Athenalove689 Archive

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2	CMV: There are far more “Amber Heard’s” out there than women let on. I’ve seen it happen in the real world. Although I’d say it’s an outlier and not very common. But women disproportionately get killed by husbands or partners in general.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/22 01:41 PM
1	Don't let anyone shame you my fellow men for having boundaries and self respect. SPECIALLY on Reddit. They will call you 'insecure'. Reasonable boundaries are insecurities now Agreed but my partner definitely tells me stories about his friends that are married sex lives. And he’s not one for gossip. But it happens, I know my bf personally wouldn’t because he’s very private. But I know way more details than I should and it is inappropriate I think. There’s sharing and then there’s over sharing, plus people tell their partners things so it usually doesn’t get told to one person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/22 04:29 AM
1	Don't let anyone shame you my fellow men for having boundaries and self respect. SPECIALLY on Reddit. They will call you 'insecure'. Reasonable boundaries are insecurities now Men absolutely do this too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/22 04:20 AM
3	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them Ok how about the equivalence that women will look to take everything from a man? It happens but that’s not all women. The courts do usually rule in a woman’s favor and men get shafted a good amount and we have to accept that. The same way men should accept that they are the more likely to respond to negative emotions with aggression either passive or active than women do. We don’t walk this earth feeling like we have 50:50 odds when it comes to defending ourselves. That doesn’t mean every man is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 05:36 PM
1	Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally ok I can agree with that , I don’t think they should be alone and obsessed with their kids only either because that’s deff not healthy. I don’t think I think of it in extremes only tho lol. I don’t think the subject should have anything to do with judging single parents sex lives but more so should be looked at as everyone kind of should be reminded with parenting there is more on the line than just the adult. To me assigning a moral judgment on it is what is extreme.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 01:35 PM
-1	Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally ok Because you aren’t opening the door to people who could potentially have a negative effect on your children. Biological parents usually have the best interest and same desire of placing a kid first. When a new partner is involved or you are going out and meeting or dating someone new there are many long term outcomes that can happen. Ranging from mild but still impacting to very negative. Examples ; spending more money to date that could be better spent on the house, inviting people with persona…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 12:35 PM
-1	Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally ok I think a lot of people do. When they say what’s the difference between date night between parents or singles going out to get their needs met. It’s not meant as an insult to them or suggest they don’t date at all but to pretend it’s the same isn’t right I think. As a single parent it is part of the responsibility you choose and you have to be able to put your children’s well being ahead of your own at times especially when they’re younger and defenseless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 12:26 PM
1	Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally ok I’m not suggesting anyone pretend they don’t have needs, but I am suggesting parents shouldn’t take a cavalier attitude when it comes to how their new dating life can effect their children’s lives. There are so many different ways I’ve seen kids be effected and the parents never intended for it to happen, they just didn’t consider long term consequences before actions. I don’t think single parents shouldn’t date but I think because there are children then they should take more caution than a sin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 11:39 AM
1	Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally ok You wouldn’t even have to be introducing them directly to your children at first. If you go the casual and online route you are putting yourself at risk of meeting different kinds of people and the consequences can be varied. I think when you’re single it’s ok to take those chances more but when you are a parent you have to take that you have people who depend on your care first. And with dating , even if you keep them separate at first if you start seeing red flags parents should take extra cau…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 11:14 AM
2	Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally ok I think because in most cases a biological father and mother will have the safety and best interest of the children as their top priority. When introducing new people you can’t make those same assumptions and are opening a door to a whole world of different situations which could negatively impact children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 03:35 AM
2	Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally ok I think one example is when people who are single parents might feel like they have limited options. Their dating pools become smaller. Or if they are looking for casual situations the outside variables increase. Either way it could effect the children if they are not careful who they spend time with because they are now opening the doors to opening their social circles to different people some who may have negative effects on the children. I feel like when you have children and want to date you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 03:32 AM
1	Do you think women are having fewer kids now because of preference, economics or irresponsibility? I’m well aware of the stats and yea, I always felt it’s pretty selfish to run that kind of risk just because people want to have it all. Just have to live with our choices and not make others pay for them as best as possible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/22 01:26 AM
4	Do you think women are having fewer kids now because of preference, economics or irresponsibility? As a woman in my 30s if I’m being honest with myself I think it was that the responsibility of it did scare me. I thought I’d never want kids and I didn’t until I hit 30s. I wish I would’ve started at late 20s though, because I was starting to make more money and I was mature. I’m 32 but I didn’t realize I’d have trouble becoming pregnant and I’m worried I waited too long. My partner of 13 years is the same age and I think we both enjoyed the no kids lifestyle a little too long. Also I’m realizi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/22 03:40 PM
1	Serious question. What TRULY is the point of marriage for men? I didn’t make any assumption about you or even every person who goes this route I said they “tend to be weird” based off of anecdotal observations of different people in my life and in my surroundings. Plus you’re not old right now so that wouldn’t even have included you at all. Good thing is now I think more people will be not married and no kids later and later into their lives so it’ll probably be a completely different experience for people our age when we get into our 60s. But just the ones…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 08:29 PM
3	Serious question. What TRULY is the point of marriage for men? Lol this is the most crass, succinct, but easy to understand version of how I see it. I really like how you were able to convey it in practical terms and with humor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 08:17 PM
0	Serious question. What TRULY is the point of marriage for men? Do you think you’ll feel that way at 60? When you see everyone else have someone to share life with? Even if most marriages fail , people who are divorced will be more likely to date each other rather than someone who has reached older age and never learned to deal with anyone other than themselves. Romantic relationships are a hardship, but that’s not all they are they shape our lives and the way we do many things. People can round and balance each other out. If you know any people who were lif…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 08:11 PM
5	Serious question. What TRULY is the point of marriage for men? Since you mention kids , a woman literally alters her body to have a mans child. If you chose wisely a woman can raise and nurture your children to be successful adults. There are huge differences in outcomes when a child has a capable mother vs not. And yes adults should be able to support themselves, but there will always be unexpected circumstances that happen in life that are made easier with someone to help you when you are down and doing the same for them. It is like cultivating a friendsh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 07:59 PM
0	Serious question. What TRULY is the point of marriage for men? Absolutely the lense seems short sighted. They don’t see further down the road. It’s not just about romance and fairytales. Having someone with you in day to day life holds a mirror up to ourselves and helps us to round out and integrate into society. It’s basically a custom thing as you said, if you chose to forgo it you are also choosing to forgo many different aspects of the human experience. We are not animals and humans don’t do well completely on their own by themselves, and definitely not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 07:37 PM
1	Serious question. What TRULY is the point of marriage for men? I mean women are better at being nurturing. A man won’t be healthy and young forever. He might get sick and want or need someone to care for him , keep him company. Aside from that women and men balance each other out. Have you seen how unmarried lifelong single people live when they get older of either gender ? They become a bit weird because they have no one to challenge their idiosyncrasies. I’ve seen women and men who chose the single route and they all have something in common, they have no…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 07:27 PM
3	Close Friends and Activities You’re the only person on here I seem to agree with on this subject. Lunches out in mixed company semi regularly maybe, if they worked together I’d be more open. But it’s he’s going out of his way to spend that much free time with another woman, has to make time for guy friends, family, work, and hobbies where would a romantic relationship even fit in time wise? I think to make that much time for an opposite gender friend of any capacity is a recipe for disaster and I wouldn’t be comfortable wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/22 04:52 AM
8	The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spot I think the point is that it would be hurtful to read about your partner being that blunt. I would most likely be hurt to hear my partner listing out all of my unattractive features like that. I mean you can be realistic and say I don’t place high value on looks as much as personality or neither of us are the pinnacle of sexy and that might be easier to swallow. I get what he means even though my partner is conventionally attractive if anyone talked like that it’s reasonable to see how that coul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/22 03:46 PM
5	I wish I didn’t have to work I had the same initial thoughts to this post, and i really like how practical and spelled out your advice was. I know the truth is hard to hear some times but if it is taken with an open mind and weighed out OP could really get what she wants eventually but like everything in life it takes hard work. One thing I’d like to add that I didn’t see here was to approach that gently with husband. Because she said she was grateful and then said she wished he made more so she can be a full time mom. I th…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/22 04:49 PM
7	How do you deal with "the wall"? First that mindset isn’t attractive because you will give off the impression that you are less than and most people are not attracted to that frame of mind. Second is that you can optimize and be realistic, you won’t be the first choice of a 25 year old man but there are many 35-37 year old men who have spend a lot of time in schooling and career and would go crazy for a woman who is a few years younger but mature and well kept appearance wise. Everyone will get older and some women are in their…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/22 04:36 PM
3	What should be the consequence of false paternity I feel like jail time will over all cause more harm than good. They should be forced to work and pay tax dollars. An ankle monitor although extreme would probably be an idea. I think they should force people who behave this way to do community services that are needed. That way it cuts into their personal life, isn’t a burden on the jail system or foster system, and forces these people to work which is likely why they tried to commit fraud in the first place. Along side with setting up a payment…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/22 02:37 PM
1	What should be the consequence of false paternity I wish there was the possibility of courts ordering some kind of public service program where people who do that, or try to get out of child support or can’t pay child support. They could give them jobs or tasks alongside some kind of rehabilitation classes so they are made fully aware of the impact they can have on children they don’t care for. They can stress the importance of not creating children they won’t care for, show them resources to come up with better strategies for child raising. Dr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/22 02:31 PM
3	What are some of the expectations of women in dating/sex/relationships that you would like to see changed? I do believe and have seen that some men don’t like it and either they decline the advances or just sleep with them and don’t pursue relationships with those women. But some men do like it and will gladly go along. My sister walked up to a guy and took him by the hand and asked him to buy her a drink and he did. Their whole relationship pretty much went like that and they are now married. He’s the breadwinner but she is in charge and what she says goes lol. We joke and say she’s got a saint for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/22 04:26 PM
1	Women of this sub, When I came across the name I thought it was a mixture of blue pill and red pill which I never felt like I fit into either and thought it was a middle pill for peoples like me. But it kinda just seems like it’s a platform for either to debate things. It’s cool though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/22 06:08 AM
2	What's your opinions on 40 year olds sleeping with 20 year olds? Absolutely lol I wouldn’t think they were looking to be serious long term partners. I was just commenting because I didn’t understand why they swapped the genders for the comment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/22 04:57 AM
6	What's your opinions on 40 year olds sleeping with 20 year olds? I mean if the op was about an older guy dating much younger it would make more sense. This is a question about a younger man and older woman. Wouldn’t that just make older women more hopeful to still be relevant at some level?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/22 04:51 AM
7	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity The only males that are victims are the ones who give up masculinity and cry about it waiting for someone else to come and fix their lives and end up getting crushed by life’s challenges . How can men be oppressors and victims at the same time? Inferiority is mutable and can change by circumstances at any given time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 11:11 PM
1	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity Oh wow I didn’t realize that. But it pretty much confirms that the most unreasonable stances people can take in a discussion are usually because of something inside themselves and it doesn’t accurately reflect the target of their aim.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 08:31 PM
0	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity That’s because people want to run away from traditional roles and rules from the past. But at the end of the day it’s pretty hard to ignore biological imperative. Men over saturating women with attention, and women over exposing themselves has turned each side off to the other to an extent. But they both have always been parts of history and will in the future at least in our life time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 08:07 PM
1	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity I meant society as it is today has allowed me to have a career in a health field that is dominated and better suited for women and has allowed me to earn a higher income. That doesn’t mean I’d be better off on my own or that I should disrespect a man because his field is different. I was attracted to a strong willed, hard working and determined man, and he’s better at saving than me. He doesn’t earn as much but he is able to do so much more than I do because I’m frivolous with spending. Instead …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 06:52 PM
3	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity Some women still absolutely do want them lol. And is male attention really that unwanted? For all of the women that are going the less feminine route, there are still women putting themselves at risk getting surgeries that enhance and exaggerate their female traits. You can’t tell me some women are paying 15k a pop for Brazilian butt lifts to impress other women lol. And yet it’s the most popular surgery in the United States. Both of those are extremes to me, but I wouldn’t say it’s the most unw…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 06:25 PM
0	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity This is so funny but true lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 06:09 PM
3	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity I absolutely agree with that. I think the popular opinions are ones that don’t cause people who feel hurt to entertain the option that they could have a hand in their current situation and want to jump on the bandwagon that it’s someone else outside of themselves fault. That’s pretty much what has historically always started major issues to humanity. And I know not everyone has to or wants to follow it, we really are each making our choice. I believe femininity is the most successful way I’ve go…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 05:41 PM
1	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity You shouldn’t feel bad for speaking your mind it was a valid point. But I do think if everyone takes on that attitude is why it will truly never have a chance at repair. I think people feeling discouraged and being combative instead of collaborative is the reason why dynamics got to this point in the first place. It is everyone’s personal choice at the end of the day, and I personally don’t plan to give up trying and doing my part and I am with someone who also feels a sense of duty to do his. M…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 04:48 PM
2	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity They shouldn’t want to do that. Which is why I put its a distorted form of femininity. The pole dancing isn’t what’s powerful, what is is that men who work those jobs that are generally harder labor than jobs most women have, will line up around a door to throw the fruits of their labor at women’s feet. You’d be hard pressed to find a woman that is going to do back breaking work and then throw her money to a man for undressing. Women can conquer but not through a physical battle. I actually beli…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 03:55 PM
1	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity I think first reading this comment it may come off as offensive but I couldn’t honestly disagree with what you’re saying. When i see people’s relationship dynamics this seems to be a common theme. It’s like they both start to refuse to participate in their respective roles and then pull the other way. I don’t think it’s one side started and caused the other to rebel though. I think it started in smaller ways that snowballed on both sides unfortunately. And we have to figure out a way to incorpor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 03:19 PM
5	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity I think that the reason femininity has been reduced to that is because somewhere along the line , feminine and masculine traits have been diluted and distorted and maybe passed down and gone not corrected. Yes men have a physical advantage over them, but at the core who do most men completely turn soft for ? Their mothers, sisters, daughters. Historically there have been women that have gotten men to get into wars and wielded their femininity over men and turn them into teddy bears. I think the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 02:41 PM
2	Until feminine attributes are no longer connected with inferiority and being under a man, more women are going to reject traditional femininity I agree with your first three paragraphs. But I also have seen that people think of these words in black and white and that’s when the problems you describe happen. Being submissive and vulnerable doesn’t mean to tolerate poor behavior. And being aggressive and masculine won’t shield you very long from those things if the person you choose has those behaviors in their nature. There’s the option to be alone and take care of yourself which in today’s society is more viable than ever before. My per…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 02:18 PM
2	What do you believe is holding you back from a successful relationship? This is exactly what we need right now! To be optimistic because it’s our best chance at figuring life out together. Have a great week !	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/22 05:17 AM
4	What do you believe is holding you back from a successful relationship? These interactions give me so much hope. I’m not a mom but just seeing there are people who can look at things in a positive light gives me so much hope. You guys are awesome	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/22 04:33 AM
1	The biggest dating hurdle for men is accessibility, the biggest dating hurdle for women is safety. Yea that was my point to your first comment, there is a middle ground. I think women do have to be cautious because we are generally more vulnerable. But I wouldn’t go around acting like nor do I feel that every man is a predator. It’s kind of like being cautious about sexual health when it comes to dating someone. You can’t go around being erratic making blanket accusations, but I wouldn’t suggest putting your health in someone else’s hands and not being aware of potential situations you could …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/22 12:49 AM
1	The biggest dating hurdle for men is accessibility, the biggest dating hurdle for women is safety. That’s ok, I’ll be a neurotic weakling rather than pretending danger doesn’t exist at all. And I’m sure you can’t even escape news stories that get blasted all over the media anytime you get on the internet or amber alerts to your phone, or walk into convenience stores and see headlines on every news paper you pick up. And I never said men should be therapists, but if you think completely dismissing any concerns or thoughts the person you’re interested in dating ( goes for men and women) is a sm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 07:02 PM
0	The biggest dating hurdle for men is accessibility, the biggest dating hurdle for women is safety. If you had a daughter or sister would you tell her it’s ok to not have that fear somewhere in the back of her mind while making decisions? Yes more men get assaulted and all of those things but how many times is it by women ? I think it’s fair to say most of those attacks on men are women are done by men. And I personally know that not all men do that and there are many good men that would stop something like that. But why wouldn’t we be more scared if more times than not if it came down to it w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 06:47 PM
0	The biggest dating hurdle for men is accessibility, the biggest dating hurdle for women is safety. I also believe more men die but even they most likely had a better chance at defending themselves than women do. Look at the diff standards women and men have in sports , because men are bigger stronger and faster than us in most cases. So if your average woman had to defend herself in a worst case scenario her chances of that are less than a mans you could argue. Not saying that all men will attack you bc that’s not true. But if you can agree most acts of physical aggression that lead to someon…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 06:36 PM
3	The biggest dating hurdle for men is accessibility, the biggest dating hurdle for women is safety. They might not be getting full on assaulted but there’s stalking, or people taking rejection poorly, maybe just misunderstandings where a guy is overly eager/excited and those situations can be intimidating to women. I wouldn’t even say it’s just women choosing to over blow it, the media pretty much scared the shit out of us on that topic though so I do agree to an extent. But all in all a woman only has so many lines of defense just in case and it’s human nature to be hyper aware of danger it’s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/22 06:08 PM
11	Do women really date “gross” and “unkempt men? This happened to me ! I wouldn’t have believed it until I experienced it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/21 02:39 AM
1	Bf wanted to see aunt flo I didn’t find it insensitive, and I asked so I’m open to opinions. You’re not totally wrong with that guess, I just have only been asked for that by one shorter term relationship and I thought it was so bizarre so when I saw this post I was very curious to see what the general consensus was.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/05/21 01:52 AM
3	Bf wanted to see aunt flo No judgement at all , I am genuinely curious what you mean by it’s not unusual? Reading all the responses has me thinking about when I had a major issues when asked this by one person. He did it after I turned down being intimate because of my period and he wanted to see proof and thought I wasn’t being honest about why. Now I’m wondering if I might’ve blown it out of proportion. I’ve never considered that it could be a common thing ? I feel old now lol.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/05/21 07:48 PM
6	Bf wanted to see aunt flo Sexual kinks aside do you think that it might be intrusive to ask someone to do this? I am 32 and maybe out of touch with younger generations but I was asked to do this before and I was extremely uncomfortable and said no because I felt like it was intrusive. Maybe a middle ground suggestion would be for them to talk about when she’s not on her period so she can understand why and then make a decision from there? Because asking then and there to see it seems pretty pushy and would take most peop…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/05/21 07:34 PM
4	I'm a whiny ass bitch with a HUGE victim complex-- Suggest me a book to yank me the fuck out of that Yes ! I started by listening to his videos on YouTube and they were so eye opening and helpful. He really knows how to explain things in a way that makes sense and gives constructive practical solutions.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/01/21 04:03 PM
2	LVM want you to think this is a pipe dream They really are out there !	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/04/20 05:06 AM