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Correct. One thing is treating someone like a sexual object , another is to treat them as a sexual subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 08:42 PM
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Yes, I would... eventually. I would be very picky about it and would only do it after getting to have sex with a few very attractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:18 PM
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Also, both desireble men and good men are scarce. Men who are both are scarcer. But what ends forming the shitty situation for everyone except the assholes is: is easier for an asshok to pretend to be good temporarily than for a good undesirable men to pretend to be desirable
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:43 PM
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I mean, everyone I think is mindfull not to cry in public. Even my sister was ashamed that it happened to her. I don't care much about people that think less of me just because they saw me cry. Crying is not necrssaeilu weakness, some people interpret it as such. The only instance it's a weakness (that I can think of) is if someone is trying to intimidate you and you cry. Context matters. I say this as a person who rarely cried throughout all my life until very recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 11:18 AM
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I seem I'm not familiar with either dating culture. I though Koreans where repressed like japanese but maybe not. I suppose that in the us it will vary from state to state and also between conservative leaning and liberal leaning. Is my guess. Either way I prefer to filter out people that I have to be fake around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 06:25 PM
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That is understandable. We have been trained to feel shame for showing emotions like that. But that must have been cathartic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 06:08 PM
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This might happen and even happen a lot. But I can think of other, non predatory motives. For example: -short guy going to a country where average height is lower than his country -going to countries where your style, appearance or personality is better likes -going for countries where you are more likely to find your type (physical and/or personality).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:18 AM
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That would happen with overspecialization yes. Not with a mix of specialization and a wider general improvement. I have no business trying to appeal to women that are too normal for example. For me it is either nerdy women, artsy women, smart women or very curious women. The range is wide but not too wide.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:09 PM
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I get that. I do stay sometimes because I have met some women worth being friends with but not before I quickly push her to either reject me or reciprocate my interest and once I get anything remotely close to a rejection I stop courtship. Guys often assume she is playing hard to get or that if they try harder she might want them but that is a bad bet. Even in the rare case she is playing hard to get that is her problem, I don't like those convoluted games.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 01:25 PM
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It confuses me. It should be as simple as: You want to be friends? Stay. You don't want to be friends? Don't stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:20 AM
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I think the best is a mix. Specialization is better than trying to be a generalist unless you are super attractive, but overspecialization is not good
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:00 AM
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I sometimes get very horny and desperate... About specific people. Never have been universally horny
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 02:11 PM
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Hasn't worked for me. Changing the way your sex drive operates is not always easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 01:47 PM
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This is not some new influence. Men has always been less picky for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 01:46 PM
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I just saw the question and answered. Also the example was just an example. I haven't been rejected for money issues. At least not that I am aware. I was bored and answering the question was mildly entertaining. I enjoy helping people figure the logic of something like this. It's what this subreddit is about: exchanging opinions and arguments (look at the name of the subreddit). That is it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 07:15 PM
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Yes, it is a rejection, but is also an ethics/value judgment. Is different from "you are not my type". And if you make that judgment for men without money but not for women without money then it is in fact the definition of double standard. That is all I am saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 07:02 PM
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Huh? When did I say I base my opinion of myself on rejection ? I do not. I am just answering the question of the post. I didn't express any emotion in my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 06:49 PM
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Whether what you touch is dick or vagina is irrelevant. A straight woman that touched 50 dicks is as promiscuous as a lesbian that touches 50 vaginas
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:23 PM
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We are not mere animals. We are not slaves to our biologies. Besides, what you are saying is that promiscuous women should be shamed more because they are rarer than promiscuous men. I will never base my ethics or judgment on how rare a behaviour is among a group or on biology. Instead if a group is more likely to engage in certain negative traits then that is a flaw on that group. Men are more likely to murder a woman out of jealousy , will I excuse that behaviour based on "oh is biology"? Nah.…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:14 AM
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If a woman being promiscuous is wrong, a man being promiscuous is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 08:35 PM
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Ah ok, if it's just something you dont find attractive then I think is ok. I for example am a short guy who want to be with a woman I find physically attractive. Some people are like "but you are not attractive!" I am like... yeah is ok, we don't really have to bring the exact positive qualities to the table. High standards are not bad, they just reduce your options and make dating harder, but it is you who determine how important something is to you and how much effort you are willing to put ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 08:24 PM
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It's doble standard if you think "woman whore bad, man whore good/neutral". If instead you think both bad then it might not be a double standard but is sad because it implies you feel like you are irredeemable. Might require therapy for quality of life. Now, are you a manwhore because of your past or do you intend on fucking around while having a girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 07:53 PM
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As I said: "it s hypocritical if it comes with a judgement" Both things you mentioned come with a judgment
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 07:13 PM
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All of these are only hypocritical if you comes with some sort of moral or character judgment. What I bring to the table doesn't have to be necessarily what my partner brings to the table. There is a difference between: "I want a rich man" vs "Men who aren't rich are trash/lazy/[insert any other judgement]. "I am experienced but I want someone inexperienced" vs "experienced women are whore"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 06:27 PM
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Ah ok. Well yes. I don't disagree with you. A man like that can even be slightly below average in terms of stuff like social skills or confidence and many women will gladly help a man like that. That doesn't nullify that money is a game changer. Game changer does not mean "things will happen on their own". Give
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 06:28 PM
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First thing first so we can talk same convention: how do you rate an average face and how do you rate a slightly attractive face? Just so I know what you mean by 8/10 exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 05:50 PM
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Nah, women tend to find those thigns attractive. light to moderate muscles, dressing properly and even a perfume can make a man more attractive to women. Going out and being on dating apps isn't very expensive unless you're just wasting money. This will depend on where you live. If you live in an area where you can quickly access multiple locations where you can meet new women all year round then this might not apply as much. It also doesn't apply if you are relatively common in terms of your ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 05:34 PM
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Not directly but it mades things easier. Money is a multiplier, of course if the only thing you have going for you is money then all your money is doing is multiplying 0 and any number multyiplyin 0 equals 0. I never said that money would on its own make women attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 05:28 PM
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If you mean unattractive in general (both unattractive physically and personality wise) then true (except for hold diggers). But if you mean physically unattractive then false. Even an unattractive guy that ISN'T rich can get laid if they have other things going on like charisma or something like being a musician. This is not an hypothetical, I'm talking from real life examples near me. Returning to money being a game changer it will make things easier in almost every case a way or another. Unle…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 03:23 PM
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Money itself does not automatically produce attraction. But still is a game changer. You can buy clothes with ease to create your style that fits you best. You can buy a nice car which along clothes can give you status Other things you can buy to buy some degree of status: a watch, entry to expensive places, expensive food. You can hire a nutricionist and a personal trainer to ensure your body looks awesome You can buy skincare to look better You can explore different venues no matter the price …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 01:37 PM
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The best way of loving is to love the other infinitely but at the same time loving YOURSELF infinitely. In doing that you won't hurt, but you won't let others hurt you. You will be there to help them find fulfillment but at the same time they will be there to help you find your fulfillment. By showing each other what you bring to the table you help each other quickly know if you too are compatible or not, through conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 03:43 PM
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It helps, but not required
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:21 PM
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This subreddit has very smart people with interesting nuance opinions... But it also has toxic people. I got called a blue pilled simp just for saying I have female friends. Despite that on that same conversation I criticized some blue pill positions
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 02:22 PM
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Average looking charismatic in my experience tends to do quite well especially if you are not too heavily into looks. A proble with attraction that comes from looks is that looks are something you see inmediatly and if the other person doesn't feel the same towards you then it can lead to a situation where you are in disadvantage because you are more into them than them into you. While if the focus is on personality that tends to reveal itself more gradually. I have problems with this because I …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:14 PM
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My guess that either you are charismatic or physically attractive. Maybe a mix of a bit of both. On the other hand, many of us here are neurodiverse which might make things more complicated. Your taste and interest can also have an impact on how simple are things. For example if you are among the lucky few that either don't care about looks or care just a little, you have powerful advantage. I say this as someone who is very aware of how (inconveniently) picky I am regarding looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 12:29 PM
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I want A) to explore sexually first, with a focus on the physical. Then, B) once I explore enough shift my focus personality when I want to go for a long term relationship. I want to, at least once, have sex with a woman I find very very attractive. I have what I can only describe as intense sexual curiosity about this. I don't want to die without experiencing this. Theorically I could do A and B at the same time but that is unlikely because I would have to find a woman who is very attractive wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 02:47 PM
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For sex or for relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 02:33 PM
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I suppose by ideal you mean a perfect woman and not a woman that is good enough to make me feel attraction. A smart and nerdy woman that is kinda quirky. Cute face, big tits(say B or C cups), freckles(I love freckles), brunette or black hair or redhead (basically anything but blonde. I can like blonde women but here we are talking about my ideal woman). On the thin side. Healthy skin. Loves hugs. Feminine look but with a slightly tomboish behaviour. Slightly dominant (not bossy). Spiritual but n…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 02:28 PM
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Most of them( like more than 90% of them) are hot as in conventionally very attractive. Most guys are subconsciously attracted to the women they think they can get Maybe this has something with how much I am into self-improvement. Early on I noticed most people remain static at their level. If they do poorly in dating they stay doing poorly. On the other hand I see 6'0" charismatic men doing quite well but also I often think "man, they are wasting so much potential, if they put a moderate amount…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 12:59 PM
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I don't know. My sex drive has always been intense but narrow. I find few women attractive but when I do it's very intense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 11:16 AM
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I'm a guy. I do it all the time to women I know irl. There are three women in particular that I find very attractive and I have been jerking to their bikini pics for a while(for one of them I have been jacking for 8 years, the other ones since around 4 years ago). Although I prefer to close my eyes and use my imagination to think about them. Even better after I ate a bit of edible hehe. I eat weed edibles once a week since I prefer that to drinking, especially because alcohol doesn't sit great w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 11:02 AM
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-I'm a 5'0" man -i'm balding and I don't think shaving fully will help that much because of a surgery mark on the back of my head that is kinda big. -most men have low standards for getting horny and being motvatedt pursue a woman... I don't. Only a few women motivate me. Those women are often very attractive, not only to me but to other men , and they usually they are aware that they can be picky. Is not that I think my goals are impossible but currently my positive qualities are not good enoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 10:53 AM
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Too feminine without a hint of masculine. My favorite kind of woman is very feminine woman with a hint of masculine energy. Yes, I know it sounds contradictory but if you know what I mean you know what I mean
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 01:40 AM
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the target audience of thia post are late bloomers not people who want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 05:10 PM
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I don't want kids lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 05:01 PM
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"the man's inexperience with relationships will soon start to show" doesn't that apply with dating older women? aren't older women more likely to to notice your inexperience? "Unless you only want a hookup and nothing else. Then go ahead. But then again might as well just pay a sex worker if you just want to get your dick wet." I have been with a sex worker but felt fake. Also, while currently my emphasis is more on the physical I still ned a bit of human connection for it to work, not a lot of …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 03:33 PM
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It s a tik tok sketch we can't infer the dude personality. We don't know how bad or awkward he is. There are many reasons why she isn't attracted to him, including but not limited to his looks. Some women can and do reject physically attractive men for non physical reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 08:57 PM
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They decline my advances because they are not sexually attracted to me. Is that simple. I don't give them more attention than the attention they give me. It has been a while since I stopped having one sided stuff. Got enough of that in my early 20s. I am currently 32. You treat me like a acquaintance? i treat you like an acquaintance You treat me like a friend? i treat you like an friend at best You treat me like a close friend? i treat you like an close friend... maybe You want to fuck me and I…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:36 PM
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You don't have to be dumb to be manipulated. Sometimes is hard to know for sure, some people do a good job at hiding their intentions. Other times the intention isn't there from the beginning or is at a low level then raises as the man develops feelings. This is even more true for young people and also there is the case of people with autism that have difficulty reading body language or understanding social cues. To add another layer, a man or woman being into someone doesn't mean they can't con…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:28 PM
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How is it belittling? How it is reductive? Can't women have friends? What are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:18 PM
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Because she considers him a friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:47 PM
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Mmm I have confessed to multiple women in my friends circle and more often than not nothing bad happened. The problem comes when you come up too strong and push after the no. Also, it a good idea to do things gradually, not just blurt out you want to be their boyfriend so bad. And if she does react badly even after you did things right then she is not worth it neither as a loser or a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:45 PM
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Here is the thing. While for this bucket list item there is an emphasis on the physical aspect but the emotional aspect is not completely absent. She doesn't have to be say "girlfriend material" but I have to like her vibe and have a little bit of compatibility. Not to mention I'm not sure a hooker can simulate genuine attraction that well. It looks fake in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:14 PM
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Sure, some people exaggerate too much wth the attitude. But at the same time I'm not just below 6'0" , I am 5'0". A person doesn't have to be shallow in order to not be attracted to me and they can find someone equal to me that is taller than me with not that much difficulty. Also we are assuming the two only options are "outright reject you and not even give you a chance because you are short" vs ignore height completely. Truth is that being short still puts you in a disadvantage with non-shall…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:56 PM
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Correct.. I think they might be projecting. I say this because I could be one of them if I was less aware. I don't want kids , I'm in no rush to have a girlfriend and is not that important to me, and personally I feel loved enough just from having good close female friends. As a result of this my attraction has a lot of emphasis on looks (although it still is important than me and who I date are somewhat compatible) and I prefer to stay single than settling. I could make the mistake of assuming …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 01:34 PM
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Sure. I mean , why would you date someone who you don't like physically when you don't like their personality either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:53 PM
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Well... some physical traits can be the difference between a relationship and a friendship for some people too. I used that word because there are other negative traits that are bad for both, and other positive personality traits that aren't necessary for either. And finally there are some differences in values and expectations that are not a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:21 PM
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I mean you re right in a sense. But returning to the question of the post, my answer is to the "why don't people date their friends more?" compatibility is one of the potential reasons in some cases but of course not al cases. -Lack of physical attraction is one -Lack of attraction due to personality traits is another one(eg. Not being masculine , being too shy, no charisma, social awkardness..) -Clash of values
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:06 PM
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That was just a quick example that applies to me. Something else applies to other people. There is always a non-negotiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:31 PM
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Some negative personality traits are not that problem for friendship but ARE a problem for dating. Some positive personality traits are not necessary for a good friendship but ARE important for a romantic relationship. Finally some differences in values an expectations are enough to block a romantic relationship but not a friendship. For example I can be friends with a woman that want kids, but I can't be in a relationship with a woman like that. Another example: say that a woman wants a man tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 05:02 PM
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Exactly and horny/in love people often are not thinking critically. If I'm perfectly honest I'm admit I'm somewhat vulnerable to a combination of a smart woman with two big tits along some manipulation skills (which if you think about it is easy to learn when people are frequently trying to manipulate you) I might be getting better at noticing it on time but I'm not inmune.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 07:12 PM
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This, also we can think of a quadrant where the best people are rarer than the worst people. Bad/crazy/toxic people are more common than good/health people. Also hot/charismatic/confident people are rare too. This mean that good people who are also hot/charismatic/bold are even rather and more often than not taken and very picky. But it get worse, bad but hot/charismatic/bold people can often fake niceness to a degree, especially when the other person is not noticing red flags due to their sex d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:11 PM
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Thanks. You are right! I was always skeptic about the idea that sex is like Pizza. I learned a lot about myself. Especially because this was my second attempt with the same person. The first time I wasn't able to have an erection. I intuitively had an idea of what didnt help and what was missing, and on the second attempt I was more prepared (and so was she)... and it worked!uestion, as in I made sure to try my best for my level of experience.) I learned a lot about myself. Especially because th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 05:35 PM
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I had sex for the first time by the end of last year as I haven't had a relationship ever. I might date but I will never go through the experience of dating at 20yo. Oh and the person I had sex approached me herself so I haven't experience successfully taking the initiative or seducing someone. I also have never had highly pleasing sex. The woman in question is conventionally attractive but doesn't click with me, the sex was enjoyable but kind of meh. And I knew it would probably would be like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 03:51 PM
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Concert worked for me. On 2017 I would go to concerts and music festivals by myself and I would try to talk and meet people. Many awkward moments, many moments where I wasn't socially savyy... then an extroverted adopted me and expanded my social circles a lot (she is not only an extrovert but also a singer so... she knew many people)... then a few months after I met who today is my bestfriend, another extrovert. Not only she expanded my social circles (for some reason I have an easier time conn…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:48 PM
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I understand. I have mild autism and used to have social anxiety (it shows up sometimes but is no longer a constant presence). Of course, your obstacles are different from mine, so we can never fully understand each other, but we do have an overlap. It's going to be difficult. Hard enough that I would recommend not only focusing on the doing but also on the maintenance. Energy is important. So taking care of sleep, diet, exercise can help. But yes, the cold climate is likely to increase difficul…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 01:39 PM
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Remember that the minority of men that a particular woman find attractive is not the same minority another woman fina attractive even if there is an overlap... Even if there is a big overlap. Yes, there are men who attract a bigger amount of women than other men, and there are men that basically attract no one, but I would say most men either already do or can attract some women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 01:07 PM
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That s her problem. If she isn't attracted to me I rather be single. Another benefit of 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 01:03 PM
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Might be a good idea to focus on building friendships (both close and casual friendships) for a while. Go to activities and places you think you are more likely to meet like minded people
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 12:51 PM
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Don't bother with him. He is telling you "not an argument" but he hasn't produced an argument himself. Instead all he does is make baseless assumptions. He called me blue-pilled just because I have female friend and I don't think half the population hates us. He wasn't able to answer the question " what does bluepill mean to you" or " what are you basing your assumptions on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 12:14 PM
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Don't worry. I won't. I can feel his worldview heavy influenced by personal bad experiences. His bias is thick.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 02:10 AM
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What are you basing your assumptions on? -I am not blue-pilled. I am deeply aware that just being nice won't get you anywhere. Confidence, social skills, boldness and masculinity are essential if I want to fuck the kind of women I want to fuck. Being nice won't get me anywhere. I am aware of the problems of modern feminisn like the double standard of body positive women making jokes about short men or the women who say they want equality but expect men to always pay for dates. I wonder, how do y…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:03 PM
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I'm going to be picked by who? Random women on an subreddit? A place where everyone is basically anonymous? What do I gain from that? Last time I checked simping/orbiting is about putting women on pedestal. I am not doing that. I am not saying women are better than men, I am not saying all women are angels. On the other hand, the whole "all women fucking hate men" is as false as "women are angels". There is a lot to criticize about women and current mainstream feminism, and I can be very controv…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:54 PM
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As a man I can't relate with your statement at all, I might be in the minority and I know something like a 80% of men are horn dogs, but to me most women are not worth fucking... and I prefer to fuck a fleshlight while imagining a woman I find attractive than fucking a real woman that I don't find attractive. Not to mention that it's entirely possible to have friendships with attractive people. I just don't begin with friendship if I am attracted. If there is an attraction, I first try to get se…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:08 PM
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This isn't true. I am not giving my best friend (she is female and I am male) more than what she gives me, and I am not giving her more than I would give a male best friend. She has demonstrated her loyalty and love, and as unique as she might be I don't think she is the only woman capable of loving men. It seems you have had multiple bad early experience with woman. I assume even your mother treated you and your poorly, otherwise you would not think all women hate all men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:04 PM
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So you're not fine with it. You just want to have female friends and the discomfort of your woman having male friends is a fair price to pay to keep your right to have female friends. Not what I meant. Should have been more specific. A more precise expression of it would be adding an "and also" between "I'm fine with it" and "It would be hypocritical". A man isn't a bad person because he wants to fuck an attractive woman. He's just a man. I never said a man is a bad person for wanting to fuck an…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:00 PM
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Subjective. Doesn't matter to you. Matters to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:55 PM
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Depends on the woman. If she already has male friends then giving them up haa a high chance of lowering her happyness. Especially if they are close friends. Same with men. I have seen people cut off friends for their partners only for their partners to cheat later on. Better to find compatible partners
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:08 PM
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"no man" must men but not all. I'm fine with it. It would be hypocritical from me anyway when my best friend is a woman. On another note: the "if given the chance" is key here. Not all woman will give the chance. It s also key that not all men fuck partnered women. I would of course judge how selective is my girlfriend with her friendships and how good is she at judging character
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:58 PM
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Oh it is. Unfucking oneself is very important
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:27 AM
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I think many kids have that but it gets squeezed out of them except for a lucky few. I'm not where I want to be but improving for me has been mostly becoming more like the the happy curious kid that didn't give a fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:20 PM
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I would say it could help you get closer to your real essential standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 07:07 PM
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Different people are different. I can explain my case: I don't feel much of an urge towards the romantic and also my posture has always been "if what I like about someone is her personality... I don't have to fuck her to enjoy that. Friendship works quite well to enjoy that part ... And If I like someone enough to want to fuck then all we have to d is fuck, no need to settle if I don't like them enough for that" For others having a partner might be so important that settling is worth it, especia…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 12:51 PM
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Mmm I don't think that changing personality is harder than changing appearance for everybody. I think it will depend on the person. Ironically you might have to improve some aspect of your personality to have the discipline to go to the gym. Also, being healthy will probably improve your personality too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:15 AM
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It's not. It reasonable to take a rest from dating to reflect after a bad dating experience but one relationship is to small of a sample to draw the conclusion that dating is not worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 09:24 PM
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Depends on the woman you are approaching and how you do so. Some guys get too pushy , but also some women are too dogmatic about it after getting burned out before(previous guy that was actually only trying to get into her pants from the beginning) or due to how they were raised. Also people tend to assume that if things went bad you had ill intent. Similarly happens in general when men fail at dating we often get the infamous "if you treated women like people you would be doing fine"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 11:01 AM
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What I don't like is that when women do the same they don't get the same treatment. It is probably a remnant of traditionalism tho
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:04 AM
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They don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:01 AM
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People who have closed hoops do exist, but they are extremely rare and chances of one being it are low.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 10:51 AM
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The thing is that statistically speaking teaching abstinence only sex ed is less effective. Your method is the riskier way of sex education because it depends on an hormonal teen resisting temptation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:27 AM
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You are not violeting boundaries there. You are testing the waters to see if the person is open to talking to you. Violating boundaries is more when you either don't take no for an answer or when you do something very invasive like touching the person without previous context making it appropriate
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:36 PM
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The thing is you don't really need a big percentage of DNA difference to generate a notable difference. Especially with something as complex as the human brain. This is before you add stuff like: -Hormonal events while you are developing on the womb -Epigenics -life events Humanity needs to go beyond mere individualism or more tribalism but not by ignoring either but by integrating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:15 PM
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Maybe the problem is the whole thinkiing in terms of male or female solutions. At the end of the day big issues need a mix of cooperation and resilience. A cooperation of strong individuals who know how to use male energy and female energy even if they have a preference for one or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 12:17 PM
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Having hard standards make life easier but artificially lowering them won't necessarily improve your life either Sure, maybe you are closing yourself to things that you would enjoy a lot of you opened to but maybe opening to it would lead to wasted tim and energy. It s your responsibility to take paths that bring you the most joy but it is not a moral obligation to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:35 PM
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People are mostly simplifying and generalizing their personal experiences. Think of statistics formed by biased scientists with either small samples or samples within the specific environment where people here date at or the method of sampling is not great (AKA, your behavior and way of presenting yourself to the world tend to attract some people while filtering others... which might cause a problem if you are filtering the kind of people you want to meet).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 03:23 PM
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Oh trust me they exist. Pretty common in the third world conservative macho country I live in. Toxic masculinity is a branch of toxicity. Not every toxic man shows toxic masculinity and same with women and toxic femininitu
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:09 PM
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Just don't be rude about it and ideally don't tell them you are rejecting them for being fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:13 PM
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My experience proves the opposite. There are women who already ARE my friends. Get this through your head. Your experience is not universal. Realize that what happens to you is not what happens to everybody. From culture, to social class, to the environments, to the attitudes you have and places you visit to the way you project yourself to the world and finally to the people you approach or don't approach. All that shapes what happens to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 05:35 AM
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Lol. My face is average and I'm not far but I'm not strong either. Average + average+ below average+ very below average = below 6. Attractiveness has nothing to do with friendship. Why would looks have any significant effect on whether or not you can befriend women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 10:38 PM
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I mean, with my best friend is 5 years of showing she cares, frequently hanging out and going on adventures to different cities in my country and much more. I don't think friendship can get closer than this. With the other ones they are more casual friends. Sometimes I invite them to hang out, other times they invite me. Of course there are ones that fade away (happens with male friends too), but others remain.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 08:41 PM
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The key here is authenticity are chances are that you are not being authentic if you are blindly doing what a group tells you is the one true way . Of course an authentic asshole is going to drown in pussy. You can be woke and get laid , even alo, but only if it comes from a place of being genuine... And the difference that is unlikely you will perfectly fit the mold, there is going to be more than one thing where you will clash with woke culture because how unlikely is for you to 100% agree wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:16 PM
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Yeah, not saying is impossible. I'm still set on my dating goal which is an ambitious one given my circumstances. Although this year I decided to keep dating very low priority but only for this year. This year I will make my best to not base a single decision on dating. 2024 is about regrouping , resting from dating and giving some love to other areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 02:58 PM
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I have the hypothesis that it s many times an energy problem. If you have a lot of energy its easier to fix that. I currently don't have that so I paused dating and I'm focusing on finding ways to develop my energy levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:45 PM
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In this instance anecdotes are relevant. The reason most be replicable if it happened several times to the same person. With that said, in not instances I didn't notice a decline in the friendship. Most of the time there might be some awkwardness the moment of the confession , but it goes away after. I must also add that the women I have confessed to includes my now bestfriend (although it was her wo found out through someone telling her then se asked me if it was true and I told her..m but in o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 12:57 PM
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In my experience it isn't important at all. Source: I have gone through this with several female friends and it didn't break the friendship. Also, if they stop being friends for something like that the friendship wasn't that good anyway. Imagine the freedom and freshness of knowing your friend accepts you along your feelings. In contrast imagine the struggle of having to hide something so important from a friend. Because of this I try to get the "no" or the "yes" as soon as plausible. I want gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 12:52 PM
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I'm 5'0" and balding. I have female friends. Including my female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 12:47 PM
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I am 5'0" and balding. It has never ruined the friendship. It is not cope. The approach matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 12:46 PM
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It is an ideal. People look at higher divorce rates and don't realize that is not things getting worse but that people are putting with less bullshit now. Before there was a pressure to keep a marriage even if it sucked. Now, too much of the opposite is bad too. Forcing a dead marriage to go on is bad but so is running away at the first conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 12:04 PM
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Most men don't have to deal with that problem because..most of them do exactly that. That is why it is important to find your niche. Go to places where your chances of finding someone different are higher. Even then you will find lots of basic people of a different flavor but your chances will improve. That said dating is hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:25 PM
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I do not intend t focus on dating this year. It s not the time, I'm not ready for it. I'm going to focus on learning Code. 3D2Y (3D crossed)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 09:13 PM
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Depending on the drug. Cocaine or heroine? No go LSD, mushrooms, MDMA, DMT, psychedelics in general , cannabis. Not only is acceptable it's a positive thing for me since I use all of those myself. Now , caveat is that it shouldn't be excessive use. (E.g. daily cannabis smoker , people that do MDMA more than 4 times a year)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:36 PM
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No. Just be aware that dating up is harder than dating in your league or below . Also, leagues are not something clearly defined when you add up luck, deviancy from normal taste, personal preferences erc
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 06:30 PM
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Do they?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:10 PM
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I think you hit on a bingo here. The closer someone is to your perspective the better. It still a good idea to get advice from people from difference perspective but preferably after you get advice closer to home. Like, if for example you are a socially stunted person who is also a short person, the ideal advice would come from a short person who was socially stunted that managed to overcome does obstacles. Now, it doesn't have to be someone with your exact same situation, for that example a sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 01:23 PM
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I mean, yeah, if you think the cost of something is too much and you can get what you want in a cheaper way go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 07:03 PM
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Dating is not simple. You can improve your body language reading and communication skills but there is always going to be some randomness because you can't mind read. It s better to focus on what kind of partner you want and let incompatible people filter themselves out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 06:40 PM
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"and these confines are different for each women" this is key. Most people suck anyway. A woman that disrespects you for showing vulnerability in a healthy manner is a trash woman. With that said, being obsessive, overly attached or lacking backbone is not healthy vulnerability.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 05:11 PM
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You can be vulnerable or open up without being a loser. But there are levels to this game and there are directions to this game. It's not just a go left or go right spectrum, it's multidirectional and its complex. You still need to be masculine or at least be strong and not a whiny baby for vulnerability to be attractive. Nuance, man
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:51 PM
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"Sex, which isn't even that big of a deal at the end of the day " this is subjective and not universal. It depends on where you are at and how you function. I want to have sex with a woman I find very very attractive at least once. Just to get that intense curiosity and desire out of my system. I don't want to die without experiencing that. Also, satisfying that curiosity might remove the blindspot that thirst creates. ​ I do agree with the benefits of not chasing, but then there is the catch 22…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:42 PM
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I was expecting some unhinged generalization but you know, this is quite a sane list.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:23 PM
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That is how confirmation bias works
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 01:01 AM
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Going to the gym is a hassle but the gains make it worth it. My process was that kind of hassle. Only difference that both the hassle and the gains were emotional in this case. "You going to be an "emotional sponge"" she listens to mine, I listen to hers. Fair is fair. Sometimes I relate, and when I don't my passion for exploring others minds kicks in. As for giving proper consolation, well I receive proper consolation. I suppose is the same on her side. As for the last one, I sometimes hang out…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:48 PM
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I want to change careers so I'm learning Code. I want to do that because it s a way of being able to work from home part time and still have a comfy life working part time. By doing that I would have time to work on personal projects, explore thins and do more self-improvement I want to lose the fear of death since I think that that is the source of most if not all anxiety . I have a psychedelic and others substances checklist I want to explore: 150ug LSD doe, 4 grams of mushrooms, mescaline, ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 12:04 PM
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Protest? debating a topic is not protesting. I understand why they think that. You can understand where someone is coming from without agreeing with their view.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:25 PM
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Don't take it literally. This is similar to "with all due respect" when there is no intention to show respect or "my wife was kinda angry" when your wife was very angry . But if it makes things clearer change it for " I know it for a fact".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:16 PM
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And is. It like you have to do much. Even if you are not getting sex for long periods ( I have some experience with that lol) as long as you are moving , going out, meeting people your brain will reward you. At least for me it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:04 PM
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I can attest to this . Source: I am a man and I don't befriend people based on gender but how well we vibe. Women can be practical, men can be sensitive too. In fact I prefer balanced people who can do both
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:02 PM
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Aa far as I know I'm getting what I want from non-attractive friends and part of what I want from attractive friends... And what jm getting from those is equal to what they are getting from me... In a few particular cases I'm the one getting more. So... No one-sideness there
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:58 PM
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List wasnt exhaustive and is kind of difficult to put things in words and going deep into specifics without writing something very long. I wasn't in the mood to try hard it. Loyalty, quality time, thougfulness, being there with you on hard times and not just on fun times, support, patience, empathy, what else can you ask from a friendship? What else do you expect from a friend by the way? Have your friends bought you a car or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:22 PM
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Non-exhaustive list of things my best friend( a woman ) brings to the table: expanded my social circles ( she is an extrovert) abundant emotional support was with me on several visits to the doctor when I was very sick (I have Crohn disease, thankfully in remission now) career and dating advice Some nice thoughtful gifts Was my tripsitter for an LSD trip bring me some nice ramen(true ramen, not instant ramen) when I had a cold. Had been there when I have needed her tough love She actually raised…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:04 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:50 PM
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Maybe you are very hot or charismatic . Wasn't trying to put myself down, just wanted you to explain why it is unlikely to be the case. But I'm actually into self-improvement and I have high standards that I'm not sure if I'm going to reach, but I'm pushing toward them. Besides, I would know by now. She would have told me. She is not shy at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:49 PM
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Mmm problem is that that contradicts my direct experience. So it definitely does not work the same universally.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:48 PM
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I might be less common than the 50% but I don't think I am an extreme outlier. It is becoming more common with newer generations. I am younger millennial (I am 32 years old). Also, I am of the opinion that outliers or "exceptions to the rule" can often be studied and understood to make them more common. Doesn't hurt to push to be an outlier. Becoming exceptional is a good aspiration (as long as you don't become a negative exception)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:11 PM
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It has more complexity to it. That is why I insist that it might not be the best for everyone and that it depends on wiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:10 PM
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Which, if true, could explain your friendship. Well, that might make things easier because that means that I got to practice with women I didn't find attractive or who I only found mildly attractive. Also, while most people either have one intense crush or multiple mild ones, I can sustain multiple intense crushes. That might make things easier compared to when a person develops oneitis towards a friend. The trap is when you forget that there are more women out there. That is when things go down…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:08 PM
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I disagree, but we might not be wired the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:57 PM
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Do it early and let them filter themselves out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:56 PM
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My friendships with women are not one sided. We help each other. My best friend is a woman and I have gotten from her: - Emotional support - Social expansion (she is very extroverted and bubbly) - Dating and social guidance (I suck at reading social cues, she sometimes seems to be a mind reader and is very charismatic). - Wing-womanship To mention a few. The trick is to not begin a friendship with giving giving giving and asking for small favors early on. That tends to filter out people who just…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:56 PM
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Lol, I am a 5'0" guy, I am balding, and I don't have a game. I don't have much that her boyfriend doesn't have. She is an extroverted and charismatic woman, and she earns more than me. I am not saying it is impossible, but it is unlikely for her to be my orbiter. Besides, we are open about that sort of thing. If she had liked me, she would have said so. I think you might be using your personal experience as a reference and assuming it's a general rule. Which is a pretty common too, I do it to so…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:51 PM
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Contradicts my direct experience, but maybe it's how things work on your environment. Which generation are you from and what is your culture? If I may ask. That might make a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:44 PM
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It has to do with male and female nature. Women are the only beneficiaries of those friendships. That contradicts my direct experience. Me and my bestfriend have both benefited from it, but I would say I have gotten the most benefit from our friendship (I am the male friend, she is the female friend). From which generation are you? If I may ask. Culture, environment, and generation can have an impact on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:43 PM
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I disagree, but you do you. (No, seriously, doesnt work for everyone)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:38 PM
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Not to mention that between those ages it s good for development.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:26 PM
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Most people don't even value friendship that much nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:25 PM
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I understand that perfectly. I would say that my preference is both male and female friends that have some sort of balance regarding masculinity and femininity. Like they have access to both arquetypes. Basically sensitive men (relatively to the average men) and practical women (relative to average women).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:04 PM
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Understandable. it varies
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:02 PM
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I am talking about attraction. If you are straight, clearly you are attracted to them. I too was talking about attraction. I don't feel attraction towards a majority of women. 60% of women I would never fuck even if they made it really easy for me, 30% can generate attraction on me if they try to, 10% I find them attractive from the get go. This percentages are just very approximate approximations to give you an idea. I have no control over that attraction, I feel it, or I don't. You just convin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:58 PM
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Hasn't been my experience with close female friends. The support has been two ways. With my best friend, I would even say she has helped me more than I have helped her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:44 PM
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Depends on if he is saying is a waste of time for him or if he is saying that is a waste of time for everyone. It might be truly not something for him. Now, if he means it's not for anyone, that would be something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:42 PM
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I agree. You can only be friends with someone you felt initial attraction... AFTER you made your move and got your clear no. Even then, you have to introspect and be clear with yourself with what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:39 PM
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Men and women are wired to like each other romantically. For starters, I don't like the majority of women romantically. So there is that. That was just cope. You talked yourself into ignoring the natural reaction Oh no, I never ignored it. I dealt with it, talked about it with my therapist, and talked about it with my friend herself, too. I interacted with the emotions head-on. In fact, the thing that caused the most issues wasn't even gender-related, it was my fear of abandonment. This creeping…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:37 PM
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I would say that has to do more with the individuals themselves. Because of that, I make sure the friendship is not one-sided from the beginning. When I do that, either they stay or I go. I get my answer then. I even recommend doing that with same-sex friendships. High-quality , non-surface-level friendships are rare overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:25 PM
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Lol. Unless you have a thing for fat women, as some do, but I guess that is not your case.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:18 PM
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Got it. As I said, this is not for everyone. Not everyone is wired the same. Also, your culture, environment, the women that surround you, your values and preferences, etc., might mark a difference in whether it's worth it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:17 PM
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While I don't entirely agree withe black pill posture entirely I agree with a softer version of it. Where black pill sees hard limits (you can't pass this line) I see soft limits (you can pass this line but every step will become increasingly more energy and time expensive. The part about energy I think is essential. Like, yes, a person can improve their situation a lot but energy levels of a person will limit them. Not everyone has the same level of energy and focus. Also , problema with sex li…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 10:06 PM
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If you are forced to marry, you might not have a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 01:02 PM
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I don't. Especially not to my dad. I have done it and ended angry because he uses the " but you and I are the same height, dating shouldn't be that hard" then ignores that he is very charismatic and bold while I'm autistic and lack confidence. So I don't takk about it with him
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:33 PM
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I'm pointing at the differences in power
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:07 PM
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What I mean that most men didn't have a easy time getting easy sex with many women if they wanted to ... Except during pillage of defeated enemies. Also, at least we are not treated like property
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:24 PM
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No. Maybe a lot of them but not all. Don't take her word as good evidence because people tend to group themselves with similar people if they can and ignore those who are not..unless you are such an outlier that finding people like you is hard
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:17 PM
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Men never had that level of power... And a thing or two could be said about misuse of that authority in the past even if good things came from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:15 PM
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Your worth to society and self worth are two independent things that exist in parallel.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 07:25 PM
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Ah, the thing is that men are sexually more visual. Doesn't mean women don't have a visual component but their attraction is more complex. It takes into consideration appearance, social status , confidence, charisma, passion , style emotions etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 05:19 PM
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What sort of behaviour?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 04:36 PM
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Ahm, yes they do find men attractive. I don't recommend using social media behavior as your reference. Heterosexual and bisexual women tend to find men's bodies attractive. Some love and adore penises. Is not even odd to hear a woman talking about beards in similar way we talk about boobs. Etc etc, there is plenty of sexualization of men by women. The casual and ironic misandrist comments more often than not are them venting the frustration. Because let's be honest, dating tends to suck in eithe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 02:18 PM
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Medicine?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 08:45 PM
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A shame alcohol doesn't help me consistently. It does help amplify my mood when I am already in flow, but if I'm nervous it just makes me nervous and drunk. Lol . Brain chemistry
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 08:41 PM
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The thing is that attraction is not rational. Biology is basically a program that compulsively wants to spread itself, any species that disobey extinguish. Biology goal is not to keep us happy, and if it has to make use suffer for it's agenda it will. The pursuit of happiness and having a fullfiling life is not about following the mandates of biology but more acknowlodging our biology then finding smart ways to escape it's chains.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 06:37 PM
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Not that simple. Some people genuinely aren't made for hooking up/casual sex. Technically speaking they can participate but emotionally speaking they aren't going to have a good time if they are wired that way. But you are right that at least some of the complainers are doing poorly on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 12:36 PM
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She wouldn't have cheated with friends... but she would have cheated with non-friends. Cheaters cheat regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 06:32 PM
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One thing is lying in real life to people face to face when you can gain something But why would I lie about this to a rando that I will never meet? What do I gain from that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:54 PM
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​ I bet if the situation was right you would. Why would I fuck with a person I don't find attractive? Also, I have the goal of never cheating and never having sex with a woman that has a partner. Why would I break my values over a woman I find unattractive? ​ "Or if you had no chances with other women you would." If I have a chance with my female friends I have a chance with other women.... And I rather hire a sex worker instead of fucking an unattractive friend. ​ Doesnt change the fact that yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:36 PM
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Your experience doesn't change mine, and mine doesn't change yours. None of my female friends approached me because they were attracted to me. The conclusion from your story is not that all men-women friendship occur due to attraction, instead it indicates that SOMETIMES that can be one of many origins of a friendship. This is not a surprise since attraction can move people to take action. I have been on the opposite side of that because I have approached women I liked and showed interest in one…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:22 PM
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That only means your ex suck. You can't generalize a sample of one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 04:02 AM
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Huh? I am balding and short, that makes me the ugly dude. I do have female friends. I am evidence against your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 04:01 AM
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"There is no such thing as platonic friends of the opposite sex." I beg to differ. I am a guy and I don't want to fuck all my female friends , not all of them are attractive. Second, even if I would like to have sex with a friend I express that interest early on and once I get a no, if I stick it is because I think she is a worthy friend "if a man wouldnt find a woman attractive at all, he wouldnt try to be your friend." Again, I have befriended women I don't find attractive. Maybe you can't. Ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:58 AM
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"There are always other girls out there." Problem is my sex drive combined with my introversion. I have noticed most men tend to be horny enough to pursue almost any women , a "sex is sex" kind of attitude. That s not my case. My sex drive is closer to that of women in the sense that only a few men are worth the trouble but at least that balances out because there are a lot of horny men pursuing, facilitating things for women. Since I am a man I have to do the pursuing , but women who are attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:09 PM
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I agree. I am a man and I do have female friends, including women who I have found attractive at some point, but that is my choice because I saw being friends as worthwhile. But if you don't want to be friends with someone you have all the right to say no. That has to do with consent too. Now, I do understand the outrage when a man is sneaky and hides his agenda. In my case i don't hide I am interested, and also I don't fake friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:09 PM
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Correct. Only reason to do otherwise is if you want a relationship badly or if having kids is high priority to you. I don't want kids and I don't want a romantic relationship that much. A woman has a perfect personality, we vibe so well but I have no attraction towards her? I don't have to put my dick in her to enjoy her personality and that goes both ways. Like I am a very short guy and I know most women are not into that, they don't have to settle, we don't have to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:44 PM
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The thing is that hobbies do multiple things: they can increase the amount of people you meet and the quality of people you meet but also it is self improvement if you choose something aligned with you(not just to meet Moe people) because it benefits your mental health by improving quality of life and it could be a good way to improve social skills and through your hobby turn you into a more interesting person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 11:11 AM
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I think a male friend could be great at that depending on the friend
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 11:06 AM
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And requires to only have sex with only one person in a person entire life if you follow what the dude above implies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 12:10 PM
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Despite our excruciating need to see ourselves as unique snowflakes, we're very similar. With puny differences, that's irrelevant at large. I wonder where do you get that idea? What do you base it on? Differences are not puny. Not only does brain wiring vary, but life experiences, especially childhood experiences, can have an impact that is hard to change in a lifetime. If I make such claims is because I know they're universally beneficial for most people. You don't know, you *believe* they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 02:07 AM
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Waiting in itself is a price. Which might be huge or small depending on your wiring, but it is in itself a price. Which might or might not be worth it for a person. Good for you that you have an easy time waiting, but not everyone is wired the same. Also waiting for marriage before sex have other prices including that the repressed desire for sex could lad to bad decisions because it might push you into rushing things and marrying the wrong person... Which has a tough price. Also, I don't like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 12:21 AM
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Not everyone wants to marry Even if you want to marry you might not want to marry right away More importantly: a guy can make the fake promise of marriage on day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 10:50 PM
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If you promise something like love or stability to get sex and get sex you are using her. In that case you are using her because you are doing something that you know is likely to hurt her very bad, but you don't care because you only care about fuckin her body.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:05 PM
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It motivates men to improve. I a short guy with annoyingly picky taste and I don't want for things to be easier for me if it involves infringing on others rights. There are other ways society can help us without repressing others.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 01:24 AM
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It's a platitude of sorts, that assumes there are only two reasons why someone might not be succeeding in dating (treating women bad or putting in a pedestal).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 06:59 PM
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I think you might not be understanding what the advice is about Your "career", aka slaving away your time to make some owner fucking rich will not replace a loving, intimate, non-exploitative bond with another human being, no matter how "fulfilling" The point is not for your career to fill the void. The point is that: -Being broke makes finding a partner a lot harder for many reasons (dating cost money, going to places where you can meet people cost money, self improvement cost money... also hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 09:03 PM
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It s not retarded shit, it s a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:43 PM
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I know that is the origin of that fear, it comes from times when we lived in small tribes and the wrong social move could lead you to deadly isolation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:41 PM
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Dealing with rejection is just part of life 🤷 you miss 100% of the shots you don't shoot
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:49 PM
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You wont go to jail for cold approaching unless you do something stupid like grab her ass or follow her, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 05:53 PM
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That is a she problem, not a me problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 05:30 PM
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It s not cope, a majority of men have to approach in a majority of countries. Also, if you are handsome or tall the likelyhood increases of someone approacing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 05:27 PM
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Problem is that they don't realize all the small communications they sort of run in auto-pilot. Because that s the thing, mastering something implies doing a lot of things unconsciously. A beginner driver has to consciously think about when to turn, where to turn, exceptions, "do I have to release the clutch now? Yes... But what do I have to do with the accelerator ... I think I have to press it... Fuck did one of those the wrong way and the car turned off" . Similar is being a beginner with any…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 06:31 PM
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Yes! There are certainly trends but it s not like all men have pure masculine energy and all women have pure feminine energy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:50 PM
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You haven't heard? It might have to do with the culture you live in. In which country do you live? I am a man with female friends btw
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:48 PM
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Nah, speak for yourself. This might be you and the people around you. It might even be a noticeable chunk of society. My male friends don't put me down neither do I put them down. I have female friends that I'm not at all interested in sexually and I have female friends that I would definitely fuck if given the chance but that is not why I am their friend(especially when I know it s not going to happen).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 07:47 PM
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Yes, I said that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 06:07 PM
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Yeah, shitty friends are shitty friends. Also i have noticed most people don't value friendship that much. To me close friends are family
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 05:50 PM
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it makes no sense for men to stay as 'friend' with a woman he likes for a relationship This might be a controversial take from me: but I have made friendship with women I have been interested in in that way. It was worth it. Not only I earned a friend but also trained my emotional intelligence and... he will get a boyfriend and he will be jealous. I got jealous, handled that jealousy befriended her boyfriend. Now I have a female best friend and a close male friend (I just hope they don't break u…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 05:49 PM
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Oops xD I'm not even sure how that my appeared. Edited it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:43 PM
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I don' t think watchign porn would get the sex stuff out of the way for me. I want to touch boobs. I want to touch big boobs. I want to kiss, I want to... you get the deal
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 03:10 PM
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"but most strangers in non-social spaces aren't setting themselves up for pick up attempts" Sure, that is what rejection is for. Just reject them... Ah, they didn't accept the rejection? then in that case they are doing something wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 01:16 PM
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No one has unlimited energy. I agree that most people surrender too early. In fact, most people don't realize the potential for self improvement they have... BUT motivation has a limit. Faith in one self has a limit. I agree that those who haven't tried don't have much of a reason to complain. But those who are currently trying and those who stopped trying have many motives to complain. As a 5'0" who is currently trying I can emphasize with those who say it sucks.. because it does suck sometimes…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 01:11 PM
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Women aren't levels in video games, I agree. But social skills are a thing, body language is a skill. And it isn't fun to develop them, especially not for people with autism or introverts. The problem with many PUAs is that they don t take no got an answer, but that is not just PUAs that is most men because of how they are indoctrinated since childhood. With that said, even outside of cold approach, there is a risk of annoying someone everytime you ask someone out, ask for a number , etc. Social…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 01:01 PM
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Well you are right . I'm into self improvement and I am of the idea that "no matter where you are you can go higher if you go out of your status quo" but most men stay where the are. If they have game they stay having that level of game if they don't have game they never get game. Most people stay where they are at.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 01:02 AM
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I can see it going either way depending on the person. If they are aware that this is a grinding process and have temperament for it it might work well. The other thing is... If you are already not getting laid how much lower can it go?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 12:24 AM
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Wouldn't cold approach be a means for someone without game to develop game? At least in big cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 12:01 AM
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Depends on how I complain. If I complain about the weather, I'm not being entitled... I demand someone to fix the weather I'm entitled. I sometimes vent about how the dating world is complicated and even more so if you are a short man, but I don't think or say that it's the women's fault, and I am aware that no one owes me sex, that instead is me who have to either settle or work for it harder than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 08:25 PM
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Nah, thick hair is truly the most attractive to more people but there are some bald men who are considered very attractive. Depends on the head's shape and wether or not you can grow a beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 06:53 PM
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It's not selfish to have hope. As long as they are not DEMANDING sex it's not enitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 06:51 PM
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I don' t think most women understand it either. Most people know the rules they just don't know the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 07:05 PM
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Ah, I misunderstood what you meant by inequity. You are right and I have thought about it before. It s a matter of demand and offer. We could say dick is very cheapened in the dating market because of the average man's thirst.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 05:15 PM
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Well it kind of reinforces inequity in itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:15 PM
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No, but unless you want to be single, you need to realize that you cannot get your most preferred partner. Or you could self-improve if you are willing. If at some point I realize it's impossible (either because it was always impossible or because I ran out of time) I will put my effort on learning how to be happy single. I don't want kids and I don't feel a particular urge to have a girlfriend/wife. It would be nice but there are other things that are nice. It's the lust for someone who is very…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 02:49 PM
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And it s not even about leagues. Your taste doesn't depend on your league. There is no such thing as ugly woman taste or short man taste or pretty woman taste or handsome lad taste. It s annoying when people tell you to settle just because.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 02:21 PM
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I would pay under most circumstances. I wouldn't pay in the particular scenario the OP mentioned. I don't like to be blatantly used.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 12:35 PM
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Problem is most women don't invite... So " who invites pays" equals the man pays most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 12:27 PM
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" would you rather she had plastered on a smile..." No, he probably rather she either paid her stuff without a fuss or at least didn't order the expensive stuff. ... And fuck the local norms. I don' t like following norms blindly. It isn't morally wrong to let her pay in that case and I isn't illegal and there is no consequence for me. Combine all three and I see absolutely no reason to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 12:26 PM
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I answered above but now that I see this I want to add that that too is possible. My Best friend is a woman and we do hang out, have deep discussions, shared hobbies. I often hang out with her and her boyfriend who I also consider a friend. I even talk about women I find attractive with her. She is my bro lol. Edit: Besides her I do have other female friends that I hang out with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 11:12 PM
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Yes. It can and does happen. Evidence? I'm a man and I have female friends I would never ever fuck because k don't find them attractive. To me they are just like guys. On the other hand, a guy can be a genuine friend and at the same time be open to having sex with you. I have friendships like that too. Wanting sex does not in itself mean the friendship is fake. I have both female friends I would fuck and female friends I wouldn't fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 11:08 PM
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What I have noticed is that at that age bad habitsand good habits tend to show. Some women are effortlessly hot doing too many drugs/alcohol/smoking and eating unhealthy food, but as the 30s approach that changes, while women who take care of their body are more likely to look attractive (even VERY attractive) after that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 08:17 PM
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For me more or less is like the this: No looks + no personality= nothing No personality + good looks = nothing either to be honest Slightly interesting + good looks = sex Very interesting + good looks = relationship Very interesting + no looks= friendship Very interesting + sightly good looks = friendship a priority, but I might be open to some mischievousness
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:11 PM
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Tinder is not reality , just part of it.it accentuates some things while diminishing others
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 03:55 PM
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I understand. You are ina hard place. Sounds to me like you might be going through depression or at least dysthymia (Not sure, I'm not a mental health professional, and I don't know you).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:45 AM
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I am a man, I don't say that. Not to mention that while I have seen some dudes say that sort of stuff, not all of them. Dating still sucks in general, wether you are a man or a woman, but not all is loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:30 AM
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ge if TH An unsolicited advice from someone who was a kid raised by parents who should have divorced: Separated parents is less troublesome than conflicting parents that are together... so... you know what I'm getting at...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:28 AM
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I was going to write something more complicated but... it's simple: ​ -Not everyone cheat ​ Now, do a lot of people cheat? Yes. It's dating shitty (cheaty)? Yes. But not everyone cheat, you just have to eat a lot shit to find them, and hopefully refine your bullshit detection along the way. Good luck on your journey
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:25 AM
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The cold approach sucks coz you know nothing about the dude except he thinks you're hot That is not a problem in itself. If I see a woman I find attractive I want to know if she is also cool. Of course, I know some dudes are going to be like "I just want to hit that", but that can happen with social approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:22 PM
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You are not going to get arrested for fumbling as long as you don't do stuff like follow her or touch her inappropriately. What do you care if some random post a tik tok like the one who shared?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:19 PM
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I guess they mean those who are not in the bottom which would include both the top and the majority in the middle
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:54 PM
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That is why I’ll never commit or have a family because if I show a woman who I truly am she will definitely leave me. Sounds like the limiting belief that is sustaining your confirmation bias. Because here is the thing. I don't know if maybe is the environment you live in vs mine or what, but most women in my environment are not going for drug addicts. I know multiple successful dudes who are not abusive, including the example I gave before, who is actually quite nerdy(but also charismatic and b…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 10:55 PM
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her dad(my grandfather died when she was 10) He wasn't abusive, but he was absent due to dying. There is your explanation for that ​ She bangs lots of dudes who are drug addicts, some are drug dealers others are abusive toward her, others are trust fund kids who sleep around etc. now when she dates the abusive guys it’s always the same. She dates them, gets abused she leaves them, then she falls for them again. Given how pronounced her patter is from how you describe it, compared to most women..…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 10:25 PM
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Are you sure they were happy and satisfied in life? Did they really have healthy self esteem or was it a mask? We're you close to the women you say ? Because if not you wouldn't know what was going inside. Also, how old were they? The younger the woman the more naive in general. Finally , what other traits did those men have besides being bad? Also, a women doesn't have to have awful overall low self esteem, some vulnerability combined with horny ness is enough. Especially if she just wants sex.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:14 PM
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Who says JP doesnt have issues? Who says he is the perfect father when you weren't there? You don't know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:16 PM
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Think is that dating is nuanced, and any simplification is naturally going to clash with reality. Here is a nuanced explanation: Attractive people are rare(regardless if we are talking physical or other types of attractiveness). Good people who are sane and mentally healthy are rare, too. Therefore a good guy(or woman) who is also attractive is even rarer. Because bad but attractive is more sexually more interesting than good but unattractive , it's only natural to go for the former. Goodness ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:14 PM
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I think the key is in the first word of the title "Most men cause their dating issues. "
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:52 PM
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People handling rejection poorly. It's not more complicated than that. Unless there is some other thing I'm not noticing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 06:52 PM
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It's only hipocrisy if you make a moral judgement towards people doing the same you are doing. Your partner doesn't have to have the same strengths/virtues as you, especially with something as subjective as taste. An overweight woman can potentially find a fit man that happens to be into heavy women, her chances are going to be lower and she might have to develop other strengths if she wants to keep being an overweight woman (or has a condition that doesn't allow her to be thinner) and date fit …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 06:52 PM
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Trial and error and accept you will fail many times. Calibrate and adapt the best you can as you interact with women. " while declining to do the heavy lifting of initiating themselves " Offer and demand. Most men are too easy. No need for most women to initiate when there are a bunch of dude initiating. Also, the system punishes women for initiating by labelling them sluts. Kind of a chicken and the egg situation. At least the system is very slowly changing, faster in some places than others. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 10:43 PM
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I know, that is what I'm saying in the sentence you quoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:25 PM
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As long as they find you attractive, they'll just break all these rules for you. This statement isn't saying women who do this are wrong for doing it. Truth is that in an ideal world no one would care about looks, but both many of us and many of the people we are interested in care about looks and that makes dating harder. No value statement about any of the participants.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:51 PM
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I think the main usefulness from money is not any direct attraction but the opportunities it open. The possibility of getting clothes that are both quality clothes but that represents you whether you are quirky, formal, classy, nerdy, etc. The way money facilitates logistics. The way money allow you to take courses and go to places. The confidence and security that comes from being financially stable. The capacity to enact any plan (because plans often cost money).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 07:28 PM
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