Articulate_idiot Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	What is it with perimenopause? Embedded in TikTok is a validation algorithm devised by an evil genius. It is insidious and malevolent and ever so subtle, but it exists. Oh man does it exist. It is a ravenous beast that feeds on the amalgamation of depravity, the most nuanced insecurities, and is adorned with the irresistibly ripe cherry of entitlement. Traits ubiquitously threaded throughout the fabric of our humanity, waiting to be exploited, but for what gain? That’s what we must question, not necessarily in others, but wit…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/10/25 09:51 PM
10	Has anyone’s Ex-wife ever apologized for putting them through hell? I agree with you. That’s the only way that things could end up feeling truly “balanced” or like there was any real justice, and it is rooted in empathy. Empathy is what allows us to understand and appreciate how we make another person feel by our actions (positive and negative). In order for me to ever forgive her on that level, she would have to show me irrefutably that she realized and understands the level of pain that her actions inflicted on our son, on me, and on those around us by her act…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/02/24 02:49 PM
6	I’m done If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise: If you can dream—and not make dreams your master; If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And …	/r/Divorce_Men	07/02/24 01:37 PM
2	I’m done Brother, ACT LIKE THEIR FATHER before all else. Do this and they will never think of another man as their father, no matter what your ex is doing to manipulate them. Kids know who their father is and that’s something that no one can take from you, but you have to ACT LIKE IT! Kids learn so much more from their parents by watching how they act than anything that a parent could say to a child to try to teach them verbally. Also, I know it hurts, but the pain that you are feeling is just energy, an…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/02/24 01:35 PM
6	Got back with your ex? Well fuck me gently with a chainsaw. I also stand united with entrails guy.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/02/24 09:53 PM
5	Got back with your ex? I agree. Why would she not drop the injunction on you if you did this for her? If she refuses to take ownership/accountability for her behavior and her mistakes, she isn’t worth any of your time and if you were to get back together with her, she would be the same person with the same issues that got you both into this mess. The only chance that you have at reconciliation is if she were to work legally to fully rescind the injunction, and be amenable to therapy, and while in therapy, you would ea…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/02/24 09:50 PM
5	Can’t make this up I’m sorry brother. Just take it one day at a time. Always do the right thing when you’re faced with ANY decision, especially in regard to anything that involves your child (but it sounds like you already knew this). One word of advice that I’ve heard over and over again and believe to be absolutely true: when your daughter is old enough to understand, never disparage your ex to your daughter. Kids don’t need our help to know right from wrong. If you talk badly about your ex to your daughter, thi…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/01/24 06:11 AM
2	Dating post divorce Why did someone downvote this guy unless you are hating on him? He has success where others aren’t. So what? Maybe you could get some pointers from him on how he’s succeeding instead of trying to cut him down. I am 42 and have a 7 yo son with 50% custody and I’ve had little to no trouble dating, although I don’t currently use apps. I go out, with myself or a friend, and just meet women out and about and initiate conversation. That’s the hardest part is trying, but if you can get over that, you h…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/01/24 03:22 AM
11	Be honest did anybody cheat at their bachelor party if so to what extent? Sorry man. I don’t know your age, but if you are younger, this is par for the course in these two most recent generations (Gen X & Z). Women don’t value lifelong commitment and the vows that are spoken when they marry are loosely interpreted. When they realize that it’s hard work to be committed to one person for life, they will convince themselves that they have some justification for breaking their vows, even if most of it comes in truth from them not knowing how to find happiness within thems…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/01/24 11:11 PM
20	This might be the messiest thing you guys have ever read… Why did you write “this might be the messiest thing that you guys have read”? You broke your vows and now your wife is divorcing you. Seems pretty straightforward to me.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/01/24 11:49 AM
1	The sad reality I’ve faced: there is zero justice in all of this. So it’s not human nature to take personal accountability? It’s quite a nihilistic worldview to just say “it’s just the way it is and that’s that”. If everyone thought that way, we would still all be wearing loin cloths and living in caves. One of the most intrinsically remarkable aspects of human nature is our ability to evolve to something better than the status quo. Do you disagree?	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/24 04:41 PM
1	The sad reality I’ve faced: there is zero justice in all of this. I agree fully….but the question is, what is to be done to fix it, and how? The only way is for men and women to start to take personal responsibility for what has been happening, and to be committed to changing the status quo exemplifying the degeneration of values and personal standards, even if it means confronting some uncomfortable or unpopular truths.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/24 11:42 PM
0	The sad reality I’ve faced: there is zero justice in all of this. Yeah, maybe you’re right…but the ultimate price that is paid isn’t even by the wife at all, is it? It’s paid by the children in future generations who have to deal with the pervasive degeneration of moral societal values and resulting entropy that we are just now starting to wake up and realize “might be an issue to pay attention to”. Strong and healthy societies have a fundamental basis in the strength of the individual family unit, and the strength of the family unit is measured by the things …	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/24 10:59 PM
1	The sad reality I’ve faced: there is zero justice in all of this. I’m sorry, but I disagree. There’s always a price to be paid for the decisions that we make in life. Karma might not exist and evil is real and justice doesn’t always prevail, but there will always be something that is sacrificed when people make decisions like this when their partner was a genuine, loving, supportive, and good hearted person. When that’s taken for granted, it’s rare that she would ever find that, genuinely and permanently from another man. It’s called the law of diminished retu…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/24 10:02 PM
2	The sad reality I’ve faced: there is zero justice in all of this. Amen	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/24 09:57 PM
4	The sad reality I’ve faced: there is zero justice in all of this. What the hell did someone down vote them for? This is actually a true thing and a sympathetic piece of advice. It wouldn’t hurt to see a therapist as well. He needs to be there for his kid. The ex-wife will do the same thing to the current guy….and the next guy after that. She’s a pig with no values and she’s probably blaming everything on him and taking no accountability. Fuck her, she isn’t shit. All she’s proving is that he’s better off without her if she’s all about breaking her vows, and ab…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/24 09:57 PM
8	Get it together. We aren’t here to judge other men who post. The purpose of this room is for men to be supportive of other men and to offer advice. Every man who posts here has a unique set of circumstances, and is dealing with the ramifications of divorce, all on their own unique timelines. Although your post is comical in a sophomoric sense, it shows that you don’t understand the whole reason why this room exists in the first place, and that’s to gain strength and insight through solidarity. Your post does the…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/01/24 05:25 PM
3	Did They Accuse You of Any of These? Yes. It’s definitely “trending” in the women’s world of divorce, and only an idiot would believe it….that’s exactly why judges don’t give this type of crap any credence. Also, don’t forget the ubiquitous labeling of the male in the divorce being a “narcissist”. It’s all projection because they are inherently miserable with their own issues and don’t know how to self reflect and deal with their own screwed up thoughts and feelings. No accountability. It’s so easy and so convenient to just blame t…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/01/24 05:46 AM
11	Help: Just seen my ex wife on dating app. Bro, time will heal your wounds. Soon you’ll realize your worth again. You were fine before you met her, you are even better after she’s gone because you now have the wisdom earned from the experience that you just went through. You get to use that wisdom to make sure that you find someone much more suited to a long term partner in the future. Don’t rush it, though. Let it happen organically. For now, there’s no issue with using dating apps to go out and have fun with women 10-20 years younger t…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/24 07:47 AM
5	My wife Yeah tell her to kick rocks or you’ll be paying $$ all-la-monei $$. She needs to face the consequences of her decisions. Her problems aren’t your problems anymore. Take good care of your kids. Fuck her.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/01/24 06:28 PM
1	Wife asked me to move out this morning… Absolutely social media has something to do with it…and parents, a lot of them, don’t teach their daughters about real life. They treat them like princesses and don’t explain to them that in the real world, people have things that they need to work through and that real people are going to get angry sometimes or have bad days and the solution is not to haul ass…but to work through your issues and therefore, build stronger bonds with your spouse, and build character within yourself. This isn’t ju…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/01/24 06:14 PM
3	As soon as the ring came off…. Everyone processes their emotions differently when it comes to divorce. If your conscience is bothering you, that you would be making the wrong decision before, you are actually separated, or before you are actually divorced, then you should listen to your conscience. I would say, at least wait until you are separated officially and not living together to date anyone else.you don’t want your son to be ex-wife to try to use anything like this against you, because she will try, no matter what she …	/r/Divorce_Men	05/01/24 05:11 PM
3	Wife asked me to move out this morning… I swear, makes me feel like I will never be able to trust a woman ever again to get into a long term relationship, let alone a marriage. Never going through that again. Brother, you need to do everything you can at this point to protect your own interests and those of your children’s future. I’m sorry, but your wife is now your mortal enemy. The sweet and loving woman that you once knew doesn’t exist, and never will again.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/24 08:54 PM
8	Wife asked me to move out this morning… Also, don’t think you can work it out or that she’s going to change her mind. If she made the decision, she’s already made up her mind and her feelings about you are dead.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/24 08:49 PM
16	Wife asked me to move out this morning… Don’t forget to change ALL YOUR PASSWORDS	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/24 08:47 PM
1	Cohabiting during and after the divorce Same. My ex let her 17 yo son move his GF into our home even though I told her that I was against it and didn’t feel comfortable with the situation. My resistance, she said, was just another sign that I was a narcissist. That’s when I started educating myself and discovered that it’s trendy for narcissistic women to label their discards or soon to be discards narcissists as part of the process while they pour gasoline over whatever is left of the relationship and light a match. Year and a half l…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/01/24 08:12 AM
2	Cohabiting during and after the divorce Very similar situation. Before my divorce. It’s like….it fucking OBVIOUS that I’m cleaning up the house and doing things that need to be done to run a household because if I don’t do them, even though we lived in a house full of kids who were plenty old enough to do a huge share of the chores themselves (her kids from the last two marriages before ours), she wouldn’t hold them accountable and make them help with chores….then when I would occasionally simply bring up the subject I was “saying tha…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/01/24 08:02 AM
1	I'm terrified. Thank you	/r/Divorce_Men	03/01/24 06:08 AM
1	I'm terrified. App name please? 🙏🏼	/r/Divorce_Men	03/01/24 05:52 AM
1	Just a ‘Friend’! If you can’t go to your woman and have an open and honest conversation about how her being friends with this guy makes you feel, then you probably have deeper problems in your relationship than wondering about what she’s doing with her special friend. In an honest and committed relationship, you each should respect each other and value each other’s feelings enough to be able to sit down and have a conversation with each other about how you feel. If you’ve tried to talk to her and she ignores or …	/r/Divorce_Men	03/01/24 03:05 AM
3	Held off Satin’s Vagina Wool, we are very proud of ya, keep up the good work.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/12/23 06:04 AM
1	Dying alone... We shouldn't be scared of that. Agreed!!!	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/23 12:06 PM
7	Dying alone... We shouldn't be scared of that. By the way, after being forced to sell our marital home which I loved and but a lot of hard work into for my family, and it pained me like hell to get rid of it! ….but you know what I did? I went out to Macy’s on Black Friday and I bought myself a bad ass new Shark Skin $500 suit, and I stopped into a few other stores and bought myself a small new wardrobe. I don’t even work a job in which I wear suits (I’m a construction superintendent for a small custom builder)…but I put on that suit and look…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/12/23 11:43 PM
3	Dying alone... We shouldn't be scared of that. I’m sorry for what you are feeling, what you have been forced to think about and acknowledge and work through, and what has happened in your life as you describe it. You’re right about your body being nothing more than a husk/no spirit after we go. You won’t care about it then, and depending on your religious beliefs, it won’t matter from a spiritual perspective much either. Once the body in this life goes, if anything, it’s only your spirit which would travel and your spirit won’t care where or…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/12/23 11:37 PM
10	Why Women are Walking Away Everything in this post is hitting home, hard. It is exactly what happened during the marriage degeneration and eventual divorce that I went through over the last two years to make it all worse, she is highly educated, so she thinks that she is levelheaded enough to rationalize Right and wrong, and still make healthy and logical decisions in spite of the TikTok and YouTube videos that she inundated herself with when she began to feel that she was unhappy and “not getting her emotional needs met,…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/11/23 06:26 PM
60	Why are we telling men to wait a year before dating? You don’t have to take a year. You should take however long you need to recover and work on yourself. The goal is to be ready for whatever is next. It’s different for everyone. I recently went through a divorce. I went out a month after my wife walked out and moved in with her ex-husband. I created a Bumble account and I slept with 5 women within the course of one week. I don’t even know why I did it or what I was looking for. In retrospect, I think that I did it to prove to myself that women wo…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/10/23 06:02 PM
8	What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt? Holy shit, you just answered the thing that made no sense whatsoever during my divorce. My ex wife said that I was a narcissist after inundating herself with watching narcissist content on YouTube and TikTok. I even learned that her best friend was encouraging her to do this when I glanced at her phone one day and saw “keep watching those videos, girl”. Shortly thereafter, she told me that I had been “emotionally abusing her during our entire relationship” of 7 years. She tried to file a domesti…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/09/23 02:56 AM
6	What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt? Mine told me matter or factly one day during our split “You know, your son would be fine if you dropped dead tomorrow.” I don’t think I’ll ever be able to forget that one, because lord knows I’ve forgotten most because I don’t like to carry that kind of thing into the future with me…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/09/23 02:40 AM
2	How Do They Turn It Off So Completely? He’s right. I’ve learned this too: you have to be okay with moving on and just focus on acceptance that none of it is logical and that there are no reasons that you are wrong 😑	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/23 08:01 AM
3	How Do They Turn It Off So Completely? I see so many men these days that have gone through a divorce only dating traditional foreign women. I think we should learn from their example. At one point toward the end, my ex-wife uttered “we don’t even need men anymore”. I was like excuse me!? Look around you woman. Nearly everything you see and use every minute of every day was built by men. Our culture is poison for western women…and the traditional family unit is becoming a thing of the past.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/23 07:53 AM
8	How Do They Turn It Off So Completely? Holy shit. OP is like he stole the words from my brain in describing his situation. On the way out, while she was dismantling everything that we had built together, she developed this insane narrative and started rewriting history. She decided that I was an “emotionally abusive narcissist” after watching scores of TikTok and YouTube videos, which helped her to validate her position Your explanation are the same conclusions that I have come to with what happened in my marriage. Stay strong fellas…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/23 07:36 AM
2	Ex wife wants to meet up for a beer and talks If you take a jug of milk out of the fridge one day and notice that it is spoiled, and you put it back in the fridge and then 5 months later you take it back out again, it’s not going to be unspoiled milk again. Don’t drink spoiled milk.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/08/23 07:02 AM
1	3yr Marriage and she wants $1,500 in alimony Things really started to get worse around year 4-5. Year 6, she decided that she didn’t want to do couples therapy anymore. I continued individual therapy up until this day, which really help get me through. Also at year 6, we seperated. She turned into a different person and blamed everything on me/wouldn’t take accountability for anything because she couldn’t see that she was capable of making mistakes. She also developed several convictions about my thinking and feelings which weren’t at all …	/r/Divorce_Men	11/08/23 12:34 PM
8	3yr Marriage and she wants $1,500 in alimony If I can add to this advice…my divorce was finalized yesterday and cost me just under 15K. First marriage. She had two previous marriages. I was the third. When we started having issues, I came across the statistics for 2nd and 3rd marriage success rates and they are terrible. Nearly 60%+ of second marriages fail and 70%-80% of third marriages fail. Educate yourselves fellas. Don’t be on the wrong side of statistics. It is better just to choose not to get married at all. Also, don’t make a major…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/08/23 02:44 PM
1	I am confused with my life, divorce, mariage and hook ups VERY well put. Thank you for saying what needs to be said.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/23 06:25 AM