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It’s selfish to stay with someone you don’t like. He deserves to be with someone who actually likes him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/25 05:32 PM
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That’s so cruel.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 04:39 PM
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What if he doesn’t feel the same way that you do? Isn’t that unfair to keep him from finding someone who will actually love him and be excited to be with him?
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 12:03 AM
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I was in a relationship like that for 10 years and it broke me mentally so just be careful and remember if you don’t like it that’s totally okay. It’s pretty abnormal to be expected to entertain your partner constantly and it probably won’t change even if you ask him. Right now it might be alright but do you want to plan your own birthday party forever? Are you going to feel sad when he forgets your anniversary? Are you actually okay with being forced to make every major decision even if he won’…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 06:37 PM
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I’m not sure how right this is.. when people feel as though someone is being ‘cringe’ it’s usually way more about their own insecurities than whatever behaviour they’ve decided is ‘cringe’. I also think it’s inappropriate to spend time with people that you’ve decided are ‘cringe’. It’s not fair for them to think they have a friend/partner who accepts them when in reality that friend/partner is fixated on their ‘cringe’ behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 09:57 PM
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I used to be an SJW on tumblr and one day I decided I wanted to go watch news from the other side so I could pick it apart and come back and tell everyone how bad it was but they actually made a lot of really good points and I spent a few months really thinking hard about the life I wanted to live
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 01:44 AM
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its harder in a small town because the people in it have usually grown up together and they rarely let new people get close. Bigger cities have more people who have moved there rather than grown up there without close knit friend circles
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 03:25 AM
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Don’t stress yourself out, just go slowly and let the other person guide you. Opportunities to talk about your interests will come up naturally, talk about them a little bit and see how receptive the person you’re talking to is If they don’t seem interested don’t take it personally.. there could be lots of reasons behind it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 04:08 PM
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The only standard you mentioned that I think would cause you problems is that you said a lot of the available men are short. They can’t help that so I wouldn’t hold it against them. The closer you get to thirty the more baggage is kind of guaranteed so it’s almost time to start considering what your life could look like if you got together with a man with baggage It sounds you’ve done a lot of work on yourself but I don’t sense confidence through your text.. do you feel confident in yourself and…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 09:27 PM
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Depends on the type of man you’re interested in. Some men like a chase, some appreciate directness. Everyone needs the same thing though, signals. If you want a guy to ask you out, he needs to know you’re interested and you have a whole bunch of options for signals you can send. I saw in a comment here you described yourself as shy so I absolutely wouldn’t recommend you jump onto aggressively flirting with someone, you’re gonna feel out of depth. If you play to your strengths and try subtle thin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 09:22 PM
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This is important
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/20 10:22 PM
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I completely understand wanting to do something nice for others but once they’ve shown you unkindness I wouldn’t continue going the extra mile. We teach people how to treat us over time and it seems like they may have learnt that you will do things for them even if they treat you with disrespect
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 03:03 AM
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Why are you cooking for them and cleaning up after them if they’re not nice to you? Just because they’re your boyfriends friends and roommates doesn’t mean you HAVE to cook for them or clean their mess. You can be polite to them without being walked on you know. Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? He could probably tell them to stop if he knows it bothers you
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 01:31 PM
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They’re going to downvote you but they shouldn’t
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 08:37 PM
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Or a baby step/less extreme version, just set up some rules for yourself and unfollow all accounts that break that rule. If you miss them you can add them back in a week. Then fill in the space by following new accounts that display the traits you would like to have in yourself
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 02:09 AM
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Your awareness of this seems to be part of the healing process to me. If you’re not in therapy I totally recommend it, there are lots of great trauma specialists around and since the pandemic a lot have moved online which gives you more options. Have you told him about the realization you had? Not in a venting way but more in a casual way where you can also let him know how much you appreciate how he was there for you and ask how you could make it up to him (I’m the person who ends up being vent…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/20 07:55 AM
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Have you specifically been told that the reason guys only approach you for sex is your face? There are many reasons why something like that could happen so maybe you could make sure that’s the thing before obsessing over it. Obviously improving your appearance will help in ways other than finding a quality partner (better customer service, more social and job opportunities etc.) but if the real reason is something else you might end up moving further from your goal. Do you have people in your li…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 03:27 PM
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You can still really love him while accepting that he’s not what you need. Obv I don’t know your relationship but I know a little about brains. Waiting around for someone to become more dominant typically won’t work. Dominance and submission comes from early life experiences and should be fairly apparent by the time you start dating. In a relationship the only real thing you can change is wether or not you’re part of it. If you feel you would benefit from an alpha partner the right thing to do i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/20 08:42 AM
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I don’t recommend caring about what others think too much but I think I can see where you’re coming from. I’d recommend picking up a couple of hobbies you can talk about. You don’t have to throw yourself into anything just do enough that you can tell nosy people about it and they might just assume you’re too busy with the hobbies to be promiscuous. For real though, other people’s assumptions about you say more about them than they do about you
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 04:26 PM
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Have you told him how important it is to you to get married and what sort of timeline you’re thinking about? I had a similar problem but we were both a little older.. I had only had indirect conversations with him about getting married so eventually I broke down about how I was worried my window to have kids was closing (I was 29) Turned out he was picturing us getting married when I was about 35 and hadn’t thought about female fertility and how I might want a couple of years to just be married …
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/20 04:26 AM
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Why would this make you feel insecure though? Are you sure you can’t just deal with this and move on without asking him to stop drawing them? The insecurity would be coming from within yourself if all he’s doing is drawing a picture for it to start happening. If there are other reasons that make you insecure regarding this habit of his then maybe that’s a conversation you need to have with him Can you just comment on the art when he shows you and ignore the subject matter?
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 08:04 AM
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I really feel like the size of the town you live in matters here.. I live in a small town where people end up hanging out with their exes without much drama because there’s not much choice.. we only have three malls and two good streets of bars. I’ve noticed here people talk about being friends with your ex as a good sign but I grew up in a big city and I don’t remember that mentality there. Either way, if it’s a problem for you and you communicated it with your partner then it’s up to them to e…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/20 12:04 AM
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Be careful with assuming you know how he feels, you said you could tell he was disappointed but maybe it was something else, he could’ve been trying to hold in a fart or something else kinda silly.. maybe you could talk to him about it in a light playful way and see what he says
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 07:44 AM
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Kegels are the answer for sure, it will naturally return to normal over time with regular use but you can speed it up with the kegals. The two main things to remember are it’s an exercise so if you do it everyday the muscle doesn’t have time to heal. Less can be more if you’ve gotten into the habit of doing them daily. Next it’s the pace, you should do them pretty slow and hold as long as possible before releasing. Sorry if you knew all that already but there were a bunch of comments and I didn’…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 12:34 AM
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Your sister sounds mean as hell. Experiment with different fashion choices, I used to work at a small boutique and one of my favourite things was showing people different ways to change the way they look with their clothes. It’s best if you can actually go in somewhere and try stuff on but you can also learn from videos and Pinterest and stuff about different body types and how different cuts will work for them. It might sound counterproductive, but oversized pieces can make you look thin if you…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/20 08:54 AM
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what sort of clothes do you wear? And shoes, those are important. You don't have to wear heels, you can try platform shoes or wedges, but adding a little bit of a lift at the heel (even an inch) will make your legs seem slimmer high waisted bottoms help, especially if they 'flare' out like a circle skirt or wide leg pants there are lots of great resources that are specific for your body type out there your BMI is perfect if not a little low already, why is appearing thin so important?
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/20 10:50 PM
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Best advice for keeping him happy, communicate your needs before resentment builds. Sounds simple but it’s easy to let it slip when it comes down to difficult conversations. If the conversation is difficult to have it’s probably an important one
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 10:41 PM
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best advice in the thread right here
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/20 01:58 PM
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it's not just some dude, it's OPs boyfriend who she already been spending time with. The virus transfers through breathing, not kissing. not that that's relevant anyway, I didn't suggest anyone should ignore safety precautions. My issue is with a comment suggesting that OP is overreacting which she isn't. physical intimacy is important and her concerns are valid
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/20 09:02 AM
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lack of physical intimacy is a lot more important than people think it is. Sex is a basic human need and intimacy feeds into that. You shouldn't just STFU over basic needs not being met
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/20 08:22 AM
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I'm going to try my best to answer the question in your title.. my situation is very different to yours (I'm completely financially dependent on my fiance) so I have to bring out the big guns when I negotiate but it might still be helpful I believe that before I ask for anything that I should have the answers to any questions that might come up. I try to use logical reasoning when making a request and I'm always prepared for a no response before asking. when there's a situation like you're havin…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/20 05:11 AM
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This should be higher up
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 10:24 PM
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After dealing with anorexia for most of my life I can 100% confirm that starving makes you look a LOT older than you are. It makes your hair dry and brittle, your teeth suffer, your lips thin and you're constantly dehydrated because a surprising amount of our daily fluids come from our foods. Add in the fact that you move like you're in your 80s and have heart pain and you could almost qualify for a seniors discount :p
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 04:13 PM
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I'm really opinionated and I got much better reactions to it once I switched my focus from 'being right' to 'learning others views' Personally I got the most bad reactions to my opinions when I was still learning how to pick my battles
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 08:26 PM
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when I was growing up my Mother told me that floss was invented by dentists to make more money. Obviously I know better now (after a hefty dental bill and a root canal) but as a kid it wasn't so easy to tell ..it just sort of stuck through till adulthood :p
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/20 08:25 PM
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moisturize your whole body and face after every shower
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 10:42 PM
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what do your friends and family think about him?
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 04:06 AM
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your intention was never to dye your hair to make your husband feel any type of way, it was for yourself and then you found out afterwards that he preferred the blonde, OP is talking more about women who intentionally change their hair to a style that they know they partner dislikes to be petty. red hair is so fun, I always end up going back to copper because it's more exciting than my natural dark brown
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 03:25 PM
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I love American Eagle, Forever 21, and Dolls Kill but that last one isn't exactly classic and stylish lol. we're the same shape and I have a lot of success shopping from sites like Yesstyle as long as I size up. Yesstyle has a pretty mixed rep because it can be hit or miss but I've ordered some great clothes from there that I've worn for years without them breaking the same way clothes from forever 21 do. The main problem people have with Yesstyle seems to be the sizing and the fake sales they u…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 04:08 AM
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I like you, thankyou for teaching me about cheese today
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 12:43 AM
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I have a little experience in this, I've lived with anorexia most of my life (currently in a recovery phase yay) You've gotta track your calorie in calorie out, 500 cal above the recommended daily limit for your BMI could give you slow gradual weight gain that's easy to stop when you feel like you've gained enough It's surprisingly easy to sneak in extra calories, sugar and cream in your coffee, extra butter on your bread, extra sauces and salad dressing is delicious and calorie heavy, you don't…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 01:37 PM
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think of it like a pendulum swinging, when you try to change behavior you will probably swing a little too far over the other side before you settle in the middle. How are you supposed to learn what you aren't okay with until you've been confronted with it you know?
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 03:22 PM
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I can understand that, I'm also pretty introspective. Make sure you're taking note of your good points as well <3
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:57 PM
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for sure, intimidation is usually something that someone does to someone else on purpose, being scared of rejection and not approaching doesn't quite fit the definition of intimidation
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:27 PM
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the T and J in your myers brigg indicates more of a domineering personality.. its sort of hard to explain but I'll try, Perhaps your friends are feelers rather than thinkers like you are. When you're talking about things that are more emotional in nature they might perceive you as cold because of your logical approach to things. There's nothing wrong with the way you do things, just like there's nothing wrong with the way they do things, not good or bad, just different. The J suggests that you'r…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:25 PM
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the naked man.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 05:31 AM
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if value is on a scale, women date people who are at their level or higher, men chose people at their level or lower. You're an upgrade and you're probably even with him on the scale. To offer an alternative view instead of letting this make you wonder about his sexuality or your attractiveness.. you could use this to show that he doesn't quit easily and that looks aren't the number one priority to him. That would offer me a lot of comfort as the years go on, knowing that my man won't pack up an…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 11:58 PM
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hmmm I would try to figure out why he stopped initiating.. maybe ask him why in some sort of casual way and take it from there.. make sure to let him know you enjoy his company. Which rules?
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 07:06 AM
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go for it, everyone has their own opinion on plastic surgery but I'm not sure many people would think returning your skin to it's original state would be deceptive, personally I kept mine because they weren't that bad and now that I'm 29 they've faded into basically nothing except for one on my arm that I forget about all the time until random people stare at it. You say you've worked through your reasons for doing it in the first place, so long as you've learned coping mechanisms to prevent it …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 02:44 PM
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stoic and thoughtful is a great way to put it, that's what you realize it is after spending time with them for sure
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 06:16 PM
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he was actually super into my friend. I lived in an isolated community but visited her in the city and I met him. She talked about how she wasn't really into him so I told her I'd give him the message in a gentle way. So I hung out with him most of that night and eventually explained to him that she really wasn't into him but he was a total catch. He had a great job (construction so also a great body), his own place, a brand new truck that wasn't breaking the bank, he was super mature compared t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 01:52 PM
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lemme add, you can also use it to remove makeup/oil cleans your face, just wash your face with soap afterwards .. and if you mix it with a little bit of sugar in your hand you have a lip scrub
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 05:28 PM
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yall should talk
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 02:21 PM
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questioning her motivation is important, I'm almost willing to bet her husband fed her the exact lines she fed your husband OP about them costing money and staying at home to raise them being selfish or whatever.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 08:12 AM
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same reason as OP, grew up with fighting parents and now avoids problems by hoping they just go away. It sucks that parents can mess up people into adulthood :(
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 04:38 AM
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in my experience that is true yes. For the first 4 years of my current relationship (this is the end of year 6 now) we didn't fight. One day I decided to probe into that and it turned out we were just burying everything that annoyed us about each other and letting resentment build. Very unhealthy. Now the problem is that I'm an evil witch for bringing up things that bother me before they become resentment and he is still silent until I coax it out of him which feels like nagging even though he s…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 07:21 PM
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peanut butter is great for adding extra calories
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 06:36 PM
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when my relationship started to feel stale and like I was always waiting for him I picked up some new hobbies. Turns out being passionate and engaged in things other than our relationship was a turn on for him and brought us back from the brink of a break up
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 04:39 PM
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hey it could go either way, either spoil the date because his reaction isn't great.. or make the date the best ever because his reaction is right. Just don't overthink this, be honest with yourself first, then with him, and accept the outcome whatever that will be. talking about this stuff with other people can be scary but that's because it's important.. the important stuff isn't usually easy
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 06:31 PM
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I still deal with this, but I just started saying it out loud.. made me sort of see how silly it was to be angry jealous, and instead I could be friendly jealous.. oh man.. that doesn't sound right.. but I'm not sure how else to explain it. If I never told anyone that I was feeling jealous because I thought another woman was better than me it felt angry inside me.. but if I was able to go to a friend of mine, and say 'wow I'm so jealous of her hair (or whatever it was)' it didn't feel angry, and…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 06:10 AM
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mmm talk numbers to me
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 08:36 PM
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don't forget that everyone has different definitions of the same word now, I've seen men saying they like thic girls, and then when I ask for more info it turns out they mean like.. 10lbs more than my 100lbs. not actually overweight or chubby.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 06:44 PM
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beauty is incredibly subjective. Every individual person is born with no concept of ugly or beautiful, then as they grow up they meet lots of different people who act in different ways and that shapes their idea of ugly or beautiful. Just because you look at yourself and see ugly doesn't mean that everyone else will, you're just not your own type is all
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/18 07:29 AM
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