Atibana Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Mystery Method? Yes that’s very old school perspective. Plenty of well know PUA’s teach direct approach all day. It’s all tone and body language. If you are relaxed and act like the approach is normal it feels normal. Be flirty early, never introduce yourself.	/r/seduction	07/02/26 03:01 PM
2	Mystery Method? I highly disagree. There is a ton of skill progression.	/r/seduction	07/02/26 02:38 PM
7	Mystery Method? I learned so much from him, but have done way better in life going direct. Maybe different styles are better for different people. If you can keep your calm going direct is the most value producing thing you can do. My opener use to be “you’re so fucking hot” way back in the day. You won’t believe how well it worked.	/r/seduction	07/02/26 11:45 AM
11	What are subtle ways women flirt with men? Good call on cultural differences, so true	/r/seduction	07/01/26 09:00 AM
1	Sex feels like a chore but love the attention There was not enough stimulation on my dick to cum. From years of jerking off too intensely basically desensitized my dick, needed to back off.	/r/seduction	05/01/26 10:00 PM
1	Sex feels like a chore but love the attention I couldn’t cum because of how much I masturbated when I first started having sex. It sucked. Definitely jerk off less or not at all. Nowadays I purposely don’t jerk off for at least 3 days before a potential sexual encounter, the sex is so much better.	/r/seduction	05/01/26 03:59 PM
5	Curious, what was your easiest lay? She probably knew and closed the deal	/r/seduction	14/12/25 05:07 PM
2	Role playing in the bedroom kinda screws up your perception of women My guess is they are neither. Not everyone fits into one side of that polarity. Power dynamics isn’t a turn on for them.	/r/seduction	11/12/25 08:12 PM
47	Role playing in the bedroom kinda screws up your perception of women You want tenderness and respect in reality, but we’re talking about fantasies? So they are more extreme and fun. No one reads a fantasy book about two people going to the grocery store. What you’re describing is also submissive fantasies. If you yourself don’t have a domination ish kink they will seem strange. I am a dom so I fit so well with girls with submissive kinks it’s a beautiful thing.	/r/seduction	11/12/25 03:42 PM
31	How do I get rid of the “There’s no point in trying, there’s no way she’d like me” feeling! I don’t think it will go away until you get a win. Which means approaching in spite of the feeling. Feel pride in the power that you’re the type of person that goes for it against the odds. Focus more on the positive feeling of that being part of your identity, rather than if the girl likes you or not. Eventually you will get some wins and it will make you redefine who you thought you were.	/r/seduction	24/11/25 12:28 AM
2	Change my view: leading women on is the most effective way to be a man who sleeps around. Yes I agree with what you’re saying. The moral tightrope is complicated. That’s why I wasn’t completely against doing it.	/r/seduction	20/11/25 09:54 AM
26	Change my view: leading women on is the most effective way to be a man who sleeps around. The more lies you tell well the more you get in a lot of areas of life. That’s not news. It costs you your reputation usually, and can cause painful regret later, but in seduction you can just never see the girl again so there is less external downside. I used to work in sales and you convince yourself of what is an ethical misleading (I know this product is still good for them, so I’ll let them keep believing xyz and not correct them) and an unethical one (straight lying about some number). But…	/r/seduction	18/11/25 11:45 AM
1	Am I allowed to tell you verbatim what various books tell you to say and do in interactions? How much is lots?	/r/seduction	26/09/25 02:48 PM
1	Am I allowed to tell you verbatim what various books tell you to say and do in interactions? How much approaching have you done? Oftentimes advice seems bad and doesn’t work until you start to improve then you come back and realize what they meant. It’s hard to learn through books without the person physically there.	/r/seduction	26/09/25 02:31 PM
0	Is cold approach worth it? Almost every romcom or romance movie is some kind of cold approach. They don’t usually meet through mutual friends lol. Women want them you just have to be good looking or at least good at it. Yes it’s good do it. I would say it’s easiest in heavily social contexts. Bar, party, club, local event, etc. Them reading a book sitting in a park or in line waiting for a coffee is much harder and I have some reservations about. People just wanting their own space.	/r/seduction	30/06/25 01:44 AM
5	What are the things that can seduced a man? You need to ask women who are good at seducing men how they do it. Men are the last people you should ask, they will give bad generic answers about looks. It’s like when men ask women for dating advice and they say to dress well and be yourself. There’s probably a lot more to it. I’ll talk about times that I’ve been attracted to girls who are not conventionally attractive. Often then had a very real mystique. They had a slow sensual way of moving and speaking. They also always kept me at arms le…	/r/seduction	27/06/25 07:33 AM
1	How to win against physically attractive guys I’ve never had success head to head. But I’ve had plenty of success in general. Generally not worth it in my opinion. There’s an 8 that you would love to be with any day of the week, except when there’s a 10 in the same room fawning over you. Very very hard.	/r/seduction	06/06/25 06:46 PM
4	So, I got my first lay from cold approach. What am I supposed to do next? I don’t think you realize how many men can’t come close to doing what you did. Not the lay, the 2 approaches every day over and over for months. You should be thanking the gods to have that temperament and ability. I was the same way, just approaching endlessly, because I read that was what you’re supposed to do. It was only later I learned that was unique, and everyone I met into seduction had under 20 approaches to their name. You da man! 💪	/r/seduction	27/02/25 06:51 PM
4	First proper cold approach with a 10 Thanks for being open. I have you beat at 20 years. What you’re saying hasn’t been my experience. I used to approach girls in bars and the first words out of my mouth would be “You’re so fucking hot”, would often be making out with them then within 20 minutes. Disinterest is a different game and can work, but overt interest can work if you are presenting a lot of value. The reason it doesn’t work is because guys come off needy and unattractive. So they need to feign disinterest to start to look …	/r/seduction	19/11/24 08:03 PM
22	First proper cold approach with a 10 Nah dude you did great, people here are too scared of hitting on girls. If you have the right vibe this is the move.	/r/seduction	19/11/24 01:57 PM
5	First proper cold approach with a 10 lol no. It’s called hitting on girls, works all the time if you present attractive, not just looks just your whole attitude. It doesn’t work if you don’t present attractive, then you have to play disinterested games.	/r/seduction	19/11/24 01:56 PM
1	Can u still get a girlfriend if you’re ugly and have little money Yes	/r/seduction	07/10/24 06:28 PM
1	“There’s a lot of girls in ur area, why don’t u have a gf?” That’s a good question. I guess it’s hard to find the right person.	/r/seduction	25/09/24 11:50 AM
1	What happens to those guys who can easily get sex, but not a relationship? I was in the category. For me it was about being too forward, and maybe somewhat eccentric. On a night out being eccentric is interesting, and I can seduce them quickly. But the next day they have buyers remorse. Eccentric is less cute and why is this guy so forward. I’ve learned, news flash, women move slower than men? And even though you technically can seduce them quickly, that was a pace they can later regret. Also I calmed my eccentricities a bit lol. Also I was broke, so maybe fun to lay f…	/r/seduction	24/09/24 12:38 AM
6	I approached a beautiful woman on the train today, here’s how it went. Nah, his game was solid. Game is like 10% what you actually say, and mostly how you say it. I would lead with real compliments all the time and did great.	/r/seduction	08/09/24 12:09 PM
2	Has being super obvious about your interest ever worked? Might have been less than 5 minutes now that I’m trying to remember. I think I just led her to a more private area of the bar and started making out.	/r/seduction	13/08/24 10:59 AM
16	Has being super obvious about your interest ever worked? I used to have an opener that was “you’re so fucking hot”. Worked very well. Once a girl immediately grabbed my junk to see how I would react. I didn’t flinch and we made out 5 mins later. She was an 8.	/r/seduction	11/08/24 02:47 AM
1	Why do I get attention from girls at parties but not in everyday life? It’s not about you, this is true for everyone in these two settings	/r/seduction	05/02/24 07:22 PM
1	I went on 18 first dates in January - here’s the breakdown of my results + my insights Tourist seasons? Care to expand?	/r/seduction	02/02/24 07:03 PM
1	I went on 18 first dates in January - here’s the breakdown of my results + my insights Did it get stale for you?	/r/seduction	02/02/24 06:56 PM
5	“That’s not supposed to be ur response” head ass Yes give story	/r/PussyPassDenied	23/08/22 05:57 PM
1	I can't fake it til I make it. Everyone is boring to me. I’m confused about the bursting out laughing while flirting, why are you laughing what seems funny?	/r/seduction	05/07/22 12:03 PM
0	Is it possible to cold approach and have sex same day? Yes totally, I’ve done it a few times. Approached a girl at a party and we went back to her place later that night and did the deed.	/r/seduction	02/07/22 11:39 PM
14	Look at your own life, Do you honestly think your life would be better if you were a woman? Nope, happy being a man.	/r/AntiFeminists	25/05/22 05:09 PM
5	Girl of my dreams Wow she is a straight fox, congrats my man. Good work overcoming your own doubt.	/r/seduction	20/05/22 12:27 PM
2	I hate dating as a man Although this is an unpopular opinion it’s just as bad for girls just differently. Impossible to find a guy who doesn’t want to just have sex, guys never wanting to label it etc. yes some women fool around too but not nearly as common.	/r/seduction	08/05/22 09:47 PM
1	Girls disappearing after sex Hmm yea this is a bad sign, it implies that once girls get to know you they are either not attracted to you or just plain don't like you. Your tinder game is probably tight, and maybe approach game, but the literal having the date segment may be weak. I had a similar struggle, I was great at one night stands, but girls wouldn't stick around. I would focus on having fun, coming off mature and put together, and playfull flirty. Good luck.	/r/seduction	01/05/22 01:17 PM
3	Girls disappearing after sex The first time you hung out you had sex? I think this is part of the problem, it’s buyers remorse, it probably makes her feel like a slut the next day even though she wanted to do it before, like the female version of post nut clarity. I would recommend going on a few not sex dates first if you want them to stick around. I used to have this exact same problem. Also make sure your place is very well put together and mature, once the girl is there she may follow through but if your place is too ba…	/r/seduction	01/05/22 11:07 AM
3	Why is sleeping with a huge number of women considered so desireble? There’s no good answer for this we just want to. Same way you want one girl.	/r/seduction	30/04/22 04:04 PM
1	Is there a sub like this from women? I don't think its true for most women either, and I don't think most men struggle to get any girl whatsoever, just ones within their standards however low. Guess we'll never know for sure.	/r/seduction	30/04/22 12:36 PM
40	would you rather have sex with one girl for life or will you keep having sex with different girls His boring what?	/r/seduction	28/04/22 11:25 PM
1	Is there a sub like this from women? I’m sure there are women in the same situation, there are people in every situation as you’ve just demonstrated, so not all women have these easy options.	/r/seduction	28/04/22 09:01 PM
1	Is there a sub like this from women? I think this is your personal experience, have been in the game a very long time and rarely found a person like that, they just don't want to try with a very unattractive girl.	/r/seduction	28/04/22 01:33 AM
0	Is there a sub like this from women? I mean men have the same problem, they all wanna fuck the hottest girls, and get mad when it doesn't happen, "Why don't girls want to date me?" People who learn seduction are trying to get more favorable odds, same thing for women. Their game is to find and get men to commit that they also find attractive.	/r/seduction	27/04/22 08:03 PM
4	Is there a sub like this from women? Just a stronger argument they need good game.	/r/seduction	27/04/22 07:59 PM
1	Tinder’s Algorithm is a scam How is it a scam? The paid version is going to be better, the free version should suck. Paying for services is normal not a scam.	/r/seduction	19/04/22 02:31 PM
6	I became her "gay friend", now what? I would advise not staying friends with her unless you can genuinely “turn off” feeling for her, which I don’t really believe people can do. If you stay friends with her it is a dishonest friendship because you have feelings for her.	/r/seduction	16/04/22 08:31 PM
135	Is it even possible to be good with women and have a 9-5 job? Hey bud, everyone is hating on you a bit but I know what you mean. The simple answer is it’s possible but hard like a lot of things in life. You have to make the uncomfortable decision of choosing to grow and go out over time wasted in cold comforts like tv etc. Maybe try and focus on things that give you energy. Things like a half hour nap when you get home or more exercise etc. in regards to corporate world making you have less of a personality this just isn’t true, it’s just harder to have on…	/r/seduction	14/04/22 06:58 PM
2	I’m so dismal at conversation it makes me want to end it all... I would recommend you record yourself talking, maybe telling a story or reading a conversation script, and just keep trying to sound better. If it’s a text convo that you struggle with you need to study up. Sorry you’re having a hard time. Why not get an escort?	/r/seduction	12/04/22 09:43 PM
0	Cannot get hook ups. Have to resort to this. Not much to contribute but I remember reading that rich guys have this problem too when girls get to their house, not sure if you’re rich. Once woman see the potential they switch gears and don’t just want to hook up. Not sure what the solution there is but the more you know.	/r/seduction	10/04/22 04:11 PM
1	Girl is hinting at dick pic but I don’t have that big of a Dick? Dude 5.5 is fantastic go for it.	/r/seduction	01/04/22 10:07 PM
6	Well, why do men kill themselves if the system is for men? Your own source shows a difference of ownership of 18% not nearly making up for the difference in suicide rates. 👍	/r/AntiFeminists	19/03/22 01:43 PM
2	It's almost like they legitimately don't know what MRAs actually are I think it’s a good point that the focus should be more for men not to go to war either. The less people the better. I would be sad if me and my wife had to go to war and less sad if just one of us did.	/r/AntiFeminists	27/02/22 03:55 PM
-4	This is just fucking stupid Don’t listen to these idiots, I am generally not a feminism fan, but they are just being dumb and trying to be clever, I understand what you are saying.	/r/AntiFeminists	16/02/22 01:31 PM
0	This was a hilarious thread on twitter. Link in comments Why is this on this sub?	/r/AntiFeminists	08/02/22 01:45 PM
0	Actions have consequences This post doesn’t belong here, this is more anti women than anti feminist	/r/AntiFeminists	28/02/21 12:18 AM
0	I (21F) just joined this subreddit Welcome!	/r/AntiFeminists	16/02/21 01:20 PM
2	Can't be my man Yea this doesn’t seem that crazy too me. But I guess the distasteful part is posting about it.	/r/PussyPassDenied	31/10/19 04:13 PM
-6	F i guess? Nah you’re good, she was denied what she thought was an easy date because she was a woman, the people arguing with you about it are idiots.	/r/PussyPassDenied	14/10/19 08:24 PM
2	Ouch... had it coming though Yea but can't you see why that's at least strange? You are literally being the people you don't like. I think it's reasonable to try to not be the people you don't like.	/r/PussyPassDenied	27/04/19 05:54 PM
1	Ouch... had it coming though It’s not cool to be mean, even to mean people. It’s just immature, why would you emulate the person you’re condemning? That doesn’t make any sense.	/r/PussyPassDenied	27/04/19 05:06 PM
2	Cheater gets what’s coming. How petty can you be.	/r/PussyPassDenied	14/02/19 01:32 PM
-11	Ouch... had it coming though This is mean.	/r/PussyPassDenied	07/02/19 02:41 AM
0	Women causally expects man to treat her to an expensive dinner. You’re forgetting that more workers create more value as well. By your logic low population countries should be full of rich people. The sudden influx does cause problems but over a few decades of women creating businesses and innovating causes the value they create to stabilize wages.	/r/PussyPassDenied	01/02/19 01:50 PM
14	Women causally expects man to treat her to an expensive dinner. Nah, there’s some temporary truth to this but by now that truth is gone. A sudden influx can be difficult but that influx of workers also create double the value. That’s why by this logic if there were 1000 people and you were one of them you would be a billionaire, it doesn’t work like that.	/r/PussyPassDenied	01/02/19 12:13 PM
-1	Treat everyone equally maybe? Im a father with a baby and agree with this somewhat. I’ve been the struggling college kids working and taking 8 classes before. Nothing compares to having a baby, those classes and that job were a joke. There’s no way to enforce this in an ethical way, so yea this shouldn’t happen, but just like I let a pregnant woman take my seat on the bus, if you overhear a woman talk about staying up all night with her two kids, let her skip you in line.	/r/PussyPassDenied	26/01/19 03:04 PM