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Then what is his issue? If he can’t explain his logic on this then I question his intelligence.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/23 04:05 PM
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I think this goes a lot deeper than the comments. Does he want you to work? Does he have a problem with nursing? There’s no secret that nurses are incredibly valuable, but also extremely overworked. Does he feel like you prioritize the job over him? Traditional men sometimes dislike nursing because it’s so demanding that they feel like their partner can’t prioritize them and their family. Idk how to fix this issue though because most nurses are women and we need nurses.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/23 01:18 PM
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Gotta find your personal reasons why you want to wake up everyday and make it happen. All of ours are different. Maybe it’s spiritual. Maybe it’s you want a fulfilling relationship or job or friendships. Maybe people depend on you to be your best self.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/23 12:36 AM
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I’ve read it. Maybe you can ask him to fix the car. I wouldn’t let him drive it though
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 06:53 PM
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Ok so what’s your question
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 06:14 PM
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I guess I don’t understand your post entirely. Why doesn’t he have his own car? I assume it’s lack of money for one?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 06:10 PM
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Doctorate programs in the US accept practically anyone. A doctorate without extensive and relevant work experience is a recipe for under-employment. Not commenting on the car thing. It’s been commented on already. Ultimately, this man isn’t ready for marriage. He might not be for 10 more years (idk your ages). Watching my dog is something my 12 year old neighbor’s kids can handle when I’m on work travel. He has no job, he has no car, he has no responsibilities other than school (which is equal t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 06:00 PM
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This sounds like treating him like he’s a kid. And no he doesn’t need to drive your car.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 11:59 AM
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People who go from 0-100 are quite terrifying to me. I don’t understand it. And it screams “danger” from a primal/biological perspective. For those of us that don’t do that we see a person who is unpredictable and just like the hobo who is talking to himself and walking erratically we automatic avoid them because there is an inherent threat of violence when someone is unpredictable. You will scare everyone away. Anger goes had in hand with violence. Violence stems from anger. Definitely get some…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 05:53 PM
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I mean we learn the golden rule in kindergarten. Treat others how you would like to be treated. Everything you do and say ask yourself would I want my partner to do or say this to me? If that answer is no. Don’t. I doubt you’d want your partner to be snippy, or mean, or yell at you. So why do you think it’s ok to do it to your partner? Maybe get some therapy to pursue why you know what not to do, but can’t help yourself from doing it. The other thing is make sure you’re dating men that you actua…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 04:07 PM
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Why aren’t you using the bachelors or two minors? Waitressing is great short term, but it’s super volatile job market and you have a degree. Can you use that to get a regular 9-5?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 12:44 PM
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Still the same advice. Additionally, don’t entangle money with someone you’re not married to or at least engaged to. Idk what the “big” bills are but you probably shouldn’t be paying those together. Don’t act married if you aren’t married because you have no protections. There’s a lot of men who will invite you to play wife to them. They’ll move you in and tell you that you don’t have to work. They’ll pay the bills so that you’re dependent on them (can’t leave), but then never financially commit…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 12:40 PM
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You need to have an emergency fund savings so that if you experience a job loss you can pay your bills for 3-6 months. He’s right in that if he had to pay your basic living expenses due to job loss you weren’t financially stable. Look up Dave Ramsey. Use his baby steps to get your financial life in order. You’re right that you’re going to have to be working more than 30 hours. What field do you work in?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 12:23 PM
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LDR has like a 1% successful rate.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 03:34 AM
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Bumble
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 03:31 AM
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Totally not normal. There’s traditional and there’s controlling. Controlling usually leads to abuse and isolation from friends or family. Tread very carefully here.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 04:55 PM
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The answer is less demanding work. Or learning how to shut that work brain off. But yeah if you’re in the office 5 days a week solving problems the last thing you’re gonna wanna do is help your husband find the sugar in the pantry when you get home.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 03:35 PM
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Honestly it can help you do your job. People automatically judge you from your appearance. It can be advantageous for some to assume you’re super soft- especially opposing counsel. The key is knowing how to turn off the bad B persona once your work is done.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 03:31 PM
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I have a friend from college that is a cute/pretty/petite girl and never had a bf or guys that were friends and till this day never had a bf. It’s not her looks. Plenty of women much less attractive than her have multiple bf’s. I think it’s her maturity and how she interacts with men. 1. She’s super shy 2. Comes across as immature and flighty even though she’s smart 3. Always surrounds herself with other women. Basically she’s closed herself off to men. Men don’t take her seriously. They treat h…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/23 07:13 PM
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Starting to serve others above yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 06:15 PM
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Yes. Everyone ultimately wants love. My partner is amazed by me and I’m amazed by him, but ultimately what matters is your love for each other.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 01:04 AM
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Enough that there is no confusion as to the roles each plays and there are clear expectations and ultimately teamwork between the two. But not too much that the woman feels disrespected or unheard.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 07:57 PM
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I realized I wanted a man with a good paying job, who also had masculine traits and skills like being able to repair a house and maintain it. I realized there’s very few of those men out there. I thought there were a lot since that’s the type of men my grandfathers, uncles and father were. Nope. Those men are few and far between for millennials. Then I realized that those men want women who are like my mom, aunts, and grandmothers. Feminine, petite, know how to cook and take good care of a home.…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 05:24 PM
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I would say talk to them about everything. When I briefly dated someone with NPD I told my close friends about what he did/said. They were a good way to gauge like ok I’m not crazy and they want the best for me and my happiness and health so they gave me support to pursue that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 05:18 PM
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Do you have family who can give you some support?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 04:23 PM
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Bumble worked really well for me
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 04:18 PM
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The right thing is usually the hard thing. I think you know that. The question is can you be brave for your son even if you can’t do it for yourself? He deserves a safe and happy mother.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 01:44 PM
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I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer here. It depends on how much you love him. All relationships come with challenges. A blended family is a challenge, but I can name you 20 worse challenges to face.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 01:55 AM
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No. I think it stems from Body and gender dysmorphia. Basically the person feels like they don’t “fit in” as the stereotypical male or female either due to looks, personality, or interests and social media and regular media pushed an idolized version of female and male that people feel like is unattainable. Then they kind of spiral as to what their purpose is if they can’t ever be “that girl” or “that guy”. Additionally the no child left behind/helicopter parenting that didn’t allow children to …
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 01:50 AM
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The only thing you did wrong was wait 2 years rather than 2 months to shut this down. You tried to reason. You gave him plenty of compromise and grace. You don’t have to doubt yourself. The next girl will put up with the same controlling behavior until she’s seen enough too. He won’t treat her any differently.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 02:34 AM
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I agree. You don’t want to come across as desperate or overly available at first.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 09:48 PM
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Absolutely.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 06:40 PM
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Nice. Yeah and don’t overthink it. Just appreciate him and be there as a nice soft place to land. She doesn’t have to do anything crazy to impress him. Or try too hard.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 04:13 PM
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Food and sex. That’s what guys like the most. Try dinner food instead of baking like homemade lasagna. From my experience, if you want a $10k engagement ring you have to be great at cooking homemade food and blow jobs. Not to be vulgar, but men are simple creatures in a lot of ways. Lasagna, pot pies, pot roast, make a good dinner and he won’t let you go. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 04:05 PM
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I got some dates going to bars alone. Although, a lot of guys didn’t call me because they were just looking for a hookup and maybe even had a girlfriend/ thing going on who knows. It’s hard to tell who is actually single and looking for a relationship. Dating apps worked way better for me personally.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 03:56 PM
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You don’t know why he searched her. Don’t assume bad intentions. You’re with him, not her. There’s no need to be jealous.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 02:44 AM
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You give him your number and tell him to call you. He might. He might not because he was just trying to take someone home from the bar. It’s that easy though.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 12:40 AM
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Yes for the most part, and maybe, but of course everyone wants to consent to taking on that role. Nobody wants to be forced to do something against their will. My relationship is super traditional. I do all of the laundry, most of the cooking, shopping, a lot of the indoor house stuff, but my fiancé helps as needed and my fiancé does all of the outdoor stuff and home maintenance, and pays the bills, and I help him as needed. We agreed to this early on. As others have noted it just works better f…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 02:23 PM
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Getting a roommate is always a good option in my opinion. Here’s why, the people who say they can’t live with a roommate is a red flag for most and might be for a future husband to. Living with a husband is like living with a roommate. You have to slit chores, you have to split bills, you can’t be selfish. You have to respect the other person’s life and space. It’s honestly really good practice on how to be an agreeable person which is one of the highest traits looked for by men looking for a wi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/23 02:13 PM
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Leave. Have some self respect.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/23 05:09 AM
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My fiancé got a speeding ticket coming to pick me up for our second date lol. We lived like 8 mins away.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 03:03 PM
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Yeah he didn’t do it until after our second date but you could tell he was impressed with me and trying to “lock it down”. It sounds like the date went well but he’s not being proactive in asking you out which is not normal for someone who is really into you. He doesn’t follow you on social media? That’s weird and you having to ask for the first date, but not the end of the world. The ball is in his court. Let him either throw it or drop it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 06:28 PM
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Yes, if they’re looking for a wife and for the high-powered men who are looking for a wife are typically looking for a traditional one who isn’t also a high-powered career person because a who’s going to take care of the house and raise the kids and what’s the point of all the work if you don’t have a nice household to enjoy and other people are cooking your meals and raising your kids? My now fiancé would work 10 hour days plus 2 hour roundtrip commute when we first met and he would wake up at …
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 06:00 PM
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You’re 25, but acting 15. You initiate a breakup and then are upset with him for not nurturing you after you broke up with him, then wanna get back together with him after he’s apparently healing/‘moving on. This is incredibly cruel behavior on your part. I did it at 15 because you’re in that stage of testing the control and power you recently gained over men and your brain is fried with hormones and underdeveloped and the drama feeds ego. At age 25 this is super immature behavior. So what do yo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 05:34 PM
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If he was into you he’d hang out with you and stay up till 4 am doing work the next day to catch up. I’d let this go and pursue other men and if he picks up the convo again that’s fine, if not that’s equally as fine.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 05:28 PM
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Honestly, it was an incredibly deep self journey. All I can say is that if it’s something that you really want you start to gravitate towards it deliberately. Reading, podcast, and YouTube can all help educate you on the idea. Ultimately it’s up to you what you want and how you apply it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 05:18 PM
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It can take a while to embrace it especially if you have a certain personality type or grew up in a household that wasn’t super affectionate. I struggled with both. I’m able to channel the love and adoration I have for my fiancé into doing those things more naturally. But I kinda had an awakening where I stopped sitting in my very masculine state and let myself fall down a feminine rabbit hole.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 04:24 PM
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When that happens you leave the relationship. There is absolutely no excuse for name calling, shaming, or whatever. You cannot force someone to be a good person and if you want a good relationship you need to save yourself for “good” people only.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 01:49 PM
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In these types of situations where you’re in an unhealthy or toxic relationship you taking accountability means admitting that and leaving the relationship. Because then the next guy comes along and now you have baggage that he has to deal with and when you talk about it it’s like “oh well my ex was toxic” ok, well why didn’t you leave him? And it’s crickets. The inability to take accountability for yourself and your life is a turnoff to guys. It makes them question your intelligence and your se…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 01:46 PM
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It sounds like overall things are going really well. You know they say “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it”. With that said, is this one of those love language things? Men love food, attention, and sex. Bake him something like cookies for no reason. Hug him from behind when he’s putting milk in his coffee. Get in his lap when he’s watching tv and just tell him that you love him. Run your hands through his hair while he’s driving and tell him that you love him. When he’s fresh out of the shower with …
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 01:33 PM
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This is really helpful. Yeah, I’ve found that women tend to either 1. Catastrophize totally normal things and get their panties in a bunch and cause relationship issues or 2. Totally ignore bad behavior or gloss over it. It’s often difficult for them to work through/analyze what is actually going on and it is hard when you’re in a relationship and guys definitely do it too because rose colored glasses. This lays out all of the things that could be going on here good to bad. It’s up to OP to try …
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 01:14 PM
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Absolutely. There always is. Also this is a good resource. I’m not saying for sure what intentions the guy had here but it definitely was the opposite of a display of affection or love. https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a39439243/negging-meaning/
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 08:41 PM
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Men who truly love you and respect you don’t make these kinds of comments usually. Especially not unprovoked just to see how you react. Especially not multiple times. These things aren’t actually jokes. He’s testing to see if he can hurt you and you’ll take it. So far you’re passing the test. I’ll tell you that the more you pass the more you lose. Self respect is everything. If people figure out you don’t have it then they sometimes do very bad things to you and justify it because in their mind …
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 07:51 PM
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m sure he hid it quite well because he knew it wouldn’t go over very well. Regardless of the trans thing he cheated on you by sexting others. The trans thing just throws a whole other wrench in it since he’s also gay/bi. And I have no issue with trans people at all, but your guy saying it’s not gay is untrue. If you’re a man who is sexually aroused by penis then you are gay. Nothing wrong with that, but that should be admitted and accepted and not hidden…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 07:34 PM
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Honestly you just have to force yourself to do it. And then have realistic expectations that the results may not be great at first because it doesn’t come naturally to you and it’s hard and that’s totally ok. Start by reading “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. I’m naturally introverted and have to read it every 2-3 years to freshen up. There’s nothing in it that’s surprising. It’s very basic info and it works. The thing is our personalities sometimes make it hard to execute. The great th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 03:07 PM
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The problem isn’t your looks. Sure, looks definitely help attract potential partners, but I have tons of different social groups from top level executives to what I would call pool hall poor. Within each group the members are often married or in a relationship. These people range from 1’s to 9’s looks wise and poor to rich. Everyone is looking for a connection, friendship, romance, etc. and the only way to not achieve those things is not to try. Don’t obsess over your looks. Do what you can, but…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 07:25 PM
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What were you specifically doing or saying that they said “she just ends up doing whatever she wants?” This doesn’t make any sense from and American perspective, but from a Muslim perspective maybe just the fact that you are working in a job that employs men you’re a woman is triggering certain feelings in the men there?
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 04:38 PM
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There’s not enough information to say. I wouldn’t spend too much time or energy on it. Men like to please pretty women so it could be that. A lot of men were taught to let women lead so it could be that. I have a very traditional relationship and my fiancé will sometimes say things like this too as far as “it’s up to you” or “you’re in charge”. Just depends on the context of the conversation. I’d just focus on what type of woman you want to be or emulate and then work on what you can do to achie…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 01:41 PM
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We did it. It’s fine. It enabled us to “test” things for 1.5 years before we actually say I do and allowed us to save more money for the wedding. From a religious standpoint it’s clear we’re having sex which is against our religion, but we were having sex before I moved in so… doesn’t change much overall on that except for maybe perception which we don’t really care about. It’s our sin and it’s our responsibility to deal with it. That’s how I feel.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/23 10:02 PM
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If he’s going overseas for weeks at a time and is pretty freshly divorced it sounds like he’s not ready for a new marriage anytime soon. He may be a great guy, but if your relationship/life goals don’t align this isn’t going to end well and you may waste a lot of your time. My suggestion is to match energy. If he’s pulling back and he hasn’t asked you to be his girlfriend get on bumble or whatever tonight and start looking for other guys that better match what you’re looking for. If you are excl…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/23 08:58 PM
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Decide early who is primarily in charge of what for day to do stuff. Who pays which bills. Who cooks dinner. Who grocery shops. Who does laundry. Who does car maintenance. Who cleans the toilets. Who takes out the trash. There should be a “primary” person for each and every household task and you help each other as needed.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/23 04:19 PM
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I agree with the other posters that maybe you’re mothering or loving too much too early which feels nice in the moment, but then the guys eventually get sick of it. You’re not building an equal loving relationship from the beginning but you’re giving them a soft place to lay their head with not much work out in to earn it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 10:16 PM
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True. It’s definitely the #1 priority for men though. It’s not enough to base the whole relationship on longterm though.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 10:04 PM
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Most guys aren’t going to go through all that trouble. They’ll just find a hookup at a bar/party. I wouldn’t base future dates off of the guys from the past. Could just be some one off things.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 10:04 PM
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Well looks are easier to fix than personality. It could also just be the wrong guys. If you’re not in a relationship don’t sleep with them.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 09:52 PM
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You’re cute enough to bang, but not cute or serious enough to commit to. Try to level up your looks and I’ll tell you a secret. Confidence is key. If a person exudes confidence like they’re the hottest and most desirable one in the room people often believe it whether it’s true or not. Don’t jump into bed with just any guy. Work strategically. Don’t act desperate. Learn the art of the chase.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 09:24 PM
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I have a bachelors in accounting and you have to have 150 college credits to sit for the exams/get licensed. There are 4 exams you must pass within 18 months (accounting, tax, audit, and business law). To get your 150 credits it can be any college credits. Some states have more specific requirements. But a bachelors in accounting should cover all of those. Otherwise you can get a masters or take community college classes to get to 150. Right now tax prep is huge and a great way to get your foot …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 03:00 PM
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Out of everything in my life cooking took the longest to learn. You have to learn from experience. Start with breakfast. It’s easier and you can get away with fast/high heat cooking on it. Everything else you’ll really never use high heat for unless you’re boiling something. Cooking is slow and steady. Order also matters. You can’t throw all ingredients in at once. Browning onions/vegetables/meats matters. I use Pinterest and YouTube for my recipes. As you follow recipes you’ll learn why to do t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 02:14 PM
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CPA. I work 100% from home. I’m 30. Salary is currently $123,000. I started at about $45,000 at age 22.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 04:16 AM
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The good news is that money can buy beauty. What do you do for work? Easy ways to improve your looks pretty much overnight is hair and skin care and teeth whitening strips and eyebrow shape up. You don’t have to spend a ton, but improving your looks has a huge return on investment in the dating world.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 08:38 PM
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Women have been wearing form fitting clothing that accentuates breast and waist areas since the 1500’s. So for over 500 years. Even wearing corsets and bustier type undergarments to make their figures look even more feminine. Now there are some religions that don’t allow this even today like Islam, amish, Mormon, orthodox Jewish, etc. so idk where your specific religion falls on the subject. Over the last couple hundred years we’ve learned that men can control themselves around women and not act…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/23 02:42 PM
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