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Question For WomenAtenRaza/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 12:16 PM
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its backed by evolutionary psychology. decades of research. you can check foundational works, most famously from David Buss
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 10:56 PM
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everyone draws the line differently. i draw it at what i personally find attractive. and thus dont want to share. think of it like someone finding a really niche outfit attractive, and wanting to be the only one to see their partner wearing it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:51 PM
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Right, i try to preselect for aligned people who are already modest, but you can only know so little without asking
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:18 PM
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i asked women, not kids like you, if you cant handle an argument without turning it into a tantrum contest, thats your own issue to solve.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:38 PM
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but we agree to many things we dont actively want. such as for example moving cities. thats seen as a reasonable request that can end in incompatibility or compromise. not both people want to move but one compromises for the other or they break up. and modesty can be wanted by both people too. i get that alot of time it unilateral, but the issue is that filtering for someone who would be okay with modesty or outright wants it means you have to discuss it with people. and that discussion turns so…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:36 PM
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believe what you will. if you are going to throw a tantrum at every reply then you clearly arent willing to look beyond what you absorbed from the social norms around you. good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:32 PM
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those arent sexually charged. i gave a perfectly valid example with nudes. you re omay with your partner's nudes posted on the internet? many people arent
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:23 PM
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right but monogamy is agreeing to stop a behavior, its willingfully accepting a restriction around the comfort of your partner. does that mean you re a property of anyone? no. so why does willingfully accepting a restriction around outfits suddenly imply ownership ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:22 PM
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but i mreally not saying that , i dont mean it at all, im not passing any moral judgment what so ever. im just saying what works for me, and asking if works for them . can i frame it better perhaps? i d love guidance. perhaps icshould avoid the word modesty?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:20 PM
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i dont get how its control. i dont randomly say it in the middle of the relationship, i say it at the very start and you re free to accept it. and yes, i get that i sound religious alot but im really not. im super progressive about alot of other issues, and i usually dislike how religion handles it. (abortion, lgbtq, gender roles, bread winner...etc) its mainly about exclusivity where i show this level of passion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:19 PM
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absolutely, im willing to go further than that. as long as i find it reaosnable, and what you listed so far, seems very reasonable and barely a sacrifice on my part.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:16 PM
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it doesnt for me. the comfort of my partner is equal to mine. i d rather have someone compatible so we re both comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:14 PM
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doesnt everyone? strong emotions about the sensory input of others is a very common boundary to set. otherwise if a partner had nudes posted everyday it shouldnt matter because why would anyone react to the sensory feelings of people on the internet. however if you mean mine is more extreme for a relativrly normal behavior then sure im with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:10 PM
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i agree, im 100% with you here. thats why im all for not moving goal posts. i set what i need from the start, and not a drop more.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:07 PM
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yeah except it happened to me thats why im saying it like this. when i say modest i dont mean hijabis by the way, im not religious at all. i quite frankly dont care about the style, it can be anything. but you re right maybe thats on me for selecting badly or talking to the wrong people. im sorry if i implied its everyone. not my intention at all
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:06 PM
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thats how its interpreted. i often just say "hey, im modest, i like modesty, i find it a fulfilling dimension of exclusivity in relationship and im wondering if you re like that too, is that something that works for you or not" but somehow its always interpreted badly
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:03 PM
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right , they are , absolutely agree. i just used the extreme end of the spectrum to highlight my point. i didnt mean it as an ewuivelance
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:02 PM
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thank you! Odd? sure if you mean im the minority. i can admit its not fitting in social norm, and would be considered extreme by some. but i dont think its particulary illogical, we all draw the line of exclusivity somewhere. mine happens to be drawn a bit too close for comfort for many women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:01 PM
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its absolutely not! that was an analogy to highlight the logic, not to say they are equivelant
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:59 PM
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yes men will look regardless, its the degree of visual access thats the issue. someone seeing you in normal work clothes vs someone seeing you fully nude isnt the same thing to me. as for self esteem, i do not personally think its an insecurity thing. regardless of the attractivness of the woman im dating. i would want to be the only one that gets to see parts of her. i think self esteem is a factor for many men around this. but thats easily tested by a loyalty litmus test. if my partnrr was mag…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:58 PM
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thats reaosnable to me, i agree fully
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:55 PM
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Right. i completely agree. its just one of those topics you have to make sure about. because you re on fashion trend away from being incompatible, but the discussion often turns defensive
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:55 PM
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never implied it does. every woman gets looks. i said it in the post. my question was about why assume its about that in the first place. its like someone telling you not to sleep around and you assuming theycmeant "dont get anyone pregnant". the sleeping around itself is the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:54 PM
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im 100% with you. but the discussion, even early. even probing what works for them or not (if incompatible we both walk away) it gets very defensive. instead of just "no that doesnt work for me"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:52 PM
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insecurity implies a lack of self confident and self worth. the word has been dragged to the ground and back. some people have different definitions of exclusivity. the same way a person in an open relationship can call you insecure for not wanting your man sleep with other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:51 PM
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at whatever the couple decides they are comfortable with. it can range from covering erotic zones to thighs and shoulder to arms and feet. its up for rhe couple to decide and up to both of them to determine what they are comfortable with. for me personally anything that highlights sexualized zones is physical access. skirts that are too short. crop tops, low chest, or hugging the figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:50 PM
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most men do have opinions on how women should dress. and i nevwr understood this. i couldnt care less what women dress. its their right. here im with you fully. but i care what my partner dresses. and thats it. not passing moral or religious judgment. visual access may be a silly term but someone having nude pictures of my wife is visual access. its just what it is. so an outfit that emphasizes sexualized places is also visual access in my mind. if that doesnt bother you, more power to you, its …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:48 PM
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absolutely! all kinds of people. and he isnt wrong or less valid for the take. its a refreshing take. if thats what works for him, and you are happy with it. then im happy for both of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:45 PM
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absolutely. i emphasized that in the post, regardless what a woman wears, it is very likely she ll be looked at or harassed. thats not what the post is saying. and i get feeling cute. i absolutely believe you. even when no one is looking we like feeling cute. but its what the other looking get to see. do they get to see a cute outfit. or do they get to see you naked. if those are the same to you, then by all mean, i will support your right to do either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:44 PM
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your preferences are completely valid, if that is what you want, thats great and im happy for you. i care however and i want a woman that also cares. i, as a man, wear a shirt and long pants to the beach even if its normalized for men to go shirtless, and i swim in those, there are modest outfits for all kind of weather. breathable and everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:41 PM
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ABSOLUTELY, here i agree with you 100%, the issue i face is, even if you pre select for a relatively modest woman. during the relationship, a new fashion trend will come up, a new situation, a party ..etc that im not comfortable with. and talking about the new outfit almost always results in "i dress for myself, stop being insecure" on the other hand, if i just make my deal breakers clear from the start. and emphasize what outfits are okay. im controlling. its a no win situation unless you just …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:39 PM
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absolutely in fact i stated that in the post. people will look and harass no matter what you wear. the whole post isnt about victim blaming ot saying conservative women are not getting harassed. or you are inviting looks with certain outfits. im saying that people will look regardless. so why not take your partner's comfort and jealousy into the equation and see if it works for you. why is the default to be defensive about "dressing for myself" regardless of the source of the request.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:36 PM
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thats not entirely true, studies have shown time and time again that man react to visual cues more. while women react to emotional infidelity more. what you feel when people see your husband shirtless isnt the same as what he feels when people see you shirtless. plus nobody is stopping you from requesting the same back, you can just as easily ask for him to wear a shirt when at the beach. but women never ask for that because they dont react as strongly to visual cues. if two people agree they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:35 PM
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