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It's the $120 vid game controller that allows you to plat vid games on your phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:00 PM
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Glad you enjoyed that bit!😆My therapist laughed her ass off too (along with myself.) He even showed me how soft it was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 04:39 AM
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Ya nailed it. I'm all for giving some direction to all men about gift ideas, but at least listen to us. I'm not expecting them to actually put some independent thought into gifts that the recipient would actually like. But at least get the poor woman the color she prefers. I watched my abusive dad give my mom "gifts" that he knew she wouldn't like b/c these "gifts" were cheaper, simpler to procure, and made her feel even smaller. (When I was old enough, I helped him pick out better gifts, but st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 10:36 PM
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I feel like cattle are treated better than women some times. If I read or hear one more story about female pain being ignored, I am going to "burn IT all down." These poor women...glad I had a c-section with a nice progressive doc. This makes me ill. Along with all the other women not being heard by other female docs (thanks, bitches), having IUDs inserted without pain relief/lube, and getting birth control thrown at us like candy for serious conditions, among other abuse. This is why I'm teachi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 12:04 AM
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100% The very best times of my life were when I lived alone. I cleaned up after myself like an adult. And I didn't have anyone judging me in my own home. Or abusing my time, generosity, and love. This is why married MEN usually live longer: their wives are carrying their load too. I'm finally putting down that extra load and not picking up another one again. You can come over to see me, but ya gotta leave cuz I ain't washing your clothes or dealing with any bullshit games ya running. Fuck me, fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 04:40 AM
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Thanks! I saw this one and committed it to memory. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 02:31 PM
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Excellent reminder that just cuz he may not "put hands" on you....yet, LVM announce their impending physical abuse with oppressive emotional abuse. That way when they finally do hit you instead of the wall, you'll more readily accept it cuz of all of the conditioning. And then there's the sickos who get off on women fearing them and being in pain. After my emotionally-abusive ex gave me whiplash after plowing his sizable shoulder and knocking the wind out of me right in front of our daughter, I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 07:13 AM
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Thanks for sharing! I'm also 48 and have had similar experiences. I calculated that between my dad and abusive husband (soon to be ex) that I've spent approx 68% of my life controlled by cruddy men-narcissists. I'm now financially independent again and rebuilding. I am def in the same mindset as you. I love working with and being friends with men, but I'm kinda "post-men" in terms of emotional intimacy. When I can, I might seek out a very very casual arrangement with a big sexy teddy bear who ac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 09:35 PM
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What about your soon-to-be-ex husband who accuses you of cheating at board games every time you win, right in front of your kid? The only way Mommy can win is if she cheats. He's a pathetic loser. I have never and would never cheat at Monopoly, particularly against my kid, but he would. That garbage is currently being taken out.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 04:06 AM
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As I sit here literally feeling my brain and body spiral from the luteal to non-luteal phase of my period due to Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder, I wanna rage at this crap! Women's health research is pathetic. They could care less. I was lucky to even get access to healthcare resources and an accurate diagnosis of PMDD The US healthcare industrial complex has 0.000 answers/treatments/cures for any women's health issue that doesn't deal with popping out a baby. Women are struggling in physical an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:51 AM
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She is a GENIUS! Brilliant. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼😂 Men no longer approach me cuz I'm old, fat, tired, and clearly bite strange men, but I would have employed this mercilessly when men still wanted and thought that they could have my precious attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 08:25 PM
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Excellent advice...don't want to invite all the baby-men in need of emotional care-taking to the yard. I think that I might lead my profile with..."abuse survivor", "Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder sufferer", "pre-menopausal", "single mom", "psych grad student", and "master ball-breaker" to my future dating profile. 😂 That should keep em alllllll away. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 10:27 PM
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Preach Butterscotch! Preach. These LVM will pretend they are poor and broke as a joke to get out of any financial obligation, including those to their kids and the partner who washed their dirty tighty-whiteys and sucked their stinky dick. But when they're trying to manipulate and control to get in your pants and mind (to fuck with), they're soooooooo financially stable and savvy. Let me run the family's finances since I'm "better" with money. Won't open a college fund for their daughter, but wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:17 AM
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I saw this and died!!!!! Talk about weaponized incompetence! This is the VERY definition of it. Girl, just throw the entire man out after this stunt. I call it a "stunt" cuz that's what it is, an intentional act designed to mislead and alarm. He knows what he's doing and should be shown the door for it. Immediately. If he's gonna play games like this over groceries, do ya think he's gonna help out when the shit really hits the fan? Bye asshole. Go play gamezzzz with some one else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 07:06 PM
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As a Gen Xer who was heavily socialized to believe that men aren't supposed to be able to take care of themselves emotionally, this stuff literally makes me ill. I spent way too much time in an abusive marriage cuz I thought "marriage was work" and that I had to be the emotional leader in the family, i.e. the responsibility for the marriage working was on my shoulders alone. Because men are big giant emotional babies who can only fight wars and mow yards. It turns out that this kind of cultural …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 11:10 PM
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Oh yes! And how to circumvent and suffocate their little games. I worked with so many mediocre less than bright men in the intelligence community and then as a performance auditor looking at homeland security and justice programs, e.g. a sausage-fest of epic proportions. The entitlement was out of this world. If I had a dime for every time some entitled and lazy white male tried to talk over me or devalue my contributions b/c I was the only female in the room, I'd be able to retire early. One of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 05:16 PM
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This is exactly how I feel about the matter. It's about comfort and feeling good. Can we stop politicizing our own nipples?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 11:50 PM
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Guess my (emergency) c-section wasn't real "birth." Sure felt like it when my daughter who had just 10 minutes ago been living inside of my body was now staring at me with a diaper on. 😁 And she was hungry. No one gets to tell any one else how to give birth but the person pitching AKA the human ejecting the baby and the catcher AKA the human receiving the baby. I have a feeling that this jerk is neither and thus his opinion should mean 0.00 to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:35 AM
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The sound of sports on TV and male voices screaming about games was the soundtrack of my childhood. I was conditioned to expect that the only time true men cry or show any other emotion besides lust and anger is when their team is losing. Days- and weeks-long depressions cuz their team lost. But I'm the emotional hysterical one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:14 AM
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Divorce from a narcissist.😂🤣😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:15 PM
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No sister! Do NOT touch that 12% 401K contribution. That's your future and shan't be compromised for some LVM who doesn't wanna pitch in on the rent even tho he's so broke he has to have roommates. I hope she gets to keep her studio...I have fond memories of my small but private and peaceful studios. They gave me a place to escape the world, including LVM. These LVMs will hungrily eye that fatted pig of a 401K 20 years on....believe me. I got one now eye-balling mine and very mistakenly believin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 03:01 PM
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Thanks so much for the advice! I'm trying to be the best parent I can be. My mom was the catcher with my narc dad, so I'm familiar with the concept. I'm so tired of having to deal with this dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 03:43 PM
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Thank you soooo much for sharing these very valuable insights! I needed to hear this today since I just got done talking to my attny about this very topic. My ex was emotionally abusive towards me--classic narcissist-codependent death spiral--but expects me to hand over our 7-yr old to him 50% of the time. He is an involved and fun dad, but he's shown a few subtle but concerning behaviors indicating that he's grooming her to be his emotional crutch in my absence. Narcissists can't help themselve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:08 PM
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Here! Here! I greatly admire your thorough and very astute analysis of Miranda and Steve. Even I , a former libfem, could see that Steve was her back-up. And then the inertia of the baby. I also had a backup. We all did. It was almost strategic. I'm not sure women do this any more and kind of hope they don't for everyone's sake, as OP pointed out. Speaking of baby boys, their son is kind of immature, but his girlfriend shows promise. I can't get enough of the Che story-line. Love it. 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 05:37 AM
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Thanks for sharing! Glad you realized what was going on and exited. Mr. Sensitive can be a tricky character, cloaking himself in all the right terminology to give the appearance of a real live human boy under alllll of that coercive emotional control. My soon-to-be-ex also used this tactic to manipulate my feelings and create emotional chaos where there shouldn't have been any. He once accused me of punching him in his sleep to feather the very false nest of me abusing him. (100% did not happen.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:50 PM
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100% Narcissists love it cuz it helps them push boundaries and hurts their supply. Not to be crass, but for these sickos, it's killing many birds--boundaries, self-worth, and peace--with the stone of anal. It is the holy grail of sexual acts for this demo, along with choking. Really anything that causes pain to other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:55 AM
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As some one who spent way too many years married to a likely covert narcissist, I would like to underscore this excellent advice about not ignoring seemingly "small" transgressions. While my narc slowly un-wound the mask over a few years, I definitely missed some red flags that I hope I don't miss in the future. Why did I miss a few of the signs? I didn't realize that I was a codependent (likely due to my narc dad) and that I didn't have any boundaries to cross? I felt like I couldn't set or mai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:58 PM
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I'm not even legally separated yet and can't wait for my ex to fully move on with someone else in a land far, far away from me. Forever. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 02:58 AM
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I've been reading a fair amount of divorce postings recently and have noticed that many of the posters decrying divorce appear to be men. Going on and on how it isn't good for the kids to have 2 households. They're always emphasizing the warm familial atmosphere that their partner likely created for them. While I'm sure a few of them do actually care about their kids, they're clearly not happy with getting divorced and are, in my opinion, using the kids to guilt their wife into staying or return…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 09:00 PM
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Yes and also trying to imply that being partnered helps ya get a degree in the first place. I didn't see any men around helping me through 6 years of higher ed. However, my mom worked her ass off to help me. They always wanna take credit for everrrrrryyyyyything until it's time for some actual accountability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:47 PM
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Thanks sooooo much for the insights and support! I can taste the freedom already. I was happy on my own before I met him and I'll return to that state with my baby this time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:36 PM
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Thanks for sharing and living the dream. I know I have a lot of hard ground still to cover, but stories like these help keep me focused on the end-goal--a healthier home environment for myself and kid. And some freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:14 AM
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Orrrrrr shop for therapists who agree with their BS and are snowed by their lies and manipulation. I'm leaving a man who has been in therapy for years, once he learned that it could help fuel his feelings of victimhood/martyrdom (covert narc). I have not seen any signs of how this therapy has reduced his abuse of me or improved his decent parenting. If anything, I think he's telling his therapist that I'm the narc and abusing him. I've seen him lie and manipulate marriage counselors so I know he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 09:21 PM
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This is exactly why my boomer mom did not encourage marriage for me. Altho she grew up in a traditional southern Baptist household (she ironed her bro's underwear🤢), she blew up the intergenerational trauma that was "marriage" in her family. She was the only mom I knew in my midwestern upbringing who did not hold up marriage as the dream. Instead, she always told me that I would go to college so that I could have a career and my own financial independence. (She worked shitty retail jobs to help …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 07:14 PM
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I am a week away from filing for separation and I love hearing this! This is my very strong suspicion based on the FACT that my "partner" does fuck all and intentionally tries to undermine my self-worth and sense of reality. My therapist can't wait for me to be freeeeeeeee!! I know divorce/parenting will be a nightmare with him but the ability to close the door in his face and live my life how I want w/o his constant BS will be priceless. I won't miss that twice-weekly dishwasher chore that he d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 07:03 PM
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Thumbprint cookies AND buckeyes.💖 Happy New Year indeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:17 PM
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Spoiler alert: He had a heart attack/stroke after getting off a Peloton ride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:09 PM
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As a gen Xer, I feel almost obligated to give this show a try. While there are moments of SATC-like satire, it's pretty cringey. Charlotte and Carrie are sooooo uptight and conservative. I couldn't stand Carrie's behavior following the sex scene. In general, she seems very needy which I get after losing her partner unexpectedly, but it's almost pathological her need not to be alone. Her friends just seem able to drop their lives for her and then she starts screeching at Miranda cuz of HER insecu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 08:41 AM
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I read this post very closely since OP seemed to be saying that FDS is a cult b/c we have short-hand terminology and rules. He took a lot of time composing his argument. His fear of women who know their own worth is apparent. I'm a middle-aged fat woman and I can still get laid. I could go to the corner bar right now and pull dick. It is NOT about sex for a lot of women. We just wanna be treated like human beings instead of holes and maids. For me, that is it. And b/c I have an education (thanks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:16 PM
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She should ask him how he'd feel if she shared nude pics of his tiny little penis as tribute to her friends and strangers. Would he feel comfortable with her doing that? Me thinks no even considering that alot of men like this POS are so depraved they might actually get off on it. I'm going to bet that he turned the tables on her and makes every single thing her fault. If she stays with him she'll always be wondering if his friend Chad knows what her nipples look like. Girl, stop. Stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:07 PM
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Yep. I thought that I did alot right in deciding to finally put a ring on it at 33. Financially independent, close friends, job I liked, and a decent apt in a fun city. I was truly at my personal zenith when I met my abuser. I missed a few red flags--not demonstrating enough care/concern when I was sick--but that f(?$@&@&)(r slowly unwound me over the years. There are people out there who want to intentionally hurt the ones they "love." For their own fulfillment. I'n verrrrry thankful to my ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:34 PM
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100% agree! My family law attny is going to do some "exposing" right after the New Year. 😂😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:02 AM
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LVM, particularly those with untreated mental illness and or personality disorders, try to ruin everything. That is disgusting what your "partner" forced on you. As a mom who also plays Santa (and maid) by herself, thanks for the nod. Here is to no more holidays with LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 01:40 AM
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Hey at least they're doing something that involves more than a trip to drugstore/grocery store for a present for their beloved partners? 😂😆 Once your "partner" has forgotten your birthday only to be reminded of it half way through the actual day by your 3-yr old daughter(💖), ya know better than to ever expect even the bare minimum from a LVM. Just go to the grocery store and buy me some magazines, cookies, and flowers (no carnations unless your intent is to punish me for expecting anything) and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:02 PM
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I feel this 100%. Why does it seem like women have to declare nuclear war (sep/divorce) before getting the least bit of help and support from their partners? And then when you tell them exactly what you need to stay in the relationship, they do fuck all like this guy, and then cry about how they didn't see it coming? I've had so many "dirty dishes" convos with my lazy partner that I told him that I refuse to talk about it any more? I accept that this is how it is until I leave. Why does he have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:50 AM
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I just got told by my soon-to-be-ex that he no longer wants to talk about politics or social justice issues with me cuz he doesn't want "to live in that world." He's a white narcissistic cishet man from a wealthy family. I get that these issues (in spite of him having a daughter) don't affect him. However, I'd like to point out that when he met me, I was applying my pol sci degree as an intel analyst and now I'm going back to school for counseling and social justice advocacy. I've always donated…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 03:53 PM
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Nope. No. Never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 06:14 PM
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Good lawd. That woman has the patience of a saint. This underscores how difficult it is being a woman. Ya can't ever win. This same LVM would be pitching a fit if she did switch to formula just for him and his "bonding" and then he had allllllll of the feedings. He'd be whining about that too. Until he lactates and understands how difficult, sweaty, and unpleasant it can be breast-feeding, he needs to go play with his little pecker, vid games and/or Pornhub account. Leave that woman alone while …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:53 PM
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That tea is scalding hot! Yasssssss!!!! 100 percent. And to all the "girl dads" out there showing off their painted nails but still letting mom do 98.9999999998898888888999999% of the parenting and household drudgery, get off your asses and show with your actions instead of your cute little nails what a real supportive man does: make a doc appt for his kid, vacuum w/o being asked, buy the teacher's gift, remember to sign the homework and wash the masks, scoop the litter box, etcetera, etcetera..…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 05:43 PM
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As someone who did all that and is soon retiring from LVM emotional and physical care-taking for life, e.g. divorcing the boulder around my neck, it absolutely sucks! I worked with soooooo many women who did this for years and decades. While their husbands did fuck all. No wonder we used to stuff our faces with cake every chance we got. I don't want my daughter falling into this trap of family servitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 11:25 PM
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A female doc putting male perceptions and their arbitrary needs and wants for a "virgin" over this poor woman's pain=despicable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 10:32 PM
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If ya can't even cum inside of me to make a baby for us, then what is your purpose? I'm assuming that allll of the LVM doing this must make stellar and outstanding contributions in other areas of the relationship to get away with this new lower level of laziness and disrespect. Girl, go to the sperm bank or better yet, go down to the bar and pick out the healthiest one of the lot and ask him to help you make a baby. For fuck's sake. Excuse my language, but I am just beyond speechless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:55 PM
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Have you been spying on my dysfunctional marriage and soon-to-be-ex husband? 😂 Very astute observation! This is his schtick about why we shouldn't part ways cuz we're damaging our kid (and ourselves). Just an excuse to try and manipulate me into staying...for the kid. Riggggght.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:49 PM
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100 percent! He is trash for saying that publicly! I follow his wife on social media and she is one of the few celebrities who isn't an insufferable asshole. I can only imagine what she put up with living with him. Expecting an adult, but getting a broken child. I know that addiction is incredibly challenging, but come on. Me thinks that he was prob a user of people, particularly her, and she just ran out of gas dealing with his BS. No wonder she always looks so happy by herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:46 PM
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My sweet, docile and goofy pug did this exactly one time while I was walking him. He even looked back to make sure that that guy was behind us. I picked up my pace pretty quickly. He was worried and I was too. They know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 12:12 AM
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I once begged my narcissist for 2 non-sexual hugs a week. He could not even do that to work on our lack of sex. The man only brushes his teeth once a day. The marriage counselor actually thought that my request was "reasonable." That's why I fired her. In retrospect, begging for 2 non-sexual hugs a week is borderline abusive, not a "reasonable request". He is and was then a full-blown narcissist and she made me believe that I was the problem cuz I had standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 02:39 AM
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I think this is coming or something very close to it, largely based on the disgraceful stacking of the Supreme Court with the King of Scrotes and Queen of Pro-life along with allllll of those fed judges at the appellate and circuit court levels. They chose the "deciders", most of them grossly under-qualified and bigoted, and Congress and everyone else just threw their hands up. Oh well. It's only the federal courts and Supreme Court. Well, look where are now. It is time for the Dems and everyone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:32 AM
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Thank you for the vote of confidence and best wishes! Keep educating us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 08:21 PM
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This is very interesting. Thanks for flagging it! I'm actually in grad school studying for clinical mental health counseling in addition to leaving my batterer.😆 Isn't it nice when things work out like that? I can support the "beat-by-need" theory with my lived experience. He never physically hurt me until after 13 years of marriage during the height of the pandemic when he knew that I, a SAHM with no outside income at the time, would have a very hard time leaving with our child. I had accidenta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:35 PM
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Interesting comment. Language and terminology matters. To help heal from my abusers (both narcissists of different types), I started referring to them as "abusers" instead of "narcs" to underscore to myself that what I endured was straight-up abuse, no bones about it.Since it was mostly emotional/verbal abuse, I excuses it for way too long. So I use the term "abuser" to acknowledge what these two assholes put me through. I like "batterer" too and will work that into my lexicon as well cuz I'm do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 09:13 PM
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Sometimes this is just LVM negging/peacocking, but sometimes it's a sign of narcissism. They love to devalue everything in their victim...err partner's life. After 15 years of hearing that everything about me--interests, hometown, family, friends, music, parenting--was wrong in some way, I just about started to believe it. This kind of behavior is gross and damaging and a giant neon red sign for insecurities and bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:41 PM
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"Likes my pretty purple"??? 🤢 My "male failure" is any person who refers to their genitals in this way. Please keep your "purple" and alllllll other colors of the rainbow away from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 06:24 PM
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Thank you for posting this incredibly important point about multiculturalism and FDS. I hope we can encourage more posts about how women in other cultures are protecting themselves. I'm American but have lived in other cultures and as you so eloquently pointed out...FDS is very western culture-oriented which neglects ALL of our sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 10:41 PM
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100 percent agree! I'm Gen X and tho a feminist, I drank the "marriage is hard work" koolaid for wayyyyyyy too long. Accepting abuse is not "hard work." Many thanks to the therapist who helped de-program my Midwestern pickmeisha tendencies and woke me the f;;)&&&&k up. You know you gotta leave when your therapist asks if you're familiar with Stockholm's Syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 12:17 AM
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Flash forward 10 years and she'll be in the Breakingmom sub complaining about her dirty and lazy husband who can't even "baby-sit" his own kids. Never. Ever. Clean.Up.After.Any.Male. They are not children and will very likely come to expect it and then get pissed when it's withdrawn. I've spent wayyyyyy toooo many hours of my life cleaning up after lazy dirty men. Don't do it. Don't even think about touching that sponge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:51 PM
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And if you have to ask him if he even likes you, then you should just shut up, turn around, and get away from him. If after asking that question, you're still there and he just stares at you with cold fish eyes saying nothing, you should definitely stay together for 10 more years. Just kidding. You should also grab any animals or children before escaping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 04:44 AM
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I've been viewing Anna Faris in a whole new light due to these posts. Not that I ever doubted that her divorce was painful, but I had no idea that she was dealing with THIS. Girl, I'm watching House Bunny tonight in your honor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 01:11 AM
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Could not have said it any better! Just dead weight at the end of the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 04:12 PM
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I think that many men know that they're shitty selfish lovers and rightfully feel threatened by a vibe/toy that actually does its job by providing pleasure. I discovered vibes in my early 20's and have always had at least one since. I've weathered alot of bad relationships and sex with my drawer full of toys. I've always known that I have the super-power of delivering my own pleasure. And to tell you the truth, I have, as an invisible 47 yr old woman, considered how the vibe just eliminates one …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 05:10 PM
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😆 Right and then he'll scratch his non-existent balls and wonder WhY sHe lEfT mE. I shoulda ran when my LVM decided that playing his vid game was more important than driving his then-fiancee with a 103 fever to the doc. Flash-forward 15 years and he's faking Covid while yelling at me to "just fix" my chronic health issue that flares up every single month. 😆😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 10:53 AM
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This is just patriarchal brain-washing. Men don't really want to be needed. At least not IME. They just wanna LOOK like they're needed. And not actually do the stuff that's needed, such as demonstrating care and concern for others, cleaning up after themselves and others, helping without being begged to every time. Most men IME just wanna nut, play vid games, and stroke their egos with "important" job stuff. The few times I've needed a man for actual support, they were nowhere to be found. But i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 09:10 PM
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100 percent! I follow FDS both for myself and my small daughter. As an older mom, I need to know what the younger generations are having to contend with. I'm sad to see alot of abusive behaviors from my generation are still alive along with some new. I learned through a narcissistic dad and partner to trust your gut and to climb up their assholes with a flashlight in vetting their character and intentions. I'm not raising my daughter to not set boundaries out of politeness and social acceptance.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:19 PM
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1,000%!!! Yes, throw the entire man out. Realizing that my ex-partner had no interest whatsoever in contributing to the household chores was one of my first signs that he was a narcissist. I begged, pleaded, negotiated, and even made a damn Excel spreadsheet just to get this turd to contribute in any way. The neighbors thought that I had gotten divorced cuz they only ever saw me outside doing yard work. 😆 It is beneath him to do these things, I guess. Well, I woke up when I got Shingles. I had a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:09 PM
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Marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:40 AM
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I totally get this. I put all of my unpaid labor as my husband's management consultant for his start-up on my resume. I used that daily experience of talking him through various mgmt and strategy issues involving tech to help me get a paid analyst position looking at emerging tech. (I was a performance auditor, so I have lots of exposure to these concepts/practices.) While that blip on my resume didn't get me the job, it certainly helped. Alot. I didn't tell my as())$&&le partner about this cuz …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 04:23 PM
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Plus, according to the Wall Street Journal, a major reason why American men are "struggling" to stay in college is undiagnosed ADHD. 😂 Yeah, I'm sure that must be why. It can't be the porn or vid games, could it? Or maybe the bargain basement expectations for the modern-day American male??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:31 AM
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I hate that crap too. Do ya wanna a medal, a cookie and/or therapy for staying married to an asshole for decades? Believe me, it aint cute or sexy or respectful picking up after a grown man who can, but won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:14 PM
17

When all of the men in your personal intimate sphere are abusive, it's hard to hear "not all men" particularly when both your daddy and husband are assholes. Okay, well if my dad and now my husband both think its okay to abuse me, then how in the hell do you expect me to trust any man? "Not all men" rings pretty hollow and hurtful to many women who have been clobbered by the men who were supposed to care for them as human beings, but didn't. I'll stop generalizing when men show me a better data …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 08:15 PM
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I'm short (5"2') and currently divorcing a covert narcissist AKA a HVM with everyone else but me. For me, I get the lowest of low LVMs and yes, this fixation on the height differential is spot-on! He literally told me that he "likes to see me struggle" to reach things. Apparently, my little grunts when I'm struggling are "cute." To my addled codependent brain under the constant barrage of love-bombs, I thought this focus on me being "wee" was cute and benign. However, flash forward 15 years and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 01:55 AM
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Yep. This.is.exactly.how.it.is. Total denial and invalidation of your feelings, unless they're compatible with HIS feelings at that exact moment in time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:42 PM
49

To a tee! They are professional martyrs. No one else around them is allowed to express any emotion but agreeableness and neutrality. Covert narcs have the market cornered on professional victimhood. One thing that my soon-to-be-ex narc told me about his ex-wife has resonated ALOT with me over the last few years. He told me that she told him that he "doesn't fight fair." That is the understatement of the century. I never interacted with her, but am now very sympathetic to what she was going throu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 09:38 PM
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TRUTH. What else is there (if he can't or won't offer contributions or value-added in other areas)? Fucking is literally the last thing left that alot of men are even remotely interested in doing with a woman. So yes, if they aren't interested in (and actually can) making you cum, exactly WHAT are they going to do for women? Clean the bathroom? Hahahahaaaaahahahahhha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 10:32 PM
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I guarantee that his "35 pleasures" doesn't hold a candle to my 2 pleasures of being home alone WITH the remote in MY hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 12:08 AM
32

You speak the truth.Straight-up. 100 percent real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 01:32 AM
24

As a recovering codependent raised by an overt narcissist father and codep mom, I served myself up on a platter to my soon-to-be-ex covert narc husband. He was raised by 2 narcissists so it was truly a match made in mentally ill hell, except that most of the hell- and chaos-making came from him as he enjoyed watching me scurry around and scrape for his scraps of positive attention. Boundaries?? What are those? If I could offer one piece of advice to younger women, including my daughter when she'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:34 PM
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Yes! Go immediately to the best family attny you can afford and do not spend one more second thinking about that POS, unless it's how to stay away from him. Let his tumor go un-checked. Why does she even care? He made his disgusting little bed...he can go lie in it forever with his delightful new girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:54 PM
20

Me too. If my daughter ends up in a "relationship" like this (despite my best attempts at parenting), I will break. Just break. And then "strangle" that loser for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:25 AM
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Most men are just a bunch of drama. My narc soon-to-be-ex is always trying to stir shit where no shit exists. He once tried to have an "intervention" with me cuz I had the audacity to smoke a little weed after I put the baby down for the night and finished up ALL of the household chores that he wouldn't touch even tho I was working FT outside of the home too. He tearfully read his intervention letter about how he had to lie to our 2-yr old about mommy going to the pot store (legal here). 😆 That …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:40 PM
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This is an excellent post. I plan on sharing some of these insights with my daughter when she's older. My LVM always passive-aggressively took pot-shots at my career, which while not as successful as his, was still pretty damn interesting. He was a little better after he got fired for pushing boundaries that I had delicately warned him not to. So my "shitty" job ended up supporting his ass. Oh and when I completed a half-marathon on the erg (indoor rower), he asked if I'd only done it once. Yeah…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:01 AM
25

Living the dream. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:42 AM
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We were clearly married to the exact same man. 😂 Pathetic is what it is. Glad you found some guys who DO know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:39 AM
4

As a woman who has varying weights throughout life, I stay away from the supposed "fitness buffs" cuz I know they'll be the ones always lording my excess weight over me and making us to go to the gym so that he can take a light stroll on the treadmill and maybe shoot a few hoops while I destroy my soul on the rower. Nope. I like my luscious curves and a big sexy teddy bear of a man who likes my curves too. I exercise for myself, not to please some man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:23 PM
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This would infuriate me. Nooooooo idiot. You know why more women like and take remote positions??? Cuz it helps them do all of the crap-chores, parenting and other adult responsibilities-that their male partners won't or can't do. Personally, as a mom teleworking was a life-saver. I didn't have to work the full "2nd shift" cuz unlike most men I know, I could actually multi-task and produce high-quality work, unload the dishwasher, and pick up and spend time with my kid after school. Screw this a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 03:56 PM
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LVM always have a way of surprising us with their bargain-basement behavior and just when we think we've seen IT all, they come up with some new, even grosser shenanigans. Pathetic. Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:15 PM
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I bet these assholes sit around and play vid games at home too while their wives and girlfriends are busting their asses on chores, paying bills, parenting, e.g. adult responsibilities. And then when they get left cuz they can't contribute anything but a paycheck to the relationship, they whine and bitch and moan and go full incel/red pill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:52 AM
25

I think that these men are just now coming face-to-face with what happens when you allow and encourage opportunities for women that they previously did not have, i.e. EDUCATION. Remember when women first started becoming the majority of college students? It was a slim margin but for the first time women made up over half of all college students. I knew then that under-performing men were in trouble. I'm Gen X and have been observing men from all kinds of backgrounds getting jobs that they did no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:31 AM
14

Brush your teeth twice a day. Floss at least once a day if you're an over-achieving male. Oh and don't have a personality disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:40 AM
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Ooooo...I'm scared. After all I've been through cuz of letting men with personality disorders and untreated mental illness in my life, what ya'll got for me now? More entitlement to my time, attention, and assets? Sorry, but the shop is closed. Seriously, what else can they possibly do to us that they're not already attempting to do? Bring it, assholes. You'll pry my master's degree, career, emotional and physical health, and most importantly my financial independence from dead cold hands. That …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:28 PM
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I am so sorry that you were almost trapped by a likely narcissist. Good for you for realizing your mistake and getting out. As someone married to a narcissist, I can confirm that communicating with them, particularly about highly sensitive and painful topics, is a dead-end street to misery. You're only giving them more ammo with which to manipulate, control, and denigrate you. And you will never get the emotional support and validation you're after. I finally clued into this dynamic when he kept…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 12:39 AM
14

I really hope that this is not true cuz I just cannot anymore. "He poops like a deer." Oh honey. 😆🤣Run before you develop PTSD from this relationship. As a recovering codependent, I've put up with alot of crap and abuse in relationships, but this right here would snap me right out of my codependent fog. Thinking about all of the times I had showered in his poopy shower that he's been using as a toilet.Not to mention being intimate with this nasty man. Nightmare material. This woman needs hugs, s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:41 PM
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I am so tired of hearing about what men want, even from the so-called "woke" ones. I just got a lecture from my soon-to-be-ex about how many companies in our state provide some kind of childcare compensation. When I laughed at him and told him that 99% of the orgs I've seen do not have this benefit. How would I, a woman going back into the workplace after 3 years as a SAHM, know that? Cuz I fucking have to cuz I've done 100 and 10 percent of all the childcare arrangements, appts, home-schooling,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:28 PM
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100 percent! Women don't get pregnant all by themselves. Make the other party responsible too. It's very expensive having and raising kids. Garnish those wages if they won't pay up. Put them in jail if they can't help support the life they helped create. Abortion is just about men controlling women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:48 AM
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I hope she had a boy. Good luck parenting with that. He can't even be bothered to refrain from touching himself while and in direct response to his wife's child labor. Bet he's not changing poopy diapers and do we really want him to? Just when I thought that I had heard it ALL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:19 PM
25

I want to study at this Queen's feet. She has IT alll figured out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:51 PM
1

She has to potty-train her own damn husband. Honey, I can't. Why would you buy a LEATHER couch when you're married to pee-pee pants? Get him his own sofa (from the garbage dump) and tell him to use that when he's wasted. Or put some rubber sheets on that expensive leather couch. Has she tried using M&Ms as an incentive for him to go potty in the toilet instead of the couch? Like one for pee-pee and two for poo-poo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:09 AM
12

Glad you got out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:02 PM
1

Thank you for understanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:35 AM
26

Maybe, she prefers her cat's company over his? My husband hated my dog (a sweet pug) and never stopped complaining about him. And yelling at him. It was a nightmare. I would never have another dog with him because it would be abusive to bring a dog into a home with someone who hates dogs. Before we adopted him, he told me that he was okay with pugs.He 100 percent agreed to adopt a pug. So we got a pug, but then it turns out that he just hates all living beings (including his soon-to-be-ex-wife) …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:52 PM
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My soon-to-be-ex-husband (a narcissist) explained to me that men can also be awarded full custody too. Why yes they can, but how are you going to achieve that when you see your kid for about 2 hours M-F and before the pandemic were traveling for work at least a week out of every month? And who put off going back to work this past year cuz of home-schooling? Was that you? Nope. Oh and who couldn't be bothered to Zoom into the parent-teacher conf when he was the one who chose that time slot to fit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:00 PM
78

Most men's emotional intelligence stops evolving at age 14. Moody, don't wanna do chores, everything is about their dicks and feeding their endless insecurities, and self-centered AF. Then they throw their little temper tantrums and lash out when they get told "no". If I'd known I was marrying a 14 yr old instead of a 37-yr old, I would have run for the hills. So tired of it and I hope and pray that my daughter doesn't make the same mistake. I am going to educate her when she's ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:31 PM
40

Respect for the patriarchy dies hard in some cultures. However, the cycle can be broken. My baby-boomer mother railed against her upbringing as a rural Midwest southern Baptist by assigning my little brother the same exact chores I was assigned. He washed and folded clothes, cleaned, and mowed the yard, just like me. She was so angry growing up having to iron her older brother's boxer shorts and getting stuck with all of the drudge tasks. Her brother had his own chores too, like take care of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:57 PM
22

This is exactly how I feel about my soon-to-be-ex. Zero empathy, appreciation, and contributes nothing but money to the relationship. Financially contributing is better than nothing at all, but guess what? For the vast majority of our relationship, I also contributed financially AND took care of everything inside and out of the house. And arranged for childcare and multi-tasked working and taking care of our daughter. And he always is sicker than me. Always. I had to take him to Urgent Care with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:21 AM
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His poor mom just wants to take him to Tropical Island for water-slide fun and family time and he only wants to be with his stuffed lover. We all make sacrifices for "fun family time." Just leave the damn tiger at home for one night and make your mom happy, dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:49 AM
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I'm glad HE sees the mistake he made. Too bad HE wasn't the one who's life was ruined. Waaaah-he misses his friends and the way life used to be. She is the one who has to pick up the pieces.Literally.HE won't be judged for not being as involved as he should be in his kids' lives. SHE will and is already being judged by her horrid mother.I can understand why she didn't want kids (with a mom like that). I wish men had to deal with childbirth...things would be alot different. And abortions would be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:48 PM
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I hate this crap too. If I wanted your attention or help, I would ask for it. I'm an adult woman who knows how to use her words. Since I live in a "retirement village" full of retired boomer men, I get this "help" more than I've had in the past. I just tell them in a mostly neutral tone of voice, "thanks, but I know what I want/how to do X,Y,Z. I'm polite, but firm with just a touch of "fuck off" in my tone in case they want to push it. If that doesn't work, I become more assertive with my tone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:13 PM
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