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| 2 | Has anyone been on the r/Divorce subreddit? I feel like it’s run by women and is 90% posts from women talking about how much they hate being married and want a divorce.Open your eyes further. This DivorceMen sub is moderated by women, or neutered men, too. It used to be a place for honest discussion about women's behavior and what lead to the divorce. Now, it's all a bunch of "oh poor me Im so sad and miss her..." | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/25 12:32 PM |
| 1 | STBXW...I hate her.Exactly. You don't forgive someone who isn't asking for it. You can choose not to have that spiral into a hatred but don't forgive. Then you're just a patsy... | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/24 10:22 PM |
| 8 | Lost interest in womenExactly. If she was "looking to better his life" she would pay for those things. She's making demands for what she wants him to improve for her benefit. Realize the difference. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/24 07:07 PM |
| 2 | I wasn't good enoughIt seems this reddit group has shifted to majority of men blaming only themselves and "woe is me" the perfect woman left me because I wasnt good enough. Wake the F up. Mist divorces are initiated by women after theyve been cheating and can now take the guy to the cleaners. I'm suspecting posts like this one are written by a woman... | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/24 06:25 PM |
| 2 | ED?"that's what she said!" | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/24 07:06 PM |
| 3 | The idea of dating again disgusts me… 2 yrs post/divorceHow old are you? I think it's normal and actually good to feel the way you do. And if the pets are dogs, you definitely wont feel alone with them in the house. And they wont turn on you and take half you sh*t! This "online therapist" thinks youre fine... | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 07:13 PM |
| 6 | Late 30s dating...oofYours is a great post. Captures so much of the absurdity of online "dating". It's a loser's game for men, IMO. The clarity you have on women's motivations, behavior can't be ignored. I'm older than you by 2 decades but for me, it's an in-person meet and greet or nothing. And I'm fine w nothing TBH. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 08:27 PM |
| 3 | RingYou have a question mark after that as if you didn't know? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 02:57 PM |
| 7 | Dating a Divorced Single-Mom that has 100% custody of her Children...You're right. Two adults need time to bond and youre not getting that. Let's cut to the chase: you're being used and it's not going to work out. Better to recognize that now. The End | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 05:49 PM |
| 2 | This is my reality nowWho's paying for the dinner? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 02:25 PM |
| 4 | Divorce StallingLife is the result of endless binary choices. You chose wrong. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/24 05:34 PM |
| 3 | One year on since being told she wanted a divorceJust bring your kids on the trip. Introduce them at the airport. No need to tell her beforehand. Oh and be sure to video it for your Reddit fan base. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/24 10:45 PM |
| 2 | How long do you keep a pissing match going?Yeah but, just as in a marriage, it takes 2 to play by those rules and either one can F that up. My X, when my kids were little, would drop them off later than the scheduled time, she called the cops when I went to pick them up for a scheduled Christmas holiday one year because she "wanted" to bring them to visit her brother's family, etc. OP's question is what to do when she's not playing by those rules. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/24 07:31 PM |
| 0 | I'm glad I took the high road.You don't "forgive" someone unless they ask for forgiveness. Otherwise, you're just a patsy. Not saying you shouldn't take the high road but don't forget and don't forgive unless you think you should be walked on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/02/24 02:46 PM |
| 7 | I think I’m doneSomething similar happened to me. Wife cheated, got violent towards me and blew up the family unit. Two sons who were only 10 and 6 at the time. Now 20 years later, divorced for 19, younger son has major resentment towards me. Im certain the Mom twisted his perspective to hate me for whatever reasons she wanted to come up with to justify her actions. Not much we can do to fix it unfortunately. The "die is cast" to a large extent when the Mom puts her own wants ahead of her children's needs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 08:11 PM |
| 14 | Help: Just seen my ex wife on dating app.That happened to me. Sucks to see at first but I just thought of the lies in what she posted and thought "glad she's gone". | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/01/24 10:29 PM |
| 10 | Grey rock feelings.There's no way I will be "friendly" w my ex. Kids or no kids. Have some self respect if the x blew up the family. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/24 10:41 PM |
| 8 | Any Advice for Someone on the Brink?Dude, wake up and stop being a patsy. She "put you" in the doghouse? And you willingly went to go sleep on your own couch. How about she went nuts and it's not your fault. So she can go sleep wherever. Get a spine. Your marriage is over but don't accept being treated like a leper. Send her packing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/24 01:51 AM |
| 5 | Does wife making more than husband contribute to relationship issues?Differences in income are just a measure, not the cause of the problem. The real issue is she is so focused on career, and the importance of advancing, that you are being left for dead. A woman doesn't have the "breadwinner" (support the family) motivation that most men do. So yes your marriage has problems that you'll see soon enough. But as others said, you won't be paying out the nose in a divorce so that's a plus... | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/23 10:08 PM |
| 8 | The WifeyMy phone had it as "X". Unfortunately, I also had to add "X2". | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/23 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Married for 2 years but sex is decliningA man doesnt need a Safe Place from reading words. Grow a set... | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 10:41 PM |
| 4 | I hate my life after divorceYour STBX is NOT your family. First mistake right there... | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/23 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Do you think divorce is contageius?More like _Queen_of_Ephyra tbh... | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/23 06:14 PM |
| 4 | ~7 month Separation UpdateNo kids, you got the dog and a new place. Perfecto, can't get a better outcome than that! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/23 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Marriage counselingIf wife has expressed "she's done", and she's not gone yet, then she's just delaying because she doesn't have her next move lined up yet, or it fell through. Counseling won't work, just delaying the obvious. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/23 12:25 AM |
| 1 | I guess it's about to be over.True, but that's half the coin he's dealing with. Women "check out" because they have something (someone) else to go to. It's not a decision made in a vacuum. Sorry for the bad news OP but you'll come out stronger. Point being don't try and understand her actions because she isn't giving you the whole story. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/23 04:22 PM |
| 4 | Double WhammyIf and when your dog passes, you'll still love him and he you. It will be very different from the divorce feelings and you'll carry that bond for as long as you want. Don't commingle the two. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/23 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Steps to Get Over ItA woman is binary because she already has someone else lined up. You just don't realize that. Many guys try too hard and too long to figure out why she's "changed": hormones?, I didn't help w the dishes last night?, on and on. While you were hardworking and loyal to the family and her, she wasn't. She was maximizing her value, at your expense. The sooner you realize that the quicker you'll heal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 05:59 PM |
| 6 | Tell Her Family?I think it's fine to tell them after divorce is final. Just don't expect them to take your side after doing so. But yeah, if it'll result in some argument between her and family that'll ruin some Thanksgiving dinner years down the road that you won't ever hear about, that's just karma. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 12:07 PM |
| 32 | The Coldness AfterThis, absolutely 100%. You can go down any rabbit hole you'd like but save yourself time and just end up here because this is what happened. And they "deserve to", you know, because their thoughts are to maximize their entitled self happiness, regardless of costs to others. That's a woman, you just didn't understand that until now. Hope you heal fast. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/23 12:07 AM |
| 4 | What are the top 3 things to consider before moving out ?1. Bring a change of underwear. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Wits EndShe's already seeing someone else. Everything you describe is just the result of her not telling you she's cheating. Force the issue and save time for your new post-D life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Why does she text like this?I changed it to just X and unfortunately I now have a X2 in the contact list... | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 06:46 PM |
| 1 | The road to divorce some lessons learned. Still early daysSorry to hear that but Lesson #1 is " Don't buy a new house to fix marital problems". It will always end badly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/23 06:39 PM |
| 5 | Joining the club. Thanks for having meI don't want any new members of this club but that doesn't stop the reality of what we've all had to deal with. And, uh, welcome. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/23 05:23 PM |
| 3 | Did Your Former Partner Suddenly Lose Weight And Focus On Their Appearance Before The Breakup?The problem with your poll question is it reads "potential new partner.". She already has a new partner and it ain't the husband. Wake up already | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/23 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Kid's birthdays after divorceDon't go to any event at her house. She just wants to lie to herself that everything is ok after what she did. F her and everyone in that house except your kids. I last saw my cheating ex at the wedding of our younger son a year ago. She says to me, after 20 years, "Well I guess things turned out okay". I said "F you for what you did.". Never forget. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/23 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Am I screwed financially?I agree with this if possible to do, ie there's no cheating. You'll save yourself alot of battling over what amounts to nothing in 2 years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/23 06:17 PM |
| 3 | ResentmentI didn't mention that, I was explaining someone else's post. But to explain that one too, it's for "Manipulation" purposes. Women manipulate men's basic instincts. It's how the species has survived. They're generally weaker but have certain "skills" to compensate. Dude you're like a sheep walking into the lion's den: "What's that sharp claw for, what are these sharp teeth for?". I mean it's good you're asking those questions but get aware of how things work. Most of us here did, unfortunately, b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/23 12:06 PM |
| 3 | ResentmentThe word is alone, you misspelled it. Oh that "incel" word cuts like a knife, you are so sharp. If I woke up to your fat ass and ugly face I'd die ALOT younger, by my own hand Ingrid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/23 12:02 AM |
| 5 | ResentmentI guess you were there in the kitchen while she was doing all that. Typical BS line from the "deserving" class .. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/23 09:40 PM |
| 5 | ResentmentThe basic issue through all these threads is that men are being USED. You may not believe it, you may think you're the exception, but human nature, and the female gender, will not be changed. So you're bargaining for P*SSY time, your genes tell you you're to be the provider, your nature tells you want a nuclear family and you'll bust your ass to provide it. Women crave attention, look at Instagram if you want a reality check, and will do anything to advance their material position. They DESERVE … | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/23 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Kids...get out...You're probably the exception. Guys generally don't look for this hard earned wisdom until we're forced to confront the truths based on the sh*t sandwich we've been served. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/23 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Control is a helluva drugIt's been some years, my kids are adults now, but this rings a bell. My ex told our kids that she was going to take them to visit family 6 hours drive for Christmas vacation, play w cousins, blah, blah, blah, even though holiday was mine. Then I had to be bad guy to say "No", agreement says this. She called cops when I was at her house to pick them up. Imagine that great scene at Christmas time. She did this several times, basically setting something up for kids during my scheduled time without … | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/23 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else’s wife lose her mind after kids?Don't kid yourself, or us. She found that person before you broke up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/23 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else’s wife lose her mind after kids?I think it could be brain chemistry changes. Is she on birth control now but not before? All meds can have an effect... | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/23 11:34 PM |
| 32 | Just retired, what to doShe's taking steps to extract the maximum amount at time of break. Don't help her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/23 12:24 AM |
| 22 | Just retired, what to doThat "new house" thing is a big Red Flag and for me a red line. Yep, we're now divorced but at least it's simpler to settle a paid off house than a new one buried in debt. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/23 12:22 AM |
| 6 | I am really going through itMy low point came when I was cleaning out her things and found the boxed wedding dress from 12 years earlier with all the memories, promises, etc. Left it out on driveway for donations pickup. Felt like a funeral for sure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/23 07:58 PM |
| 4 | Do you think they regret it?It's like a convicted murderer in prison. They don't regret the murder, they regret that they have to live w the consequences. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/23 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Life after The Raging RapidsShe was in the romantic relationship before you filed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/23 01:00 AM |
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