situation? If you aren't sure and the divorce is still processing or going through the one year graze period, you might …	/r/askMRP	05/01/24 09:31 PM
2	How Do You Practically Change Mental Models? You are extremely young and need to learn that this will be ongoing work with your habits.	/r/askMRP	05/01/24 05:43 PM
2	Wife never wants comfort You are DEERing in all of your comments. Clearly, you haven't learned anything at all. Start over and burn it to the ground if you are serious. Forget your wife and forget any of the other BS that you are digesting. Everyone here has called you out for not reading or internalizing the sidebar. You did it? Cool. Do it again. Go out and take some action. Go out and do some things. Keep in mind, there are men in your age group right now with women willing to come along on their journey, whether the…	/r/askMRP	02/01/24 10:58 PM
7	Wife never wants comfort You have been called out in the comments a lot and rightfully so. You haven't posted much on MRP as of late and it sounds like you are larping based on this post. I'm almost 2 years into my MRP journey. Two years. Two fucking years and you still don't know any of the basics. You are craving validation from your wife - still. Honestly, I can't relate. I'm in my 40s now. I came to MRP at the backend of 2018 and stood hard on the gas-peddle and made massive improvements in all areas of my life with…	/r/askMRP	02/01/24 09:35 PM
1	Building meaning - advice for a younger guy I just read the other comments and all of the other guys have said it. You have to build a map, read everything on the sidebar, get lifting, and start putting things forward to take action. You haven't even touched the sidebar... I have zero interest helped a kid 15 years younger than me that can't even read the basics of the MRP sub.	/r/askMRP	01/01/24 05:38 AM
2	Building meaning - advice for a younger guy The others here have already brought it up to you, but you either have ignored the advice or want to fight against it. You have no general game plan or set routine in your life. You can whine and mop about the way the world is and hope to god that someone will come down and coddle you, but that ain't reality, kid. Start building your routine. There should be no reason that at your age you aren't in the gym lifting weights five to six days a week. There should be no reason you haven't started to …	/r/askMRP	31/12/23 10:15 PM
1	Can obligated compliance turn into genuine compliance? The problem is me, but I can’t commit (propose)to her until I’ve fixed me and the relationship feels like one I want to marry into. You come first, not her. If she is giving you ultimatums already, be prepared to walk away from the relationship. You recognized that you fucked yourself and are starting to do the work. Keep in mind though, your woman is the reflection of all your unattractive fuck-ery from when you started down the MRP path. When I first came here back in 2019, it took me a solid …	/r/askMRP	30/12/23 01:01 AM
1	Can obligated compliance turn into genuine compliance? Why are you in a relationship with a woman who; is out of shape (and is presumably unattractive) puts in little effort isn't feminine Because OP is all of the following, but is feminine; not masculine.	/r/askMRP	30/12/23 12:57 AM
2	Server case of Oneitis or…? So many problems here... What's your age/stats? My gf of 1 year left on an international trip to visit her family back home. Our relationship was rocky so we decided to end it on her last day amicably. Honestly, that "1 year" isn't a relationship at all. More like a plate/woman you were dating. Have you checked through the sidebar yet? Also, the entire post is about this woman that none of us here even care about in the slightest. If you were an attractive man, you would have options in all area…	/r/askMRP	27/12/23 11:44 PM
4	Wife behavior Another commenter just said it. We know nothing about YOU. Do you not have the time to tell us about your background and what brings you to MRP? A handful of sentences about your wife flirting or wanting to fuck some guy in front of you? Yeah, it's all weak, including you. It's clear you are new to the space. You say you have been together for 10 years? Sounds like 10 shitty years at best. That's a lot of unfucking that you need to do. You didn't mention the sidebar, nor lifting, nor gaming othe…	/r/askMRP	20/12/23 07:40 AM
2	Why is ilybinilwy so impossible to come back from? What process? Your wife more than likely fucked another man and is checked out of the marriage. What exactly do you mean by "process"?	/r/askMRP	18/12/23 11:33 PM
-1	An ex-wife that enthusiastically followed? I'm a recently divorced 40M and I'm trying to understand the last meal I had with the woman who is my ex-wife. You and I are the same age. I went through the shit a few years ago... The difference between you and I is that I put the work in on myself with going through the MRP sidebar, posted in OYS, worked on my MAP, lifted like a motherfucker, and went out into the real world to build up my life. You clearly haven't done any work and are coming here for what reason? Seriously, why are you here…	/r/askMRP	12/09/23 12:17 AM