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I haven’t heard this one. Got a link?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/07/26 05:05 AM
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Maybe not the very inception, but only shortly thereafter. And perhaps not all men all the time, but certain types of men (for instance, men of color)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/06/26 08:58 AM
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I met two long term girlfriends on twitter. That doesn’t seem possible these days. Like, at all. I used to interact with so many people regularly, most in a friendly manner. That never happens anymore.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/02/26 01:22 PM
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Nah Twitter’s algorithm, as well as Threads’, is absolutely dialed the fuck in. Guaranteed to make you feel something negative within 60 seconds, damn near. Twitter’s been like that for a couple years now I feel.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/02/26 12:40 PM
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I have a friend whose gf was arrested after she hit him. He didn’t call, they were called because she was screaming. She’s seemingly made his life even more hell than it was, and he feels obligated to ensure there’s as little fallout as possible from this. My state didn’t require the victim to press charges, they’ll often press charges regardless.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/01/26 08:55 PM
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Is “Bromance” automatically disparaging? I personally don’t see it that way, although I have heard it used in such fashion. But much of the time, I feel, it’s not meant to disparage, especially given its use in movie genre discussions
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/11/25 10:12 AM
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Wow I really appreciate that, thank you!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/10/25 09:51 AM
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Could you expound upon this please?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/10/25 08:40 AM
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Thank you for mentioning these, holy shit. Both are comments I've directly rebutted several times in the last year. One other thing while I'm here - I noticed that when men do something that isolates them, or in considered socially unhealthy, sometimes you'll see a comment talking about how this is an example of one of the reasons the suicide rate in men is so high. On posts talking about the high suicide rates in men, there's always a comment about women attempting more but choosing less deadly…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/10/25 01:26 PM
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The maternal mortality rate usually includes homicide if it occurs within 42 days or 1 year of pregnancy (depending on whose data is being used)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/10/25 06:08 PM
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Any sexual contact between a female prison employee and a male inmate is inherently non-consensual due to the inability of an inmate to consent. Beyond that though, it’s the rates of abuse of underage inmates by female prison staff I’m sure I was trying to highlight
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/09/25 10:45 AM
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The groom wears a white shirt, but not a white suit, traditionally. Black and blue are much more common than white
/r/EverydayMisandry03/09/25 06:59 AM
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I wore a purple suit to my friend’s wedding. Great choice by me
/r/EverydayMisandry03/09/25 06:53 AM
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People call their male friends “girl” these days, that’s common enough. What could have been used instead of “guys like you?” I don’t think there’s much else that works well. “You” is very general, “people like you” is over broad.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/08/25 02:06 AM
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I think a lot of have had a girl that not our girl but that’s our girl tho.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/08/25 05:28 AM
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There are a number of men who can’t handle a woman having any confidence whatsoever. Partially because self promotion is often considered a masculine trait. Regardless of the reason, it’s not cool to try to minimize women who are self confident. There are also a number of hubristic, arrogant women, who think any critique about their boastfulness is an attack on women’s accomplishments. You know how it’s expected that men are confident? Do you know how thin the line can be between confidence and …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 12:38 PM
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I’m seeing this in a friend right now. She wants a good man, one that she could marry, etc. But she knowingly chooses the wrong men. The first guy, he’s coworker, and he is a known slut. Community dick. But still, she had a thing for him and they started dating. She’s vented to me about stuff he has or hasn’t done, and I just listen. She met this other dude, who told her shortly after meeting that he was going to serve time in jail for DWI. That’s okay, she waits for him to get out of jail, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 12:16 PM
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Do women like men who think they are 10s?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 12:09 PM
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That guy: I don’t like waffles You: OKAY AND PANCAKES ARE BETTER??
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 12:06 PM
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What is the context of the rest of the conversation? It’s a weird comment overall tho
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 12:04 PM
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What do you mean does that actually happen? MILFs have been prominent in discourse for a long time. Cougars too. These aren’t jokes. There are tons of very attractive mothers that I see all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 09:23 AM
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Is that what is being said?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 09:20 AM
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You got that reaction from a late twenties to early twenties scenario? Jesus. I myself dated a 30 year old when I was 23. At the same time, I’m attracted to this new girl at work but she’s like 22-23 and I’m 29, and I feel like I may be too old.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/07/25 09:40 AM
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Why wouldn’t you date a bisexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:38 AM
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The religion doesn’t matter as long as she’s not an atheist?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:27 AM
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If she had a kid already, are you personally cool with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:26 AM
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The marriage statistics show that marriage is much more variable when the status of the man changes. Higher employment at higher incomes at younger ages in men results in lower ages of average marriage. No such association exists for women. Studies on marriage rates in different racial demographics has shown this. It’s not that men are desperate for anyone, or that women only care about resource acquisition, but on average men aren’t as selective as women in terms of mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:25 AM
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And those people will make that point, completely seriously, and then deny that anti-Black misandry is a thing.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/06/25 08:24 PM
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Fewer
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 05:55 PM
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I’m in Austin, I wouldn’t have thought people felt they needed to wear makeup more than anywhere else. In fact, much less so in this city. Most of my exes wore little to know makeup most of the time. I’ve never heard anyone really mention a lack of makeup, especially not a man, though I suppose that sort of discrimination is less verbal and sometimes even subconscious But I imagine if she was, say, a realtor in DFW, that’s a little bit different than an accountant in Austin.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/06/25 01:44 PM
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SoCal? I’m trying to figure out what part of the county cares the most
/r/EverydayMisandry06/06/25 08:10 AM
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“When there is not enough religion in the pulpit to organize a crusade against sin; nor justice in the court house to promptly punish crime; nor manhood enough in the nation to put a sheltering arm about innocence and virtue----if it needs lynching to protect woman's dearest possession from the ravening human beasts----then I say lynch, a thousand times a week if necessary.” Rebecca Latimer Felton August 11, 1897
/r/EverydayMisandry01/06/25 08:36 PM
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The person who coined the term actually wrote the book that was being explained to her, to be fair
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/05/25 03:35 PM
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That’s not true. Have you heard of Shia and Sunni Muslims?
/r/EverydayMisandry16/05/25 05:53 PM
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Answer: It depends on who is asking. I, of course, would want to minimize my expenditure and maximize my time kissing you, even if it took misrepresenting how pretty I thought you were to whomever is the broker selling access to kisses
/r/EverydayMisandry09/05/25 04:12 AM
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How do we know that agreeableness is nature, as opposed to nurture?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/05/25 12:48 AM
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One of the worst things is that if you are the guy you described, there are no shortage of people from either end of the spectrum who will assert you’re not a real man because _____. Not passionate enough? Not a man “Too nice” is a big one. People assume you’re a pushover and thus not a man. Too sensitive? You already know Too expressive, and easily befriends women? People think you’re gay. Which I don’t think is effeminate personally but people associate these traits with being effeminate and t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/05/25 11:12 PM
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That’s mental load, isn’t it? Different from emotional labor
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/05/25 04:39 AM
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Is the answer financial or mental health related?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:40 AM
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It's extremely annoying, if not harmful in and of itself. Here's a comment I left the other day. Someone was asking why young men may be drawn torward red pill idology. OP and most other commenters proceed to pathologize these boys and men, assigning desires and intent to them that makes them seem like completely different species of people. I feel like people see the most one-sided, article, where they go on an incel forum and look for the worst posts they can find, find violent misogyny, and a…
/r/EverydayMisandry29/04/25 06:09 PM
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No one is saying the right is a better choice here
/r/EverydayMisandry27/04/25 12:24 PM
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Link?
/r/EverydayMisandry27/04/25 12:24 PM
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You’re not an anomaly. A lot of women are horny as fuck. Also, RIP your DMs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 05:45 AM
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I swear anytime I hear any woman say they don't want sex I immediately look at them with suspicion cause I know that's bs. Yo, my ex would trip you the fuck out. She identifies as asexual. She says she has no independent sex drive, and if she never had sex again that would be okay. Here’s the thing tho, she was one of the most sexual people I’ve ever been with. Once she was going, which wasn’t difficult, she was going. She’d fuck MY brains out. She did the feminine thing, where she didn’t outrig…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 05:44 AM
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Oh because women don’t slut shame, right.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/04/25 06:52 PM
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What the fuck
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/04/25 08:21 PM
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Sexual assault is a crime. And many states use “sexual assault” to describe what other states might describe as “rape” or “sexual battery”. Or am I misreading your comment
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/04/25 08:19 PM
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Everyone knew men could get raped but not by women
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/04/25 08:16 PM
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The United States had an explicitly gendered definition up until 2013. There’s an argument to be made that the current definition is gendered as well. Penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim. Attempts or assaults to commit rape are also included; however, statutory rape and incest are excluded. So while my older female cousin made me do sexual things to her for y…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/04/25 08:10 PM
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NYTimes comments sections are routinely some of the worst I see when any gender issue the topic
/r/EverydayMisandry11/04/25 12:09 PM
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‘What do you mean by “do”?’
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/04/25 11:55 AM
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All of Europe? Big ass continent. That is interesting though. Do y’all expect/perform “chivalrous” gestures like opening doors, the man walking on the street side of the sidewalk, taking off his jacket if it’s chilly and giving it to her? But, yeah, in typical American fashion I forgot anyone else existed, so I am referring to American studies and such. It’s even more pervasive in minority communities. Not in every way, but we pick and choose. As an example, Black people in America never had the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:33 PM
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To add on to what OP is saying, I’ve seen studies that find that most women prefer an egalitarian dynamic once within a long term relationship, but prefer the more “traditional” “benevolent sexism” style of courtship that we often see/hear/think about. So, him paying on the first date, though she’s not going to want to be a SAHM (rightfully). Stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:13 PM
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The links you posted didn’t get into what makes it so difficult. Here’s one that goes into it though One important point - A man that takes male birth control would be taking a medication whose purpose is to prevent a health event…in another person. So the side effects that regulators would have to approve are weighted against that fact. A medication that, say, may make you depressed and infertile if you take it, but you’d be normal if you didn’t, is foreign in terms of pharmaceutical ethics. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:35 AM
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By men? Who specifically? Which trials are you talking about? Here’s an article about some of the difficulty involved
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:30 AM
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You take birth control for what purpose? For many women, it’s to prevent pregnancy. Others may take it to treat PCOS, or mentrual issues. Enovid was prescribed to treat menstrual issues first, before it became birth control. Pregnancy would be a significant medical event for you, and preventing pregnancy may be worth enduring certain side effects. Further, hormonal birth control has to stop 1 egg from being released every month. A man that takes male birth control would be taking a medication wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:28 AM
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This book, and perhaps to a greater extent, the movie based off of this book, have received a lot of criticism over the years. One of the primary contentions is the lack of redeeming qualities any Black man has the book, as well as her other books. Especially at a time when there was way less Black representation in Hollywood, some people felt the movie just perpetuated the same stereotypes of Black families and Black men. There was also some controversy over the movie being made by a white (Jew…
/r/EverydayMisandry01/04/25 06:36 PM
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Please expound
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/25 02:12 PM
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NYTimes comments sections on articles that have to do with gender are terrible, and you can easily tell the demographic makeup of the commenters
/r/EverydayMisandry14/03/25 09:29 PM
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Are those ugly raunchy women funny and personable?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 02:23 PM
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female Origin. Adopted in the 14c. from Old French femelle, it was almost at once refashioned as female to be consistent with its antonym male, an etymologically unrelated word. The OF word answers to Latin fēmella, a diminutive form of fēmina ‘woman’. In popular Latin fēmella seems to have been used to denote the female of any of the lower animals, as well as retaining its classical Latin (only Catullus) meaning of ‘woman, girl’. Uses. From the 14c. onwards female was used as both noun and adje…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/02/25 10:10 PM
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Maternal gate keeping is a studied phenomenon. Seriously, look it up. A lot of us have seen it as children
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/02/25 07:00 AM
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I heard it can be rather triggering.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/02/25 07:33 PM
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Well of course that just means you must want a bang maid who you’re going to trauma dump to every day because you she’s the only person that you will express emotions too. /s
/r/EverydayMisandry22/02/25 07:16 PM
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Also, when a wife had severely assaulted he husband but he had not physically assaulted her, there was a 1 in 7 chance that he would severely abuse her in the course of the next year. Damn
/r/EverydayMisandry21/02/25 06:32 PM
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“Men are much more mature than women” is something that can come across as hateful, I fear, and I don’t think it can really be substantiated. Nor can the opposite, that’s not my claim either. Just the sentiment itself comes across badly, imo. And the “privilege” part after just makes it sound like you’re saying women are privileged, but without much substantiation. I’m just concerned about how it looks to outsiders, you know what I mean? If you don’t care about that, carry on.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/02/25 06:13 PM
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I don’t think the second part is quite fair or politically tactful to say. Just making my opinion known there
/r/EverydayMisandry21/02/25 06:06 PM
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That shows women more impoverished than men at every age. I don’t think that’s a departure from the narrative I typically see, regardless of spikes. Could you offer a little bit more clarification on where your contention is? Sorry lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/02/25 08:10 AM
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Post stats please? I can’t find anything like that
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/02/25 07:47 AM
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Have you ever been in the NYTimes comments section? It’s almost exactly like this any time they open the comments. Wild to see.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/02/25 07:24 AM
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Here’s more: A review of sex-specific enrollments in medical research studies, and an examination of the number of epidemiologic studies and clinical trials that included men and women, point to two conclusions: 1) Historically, women were routinely included in medical research, and 2) Women have participated in medical research in numbers at least proportionate to the overall female population. These conclusions were foreshadowed by the Institute of Medicine’s Committee on the Ethical and Legal…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/02/25 06:20 AM
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Have y’all ever seen the comments on NYTimes articles when they have to do with men? The comments are extremely one sided and sound borderline conservative in that the “pull yourselves up by your bootstraps” rhetoric is pervasive.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/02/25 06:10 AM
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There are two definitions I can think of: Utilizing the position you have in society which recognizes you as an inherent victim to call for violence (from authorized men) against the alleged perpetrator Getting a third party to perform violence for you, like a hit man or a family member. With regard to the first: Here’s a fantastic article about such phenomena: White tears, white rage: Victimhood and (as) violence in mainstream feminism An excerpt: If anger is the main expression of white power …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/02/25 07:14 PM
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More strongly in one gender doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist in the other
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/02/25 06:53 PM
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I’m surprised you hadn’t seen it before, it’s like 10 years old now
/r/EverydayMisandry18/02/25 07:47 PM
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I have this feeling that if I resisted like that I’d get tazed at minimum.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/02/25 07:45 PM
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A sub for women over who are dating, specifically after their 30s but before their 50s
/r/EverydayMisandry17/02/25 11:44 PM
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I'm actually extremely curious what y'all are thinking, because I have no real vision in my head when I try
/r/EverydayMisandry17/02/25 11:42 PM
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100% on the deaths of despair (suicide, drug overdose, homelessness related and such). The “male loneliness epidemic” has such negative media attention to this point though, and nothing to base it on that is as significant as the massive disparity in deaths of despair. 4x more likely to commit suicide, 3-5x more likely to die by overdose, and I’m sure some other people include other deaths in this number too
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/02/25 06:04 PM
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Check out this thread. The women in this thread talk about how flawed this thinking can be.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/02/25 05:41 PM
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You know, they say the body is built in the kitchen, not the gym. You got your macros on point to reach that 15% body fat? What are you now?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/02/25 05:37 PM
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My understanding is that there isn’t really a male loneliness epidemic. The talking point came from…I forget where, but it kinda took off without much real evidence. In the few surveys I’ve seen on this, it is true that men, on average, have fewer friends, and it’s also the case that young men especially are having less sex than before, but I hadn’t seen anything to indicate it was really an epidemic for men as much as it was truly an epidemic overall that does slightly disproportionately affect…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/02/25 05:32 PM
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The immediate giveaway that this guy was at the very least still based into feminism was his use of "intersectionality" just after mentioning "anticapitalism" To be so fair, the "original" concept of intersectionality is one that we all still use in stuff we talk about. There's a connotative definition that it has been co-opted into, but I'm referring to the concept of specific intersections of one's identities resulting in additive or multiplicative experiences of oppression. Like when we consi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/02/25 05:03 PM
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Is it brigading or something?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/02/25 04:37 PM
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Easily falls into zero empathy too.
/r/EverydayMisandry07/02/25 12:33 PM
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How does one identify red pill content? What is a tenant of red pill ideology?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/02/25 09:44 AM
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I have a digital copy, but I haven’t even attempted to read it
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/02/25 07:03 PM
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Often times people that say this will restrict it to Cis men only, and it’s tacitly implied. Sometimes explicitly clarified. I’m not an expert on transphobia, but that feels like it flies close to the sun in terms of transphobia
/r/EverydayMisandry05/02/25 01:05 PM
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A lot of misogyny is based in paternalism more than hate, so you’re not wrong. A lot of people still desire paternalistic treatment of women, even liberals and leftists at times
/r/EverydayMisandry30/01/25 09:30 PM
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I feel like it’s easy to find fault with that “perfectly adapted” bit. “Orgasm gap” is going to be the response if you try to use that argument
/r/EverydayMisandry29/01/25 08:34 PM
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Feminine culture is hyper-consumptive The dude I responded to made the above claim. So he's not just saying they have specific preferences, he's saying that women specifically are hyper-consumptive. That's what I'd like to be corroborated. That men and women have different spending habits doesn't warrant substantiation
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/01/25 08:57 PM
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Do women spend more on non-necessities than men do? I haven’t seen evidence for that
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/01/25 08:13 AM
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To be completely fair, an actual conspiracy would also fall into one or several of these categories, too. Conspiracy theories are not inherently false or nonexistent. Many conspiracy theories turned out to be real conspiracies.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/01/25 10:43 AM
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What changed your mind on that?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/01/25 10:34 AM
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Wow your references are so sick
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/01/25 10:33 AM
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I paid $4 for a subscription for y'all, here's a guest access link. None of the archive websites had it, and the bypass paywalls extension had been bested
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/01/25 10:41 AM
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Let me try something here. “And y’all keep hollering ‘not all Black people’ so... I mean yeah it is not all Black people but it is definitely the Black people that interrupt to say ‘not all Black people’ LMAO” If someone said that, what would vast majority of leftists and liberals say? Would that statement be condoned? Would it get someone fired from their job? Would someone offer up some amount of sociohistorical reasoning as an explanation? What would we assume the intent of the person saying …
/r/EverydayMisandry18/01/25 04:44 PM
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Some of my best friends have been lesbians, I have never experienced this honestly.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/01/25 08:46 PM
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I’m
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/25 03:18 PM
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Table of contents > Children > Perpetrator Relationship Table of contents > Fatalities > Perpetrator Relationship https://imgur.com/a/0i5PeE6 It makes most sense to me to count Father only + Father and non-parent + Two parents of known sex as being "Father," and Mother only + Mother and non-parent + Two parents of known sex as "Mother." But interpret how you wish.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/01/25 10:48 AM
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Child maltreatment report, 2022 Just so that you know, the typical response to this is “women are more likely to be the primary caregivers of children so it would make sense if the proportions are skewed”
/r/EverydayMisandry16/01/25 10:16 AM
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Don’t tell me that when dates are shocked I make bread (especially garlic cheesy bread, don’t @ me) and pizza from scratch I bake too! I have a big ass pizza peel, it's amazing. I also do the majority of the cooking in relationships I'm in. Don’t tell me that when I don’t want to have kids Damn bro you really think you're me, that's wild!
/r/EverydayMisandry14/01/25 10:31 PM
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Group narcissism?
/r/EverydayMisandry14/01/25 10:25 PM
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Is there even any evidence to support a male loneliness epidemic, as opposed to a loneliness epidemic overall? Why is that one gendered?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/01/25 12:51 PM
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Wow! I only ever use it ironically, I’m kinda surprised to see “ethnic Americans” like that. Next thing you know they’ll be calling Black kids “urban youth”
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/01/25 09:24 AM
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They’ll justify that though. In fact, that was the point.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/01/25 01:58 AM
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My hypothesis on this would be relative lack of experience (not that one should be very experienced in high school) as shown by later age of sexual debut of Asian students compared to Black or Hispanic students means one is more likely to verify that the a partner is comfortable with proceeding with sex. Whereas, those that have more experience may be able to read body language a bit better and less likely to rely on verbal communication.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/01/25 09:41 PM
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A majority of my best friends have been queer women who identify as feminists. They’re just not hateful or hypocritical and they don’t generalize
/r/EverydayMisandry07/01/25 04:32 AM
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Imagine if we declared war. Imagine if we fuck-this-shit-snapped en masse, and systematically killed men for no reason at all other than for being men. Imagine this culling starting in one country with five men a week. Then each week, this imaginary scenario would add more countries and kill more men in each of them. Fifty a week, then one hundred men, then five hundred. Imagine an underground movement called Fuck the Patriarchy (FTP), which would claim responsibility and warn that it was puttin…
/r/EverydayMisandry07/01/25 02:47 AM
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In a technical sense, though not the morally correct one, would it not be equality?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 04:53 AM
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What do you mean by “worth looking at?” What do you think needs to change about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 04:51 AM
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Significant overlap
/r/EverydayMisandry01/01/25 05:23 PM
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Substantiate the claim or don’t make it, otherwise you’re no better than anyone else who makes a claim and doesn’t substantiate it.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/01/25 05:17 AM
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Look at this dumb shit: Asian women had an earning ratio of 90% in comparison to white men White (non-hispanic) women had an earning ratio of 76% in comparison to white men Black women had an earning ratio of 62% in comparison to white men Native Hawaiian and Pacific Islander women had an earning ratio of 60% in comparison to white men American Indian or Alaskan Native women… 58% in comparison to white men Hispanic or Latina women… 54% in comparison to white men So women — in comparison to men —…
/r/EverydayMisandry01/01/25 05:13 AM
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One of several. Why are so many rape kits untested?
/r/EverydayMisandry30/12/24 09:14 PM
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Regardless of what it means in a culture I’m not familiar with, you knew of the association with that word in western minds, you made an account on a website based in the west, where the vast majority of users are western, and you likely envisioned someone taking issue with your username. But you did it anyway.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/24 07:58 PM
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the conscious rap scene?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/24 07:09 PM
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That’s literally insane lmaoooo. What just happened??
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/24 07:08 PM
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In Texas, it is illegal. If you are an employee of a primary or secondary school, and you engaged in either sexual contact with or the online solicitation of: a student at your school, a student in the same school district, or a student participating in an educational activity sponsored by a school, regardless of the age. This includes many of those employed by a school district as an audiologist, occupational therapist, physical therapist, physician, nurse, school psychologist, associate school…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/24 06:53 PM
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That sounds like a motte-and-Bailey
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/24 05:10 AM
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I share the same sentiment. Some people absolutely do comment on something and say “men get raped too” and what they are saying is “shit up and stop complaining because everyone deals with this.” That’s not okay. However, the majority of the times I’ve seen someone legit say “not all men” these days, it’s a response to being generalized or rhetoric that implies men aren’t victimized. When people say something like “men will never know what it’s like to go through something like this,” or “not al…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/24 05:08 AM
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Post data
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/24 05:01 AM
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Straight up, you can type “men experience unique issues after victimization” and some people read that as you saying “women have it easy and they’re all lying.” It’s so weird. This happens all the time, too.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/24 05:00 AM
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I mean it’s not like cops take the cases they can prove super seriously in many cases. Rape kit backlogs are insane. The same argument you’re attempting can be used to ask why more women aren’t in jail for raping men too.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/12/24 02:40 PM
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Actually, if we include race, I can substantiate 1800s
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/24 05:49 AM
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You don’t even have to tell anyone, in fact
/r/EverydayMisandry28/12/24 05:44 AM
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A great article about this is: White tears, white rage: Victimhood and (as) violence in mainstream feminism
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/12/24 05:04 AM
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Here's a great article about that. Stoicism (as Emotional Compression) Is Emotional Labor
/r/EverydayMisandry22/12/24 07:14 PM
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Your last paragraph is a good point, I didn’t think of that. Thanks for adding the cultural context as well. I’ve seen movies that are kinda “here’s a movie about yet another bad person we don’t like, go us right?” like you’re describing
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/24 08:02 PM
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I must assert that someone doing something in a fiction film, even if it portrays a stereotypical archetype of a character or characters, is not inherently sexist or anything. It’s even possible that because of the way people imagine things to be, that a female abuse-denying bad cop and male good cop would prevent some people from being able to suspend their disbelief and get into the other parts of the movie.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/24 07:51 PM
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Is it a documentary or a fiction film?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/24 05:51 PM
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Would you kindly expound upon this? Just pasting some lines from the conclusion section: Each of the five evolution-based predictions reccived some empirical support from these data. Females valuc the financial capacity of potential mates more than males do. Ambition and industriousness, cues to resource ac-quisition, also tend to be valued more heavily by females than by males across cultures. Support was strong for the financial capacity prediction (36 of 37 samples), and moderate for the ambi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 11:02 PM
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From the studies I have seen I would argue that a female perpetrator is more likely to report their perpetration than a male perpetrator. You got one? I’ve seen a lot of studies but don’t think I’ve seen in any of them. Not saying it isn’t a finding, I’m just saying I haven’t seen it and am surprised.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/24 06:57 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/comments/ct4p4w/this_is_another_level_of_insanity/ This is as far as I’ve gotten. The original was in r/gendercritical which has been nuked
/r/EverydayMisandry19/12/24 06:31 PM
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False. Plenty of people do
/r/EverydayMisandry19/12/24 06:24 PM
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I hate this type of trickle down rhetoric. Several concepts that stem from different feminist academics are mashed together with a very crude understanding of some evolutionary social psychology theories, tied together with overly broad generalization, and a seemingly passive aggressive remark. Honestly, it’s rather skillfully assembled because there’s so much to respond to within such a short paragraph, it’s like trying to figure out how to eat a cow. Edit: I was referring to slide 3 btw. I com…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/12/24 06:12 PM
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Is it often physically “overpowering” or is it like overpowering with charm and being so “irresistible” or something?
/r/EverydayMisandry18/12/24 05:45 PM
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the dude who wrote that third slide has NEVER heard of femdom. It’s probably the most popular amongst men in their 20s who cant get laid, and possibly, horny teenagers. Jeez you don’t have to disparage dudes into femdom by generalizing like this. I’m sure you’ve heard that many kinks come from past trauma, and perhaps some dudes who have been abused by women like to replicate those dynamics but in environments where they feel comfortable.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/12/24 05:44 PM
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Attractiveness is entirely subjective
/r/EverydayMisandry17/12/24 09:48 PM
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My comment in a different sub: Yeah she went hands on with a drunk dude? Fuck no. Some people go straight to aggression, but one of the smartest things to do is consider potential outcomes, and realize pride often will get you in trouble. I think about this often, because there are a lot of situations that could go really badly starting from almost nothing. As part of my license to carry a firearm course, interesting scenarios were presented to us about stuff like this, and they need to be thoug…
/r/EverydayMisandry16/12/24 09:14 PM
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The Racial Origins of U.S. Domestic Violence Law
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/12/24 06:32 PM
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Yeah she went hands on with a drunk dude? Fuck no. Some people go straight to aggression, but one of the smartest things to do is consider potential outcomes, and realize pride often will get you in trouble. I think about this often, because there are a lot of situations that could go really badly starting from almost nothing. As part of my license to carry a firearm course, interesting scenarios were presented to us about stuff like this, and they need to be thought about before you’re in a sit…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 04:28 PM
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There are some people who see, say, some women talking about rape or sexual assault, and they’ll see someone say “this is terrible, rapists should rot.” And that person will respond “women rape too!” This is bad, this is completely wrong, and that’s disgusting. There are other people who talk about rape by saying things like “men don’t know what it’s like,” “not all men but always a man,” etc. that are very dismissive of men who have been victims as well. Those comments that turn what could be a…
/r/EverydayMisandry15/12/24 09:58 AM
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Feminists have been arguing amongst each other about thatsince the 70s.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/12/24 02:41 PM
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All a man has to do is not be a violent abuser and shower regularly to find some women to marry him. Just find a woman to marry? Why don't I strap on my future husband helmet, and squeeze down into a marriage cannon, AND FIRE OFF INTO WIFELAND, WHERE WIVES GROW ON WIFE TREES?!
/r/EverydayMisandry12/12/24 12:57 PM
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Some of these are really hard to find. It’s to the point that I have a personal database of research papers I find interesting. How you’ve described it does closely resemble my experience in relationships, but I know I’m doing a confirmation bias given I don’t date men. If I find it, I’ll let you know.
/r/PussyPassDenied12/12/24 04:46 AM
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Is there data on that?
/r/PussyPassDenied12/12/24 04:22 AM
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Related terms are Gender Role Conflict, Gender Role Strain Paradigm, and Gender Role Discrepancy
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/12/24 10:52 AM
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In my state, at least, paternity tests can be court ordered. There are quite a few paternity laws on the books meant to be in the best interest of the child but in some cases they can be rather bad, such as for victims like those described in the post
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/12/24 01:28 PM
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Subordinate Male Target Hypothesis hypothesizes that most hate of out-groups, like racism, primarily targets the males of the group. Which would explain why the men of a given race usually report having more experiences of racism than the women of a given group. Paraphrasing quite a bit there.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/12/24 07:52 PM
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Immigrants too
/r/EverydayMisandry05/12/24 07:26 PM
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Check out “White tears, white rage: Victimhood and (as) violence in mainstream feminism” …an understanding of whiteness as the performance of structural supremacy still involves fragility, whether this is the angry brittleness of hegemonic white masculinity or the ‘delicacy’ of white bourgeois femininity (the source of its power). If anger is the main expression of white power in a masculine register, tears are its feminine equivalent. ‘Tear’, as a both a noun and a verb, has multiple meanings: …
/r/EverydayMisandry05/12/24 07:16 PM
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On the rape thing - I have no direct refutation or evidence that would go against what you said. However, one very interesting fact is the Supreme Court case "Michael M. v. Superior Court of Sonoma County." It went to the supreme court becaasue the age of consent was different for boys and girls at the time, so Michael was charged with statutory rape. However, reading about the details, it is clear it was also forcible rape. It's difficult to find much in the way of information before the 70s as…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/11/24 06:56 PM
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Seriously. I’m glad this place exists. The whole reason I’m here is because I experienced CSA perpetrated by a much older girl for years, was not believed the one time I tried to communicate it, and from then on gaslit myself to the point that I just thought I “lost my virginity.” I did not use the word “rape,” and honestly I still don’t. A lot of it is because I did not have an ability to see myself as a victim. Any consideration I had for myself, I also had for the perpetrator. “What would cau…
/r/EverydayMisandry29/11/24 01:48 PM
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Do enough men want financial annotation abortion for it to have made a difference? Would this position have swayed enough people to secure a Dem win?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/11/24 07:43 PM
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So you feel like enough people in swing states would’ve voted D instead of R if they advocated for financial abortions? Regular abortion wasn’t even enough for that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/11/24 06:12 PM
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The easy counter argument would be Harris’ intersecting identities of being Black/Asian and a woman that are multiplicative in nature, resulting in a worse outcome.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/11/24 05:23 PM
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That wouldn’t have worked at all. Has any major candidate ever proposed that?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/11/24 05:21 PM
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As of 2015, apparently 85% of sex and gender sociologists were women. That actually went down from 88% in 2001. The most male dominated subfield was mathematical sociology at 78% (what is that?) 88% is insane
/r/EverydayMisandry28/11/24 06:25 AM
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Those who embody idealized femininity. This is a historical precedent, and was used to determine if a husband went too far when beating his wife before it was illegal. Like a woman who was in fact a truly feminine figure had some recourse for being beaten, but if she was “truly out of line,” not white, etc, then that was legal. Paraphrasing a little but that’s what happened
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/11/24 04:11 AM
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I would agree if I didn’t feel that he meant it in a tongue-in-cheek manner. Either that, or like “you should also believe that you’re the prize,” or both. I’m not trying to defend him if you felt different, but the way Biles laughed at everything he said and defended him no matter what informs my opinion. Also, the interviewer said “cap” and he laughed. That’s very indicative of him doing some jestful self aggrandizement, which I’ve also done when talking about romantic relationships. Edit: Rew…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/11/24 03:50 AM
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Oh my god did you see how people reacted when Simone Biles’ husband said he was the prize in an interview last year?
/r/EverydayMisandry27/11/24 03:36 AM
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And if the dog doesn’t indicate it needs food, water, or goes outside, will you notice if it’s sick and hiding in a corner and take action and seek medical care? It wouldn't be ideal for the dog to only outwardly signal discomfort after experiencing discomfort for a long time. It also wouldn't be ideal for the human to be completely oblivious to the needs of the dog. Where this becomes even more difficult is in a situation wherein the dog wants something that the human has a low chance of recogn…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:27 PM
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Dogs learn how to communicate that they need to go outside, or that they're hungry. There is work on both ends - the human must know that at some point, the dog will want to eat or go outside; but also, the dog must figure out that it must inform the human of their desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:10 PM
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For this sub, I personally think the rule shouldn’t change. If this was LWMA, I’d agree.
/r/EverydayMisandry22/11/24 07:00 PM
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My state (Texas) already does this. As do 23 others
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/11/24 06:45 PM
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I don’t think menstrual products and similar items should be subject to sales tax
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/11/24 04:43 PM
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There’s a book at my library called “The ManServant Guide to Modern Chivalry: Every Woman’s Fantasies for the Men in Her Life”. I downloaded it to see what its contents entailed and it was exactly what you’d think.
/r/EverydayMisandry22/11/24 07:06 AM
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As far back as the 1860s at least. This goes deep into the rhetoric of the time, but the first real punishments for "wife-beating" were racialized. For decades, there were efforts to portray Black families as broken and degenerate, and Black men as violent and abusive. Many suffragists and first wave feminists were racist, and used their feigned concern for Black women to push for their own enfranchisement first. Check out "The Racial Origins of U.S. Domestic Violence Law", it's incredible work.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/24 05:38 PM
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When "woke" is used as a pejorative, yeah I am not a fan of that. Reason is that "woke" the way many conservatives use it could easily be interchanged with "Black" or a slur of your choice. I'm not the only person that feels this way. Now I'm not saying it is a slur, by any means. However, if I hear someone saying "the woke crowd" or "end of woke," I know to limit the subject matter of my conversation. Same with "DEI." It's not inherently a bad thing to say, but if someone starts calling any Bla…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/24 04:29 PM
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Hardcore right-wingers are usually the ones quick to label you as such if you say you're in anyway liberal. Thanks for clarifying. Honestly, my worldview is informed by my race, honestly. I assume a significant percentage of hardcore right wingers are racist, and as such I don't consider their opinion at all. I can understand you may feel slightly more inclined to care about what they think, especially if some of your friends or family are conservative. I can only say that I encourage you to not…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/24 04:17 PM
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You say you’re in anyway left-wing or liberal, people are quick to write you off as “woke” or “cucked” and think you’re a misandrist who doesn’t care to bring attention to male issues. Who thinks this? Who’s writing you off? If it’s a conservative, they were probably going to think that anyway. Likewise if you claim you’re opposed to woke or feminism, you’re automatically assumed to be a hardcore right-winger or part of the manosphere. What does being “opposed to woke” mean? If I heard someone s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/24 02:05 PM
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I agree. I know it’s a real thing that many people do, but it’s kinda like “gaslighting” now in that so many people use it in situations where it probably doesn’t apply. People attributing to malice what could easily be explained by something else. On that note, that article “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink” kinda irks me. It’s not that the message doesn’t apply to many people — it does. It’s just that it’s so easily weaponized.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/11/24 04:36 AM
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In fact, if you look at the CDC’s data, specifically in the report “Prevalence of Intimate Partner Reproductive Coercion in the United States: Racial and Ethnic Differences,” you’ll see that men report experiencing reproductive coercion quite a bit. The highest prevalence is in a demographic of men (Black men) (followed by Black women), and there are several other times men reported experiencing RC more than women. I’ve seen people deny that this happens Basile, Kathleen C., Sharon G. Smith, Yan…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/24 07:16 AM
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And yet, if I made a comment that was listing things I don’t like about my gf, I wouldn’t be surprised if she felt a bit hurt by it, regardless of the quantity of things I do like about her. I read the comment from that perspective, and I just wanted to hear the good things too. I’m sensitive
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 09:06 PM
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What age cohort are we talking about here?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 08:43 PM
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I gotta ask: what about your husband do you like? This comment by itself made me feel bad for him/you 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 03:26 PM
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It’s also assumed that straight dudes will be extremely uncomfortable or something if hit on a gay guy. Personally, I’ve I’m straight, and I’ve been hit on by tons of guys. It’s chill I recognize that I’m physically more equivalent to those guys than a woman would be to the average man, so I’m not trying to compare any levels of fear or anything. But my experience has been that the dudes hitting on me have been very forward, and I respect and appreciate that.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/11/24 02:33 PM
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Isn’t twox a default sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:27 AM
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I’m referring to the “women only think about themselves bit” in the comment I was responding to, specifically
/r/EverydayMisandry10/11/24 08:58 PM
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I feel like this comment comes across a bit too sexist, just want to go on record as having said that. We gotta be on tactful here. I do understand many women don’t want to give dudes the wrong impression if they complement us. I’ve been making an effort to complement more frequently, and it’s been going well. My coworker got a haircut and I hyped him the fuck up the other day, and I tell another coworker she gives great advice because she does. One of I’ve most memorable complements I’ve gotten…
/r/EverydayMisandry10/11/24 08:46 PM
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What sub?
/r/EverydayMisandry09/11/24 02:19 PM
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I have seen some literature that asserted that the fact there are fewer men than women in certain places means the men have more power. Specifically, this was said with regard to the fact that more women than men are in college, and with regard to there being more Black women than Black men both generally and especially in certain cities. Which would make sense, except if the imbalance were flipped, that too would be a reason that those respective cohorts of men would have more power. Not a huge…
/r/EverydayMisandry04/11/24 08:11 AM
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Honestly, probably availability and/or confirmation bias combined with selective reporting and some of these stories getting more attention recently than in the past
/r/EverydayMisandry02/11/24 06:00 AM
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I mean, she still doesn’t have to really. She’s gonna get at least 80% of us. Obama got like 95% of Black men first term, and 81-85% (I forget) second term. Hillary got somewhere near 85%. And she’d have to focus attention on us while there are more volatile groups that might feel neglected by that. White people in swing states are a bigger problem than us (Black men) for her campaign.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/11/24 09:47 PM
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You’re thinking of tumblr or r/srs back in the day
/r/EverydayMisandry30/10/24 12:49 AM
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I think that’s p great thing, generally. I wanna hear just how dumb someone else’s thoughts are, too. I don’t want the watered down shit
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:09 PM
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Some people construe this as “men getting praise for doing the bare minimum,” and some people regard it as infantilizing, insulting, and/or demeaning. Interesting, that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:08 PM
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I agree with you on just about everything, but I’ll break it down by section. I like doing research quite a bit, although I don’t have formal education in many aspects of rigorous, academic-level research. I do keep a drive of documents related to my interests, decently-organized and [some] annotated for quick reference. I don’t get to whip them out very often, though. As you said, conversations related to this topic require one to tread carefully, walk on eggshells, and sometimes even to prevar…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/10/24 07:45 AM
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Interesting point. You’ve touched on something also described by some critics of White, Bourgeois Feminism. Quotations follow. In her 1995 book States of Injury, Wendy Brown argued that progressive movements tended to coalesce around ‘wounded identities’ that demanded recognition and protection, whether from hate speech, harassment or violence …an understanding of whiteness as the performance of structural supremacy still involves fragility, whether this is the angry brittleness of hegemonic whi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/10/24 03:26 AM
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Personally, for me, I think emotional abuse affected me more than physical abuse. I can understand where my dad was coming from in trying not to fuck up, at least a little. The emotional abuse from other parties leaves me questioning reality to this day
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/10/24 03:18 AM
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I assume that her being present in the form of a biblically accurate angel may not be ideal
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:04 AM
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I wanted to refute your statement but I can’t. I maintain that it’s weird to want a life partner to be submissive to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:03 AM
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Nah bro post about the Young Black Male struggles. A lot of people straight up deny racialized misandry even though it’s in front of us daily. Most people don’t know it can be called that, even. If you haven’t read anything by Dr. Tommy Curry, please do.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/10/24 11:57 PM
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What is something that you think would fit as a proposed policy for either of those groups? It does seem kinda tough to come up with things that fit the needs of the group but don’t come across as kinda racist or overly pandering like the conversations surrounding the policies pictured in this post. Even more difficult, I feel, is that “brown men” includes such a diverse range of people, and getting too specific miss the point. Like, let’s say, trying to increase pay for agricultural workers wou…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/24 10:52 PM
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But if Harris loses, they will blame Black men for the loss
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/24 10:42 PM
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Oh my bad. I was just saying what you said but louder and in a deeper voice, as though it were my idea. /j
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:19 PM
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Don't forget the labotomies
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:13 PM
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"Mother fuckers"
/r/EverydayMisandry13/10/24 01:14 PM
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Got a link?
/r/EverydayMisandry12/10/24 10:33 AM
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Just to clarify, she saw a message wherein her brother’s friend said he was sexually attracted to her? Hmm. I can’t fully put myself in her shoes, I must admit, but learning that your brother’s friend thinks you’re sexually attractive could leave one feeling a mix of emotions, especially if this was her first time experiencing that. Beyond that, and assuming everybody involved is around the same age, what else is there really to comment on? Teenagers gonna teenage. They’re working through so man…
/r/EverydayMisandry24/09/24 07:27 PM
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I read the beginning of that paper a few months ago, and her breaking it down like that is blowing my mind. I didn’t detect all of that subtext
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/09/24 07:31 AM
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I just don’t get how people are this dense. “Bring it up in a space where men are talking about their sexual assault” is, in an of itself, invalidating. Am I not a victim of sexual assault? Can I only talk about in certain spaces? We don’t do that for anything else, it’d be really fucked up and we started excluding specific survivors from certain spaces, so why is it different here? “You only bring it up to invalidate women” is wild as hell, because in talking about sexual assault, so many peopl…
/r/EverydayMisandry31/08/24 04:12 PM
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Any corroborating literature?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/08/24 10:20 PM
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Nah Karen has historical racial analogues which makes it a little different. Slut seems closer
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/08/24 10:19 PM
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In a certain subreddit, there were several chains of comments denying that reproductive coercion is something that happens to men, only men do it to women. I offered evidence to the contrary. Someone responded with “you can see how the impact isn’t the same though, right?” Which is wild. I have no intention to minimize the whole experience of being pregnant, especially against one’s will. That said, emergency contraceptive, the abortion pill, and actual abortions may still be available. There is…
/r/EverydayMisandry22/08/24 02:24 AM
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On the first case: Teen to serve 30 days for homeless man’s death Sometimes I see tweets that imply or state that men should beat men accused of sexual misconduct and crimes, immediately upon hearing of the accusation. The post in question had a video of a woman throwing hands at her bf, who was accused of doing something to one of her younger relatives at a party. The woman was punching and yelling intermittently, while several other men watched, and it was pretty clear to me that they were let…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/08/24 04:48 PM
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It’s wild because I made a lot of friends from Twitter and actually met my gf on Twitter. But a lot of people I used to interact with, many of whom are women, nb, or trans, are posting straight up misandry right now and it sucks to see. What’s also really weird is that, as a Black dude, I’ve become pretty desensitized to racism on the internet. I expect it under certain posts or in certain subreddits or when certain topics are brought up. The men-hate actually hits different, though. I’m not sur…
/r/EverydayMisandry15/08/24 04:09 PM
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Oh, thank you for clearing that up. It is my opinion that you’re absolutely right. I have never once thought that “submissive” is a desired trait in a partner. My gf is my bestie, she’s not at the behest of me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:54 AM
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To be clear, what is it you’re saying is typical of a man to do to a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 01:05 AM
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A lot of women dating online have a subscription to spokeo or whatever other service, or so I hear. But some people’s OSINT skills rivals 4chan users back in the day
/r/EverydayMisandry13/08/24 01:14 PM
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There's are quite a few studies about this. Will whoever you're arguing with read them? Probably not. And if they do, will they pick it apart in any way they can, or will they change their perspective? I think you know the answer. We found that individuals felt less compelled to forgive and more motivated to punish male than female perpetrators, even in the form of investigations and job termination (Study 4). If this pattern extends to workplace disputes and allegations, then male employees and…
/r/EverydayMisandry12/08/24 06:10 PM
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She’d never say that about African men They would and do. But, to your point, Indian men do get it pretty badly from certain groups and at certain times, including right now. You might be interested in “Against White Feminism” by Rafia Zakaria (Pakistani woman).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/08/24 08:43 PM
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Not exclusively by any means
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/08/24 08:41 PM
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That’s wild they said that because I tend to become friends with women that are lesbian very easily. I don’t know why, but they’re the dawgs fr
/r/EverydayMisandry10/08/24 12:07 PM
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150%. This is what I talk about too, and I really like the way some Black feminists have framed it. White, Liberal, Bourgeois, Carceral feminism will do what it’s always done, which is reduce us to animals who have no control over our carnal desire for sex.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/24 03:25 AM
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He cheated on a new mother which is dirty as as fuck
/r/EverydayMisandry07/08/24 08:53 PM
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I was told, in the linked subreddit of I recall correctly, that there can’t be any sexism against boys in schools despite being taught disproportionately by women, because the “education system itself was designed for boys.” I’d like to know more but I was banned
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/08/24 10:25 PM
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100%. Black male youth have the earliest sexual debut (first time having sex) of any other demographic, at 15 years old on average. Over 30% had their first sexual contact at age 13 or before, which was significantly higher than any other group, by far (Table 135). All males had a higher prevalence of sex before 13 than all females. There is no fucking way that such a high prevalence was due entirely to consensual, unproblematic sex. I'd be one of those Black males, and I fully did not think tha…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/08/24 09:57 PM
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As someone that has been victimized by women, rhetoric that states or implies only men can perpetrate these things infuriates me to no end. When you see things like “all men are rapists” (to be hyperbolic) and you even think about pushing back on that by saying that women rape too, not all men are rapists, etc., it’s seen as problematic, an attempt to undermine a movement, taking something away from a victim, or evidence for why someone would choose a bear. I don’t like being reduced to the acti…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/08/24 08:36 PM
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If you haven’t read the article “White tears, white rage: Victimhood and (as) violence in mainstream feminism” by Alison Phipps, I recommend it wholeheartedly
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/08/24 05:48 PM
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To be fair, while I agree with you, criticism of White Feminism does tend to make people pretty upset, and that is hard to avoid
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/08/24 05:46 PM
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They are intimidated by… her proximity to other professional men who are more interesting to talk with. This could mean a few different things but it could also reveal a bit about you. Lots of questions
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 08:00 AM
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That makes sense! I’m curious, as I don’t believe I’ve seen much on this, but what about the fourth wave were you not vibing with? I’ve seen a lot of criticism about the first and second wave, while third and fourth I’ve seen much less. And then a lot more for “post feminism,” “digital feminism,” and other terms used to describe whatever we see today.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/07/24 04:03 PM
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What is entailed within “old school” feminism? Is it associated with a particular wave, or a person, or a certain time period? I could imagine this meaning several significantly different things
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/07/24 03:42 PM
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I got banned for making a comment that was in opposition to rhetoric like that
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/07/24 02:14 AM
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When you say you’re interested in subs that work the same way, are you looking for echo chambers or anti echo chambers?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/07/24 02:14 AM
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Why is it reasonable to feel as unsafe as I’m told some people do, but if you feel dehumanized by this comparison then you’re a misogynist? Men should be allowed to have a full range of emotions, but when I express my feelings about how this rhetoric is harmful in several ways, I’m prioritizing my feelings over hers or I’m the reason someone is choosing a bear.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/07/24 03:55 AM
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When stats are presented about female inmates, there’s often a stat presented that a significant number of them were abused. That stat rarely is presented when male inmates are talked about.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/07/24 03:49 AM
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My gf said this to me when we were why older women victimizing boys is so common but not spoken about. I was like…what??
/r/EverydayMisandry29/07/24 03:48 AM
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I’m astounded to hear someone wants people to ask women about their experience of being victimized That’s not something I’d ever want to ask people to volunteer, and I would think it’d be castigated. Many depictions in television and film have been criticized and rightfully so. Well, female perpetrator, male victim scenarios are an exception, those don’t receive as much criticism - sometimes it’s even played to laughs But yeah, I’ve never asked anyone that has disclosed to me, woman or man, to t…
/r/EverydayMisandry26/07/24 04:10 AM
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You get me. I want to make sure I’m not being biased in my own experiences, and consider the perspective of the counselor. But still, on the other hand, the books are written primarily for women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/07/24 10:40 AM
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IMO, it’s more a rhetorical argument. As though he’s saying “I’m tired of y’all acting like you’re ‘doing emotional labor’ just because you’re more ‘emotional’ than us. In our lives, there are many times wherein the most advantageous thing for us to do is to be resolute or unaffected in that moment, and that in and of itself is emotional labor. And we need to recognize that this typical masculine stoicism has a time and a place where it is necessary, advantageous, and appreciated when we’re talk…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/07/24 10:37 AM
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I actually saw an article that made this argument the other day Stoicism (as Emotional Compression) Is Emotional Labor The criticism of “traditional,” “toxic,” or “patriarchal” masculinity in both academic and popular venues recognizes that there is some sense in which the character traits and tendencies that are associated with masculinity are structurally connected to oppressive, gendered social practices and patriarchal social structures. One important theme of criticism centers on the gender…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/07/24 04:42 AM
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The way you’re framing it here makes it sound reasonable for the man to withdraw. On the other end of it, Gottman’s books seem to describe withdrawing as a bad behavior that needs to stop. I think this also is construed at times to be the woman doing the emotional labor in the relationship, because she feels as though she’s bringing things up, taking on the mental load for the relationship. I can see how it’s unhealthy to withdraw, but I also have experienced exactly what you’re describing, and …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/07/24 04:35 AM
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“Regular single people who’ve been through breakups” is not included for men either. Single, in this context and in my opinion, is more like “long-term single” or “forever alone single.” I think many guys would be kinda wary of dating a woman who had been single for the last 5 years. Perhaps that’s what you meant by femcel? I thought it had a similar connotation to incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:39 PM
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Men, to generalize, treat single women as weird too, to be completely fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 02:19 PM
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You certainly have a point, although I would’ve assumed more shelters would result in fewer women killed as opposed to it resulting in fewer men killed.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/24 07:50 AM
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This pew article used the following for the first chart you see on there, which is subtitled “women’s median hourly earnings as a percentage of men’s median hourly earnings” Note: Samples include employed workers ages 16 or older with positive earnings, working full time or part time, excluding the self-employed. But they’re talking about the uncontrolled gap. I do think that sexism absolutely plays some part. No doubts about that, actually. Not a 20% difference, but some. I guess that’s why the…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:19 AM
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I’ve seen analysis of this that hypothesized the reduction in female-perpetrated partner homicide was correlated with increases in women’s shelters because women were becoming better able to leave either the relationship or at least the home temporarily, meaning there were fewer women who felt like the only way out was homicide. That does make sense to me. I do wonder why there was simply less reduction in male perpetrated IPH though.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/24 04:01 AM
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No, as that’d be a silly claim to make. However, you may be familiar with the “13:50” dogwhistle, which is similar in several ways.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/07/24 06:41 AM
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Um, can we subscribe to your finance blog or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:47 AM
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Please clarify
/r/EverydayMisandry18/07/24 05:54 AM
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The commenters have a point. A lot was left out, who knows what he said. He seems like he saw the opportunity to be a victim and milked it.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/07/24 11:29 AM
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That a bit of rhetoric I’ve loudly pushed back on but it’s been like talking to a brick wall. I had an ex that told me to my face that if she was a victim of rape, she’d kill herself. I don’t think I ever told her about my childhood, but it felt pretty fucked up to hear So when I saw people saying that they’d “choose the bear because there are worse things than death, like being raped,” I posted saying that people should be considerate of survivors that may read their comments. It could be very …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/07/24 07:27 AM
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Also Black The thing about Misandry is that “racialized misandry” is absolutely a thing, without a doubt. Not that I felt Misandry doesn’t exist, but it’s a problem when the Wikipedia page immediately associates the term with misogyny. If you haven’t already, check out the book “The Man-Not” by Dr. Tommy Curry. Another helpful fact is that Black feminists have written about the same stuff we take issue with for years, at least to a significant extent. It’s mostly presented as criticism of White …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/07/24 07:15 AM
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I’m redeploying my blog so I can post these and credit cold_mongoose161 and let you know when I do if you’d like. It’ll be up for at least a year. To take it further, I can save the webpage as a pdf or html file or do the same with this series of comments
/r/EverydayMisandry17/07/24 02:44 AM
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From what I’ve seen, IPH (intimate partner homicide) is still easily “gendered,” in that it’s not as equal as IPV turned out to be. Do you have contradictory information?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/24 10:35 AM
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Even though I’ve seen these stats and analysis of them a ton, I have literally never considered what you just said. Another thing, this doesn’t include incarcerated people. The same barriers to reporting exist, if not even more so. But lots of people don’t know how many kids in juvie are sexually assaulted, very much including perpetration by women* >Approximately 95% of all youth staff sexual miscon- duct said they had been victimized by female staff
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/24 10:24 AM
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If it makes you feel any better, I used to work at Apple in Austin. That’s a liberal company with a gay CEO with a campus in a liberal city that’s has one of the largest gay populations per Capita in the US. There was this one dude on my floor who had a big ass Trump flag draped across his cubicle walls. I literally don’t know any trump supporters by name, and the only place I’ve seen a trump flag (other than at a Bernie rally) is driving west outside of the city to the hill country. I’m sure he…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/07/24 03:48 PM
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There are men AND bears outside
/r/EverydayMisandry08/07/24 06:48 AM
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The bureau of justice does surveys to eliminate rape in prison, and they consistently find things like the following: A higher percentage of male (6.1%) than female (2.9%) youth reported staff sexual misconduct. A higher percentage of female (4.7%) than male (1.6%) youth reported youth-onyouth victimization. In the most serious incidents of staff sexual misconduct reported during the interview period, an estimated 91% of incidents involved only female staff, while 6% involved only male staff. No…
/r/EverydayMisandry05/07/24 09:02 PM
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What posts do you disagree with?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/07/24 06:48 AM
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I was just thinking about this. I saw this tweet (screenshots) a few moments ago and I immediately started wondering if it is possible to be very vocal in trying to reduce toxic masculinity in society by associating it with misogyny, but also expect the very same men to react with violence on demand at whatever is deemed appropriate? It’s one of those double binds society puts on all of us at times. Women are expected to be chaste but sexy, and confident but not assertive or “bitchy.” Men are ex…
/r/EverydayMisandry01/07/24 12:04 AM
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There was a second study of the same subject and I couldn’t find a refutation for that one. I’m sure there’s a non zero percentage of people who do leave their spouse at those hard times, but I assume there’s some other reason that would impact the numbers, like medical debt
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/06/24 02:16 AM
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I don’t think this is productive, but I won’t hate on your for it. Your feelings come from frustration, which is what I’m told whenever I take issue with generalized castigation. Vitriol met with vitriol gets us where we are now. Competitive victimhood vs inclusive victimhood
/r/EverydayMisandry28/06/24 12:34 AM
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At least for what is reported, the staff is responsible for more rape than inmates. There is no consensual sex when you’re a guard, btw. It’s all rape, federally.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:21 PM
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Edit: adding this at the top. Found a study which supports something I was thinking about earlier, which is how common boys in juvenile detention are raped by female staff. Importantly, a sizable portion (42%) of solo female and all-female incidents occurring within jails or prisons involved females assaulting male victims. Presumably, these represent sexual abuse by female prison staff against male inmates, as few jails in the United States are coed. The remaining portion of cases could be comp…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/06/24 06:12 AM
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I absolutely call out misogyny in these spaces. But, I’ll admit, it’s not every single time, and I’ll tell you why. I’m Black. I’ve been on the internet since I was very young, and have seen some sort of anti-Black racism on an almost daily basis since then. It’s literally everywhere. In left leaning spaces it’s less common, but still absolutely a thing. I don’t expect white allies to call out every single racist, or even most of them. Going back and forth with a troll is an energy drain letting…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/06/24 11:24 PM
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I believe the term is femoids
/r/EverydayMisandry22/06/24 06:42 AM
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Not even the wealthy?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/06/24 02:12 PM
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most Do you really feel that’s the case? I’m not so confident. Maybe in larger corporations, mayyyybeee. But anything smaller…there are a lot of straight up misogynists out there who don’t think women are competent.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/06/24 03:58 AM
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I don’t really see many people here complaining about dating. I’m curious how that skews here. It seems like it’d be hard to talk about without sounding cringe. I have never used a dating app and I pray I never have to
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/06/24 08:43 AM
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This was a fuckin weird comment
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:59 AM
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First point, let me mention that it’s June 15th. There are 15 more days in the month. It’s not “almost over” as long as “halfway” isn’t “almost.” Someone might have a surprise party planned or something. Second: While a post is…nice sometimes, do you feel that fifty people posting “btw dudes your brain matters bro” in this subreddit will be beneficial in anyway way? I don’t think so, personally. Many of us are told platitudes like that, that our mental health matters, and we shouldn’t be afraid …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/06/24 05:54 AM
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I love it when people are cordial on the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 09:16 PM
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YOU HAVEN’T BEATEN THE HORNY ALLEGATIONS.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 06:00 PM
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My hypothesis, and please tell me if you disagree, is that the scar thing is basically the “beauty and the beast” trope. The man received his scars most often from some brutish, masculine behavior - like war or a fist fight with a bear or something. Extra points if it’s heroic or courageous. The scars are physical representations of past pain, but often this person is emotionally scared as well. The protagonist much of the time will have emotional scars, but this isn’t a requirement. Her feminin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 05:55 PM
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He did not imply that all women were happy with that depiction. However, it is not the first time the interests of part of a group have become attributed to the group as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 05:35 PM
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Don Imus’ situation had the added factor of being racially charged as well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/24 02:55 PM
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Purposefully obfuscatory way of saying Incel
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:39 PM
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Thank you. I didn’t really notice the MS bit. And when I first saw this article, one of the things that came to mind was the medical debt avoidance aspect. But anytime I’ve seen it posted on social media, that’s not even a possibility others seem to suggest. The only conclusion seems to be “men bad.” And I don’t want to act like that’s impossible, but it makes me skeptical
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/24 03:59 AM
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On the medical divorce subject, I’ve seen two studies. One was retracted (Karaker, 2015), but the other (Glantz, 2009) hadn’t been as far as I could tell. Know anything about it?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/24 03:28 AM
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Hey, it’s not me making the argument itself. I’m just offering an anecdote to bolster the comment you replied to, which stated they’ve seen women in this subreddit say that women don’t like sex. I too have seen that said. Do I believe that to be true? No. Not in the slightest. I do have a couple nits to pick with your comment though. The name “Good Vibrations” seems like a play on vibrators, so wouldn’t it make sense if most of the products were geared toward women? Separately, I can imagine som…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:41 AM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:19 AM
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Good point. I have friend group that uses “harem” with a connotation that’s different from the denotation, so by habit I interpreted in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:13 AM
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This NYT articleabout gender disparities in college enrollment mentions a book that asserts exactly that: In the 2015 book “Date-onomics,” the business reporter Jon Birger builds the case that hookup culture has become the norm on almost all college campuses, largely because the gender ratio is so skewed. In a world in which straight men are scarce, he maintains, they control the terms of social life. That argument may seem somewhat dated given that so many students now have a wider and more flu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 04:30 AM
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I’ve seen women (at least as identified by their flair) here straight up say women don’t enjoy sex
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 02:55 AM
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I thought the most common complaint was not opening up emotionally enough
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 01:43 AM
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That’s a broad generalization. Are the unpaid servant wives being forced into these marriages? (In the west)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 01:43 AM
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How do you do this without coming across apathetic or uncaring?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 01:39 AM
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So they believe that men are exaggerating?
/r/EverydayMisandry07/06/24 03:37 AM
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Agreed
/r/EverydayMisandry06/06/24 06:47 AM
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No, you see, because misandry doesn’t exist /j
/r/EverydayMisandry05/06/24 11:50 AM
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As an example: it’s often considered misogynistic to call a woman a bitch. The denotation is “a spiteful, unpleasant, or disliked woman.” If a woman calls her man a bitch because he won’t do X, Y, or Z, he may feel rather emasculated, because the insinuation is that he’s less of a man. That’s a way that misogyny harms men. Overall, patriarchy is the reason people denigrate women that way, but by extension when the word is used in reference to a man, it’s also implying he does not meet the bar fo…
/r/EverydayMisandry05/06/24 11:00 AM
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My gf and I are both Black and sometimes she does the “men will literally…” thing 🙄
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/06/24 10:53 AM
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But they didn’t kill you though, think about that /hj
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/05/24 02:37 AM
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A human isn’t an object though
/r/EverydayMisandry27/05/24 02:24 AM
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Most people are financially stable enough to have kids around 25-26?? I don’t know about that one fam
/r/EverydayMisandry26/05/24 10:13 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 10:11 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:19 AM
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I’m reading an article entitled “Thirty Years of Denying the Evidence on Gender Symmetry in Partner Violence: Implications for Prevention and Treatment” by the late Dr. Murray A. Strauss, who created the conflict tactics scale, the most widely used instrument in research on family violence. In it, he talks about the different ways academics have attempted to conceal findings that there was symmetry in IPV. Here’s method 6: Method 6: Prevent Funding of Research to Investigate Female Partner Viole…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/05/24 04:33 AM
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This study is from 2007, but that cohort is entering college now. When examining the rates of harsh verbal and physical discipline by gender of parent and child, we predicted that boys would receive more harsh discipline than girls, particularly from fathers. Our findings supported this hypoth- esis as, overall, boys received more harsh verbal and harsh physical discipline than girls. In addition, fathers used more harsh physical discipline than mothers with their sons, but used similar levels w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/05/24 05:58 AM
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Nonbinary people are considered to be transgender most often in those circles, and sometimes when speaking of past experiences or socialization and the like, it’s desirable to divulge the the genitalia one was born with and resultant sex determination. Nonbinary people also sometimes transition “back” or to the opposite gender, so stories relating to experiences with either may benefit from additional context or preemptive lessening of ambiguity. That, and he just may be used to it. For those re…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/05/24 10:24 PM
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Suggestions? SCUM manifesto type stuff?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/05/24 09:49 PM
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I’d pull up in a jock strap
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/05/24 05:07 PM
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That isn't how I'd describe my intention, but yes. I was saying that the mods deleted a comment I was replying to, wherein the commenter described the reasons he identified as anti-feminist in the past, and what changed for him that resulted in his mind changing. Additionally, I mentioned that I think that knowing this from several users is important, as lots of young boys and men will have similar thoughts and knowing how to reframe and reconstruct different points would be important. I then as…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/05/24 08:06 AM
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Hey the second comment you described was me!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/05/24 05:54 AM
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I drive Uber/Lyft with some regularity. The only time I’ve ever felt really endangered was this ride where I picked up this woman at about 2am, and she was attempting to set me up to get robbed. The robbery would have been completed by 3 or so men, sure, but my guard was lowered because this woman said the area makes her feel unsafe. This was north Philly at 2am, so motherfucker I feel unsafe too lmao. I now carry a firearm, and please believe me my guard is not down just because the rider is a …
/r/EverydayMisandry12/05/24 11:57 AM
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I don’t think they’re mutually exclusive. My gf didn’t stop improving herself just because we’re in a relationship. In fact, I’d say that we’ve helped each other a lot, not to mention general happiness increases
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 03:00 AM
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Why would taxes not matter for every tax payer? Not all employers seem to allow domestic partners as beneficiaries Symbolism is stupid to you but not to all Insurance is up, yes, but might as well try to save where possible no? Married men make more money on average Marriage has its death throes 40-50 years ago. It’s in a renaissance period.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:01 PM
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How would the laws be reformed?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:53 PM
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Taxes Rights in case of injury or death Symbolism 3a. Including the symbolism to your partner In some places, employer provided benefits can be extended only when married Lower car insurance Career marriage premium for men? I’m sure there are others, too. Rebuttal: you don’t have to buy an expensive ring or have an expensive ceremony. And sometimes the government’s paper is a necessity
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:52 PM
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That makes sense, but I don’t know if I agree. There are tons of womanizers who got attention in school and afterwards, but they still treat women like garbage. And I’m sure there are dudes that didn’t get much attention that are phenomenal friends and lovers and such. But I would say I have noticed a correlation generally between having human relationships with women and treating women like human being, to your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:44 PM
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That’s because they’re short and totally not because of the misogyny /j
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 03:26 PM
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There’s a somewhat similar issue in the Black community, though not exactly the same. Nationally, the Census Bureau counts 88 black male adults for every 100 black women, while the ratio for whites is a more equal 97 men for every 100 women. This has resulted primarily in women becoming celibate or disinterested in relationships in relatively high numbers. Another instance, the gender imbalance in the UK during and after WWI and WWII caused a panic, although women weren’t quite allowed to be as …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 01:39 PM
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This NYT article talks about the unbalanced gender ratio at most US universities and the dating scene described mimics what you’ve posted
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 01:32 PM
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This NYT articles talks about the unbalanced gender ratio at most US universities and the dating scene described mimics what you’ve posted
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 01:32 PM
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I saw a few things searching up “male rape victims rape myth” on google scholar, do those match what you’re looking for? Additionally, there this
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/05/24 07:24 AM
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I haven’t seen much writing about this sort of thing, with the exception of articles in this vein: White tears, white rage: Victimhood and (as) violence in mainstream feminism Another thing I think kinda fits is the concept of hybrid masculinities I would like to see more about it these sort of things though.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/05/24 04:41 PM
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Further, in making himself appear safer or more palatable to the white hegemony, the Black man is often seen to be less masculine, and less of a threat to the white men and women who would be otherwise uncomfortable
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/24 04:46 PM
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But the thing is, even though black men were technically allowed to vote, they were forcefully stopped by the racist southern whites via lynching, violence, etc. Despite having the "priviledge" to vote, they risked their lives doing so. That’s exactly what I was alluding to with the “I could easily argue against this” part. The Supreme Court turned a blind eye to, or really tacitly encouraged, measures that enabled states to implement ways to drive down the Black vote. The amount of lynchings th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/24 09:49 AM
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Erin Pizzey, who is now a “Men’s Rights Activist,” started the modern world's first safe house) for women and children escaping domestic violence in 1971. Wikipedia describes the necessity for their opening, stating: The ability to escape is valuable for women subjected to domestic violence or intimate partner violence. Additionally, such situations frequently involve an imbalance of power that limits the victim's financial options when they want to leave.Shelters help women gain tangible resour…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/24 05:07 AM
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My apologies on the misunderstanding. I’m literally 12 Edit: to be clear, I am not 12. It is a meme
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/24 01:35 PM
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I agree, the framing of my comment was intended to be jestful, and sort of an emulation of passive voice as used in “officer involved shooting.” On this note, however, I was just reading about tobacco brides, and thinking how insane it is that women were (mostly/frequently) sold to some dudes across the ocean, sight unseen, to go work hard as fuck and hopefully not get assassinated by indigenous people. Like, they really said “we got some dudes over here, it’s a total sausage fest. Who got maide…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:40 AM
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Unless he said it was the case, I agree. I’m a Black dude in a relationship with a Black woman. My longest prior relationship was with an Asian woman, and my first gf was mestiza. It would be ridiculous, IMO, for an ex to think we broke up because I never liked how they looked. In fact, I chose them for reasons beyond that because looks fade.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:30 AM
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Lmaooo Not maidenless, just lacking access to maidens
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:18 AM
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It’s certainly not just them. NYT does that as well, and I swear I’ve seen it elsewhere but I don’t have any other examples in mind
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/24 08:50 AM
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The study is on an entirely different plane than the article seemed to construe it to be
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/24 08:48 AM
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That sucks about the whole subject honestly.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/24 06:27 AM
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Women live longer than men but experience more years in poor health, according to a global gender health gap analysis that experts say underlines an urgent need for action to boost women’s health. That’s…an interesting way to put it. The actual study didn’t frame things that way, so that’s good. To reduce the socioeconomic gap in life expectancy, effective efforts are needed to prevent early deaths from cardiovascular disease and cancer in socioeconomically deprived populations, with cancer prev…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/24 06:25 AM
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People complained about men being underrepresented at a quilting festival? That’s wild.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/24 06:12 AM
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What was the response like?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/24 06:10 AM
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I disagree with the assertion regarding how this choice came to be. Most research or commonly stated talking points about sexual assault and violence are focused on male perpetrators and female victims of these things. This is rightful and understandable, to an extent. What is often ignored are statistics on male victims (most of whom have female perpetrators), which are known to be reported even less frequently. Another aspect is how most frequently the perpetrator is known to the victim. The s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/04/24 10:53 AM
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And racist!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:02 AM
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I personally see more comments that explicitly said “some women” and things like that, than those that generalize all women. But, any comment espouses misogynistic views and drives away potential sympathetic users is a net-negative. I feel like you should call out the individual comments as well, that way it is known that someone takes issue with some of the rhetoric. I do this sometimes. I may get downvoted but perhaps that does have the commenter think a second time before saying something sim…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/04/24 03:57 AM
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Wow, I don’t get people interacting like this on the internet all the time. I’m curious what you saw about the Black male superheroes and white women heroes? 2 examples that speak to your original point: Black men getting the right to vote with the 15th amendment, while white women had to wait until the 19th. I can easily argue against this, but it is still technically the case. I can’t find much information on this, but I imagine Black men have been able to get credit cards and buy homes since …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/04/24 03:50 AM
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Earl Silverman created a men’s shelter which went so badly he committed suicide. Men’s Rights Advocates, the mythopoetic men's movement, father’s rights advocates, ManKind Project , the Men's movement, A Voice For Men Many of the groups that are treated as hate groups did not start out that way, and there could be an argument made that were it not for mainstream society casting a negative light on it and some members being or getting away with extreme sexism including murdering women, and it not…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/04/24 03:34 AM
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When you say a Black man getting an opportunity over a white woman, do you mean that in this circumstance the opportunity wasn’t deserved on merit, and they were given the opportunity based on race? If so, I’m curious if you have any examples of this?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/04/24 03:05 AM
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Sorry about your experience with him. That’s not “men” universally or exclusively. There are women that are equally for the streets as your ex. One of my brothers used to be a hoe but now he’s loyal as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 11:55 PM
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I love eating pussy and have clocked upwards of 45m doing it before. 8 or so orgasms; but I start to get really worried. Like it has to be frying her brain or something. Most of time she has 3-4 for every 1 that I have. Apparently about 5% of couples have that sort of gap, where the man orgasms less.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:22 AM
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There’s someone shorter, fatter, uglier, and more awkward than you out there right now doing what you want do
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 07:23 PM
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Makes sense. What I don’t understand fully is why it’s an ick as opposed to something that you like to assist with, I guess like some/many men do for their partners. But that’s what makes it illogical eh? But to be fair, even though I consider myself rather egalitarian, I’d rather die than see my girl jack up my car and change my oil.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:41 PM
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What if he handles heat very well?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:37 PM
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She do that despite me not being a worm
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:36 PM
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I tend to become friends with lesbians often. Since high school, through to work, or even strangers. A couple years ago o went to a housewarming wherein I was the only dude there with like 12 lesbians. The host introduced me by saying “he’s cool” or “he’s one of the good ones” or something and I had a blast. Of course they wouldn’t tell me to my face but I haven’t seen the “man-hating lesbian.” trope except on Twitter and in some [lesbian or separatist] feminist theory. You tell me if I’m wrong …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:36 PM
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Does that mean you pay specific attention to his car to notice this?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:29 PM
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It’s relatively common amongst gay men, maybe it’s “in” amongst straight women more than before
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 05:28 PM
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Are you in America, and do you have an accent? That’s a very interesting anecdote. Why would the white women stereotype you like that? I’m a Black dude, I’ve been stereotyped like a motherfucker by a few white women, though it’s not like I do street pickup or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 09:51 PM
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Is that person rich, wealthy, or well off? I don’t know who they are so that’s a genuine question. I believe that was the assertion. Now, I’m Black, but I’ll say that poor white men can sometimes be demonized for “not taking advantage of their privilege” unfairly by some people on social media. I know a few people who believe some things that are very radical. But I haven’t seen the sentiment that wealthy Black people have less privilege than poor white people, nor have I personally seen any arg…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 09:47 PM
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The data also showed gun violence continuing to have a disproportionate impact on Black children and teens, who have a gun homicide rate 20 times higher than their white counterparts. Additionally, the nation’s overall gun suicide rate increased 1.6%, reaching an all-time high, and for the first time, the gun suicide rate among Black teens surpassed the rate among white teens. Historically, we kill each other, not ourselves. Now, at least in the youth, it’s both. I’ll also point out that seeing …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/03/24 11:31 AM
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Are you considered to be within some other marginalized group? Disabled, gay, of color, etc.?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/03/24 10:45 PM
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Interesting, thanks for that. His dad looks mulatto (to me), and I am very much inclined to believe that Tate is a quadroon, but then again there's Logic (the rapper). Genes, man. How do they even work?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:35 PM
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What is he?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 07:07 AM
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So here’s where I don’t understand your assertion. Does the girl monkey brain, as you said, activate when accepting the first date, or does it continue past that point? Because I think a significant amount of people will say yes to a date prompted by an attractive person. That first date is where compatibility potential is often ascertained.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 04:30 PM
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So I assume you think the same of men, right? If a sufficiently attractive woman approached us, we’d be stuck as she rizzes us out of our pants?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 04:15 PM
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An ex said to me, a victim of CSA, that she’d hill herself if she were r8ped. Well, alrighty then.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/03/24 06:01 AM
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Then what was in Hillary’s emails?? (/j)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 03:55 PM
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On the game analogy: I’d assert that yes, they do approach the situation logically, that’s what’s done during the practice week. Watching tape, analyzing and practicing responses to the opposition’s offense and defense, developing offenses that may target a weak point in a team’s defense, strength and agility training, etc. Day-of, however, your point stands
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 09:18 AM
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There’s a term that was used in a study of Black men’s community college outcomes that I really think could be used elsewhere, as it’s fantastic. “Capital identity projection” Capital identity projection, as a framework, examines the harmful psychosocial disposition that occurs when an individual portrays an image of economic success to the point of one’s detriment. The desire to display status indicative of acquired material goods (e.g., clothing, jewelry, cars, homes) may lead to an embellishe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/03/24 08:26 AM
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I acknowledge some of my own biases, and then continue to be biased. “I know I may be falling victim to availability bias, but I feel like there’s so much X going on these days”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 05:26 AM
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Being completely pedantic here, but I believe you mean more risk averse
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:47 PM
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The people who bring this up the most are actually LGBTQIA+ people. People vent to the bi or lesbian friend and say “ugh I wish I was lesbian too” or something to that effect, which minimizes the problems that bi and lesbian people might face and essentially portrays those relationships as inherently better. It can be rather offensive
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/03/24 08:03 PM
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The reason heteropessimism is generally disfavored is because of its semantic similarity to “Afro-pessimism.” The person who first used the phrase wanted to ensure no issues would arise
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/03/24 08:00 PM
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That last bit is good advice for everyone, I think. That was a whole sermon
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 05:30 AM
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On one hand, I’d say sure, yes, they’re an everyone thing. On the other, there’s a definite societal expectation for women to be more attentive or adept at gift giving, and also a a related higher expectatiokn for gifts they receive as well. Over the holidays, I remember having seen several (many) blogs or articles about husbands not contributing appropriately to the performance of Christmas, and how they need to do better. I don’t even like receiving gifts for my birthday, so I see the articles…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 07:43 PM
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Some people are just here because it’s a more acceptable place to push their specific agenda despite them not being leftist.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 11:49 PM
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Link?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/02/24 06:53 AM
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Whoa, I have been wondering why the ability to vote was given to Black men before white women for a few weeks now. That’s very interesting. Do you have a source? Although, women gained the right to vote and still didn’t have to register for the draft, so they came out on top anyway
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/02/24 09:28 PM
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I can’t substantiate the entire assertion, but I can say that some very prominent white feminists like Elizabeth Cady Stanton started getting real racist and some started implying or outright saying that Black men are rapists
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/02/24 04:50 PM
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Heterofatalism is another word
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/02/24 08:14 PM
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The white feminism callout is very accurate in my opinion, which makes it even more bewildering when it’s a Black woman or other woman of color espousing white feminist rhetoric. Sometimes I see straight up racist takes veiled as feminism, and it’s wild. (I’m Black btw)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/02/24 03:04 PM
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I just looked it up and this is what I found: When a woman is younger than 30, she has an 85% chance to conceive within 1 year. At the age of 30, there is a 75% chance to conceive in the first 12 months. This chance declines to 66% at the age of 35 and 44% at the age of 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 02:25 PM
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Stuff I’ve seen on tik tok is kinda like this
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:54 AM
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Intersectionality as it has been implemented Intersectionality isn’t something that’s implemented as much as it is a framework for analysis of social issues. I am a man. This comes with issues. I am Black - this comes with issues. But because I am a Black man, there is a separate set of issues to think about that is specifically related to the intersection of the two. Same with any other combinations. There are certain challenges Asian women deal with that are very relevant to them. White men. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:20 AM
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More conservative thoughts doesn’t mean Republican to be fair
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:03 AM
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Oh man. It can be a lot more reasonable and manageable than that. But a lot of college students don’t know their limits, and I think a lot of girls try to keep up with the guys but guys can generally drink way more and not be shitfaced like that. I’m in Austin, Texas, which is very consistently considered to be a rather alcohol-heavy city, with a massive university of about 55,000 students right in the middle, plus others. We have a street known for partying, 6th street, and young people often g…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:19 AM
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I was like “Hi, Susan?” And she was like “huh? Who?” And I said “Susan?” And she was like “oh yeah, yeah” I’ve never met a 21 year old named Susan, so it’s she probably goes by Susie or something
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:01 AM
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I do Uber and Lyft driving on the side, and have transported several super drunk girls who fell asleep. Definitely not a good idea, but at least they picked the right driver. I took this one girl to a very nice gated community, and none of the gate codes she tried were working. She said fuck it I’ll walk, and I was like “I really don’t want you to have to do that, it’s 1.4 more miles after the gate” and she says she’ll be alright, mere minutes after being so faded she didn’t remember her own nam…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:14 PM
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Given that the generalized “men” are the cause of many issues, to some people, does that mean “All men” is simultaneously attractive men and men that are creeps?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 12:42 AM
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Most people, especially past 1 year in, aren’t getting jealous because of any past (pre-relationship) partners in most cases. It would be potential crushes, people who are a threat to the partner, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 12:38 AM
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What problems are intrinsic to feminism as an ideology?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/01/24 05:03 PM
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The more common archetype of a man that is a catch is in a relationship and likely married. You assume that all men who are catches want to lead women on, and exploit their desire for his personal satisfaction. Maybe that’s what you would do, but that’s not everybody. Or even most. Just going off a couple rich people, Jeff Bezos knew McKenzie Scott before he was rich. She held him down, and he’s stated she challenged him. Robert Smith, the richest Black man in America, had a wife he met when he …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 04:44 AM
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I don’t think this is the case, but that man will stay locked down. People don’t want to lose the “catches”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 03:20 AM
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I disagree, because benevolent sexism is still associated with increased domestic violence against women and more overly sexist beliefs
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 02:40 AM
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Excellent summary of that topic. It’s something I had noticed, but you really summed it up so succinctly and with chronology added. I think it’s totally reasonable to assume that adult men are subject to sexual violence at a lower rate than women, it makes sense generally. People all too often act like it doesn’t happen, and when I subjected to reproductive coercion by a partner, I didn’t even know it would meet many people’s definition of rape (though as a child I was also sexually victimized b…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/01/24 06:22 PM
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That, or seeking out and finding the specific instances wherein this does happen exactly as stated and using that to influence worldview as though it’s more common than myriad other scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:12 AM
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I’m a connoisseur and can tell by the viscosity
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:54 PM
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Responsive desire, vs spontaneous desire is the concept that most closely describes this that I know of
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:53 PM
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Do you consider yourself asexual? My gf says something similar and considers herself asexual (we have sex ofc)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:52 PM
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Let me start off by saying I'm not one of these people who thinks this is zero sum. One group does not have to suffer for the other to succeed, but many people treat it that way. That said: The notion that ‘no one cares’ about mens problems is ridiculous We hear constantly about men’s suicide rates, men’s mental health, men’s “loneliness epidemic” Typically, these issues are responded to with a different version of "you have to fix it yourself." Which is not the same way the problems are respond…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 04:46 AM
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You’ve made an incredibly vast and sweeping generalization there. It seems as though you’ve been mistreated yourself or witnessed mistreatment. I’m sorry you went through that; personally it takes a lot of work for me not to be jaded despite having been abused by several women throughout myself life, what with seeing people perform the “women-are-wonderful” dance all the time. Make no mistake, I do not gawk at breast feeding women, I do not feel entitled to home cooked meals and cleanup (I’m the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 12:47 AM
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We as in men? I honestly try to expect no more than I give, or at least know where I complement my SO. In fact, I’m a giver 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:11 PM
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That dude is going a little far with it, but there are reasonable perspectives and critiques of 4th wave and/or postfeminism that argue that some feminists with some views have done more promote equality - they’ve operated with the goal of weakening men or subjecting men to a type of philogynistic control. This being specifically separate from men who are upset about not having power over women. As an example, the social issues that plague men only getting worse, with seemingly very few people a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:09 PM
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This is how my girl approaches it and I like that about her. We’re very egalitarian in most ways but I like to pay for the majority of the things we do. She’ll still offer though and actually insist. She’ll even get mad at me if it gets too uneven
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:29 PM
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I really don’t know what’s up that. It’s on me to plan dates and keep up with romance…doing things to make her feel loved. I can communicate when I’m missing something generally, like feeling like I’ve not gotten much attention or something, but I’m pretty simple I’d say. It’s always the other way around where the issue arises. I must acquiesce and say my SO is a good gift giver for anniversaries and the like, but that isn’t one sided. Plus I don’t even want gifts. Building on your point, howeve…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:26 PM
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I’m emotionally sensitive but not good with emotions, and what you’ve noticed certainly applies to my dating history too. Interesting observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 11:32 AM
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The example I prefer if you are in a large city with moderate crime, and you park your car and leave your laptop on your seat, your laptop will get stolen. Now, no one is going to - or should - say that you are the only reason your laptop got stolen. However, you may be told not to leave your laptop on your seat in the future, they may put up signs in the area that say “lock, hide, take,” and people might remind others to not leave valuables in plain sight. If you get caught breaking into cars, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 10:51 PM
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Yes, absolutely. There’s likely a bit of misunderstanding about how it happens for many people though. I’ve been intimate with 7 people: 1 from school, 4* i met at work and 2 online (Twitter) (1 of those online was in a friend group online) Actually 3 but I had a threesome with my ex and her coworker. I count that as a body but it was her coworker not mine. I do not recommend this btw
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:32 AM
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Women like dating people that they are in some proximity to the most, id argue. Easy to vet you, you can be vouched for, and observed from a distance
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:13 AM
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Is masculinity a monopoly on violence to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:09 AM
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That’s not true
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:07 AM
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There’s a book called “The Glass Slipper: Women and Love Stories” written by feminist author Susan Ostrov Weisser that makes several claims, including one similar to OP’s. He’s not that far off, and it’s a good book
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:14 PM
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There’s a book called “The Glass Slipper: Women and Love Stories” that’d be worth reading.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:12 PM
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It was in the article like that, though I agree with your point considering that people tend to rate crime as going up even when it’s going down.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/24 03:17 AM
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Link?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/24 02:29 AM
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Where did I even insinuate that Mexican men, as a whole, are rapists? There are rapists in every group of people, and for probably a plethora of reasons, the subways system in Mexico City seems to have more sexual crime than most people find acceptable. This also is the case in Japan, but I’m not saying Japanese men are harrasers or anything like that. Certain crimes, at times, may be more prevalent in certain places, for a lot of reasons. None of those reasons have to be a condemnation of a gro…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/24 02:28 AM
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The stat said 7/10 women had been groped or assaulted, don’t know if you missed that
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/24 02:24 AM
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Mexican men are demonized in Mexico? Brother, I live in Texas, which is majority Hispanic, and of that, the vast majority is Mexican. On the ground, I do not hear anyone demonizing Mexican men more (or really at all) than republicans, and it’s largely due to immigration stuff. The majority of those seeking asylum aren’t even Mexican. I grew up going to 90% Hispanic schools, I have been called every slur in the book by my friends, and I would never demonize them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/24 02:23 AM
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You’re denying that women have been oppressed at this point? Even if you don’t think it happens currently, you’re denying that it happpened in the past? Here’s a Wikipedia article on gender inequality. Lots of stuff there. You don’t have to take every bit as irrefutable fact, but most of it is accepted by the majority of people. And here’s a Lincoln quote: “There is a natural disgust in the minds of nearly all white people to the idea of indiscriminate amalgamation of the white and black races ……
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/24 02:15 AM
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As a leftist, do you not recognize that there are groups of people which either currently or have been historically oppressed? I would hope that you can understand why recognizing that doesn’t make them a “pet demographic”
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/24 12:55 AM
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I don’t think it’s “growing” in that way. From what I’m aware, the issues mainly arose in the 70s as porn became more of a thing, and thus emerged both the sex positive feminists and the anti-sex feminists, and all the varying opinions on sex, porn, prostitution, etc. The unfortunately named WAP (Women Against Pornography) was founded in the 70s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 01:49 PM
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Disagree. But also, is interestingness not a factor in attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:01 AM
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To be equivalent, you’d have to make the all-X floor the oppressed group. All Black floor, Cisgender free swimming hour, telling a Christian off for not crossing the road. As a member of one of those groups, it’d be tacky (at minimum) to do IMO, and as not-a-member of the others, I don’t feel excluded by these scenarios
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/24 09:42 PM
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Mexico City also has a massive problem with harassment of women. I couldn’t possibly understand why you have a problem with this when there’s information like this available: According to NPR, a 2016 survey showed that 9 out of 10 women in Mexico felt unsafe taking public transportation. Another study showed that seven out of 10 female passengers in Mexico City said they were harassed when taking the bus or subway.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/24 09:37 PM
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You look intimidating means, generally some combination of the following: you’re attractive but you don’t seem approachable, and/or that you are potentially mean (possibly RBF too), you seem like you cultivate your own group, are independent, willing to defend a point an not back down, high self esteem, potentially cliquish, do not take bullshit, will call out things you don’t like, emo or goth or scene with matching disposition/affect, has probably kicked a man in the dick and it fell off and y…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:39 PM
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In fairness, I would say some amount of insecurity, jealously, anger, annoyance, etc. is completely normal at some point during the course of a relationship, at least I’m 98% certain. If it occupies your thoughts to the degree it may occupy OP’s, that definitely doesn’t seem healthy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:20 PM
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This reply is an 11/10
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:16 PM
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Your reasoning, specifically the bit stating that emotional bond changes what’s attractive to men, is something I hadn’t thought about. Where I disagree is that I find women older than me attractive all the time, more so than any younger than me. I’m 27 for reference. I’m not sure how recent of a phenomenon pair bonding is within humans, but I desire that too, to a significant degree, which increases the amount of other traits that I find attractive (e.g. agency, ability to handle stress, etc.) …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 10:51 AM
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You feel like women just get less attractive as time passes? They don’t have any qualities they can build on to be more attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 09:55 AM
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Because women feel less safe, it is commonly stated that women cannot walk around at night, as an example
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/24 04:23 PM
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There are several in this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 02:49 PM
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I never have “blow outs” but I do have depression so maybe it just manifests itself differently. As an example, I got laid off and I didn’t tell her until the next day because she had such a bad day at work
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/24 12:21 AM
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I 100% agree with this, and it’s one reason why the more recent “men trauma dumping” thing has been confusing. Every gf I’ve ever had needed to vent a significant amount very often. I’m cool with that, btw. But so much venting and trauma. And I’ll keep my own sad topics in so I don’t ruin the mood more Even strangers; I think I have a trustworthy face or voice or something because the amount of [white] women that tell me about something that’s affecting them and end up crying is extremely high. …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/24 07:38 PM
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I have a great disdain for the way it is asserted that men aren’t emotionally intelligent. The Harvard Business Review model has 12 facets of emotional intelligence. I feel that women exhibit more of the “empathy” and “emotional self awareness” traits which are commonly considered to be “emotional intelligence.” But looking at that chart, I’m sure you know many men who exhibit many of those other traits, maybe moreso than women. Intelligence also involves responding to external stimuli in a way …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/24 07:29 PM
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This seems pretty incontrovertible: men commit 86% of all murders, among other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 01:38 PM
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I mean that’s bestie though, and she lets me touch her butt. Why wouldn’t I brag about her
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 07:07 PM
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We have different views because you believe that all feminists and all of feminism presumes that men are the perpetrators of all evil and that women are the victims. There are a significant amount of those, absolutely, but it is not all, and patriarchy =/= belief that all men are perpetrators of all evil. Either way, you too have a good day. I find more commonalities with people than not, even if we disagree on something.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/23 09:27 AM
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You assume that we all are “Men’s Rights Advocates,” which in the eyes of many people, is a specific group of people who espouse certain rhetoric, but often considered to be anti-feminist. A lot of people moved away from using that term, including Men’s Liberationists who consider themselves to be pro-feminist. Denying that women are still oppressed is, frankly, ignorant. They absolutely are, in many ways varying in severity and extent by country. Sexist beliefs are very common even in OECD nati…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/23 06:46 AM
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Feminism isn’t just one set of beliefs, generalizing like this erases the many out there that agree with the points in this post.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/23 04:51 AM
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This is actually the basis behind a very good paper by Dr. T. Hassan Johnson called “ChallengingThe Myth of Black Male Privilege.” This is his website where he has a less formal rundown
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/12/23 04:59 PM
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Honestly, nice rebuttal. I don’t get those too often. I need to check out that article, and I didn’t know bell hooks did that, but I certainly believe it. Those feminists go too far and start to enmesh with the divestor crowd. If you aren’t aware, those are Black radical feminists usually who have decided to “divest” from Black men, often employing very racist, white suprematist rhetoric in affirming their choice online. I’ve been on the internet since I was a wee lad, 4chan, Reddit, etc. I’ve s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/12/23 02:26 AM
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I don’t know if other people experience this directed at them but I figured they were talking about seeing this stuff generally. To clarify, the person making being made fun of is not present or being spoken to, they’re being made fun of online, or to their friend group. I’ve seen many a tinder profile posted on social media where people are making fun of some dude who doesn’t know his face is being plastered all over Twitter. Sometimes it is explained that there was some transgression, but not …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 12:57 PM
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Do you feel like most feminists are gender supremacists? Or some? Do you encounter this offline too?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/12/23 03:34 AM
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Hmm. I hear you, but I am sure the majority of people that others might consider “woke” don’t freeze out discussion in that way. It’s a vocal few. I usually see woke as a synonym for Black by republicans. For a lot of people, the original definition was someone that is aware of some of the effects of system racism, and/or cisheteropatriachal hegemony, and/or capitalism’s interaction with the other two. They may define it using different words, but the underlying focus is the same. I’d say I’m wo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/12/23 03:32 AM
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Reading it, I couldn’t help but think of Black Lives Matter™️. Keep in mind, I am a Black man who is very pro Black. But the organization (not the slogan) was corrupt and fraudulent. Those people took the movement, and used altruistic language and racial strife for their personal gain. This doesn’t discredit the movement, but those people certainly didn’t help. I also have a few trans friends, and several gay friends. Whether Black, gay, trans, etc, there are a couple that have an ability to mak…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/23 05:30 AM
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I think the sample size was low, but I think the points made in the discussion were salient. Wherever people may be able to employ tactics that allow them to look like a victim, you may find narcissists. And they specifically mention it was not more women than men. It was equal. I believe they tested with the feminist activies scale because there are not scales for other types of movements in the same way, but it would make sense if this occurred in those too. They also mention that this doesn’t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/23 05:00 AM
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What is wokism
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/23 04:45 AM
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And a lot of them were racist too. Which is very interesting. Elizabeth Cady Stanton ”So long as there is a disfranchised class in this country, and that class is women, a man’s government is worse than a white man’s government with suffrage limited by property and educational qualifications, because in proportion as you multiply the rulers, the condition of the politically ostracised is more hopeless and degraded. . . . If American women find it hard to bear the oppressions of their own Saxon f…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/23 04:40 AM
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This is a problem IMO. And it’s not just internet informed, it’s something I’ve seen throughout relationships and with other people, and it’s not just women of course. But I’m especially perceptive to seeing women do it. It’s so common for women I know to have something that upsets them, not communicate it, build resentment, and just explode or otherwise take it all out on a person. If you notice something is wrong, some will say nothing is wrong, perhaps even gaslight you into thinking you’re j…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 04:39 AM
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King shit brother
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 10:28 AM
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Just like there exists the opposite tbf.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:21 AM
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Shit’s expensive these days. But also, I have spent that much tons of times, but admittedly I’m in a relationship with those people. Like, going to Santa’s Wonderland is $40/pp and that doesn’t include drinks, gas, etc. They say, if you give a mouse a cookie…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:17 AM
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Me and my gf clash sometimes because although I believe we’re egalitarian, there’s something deep down in me that will not allow her to walk on the street side of the side walk or carry anywhere near as many groceries as I do
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:06 AM
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Honestly I feel everybody suffers from this availability bias, and it manifests itself in different ways between genders. Men see shit like this, women see whatever they see which I won’t comment on but I’m sure you see it a lot in various people. I try to tell people, but everyone thinks their bias is reasonable My Twitter algorithm is dialed in just so precisely to piss me off within minutes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:03 AM
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This is valid analysis. You didn’t include a monogamous example though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 06:12 PM
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"I do not beat my meat at you, sir, but I beat my meat, sir." Romeo and Juliet
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 09:05 AM
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Hey, I had a comment exchange with you about learned helplessness a few days ago! I would imagine it’s a confluence of factors and somewhat of a parabola when graphed. Many of those that report feeling lonely are Gen Z, who are on social media, seeing people have fun, though they have no money to do so. On the other end, there’s people with money and no where and no one to spend it on, and other associated problems. So it’s not to say only poor people are lonely, just mentioning a specific confl…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:59 AM
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That makes perfect sense, and I’m sure it’s the safest way to do it. But, if that’s the case, how did the other commenter see it happen to 10 people? It must’ve been physical removal or at least people being asked to leave and not come back I presume
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:38 AM
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I have never once thought about how many dudes are beating their meat at this very moment, until I read your comment. Why would you do this to me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:26 AM
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A man ruled by sex is an inferior man Good thing I’m ruled by pussy then
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:25 AM
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The first one had me feeling existentially fucked for like day. I didn’t even share that one with friends because I feel like it’s too much. Everyone thinks about their specific group, right? So I think about Black women and men affected by this. Black people have consistently had unemployment rates twice that of white people since the 70s, which is very intriguing and shows that these rates aren’t by choice. In some cities, it’s worse: Black unemployment in DC is nearly 7 times higher than whit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 05:33 AM
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This is not in support of OP’s point, but I’ve seen stuff like that: https://thirdway.imgix.net/pdfs/override/The-Future-for-Non-College-Women-Is-Bleak-%E2%80%93-Third-Way.pdf https://kenaninstitute.unc.edu/kenan-insight/will-generative-ai-disproportionately-affect-the-jobs-of-women/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 04:44 AM
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Tulsa
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 04:33 AM
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You still just said "a lot" is relative. "A lot" can't be quantified because it has no concrete definition, and no deviation from average can be properly defined as "a lot" because it has no definition. Some people think "A lot" over the speed limit is 5mph. To others, that's absolutely nothing. By law, over 25mph (here) over the speed limit is probably considered "a lot," as that's an enhanced infraction. Even still, 10 people harassing women is not "a lot" to me. One person seeing 10 people ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 12:00 AM
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Stop being so anal about things. You said it was a lot. I said it wasn't. That is it. Who cares. You can't tell me to stop being anal, after trying to correct me on a subjective opinion, and then ask "who cares." I care about not looking like a person that downplays sexual harassment and assault, because it's a big deal to me. Don't try to make me feel bad about that, and don't try to make me feel like being "combative" isn't an appropriate feeling when it seems like someone might be trying to p…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 11:54 PM
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And did I say "I don't believe you" or "That's impossible" or anything that said to you that your experience was not your experience? I would say no, I did not. What I did say, was that was a lot. Perhaps the amount of times men harass women is also a lot. A lot is relative. Over 50 people named John are murdered each year, but if someone said 10 people named John are murdered each year, I still think that's a lot. For one person to see 10 people kicked out of gyms, in my experience, is a lot - …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 11:36 PM
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I didn't discount your experience at all, nor make any argument against segregated gyms
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 11:28 PM
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Of course. Because the comment was about seeing examples of guys not only crossing the line, but being kicked out as well, I mostly was referring to the process of being kicked out; one which I would usually expect to draw more attention that the initial transgression
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 10:49 PM
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Damn 10 times in 10 years is a lot I would think. I’ve never seen it, or it happened really quietly. But everyone at gyms I’ve been to has seemed cordial and polite
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 09:29 PM
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Sure, but the majority do. And because of the stigma in many places, especially double marginalized communities like within Black or trans people, those rates are even higher. Contraceptives are prohibitively expensive for some people, and the public health department, if accessible, often gives out inadequately sized condoms. Gay men have on average a slightly bigger penises than straight men, apparently, and no one ever tells you that condoms probably don’t feel good because they’re the wrong …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 11:30 PM
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It seems the overlap between those behaviors and racism is pretty significant too. Wonder why
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:47 PM
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I’m curious what they mean by “dominant.” Is “dominance” desirable in most facets of life? I’d argue no. Most of our society is built upon teamwork, social skills, collaboration. So it’s less being dominant, and more knowing when and how to take control of a situation when it is warranted, but also how to sit back and let whomever was elected to lead in a given scenario do their job, and be an influential person without dominating at those times. Which is also instilled in most people in footbal…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:41 PM
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The abrasion from anal sex combined with men being men. Men be horny
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:26 PM
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Psychology, Rehabilitation. More here
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 04:55 AM
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Doesn't the degree matter a lot more? Sure, but this isn't what most kids are told at all. More now, but the more we look in the past, the less this was stated. In 2017, when she started college, this wasn't common rhetoric. Get your degree, and it'll get you somewhere, is what everyone was fed. Especially where she's from, which has some of the lowest graduation rates in the state. Not only that, but Black people in New Jersey are nearly 30 percent less likely to attend an in-state public four-…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 04:54 AM
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Several of my best friends are lesbian, and they’re serious about it. I never have doubted lesbian relationships at all. I don’t think my GF is an object that makes my penis hard. Still, I dont feel threatened by lesbians and bisexual women because I feel like they’re more likely to be respectful of the boundaries of a relationship and because I don’t think my gf would get along with another woman in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 03:57 AM
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Knowing that they’re biphobic, how much should they have typed? The result is the same, no matter what: biphobia. They’re gonna justify it regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 03:52 AM
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The characterization would be of the best friend. To some, she would be the promiscuous slut who “took” the otherwise faithful wife from the husband. Or perhaps, it is the wife that is promiscuous, prone to infidelity, and lack of commitment, because she is bisexual
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 03:49 AM
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The higher chance for STIs to spread, that’s it. Gay men engage in riskier practices more often. And this isn’t mean in any homophobic way, it’s just the case statistically for several reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 03:46 AM
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My gf went to Rutgers! I be hyping her up about it because she’s smart and graduated magna cum laude but can’t find a job paying more a reasonable amount
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 08:21 PM
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Lots of white collar folks without a degree too
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 08:11 PM
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No college here, white collar works just fine as well
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 08:10 PM
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Men are messy. Women are the FBI
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 09:17 PM
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How many women have you had sex with? You know how one woman works, at minimum, but how others do you know about?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 09:16 PM
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They take it to a different level. It’s just not possible to cum 8 times in a day for many men. Or it might be but I’m sure it’d get exhausting by the end, if not sore. I would never want head for 45 minutes. Both of these things, I’ve done to my gf. It’s ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 09:13 PM
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Nah dude your English is better than a lot of native speakers. Let’s hear it spoken and we’ll 100% tell you. But my experience is that people get very self conscious without any reason to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 04:01 AM
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Assuming your second sentence there is a metaphor as well, you’re saying confident people will naturally show their confidence, as opposed to unconfident people being a caricature or what they think a confident person looks like? Also, if it was a metaphor, that was a sick metaphor dawg. You study physics but you are already adept with prose
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:13 AM
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There was substance. Act like you get bitches and bitches will be got, clear as a day to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:10 AM
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What is your issue with intersectionality?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 06:09 PM
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most male misogynists don’t have many/any female friends though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 12:57 AM
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As a Black dude that made me laugh hard as hell. What did they do to make him that mad??
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:07 PM
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You’re right. And the people that already found theirs don’t talk much either. I’m that type. 27M. Hope you find yours
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:01 PM
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What do you personally mean when you say that? It’s a broad generalization so I’m assuming you have something specific you may be referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 12:58 PM
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Post stats
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:37 AM
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I wonder what that’s like. My mom was 17, and that’s about the same age for most of my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:33 AM
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My SO and I connected partially because neither of us want kids. It sucks that there are a lot of women out there who are CF and want and struggle to find a partner that also feels that way, I know I’m not the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:32 AM
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You understand there’s bias there right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:29 AM
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I don’t think I’m an outlier at all, but the way OP and some other dudes here talk, we all like young women. That’s hella weird to say like that, and I don’t experience that. It’s extremely rare I find someone younger than ~24 attractive. I’m 27. I really wish dude wouldn’t generalize because it’s making me feel like these dudes need the wall
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:27 AM
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As a man, I’ve had to inform several women that ovulation is not menstruation. Abstinence only education is a scourge upon the US and has resulted harm equal to if not greater than abortion restrictions. Shit, not to go off too much on a tangent but do you know how many men could be better encouraged to wear a condom if they knew that they might need a different size?? Or the fact that tubal ligations are federally mandated coverage for insurance, but vasectomies are not. The simpler, easier, qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:23 AM
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My gf is college educated and a womanist and still acts like life is over after 30-35. It’s so weird (Especially when, IMO, Black women in their 40s be looking amazing)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:13 AM
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Atrocious name. Thanks for sticking it through on that. I normally would give a more in depth response to most comments, but I’m getting over some sickness here. That said, I’m experiencing something kinda like that right now. I have been growing throughout my career, I have a variety of skills that are kinda hard to mix into one cohesive resume, but I’ve made more money every year between FAANG and not FAANG. Not a lot of, but an amount that I told myself I’d be happy with when k was in high sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 08:06 PM
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Why not? Also, how could you possibly expect to sway my opinion on this? You’re some dude on the internet, my gf is hot, funny, and lets me touch her butt. You’d need some fantastic logic to align me with your viewpoints. Or, lemme see them tittays.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:51 PM
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Exactly. Commonly associated with people that have tried to make it out of poverty and every single time they get close something knocks them down several pegs. People that you know truly are capable and worthy of reaching a certain point and always being cut short. The people that you think about when you realized our society was not meritocratic. I don’t have a solution, but you’re not the only one that feels like this
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:06 PM
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Hey now, I wasnt the one that started making claims that lack context. It helps that women can get jobs and mortgages now. Before that, the marriage rate was pretty high. It helps that people aren’t getting married at 15-19 years old, as was common in the 70s. I’m sure that resulted in quite a bit of marriage. More people deciding to wait to get married, more people marrying who they want to instead of who they are forced to, means lower divorce rates. Anyone who does get married can rest assure…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:57 PM
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Yeah that’s what she said
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:52 PM
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This has a name. The name is terrible, but look it up before you dismiss it. It’s called learned helplessness.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:43 PM
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Re-run those numbers. Almost nobody calculates divorce rate using percentage with no additional context (like 50% of all first marriages end in divorce), it’s generally expressed as a number/per Capita. The divorce rate is at a 50 year low
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:36 PM
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Do you live in a low cost of living area? I don’t know many women that do that of stuff. No one I’ve ever dated does, though I know the archetype you’re describing. I will tell you that I have no degree and make more than my gf and her sister who both have degrees from very selective universities. Personally, I find it hard to look at that and think “this is fair”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:14 PM
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How are you about to make ends meet? Do you think it’s reasonable for teachers to make just above poverty wages? Is an instructional designer at a tech startup providing double the amount of benefit to society as a teacher?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:01 PM
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I believe you may have misread. I did too, initially. The study said men are most stressed when completely economically dependent on their wives. They were also stressed when they were the sole breadwinner, but less so than when their wife was. Also, there was this: Interestingly, the relationship between wife’s relative income and husband’s psychological distress is not found among couples where wives outearned husbands at the beginning of their marriage pointing to importance of marital select…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 09:36 AM
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Don’t do that dawg
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:22 AM
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You know, anytime I think of trad women, I think to myself “as long as they’re not saying this is what people SHOULD do, they’re just living that life for themselves” because feminism and equality I believe is about choice. The choice to live that lifestyle if you want to. I never really considered the mindset of the men who entered these trad relationships. Sure, many will embody the same “I do me, you do you” philosophy but many will also be violent, homophobic, etc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:55 AM
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20? I’m far from conservative but I’d imagine a lot of the new trad women still go to college and graduate before getting married and becoming SAHMs. In fact, college for a lot of women is a way to meet their future husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:52 AM
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In Detective Conan (Case Closed), a 17 year old boy who is a detective is shrunk down into a child, and he follows around his 17 year old gf and her dad and solves crimes. I’ve been thinking about how easily the writers could’ve made suggestive jokes or more, but I don’t think they ever did. Even the young girl that likes Conan doesn’t get her desire reciprocated, I imagine because Conan still has the mind of a 17 year old and that would be unbecoming. Very non-toxic show. Very interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 10:05 PM
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“One can be happy only if he does not put himself at the center of his universe and values ​​something more eternal and greater than himself”. Did you mean the same thing when you raised the topic of happiness? I believe that is also something Kant said. Yes, I did mean that partially. It's a component. The other component is I think we're basically told have moderate the amount of self worth we have, and this means it's difficult to be completely fulfilled if you're alone. I think women’s preoc…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 12:49 PM
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You've made two assumptions (or maybe better said, inferences) that hint to me that you may have a negative outlook on this topic, generally. I won't assume anything further, or make any assertions, but I will share what I'm reminded of: In some conversations with my SO's sister, any time the the conversation involves a hypothetical situation with a man and a woman, she makes the automatic assumption that the man has abused the woman in some way, and this bias colors her response to whatever the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 12:42 PM
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Is that, in western countries, a sign of patriarchy, or can that one be considered personal choice? Of all the things I would fully chalk up to partrarchy, this isn’t one of them. In my opinion. If men use the internet to participate in forums, get political information, and browse a wide variety of subjects, it would make sense to see more men in the places where another man hangs out on the internet. Twitter (pre-Musk), Tumblr (pre-porn gate), instagram, and TikTok are mostly women, and this i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 08:17 AM
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It’s more common for women to want relationships than FWB, as the latter doesn’t fulfill the desires of most women. It’s a different loneliness that I don’t think it makes sense to compare in this way
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:59 AM
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I didn’t see anyone using any superlatives or making it a competition, so I’m wondering why it sounds as though you feel like it is? I feel it must be said that in the US, overdoses have increased 5x since 2000, at a 3:1 male female ratio. Men are also committing suicide at 4x the rate, with both numbers increasing but the male suicide rate far outpacing the female. You should see the overdose rates in construction workers, it’s insane (it’s estimated that 50% of Texas’ construction workers are …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:55 AM
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I feel like this topic is most often responded to in a glib or flippant way by people who respond in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:15 AM
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Not to defend the lascivious among us, or to imply them women need to fix men, but much in the same way girls are pushed that “Prince Charming and marriage” narrative as a child, I’d assert that just as many boys are raised to want, expect, and for a significant number cater to women. It just looks different. Many of my personal goals necessarily involve my SO, because I really care about her happiness more than my own. I worked at a place wherein new people were asked to present their “why.” Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:12 AM
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What’d you see at college that was so jarring? That’s a very unique perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 09:23 AM
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I’ve noticed this trend amongst some women that they wanted to be treated like a well pampered object while also living for themselves The “what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is mine” phenomenon. I’ve noticed this too but I’m also an enabler so I can’t talk much
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 09:21 AM
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Examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 09:15 AM
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I think you pasted the wrong video
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 09:13 AM
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Interestingly enough, here in Texas, minors can’t consent, but generally two minors could legally have sex. One of those minors can also be charged and convicted of sexual assault if the mens rea to do it against the will of the other is shown
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 08:08 AM
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Why are we assuming that they were going to hook up, as opposed to an exchange of information?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 08:03 AM
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Genuine questions here: Does it matter if the man, in this scenario, is drunk too? From the hitting on part, all the way up to sex, if both parties are drunk and it was consented to by two intoxicated people, that would have to be okay right? Does this mean that casual drunken hookups are essentially completely frowned upon, at least within your friend group? Do you know when your friends are like sloshed vs classily hydrated?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 08:01 AM
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And yet men (boys) learn to suppress their emotions to the extent that their own mothers aren’t able determine how they might feel. I mention the crying out of frustration whether your partner is there or not. Imma gf cries out is frustration sometimes, sometimes I’m there and sometimes I’m not. There’s a significant number of women for whom the opposite would not fly Lastly, a lot of us straight up can’t cry. I’ve tried. I can get somewhat teary, and this was at my grandmother’s funeral, but I …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 02:26 AM
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I’d argue being emotionally suppressive isn’t toxic because it is still the expected behavior. Most women still want that rock of a man, but value him showing emotion at certain times in certain amounts. I’ve never been in a relationship wherein it like there’s room for both of us to express all of our emotions all the time. It’s mainly my gf, and I’ll share on occasion. Most women, in my perception, do not want the man that cries when they’re frustrated, screams at scary movies, large insects, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 02:07 AM
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Makes sense, good justification. I typed a whole essay in defense of most guys while not diminishing your assertion that that the women are indeed bringing much, but I won’t burden you with allat lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 05:55 PM
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According to this business insider article: 5,864 verified private scholarships, showed that there are 4 times as many scholarships specifically designated for women as opposed to those for men. But a number of these are changing their language as title IX in the US is supposed to prevent discrimination based on gender. Another organization called SAVE also has statistics that I didn’t want to post as the organization may be considered to be more biased by some
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 10:12 AM
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According to this business insider article: 5,864 verified private scholarships, showed that there are 4 times as many scholarships specifically designated for women as opposed to those for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 10:11 AM
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Have you considered that what you consider to be: interesting, well rounded, and accomplished may look different for you than for another person? You’re judging others based on the criteria to which you hold yourself, which seems inherently flawed, especially if you don’t take into account any other barriers
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 09:55 AM
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Most 6’5” guys are awkward
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 09:42 AM
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Studies show that most of America disliked Trump in 2016, yet he won. Why is that, and is it different than the studies in question?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 03:25 AM
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Right. People want any and everything. I want a collection of sports cars. Do I love my car and take care of it with pride? Absolutely. I want 1 million dollars but would I be happy as a fat cat with $100k? Happy enough that the marginal utility is quickly diminishing I want a woman that laughs at all my jokes but my gf only laughs at 55-85% of them, but I’ll take what I can get I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 03:22 AM
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I met one precious girlfriend from Twitter, went on a date with a girl from Reddit, and my gf now I met on Twitter. Hopefully never have to do that again seeing as Twitter is a shell of its former self
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:49 PM
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Ahhhh I seee what you did there. I was going to say, most of my female friends have told me stories about harassment, 100%. Less about being approached romantically, so I have no doubt the more dressed down, non-flashy type person would rarely get approached in a serious manner
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:47 PM
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Most of these dudes don’t have female friends, be serious
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:45 PM
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Don’t act like it didn’t change a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:44 PM
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It’s really weird for them to straight up not believe you like that though. They think you’re getting hordes of dudes yelling “m’lady!” As soon as you leave the house
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:41 PM
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And having awoman or a wife, to many poets and authors past and some legal history, was considered to be what constituted a home or a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:30 AM
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They’re not whining IMO. They’re asking what logical conclusion it is that OP is alluding to. I have a similar question whenever usually racists allude to the same stuff when it comes to people of color. It sounds like there’s a specific outcome that is tacitly suggested, but no one wants to jump the and say it aloud.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 12:41 PM
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Damn OP, my bad dawg. I misinterpreted your comment then. I apologize. It really came across to me more negatively.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:38 PM
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It seems as though you feel rape is usually a misunderstanding? I’ve seen literature that explains in some cases something similar does occur, but when asked about how to address rape, you only talked about the issue of misunderstanding cues, as opposed to anything else. That would lead me to believe that you’re implying that most rape is a misunderstanding, is that correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 01:48 PM
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Wait so it sounds like you’re implying that rape is the victim’s fault because they didn’t make it clear enough that they did not consent? You’ve used rather judgmental language about the hypothetical victim here, and cast no aspersions as people who may perpetrate these things. Perhaps I misunderstood you, please let me know if I’m wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 01:45 PM
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I have my own criticisms about some of these things but you gotta be honest, those are loud and annoying people but you shouldn’t let that negate the existence of historical oppression or anything. Or the ways in which women are still discriminated against, which do exist. To convince anyone of anything, it’s better to fight with honey not vinegar. Acknowledge the history and make your point using the same style of arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 01:07 PM
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I bet she was nice too, smh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:17 AM
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I’ve never heard anyone say “I would cuddle the fuck out of X” ever. Women usually say some variation of “I’d fuck him.” Dudes on dating apps are still the minority. Research shows that like 50% of young men have used online dating. But that’s ever. The dudes active on dating apps at any given moment are in the minority. Not defending the weirdos, but if you never get a swipe back, and the ones that do unmatch after a short time or never respond, I could see someone casting an extremely wide net…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 05:18 AM
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That’s interesting because it has always seemed like the opposite in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:46 AM
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Very often? Sex can be an additional and very nice, perhaps necessary component, but if I was in a relationship just to fuck I wouldn’t be in a long distance relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:45 AM
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Just existing somewhere!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 09:24 PM
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You’ll notice my statement became more general near the end, as I wasn’t referring to OP’s post with regard to fact checking. But, I wonder how many dudes here have been called a creep or know someone that’s been called a creep for cold approaching a woman, as an example. The fact checking bit, I was actually thinking about someone I saw posting about how Indeed will steal your identity and people saying “oh I’m gonna delete my indeed” when scammers are on every job seeking site, and deleting yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 06:38 PM
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To your point, I feel like a lot of gen z, perhaps worse than other generations, perhaps not, has to learn to recognize the bias to availability. Just because you see something on the internet doesn’t mean it’s common. Really, it seems a lot of people take one post or TikTok as gospel and do no research or fact checking beyond it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 06:32 PM
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Yes the fuck they are dawg are you dumb?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 07:39 AM
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If I’ve got the lore down, the top 20% are the chad types, who make lots of money but are not interested in relationships, just sex. And there are tons of other men who aren’t necessarily super attractive that have to “settle” for women that have been “ran through” in their 30s. That’s what I’ve gathered.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:07 AM
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Shit I’d argue that in many cases substance abuse alone isn’t too big a deal. A lot of people in here seem young or to have just never met people that tell them they do drugs, but even at the higher echelons of society there are tons of drugs and drug users. The vast majority you’ll never hear about. Some drugs, some people, some with mental illnesses, will come to your attention at some point. But cocaine isn’t cheap, that’s a luxury drug
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 11:57 PM
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I’m sorry, what are you referring to? Don’t conflate me with any of these incels in here
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 06:26 PM
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Dudes do it all the time. Have you not heard the trope of dudes liking when girls threaten them or are “crazy?” Like the yandere thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:44 PM
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I’m a big fan your QED usage, incredibly quirked up and verisimilitudinous
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:43 PM
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I think i might disagree, because i feel like a lot of dudes are intimidated by women that are too smart. Not a majority, but not rare
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:36 AM
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There’s a big difference between “sex very important to men” and “sex is the only thing men care about,” “sex is most of what men care about” Isn’t the “women don’t care much about sex” take (implied) anti-feminist? As in, women were not supposed to care much about sex so were expected to be unconcerned with it, so much that women’s orgasms weren’t scientifically real until the 90s?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 09:44 PM
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I played football for 10 years and have 4 brothers, so I probably have a blindness bias here, but I feel like I developed the greatest confidence in my masculinity in co-ed spaces - I’ve always had a lot of female friends - and it is the contrast between us that allowed me to understand where I’d like to fit in with regard to masculinity. This also has gotten me called a “lady’s man”, though it’s not because I’m have many partners or am flirtatious. I just seem to have developed a personality th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:19 AM
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I don’t hear women say they want effeminate men often. They say “in touch with his emotions” or “emotionally available” but effeminate is like not at all even close to 25%
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:05 AM
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There’s nothing wrong with homosexuality. And the more machismo aspects of traditional masculinity are positively correlated with higher male perpetrated domestic violence rates against women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:04 AM
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Genuinely curious, what do you personally mean when you say economically leftist? I’m not asking about the economic left as much as the unsaid part - I presume socially moderate or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:49 AM
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I think it’s important to state that you can engage in hegemonic gender roles and be opposed to the forcing of those gender roles on others. Just because I think it’s important that men should be able to cry without feeling emasculated that they did, that doesn’t mean that you’ll find me crying just about ever. I don’t think women as a whole are any less intelligent, independent, capable, etc than men are and I don’t think they need to be coddled and treated like just pretty little dolls, but yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 11:17 PM
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When I accused that dude of being awfully sus, he said that I forgot that Pacific Islanders and Native Americans exist. Which...I mean I don't think that's what he meant but okay. A significant portion of what is mainstream in "women's entertainment" (like Bravo!), affectations within the gay community, and pop culture comes directly from Black women. You cannot deny the influence of Black women on a very significant amount of American and less so but still significantly global culture. KPop, as…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:37 AM
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Your arguments are very reasonable. I’m wondering why (mostly the people you’re arguing with) everyone sees it as “only one group is demonized” as opposed to “our society harms many people in various ways. One of ways it harms men is blank, a women are affected by blank.” I totally remember Justin Bieber being uncool, people loving bedazzling but it also be clowned on at the same time, and other ways lots of things girls liked were demonized. Though some of it seems self-generated, like teenage …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 02:21 AM
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I think that was more just a specific example of the phenomenon she was talking about. I saw a dude on here say “Men like Latinas, Asian, and White women” which was insane, and insinuated every other group that’s not included are disliked, or that every man has a preference. I don’t know what gave him the right to speak for me. That’s what she’s saying, that people of all genders sometimes act like they can speak for their group as a whole when it most often won’t fit the group as a whole
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 02:04 AM
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Same here, as a man. I hope OP finds that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:18 AM
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It’s almost like you’re me. This exact thing is exactly how I feel sometimes. I’m extremely supportive, through any problem, and I’ve been left before when the going got tough for me. You probably know, but not everyone is like that, and I hope you find someone that wouldn’t leave you in a time like that, if you haven’t already. But man, that jaded feeling…it’s powerful
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:14 AM
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You didn’t ask me, but I personally have never thought any woman that was wary around men was doing too much. I have, in my head, thought that some people were being OD, but this is only a reaction to what some people describe on the internet. Some people feel like every man should die because they have assaulted someone. But even then I wonder who hurt them and hope they heal one day. I personally have been SA’d by two women, emotionally abused by one, and have always felt some level of annoyed…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 05:19 AM
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They’re really weird about it. Women in their 30s and 40s be looking like they need me to cook for em. More confident, smarter, often better able to communicate, etc. And adding another factor, you know how they say Black don’t crack? All women, but also Black women be looking amazing in their 40s+ as well. I’m 27 and I see girls that are 20-22 and they seem like…I don’t want to say children but I definitely wouldn’t feel comfortable interacting romantically with most. On the other hand, and per…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 04:53 AM
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Neat, thanks. I didn’t see it specifically mentioned, but I assume the hair was stretched to measure as well. 1in/mo would be a godsend for people trying to grow locs and the like. I barely grow arm and leg hair, and my beard only connected at 25. If I wanted to grow it out it’d be a very long time before I had anything to show for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 06:53 AM
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Another Black male here. We generally get our hair cut weekly or every two weeks. It’s not as much sheer growth as it is shaping. Do you have stats on that hair growth claim btw? Edit: saw your source below
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 06:36 AM
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You know a higher body count will make your penis smaller right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 04:16 AM
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If y'all are in a relationship, I assume you both believe that you love and care about the other, your intention is to grow stronger together, and there should be no reason to set the other up for failure in this endeavor. I'd say act as such. Characterizing assuming your emotions or their severity as "hand-holding" doesn't seem particularly fair, and I'd ask what the potential downside is to engaging in said hand-holding. I've read about why you should never assume your partner knows how you fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 03:17 AM
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Out of curiosity, did you at any point say something along the lines of “hey babe, I know you’re having a rough time at work, but I am too and I don’t have the necessary energy to attend to your concerns in the way you deserve?” Screed follows: It is my experience that my gf thinks I can read her mind but when I am perceptive of something being off, she will say nothing is wrong, get upset with me for not believing that she’s fine, and then a few days later I hear about the thing she’s been rumi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 02:38 AM
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We like asian women, latino, white etc. We like them curvy, skinnier etc. Wow. I wonder what he meant by that Sus. (I think it’s clear what he meant with that)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 05:25 AM
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We like asian women, latino, white etc. That was a long winded way to say you don’t like Black women. You know, people can probably tell that about you. Thats likely a factor in this whole thing. As a man, I must counter your assertion and say I love Black women and prefer thick women generally, but not exclusively.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 05:24 AM
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That could mean a number of things but I’d say no though that’s the desire
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 03:03 AM
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I know it’s not that. I asked your opinion on my scenario, which is my current situation, because I felt your take was reasonable. Perhaps I could’ve been more clear about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 02:29 AM
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Honest question for you: how do you moderate this expectation? As an example, my gf works 29 hours a week doing a job I would never do, underpaid. I work 45 hours a week average, and help her with rent on occasion, but also buy things for her often. I am not flush with cash personally, in fact making the least I have in 5 years. How would you determine whether the 29 hour/wk very difficult job is difficult enough that you would accept the reasoning “I’m so tired all the time” when you ask why th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 02:24 AM
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What are you talking about? That you would rather focus on a colloquialism that I used, despite the fact that I used for common language as well, in addition to your eagerness to counter empirically observed experience lets me know that your intention was not to engage this subject in full and good faith. I should have expected as much
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 04:11 PM
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Everyone knows you’ll receive better empathetic support from women, generally speaking. Yes, in the moment, your gf probably will comfort you. You’ll notice, however, that your linked research does not explore how or whether engaging in that action moderated or mediated any romantic feelings that may have been present prior to the experiment. In other words, yes your girl will comfort you, but you may have given her the ick too. Additionally, at no point did I claim that venting to one’s bros wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 03:18 PM
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I was just talking about this. It’s very common, and I’m glad it’s becoming less common like the other two commenters. But it’s happened to me, and I know people to whom it has happened
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:42 AM
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My opinion on that https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/cWjpUsUoH8
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:32 AM
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Men suffer through a lot without saying anything, it’s kinda the trope at this point, no? From things like the rates of suicide, all the way down to the stereotypical “happy wife happy life” thing. Further, it’s very common for men to feel like they can’t be 100% open with their spouse, in terms of vulnerability. I’ve specifically sought out the opinions of others on this, and you can find this on the internet often, but “fellas, never cry in front of your girl” is prevalent but in my personal e…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:32 AM
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Link
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:16 AM
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Most relationships are unequal
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:13 AM
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Dude we are so similar (to a point). I played football from 7-16 years old and my grades suffered as well. The difference is, I moved from a highly academic school to a suburban DFW school and DFW is Football Mecca I swear to you. Everybody was corn fed and on gear it seemed, doing 2-a-days, and my rather reasonable size (6’0 200lbs) meant nothing at that point. I was able to coast at my previous school but the real deal was too much. Knowing several collegiate players though, the whole system i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:09 AM
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What do you do on a daily basis? Do you ever interact with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 09:23 AM
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25-34yo then. Shiit if you’re looking for a sista it’s 40k. I personally don’t have such a requirement. My girl is better educated than I am though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 09:21 AM
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This is entailed within experience but age is definitely a thing. The most common age for people at that income range is 40-50
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 06:44 AM
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Dawg did you play football? If you’re in the US I know them football coaches was like “we need to get that boy on this got damn team” https://youtu.be/8a1nNGpX7NM?si=BmU2-7GSiuk_S8o8
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 06:42 AM
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Do you need a woman that makes 6 figures? You’re also ignoring the age component. What is the average income of women in your age bracket? This will look more realistic
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 06:36 AM
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Many people have social anxiety. I assume it’s crippling for you though?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 06:28 AM
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In the sense that a friendship is a relationship too, or is there a name for a relationship in which a participant is aromantic? A platonic relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 05:07 PM
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Asexual is not aromantic, many asexual people are in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:53 PM
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Dawg you’re being pretty dense right now. You can be a progressive who learns about the qualities that are preferred by a person and then exhibiting those I.e. you find out she likes not having to think about dinner and then you exhibit that trait - or - you can say something like “I’d like to get dinner tonight at 7:30, if you’re up for it pick one these three options” The latter is what I do. My gf has a hard time choosing (ngl I do too) so I will come up with 3 options and give them to her to…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:34 AM
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That’s a broad generalization (pun not intended) of that group of people
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:14 AM
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Wow that dude is an asshole. I hate when you’re trying to make a joke and someone just won’t give you the presence of mind to understand you’re making a joke. I’d be pissed. I understood what you were going for. ——— May I redeem this empathy in for 1 pussy token please? /j (actually joking lmao)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 02:25 AM
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Would you mind expounding upon the contemporary hostility you mentioned?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 02:14 AM
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George Wallace didn’t tell his wife Lurleen Wallace she had cancer. Don’t you ever wish you could go back to the time when you don’t have to worry your pretty little lady head about big man talk like what ailments you may have and what not? /j /s
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 02:08 AM
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Ok so here’s the thing: I have depression. It is widely accepted in academic discussions that depression and anxiety are factors associated with increased risk of being the victim of emotional abuse. I Wouldn’t say I’m dysfunctional, but I would say my low self esteem has created a situation wherein I feel I deserve more, but not so strongly I will be an advocate for myself. This is the case regardless of gender, and it stands to reason that if a population has more depression and anxiety, there…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:23 AM
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People bad actually
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:13 AM
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If most women do some of these things, how does a man know when a woman is low quality vs just being a regular person?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:13 AM
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I don’t agree with most of those men; I will say that I think a lot of currently 25-55yo men were brought up in a way such that we were raised to cater to women chivalrously, and do so despite how we feel much of the time. The typical trope is not the husband that wants to do a whole bunch of cute stuff on weekends, get sad about not going on romantic dates, etc. that’s not to say that men don’t ever want to, or that’s some men are the ones that want to do that primarily, this is just the media …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:12 AM
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Is that common now? I’ve never been somewhere that was men only. The Boy Scouts allows girls, my football team had a girl on it one year, etc. the ancients were a little extra
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 05:50 AM
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I never had the “drugs are better than sex” thought ever, but it’s socially acceptable to jeep your drugs locked up at home
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 05:46 AM
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Alcohol is a hard drug pal
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 05:45 AM
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Many women say, when this is brought up, that men get pissy when they’re told they’re doing something wrong, so they often don’t want to deal with that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 04:33 AM
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Are you religious?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 04:31 AM
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Not true for me. Personality > fat ass > personality
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 04:30 AM
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No, it’s not the same at all. One is generally mean, serves to make people feel bad, and is not constructive. The other uplifts, harms no one, and yet still doesn’t imply she’s not overweight. One will get you called an asshole, the other will have no consequences. Otherwise, it seems like you’re upset someone has the audacity to be confident despite their weight. I would never tell any woman that she was ugly, honestly, nor would I any man unless I’m clearly joking like my brother. If I heard i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:43 AM
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I mean why say that though? Literally just let those people live their lives and stop thinking about someone you find ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:28 AM
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I read something once that asserted that many of the discussions that are had in the classrooms where it’s primarily originating, but further when it’s discussed among non-academics, are very quick to shut down and essentially make you feel wrong for questioning or dissenting against the mainstream opinion. T Hasan Johnson, Black Masculinist, was a graduate professor-advisor teaching who studied underneath a feminist, teaching a gender class, and he noticed what he called “hand slapping.” Men wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:22 AM
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Yoo my gf made me feel like it was unreasonable for me to have that trait. Like I can be like “you know what fuck pumpkins all my homes hate pumpkin” and still wanna go to the pumpkin patch on he morning
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 01:36 AM
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In some situations, yes. In some, no. In my opinion I’d say it’s more commonly acceptable for a woman to vent about a man or men in general, and be able to generalize or hyperbolize. It is almost impossible in most social situations for a man to say “my gf is being so unreasonable” be taken at face value. Conversely, a woman could say “my bf is so fuckin stupid I wanna hit him sometimes” and and she will be asked what he did, 9/10 regardless of if he was being stupid or not, she will be agreed w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 01:30 AM
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You replied to the wrong comment, but how would someone know you don’t won’t to be asked about your current X provider unless you say “I’m not interested in hearing about any providers, I’m happy with my current one” or something like that - unless and until you said it? Depending on the product, a sales person could have almost 1/5th of everyone they speak to saying things like “I’m so glad you called” or “I really appreciate your persistence.” Feeling disrespected is not really even a bar, it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:19 AM
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Personally, I had sex with a girl from HR. Of all the departments, that’s often where some of the lil demons are, and I think that’s a pretty common stereotype at the same time as your HR stereotype. Older HR vs younger HR
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:12 AM
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You’re not wrong at all but this is why they say nobody fucks more than two nerds
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:11 AM
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That doesn’t quite answer why. Earning potential? The general world view that may come along with a graduate education?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:37 AM
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I would be very surprised if that’s all straight men. I know I’m built different, but if I’m in the bedroom I already know your shape, the amount of hair is no matter, as long as there’s consent I’m picking up a shift on that ass and going to work. I hear that gay men are HELLA picky and have heard stories from friends of this exact situation. There’s also probably a number of dudes who themselves are insecure and instead of saying that, they insult the body of the potential hookup, unfortunatel…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 04:00 PM
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Call that exposure therapy ahah
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:57 PM
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For some, it’s easiest to blame the thing that’s at the forefront of your mind. Crime has gone up, and coincidentally a new Irish family moved in nearby. The Irish are causing crime is an association one might make, but that doesn’t mean it’s right. Most dead bedrooms are because the male partner doesn’t want to have sex Does this negate the existence of porn addicts who need help? No. But my gf should never be self conscious about the type of women that are in porn I may consume. I knows it dif…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:56 PM
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Out of curiosity, what was he doing to harass her?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 02:33 AM
5

15% of college aged men have perpetrated? I hear that many are decidedly not creepy, instead often are considered charming and such
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 02:33 AM
5

4 out of every 10 men is high as fuck but I’m not in any position to say you’re wrong. Moreso surprised
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 02:30 AM
10

no one can address an issue someone won’t admit to How can you admit to something if it's something that's constantly made fun of every where you go? I don't even have a small penis but when you mention that "little dick energy" is body shaming as well, you get made fun of but any and all genders. It's an uphill battle Personally, I saw some things about understanding that vaginas look different but there was a lot more messaging saying it must look a certain way It's absolutely tragic that labi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:19 AM
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What the fuck are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:01 AM
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If you’re a woman, I really hate to be essentialist but I find women often don’t really fully comprehend the insane amounts of insecurity that many men have about sex. Men are expected to be the performing partner 95% of the time, and so much societal discourse revolves around it. Small dick energy, bet you’ve never made a woman cum, I bet you cum fast, dick doesn’t get hard - it’s all expressed on a day to day basis and extremely nonchalantly, and it will get into your head if you experience an…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 03:57 AM
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Even if I were to accept your assertion that it’s only women that are the problem here, which is false, it would still be a problem that needs to be addressed, right? So it’s being addressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:25 AM
3

Additionally, more women read magazines, for a longer time, over more sessions. Magazines must assume, even if they’re “male oriented,” that much of their readership will be women as well
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:21 AM
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Hold on there brother there were people saying that Kate winslet in titanic was fat. I’ve never heard anyone call a dude fat unless he was fat. Male models aren’t typically told to lose weight and just kind of assumed to have anorexia. The beauty standards for men are easier to attain for most men than for most women. A lot of models get so skinny they don’t even menstruate anymore. Sure, steroids are common in body building, and with some actors, but most men in most roles don’t need to be anyw…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:11 AM
2

What affirmative action BS? What I mentioned has nothing to do with affirmative action. Long distance running is not a sprint. I do not run long distances. I will win a sprint, not a long distance run. It’s not common to see person who can do both well, it’s often one or the other
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 11:18 AM
1

No one that says the shit you are asserting has friends that are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 10:34 AM
0

The plural of anecdotes is data. I promise you I interact with several times more women on a weekly basis than you do. Let me ask you this, do you have any friends that are women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 10:07 AM
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No, it’s empirically gathered information. I know lots of women, I have overheard many more doing Uber. Plus are you even looking to “hook up” with women? Why? Find you a faithful queen
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:30 AM
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You’ll notice Black people, outside of Ethiopians, are underrepresented in long distance running. 2mi fits that category. I was track manager in high school, we had zero Black kids on the long distance team, but on the sprints and relays were all the kids from football. Bill Burr might mention fast twitch and slow twitch muscle I say this to mean fuck no I’m not running 2 miles, I’ve never timed it because I have no reason to run 2 miles. I will sprint down the street though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:28 AM
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“Overweight” is not really cut and dry. Lots of thicc women are considered overweight but can outrun you. I’m overweight, technically, though I’ll wash you in a foot race. I played football for 10 years and my ass big. Plus, as mortality changes, and the leading causes are less tuberculosis and shit, something has to become the leading cause. Now, it’s lifestyle choices. If you’d rather the leading cause of death be malaria I’m sure that can be arranged
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:16 AM
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Because most of the thick women everyone likes are considered overweight. It’s extremely easy to cross into the overweight range when your body type is the one that society likes these days. Don’t conflate overweight and obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:11 AM
1

Untrue
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:41 AM
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No they aren’t. Most guys don’t have that. I don’t think you understand how uncommon that is, and well paid dudes are just as game-less as the motherfuckers in here. I’m 27 no degree, I am a rat, I make more than my gf and her sister who both have degrees from great schools Half the people with money are nerds, a quarter are Mormon or some shit, so they’re not fuckin like that, that leaves a quarter and who knows what they’ll do but who cares, not every body cares about money like that. In fact,…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:39 AM
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Who is “other men” and who is not “other men?” To whom do you refer?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:44 AM
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You ain’t never had a woman before and it shows
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:43 AM
0

I’m actually extremely confused. Demisexuals are essentially “supposed” to wait until 2-3 months of knowing someone before they have sex with them to prove that said person is attracted to them as a person and not just as a sexual impulse, I surmise?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 02:00 PM
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How does one follow demisexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:52 AM
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There’s also men here that don’t, so how do we square that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 06:09 AM
2

Reposting my comment: In a study among 104 female residents in a facility for IPV victims, the majority (66.3%) reported that they had separated from and returned to their abusive partners at least once, and of them, 97.1% indicated that they left and returned multiple times In a separate study, victims of IPV rated all types of intervention techniques to be less effective than non-victims did. Others that rated intervention techniques as less effective were less educated, and people that were f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 02:14 AM
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It may be a narrative that is pushed but it is derived from reality: In a study among 104 female residents in a facility for IPV victims, the majority (66.3%) reported that they had separated from and returned to their abusive partners at least once, and of them, 97.1% indicated that they left and returned multiple times In a separate study, victims of IPV rated all types of intervention techniques to be less effective than non-victims did. Others that rated intervention techniques as less effec…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 02:09 AM
3

If OP is anything like me it’s breaking that touch barrier in the first place that can be difficult. I’d say literally just ask if you’ve built rapport with them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:38 PM
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I dare say there’s a difference between awkward and creepy that I feel a lot of people here forget about
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:37 PM
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You are delusional. I’m not hot, I am no millionaire, but I have had relationships with women that are objectively hotter than me. I’m not trying to have sex with random women, so it’s probably a different pool of people available, but still.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:50 AM
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I mean I will say I do Uber on weekends and some girls get in the car and either to their friend or on the phone describe situations and promiscuity that I personally would never want for myself (honestly only white girls, no one else talks about it). I’ve heard things about them not respecting a dude who was very clearly being respectful of them by not just trying to have sex with her on the first date (I was asked for my opinion) or stories involving them getting around a bit. No judgement, I …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:43 AM
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Dawg you might have body dysmorphia or something. You make harsh judgements off little information (projection?), you’re concerned with your appearance to the point that it seems to stress your interpersonal relationships, and yet it seems you may not have the ability to establish and assert a routine that allows you to both enjoy time with your girl and accomplish your fitness goals. Have you been told this?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 09:44 PM
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Hey so I asked my gf how she felt about that one and I changed a word or two and she likes it. My bad dawg
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:36 PM
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I did say that I personally have that feeling
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:34 PM
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I understand you’re giving your perspective. I must say that I know several women who would like to meet their man in a grocery store. So much so that they’ve looked for advice (I told them a good place is a specialty grocery store like Central Market (Texas Whole Foods but better) and stand in the bulk spices section. Ask any dude what he’s making, go from there. He’s either married, because men who cook get locked down quickly, or he’s single and cooking (potentially even to hone the skill for…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:42 PM
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Christ on a cross, I would go soft immediately. “Yeah you like that you fuckin slut” does the job without dehumanizing them. Like she’s still a human, just a slut human (in this moment because we’ve mutually established trust and an aftercare routine).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:58 PM
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The two senators of SC aren’t married. Tim Cook isn’t married. Unmarried CEOs take more risks which can be good for some companies. I’d also imagine that having one stable partner js desired generally when you have that kinda lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:04 PM
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Men get married to further their career? That sounds insane but if you have a link I’d take a look. Like that’s sociopathic and I feel like any man that has been in a long term relationship knows that, outside of promotions, having a partner results in you working a little less. Plus, who gets promotions these days? And does everyone just know about your family at work?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:04 AM
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What does that look like in your experience? Like what archetype of person?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:00 AM
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This is misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:59 AM
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She could be talking about herself
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:58 AM
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At least in the US, murder by a stranger constitutes about 10% of femicides, most of the others being current or past intimate partners. So 10% of your number. Saying yes is actually where things go wrong, if I wanted to push a narrative
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:45 PM
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Gagged
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:32 AM
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To your pint, often the more you make, the less physical work you have to do. And it is well established that women do more emotional labor, like nursing vs being a software dev. It would be reasonable to expect more time to be needed to recoup from a shift for the nurse
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:30 AM
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Provide? If sex is a transaction, wherein one person is exchanging sex for anything other than sex because y’all both enjoy it, do your partner a favor and break up with them. That sounds like a nightmare. Same with kids. If you don’t want to have kids, and having them is a burden such that you feel you are doing it solely for your man and not because you also want kids, that’s a bad choice, hopefully you weren’t coerced
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:23 AM
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People are seriously negging you? Holy shit I really thought people left that in 2009 or whatever. Does it work for them with other people? Are these like….grown men who also make decent money doing this??
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:19 AM
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And statistically that is more than the case. It is the case that women still, on average, make less than men. Said differently, the most commonly occurring case is that a man will make more than his partner. This inability to pay a light bill scenario is uncommon unless both a broke, which is happening more to be fair When polled, people said that they think men would prefer being the breadwinner more often, with women thinking this more than men said they really preferred it. And the opposite …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:14 AM
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I feel like you’re right but that seems almost extreme as an example. In outbound sales you’ll hear some rudeness or get hung up on, and that hopefully desensitizes you, a little, to someone saying no. Not that you ignore it, but you would be more comfortable with the potential of being rejected
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 10:18 PM
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What will it cost you? Is the trade off mental wellness?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 10:04 PM
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None taken. And yeah honestly that example didn’t affirm my point as best as I intended, should’ve chose something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 08:35 AM
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If I die tonight I’m haunting you forever
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 01:01 AM
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I’ve never seen this. Example?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 01:01 AM
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Do you have a source on that? I don’t not believe you, because I’ve seen a lot of these stats get retracted, but for my own use. The one I think is wild was like 68% of men said they would take advantage of a young woman or something like that if they wouldn’t get caught. Haven’t seen it refuted but I haven’t looked. That seemed high tho
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 01:00 AM
1

You just assume nerds are ugly, which is interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:37 AM
4

What made the women creepy?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:59 AM
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Met anywhere, romantically, non romantically, generally. I’m 27. I will say that I’ve generally have had an equal number of female and male friends, with a significant number of whom being queer
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:57 AM
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I appreciate the translation. What I feel is that this is largely an anxious belief as opposed to a realistic one. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely have experienced it. I totally get it. But realistically, how often do we really see well meaning guys, who aren’t clearly overstepping boundaries, get publicly shamed or humiliated for a polite attempted approach of a woman? A dude who goes up to a woman, say at a coffee shop, asks for her number, accepts a declination, says thanks, and leaves? I’m …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:24 AM
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I’m terminally online, still get some tho because I just met my girl online. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:44 AM
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I think a lot of men would, younger generations included. Even in my fairly egalitarian relationship, it’s clear that there are societally informed gender norms. My gf told me that when she wants to talk to me on the phone, she normally doesn’t call. She waits for me to call her. I’m like…why don’t you say anything lmao?? She’s afraid I won’t wanna talk. I call her 9.5/10 times. That’s how, in my experience, the majority of women have been treated most of their life. You can see this in bi-sexua…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:43 AM
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I haven’t heard anyone say male gaze since before 2016
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:38 AM
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How is society judging you if you just…leave the coffee shop afterwards? Have you ever seen someone get recorded for asking for a girls number at a coffee shop, hearing a declination, saying “darn, thanks tho” and walking away? I haven’t
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:37 AM
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Have they? I swear 98/100 women I’ve ever met have been cool
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:35 AM
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Exposure therapy is a thing. Do something where you have to be told “no” often, like in outbound sales. It’s never personal (usually).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:34 AM
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When you say increase the risk, what do you mean? What do you mean remove the incentive?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:32 AM
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9 would be pretty significant to most dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:31 AM
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Conversely, I know several women who have a dream of meeting their man at the grocery store or something like that. Social media poisons the brain. Plus, are most of the people you’re referring to talking about EVERY dude, or are they referring to “men” in the “I hate men” sense? (Most often doesn’t hate men, is reasonable, but understands how people generalize when they vent)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:28 AM
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Have you ever been hit on by a gay dude? Or any women?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:25 AM
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Post link
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:23 AM
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Feel like y’all are missing out on the nerdy gals. No one fucks more than two nerds
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:50 AM
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The emotional intelligence thing kinda irks me. What is meant by that? I asked my gf, and a few other people. The most common answer was “not treating your gf as though they have to handle all of your emotions.” Which makes me think “have y’all HAD a GF??” I have been expected to listen, acknowledge, align, empathize, and assure at near-therapist levels with just about every gf. I can do it, most of the time. I had a hard time before, because I have a “fix it” attitude like a lot of dudes do, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:48 AM
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I don’t have a dog in the game but I’ll say this: if there’s an exam, and most students score below average, the professor effectively lowers the standards and curves the grade. They also may look at how the the students have been taught, or evaluate their pedagogical style, or the content of the lecture. They usually don’t say “these students are garbage.” I don’t believe a sociologically informed person would say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:22 AM
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In what scenarios are people finding it necessary to save cats?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:12 AM
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In your experience, is it the same men saying the first set of things as it is saying the second set? I ask because I personally have not said either of those things, nor has anyone in my friend group that I know of, with the exception of one dude who does be like “I’m lonely etc etc.” The cognitive dissonance necessary to say both of those things insane, though I know there’s an abundance of dissonance to go around. I talk with my gf about some of these incidents, and where we agree and disagre…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:58 AM
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In this specific circumstance, I very much assume the guy hitting someone with a brick in East Houston has a gun on him. Out of curiosity, has that ever been a fear of yours? Secondly, I feel like I see stories of people getting shot during DV interventions a lot, especially here in Texas. But that could be availability bias. Do you happen to know if this is rare?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:42 AM
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Did you find anything more?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:36 AM
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I’d like to know what your exceptions are. I too have a LTC, though here in Texas you don’t need one to carry concealed anymore. Houston is where the incident took place. I think about this shit all the time. When am I obligated to intervene? Any time I intervene, and I’m carrying, there is a high potential jt is necessary for me to withdraw and discharge my firearm - will that have been warranted? Will the force used be proportionate, and would I have reasonably believed that it was necessary t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:34 AM
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In Texas you don’t even need a license anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:26 AM
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The two factors that make me hesitant: This is Houston. Everyone and their dog has a gun. I can’t find statistics on it but the amount of people getting shot intervening in domestic violence incidents is pretty high. It’s the #1 most dangerous call for cops to show up to
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:26 AM
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So I think what he’s referring to was swaths of people on Twitter saying things like “Black men are the police because the protection you get is conditional” and things like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:24 AM
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This was Houston. Their response time is 6 minutes for priority 1 calls and 10 minutes for priority 2. I can’t tell which this incident would fall under though Because it’s Houston, it can’t be forgotten that the likelihood of someone that is willing to hit another person with a brick has a gun on them is very high. That’s a tough one. If I had my firearm, I’m stepping in. Without it, I really don’t know what I’d do and I don’t want to Monday night quarterback
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:15 AM
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As it goes, the negative comments are the one that stick with you, especially when they call into question your manhood and such
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:11 AM
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I mean to be fair some dudes have murdered women for rejecting them. Sure it’s rare, but a lot of women think about it. Plus, stalking, harassment, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:08 AM
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Your stats are off. I would implore you to re-research that data.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:05 AM
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You have a link on that? Not disputing you, just interested in the source
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:03 AM
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I would imagine most people aren’t out and about with their pet lemur
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:58 AM
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Why is everyone agreeing with you, this is overly broad and weird. A significant number of women are attractive to many men, but most of those men aren’t attracted to most of those women. I’m completely able to recognize that Taylor Swift is an attractive women, but I wouldn’t be interested in attempting to court her even if we were in the same league. As an example
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:44 PM
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That doesn't bother me at all. I mean, if she's wearing a midriff at a funeral, that's one thing I suppose. But I'm not wearing cargo shorts to the cocktail bar. I have a couple things my girl knows that I'm just not a fan of (blue eyeshadow). That's not to say she can't do it - she can. But if my girl ever said she'd prefer I'd stop wearing cargo shorts I'd think about it, just as she doesn't wear blue eyeshadow
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 07:23 AM
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I’m in a LTR, I have no issues there and I’m wearing my cargoes right now. I’m saying if cargoes are worn by dads, clearly those are the attire of those who be fuckin’. Don’t call me sir, I drool in my sleep sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 09:15 PM
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You just ruled someone out based on their clothing. You’re assuming that someone is a dad, or is not on the market. Someone that is a dad or isn’t on the market clearly fucks and is taken, by your logic. When people like that are no longer in relationships, do you think they start wearing pants again? Or perhaps you know if they wear cargos, they’re faithful. Or if I wear chinos, my thighs gone look thick as hell, my meat might print, and imma look like a hoe. Also, consider the obvious utility …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 09:04 PM
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Y’all out here choosing partners based on who is getting your panties wet, and that’s y’all’s problem. Online dating has made a lot of things physically transactional, and the .25 seconds people use to decide which direction to swipe is not the ideal way to choose partners at all, especially when the corporation providing you the candidates for swiping only has incentive to keep you swiping. Me personally, I choose my partners based on several factors, which includes physical attraction, but I a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:56 PM
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Comments that so quickly tell me I couldn’t date someone don’t pop as quickly as this one did. You’re ruling out potentially fantastic people because you don’t like a garment of clothing
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:58 PM
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i have literally never had this issue. Maybe being Black and rather personable helps with this? i also wear glasses and like computers so idk
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:55 PM
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Wow that’s makes perfect sense. Not that jt had to make sense, of course, but clearly very physiological. It’s also not often that I read something from someone online that I feel would be a total dealbreaker, but this would be it. Shit, I won’t lie, I’d be rather disappointed if I got over to someone’s place for the first time and was told Conversely, I don’t like receiving oral and would be 100% okay with a person who detested giving it. I don’t like it because I honestly don’t like the though…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:49 PM
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I know you’ve been likely asked this 1,000 times and it’s such a cliche question, but is it possible you haven’t had good oral at all? My gf said she hated oral before she met me… but she didn’t tell me before I went down on her. She just let me do it and was astounded and the results
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:23 PM
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What is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:19 PM
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I’m appalled to hear this is still a thing. It’s really interesting how different we are. I don’t like receiving (often. It can jump start my car though if you know what I mean) but I perform 30-45m monologues on my gf. Like how does making a woman cum not feel like the most masculine shit on the planet? I feel like I am Poseidon down there
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:18 PM
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