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AA does have men's only meetings. I attended one in Houston last month that had 75 men in it.
/r/MensRights27/09/23 07:39 PM
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Hmm, feminists seem to have no sympathy for "incels" until it starts affecting the nation's population. And notice how this article has nothing to say at all about women's role in all this. Why are these young men so lonely and turning to AI girlfriends? Because women their age want nothing to do with them...and that's a point of pride with those women.
/r/MensRights27/09/23 12:52 PM
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I'm on pokercoaching.com, Jonathan Little's site. There are others like Upswing, CLC (Chance Kornuth's site which I think is tournament-centric, much more variance) They usually have a trial period you can sign up for. Feel free to DM me for details.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 04:08 AM
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Try poker. I make about $40-50 an hour on average and meet new people all the time...mostly men, because few women play poker but there are many women dealers. Caveats: you won't win every time, and you need to study a bunch to get good and stay sharp. I paid $1000 for a year's subscription to a training site and it has paid off many many times over.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:52 AM
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Today: "He said hi to me in the hallway! What a creep!" Two weeks later: "he's avoiding me! What an asshole!"
/r/MensRights26/08/23 12:22 AM
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Agreed. Same goes for poker. Highly male dominated games. Women's tournaments and titles are meant to generate interest for women.
/r/MensRights17/08/23 06:29 PM
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Lols love it
/r/MensRights11/08/23 11:17 PM
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There is a woman I'm interested in whose husband filed on her but I agree they are probably pretty rare
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 02:10 AM
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Pretty much what my dad told me when my ex said she wanted a divorce. The woman you fell in love with is gone. The woman you're dealing with now is your adversary.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 12:23 AM
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No, my ex is all business and only talks about the kids. Having said that, this reminded me of the tit-for-tat strategy in game theory... basically, if you're nice I'll be nice; if you're mean, I'll be mean. Maybe she got some co-parenting counseling or advice from somebody? The idea behind this strategy is that both sides are better off cooperating and being nice, but if the other player defects to take advantage of your generosity, then it pays to show you won't be taken advantage of without c…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 11:18 PM
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It was. https://www.glamour.com/story/are-we-dating-the-same-guy-facebook-group "Interestingly enough, this thought exercise was put to the test when a male-centric group called Are We Dating the Same Girl NYC materialized. The Facebook group used the same community guidelines nearly verbatim, and even added a disclaimer that the group was directly inspired by its predecessor. But when the original group caught wind of its male counterpart, an overwhelming number of comments said it was disgusti…
/r/MensRights16/06/23 05:53 PM
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IMO I'd get your lawyer involved for constant attempted infringement of your parenting time. Document as much as you can and threaten legal action for violating the parenting plan and for parental alienation. Don't know what else to tell you...sounds like telling their mom that she's playing dirty ball doesn't matter to her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 10:03 PM
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Imo it's a trap. She may want to file false DV / SA charges against you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 01:18 AM
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I gave up most of my friends, a couple of hobbies, and my self-respect. Not sure how unmarried life would have gone...tbh I would have either drank myself to death or found someone just like her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 03:56 PM
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My judge wasn't interested in rehashing the marriage. But she quickly saw who wanted to cooperate and who didn't when we went through what my ex-wife wanted in the parenting plan. 1) include her maiden name in kid's last names, which would broadcast our divorce to everyone in their schools 2) require me to make kids available for their cousins birthdays, which imo is unworkable 3) reduce my parenting time if kids weren't "doing well" in school, which is totally arbitrary and one-sided. The judge…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 04:33 PM
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Yes they were a big source of tension. I'll admit I'm not the cleanest person but I'm not a slob either. My ex frequently told me that I was not doing as much housework as she was, that the housework I did never measured up to her standards, and that I didn't do things "her way" like they should be done. This held true when we both worked, when I was a SAHD, and when she was a SAHM and I worked. She would test me by leaving dishes in the sink and towels unfolded in a laundry basket. If I didn't …
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 06:37 PM
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I'm not an expert, these groups have a stated purpose to protect women from abusers and cheaters. But from what I've read, it often devolves into a gossip session or a revenge tool with false accusations made against a guy. They post a guy's dating profile and ask for the group to "spill the tea" on him. Or they post a guy's profile and accuse him of whatever. If a woman defends a guy she knows, she can get banned. It's disheartening to say the least.
/r/MensRights10/05/23 04:06 PM
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I'm late to this party, but I'm not surprised. Apparently some guys started an "Are We Dating the Same Girl" group directly inspired by the original. Predictably, the women of the original hated that idea. "But when the original group caught wind of its male counterpart, an overwhelming number of comments said it was disgusting and unacceptable for men to post photos, screenshot dating profiles, and discuss women in this way." https://www.glamour.com/story/are-we-dating-the-same-guy-facebook-gro…
/r/MensRights10/05/23 02:50 AM
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Can't wait to hear about this crazy chick posting on "Are We Dating the Same Guy?"
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 01:55 AM
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Holy God. Some women just direly need something to complain about.
/r/MensRights10/05/23 01:50 AM
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Basically yeah. I don't hate them but I definitely don't want to have much to do with them.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 01:46 AM
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Damn I'm so sorry that you and your kids had to go through this. They know who the problem is, and that will come through in your relationship with them as they get older. I know there's no holding these women accountable for all the shit they do but that's the world we live in.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 04:21 PM
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I have my kids make something for their mom if I need to. If they want to spend their own money on her, that's fine. I'm not spending any of my money on her.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 02:55 AM
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They still blame male suicides like these on "emotionally adolescent" men and on the patriarchy. It's never their fault when they treat men like toilet paper. Never ever ever.
/r/MensRights07/05/23 04:15 PM
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Yup I feel like a faceless, nameless person most of the time. Especially out in public. Sometimes I lean into that but mostly it's irritating and depressing.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 01:20 PM
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Well put my friend
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 05:22 PM
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Afaik 1) if you both agree to a new number then a judge should sign off on it 2) in New Mexico, you put both parent's income and # of overnights into the state CS calculator, and it spits out the monthly CS payment. 3) in NM a CS modification can only be approved if there's a "material change" (20% I think) in the calculation....so neither side tries to modify every time the other parent has a garage sale or gets a $500 bonus or whatever. I don't know if you're getting ripped off or not. I have …
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 03:18 AM
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Adult chess has always been male dominated, especially at the elite level. That has been changing in the past twenty years or so I think. This also seems to be the case for other games like poker, sudoku, scrabble, etc. Men have an edge in spatial ability and probably value activities that exercise those abilities more than women do....? And yes there was a sexist attitude towards women in chess until recently. Bobby Fischer and Garry Kasparov are notable for their dismissive comments about wome…
/r/MensRights14/04/23 05:47 PM
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The big plus imo is you don't have kids. Co-parenting is rough. Split custody is rough. Dating with kids can be rough too. You probably never have to talk to your ex again. Also a plus, now you know what marriage is about and can reflect on your behavior and what you're looking for in a new partner...if you want one that is.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 07:48 PM
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That's how my marriage went more or less. OP - one thing I learned from my divorce is this. You can't make anyone be happy. You can do everything under the sun for them, but ultimately they choose whether to be happy or not. My ex frequently got her way on our major life decisions, and she would find something else to be upset about. Seems like some people just need to be upset or arguing.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 03:25 PM
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Fwiw I think petty revenge isn't worth it. It just shows your ex that you're still thinking about them and they are under your skin. Which is probably where they want to be. Destroying property is stupid imo. Paying the last child support payment in pennies was pretty bad. Having said that, the guy who printed his child support checks with pictures of him and his new wife was pretty awesome 😎👍
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 07:00 PM
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It wasn't long, maybe a month or two. Don't know about a time limit. She also owed me for my share of the house and her 401k, plus she had help from her family, so I don't think I had to cover anything more than the state calculated amount.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 01:52 AM
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Lols I know that's not gonna happen
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 08:52 PM
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When I got divorced, my ex was a stay at home mom. But she has a master's degree in electrical engineering. My lawyer said my child support would be calculated as if my ex worked to her earning capacity, if she did not get a job that paid about as much. Meaning, my ex couldn't just get a part-time minimum wage job and expect me to cover the rest. My ex got a job as an electrical engineer.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 08:18 PM
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My ex and I spent almost all of my 401k on bullshit. We spent a bit of hers also, but she had to pay me about $50k out of hers...what she earned while we were married. Marital assets are divided and evenly split. That's all you're asking for, nothing more and nothing less than what is rightfully yours. Child custody is a completely separate issue. Lawyers and judges know that (at least mine did.) Don't be afraid that standing your ground on the assets will somehow negatively affect your time wit…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 06:11 PM
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Divorce runs in my family. My dad divorced my mom when I was in college. My uncle got divorced when his kids were pretty little, because of her drug abuse. My brother and his wife got a divorce because of his infidelity. Things between my ex and me were bad but I was deathly afraid of getting divorced. I didn't want that for my kids. My ex and I had shouting matches occasionally when we were both drunk. She would hold everything against me, real or imagined. I was willing to stick it out for the…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 05:50 PM
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Your two bullet points ring very true in my divorce. My ex had to correct everything, from how I did laundry to how I exercised. It got so bad that I thought I was going crazy or senile. I hate to say she intentionally gaslighted me because I think that's an overused term. It was more like...she just had to be right today even if she said the opposite yesterday. Instead of even recognizing any possible miscommunication, she would insist she was right, that she made herself very clear, and that I…
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 08:14 PM
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She's not alone.
/r/MensRights01/04/23 01:14 AM
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You're right to be confused. The constant message we get from women is "don't approach women in public. Or at their job. Or anywhere else. It's creepy and harassment." Then you read something like this, from a woman no less "find-a-relationship-by-home-depot-dating" - basically, go to Home Depot and other places to find someone to date...maybe even the love of your life. So your guess is as good as mine.
/r/MensRights07/03/23 08:58 PM
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A lot of this sounds too familiar
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 08:04 PM
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Yeah I can imagine it's hard. Divorce is hard, and like someone else said, she has probably been planning this for months so she is mentally and tactically prepared. I never had to live with my ex. I got kicked out of the house before she told me she wanted a divorce. Living with your wife after she says she wants a divorce must be terrible. But imho the more you let your stbx give you kisses and be more than cordial, the more it will mess with your head. My dad gave me some advice when my ex to…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 05:41 PM
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It's a trap. She will be nice to you until she wants something in the divorce. They also want to make themselves feel better about the divorce by showing some affection...that way, ripping your heart out isn't so bad because they "let you down gently." It's mixed signals at best, manipulation is more like it. I know it's hard but I'd cut her off as much as you can.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 04:44 PM
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Damn, that sounds horrible. Very sorry to hear about your sister. Divorce is rough, I went through mine two years ago. DM me if you want to talk about it (that goes for any guy on here...whether you're going through some shit or just wanna shoot the shit.)
/r/MensRights01/03/23 04:53 PM
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I wouldn't. Of course, my ex told me she wanted a divorce on her birthday. So I figure we are even.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 04:06 PM
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Thank you for your post. I really appreciate it. Can only speak to my experience being married for twelve years and around her family. I certainly contributed my part to my divorce. But it was a lot of things that made me feel like I didn't matter. Sometimes it was as literal as my ex-wife asking me how my day was, then asking me the same question two hours later. Other things like being blamed for something the kids did when they were toddlers. She would rather accuse me of lying and start an a…
/r/MensRights01/03/23 04:02 AM
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This came up all the time when I was married. I did the stay at home dad thing when our first kid was born, then we had our second kid, up until our first was 3 or 4. She thought by staying home I would do just about all the chores plus cooking. When I couldn't keep up with that and explained that taking care of the babies was more important, she told me she would have fired me if she could have. When we switched and she realized how hard staying at home with small kids was, she apologized to me…
/r/MensRights28/02/23 05:29 PM
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The Respondent by Greg Ellis. Custody battle from the father's point of view.
/r/MensRights26/02/23 10:55 PM
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Because women continue to get away with it. You don't even have to let them into your life. Look what happened to Michael Irvin. Get a lawyer and pray.
/r/MensRights26/02/23 03:10 PM
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Divorce is mourning the dream life you had wanted since you were a kid. Divorce is feeling like you are unworthy of being loved. Divorce is missing your kids even when you're with them.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 02:18 AM
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Imho she is already planning to divorce you. My ex was a SAHM but also highly educated and could make more than I do working. In my case, my attorney said my child support and alimony would be calculated based on my ex-wife's earning potential... meaning she can't just not work and expect you to pay her alimony. Suggest you protect yourself and maybe talk to an attorney. Best of luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 09:11 PM
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In my experience no. My current fwb told me my six inch dick was perfect at hitting her g spot in lots of positions. Another woman who had some experience said I fit her perfectly.
/r/MensRights21/02/23 07:37 PM
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I'm just shocked that CNN defended Nikki Haley
/r/MensRights17/02/23 10:58 PM
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Two years sober here. My ex was my #1 drinking buddy but I'm not sure if she is an alcoholic. My alcoholism pretty much ruined my marriage but I'm glad I'm divorced. That was my rock bottom and I got into AA. Fwiw I don't think I could have gotten sober if I was still with her. She drinks, her family drinks, their friends all drink, and I imagine they would not be supportive. In hindsight it was obvious I was an alcoholic. I never bothered to hide it, I blacked out often, and I was a sloppy drun…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 03:55 PM
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Wound up playing poker....maybe I'll get steak for dinner if it's not too crowded
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 01:18 AM
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It's either play poker or stay home and make myself a nice dinner...sushi or steak.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 03:15 PM
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This is what galls me the most. They want all the glory for being "strong and independent and equal" but also all the perks that used to come with being a woman...dates paid for by the guy, being protected by men when they need it, help lifting heavy things and loosening jar lids, "happy wife happy life" and all the rest. I'm not a mind reader, the cost of helping out the wrong woman and incurring her wrath are just way too high.
/r/MensRights06/02/23 04:54 PM
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I've seen too many comments about women saying they are "afraid" or "uncomfortable" whenever a strange man approaches them...even in broad daylight in public. They want to be left alone, works for me because the consequences of simply getting accused of stalking or being a pedo or whatever are just too high nowadays.
/r/MensRights06/02/23 04:46 PM
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Add her maiden name to our kids names. For me to give up my parenting time when her sister's kids have a birthday party. For my recently added Sunday overnights to be contingent on the kids doing their homework on my time. For communication to go through her mom indefinitely.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 04:38 AM
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Nope, she is trying to bait you into doing something stupid. Don't engage, you don't have to attend every fight you're invited to.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 08:44 PM
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Damn sorry to hear that but this plays out a ton. Wives who want a divorce start packing months or even years before they say anything to the husband. That's why so many guys feel like they are blindsided.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 03:32 AM
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Following, two years since my divorce and right now I don't see how I can trust a woman again.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 07:46 PM
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Trying...hard for me to do sometimes.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 03:11 AM
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Oh Gawd that is my ex to a tee, but she never cheated on me that I know of. It was exhausting.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 01:38 AM
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That's an old school way of thinking and it's incredibly unfair to you. You are not responsible for your mom's happiness. She chooses to pin her happiness on having grandkids but that is not her decision. Don't let her pressure you into a marriage you don't want.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 01:36 AM
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In retrospect this was me too. I met my ex when I was 29 and she was 25. I was her first real boyfriend, but I had dated plenty of women and even moves in with one. My ex was talking marriage in three months...I managed to hold that off for three years. I moved into her place, then we moved into her parents neighborhood because that's what her younger sister did and we "had to keep up." I did my part to get to divorce after 12 years but she was talking divorce after 4 years. It was mostly hell.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 03:50 AM
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Yep, I have to remind myself about this every day. I got divorced once and that is enough for me. If a woman wants to date me, fine. But I'm never getting married again. The downside is just too much risk, and I'm not game for starting all over again. I got snipped so I'm not having any more kids either.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 03:13 PM
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Text back "new phone, who dis?" Imho ignore her. She's playing games and trying to keep you emotionally attached to her. Move on just like you're doing.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 08:35 AM
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"It means valuing your own internal world and respecting your ideas enough to communicate them effectively." - then having your wife tell you that you're wrong anyways 😉
/r/MensRights15/08/22 04:54 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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