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| 162 | This post was by a woman and all the comments are by women here. How can we make progress when pickmes are always playing "cool girl"?Women are naturally choosy, men are easy af. I've seen men swipe on women they aren't even interested in just to go on a date and potentially get laid. They are wasting these women's time from the beginning, they should definitely pay up. Whenever my male associates bitch about paying for dates that never go anywhere and how it's getting expensive, I quickly remind them that a quick phone call and FT weeds out the weirdos. Think with your head...not that one, the big one with 3 braincells rattli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 09:32 AM |
| 9 | Protip: Be careful of the photos you post on social media as a HVW.This also applies to dating profiles too. I have great friends that complain about only getting bums on apps, but when I look at their profiles I can see why 🤦🏾♀️. The pics are full of boring selfies and thirst traps, ofc you're never gonna match with an interesting man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 05:50 AM |
| 7 | Protip: Be careful of the photos you post on social media as a HVW.You're a genius 👏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 05:47 AM |
| 2 | Dealing with being purposefully celibateLmao I'm in the same boat. My last time was back in Sept 2021 and this is the longest I've been completely on my own since 17 (I'm 25 now 😵💫). I did make out with somebody on my bday but I don't think that really counts 🤣. I'm doing at least a year, before I put myself out there and start dating again. I just want to focus on hitting my physical, spiritual, mental, and financial goals first so that's been my main focus. I miss intimacy & physical stuff. I've been thinking about it a lot lately … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 01:48 PM |
| 5 | Would you guys be okay with this? It's sounds crazy to me.I would never be okay with this. I'm surprised she even let's him touch her 🤮. She has her own money, would get alimony, has a nanny, and is still fit sooo what's the point of remaining married to a cheater? I would divorce and get a roster so fast. Did she mention if she had a side piece? ETA: this is giving "I would rather cry in a Benz, than cry in a Toyota" or whatever JaydaWayda said when Lil Baby kept embarrassing her 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 01:25 PM |
| 194 | Run run run far away girl 😱There are men that like stealing women away from other men lmao. The amount of times I used to get told "wow so you can't have friends/what does your bf have to do with us 🙄" is crazy. They were serious too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 01:10 PM |
| 34 | PSA: A high value man will not be into BDSM.The whole concept of praisekink is so annoying and confusing. Why is saying nice, encouraging things to your partner during sex a kink ? That's the most vanilla shit ever, we need to reclaim it 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 02:44 PM |
| 2 | I am interested in a guy at work…what next?If she's not giving off signals/vibes that she wants to be approached, he's doing the right thing by leaving her alone. I'm definitely against women making the first move, but I feel like in the workplace things are a little different. I'm not saying she should ask him out for drinks/date. But starting a friendly (non-flirty) conversation and seeing if he'll use that as an opening to get to know her better wouldn't hurt. I look unapproachable at work, not a fan of my job lol. On the rare occasio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 02:20 PM |
| 3 | I am interested in a guy at work…what next?If there's even the smallest chance you guys could end up working in the same office, then no. And if you do go for it, go extra slow and keep physical stuff off the table for as long as possible. I dated a coworker for about 2-3months and we didn't even kiss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 01:49 PM |
| 33 | Let's Talk About OralLmao my ex was the same way. But it wasn't really a HVM trait, because he refused it because he respected me. Other women he didn't like, he didn't care 🙄 it's kinda weird. I still enjoy giving, but if he isn't enthusiastic about giving first he's not worth my time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 01:32 PM |
| 93 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceHe came from a rich family but they made her sign the prenup and pay his student loans ?? What the fuck is up with that 😵💫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 01:26 PM |
| 5 | A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn.It was explicit, but there wasn't any weird BDSM, fetish stuff. I didn't mind the sex scenes, I just felt like there was sooo many. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 06:03 AM |
| 5 | A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn.Season 1 was racy, season 2 was more of a slow burn with like 2 sex scenes. I've never read the books, but I think they were basically erotica | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 06:00 AM |
| 2 | OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours.What is a sad romantic? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 05:28 AM |
| 3 | Demand what you ask forBut why didn't the woman just ask for the sommelier in the beginning, since she knew she didn't want the waiter's unqualified opinion ? Not to sound childish, but she could've avoided all of this. I think that's what everybody is getting at in the comments, it's not about feeling self righteous. It would be a different story if he was trying to mansplain and correct her on wine facts or whatever, but he was asked for an opinion and he gave it. When I ask a male or female server anything, I tell … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 01:17 AM |
| 2 | Demand what you ask forI usually support women's wrongs but not like this lmao 😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 01:04 AM |
| 13 | Demand what you ask forUm I would be confused too, because "the best" is really subjective and that's such a vague question. He should've just ran off to get the sommelier instead of wasting her time, but she mainly wasted her time first when she didn't ask for the sommelier immediately. And if she was so knowledgeable and rich, why even bother asking someone that's not informed and doesn't know her taste?? This just seems rude af, we wouldn't be congratulating her if she pulled this petty mess on a female server. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 10:23 PM |
| 63 | OLDs are literal hellI've seen my male coworkers do that exact thing. As long as the women isn't "super fat" they'll swipe 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 07:40 PM |
| 21 | Watching 'Ultimatum' on Netflix - the epitome of 'if they wanted to, they would'.None of these people should be together, they are all weird and immature. I personally think nobody under the age of 25 should be bothering with marriage and kids, focus on yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 08:38 AM |
| 19 | Watching 'Ultimatum' on Netflix - the epitome of 'if they wanted to, they would'.When she said that I thought "wow she's really immature and just wants to be a wife for the title" and then on top of that she couldn't even say what she liked about Zay 💀 why even give him an ultimatum lmao. Zay needs to work through his trauma before he even talks to anybody. His background is sad, but that's not for Rae to fix | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 08:33 AM |
| 18 | Ladies, don't shave your coochie the first time he goes down on you.I feel the same way. I tried and hated both ways, and now I've found the happy medium of a full bikini or landing strip 🤷🏾♀️. I don't think every woman that gets waxed or participate in other feminine grooming habits struggles with internalized misogyny or isn't enough of a feminist. I just really hate the idea that I should give up or overanalyze the girly shit I like, just because men are attracted to it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 05:19 AM |
| 42 | How do you perceive big d*ck energy?Yesss big dick men are humble about it and I think it's because they're used to people making a big deal about it. I find the lil/skinny dick men are so hypersexual, it's annoying af | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 12:42 PM |
| 10 | How do you perceive big d*ck energy?I'm not sure if a woman came up with this term... Some women do associate big dicks with power and most associate big dicks with attraction. Big is subjective tho, but I can safely assume that if we all saw a micropeen or something outrageously large, our attraction to that man will drop. Uhhh okay but OP is literally talking about what vibes/energy a man with a big dick would give off. How to figure out a man has a big dick without getting naked with him. She didn't say having a big dick = inst… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 12:31 PM |
| 18 | How do you perceive big d*ck energy?This comparison makes 0 sense, so I'm still very confused about your stance. Bitch has a long history of being negative and was somewhat reclaimed in the last 20 years or so. BDE was a 2018 twitter joke that became popular slang to describe someone with chill swag/confidence. Bitch can be used positively or negatively. Whether or not somebody takes offense depends on the context and relationship with the person. BDE is always used positively, so if I said that to anybody in my age group, nobody … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 10:28 AM |
| 5 | How do you perceive big d*ck energy?How ? I've heard it used for men and women (ex. Rihanna) in a positive way. A pick me is the opposite of BDE lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 09:16 AM |
| 6 | What if a HV man broke up with me because I was acting stupid/LV?It's best to focus on healing, so you can be comfortable in your next relationship with a HVM. Don't be discouraged, because he wasn't the only one, you'll find another. But I will also agree with the others, that your intuition could be picking up on something and that could cause you to lash out too. I would take time to write down every little thing and reflect on the whole situation. You'll probably be able to see everything clearly now that you're not in the relationship. Everytime I though… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 05:46 AM |
| 1 | What if a HV man broke up with me because I was acting stupid/LV?You can change the settings so you can save the chats forever, but you can delete your own messages. Nobody should ever ever send inappropriate pics, because those can be saved to the receiver's camera roll. You'll get a notification that they did that, but there's nothing you can do about it. I wouldn't send anything that i wouldn't post on a public account, even if he was my man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 05:34 AM |
| 4 | What if a HV man broke up with me because I was acting stupid/LV?Unpopular FDS opinion, but snapchat is not inherently low value if you are in a certain age group. I'm 25, I've had it since I was 18. Most people my age still use it, because we grew up with it. I'm never giving it up, i have so many memories saved on there lol. I like using it more than instagram, because my friends are more active on there and I don't have to deal with all the extra BS ads and influencers crowding my IG feed. I used to give out my snap when a man asked for my number, because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 05:23 AM |
| 29 | If you need to ask for it, just leave - You want PROACTIVE, not compliant!Jfc this is my ex to the T. And whenever I would bring anything up as nice as possible, he would automatically complain about how mean I was. And he thought he was amazing because he didn't cheat (🙄) on me and paid for dates most of the time, unlike his lvm friends. It was such a weird, selfish relationship after his mask dropped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Social media potential flag - should I block/delete?I have had Facebook since I was 12 and I have probably liked 1000+ cringey pages over the past 13 years. I would hate to still be judged over the low value crap I used to believe in when I was a teenager/early 20s. I don't think this specific act is block worthy, but it will be if he gives you an attitude about you wanting him to delete all of that stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 07:11 AM |
| 21 | Woman finds out her boyfriend earns significantly more money than her, wants him to contribute more for their rent and take her on a nice date.From my personal experience and what I've seen, a woman should always date up. Everytime i dated a man that made even $2 an hr less than me, he would feel insecure and start acting weird. I'm not even super flashy and braggy about money, they would just see what i can afford and do and start acting bitter. When I tried to hook them up with a better paying job, their dumbasses will still have an attitude and an excuse as to why they couldn't do it ! My ex had the nerve to ask if my job was hiring… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 05:16 AM |
| 62 | Woman finds out her boyfriend earns significantly more money than her, wants him to contribute more for their rent and take her on a nice date.This man sounds utterly miserable to be around. Stingy rich men need to be bred out. Love your response btw 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. When I started making real money, I was so proud of being able to get my mom nice gifts and help out from time to time. Whenever a man says he's frugal, I cut him off. Because 9/10, it means he's gonna splurge on his lil hobbies and interests, but he will never return the favor unless he benefits too. Being good with money, having savings and investments, and building generational … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 04:36 AM |
| 5 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?I'm talking about when the women are legit disrespected, not just lying to terrorize/persecute innocent poc. I remember seeing many situations where a moc would harass a white woman on the subway and their white boyfriends/male friend would just sit there. And it was usually a woman or another moc that would actually say something in her defense. The lack of protector instincts is a major turn off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 10:37 PM |
| 18 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?My mom let me stay up but after I saw the outfits and the performance, my ass was in bed 🤣 somebody brought up how their 9 y/o non-binary daughter burst into tears and I was like 🤦🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 02:59 AM |
| 11 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?You know that meme of Joanne the scammer screaming at a classroom "all of the white people to the back ! That's more like it, looking better already"? That's the energy I have for these kinds of posts like pleaseee listen to us if you truly want to be intersectional | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 12:58 AM |
| 13 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?Omg the hand wringing about the children was a major eye roller. They probably tell them to communicate with their bullies smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 12:36 AM |
| 68 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?I find it real funny that yall are saying Will should've "communicated". Y'all are sounding like the scrotes in the relationship subreddits 🤨. He probably did talk with Chris privately, because this isn't the first time he came at this family. Men only respond to action and unfortunately sometimes that action is a bit of violence 🤷🏾♀️ and from my experience that is certainly true amongst black men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:37 PM |
| 26 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?He saw how uncomfortable his wife was and decided to act upon it quickly 🤷🏾♀️. The slap was a bit much, but if you're comfortable enough to humiliate my wife for a medical condition in front of millions, you gotta be comfortable enough to handle the consequences in front of that same audience | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:24 PM |
| 6 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?It was one slap to the face....Chris was still standing and still had the energy to double down on his "joke"....please stop acting like he was pounded into the ground | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:16 PM |
| 45 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?I feel like if Will Smith wanted to really lay Chris Rock out, he definitely could've. Judd Apatow saying Chris could've died was honestly more embarrassing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:11 PM |
| 18 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?I think it is a cultural thing, because I rarely see white American men fight for their women tbh. In my experience, it's usually black, Hispanic, and certain European cultures (eastern & southern) that flip over a bit of disrespect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:06 PM |
| 62 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?The nerve of all the white liberals and white conservatives bonding over this as the "greatest disgrace to the oscars" is fucking ridiculous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 03:59 PM |
| 86 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?Honestly whenever the Kardashians or topics like this come up, I be wanting to scroll by because the point is always missed 🙄. Some things just need to stay within the black community, because 9/10 the nuance is lost. They don't get know the history between Chris Rock and the smiths, he's been coming at them for years. I don't see how a man standing up for his wife being mocked for her medical condition = he's probably violent towards his family like what 🥴. Talk shit, get hit idk why that's so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 03:55 PM |
| 82 | Why are men often so short sighted they sabotage themselves?Handbook needs to be reviewed again. He's throwing up red flags with the future faking and sexual talk. If you want to move slow, then move slowwww. Kissing on the first date is pretty fast. They just take that as a sign to push for even more physical stuff on the next date. It's good that he weeded himself out early. There are men that will take time to get know you and make sure you're emotionally invested just to have sex with you. Those hurt the most. I made a comment a month ago about a det… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 05:40 AM |
| 12 | Porn sickness is a slippery slope, this woman needs to take her daughter and LEAVEShe's unfortunately probably gonna find out that the ddlg shit isn't just "kinky fun", it's barely veiled pedophilia. I don't even feel bad for her, because she should've ran when he called her "little girl" the first time, she was feeding into it. And new kink ? You mean there's other weird shit he does 🤢 I just hope she get away asap and gets his rights taken away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 04:41 AM |
| 5 | How are you leveling up?therapy eating healthier & working out more doing the Google data analytics course applying for new jobs, shooting for at least a $20k increase and relocating to a city with more young professionals moving into a bigger apt celibate for 6 months so far. I'm not even talking to anybody. I'm going to do at least a year or until I hit my physical and financial goals planning trips with my friends being more social skin getting clearer learning French and Spanish I want to start going back to church… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 09:10 AM |
| 38 | Men who glorify villainsMen that stan Future as a person 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 09:00 AM |
| 38 | Best friend is on her way to being a forever GFIf it does open, I hope it goes the usual way: her getting a bunch of attention and probably meeting a better man and him being a loser with no matches. She probably forgot how desirable she is, because she's dating a loser that makes her feel like the bum in the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 08:58 AM |
| 94 | Scrote high off confidence from “self-improvement” demands his female friend stop telling his hookups he’s sleeping around. Molly for president 2k24She probably said "go to therapy, go to the gym, look presentable, and go for women in your league" 😂 it's clear that he thinks hot people = douchbags | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 08:53 AM |
| 31 | epidemic of women buying homes or trying for a baby with no ringIf he doesn't love you enough to get married, why would he be committed to the child ? He'll probably resent you even more but keep you around, because it's difficult to move on to someone else while being a single father. And on top of that, I hear so many sad stories where they will treat the kids that they have with a wife way better than the kids that they have with the BM. Why put your kid in that position ? No marry, no carry 🙅🏾♀️ If I somehow find myself in a situation like that and he d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 08:43 AM |
| 26 | epidemic of women buying homes or trying for a baby with no ringYou're not the exception, it sounds like you do view marriage as a bigger commitment than a baby otherwise you would just tie the knot since he's so great. And your reasoning against marriage sounds really silly, because you don't need a wedding to get married (just do the paperwork and elope/go to a courthouse) and atheists get married too....You are definitely shooting yourself in the foot, because there are protections and rights (government, medical, financial, etc) that come with being a wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 08:33 AM |
| 74 | Spotted one in the wild.night rides, deep talks, music, and food bio is proof that he's not even worth getting to know. He's so fucking boring and I'm also getting broke, Netflix & chill vibes lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 07:44 AM |
| 125 | Scrote high off confidence from “self-improvement” demands his female friend stop telling his hookups he’s sleeping around. Molly for president 2k24Good on Molly for letting the women know the truth, but why would she tell him that he wasn't getting women because he was too nice 🤦🏾♀️. These idiots will just run with it and use that to justify being an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 05:11 AM |
| 11 | Hmm, did this seem like an innocent question from him or am i wrong to possibly feel the ick?Ironically, spelling out exactly what you want attracts a bunch of losers dying to be the exception or willing to argue with you about your standards. When I was doing OLD, I said no single dads or tourists. Guess who flooded my inbox trying to change my mind or make me explain my views 🙄 . I see a lot of profiles that say "no black/darkskin women" and I just block and move on 🤷🏾♀️. If I were you, I would remove "feminist" from the profile. You're mainly gonna get men that believe in 50/50, sex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 03:25 PM |
| 5 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.He still makes double her income and he's actually considering making her pay 50/50....you would've thought she was secretly making 100k wth. And I hope she didn't actually give him her savings. If he's griping about you lying about your salary by like 3-5k a year, do you really think he's not going to fuck you over smh. I also feel like this is an excuse to trade her in. She held him down while he was coming up from damn near poverty. Now that he's making decent money for a single, childless ad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 02:20 PM |
| 16 | Please don't approach anybody's grown-ass son...My closest friends are a married couple. They generally have a good relationship advice, but the one piece I will never take is approaching a man. If I see an attractive man, I make myself look available (smile, walk by, make eye contact, etc). If they can't pick up on those social cues, they aren't the one for me and are probably stupid 🤷🏾♀️. Those are very clear "I'm available come talk to me" signals. Every man I know that are like "boohoo idk how/when to approach women, it's so hard" are un… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 10:02 AM |
| 21 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthThe one good thing their ain't shit dad did was instill unwavering confidence in their abilities and shut down the haters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:07 AM |
| 19 | They can’t STAND not taking credit 😂😂Unfortunately, but I think it's just a PR relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:30 PM |
| 41 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthHow black men treated Serena Williams is the perfect example of this. She's so feminine and girly but because she's dark, tall, with muscles they act like she's an ugly man. And then they trashed her for marrying a white man 🤦🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:28 PM |
| 62 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthI hate "Shake" so much 😒 he has 0 muscles, the picture of skinny fat and he has the nerve to judge women off their size. And 33 is too old but he's 32 ugh I wish he didn't make it out the pod | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:18 PM |
| 28 | Update for my friend creating a "fake" profile with my photos on her match-making siteWoah that didn't even cross my mind 😣 poor babies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:40 PM |
| 50 | Instead of matching their energy, give them less.Nah detach immediately, give them nothing. Little games like this doesn't phase them at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:32 PM |
| 42 | No coffee dates no walk dates no drink datesYou don't have to waste your time during dinner if you aren't feeling it, you can easily leave that kind of setting too. Do you FT or do a phone call or 2 before the initial meeting? I prefer those, because if we can't last through that, I'm not even going to bother with coffee or happy hour either lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:23 PM |
| 7 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisI wish Craigslists would auto delete posts that are clearly exchanging sexual services for free/reduced rooms. That's not a roommate, that's not even a gf, it's giving sex slave tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 07:27 AM |
| 15 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.I don't think agreeing to be somebody's gf/exclusive after a few weeks is a good idea. I think it should go: talking for about a week before the date : FT and a short phone call here or there. Weed out catfishes and people that give off bad vibes Dating: going out on dates, feeling them out. Start meeting each other friends around month 2-3. No sex, just stick to kissing. Nothing overnight, but see what his home is like. Still maintain a roster ofc. If they don't ask to be your bf by the end of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 11:42 AM |
| 13 | I love herWhy do they always act like there's only fast food restaurants and 5 star restaurants 🥴 why would should she be nice to man that thought she was only worth $20. She shouldn't have even agreed to it. And being an animator is a tough, time consuming job, there's nothing childish about it. I loved that she shut him down immediately 🙌🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:47 AM |
| 10 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementLmao he and Travis look nothing alike, they are just both LVM with darkskin and braids 🙄. She dated Travis Scott too, so she does have a type | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:51 AM |
| 11 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementI can see Rihanna going this route when he starts fucking up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:46 AM |
| 34 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementShe wasn't trapped, she definitely wanted this baby. If she didn't, she has more than enough for an abortion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:18 AM |
| 94 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementShe's a hot, young billionaire, I highly doubt there's many of those running around for her to pair with. Him making less than her doesn't bother me, but his shit character makes him NVM. His colorist, anti-black , classist views makes me question her views as well. And after seeing them take photos with nicki and her nasty ass rapist husband, I think rihanna is a LVW too. So honestly, this might be a perfect match. Women with wealth + previous abusive relationships/childhood witnessing DV = goi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:11 AM |
| 15 | The way deadbeat fathers victimise themselves is wild.So instead of getting another job to pay for all of the kids, he says this petty shit 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 12:41 AM |
| 6 | Don’t ever let a man make you think you need him for ANYTHING. Women everywhere are raising their standards and LVM are getting desperate. This one in particular is trying to use fear and coercion to find himself a lower income wifeWhats the tiktok ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 04:01 PM |
| 45 | Don’t ever let a man make you think you need him for ANYTHING. Women everywhere are raising their standards and LVM are getting desperate. This one in particular is trying to use fear and coercion to find himself a lower income wifeDoes he not know female roommates exist 🙄 I would much rather live in a beautiful home with like minded successful women than with a man that would expect me to have babies, work, and clean up after everybody. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 03:58 PM |
| 16 | You will KNOW when a man wants you as his everything. Because HE KNOWS right away.I think the cigar video needs its own post, because i was stunned at the responses. She's on Twitter making comments about how we are basic, broke gold diggers. Babes, you gave him one of your daddy's cigars wrapped in a brown paper bag and some twine, let's not get ahead of ourselves. And on top of that he was going to take her on a walk date but it was too cold (cold in January wow who knew), so they sat in the car and he taught her how to smoke and cut a cigar. She was so stoked by that, it w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:48 AM |
| 6 | I walked away when my needs weren't metNever ask "what are we" especially only after a month. I would be weary of men that would want to define a relationship so quickly. If he hasn't discussed being exclusive by month 3, then it's time to move on, no explanation needed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:37 AM |
| 8 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪I wouldn't have said I didn't want anything, but I wouldn't tell him what I wanted either. After 6 months he should definitely know what to get you. That gift was disrespectful and you did the right thing by blocking him asap | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:22 AM |
| 16 | Awww, this poor baby! Let’s guess what actually happened.This is just a black Twitter troll account, he's always saying off the wall shit lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:06 PM |
| 6 | Irritating mannerisms are a red flag and your intuition telling you that something is off!My ex had these weird mannerisms that turned me off, because he was 2 years older than me so I expected more maturity at 25. He would be pouty, and sometimes do a weird baby talk/noise but I just brushed it off as a quirk since he was chivalrous in the beginning, wasn't a pervy creep, etc. I definitely should've ran when he started initiating sex by saying "I'm bored" or doing childish things like poking at me 🤦🏾♀️. He turned out to be an extremely immature, selfish Peter Pan type with minimal … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 03:09 AM |
| 8 | When dating POC men that come from patriarchal cultures...I can't really think of any POC cultures that aren't patriarchal. Maybe African Americans, since women have no choice but to lead the household. But AA men still somehow have a large influence/run shit despite not being present. I think that's due to many older black women being male identified. I have heard that most island men (Samoan, Tongan, etc) are mama's boys, but idk if that makes their culture matriarchal. Either way all you can do is vet and not justify their incompetence by their cult… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Should we avoid dating men of certain occupations if we don't want kids?The military culture around relationships is so toxic like I don't even want to date somebody that recently separated. But I can't stand the local civilians in my area 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Should we avoid dating men of certain occupations if we don't want kids?So fucking true. I'm so sick of civilian women saying "men used to go to war, not do podcasts". And I'm like "babes, men still go to war and come back as more arrogant assholes 😒. The men that post slow mo videos in designer clothes/shoes and flexing like a bad b***h most likely just got back from Afghanistan 😂" . We all know if you didn't get a LV belt from Kuwait, you weren't really there lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 02:29 AM |
| 14 | Mary Berry reveals she two-timed her future husband when they first metThis is how hot girl summer is supposed to be done 💅🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 01:32 PM |
| 17 | Why is the blame solely on Meagan Markle and not Harry?She's an older, mixed divorced American woman from Hollywood and he's a white royal prince that's been babied his whole life. I think it's quite obvious what's going on here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 01:31 PM |
| 8 | Why is the blame solely on Meagan Markle and not Harry?I really wish we would leave the one drop rule in the past. I'm not going to let racist white slave masters/people decide who is and isn't black, that's not their right. If I have a child with a black man, they're black and if I have a child with a non-black man they're biracial. It's so simple and I want America to get with the program, because I think we are the only country that still believes in this mess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 01:26 PM |
| 13 | ✨How to piss off a guy with an inflated ego 101. Works like a charm every time✨Ex military are always either terribly out of shape or super fit, it's so rare to see an in-between | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:06 AM |
| 17 | The things I had to freaking hear.Lmao sounds like my uncle. I also have a coworker thats 29/30 but dates between 21 and 26, because older women have too much baggage. But he complains that the young women are too immature and crazy. I've been calling him out on this since I was 20 and I'm almost 25 now 💀. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 03:46 AM |
| 262 | Guy is sexist and racist, shocked that makes him an assholeImagine saying your super active, accomplished PhD gf is just a pretty face when you're the ugly one failing classes and hanging out with fucking freshmen 😂😂 imagine being so fucking dumb you have to use your hot gf for campus clout. I hope she wised up and dumped him, I need an update | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 07:34 AM |
| 19 | Giving up sex with men has been the best thing everThis is the most relatable thing I've seen. My year of celibacy started back in September and I'm including dating too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 08:23 AM |
| 20 | This is why FDS is so important !It's the 13 years of dating/servitude for me 🤮 even at my worst, I would've dipped after 3 years. Her first mistake was uprooting her whole life without a proposal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 10:45 AM |
| 13 | Attracting HVW on Bumble BFF?Women are sooo flakey, I've only met one good friend and I've been off and on that site for 4 years. I would personally wait until I was more financially secure. I like brunch, festivals, trips, going out, etc and I figure a girl like that wouldn't want to constantly worry about how I would be able to afford it. If you're more low-key (hiking, yoga, DIY activities, etc), there's a lot of women on bumble that are like that too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:07 PM |
| 10 | I had a dream about my ex boyfriend getting married…When they show up in your dreams that usually means that they are thinking about you a lot 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:03 PM |
| 13 | Men discuss heartache on Reddit’s relationship forum more than women, study finds… but we’re the ones who are missing out. Suuuure.I couldn't make it past gasoline. I'm going to try to get through it because everybody is hyping it up. I think starboy was his last solid album, even though everybody hated it for being too mainstream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 01:05 AM |
| 16 | Spoiling men financially is always a mistakeI agree with this but in this case I don't think it applies. In the post below, she did say when she wanted to be a SAHM, he supported her fully and immediately got a 2nd job. Now, if the debt was such a dark cloud then he should've cleared it up before even dating or at least before he proposed. Entering marriages with financial issues is very irresponsible. I also felt like she should've made it clear in the initial post why he deserved it. I know there's a bunch of idiot males thinking they d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 08:43 AM |
| 29 | Stupid rant about Kim & KanyeTimes like this makes me wish for a black women centered FDS sub, because all this stanning/sympathizing for a family that goes out of their way to shit on black women and our culture makes me uncomfortable. Everything is calculated, so idc when it blows up in their faces. I only feel bad for the kids, especially the daughters | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 08:11 AM |
| 22 | Stupid rant about Kim & KanyeI love this sub, but posts like this reminds me that nowhere is truly safe from white feminism and the lack of intersectionality. And just because Kim is there doesn't necessarily means she's a good mom. Only time will tell, like it did with Kourtney's kids | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 08:05 AM |
| 29 | Stupid rant about Kim & KanyeThank you 💯💯💯 and nah Khloe can stay in her lil pickmeisha hole for going off on a 19 y/o biracial girl for being approached by her nasty man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 08:02 AM |
| 6 | First real date post-breakup and FDS helped SO MUCH. THANK YOU!!!I hope this creep didn't follow you home 😳 these PUA weirdos are something else | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 07:08 AM |
| 21 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮I never saw what she saw in him, he looks like a lil rodent. A literally hoodrat. I think she would only leave if he had an outside baby | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:48 PM |
| 20 | Demand more from men! Evolution demands itI feel like even though we don't need to rely on men for financial support, a lot of women do talk about needing emotional support and acts of service from their male partners. And men constantly brush that off and insist that we are all gold diggers. It's like they only accept only one form of neediness from us and it's so irritating. One of my big requirements in my next relationship is a man that knows there is more to being a provider than just paying bills and doesn't tie all his worth to h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:33 PM |
| 5 | Never stop vetting! Even after being faithful to your partner for 8 years, he could still think that he can do better and want to bang other women. Scrotes like this just want to get their dick wet and are never satisfied no matter how spectacular their gf is.Lmao I've heard this from my ex that I dated for 2 years when we're teenagers. We were each other's firsts and he knew he wanted to marry me but he also wanted "experience" 🙄. Which looking back on, he's not wrong but to say that after a month of sex did hurt pretty bad. A couple months later I was shipped to bootcamp , so I agreed to a break. I didn't trust him to be loyal for the 4 months I was going to be gone. When I got to tech school, I was surrounded by a bunch of tall, muscular, hot men … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 07:46 AM |
| 7 | Send us these things ✌️Yessss amen !!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 07:35 AM |
| 2 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examplesI feel the exact same way, but I feel like that sex positive, oversharing BS and more men using libfem ideas to benefit them really threw a lot of us off track. I think it became more mainstream in 2015/2016, but I feel like things started to shift to more in our favor in 2020. Despite the rise in poly/open relationships, more women are starting to opt out of pickme BS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 07:22 AM |
| 3 | Bizarre pickme post in another subreddit: woman so excited that the office "hot guy" flirts with her that she goes out to celebrateI hope this is a "and then everybody clapped" moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:41 PM |
| 11 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportWhen she first came out she was so beautiful, and now she got all this work done to look like every other IG baddie smh. So many beautiful, talented black female entertainers attached to bums it makes me sick. They need to pull a page from Eve's book, she's the only one that got it right I think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:58 PM |
| 49 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportWomen that let their kids get traumatized by a flakey father gets on my nerves. There was a viral video, where this little girl finally meets her dad after like 8 years, but then the dad got exposed for barely communicating with her but the mom thinks he deserves a chance to be a dad 🙄. She mentions her child is in therapy for the constant abandonment. And it doesn't help that he has multiple BMs and seems to be more active in the other kids lives smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:40 PM |
| 38 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportI can't take women with poor pussy management seriously. Willingly being somebody's 3+ baby mama,.especially to a deadbeat is the dumbest thing I've ever seen. In other news, summer walker tattoo'd another's man name on her face so we'll see how that goes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:35 PM |
| 49 | I wish men were required to watch this video before dating womenAnother lovely tiktoker, I swear I'm only on the app for recipes, makeup, and women that make videos like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:31 PM |
| 308 | Even in Imperial Russia, where women had to get married, community dick and age gap relationships were avoided.What an eloquent way to call a man "ran through" and a thot, im here for it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:29 PM |
| 74 | 'Body count': Do people count and what even matters?I don't respect men that ask and I will never answer them and it also doesn't matter. They use it to calculate how much they wanna respect you/put in effort. But I will judge men that have like 50+ and they are only in their mid 20s like wtf. And I also don't even remember, because I simply don't care anymore. But out of my estimate, i only orgasmed with 5 -7 so thats what imma go with lmao. I find it hilarious but weird when men get so mad when you say "I only count the men that made me cum". S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 04:09 PM |
| 7 | what happens when you initiafe contact even onceHis sulking and nasty attitude made him a LVM. He could've just politely declined or just taken the ride. I definitely relate to the whole door thing, because I move really fast without thinking. I have to remind myself to slow down and give him a chance to be chivalrous lol. And I guess the other thing is to not press him. Don't beg to help him and go out of your way to do stuff for him in the beginning. If he turns down your help the first time, leave it at that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:22 AM |
| 37 | These scrotes and their manipulative psychological warfare are becoming obsolete. They are beginning to understand that they are not the prize and women don't care to be involved with NV/LV males just to say "I have a man".Nah he's a real guy, this is his one of his very few good takes lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 05:14 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on a male heaux phase?I would hate to still be judged on my shitty past behavior, but months isn't enough time to change unless there's a lot of therapy, accountability, and self awareness. Which most men won't do tbh, they have to get burned quite a few times. The fact that he still has those contacts, pics, and convos saved in his phone is a massive red flag that he's still the same. Men will be a total gentleman to you in the beginning, but once he knocks you off that pedestal he will hit up all those women and st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 12:13 AM |
| 8 | Yep, just about what I expected 😡I'm still caught up on the tax free part, how dumb are you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 06:27 AM |
| 39 | When trying to learn more about a man, you can’t directly ask him for his opinion on a topic (porn, cheating, finances) because they’ll just tell you what you want to hear. Instead, bring up the topic casually, gauge his reaction and listen very carefully to what he does or does not sayI love her tiktok, she has a lot of great videos | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 05:03 AM |
| 13 | Anyone want some? (FDS sketch by me)Your art is so dope, I always smile when I see it 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 05:01 AM |
| 17 | Remember that ex you so desperately wanted to marry?"Rejection is God's protection" has been my mantra this year. Every disappointment I had that I wasn't "picked" has turned out to be a blessing fr. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:51 AM |
| 28 | If a man does not date within his age range, it’s a red flag.They have control issues to the max 🚩🚩 my uncle was in his mid-late 30s when he married my 25 y/o aunt. He would always bitch about her not being mature and "cultured" and not having the best maternal instincts. And I'm like dude her brain literally just finished developing, you should've married somebody that was at least 30 🙄. He always dated women that were way too young, and seemed to hate that they would actually act their age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:44 AM |
| 16 | Men date you to level up. Don’t date men to level down.I'm not trying to tussle, because I do understand the importance of dating someone with a similar background. But it's possible to work a blue collar job and still have interesting conversations and be well read on various topics lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 06:12 AM |
| 14 | Men date you to level up. Don’t date men to level down.I agree with everything, but I don't get why blue collar jobs are looked down upon. They get trained in a useful skill, join a union, and then they make a lot of money without the crushing student loans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:17 AM |
| 18 | Here are a few OLD phrases to look out for as a High Value Women:It just seems like he wants to be chased. And why would I want more pics of a random that's not even my man lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 12:47 PM |
| 15 | Pick me! I’m cool! I don’t need a man to put in effort! Pick me!!I really need women to stay on code 😭 where's that "I don't support all women, because some of yall b****** are really dumb" tweet lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 07:28 AM |
| 6 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?At 24, definitely no kids. Divorced is iffy. If they are military: maybe, civilian: nope. If I'm still single in my early 30s and still in my current city, I would consider a single dad if it's no more than 1 kid and they have to be at least be 8/9 years old. Is it weird that I would want to meet the mom first? If I was in her shoes, I would want to meet the gf to make sure she wasn't crazy. I've heard awful stories where the gf gets jealous of the kid and abuses them. Single dads don't vet hard… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 08:35 PM |
| 7 | Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy.I've been doing self care things like getting my nails/hair done and buying flowers 😁 it helps lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:35 AM |
| 46 | Lmao at his whiny edit. The holidays really bringing the scrotes out.I would like to think so but I always have to keep in mind that men don't take emotional abuse or negging seriously. This man probably thinks he's a Saint because he doesn't hit her or scream/curse at her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:08 AM |
| 9 | Male friends are a myth.There's is no "right" way to be a SW since it's a trash situation all around, but she did this soooo wrong. She literally could've made $2k in a few weeks at a minimum wage job. Fuck she could've made that in 5 weeks from unemployment 😭. If you're dead set on using your looks for a job, you can make that in one night being a bartender/bottle girl/waitress in certain cities | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 07:38 AM |
| 159 | Male friends are a myth part 2 ):Ewwww 🤮🤮🤮 there's a whole industry of female performers that produce content for him to use and yet it's still not enough. This feels like a creepy control thing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 07:14 AM |
| 73 | Story time: do not EVER date a man who admits to cheatingBased on how OP described the manager, I wouldn't even bother sharing my disgust/opinion. Last thing he needs to deal with is retaliation and being ostracized in the office ETA: I can't see a reply b/c I guess they don't have a flair so I'll just reply here ... who said he was participating in this gross convo? He probably overheard the BS while working, and rightfully decided to keep his distance and mind his business. That's what I do. I don't get paid enough to educate loss causes. Constructi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:29 AM |
| 16 | Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy.This is me with everybody 😭 I love giving thoughtful, useful stuff. My friends and family love it, but my NVM ex never cared. And he always bragged about how great he was at gift giving, and then proceeded to barely do shit and used the pandemic as an excuse 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:25 AM |
| 73 | Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy.This is the one 👏🏾 especially when they will argue with you everytime you want to treat them to something nice, but praise their friend's girlfriend's/female friends for doing the most basic shit 🚩🚩🚩 guaranteed that after the breakup he will tell everybody how he "gave you everything (fast food, some dick, and hookah 🙄)" and you never reciprocated | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 04:36 AM |
| 54 | This is considered a success? Guy never initiates giving oral sex, only wants to receive, then presses his junk against her mouth, she needs to keep asking for him to go down on her and he laughs at her and calls her demanding WTFIf they don't offer they are automatically trash. I know a dude that's like 30/31 and he's never given head before because "nobody ever asked" 😐😐😐 I bet he rarely had to ask a woman for oral smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:53 PM |
| 123 | I have no wordsFuckkk I knew this had "hating ass white/nonblack man" energy, but I didn't want to say because I knew white women with curly hair use it too. And now his family calling her a "princess" seems racist too. People love making fun of how black/biracial women take care of our hair and our routines | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:33 AM |
| 154 | I have no wordsI bet if she got rid of the towel and her hair started looking like shit, he would make a stupid comment about her "letting herself go" and be secretly happy about it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:27 AM |
| 48 | I have no wordsWhat a weird controlling asshole. I think I know what kind of towel she uses and it makes a big difference. It's basically a microfiber towel that reduces frizz and it doesn't look weird at all. And it's not that effective to use on your body, so he's deliberately going out of his way to annoy tf out of her. Also if your family says something, just explain it 🤦🏾♀️ I would break up with him asap, like if you can't even stand up for me when it comes to a towel then you're literally useless | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:22 AM |
| 57 | Imagine celebrating men for doing the bare minimum!All that tells me is that he thought about hitting you multiple times and he wants a pat on the back for restraining himself 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:56 AM |
| 7 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 38 - A Very Special Thanksgiving Roast +Thanksgiving Clapback StrategyI don't understand how the 2nd woman got married to such a dirty man 😭 there was no way he kept it that well hidden while they were dating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:44 AM |
| 8 | New to me LVM tacticAgreed. I had a dude that always complained about how overpriced things were and it was such a turn off. And then he had the nerve to suggest a nap date or one of those "get a bunch of junk food and discuss our lives in the car" date because he saw that mess on Twitter. That's just regular relationships stuff, obviously it doesn't count as a date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:33 AM |
| 53 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?I've also been negged by both genders for my voice. It's high pitched, super sweet and a bit valley girl, so people literally think it's okay to insult my intelligence and say I'm trying to "act white". I've had complete strangers say to my face "I thought you were dumb/self hating/fake/bitchy but wow you're actually really smart and nice" like wtf now I hate you lmao. And I've also been negged for "taking pics like a fat girl". When I got on the apps at like 18/19, I only had selfies because th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 11:36 AM |
| 70 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?This was all from a first date from okcupid and honestly if it wasn't to see the Weeknd (one of my faves. I know he's LV but he's an A1 performer) I would've walked right out: "usually girls with your hips have like twice the ass" "I wonder what you look like underneath all that makeup"--this man was like mid/late 20s, bald, 5'9, and had a squish body honestly idk why I swiped. Pretty sure it was because he used older pics "you kinda look like my ex" and then he showed me a pic of a black woman … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 11:18 AM |
| 4 | I’ve reached a point in my life where I advise my child free friends not to procreate with men. Exhibit a:What is it with men in the medical field not giving a fuck about their pregnant partners ?? I was going out with a med tech and we were discussing kids. I said I want to spend at least a year at home with my future baby. He said that was too much time. So I was like "well if we are both going to work we should pay for a nanny/cleaning service". He said no to that too!! Because he didn't want to strangers in his house and around the baby 🤦🏾♀️ Men just want to see women slave away and suffer. Ofc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:37 AM |
| 123 | Women Achieves, society makes movie her father......I refuse to watch this movie. There's nothing "kingly" about a man that abandons his first family and pretended that they didn't exist in favor of his next family. He's still alive and I don't think he's reached out to them at all or offered any help. And honestly I'm disappointed that the Williams sisters is pushing this narrative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 05:32 AM |
| 14 | Never beg a man to marry youHe hasn't posted on social media since 2017 and they've been together for about 4-5 years and it's now 2021..... IF 2 + 2 EQUALS 4 !!! Do the math babes 🥴😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 05:00 AM |
| 41 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.At least lameass Future proposed to Ciara 🤣 not one of those women you listed have been proposed to by their baby daddies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 01:54 AM |
| 71 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.That FDS other post about MOC using women outside their race to triangulate is so relevant right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 01:47 AM |
| 56 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.Eh Dani was fine shitting on his other BM(meme)and being the sidechick, because Meme is dark-skinned so this is deserved tbh. So many black women were telling her not to mess with this man, but she brushed us off as "jealous" haters. She took pride in being the "preference" and now it bit her in the ass, im laughing with the rest of black Twitter lmao I also want to point out that everybody was rightfully dragging summer walker for being the 4th BM to a known deadbeat, but for Dani's colorist as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 01:45 AM |
| 81 | literallyI tried to feel bad but the yellowbone situation and all the black women warning her about this idiot made me suck my sympathy back up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 01:31 AM |
| 18 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorEverytime I feel myself start to give a man my emotional/mental labor, I have to remind myself that none of my romantic interests have ever built me up or offered me a helping hand to get me where I am today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 08:05 PM |
| 12 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorBecause most black men usually go for lightskin/biracial women when it comes to commitment. And when they do get married, those marriages aren't usually good ones. Most of the black marriages I have seen involve the black women taking the man back after cheating. And she's working her ass off, going 50/50 while doing almost 100% of the household work. Since their moms did it, they want us to do it too. I'm not saying other races don't go through this, but I can only speak on my own and what I've… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:47 PM |
| 35 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorYo I've literally had this happen to me when I was a small teenager and the BMWW couple were adults. I was going to compliment them on their cute crochet hats, but I guess they saw my stare as challenging and immediately started making out and groping each other. I remember thinking "I just liked your hats I don't want your ugly ass man 😭" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:38 PM |
| 33 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorThe trumpers are the only white men I attract 😭 I don't get it at all, I'm definitely black with a beautiful big ass afro and very vocal about being pro-black and liberal. But because of my voice and being in the military they seem to expect me to be a Candace fucking Owens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:11 PM |
| 38 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorBut if we didn't stand up to be the providers and just let our community/families go to shit, we would be the bad guys 🙃🙃 divest divest divest | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:58 PM |
| 45 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorActually, I've always seen so many black women hold down and build up ain't shit black men. And proudly go 50/50 too 🤮Just for them to turn around and take that success to a nb women. They seem to think because their black moms went through this struggle shit, we should do the same for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:53 PM |
| 37 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorYou are completely right. I have also heard black men say they date non-black women, because yall are "easier to control and super submissive"🙄🙄. I feel no type of way about black men dating interracially, love is love.. But it seems like they do it because of self hate, mommy issues, need for control, and they don't see black women as women. They see us as competition smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:35 PM |
| 11 | Dating outside of your raceYou have to vet even Harder. If he respects you and has an open-minded family, you should go for it. And he should show a genuine interest in learning about the your culture..He also has to be willing to stand up to his family and be willing to cut them off if they are ignorant about your race/religion. If they ask you to do stereotypical shit (ex. Asking my black ass to twerk for them, weird comments about my hair and curvy body, pushing for sex really soon), block and delete. It helps to have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 10:51 PM |
| 9 | Dating outside of your raceI'm AA & caribbean and honestly I have to unfortunately agree with her about AA men. They just want to waste time and dick around until they're like 40. But in my experience with African men, they are heavy with the lovebombing/flattery so they can hook up faster 🙄 thanks to FDS I didn't fall for the future faking BS lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 10:40 PM |
| 19 | I'm so tired of seeing 'demisexual' tossed around like it's some sort of aberrant practice when really, it's just HEALTHY to want trust & a connection with intimate partners.I was thinking this exact thing while watching Bridgerton lmao. I was on board with the courting stuff, except for having the man of the house sign off on the partnership | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 02:54 AM |
| 6 | “Scrote’s response to: “What sacrifice have you made to save for a down payment?”Do you think there's an age cut off for this? Like i thought it was extremely weird that my 25 y/o ex never been in love before, despite being in a long ass relationship before we met. He thinks when he hits 30, he's just going to find the one and I remember saying "that's not how love and relationships work...". I thought it was just immaturity but im starting to think he's a narcissist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:00 PM |
| 18 | Love is never enough!Thank you😁 and yes I didn't even know about mirroring until I joined here 🤦🏾♀️ I've never done that before and knowing that men do it so frequently and with such ease, weirds me out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 02:19 PM |
| 97 | Love is never enough!I need ways to do this discretely. Because whenever I'm upfront about these things, they always act like they believe in the same things/lifestyles to get close to me. And then when the real them is revealed, it's hard to leave :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:43 AM |
| 17 | Please don’t idealise men from other culturesI would never seriously date a Caribbean man. They are fun and hardworking but they think paying the bills means they can have side families. I'm pretty confident that when my grandpa passes, my mom and uncle will gain a few siblings | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:28 PM |
| 18 | Remember to give low-income males a chance, ladies! Don't be classist! /sEvery time I see some aggressively misogynistic/Pick me shit, 8/10 it's from South Africa or Nigeria. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 10:11 PM |
| 12 | Remember to give low-income males a chance, ladies! Don't be classist! /sI unintentionally dated only black or mixed w/black men this year and the whole experience was garbage enough to make me divest completely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 10:10 PM |
| 66 | A real "Cool Girl" is one who turns down Leonardo DiCaprioSavannah is so beautiful and classy 😭 I could never marry an athlete or anybody in the music industry, the men are so dirty | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 01:16 AM |
| 28 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?An ex constantly talked about high school...at 24/25. He's still cool with his hs friends (which is nice) but sometimes hanging out with them could feel weird because they always talked about hs and gossip about who they went to school with. So I was usually pretty quiet and one day he had the nerve to snap at me in front of his friends for being "anti social" and being on my phone. I gave him attitude right back and said "I didn't go to high school with yall so wtf can I contribute to the conve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 10:51 AM |
| 21 | Let's assume this is a straight woman... I hope she and others who feel this way finds this sub because this was really sad to watch, and I hope she doesn't find out the hard way that 95% of men in the dating pool are trash and all the people she's seeing in relationships likely aren't that happy.I saw this thread on Twitter and there were other videos of other women in their 20s who have never been asked out and have 0 dating experience. And I found it kinda shocking because they were all cute/conventionally attractive. And then there's all these young men that complain about how hard it is to date and approach women. I just feel like these weren't widespread issues 20 years ago. Somehow...some way....I think it has to do with porn 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 10:39 AM |
| 23 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?This guy I had an on/off fwb situation with bought a round of drinks that cost like $18 and had the nerve to be like "whew we got to make these last". 🚩 I was so irritated but I continued the date. The bar arcade was fun, but he was so condescending. He sucks at explaining things, so I had to ask more questions, and then he would get annoyed as if I was the dumb one 🚩. He had the nerve to ask me to split a hotel room since he was crashing on his friend's couch so we could "hang out"🚩🚩. This man … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 10:23 AM |
| 12 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.When I was like 19/20, I got hit on by some chunky retiree in his late 30s/early 40s. He only got my phone number, because I was exhausted after running my ass off for my PT test. I was sweaty and gross, trying to catch my breath and chug my water and he pops up right next to me. The conversation was friendly at first and then he asked for my number but im so used to old men asking if I had boyfriend first that I said "yes" 🤦🏾♀️. And I didn't realize what happened until he took out his phone, a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 03:40 AM |
| 39 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.So you have to wait until your 40 to be confident enough to buy a woman a SMOOTHIE ?? And I'm still in my 20s and the thought of dating somebody over the age of 30 grosses me out. My mom is 49, but looks like she's in her 30s and consistently pulls men that are in the 30-40. People are shook when she mentions she has a 24 y/o daughter 😂. The thought of having an overlap with our dating pools 🤮🤮🤮. And it's also so wild that men that are her age try their luck with me !!! Go away boomer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 03:27 AM |
| 2 | Bikini waxing?The coarse, thick body hair struggle is real. I would say my struggle with it as a pre teen/teen was definitely internalized misogyny because I was made fun of for it. Now as an adult, I did trying growing it all out and I hated that more because of all the sweat and humidity. Different climates, hair growth, and level of activity is a bigger factor for most people | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Bikini waxing?I prefer a landing strip or a delta, if a man wants me completely bare it's a red flag. The men who did were pornsick freaks. And my hair is extremely thick and really coarse, I wouldn't want a mouthful of that tbh. Head is just more enjoyable without all of that in the way. I prefer my men to be trimmed as well, too much hair or none at all is weird. I'm more committed to the upkeep in the summer and usually just stick to trims in the winter. I'm trying to be more regular about it, because the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 07:06 PM |
| 17 | You should have a “hoe phase!”Oof you didn't have to read me like this 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 04:34 AM |
| 53 | Something I noticed about being gaslighted. . .The contempt smirk and the resentment glare while literally just existing scares me the most. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:19 AM |
| 7 | Men Who are Still Friends With their ExesIf they are friends with all of their exes/fuckbuddies that's a humongous red flag. I'm friends with one ex and that was from high school. Even still, we don't hang out often or text frequently. My ex NVM was extremely passive aggressive about it tho, even though the HS ex has been in a relationship for 3 years and never flirted with me after we stopped seeing each other. He even wanted to do a double date because he was happy I finally met a "good guy". Ofc NVM said no and I dropped it. But sti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:08 AM |
| 6 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupAnd the fact that nobody else helped him would make me side eye him too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 10:59 AM |
| 84 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupIf a man like this is waiting for me at the finish line, I'm dropping out of the race 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 10:39 AM |
| 5 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setup🚩🚩🚩recently started talking more and more about marriage after 4 years of dating. Wth. Soooo she paid for expenses, physical therapy and you can't spare $10,000 ? When she probably saved you at least $15k when she barely knew you. Anddd she saved you from unemployment and helped you get that 80k job, that ring should be fat as fuck. The way he tries to downplay her help as if he could've managed those things without her is fucking awful. And since she's "low maintenance" he probably never takes … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 10:35 AM |
| 43 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."Yes, and it's super frustrating because they always talk about wanting a nice girl but they always chase harder when I'm in elusive ice queen mode. I think men are just broken tbh, that kind of behavior isn't normal at all. Like if a man was a complete dick to me and ignored me, I would leave them alone not work Harder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 10:25 AM |
| 98 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."I'm only 24 but if I hear that a man continued dating somebody even after losing interest, I would run for the hills. A NVM told me that his last serious relationship was from 19-22, but he knew he didn't want to be with her by the 1 year mark. They were even going to move in together, even though he was basically lying about seeing a future with her 🤮🤮. I brushed it off as standard young people shit and thought he wouldn't do that to me because he was 25 now and supposed to be wiser 🤡🤡. But he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 09:46 AM |
| 16 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?Dated a guy that mainly had female friends and thought it was fine to hang out with them one on one, but hanging out with a man one on one was sus. Like he thought it looked weird to grab a bite to eat with just one guy. And another guy I dated, almost all of his female friends tried to sleep with him at one point so that was fun to deal with. And ofc he was sketched out by me having male friends 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 09:23 AM |
| 11 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeWhat gets me is that these ugly ass men never understand how lucky they are to get such a hot gf and be satisfied. They always want more more more, like we're collectibles. Meanwhile when most women bag a hot ass man, they usually have the decency to stop searching and be happy with the man they have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:44 AM |
| 25 | Younger Pre-FDS me might have laughed... Now I'm disgusted and worried. A young woman posted this too.Robin Givens is a gorgeous, extremely intelligent actress and yet Mike Tyson wrecked her physicallyand socially. He is still slandering her to this day, and they've been divorced for like 20 years. Men do not care, I would actually argue that the more beautiful and successful you are the harder they will try to break you so you won't leave them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 12:24 AM |
| 52 | Younger Pre-FDS me might have laughed... Now I'm disgusted and worried. A young woman posted this too.I swear one of the very few decent things my ex said was "I actually really like you and just want to protect you so why do you want me to choke you? And why so hard". And it literally never occurred to me until that moment that dudes that are into it hate women and are possibly acting out weird desires. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 12:21 AM |
| 32 | What are some vetting strategies to ensure a man won’t turn like this on you after giving birth?I'm noticing alot of young men in their early 20s mention wanting to settle down and start a family. But literally every man I knew that did this turned around and cheated on their pregnant wives. And then those poor women stayed. And then they want to blame it on not having a hoe phase like wtf. And then they look at me like im crazy for not wanting to start a family until Im 30. Can someone please explain this? Like you're 23, it's okay to not want to have kids and a wife so why lie ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 03:47 AM |
| 6 | These NVM ain’t even trying to cover up what they really think anymore… it’s truly sad that their are women that will actually choose to match with these sick men.Even at my most pickme, I would laugh and show my friends. What a loser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:53 AM |
| 9 | This is why we don’t do hike or walk “dates”…he proceeded to MAKE FUN OF ME, before I unmatched. DANGEROUS.This legitimately scary omg. He needs to be blocked on all apps | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 05:09 PM |
| -1 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)Lmao they probably think I turned pro life or some shit. Most of my views are the same, im just not anti-gun anymore and I'm gender critical. Is saying not all Republicans are racist and evil really that bad ?? That doesn't mean I fuck with crazy pro-Trumpers....people are weird af | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 10:54 PM |
| 2 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)Lmao I low-key think Elle is me. I'm an African American woman from a super liberal city that joined the military because I was broke and needed to pay for school. And I experienced the same realization of wow not all Republicans are heartless racist people and I drifted from hard-core liberal, to left leaning with some conservative views. And I didn't grow up with a dad, so I've never seen a healthy relationship between a man and woman. I grew up around strong women and incompetent, unfaithful … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 04:24 PM |
| 35 | For women of color/ minorities, be extra careful of fetishization or familial racismBlack men also fetishize Latinas too, ironically for the same shit they talk down on black women about smh. The amount of times I've seen them chase down latinas because they think yall are just spicy sexy maids is embarrassing. Though it doesn't help that a lot of pickme Latinas feed into it and fetishize black men right back and talk shit about black women too🤮. A match made in hell I guess | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 12:32 AM |
| 36 | The Power of ✨Allowing Men To Feel Needed✨There's a lot of men that think being masculine is being a bossy dickhead . Sometimes I wonder if I'm a naturally dominant woman or if I'm like this because I'm constantly surrounded by incompetent men and have to take the lead because I hate failure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 08:48 AM |
| 7 | Just saw this post on FB… biggest load of male sympathy horseshit I’ve seen in a minute 😂 men have no inherent value, yet they receive the most societal benefit for doing the bare minimum. OkayyyyyYo my ex used to send me this shit. After the third time, I had to go off on him because guess who still stayed by him while he was barely employed 🤦🏾♀️ guess who stayed by him while he literally didn't provide any emotional, financial, physical support 🤡 . I should've proved him right and left him immediately after he told me his hours were cut lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 09:05 AM |
| 1 | LVM and NVM in a nutshellTowards the end of the relationship, they always love to mention the nice shit they did in the first 3 months but they get so quiet when you mention that they haven't done anything in the past 4 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 07:46 AM |
| 27 | This makes me want to Vomit.I feel like black men are the only ones that encourage this "build him up" shit. But nobody encourages that for black women. They are so quick to throw us away once we don't meet their standard, but we have to stick around for potential. I just feel like black American men victimize themselves so much because of the racism here. But black women, despite facing racism and sexism are still starting businesses and becoming more educated while being the primary caregivers for their families & commun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mI think one venting day a week should be good for the sub | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 04:07 AM |
| 12 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaI agree. I'm in the military and my really pretty friends get so much sexual harassment and nobody cares. Women treat them like shit because they think they use their looks to get ahead, because God forbid you're pretty and hardworking. And men treat them like objects. I'm cute but I'm no head turner in uniform, and I've never had to deal with sexual harassment, and never had my looks negatively impact my career or stop me from getting awards. The lil airmen will flirt a bit or try to talk back … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 06:23 PM |
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