| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 259 | My secret weapon | AtticusFynch | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 07:28 PM | |
| 27 | The Mathematics of Beauty (cross-post from xx) | AtticusFynch | /r/seduction | 11/01/11 01:48 AM | |
| 25 | "I'm too old for you" vs "You're too young for me." | AtticusFynch | /r/seduction | 04/01/11 07:25 PM | |
| 6 | Rate my IM game | AtticusFynch | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 02:39 AM | |
| 2 | Congruence | AtticusFynch | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 09:36 PM | |
| 0 | Why most men are likely genetically predisposed not to be attracted to obese women | AtticusFynch | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 11:46 PM |
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| 2 | [FR] Getting beyond the number close by getting over a bad rookie habit.The story is called On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning. It's by Haruki Murakami. Very beautiful. | /r/seduction | 24/09/11 10:17 PM |
| 2 | auckland meetupEgad. In Auckland? Don't bother. | /r/seduction | 12/05/11 01:46 PM |
| 2 | If you were to give yourself advice about sex back when you were in High School, what would you tell yourself?Doesn't matter, I wouldn't have listened. Thought I knew everything and didn't know shit. | /r/seduction | 11/01/11 11:34 PM |
| 1 | I read 85 pages of magic bullets..I don't feel like my skills have improved at all.Well mom always said you were special | /r/seduction | 11/01/11 02:09 AM |
| 1 | I read 85 pages of magic bullets..I don't feel like my skills have improved at all.Just like when I read a Brief History of Time then went out and "discovered" your mom's black hole ;) | /r/seduction | 11/01/11 01:57 AM |
| 3 | The Mathematics of Beauty (cross-post from xx)Another fascinating one from the OKCupid blog. Interesting how it flies in the face of the "universal beauty" theory a lot of folks in the community propose, but I think it actually fits very well with the different definition of the 1-10 scale we use (basically focusing on approachability). Thoughts? | /r/seduction | 11/01/11 01:49 AM |
| -4 | "I'm tired of dating nice guys like ak_throwaway" Obvious shit test, what to say?Well I'm tired of banging your little sister. We all have our burdens to bear. | /r/seduction | 08/01/11 10:35 PM |
| 1 | target asked "Would you bang me?" what would seddit say?Would you cuddle with me afterwards? | /r/seduction | 08/01/11 10:31 PM |
| 3 | Gaming a girl with a BF for practice (not one-itis)You can run "game" on all women all the time, including friends, family members (no stupid conclusions here, people), old ladies at the supermarket, or whoever, just by internalizing the attitudes that women find attractive and being a fun person to be around. That said, actually hitting on taken girls isn't any good for practice, since it takes away all your AA. Plus it's a dick move. | /r/seduction | 08/01/11 10:27 PM |
| 1 | "I'm too old for you" vs "You're too young for me."With a smirk, naturally. | /r/seduction | 08/01/11 02:44 AM |
| 3 | "I'm too old for you" vs "You're too young for me."Well put. | /r/seduction | 04/01/11 08:49 PM |
| 1 | "I'm too old for you" vs "You're too young for me.""Aw, you're just a baby," is Mystery's recommended line. I've never had a good result with it. | /r/seduction | 04/01/11 08:34 PM |
| 3 | "I'm too old for you" vs "You're too young for me."Aha, that makes some sense. By the bye, I've been using this for a while with very good results. An especially good exchange I've had a number of times: HB: How old are you? Me: Too old for you. HB: <tingle> | /r/seduction | 04/01/11 08:30 PM |
| 3 | "I'm too old for you" vs "You're too young for me."I see what you mean here, but it's a bit counter-intuitive, since being "too old" can be seen as a DLV. What if, for example, I said "I'm too short for you?" Seems like "You're too tall for me" would be better. I like the point about telling her what's good for her, though - that has the right feel to it. | /r/seduction | 04/01/11 08:19 PM |
| 1 | A lesson on fucking up attraction via text.Yeah, I meant a little more into him that "just met and am attracted." More like "We've been dating for months." | /r/seduction | 04/01/11 07:27 PM |
| 1 | A lesson on fucking up attraction via text.Key part of this message: "I don't mind when a guy texts me a lot if I'm into him." In short, she must already be into you for you to get away with this (if ever.) Hold your cards when you're first getting to know her. You can loosen up a bit when you've been dating for a year. Even then, this is too much. | /r/seduction | 04/01/11 06:19 PM |
| -1 | As a female I have no idea where to start on learning to seduce...At the risk of stating the obvious, the best thing you can do to seduce men is essentially to get hotter. Lose weight (if you need to), get in shape, and most importantly, read up on body language. As for women, do you like femmy girls or more butch types? | /r/seduction | 03/01/11 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Rate my IM gameAny names in particular you'd point out, since I'm a relative noob? | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Rate my IM gameOh, and she did initiate it - sent me her IM over email. | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Rate my IM gameI have, but what are you referring to? | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Rate my IM gameI'm from the South, so I say this all the time. Had no idea it came off this way. | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Rate my IM gameRe: the intruding bit, I agree. Think that was a mistake. I wanted to start with a tine constraint, but that wasn't the best way. Re the 3 questions, read it again. SHE asked ME those. I turned them around on her to keep from playing into her frame too much. | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Rate my IM gameIt actually wasn't a false time constraint, I really was meeting a friend at the gym. But I get your meaning ;) | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Rate my IM gameI did at the end - whole conversation was about 15 mins, like I said. I cut it off to hit the gym and arranged a date for next week. Still too long, I take it? | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 04:14 AM |
| 3 | Rate my IM gameThis is an IM conversation, not txt, from a girl I met online, not in person. A bit of a different situation. Edit: Or is it? I have read some advice that says it's good to build some comfort/rapport in IM when you meet girls online. I've had good results in general from this policy, but I'm all ears: Are you suggesting I should have kept this to 2 minutes ending with a date invitation? (Keep in mind my grand total interaction with this girl before this consisted of one 3-line email each - hers … | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Rate my IM gameAbout 5 minutes later. | /r/seduction | 31/12/10 03:48 AM |
| 1 | straight girl here, LOVE SEDDIT - looking for a bit of advice...Um, hey. Want to go out some time? Err, I mean, nice nails - are they real? | /r/seduction | 30/12/10 08:53 PM |
| 1 | What's a good holiday text to send to the ladies?Santa claus stopped by my place. He said you were so naughty he was going to shit on your stocking. | /r/seduction | 27/12/10 11:41 PM |
| 1 | My secret weaponInteresting. It's very rare in most places. Sounds like Portland may be my sort of town. | /r/seduction | 23/12/10 12:41 AM |
| 1 | CongruenceUpboat for the dwarf fortress reference, but curse you for reminding me of that fucking game's existence. Must.... resist.... | /r/seduction | 23/12/10 12:26 AM |
| 3 | My secret weaponCouldn't agree more. They will be especially disappointed if they try it just as a ploy without understanding WHY it works. I've tried to get that across, but you know how it goes. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 08:29 PM |
| 1 | My secret weaponJust look at the difference frame makes, here. "Just the alcoholic reading by himself at the bar." Wtf? How about "the educated gentleman enjoying a nice pint and a lovely book in a warm, cheerful pub?" State it that way, and who cares if he doesn't happen to strike up a conversation that night? And if he holds that attitude, it's much more likely that he will. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 08:25 PM |
| 9 | My secret weaponYes. Please take this to heart. (You'll note, by the way, that I said something to this effect in the original post.) | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 08:01 PM |
| 1 | My secret weaponThere is - check out some of the other comments. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 06:29 PM |
| 2 | My secret weaponDoesn't work nearly as well. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 04:01 PM |
| 3 | My secret weaponI've been doing this for 15 years. I don't have a precise number off the top of my head, but I assure you it is substantial. Multiple long term girlfriends, multiple one night stands. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 04:00 PM |
| 3 | My secret weaponPut a twist of lime in your soda and no one will know it isn't a cocktail ;) | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:59 PM |
| 2 | My secret weaponI'm sure that can happen, but I get approached WAY more often when I do this than when I don't. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:58 PM |
| 10 | My secret weaponBy the way, another poster gave me an awesome idea I'm going to use next time: "Why on earth would you come to a bar to read?" "Well I tried to bring a six pack into the library but they kicked me out." | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:54 PM |
| 5 | My secret weapon"Why on earth would you come to a bar to read?" "Hang on, let me finish this sentence." "Why on earth would you come to a bar to read?" "I brought a book in case the people were too boring." "Why on earth would you come to a bar to read?" "I'm secretly hoping that hot chicks will interrupt me. Seen any?" | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:52 PM |
| 2 | My secret weaponI've had the best results from this in Irish pubs, but it has worked in other places as well. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:47 PM |
| 3 | My secret weaponYes, at the actual bar. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:46 PM |
| 3 | My secret weaponDoesn't matter much. As long as the place isn't too dark or noisy to read. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:44 PM |
| 2 | My secret weaponCan't say I've noticed a pattern there. I've gotten approached reading everything from thin novellas to gigantic law textbooks. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 04:13 AM |
| 5 | My secret weaponThat's awesome! Way to stand out. To all the other geeks out there, let this be a lesson: you do NOT have to sacrifice your personality or the things you love to succeed with women. You can turn your "weaknesses" into strengths with a simple change in frame. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:58 AM |
| 3 | My secret weaponThe answer is, one you're comfortable in. The whole reason this works is it allows you to create the aloof vibe without faking it, but in order for that to happen, you must actually be able to read and enjoy your book. If I don't get opened, I couldn't care less, because I had a nice drink and enjoyed a nice read. You have to have the same attitude, and mean it. So pick a place where that's true for you. My noise tolerance is pretty high, so I can pull this off in a wide variety of places. But D… | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:51 AM |
| 3 | My secret weaponDon't know how it works from the other direction. A nook might actually be better than a real book for a girl. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:49 AM |
| 5 | My secret weaponIt's all about your frame. I heard about an old routine where you take a pickup book to a bar and pretend to read lines from it verbatim to girls. That would be a laugh riot. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:45 AM |
| 3 | My secret weaponSince the key is to actually BE reading and enjoying it, it's up to you. How much noise can you tolerate? | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:43 AM |
| 2 | My secret weaponYep, I had good results with that as well when I was back in school. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:33 AM |
| 2 | My secret weaponPerhaps, but at some point I would think it would become an obvious ploy or just too weird if it's totally insane to be reading in that environment. The entire key to it is to really be into the reading. That's what sets your entire frame. If you come into it with too much of a "this is how I'll meet chicks" mindset, it won't work. But what the hell, try it out in a completely ridiculous environment and see what happens. For science, right? | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:32 AM |
| 2 | My secret weaponIt works fine in crowds, but not if it's too loud or dark. Just focus on an environment where you can actually enjoy reading. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 03:29 AM |
| 2 | My secret weaponIt can work just because it gives girls an easy opener, but not as well because people read in those places all the time. No one reads at a bar. It stands out. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 01:53 AM |
| 9 | My secret weaponIt can work great with comics. I number closed a girl last night while reading the Walking Dead. That's what prompted me to write this, actually. The key is attitude. If you go in thinking comics are too nerdy for chicks, and blush when you get "caught" with one, it won't work. If you say "I don't think I could date a girl who doesn't think zombies are awesome," different story entirely. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 01:49 AM |
| 6 | My secret weaponI certainly haven't been hurt by reading the geekiest of geeky stuff (books on Bridge, for example). The key is not to give a flying fuck if people know you love nerdy things. If you get asked and are embarrassed AT ALL about what you're reading, you're done. If you smirk and subtly imply that it's over her head, however, game on. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 01:44 AM |
| 12 | My secret weaponIt absolutely only works if I actually want to read. Luckily, I always do. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 01:40 AM |
| 2 | My secret weaponCould be all sorts of reasons for that, from venue to your body language. There are no guarantees - this is just something that has worked well for me. YMMV. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 12:30 AM |
| 5 | My secret weaponI mentioned this in the original post. I like to read. I like beer. The first time I did it, I happened to have a book I was reading in my pocket (as I usually do) and felt like a drink. There were no tables so I sat at the bar. The place was pretty dead when I showed up, since it was early, so I pulled out the book and started reading. I got pretty engrossed, and hardly noticed as people started coming in. I got opened by 3 girls over the course of a few hours that night. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 12:25 AM |
| 8 | My secret weaponDon't knock in 'til you've tried it. This works routinely on 7s and 8s for me, and the occasional 9. No 10s yet (I met the one 10 I have dated at a grocery store), but then I rarely see 10s in the sort of place where this is feasible. I tend to date 8s or so most of the time. No grandiose claims here about bagging Natalie Portman, and it's not the only trick in my bag, but it has been a great success for me. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 12:18 AM |
| 6 | My secret weaponTHE BERENSTEIN BEARS GET LICKED IN THE DICK FTFY | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 12:12 AM |
| 3 | My secret weaponbeer helps you tune the noise out ;) | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 12:07 AM |
| 6 | My secret weaponWill hold you to that, sir. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 12:04 AM |
| 7 | My secret weaponin my head this feels like it would get a 'what the hell are you doing' response. not a 'cool, what are you reading' response. It often does, which opens up about 1000 different neg possibilities. Think about it. | /r/seduction | 22/12/10 12:00 AM |
| 5 | My secret weaponMight try this at some point. I would worry that they wouldn't stand out as much from ipads and such, but it's worth a shot. Also a real book forces you to spread out and take up more space at the bar - a subtle dominance cue, especially if you hold your space and don't let other dudes crowd you. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 11:31 PM |
| 7 | My secret weaponI pick bars that are conducive to it, so not too noisy or dark. Irish pubs are often good. I suspect this self-selects for women who would be receptive to it. So much the better. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 11:27 PM |
| 14 | My secret weaponWe can't help but love the dish when it is presented well, and we will criticize and scrutinize the same dish if it is not presented properly. Fascinating. This goes to the heart of pickup itself, when you think about it. The only difference is the product is yourself. Where did you learn to build shit up like this, and what can I do to improve my own skills at it? The answer should be obvious from my post itself. I read. A lot. Pulling the reader in to what you are writing is what good writing … | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 11:24 PM |
| 11 | My secret weaponJust be sure to actually be absorbed in your book and not creepily sneaking glances around the bar. Congruence! | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 11:16 PM |
| 28 | My secret weaponWhich makes you more appealing to me from the start - it's a very good screen. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 11:11 PM |
| 19 | My secret weaponMostly Irish pubs and hipsterish places - obviously this wouldn't work so well in an "oonst" club. I just had a thought, though - I'll bet this would be absolutely magical at a gentleman's club. Hmmmmmm. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 11:00 PM |
| 35 | My secret weaponPut another way, they must prove they are more interesting than my book to get me to close it for a few minutes to talk to them. And most of them aren't. ;) | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 10:19 PM |
| 13 | My secret weaponAt the bar. This is KEY. No one will approach you at a booth. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 10:05 PM |
| 7 | My secret weaponThat too. If her reaction is negative to my reading, I don't want to waste my time with her anyway. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 09:56 PM |
| 59 | My secret weaponBingo. I love reading, so I truly don't give a fuck if I meet anyone or not. I literally don't even notice the chicks are there unless they open me. This is like crack to chicks, but hard to fake. When I read at the bar, it's not fake - it's 100% genuine, so there is no trouble with congruence. There's more: it's super easy to play aloof game and push/pull by going back to your book a few minutes here and there, again with 100% congruence. Plus you just stand out as different from all the other … | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 09:54 PM |
| 14 | My secret weaponThat is part of it. There's more, though. See if you can figure it out. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 09:31 PM |
| 17 | My secret weaponI have found ipads and iphones not to be anywhere near as good. Ditto with newspapers. Books only. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 09:30 PM |
| 13 | My secret weaponIt has worked with everything from cheesy scifi to more mainstream novels to non-fiction books. | /r/seduction | 21/12/10 09:29 PM |
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