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Rubbish. Every woman who has been really into me has insisted to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 11:55 AM
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This has nothing to do with equality and fairness then. Fairness needs to take into context and needs to incorporate mutual kindness and care. This is also why I find it odd when people say they pay for the first few dates and then it goes to 50-50 as the relationship progresses. For me it's always the other way around. If you are a stranger then it's 50-50. We are equal. We both want to get to know each other. We invest money and time equally to do that. But as we get to know each other other f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:06 PM
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50-50 doesn't mean mathematical equality in a strict sense. And if that's what it means most people who talk about equality are not talking about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:55 PM
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AI slop or product of a paranoid mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:53 PM
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Please expand.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:20 PM
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Could you send expand on what these tendencies are and what sort of behaviours they manifest in. Really interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:18 PM
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Why would I want to die for some random wife or kid?!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:50 PM
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Interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 07:08 AM
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I am pretty sure it would also not be taken well if you told a woman that they were acting like a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:39 PM
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Ah, what's this rhetorical technique called? It's an interesting one. It's like the truism in the second half of your sentence is attempting to mask the assumption in the first half and give credibility to it? Very good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:37 PM
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But I don't want to be assertive and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 04:16 PM
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There has got to be a word for an argument that appears clever but is actually just deceptive. Is it sophistry?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 04:15 PM
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Admittedly I live in Europe. Boy the US must be pretty messed up if women paying their share is equated to having low self esteem or incredible wealth. In Europe it's just called being an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:37 PM
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And you have revealed yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 05:52 PM
0

Then you need to expand the cultures you are aware of.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 03:43 PM
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In your culture. Not mine. "End of story" 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:28 PM
1

I don't impress women by paying for thing. I impress them by being funny and interesting and kind and lots of other things. They also need to impress me. Wanting me to feed them (or being impressed by that) is one easy way for them not to impress me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:27 PM
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Depends on what you mean by quickly. It's easy to figure out who isn't for you relatively easily, but not who is. I still stand by the claim that anyone who expects me to jump through hoops for them is not for me. I think you demonstrated that by saying you put way way more effort for this person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:24 PM
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Nope. Zero correlation. Better chance they will be a partner that will pay for your meals though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:20 PM
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Any man who knows someone is their "dream woman" without having dated her for a period of time first is an idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:31 PM
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Nope. My dream girl wouldn't expect me to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:28 PM
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Because your priority isn't to get fed for free but to meet a good partner. Or maybe it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:26 PM
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Sure. If I was dating a homeless woman I would feel empathy to make sure I feed her and she has shelter over her head. Otherwise grow up and stop the poorly disguised entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:59 PM
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I never said I was socially isolated. I said it more difficult for men than it is for women to make new friends. Specially if you are a man who doesn't like your stereotypical male activities. That doesn't mean what shouldn't try. But the challenges are real. Because women are less receptive to befriending you than befriending other women, and men are generally not big on befriending you either because they are generally less social and typically don't befriend you unless they "get something out…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 10:46 AM
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You have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:51 AM
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What are you talking about? First of all who is making claims of being the "strong ones". You are projecting. And acknowledging something is hard is not the same thing as not trying. Doesn't take much thought to understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:48 AM
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I don't. Just staying a fact of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:33 AM
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No where near as easily as women befriend other women. Maybe it you are macho lad kind of guy, you tend to befriend other similar type of guys, but if you are not then no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 11:59 AM
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I have to admit I didn't read your essay, but to answer your question, yes I do. Don't have to earn as much as me, but I want to know my life style/finances are staying at least the same rather than negatively affected by the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 12:18 AM
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Socialising is not that easy for guys. People don't befriend men that easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 12:07 AM
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I mean I definitely am not. They look like children to me. Anyway that's not the point. The point is once I have a partner and love them I don't care how many young beautiful women are around.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:05 PM
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I mean sure. But 90% don't try to be any good either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:49 PM
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Interesting. This always felt like a sort of battle against or denial of human nature to me. But each person is so different.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:38 PM
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I have to admit maybe 1/10 women are any good at sex. Maybe fewer.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:16 PM
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Can I ask how old you are? I am struggling with the lack of companionship, and fear it will only get worse as I get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:13 PM
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Most men are not like this. We get attached to and love the person. Not being able to grow old with someone I love and who loves me is one of the things that pains me most about not having someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:10 PM
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Is this really true though? Maybe a small subset of men. But there are also as women who see any sort of disagreement as criticism and get very upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:35 AM
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Why would I want conflict for the sake of conflict? And there are different ways of dealing with disagreement. One involves trying to understand each other and find common ground and where not, agreeable compromise. The other involves straw-maning, gaslighting and other power plays and manipulative strategies. Why would I want the latter? There are genuine life difficulties that I have to deal with. Why would I want to invite someone who manufactures them or gets in the way of dealing with them …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:16 AM
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This is pretty funny. You don't seem to understand the difference between disagreeing and being disagreeable. And that's probably why you both fall into the latter and don't get what OP is getting at.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 09:11 AM
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I just vomited in my mouth
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 09:07 AM
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Noh. You are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:47 AM
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Also, this doesn't align with my experience at all. Sure women get more attention and find it easier. But it is also easy enough as a guy to meet people and hang out with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:57 PM
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While I agree with the general premise of your post, I have to point out that us men are not safe from men masturbating in bunks next to or showing us their penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:55 PM
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Enjoy the perks you have (not being worried about being raped or sexually harassed) and stop obsessing about the things you don't have (easy access to casual sex). That's life. Make the most of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:54 PM
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I agree. They both end up resulting in wasted time. Except that as a man I have the option of condensing my wasted time into a shorter span of time by putting in more effort. What I mean is all my time/effort is generally front loaded. I.e. getting the date. Once a woman comes on a date with me I know that she likes me a fair bit and once there is a second or third date I know I can pretty much take it the direction I choose. Also most women are pretty easy to read after this point. For a woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 10:43 PM
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You hit a certain age and experience and post nut clarity becomes the standard mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:03 PM
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It's hard. So what. Pretend it's a game. It would be boring if it was easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:31 AM
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Must it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:30 PM
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Not my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 09:09 AM
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It has always been better in LTR for me than outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 12:39 AM
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You don't fuck for validation when you are in a relationship. Fucking for validation when you are outside a relationship is in my view also a self esteem issue. If you need to flirt to feel good about yourself there is a self esteem issue there. I have been there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 09:01 PM
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Get therapy my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 06:18 PM
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But your post proves the point. Women only think 1/20 guys are attractive. Whereas a much lower standard applies to women. They just need to be young enough. Take your average brother or sister, same genetics. The guy struggles. It's because we expect more from men in terms of attractiveness before they can be considered attractive. Which is a pretty expected outcome of natural / sexual selection when a single man gets impregnate an unlimited number of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 05:20 PM
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Ok. Thank you for confirming you don't understand, without actually saying you don't understand. As to free will, even if you believe it exists, surely you accept that it exists at the level actions and not wants. So irrelevant to the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:54 PM
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Nope. Given that I am responding to a specific topic, it is pretty obvious what instinct I am referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:53 PM
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Triggered or just can't understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:48 PM
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What are you on about? You sound a bit deranged. How did you interpret men's desire to raise their own kids rather than adopt as a conversation about rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:47 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:51 PM
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I personally have no natural instinct to rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:50 PM
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Fair observation. But we are not talking about procreation only here. We are talking about the care / bond for the off spring and the desire to expend resources for it. There is certainly working for that and the selection there would be for own off springs (to the extent we can tell the difference).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:50 PM
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And most women don't have looks. Beggars and choosers ....
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:41 PM
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They don't though. But I agree, usually not directly because of the aging. Biology sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:33 PM
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They don't though. But I agree, usually not directly because of the aging. Biology sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:24 PM
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Just because you are able to hijack some of the care circuitry in your brain to care for someone else's offspring doesn't mean your intelligence and your thinking has overcome your instinct. Enlightenment doesn't create emotional bonding.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:11 PM
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I don't think you understand how (hundred of) millions of years of evolution works. Some instincts are not context specific. And the instinct certainly doesn't give a crap if anyone else is procreating. It's whether the particular individual is procreating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:08 PM
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Thinking doesn't change your deepest natural instinct and feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:04 PM
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Greatest in size. Not in total achievement. And I wouldn't call it empty land.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 08:46 AM
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So your recommendation: become the khan of the greatest empire the world has ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 07:58 PM
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Sounds like cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 08:31 PM
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Because then women would lose interest in these activities, thereby halving the ability of those who commercially benefit from such interest to profit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:20 PM
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Not my experience. Anecdotal of course, but seems to be backed by data quoted. I probably have more female friends than male friends. None of my female friends have yet been physically attacked or mugged. On the male side, I can't think of three who have been badly beaten while being mugged. All three were jumped and attacked immediately, so not a case of being attacked for not complying with the mugger. Woman are obviously far more likely to get sexually harassed / assaulted though. And I think…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:05 PM
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Apparent from a single sentence. You must be omniscient.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 12:44 PM
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How do you know the majority are not randomly targeted?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 11:26 AM
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Victim blaming. Nice. You are a shitty human. The victim and the perpetrator don't share blame just because they both happen to be male.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 11:24 AM
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Yekh. Now I can understand why women get so annoyed when men make similar "well intentioned" comments to them about how to keep safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 11:03 AM
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Could be a number of things. E.g. more socially acceptable to hit a man (and so more aligned with their ego inflation for doing it), a way of establishing dominance amongst men, men socially compete with other men and not with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 11:01 AM
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Good good. The "hero" stuff sounded awfully Petersonian ... Moving along then. Nothing to see here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:54 PM
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You have been reading too much Jordan Peterson.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:39 PM
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That doesn't really compute. Because by the same token, men have lower standards because, have fewer options. The question then is why do men have fewer options. In which case you would say say because women have higher standards. But why do women have higher standards, because they have more options. But why do women have more options, because men have lower standards ... And so on and on, you are in a loop, with nothing except the current state of affairs explaining themselves. May be true, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:53 AM
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Exactly. Not weird at all. Women don't value hook ups as much as men. Men's hookup standards are lower than relationship standards. You have basic supply demand situation with lot of supply from male side. Less demand on women's side. So it means woman can demand a higher price for hookup in terms of attractiveness of partner. Add to that the fact the in hookup the same guy can sleep with a lot of women at the same time, you have a high supply of very attractive options for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:35 PM
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I am not sure why some people can't understand that someone saying looks are important doesn't mean that they are saying nothing else is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:01 PM
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What the hell are you on about?!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 06:58 PM
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So you post an article about cleavage to prove that women are biologically only attracted to men who earn more than them?! Odd. I am aware of evolution and biology. If you want to prove that only dating people who earn more than you is hardcoded into women's DNA you are going to have to send me an article that demonstrates specifically that. Comparing appearance to earnings is just silly, and even with appearances we know people don't have a hard line. Most people may have preferences, but they …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 09:31 PM
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Did you read what you responded to? I said she has control over her decision to make income a factor in the men she chooses. She can very easily decide that income will not be a factor. In fact she has more freedom to choose this because she is financially well enough for her partner's income to not be needed to support her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:48 PM
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I did see that. And some men might. But that is those men's problem. What does that have to do with her choice to only date men who make equal or more. She has control over her choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 04:29 PM
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Man almost never specifically look for a partner who earns as much or more than them. It seems to me that your income is limiting your options in life. Instead of increasing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:45 PM
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Yakh, you are like the red pill stereotype of a modern professional woman. Why do you have to prove these bastards right?!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:14 PM
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Or don't show each other empathy... I think I just had an idealistic moment, thinking about the kind of world I would like to live in. The truth is, some people are just naturally more empathetic and some people naturally more self centred. And no amount of talking is going to make people who don't understand or value empathy want to give it to others. Your use of the word "owe" just shows you don't fully grasp how empathy works. No skin off my back personally as the OP's issue doesn't affect me…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:26 PM
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I think an earlier poster or VP summarised it. It is not about anyone doing anything. It is more that I want people to do less vilifying / shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:13 PM
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No. Most of us don't want women to sleep with men they don't want to. I can't speak for all of us. I just want people to treat each other with kindness and respect and empathy. And have an open mind/heart when people talk about what their experience is and how it makes them feel, rather than telling them to stop feeling a particular way or saying that they feel a particular way because of x, y and z implying they are not justified to feel that way. It goes both ways. Men and women. Men dismissin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:55 PM
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But when people say you are not entitled to sex in this context, they are not simply saying that you have no right to expect someone else to give it to you. They are saying something more akin to there is something wrong with you even desiring it and feeling bad that you are not having it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:49 PM
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Show some empathy instead of shaming or denying is I think the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:46 PM
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They are all undatable, but she is probably the least undatable. The insecurity, clinginess, lack of humour and wanting me to pay are all red flag show stoppers in real world. But you can't hate someone for being insecure. You can only have compassion. Some of the others' traits are just really off-putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:33 PM
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Is she doing your chores on the first date?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:14 AM
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Agreed. Very different outcomes in dating apps v real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 07:19 PM
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It was super easy to date mid-late 20s girls all the way through my 30s. Smart women. Relationship of equals. OP is just another person thinking her experience/ preferences are the only true ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 07:15 PM
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It doesn't benefit men either. It benefits a very small subset of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:26 PM
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Maybe "progressives" should stop fleeing any space where they get pushback against their ideas. Sounds like you are saying progressives either don't let the other side talk or they run away. Why can't they allow the other to talk but push back with thoughtful criticism?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:22 AM
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Not offering me pie! It was a sickness!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 11:16 AM
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It is much much harder to make friends as a man. Whether that's with other men or other women. People are wary of strange men in a way they are not of strange women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:09 PM
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Pointless generalisation. Some people like their own age group. Some like older. I have met plenty of women who only date between 1 and 10 years older than them.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/23 05:08 PM
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Submissive is not the other side.of the coin to critical. Accepting is. No one likes to be in a relationship with someone who always criticises them. It is unhealthy.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/23 05:07 PM
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He sort of framed some things one way and some another though. So for first few he said "don't won't partner who ....", which is fine because that's about him choosing the partner. The rest he framed as "Don't want your partner to ....", which sounds like he isn't leaving his partner, he is telling them what to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:36 AM
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That's just such a sad way to look at it. If what they are doing is not in itself a line cross, then to control what your partner does because you are afraid of a line cross is just weak. You are there to add to each others' life not take away from it. I just chose people I can trust and like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:25 AM
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You shouldn't date people who would cheat on you due to circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:24 PM
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40 here. Came out of a very very long term relationship last year with a 4 year age gap. Most women I have dated since have been 4-12 years younger. Youngest has been 14 years, and that was definitely not ideal for me. But I am like 10 years behind mental development of people my age so ... Ps, definitely not wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:19 PM
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Gets harder for both, but gets more harder for women, but it is still harder for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:16 AM
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This is not true. I don't know why people keep spreading this crap that every guy just sleeps with anyone they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 10:34 PM
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Maybe some straight women do. But the vast majority don't find other women attractive. And many who find both attractive describe their attraction to men in a different way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 02:19 PM
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Um. Firstly the sexual reproduction is hundreds of millions of years old and has nothing to do with women needing men to survive. Attraction is your genes way of ensuring you take part in sexual reproduction. You can't decision that away. Even if it did have to do with protection etc, uou can't choose millions of years of evolution encoded in your DNA away, simply because you can buy sperm and no longer need to be protected against tigers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:16 PM
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It the norm because of millions of years of evolution. What you are suggesting is not just crazy, but dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 09:27 AM
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And what do men have to gain by this logic dating women?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 09:24 AM
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Not only that. Reproducing is bad for you as an individual, objectively. It is your genes which profit. And your genes are really parasitic in that sense using your body/mind as the vessel for them to replicate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:38 PM
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Yeah. Agree. It's a combination of both. But for me once the need for validation went away, then the shine really came off, and I also started really appreciating how much better sex with someone you are emotionally involved with is than with a stranger. Whereas before I just wanted novelty.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:42 PM
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Well I wouldn't be me then. So it is sort of not a question that I can meaningfully answer. I would say experiencing casual sex for a period was necessary for me to no longer see it as a goal. But there are also so many guys who never see it as a goal to begin with. One thing I can tell you for sure is that once I managed to separate my self worth from my ability to have sex, then the news to have casual sex plummeted. So much of the desire, at least for me, seemed to have been about validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:36 PM
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Sorry, who said anything about going after teens?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:15 PM
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What's wrong with maturing more slowly than others? Life is complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:27 AM
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There are so many benefits to having money other than women. Sure a little of the shine would be worn off, but the majority would remain. I am not rich and I could have casual sex if I wanted to, but I don't, because I have better / more enjoyable things to do with my time than have sex with a random stranger. That would have sounded crazy to me even 5 years ago, but it is the absolute truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:21 PM
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It results in not suffering unnecessarily. The point is not that you will achieve a specific external result, but that you are content in knowing that you did what you could have. The rest was out of your control and it is not worth dwelling on and causing yourself suffering.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:18 PM
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Change what you can. Accept what you cannot. How hard is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 12:36 PM
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You do realise statistics is just made up of lots of individual cases right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 09:00 PM
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I see why you would say that but it is not equivalent. But maybe you do need to have the ability to have sex easily, t least for a while, to stop putting it on a pedestal. Once you do, then you realise there are more enjoyable / important things in life. Money on the other hand you will never stop appreciating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:53 PM
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Is terrifying that you think this is terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 09:01 AM
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Lol. Her BMI is probably 10 points well into fat territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:56 AM
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Make available for sex?!! 😂 Why do so many people feel like sex is something a women gives a man. So so sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:33 PM
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I don't know man. I just think it's more to do with women being able to only really love one person at a time. So once the new guy comes in, you are history, unless you have left such a mark that she can never really love the new guy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 05:45 PM
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You are wrong about circularity. He or she is right about linearity. It would be circular if equality then used inequity in its definition. Which it doesn't. He or she is wrong about your definition being proved wrong by the dictionary. Your definition is consistent with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 06:01 PM
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We are not saying it can't happen. There are loads of things that can bring some people together, including their vices or traumas. But statistically ...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:48 PM
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Reductive strawman filled post. You just used a different name for attraction. We know most of you don't walk around with a checklist. But we also know you somehow are more likely to feel the spark with a tall good looking guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:26 PM
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But I am awesome 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 09:01 PM
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Not only that, both women and men are nicer to people they find attractive which in turn means they get treated more nicely by them (provided the attraction is reciprocal). A virtuous cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:37 PM
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Not true at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:34 PM
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I friend zone women all the time. I have made quite a few friends from Hinge over the last year. And I was the one who suggested friendship to all of them. Women take it a lot better than men do I think. Even when they like you, they seem to be very easily capable of putting you into the friend role once you are very clear about that being all you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:33 PM
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Men can't get pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:58 PM
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When I have this mindset all I get is disinterest. When I don't care about reading the room or what others things and just enjoy myself (while being mindful of boundaries), then once in a while someone gets interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 09:39 AM
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Well that is at least indicative of who women find attractive enough. But as I said, look up the OkCupid study
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 07:42 PM
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It provides exactly evidence for my point. Women care about looks everywhere. But true no where near online. But what does that have to do with anything. Someone posted a research and I asked a question about it. I didn't ask for life or dating advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:06 PM
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https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a There are a few like this. OkCupid did a fairly large study too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 03:58 PM
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Not sure how this answers my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 03:03 PM
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Did the study control for the fact that women would have judged the men the rated more harshly so would have resulted in a comparatively lower "actual" attractiveness rating for the men v the women?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:06 PM
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Sorry, are you talking about ratings of men or ratings by men? The studies that have looked at this show that men are generally fairly reasonable in the way they rate women, and the ratings generally fall on a nice bell curve as you expect. It's the women rating men who seem to get it all wrong and have very high standards. Anyway 8 is a very high rating, but there are plenty of women walking around who are as attractive as her. She isn't exactly Christy Turlington.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:35 AM
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The guy rated Gosling a solid 10 on his scale though. And Goslin is probably a 6.5-7 on the scale you describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:20 PM
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To be fair Margot R is attractive, probably an 8, but she won't be everyone's type. Personally she is not to my taste at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:18 PM
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Trailer park.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:55 AM
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But subjectivity is objective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:51 AM
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I never understood how gosling is considered attractive. I mean he is sort of trailer park attractive, but that's about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:13 AM
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Because even one of the things she said or did would have made me run a million miles, or I would hope I would, but this shows that people put up with absolutely shocking behaviour and it frightens and saddens me, and they don't even seem to realise how unacceptable this is and far away it is from a healthy experience with a partner. I have had two long term relationships and the women I have had these relationships could not be further from what you describe. Supportive, independent, caring and…
/r/ExRedPill03/09/23 10:25 AM
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This is the saddest thing I have a read in a long time.
/r/ExRedPill02/09/23 03:57 PM
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You definitely didn't answer his question the first time around though. He was asking why would paid sex even exist if hook up is easy. Which it isn't for anyone but very attractive people, and definitely harder for non white men.
/r/ExRedPill02/09/23 03:51 PM
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