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| 1 | I feel horrible that she is going to suffer after divorce, and that I care.. [venting / long]This is an amazing comment. Thank’s for sharing with OP and the rest of us. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 12:41 AM |
| 1 | I feel horrible that she is going to suffer after divorce, and that I care.. [venting / long]Yeah i mean i get the guilt, it’s totally natural, but it sounds like she made the decision already. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 12:40 AM |
| 3 | Final judgementEverytime this is posted I read it again. I've also got it saved in 3 different places. Thanks for resharing | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/22 12:40 AM |
| 1 | What do you guys DO?I often need the same thing. Too easy to fall into old thought patterns. I recently started hiking again...I used all sorts of excuses for not doing it for a very long time. I said the hell with it and jumped right in and havnt looked back! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/22 08:39 PM |
| 5 | What do you guys DO?Not to be a dick, but I do want to challenge your perception a little bit here. You keep saying that the cold weather is prohibitive to you doing things. You also mentioned driving in Illinois. Those two things are synonymous with each other for 4-6 months of the year. You can't use that as an excuse for 50% of your life and expect to be successful in achieving your goals. Challenge your assumptions, break out of your shell. And I highly recommend a base layer of Smartwool merino 250 pants, shir… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/22 05:25 PM |
| 10 | So I’m probably screwedFucking right! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/22 11:06 PM |
| 4 | How do you handle things with anti-vaxxer?Is this for vaccinating the kids? | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/21 12:54 AM |
| 4 | Divorced on my birthdayShe doesn't deserve you, and you deserve someone better! Feel you feeling man, wallow in the shit a while, but make sure you have your lifelines (friends and family, good habits, etc) to pull you out if for some reason you have trouble. Try to focus on the positives in life...there are many even in dark times! | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/21 03:11 PM |
| 1 | My STBXW seems to be over analyzing like crazy, is that normal?Oftentimes people have trouble with cumulative effects of the things you mentioned versus a distinct discrete event that happens such as infidelity. When it's a cumulative buildup of things that have led to the death of the relationship, that is much harder to understand... People ask themselves questions like...why now? When did it pass the point of no return? Can I do anything to bring you back? I'm struggling with this myself. I'm on the other end asking my wife "why have you just completely … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/21 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Follow up to my post from yesterday. For those getting started in the exit strategy phase.Well stated my brohan! | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/21 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Expectation is the source of suffering. - BuddhaHow have you been embracing the Buddha? I've been thinking of getting started myself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/21 12:29 AM |
| 5 | What to do after divorce?Clutch. All of it. This guy fucks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/21 11:23 PM |
| 4 | Before having the talk and dealing with all this inner conflict, it certainly helps to research places and things you want to do once you are free.Peru I'm sure will be amazing...but for me I'll skip the Ayahuasca. Would rather hang out with some mushrooms personally. I went for around 3 miles today. Took my vape pen. 1.5 miles, then ate a snack by the river at the bottoms if the trail, then turned around and went back 1.5 miles. It was glorious. I'm totally hooked. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/21 03:35 AM |
| 3 | Before having the talk and dealing with all this inner conflict, it certainly helps to research places and things you want to do once you are free.This. I've spent a lot of time over the past year writing down things I would like to do but my wife isn't interested in. One if them is hiking/backpacking/camping. Went for my first hike earlier today. Also been keeping a bucket list as well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/21 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Well, that was an awkward school pick up.Yes if it's bitter them I think you need to stick to a 1:1 fact based script to talk him though it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/21 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Well, that was an awkward school pick up.It definitely could be either. I think you and your (ex) wife should have I'll talk with him and clarify exactly what's happening and going on together, after you two have talked and agreed upon what will be said. Likewise if you've already done that and you think that somehow changed you should talk with her as well just to be sure, assuming of course you guys have a civil conversation relationship at this point | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/21 02:56 PM |
| 7 | I had unprotected sex with my SBTXYou need to write down everything that happened. Send it in an email to yourself. Write down how you felt too, what you are worried about. You want to keep records. Having something fresh in your mind, written down, is way better than months later in a lawyers office or court room saying "you see what had happened was" | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/21 03:01 AM |
| 2 | STBX is love bombing me (and it's kind of working) [Vent]That's right...and one of my sticking points is that I'm not going to put my needs 2nd all the time. If that means a 17 year relationship, 10.5 of them married goes down the tubes, then so be it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/21 02:35 AM |
| 1 | STBX is love bombing me (and it's kind of working) [Vent]Off of reading your posts it seems like we're in similar spots. It's hard when there's no real initiating event that provides a great case to make a break...would you say that you guys have just grown apart then? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/21 04:22 PM |
| 3 | STBX is love bombing me (and it's kind of working) [Vent]Stay strong man. Stand up for YOUR needs. Maybe she fuck offs for 6 months to a year and you guys reconnect later or something. Who knows, but make sure you are taking care of you. I feel like I'm starting down your path. Told wife I was done on Black Friday. Alternating days taking care of our daughter now while living in the same house 5 days a week. It's been a huge weight off of me not having to meet her expectations or even try. I'm starting to feel the pull of making the break official and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/21 04:18 PM |
| 1 | My wife and I are miserable and have tentatively agreed to an uncontested divorce. Question: Has anyone used this service and what was your experience? Example of service: https://www.survivedivorce.com/uncontested-divorce-michiganNo idea but I'm in the same boat and looking at this one... alpha-divorce.com . Seems that mediation is the way to go if it's somewhat amicable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/21 08:50 PM |
| 1 | She Waited 6 WeeksThere are many others who would do the same for you, regardless of what it was! | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/21 05:04 PM |
| 4 | Panic AttacksSending love and support to you internet stranger! Be strong for your son! This will pass eventually! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/21 01:11 AM |
| 1 | She's in a love triangle and I have to hear about itYou've got many years ahead of you to find someone worthy of your time...be thankful it happened now. Get your shit straight and your head right, things will get better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/21 07:01 PM |
| 5 | my ex just got her first boyfriend... 3 months outGood advice right here. They shouldn't be telling you this shit, and you shouldn't ask. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/21 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Coping with her "moving on"A very underappreciated comment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/21 12:33 AM |
| 2 | Feeling unhappyYou've gotta make the effort to speak to her that way my friend. Not saying that fixes everything, but she's literally telling you "say nice things to me, it's what makes me feel good inside". | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/21 09:34 PM |
| 4 | Feeling unhappyAre you guys aware of each other's love languages? Are you in couples therapy together? You need to communicate with one another. You need to make sure the love you are showing your partner and the love she is showing you is being received on both ends. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/21 08:07 PM |
| 1 | What do you wish you had done differentlyThanks kind internet friend! Wishing you the best in the continued struggle! Keep fighting the good fight! | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/21 08:01 PM |
| 7 | What do you wish you had done differentlyI'm seeing this in my future, too. So this might be a little different from what you are looking for, but here is my list. Most of it is around being mentally/physically prepared to fight the emotional distress and loneliness I'm going to feel so I don't end up getting stoned every night to dull the pain and gaining 50lbs. Be a good father. Kid is always first. Plan meals & eat healthy. Hang out & connect with friends - 1x/week. Don't get drunk, no weed. Sleep well and shower often. Plan stuff f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/21 04:35 PM |
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