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I'm just going to chime in here. I think women should be able to pursue whoever they want. I happen to read a reddit post saying that attraction follows a pattern of falling upward, that people want someone who is superior to themselves in some way. I strongly believe in the law of attraction and believe that one has to become what one hopes to attract. That doesn't mean that it's hopeless for weaker men. One can always date in one's own league or not date at all. But improvement over chasing sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:59 AM
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Id like to see this as well. Speaking as a woman who is a weak women so to speak, I think healthy friendships and hobby groups would be good for both women and men. I grew up in small AK town, and while I had a couple close friends, I was a bit of a loner. I know men on my Facebook friends list who are really into gaming, and connect with people that way. I think it would do wonders for social cohesion, if people had a sense of community with their peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:44 AM
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I think that misogyny is prevalent and misogyny holds actual political power. Society expects women to deal with the mess men create for them. At the same time, bad men are rarely held accountable. They overturned roe vs wade while crime, especially violent crime, has gone up. When I talk about patriarchy, this is what I mean. This disregard for and bias against women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:17 AM
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I am a lesbian and a feminist. I agree with you, that patriarchy is harmful for women. I think that patriarchy is coercive, and men under patriarchy feel entitled to women's labor and bodies (sexual access). I think the narrative that women gatekeep sex and that women withhold sexual access from men, often with the undertone that women do so maliciously, is problematic. Men will never have to deal with an unwanted pregnancy. Relationships are foremost a commitment, and no women should feel coerc…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:07 PM
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So how did we get here? You are basically saying that bluepill has made men obsolete and men get the sense they are not needed, wanted, valued and that they do not matter. I think maybe, with the way things are set up, at least in the US, they've divided us on purpose. My biggest takeaway is that i believe strife and resentments will continue to grow in society. Theres lots of blame being passed around, but no good solutions. I just gently suggest to you, that perhaps many women feel the same wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:27 AM
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The theory of mind is real. Its like mentally, you sort of sense other peoples emotional states and can deduce their outlook. I've never had a gut feeling about danger, but I was working at one place, and I intuively recognized that two people I was working with were brother and sister. I found out on Facebook later that I was right about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 03:35 AM
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the most religious and devout Europeans (the puritans) are the ones who came to America and settled here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 03:05 AM
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Forced pregnancy and forced birth- I just have an internal visceral dislike and negative reaction when people want to argue that to compel women to go through this is somehow moral. I literally can not help this internal reaction. I'm just as angry and horrified about women who argue this is moral as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:49 AM
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I'm pro-choice, and I believe abortion up until viability should be allowed. I don't believe that late-term abortion should be legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:39 AM
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This is possible. Brain chemistry and hormones
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:21 AM
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Even for rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:20 AM
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This may sound like I'm rambling or I'm ranting, but here goes: So I think in women's brains there is more nuance about a situation (shades of gray) while men's brains are more black and white in their thinking. Neuroplasticity is a thing as well, and it varies depending on the individual. I think, as a result, our outlook is different. Fixed or flexible in nature. I think that there are men who are highly intelligent IQ wise and driven to accomplish their goals, for example, academic goals. loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:18 AM
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In America, yes. I do not see things changing for the better. But you see other countries like the scandinavian countries and Nordic countries who have basically figured it out. So an egalitarian society is possible, but not in America, where people are highly religious and conservative in outlook.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:20 AM
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For me, it's like this. I'm 4b due to being a lesbian, I just want to be left alone and wouldn't mind being single the rest of my life. Politically, I wish women's rights werent under threat or roe vs wade overturned.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:16 AM
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I think this is a great point you made here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:12 AM
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Certain characteristics and traits are innate due to genetics, so nature matters. Nurture only goes so far. It's like how some people would never break the law whether crime is legal, but others gladly would if there is no consequence. Or how one child is obedient and easygoing, while another child might have an attitude of "I want what I what" and no amount of guidance or good parenting can change their behavior. Nurture can not change what's already innate within you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:11 AM
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This is a good response. It's like a winner take all thing for some, and there can only be one one winner from their POV I think dating might suck today, because most people haven't figured it out yet, and it takes time for people to grow up and mature ie most people are not qualified
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:00 AM
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I see. I think people have inherent strengths and weaknesses due to genetics. Genes gives natural advantages to certain people. I have horrible social skills and am shy, but I am very conscientious and an old soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:45 PM
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I'm sorry you grew up with a mom like that. That's abusive and wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:41 PM
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100% truth right here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:38 PM
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Thank you. I think that as far as social conservatives and the pro life movement goes, that movement is about forcing women to be breeding machines regardless of how the individual woman may feel. I'm not sure why they feel threatened by feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:37 PM
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I think it goes deeper than this. The gender war involves misogyny too. If it doesn't, Why would they make it illegal for women to abort with no exceptions?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:26 PM
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And vice versa with your last part
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:22 PM
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I read an article about this. After we transitioned from a hunter gather society to a sedentary economy, things changed. The bad men multiplied, eventually instituted patriarchy, and the rest is history. I'll try to find the article and post it here. Edit: this article explains things further. https://www.dannyhaelewaters.com/evolutionary-history-has-led-us-to-todays-rapes/ It talks about how we evolved in pre modern times and touches on rape gene theory. I think genes can predispose one to want…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:19 PM
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I think women in general think of relationships in terms of what we can contribute to the relationship or being a good partner . What heterosexual woman wouldn't want a prince charming who treats her right and is a decent man? I'm not a man, but men probably consider things differently than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:16 PM
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I bought on Kindle the book called Determined, a science of life without free will by Robert sapolsky. I agree with him and I've already read a couple chapters. It's a very easy to read book. I like it so far. Edit: I disagree with the prolife movement entirely. Rape is just forced breeding. And I wouldn't want a rapist baby or that rapists inferior genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:07 PM
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That's a good way to put it. Great post.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 08:46 PM
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if you are sharing your views in good faith and want to have a civil discussion, I don't have a problem with having this debate or discussion. There's something called benevolent sexism. Obviously, we need things like police officers (who are mostly male) and a criminal justice system etc. I think the fact is that we are living in a chaotic and crime filled or low trust society. Everyone is looking out for themselves. This is a chicken or egg situation. Society in general is messed up right now,…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 08:44 PM
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I think that this is a reasonable take. I think that, unfortunately, with your last sentence, the horse is already out of the barn. There's too many people who have shown their @$$ess. There are manosphere podcasters who are absolutely misogynist and vile individuals. I think there are bitter and angry feminist women who are angry at men. I have a sense of anger and bitterness, too.. When I think of how women all over the world have been or are mistreated, or how they are forced to essentially b…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 06:09 PM
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https://youtu.be/l34fnJU5HKc?si=VDVLCTuapS7pt7qo This is an example of how the justice system doesn't take rape seriously. I believe that rape culture is real. Luckily, in the end, after many long years, they found her rapist guilty due to facebook messages he sent her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:37 AM
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1) self-proclaimed feminists. Many of the people pushing metoo were either sexually harassed or victims of rape perpetrated by men, so while metoo=assuming all accused men are guilty isn't fair, I think that people want to see victims to be believed and guilty men punished. There are crappy people who believe women lie about sexual assault often and that this is a widespread thing, which I don't think it is. the more common scenario is rapists never being convicted or receiving a slap on the wri…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:29 AM
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Im basing my arguments and critique of patriachy more on the fact that its supporters seek to undo the progress made since the 1st and 2nd waves of feminism. The cultural messaging of social conservatism today is that women and society were better off when gender roles and women relying on a man were the norm. Considering that most women are not likely to stay married to the same man until they die, patriarchy is selling us a fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 07:39 AM
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I think men need to realize that blaming feminists or feminism for everything doesn't work because it's not based on facts and reality. There is a loss of trust between women and men. I think a lot of women know that misogynist men and bad men get away with too much. They see the sexism. They see what's on the news. They see how bad men get away with what they are doing. I think women have collectively internalized the message that depending on a man can affect and impact their lives negatively.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 06:42 AM
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I just don't understand how anyone can honestly think that with today's modern realities that the patriarchy and conservatism can actually function as intended and as claimed. Promoting the patriarchy or gender roles in 2025 is like selling us a fantasy. Now, if you sincerely believe that's what God wants you to do, fine. It's your choice and you're right. There is no stopping you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 04:19 AM
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I don't care about nor concern myself with how other people choose to live their own lives. I just think that conservatism and gender roles don't benefit women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 04:09 AM
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I think that they feel justified in feeling the way they do. women are, after all are still having to deal with the patriarchy. I don't agree with the premise of the first thread link. I think men's mental health matters because first off, it sucks to have mental health issues, and also, I don't want unhinged or mentally ill men committing suicide or being violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 04:04 AM
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So I define the patriarchy problem not solely as a problem of men oppressing women because there are a lot of handmaiden women who support it, too. I define patriarchy loosely as any anti-woman policy that harms women. Such a policy, is one that at its core is about attacking women's rights. Anti abortion laws with no exceptions are an example. Overturning of roe vs wade, another. People should be free to decide what they want to do. If you want to be a tradwife or sahm, go ahead. There are no l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 03:55 AM
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I think that the gender war continuing is inevitable at this point smdh.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 03:34 AM
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Do you think it's wrong for women to be feminist or support feminism? It's in women's best interests to do so imo. I appreciate your honesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 03:25 AM
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I think that women are happy to have rights, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 03:19 AM
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For compatibility to happen and work, both people need to be psychologically healthy, not dysfunctional and be moral ie they believe in not mistreating or using people. It's not a matter of red pill vs blue pill and men vs women I just want to point out some troubling things I've noticed regarding problematic men's psychology from being on reddit: These men may apply double standards to women when it suits them. They may draw conclusions that dont make any logical sense.. they may feel it's a pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:20 AM
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Thanks for this. You are right that I'm scared of women's rights being on the chopping block whenever Republicans are in power. I appreciate that you responded to my comment without attacking me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:01 PM
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Thank you for posting this. Feminists are evil according to misogynist men because we are women who don't want to be enslaved or have our rights stripped away.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 07:47 PM
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The divide will never heal. I expect to see the usa to regress in terms of women's rights just like iran did with the 1979 revolution. Men want to enforce control and dominance over women.weve already lost roe vs wade? What else do you want from us?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 07:26 PM
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I've seen Red pillers' arguments and viewpoints on this subreddit. I think that the Red pill position upholds certain "truths" that I don't agree with. I see Red pill as part of the manosphere, and I know there were men justifying toxic behavior such as being dishonest with women about your true intentions and encouraging men to behave in this manner. I think that the Red pill encourages fakeness and being performative, over real connection and authenticity. I've read on this subreddit that wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 05:20 PM
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I think you have a fair and healthy view of things. This is how I feel as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 04:52 PM
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An entitled woman or a woman who expects to be spoiled even on a first date, to me, is sort of a red flag. It signals a lack of maturity to me. do not date a woman or a person whose expectations are wildly out of line with yours. I think this way of thinking is a holdover from patriarchal thinking that men are to provide. These type of women do not seem egalitarian or feminist at the core. But it's different if you have an established dynamic with a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 07:04 PM
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Emotional intelligence is a real thing. It's like the gift of awareness taken to the max. It is my silent superpower. I do not think I'm a misandrist. I think that many men have high iqs and are driven to succeed academically. I'm average iq wise, but have high eq and excellent theory of mind. I was eating at a restaurant recently and watching a male waiter, and I found myself admiring that man's swagger and relaxed demeanor. I think being yourself and authenticity goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 09:00 PM
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Maybe birthrates will go up if and when artificial wombs become available for human use. I think that women who want kids should be encouraged and supported in that decision. I think no girl or woman should be forced to have a kid if she doesn't want one. For a woman who wants to opt for sterilization, she should be able to get it. Ive read that in the past, people used to live with grandparents who helped with raising the children and that the nuclear family is a relatively recent phenomenon. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 08:45 PM
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These men find it hard to cope with their thoughts and feelings, most likely. I used to have a victim mentality, loathing and self-righteous thoughts in regards to sexuality. I don't remember the exact train of thought, but I eventually was able to snap out of it and let it go. People need healthy outlets and need to figuratively touch the grass. Because if they don't do this, emotional issues tend to become intense, combined with the stress of everyday life and it at all builds up. Emotional tu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 08:06 PM
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I think that some people have a strong sense that parenting is for them, while others are more ambivalent. I think that becoming a parent is only worth it if you make a lot of money. Having lots of money means you can have a hired village ('it takes a village') to help you out. If I seriously wanted motherhood and decided on it, then I'd only have one kid. My dad, while he's told me that he believes a woman should be allowed to go to school and work if she wants to, said feminism promoted dual i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 04:56 PM
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Oh, I understand your POV. More power to you. Zawn villeness has a substack called liberating motherhood, which talks a lot about household labor inequality.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 04:19 PM
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I think the genie is out of the bottle. I think becoming a mother and being a good mother is a sacrifice that many women feel, just isn't worth it anymore. I used to see parenthood as something totally undesirable, but I've softened my stance a bit. I think that parenthood is an honorable and noble thing, when you are financially stable and can mentally handle what it takes to be a good parent. Raising a child successfully so that a child will grow up to be an independent, conscientious, and mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 03:20 PM
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I think these type of woman shoot themselves in the foot though. And it often comes back to bite them in the @$$. I heard from a friend how one of the women she works is a great and hardworking person. Apparently, she hooked up with a drug user in her younger years who was cute, and had the kid after getting pregnant. The kid ended up doing drugs too. I believe certain traits such as temperament are highly hereditary. Even addictive personality is hereditary, too. When you pick someone to marry …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 05:26 AM
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OP, I think Republican Pat Buchanan wrote an entire book about this subject. Basically, societies that treat women like property and chattel are out breeding the more egalitarian and prosperous societies, such as in the West. The whole premise of his book is that Western societies are dying out due to low birth rates. I was trying to find books relating to eugenics and selective breeding on Amazon, and Edward Dutton came up. He is predicting a conservative revolution because more liberal and/or …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 05:04 AM
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I think at the end of the day, you have to be able to ask yourself, am I satisfied with my life? Am i I satisfied with my relationship? I think an ideal relationship is one where you are like a unit, and you are both on the same team. I don't think relationships should be hard or that you feel you have to fight for it in order for it to work. Your partner is someone who should be a positive presence in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 04:50 AM
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financially stable, conscientious, and has no extreme bad habits, such as gambling, drug addiction issues and bad hygiene .you should factor in a person's personality and temperament, especially if you are considering starting a family with that person. A normal person who has got their life together and is friendly and kind when dealing with others. I personally wouldn't mind to date a more reserved or standoffish person either someone who can compliment you and fit into your life and lifestyle…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 04:26 AM
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Dear EU law and lawmakers. Hell yes, I'd abort a Down syndrome fetus, and I wouldn't care. I'm sorry that made this European man angry. More women should have the option to abort deformed and unviable fetuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 03:54 AM
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You are ridiculous. If you hate me so much, why are even responding to my posts?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 03:49 AM
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Blah blah blah
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 03:48 AM
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Luckily, I'm not a EU citizen. I'm American. And thank God im an American with free speech rights, unlike your country.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 03:47 AM
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I'm the sick one? At least I wouldn't force my own daughter to have a rape baby, or force a woman to carry a deformed fetus. I'm tired of the religious yapping about religion, Christianity, and other such nonsense. I'm sure the Taliban agrees with your POV. All you people want is power at the expense of my rights. Have a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 03:43 AM
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I think the internet and internet forums are the greatest gift to us loners and social outcasts. I actually prefer to socialize online rather than face to face with a person. I feel like I can open up more and share my real thoughts online . So while social media can amplify the most extreme thoughts and views due to algorithms, it also provides an avenue for people who don't get out more to share and discuss their thoughts with others.. Irl, I'm terrible at starting conversations, but if someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 03:38 AM
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I notice a lot of the arguments of some red pill men are based on economic and / or grounded in pragmatism/ issues. Like men paying taxes, which supports single mothers, men being forced to defend the nation, i.e., the draft, and men being the majority in STEM and net tax contributors etc.men do keep society and civilization running and functioning smoothly. Society would be better served by sweeping to the side those elements of society which are causing the problems, i.e., fixing the issues re…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 03:14 AM
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I've heard the argument that lonely men are a big threat to women and that the male loneliness crisis is a problem because frustrated men will give up on being productive and / or will become violent. I think it all depends. I think that radicalization and echo chambers are the issue. I'm a complete social hermit, but I get all my socialization needs from being on reddit and online. There are times when I have felt lonely, like, oh, it would be nice to do life with someone and have a friend who …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 01:06 AM
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It's clear that you're only looking to argue and are triggered and angry. I'm not going to interact with you anymore. There's nothing wrong with equal rights and classical liberalism which is what I believe in.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:28 AM
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I don't agree. I don't agree with democrats on all of their positions, but I appreciate that they do stand for women's rights. I think Gov beshear is right. You can't stereotype people. Because doing so is putting people into little boxes, and if you make it so one side is wholly good, and one side is totally evil, that is wrong. Because people aren't perfect, and neither are either of the political parties. I think the political system is set up to be us vs them. There are only two choices, rep…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:22 AM
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If you want to see me as an enemy, go right ahead. This toxicity and extremism is exactly what's going to destroy the country, but you do you, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:12 AM
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I appreciate your comment. I think men and women need to see that they have true allies on the other side. I think this will help us not to think of one another in antagonistic terms or that the other side is the enemy. That's the first thought I thought about when I read your comment. If we can all be a little more respectful and civil in dialogue and listen and talk to each other, I think that would go a long way. In terms of men's concerns, in general, I don't think it's wrong for men to talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:34 PM
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I, more or less, agree with you. Why is it wrong or not desirable that males and females collectively do our own thing, i.e., mgtow/wgtow? I think that conservative-religious men, they think women are the property of men to use and control as they see fit, not as beings worthy of autonomy. I'm not saying left wing or liberal men are perfect, but I see them as a lesser threat to women's rights and liberty than the right wing, especially religious right wingers. I don't want to start a fight or ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 01:09 AM
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I have in the past. I know I sort of look soft butch in photos I've taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 01:13 AM
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That's wonderful. I've always done my own thing all throughout childhood and until now. It is freeing to not give AF of how society or others feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 11:16 PM
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I'm not opposed to male and female friendships. It would be nice, because I'm not stereotypically girly or and dont have stereotypically feminine interests. But, for some men, it's hard to be just friends with a girl. At least if a man is gay, I don't have to worry about that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:59 PM
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Never said it did
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:55 PM
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I should have said heternormativity rather than propaganda.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:43 PM
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I appreciate this post and the perspectives within. I'm friends with a bi man on facebook, who was an ex coworker of mine. Okay, I see where you are getting at, with the last part . I can't speak to modern male dating culture, and I appreciate you explaining how it is. I sometimes forget that I'm an outlier in that I'm not religious while a lot of people in the US are. It's probably religious conservatives who are what I was referring too instead of just male straight culture in general. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:42 PM
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This is a reasonable and great take.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:32 PM
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Thanks for understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:32 PM
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I see some snarky replies by some men on here, lol.. I just wish random men wouldn't send me random d*ck pics on Facebook or sexually harrass me but I guess I just need 'therapy'
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:29 PM
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You are absolutely right! Thank you. That's what I meant, but I couldn't find the right words
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:20 PM
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I meant like propaganda, which promotes marriage, not necessarily heterosexual relationships themselves. I didn't word myself properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:18 PM
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I'm not a lesbian. I've found some males to be physically attractive and appealing. Like eye candy. It doesn't mean I'd want to be with them. Then again, I don't desire a relationship with anyone right now, either. I think the idea of being a platonic friend to a man or gay man would be nice, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:15 PM
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I heard from one feminist that she's had to step back from befriending other women because women are catty with each other and aren't really good friends to each other. I can confirm what you wrote here. Also, some mothers treat their daughters like crap but their sons are golden. I'm the scapegoat child, so I know how that is like.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 02:17 AM
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This was an interesting read. Red pill does focus on women's nature a lot. I mean I've been on feminist forums that discuss this topic as well. I just think in general, there's trash men and trash women and maybe it's just hard to find a truly decent and good person. Maybe I am just biased, but I tend to think women are just good-natured at the core.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:49 AM
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I'm open to having a discussion on this. There's talk of women having too high standards or unrealistic expectations, but so what?? Men do too. Women aren't all a monolith or all bad. There's plenty of normal women. And if most or all women are as red pill say they are, what do you think are the societal or cultural factors making women this way?? There's perspectives I think I'd agree with red pill men on, for example, a man shouldn't be forced to pay child support for a child not biologically …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:09 AM
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I've seen a lot of crazy takes here on this subreddit mostly from redpill people. I don't think being a normie is a bad thing. If you are normal psychologically, we are on the same page in terms of values, and you meet my looks threshold, were good. I'm choosing to be single, probably for a while, and I feel emotionally closer to other women (I'm bi). Maybe I'm out of the loop, as I seriously don't know all of the dating trends and how things are on dating apps. I've downloaded hinge, and have b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 12:46 AM
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I kinda think marriage is sort of obsolete. If you have your own career and can take care of yourself, then what's the point of marriage? Marriage doesn't make people stay in a relationship or be a good partner. It's a useless formality unless you plan on living off a man who has money.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 07:32 PM
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It's ends up being worse when it's a woman, though. Homeless women end up trafficked and raped. Men typically don't have to worry about these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:11 PM
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I totally agree with all of this. The financial implications for the mother, if anything goes wrong, and if she ends up not being able to support herself and her baby, shes basically going to be forced to turn to government welfare to survive, and it's not easy reentering the workforce, once you've been out for so long. It's a risk I'm not willing to take, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 10:04 PM
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I have a habit of romanticizing motherhood, but I'd never do it simply because giving birth can destroy your bodily integrity, and I think that being a working mother is difficult and expensive, with daycare being so expensive. Plus, what happens when your baby in daycare inevitably gets sick, you don't have a village, and you use all your sick days. Then what? No one is going to have your back, in that situation, not society, not your boss, etc id like to see more babies be born to women who wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:55 PM
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It's not strictly one type of feminism. It's open to all feminists. it's sort of a successor site to Ovarit, so it's going to be gender critical and accepting of radical feminists. Various discussions were allowed on Ovarit, so I'm assuming it's going to be the same on vexxed.org. it's a new site, and only former Ovarit users are allowed on there for now, but once they're open to the public, they will send out invite codes to people who want one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:09 PM
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I don't get that kind of mentality either. Ideally, I'd want to be with a person who would put our kids first. My mindset is that my kids are a priority, and it's my obligation to take care of them and make sure they have everything they need. I saw a comment online of one person saying they'd save their spouse rather than their kid, if they were trapped in a burning building because they could have more kids together in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:33 PM
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It's a feminist website. They created it after ovarit got shut down. It's still a fairly new site.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 04:38 AM
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Feminism claims men as a class oppress women as a class. I think here in the US, there are laws, which I consider anti women. The anti abortion laws, with no exceptions, is one. And if you lose the right to control your own body and the trajectory of your own life, you also lose other things. It's kind of hard to stay in the workforce when you're dealing with pregnancy or pregnancy complications. We can talk about the cultural misogyny and the misogyny we see in society. How we're pressured by s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:59 PM
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Your mind is a prison. It's just like the Matrix, and men and women's minds work differently. So all this confusion, angst, stress, and anxiety about the whole situation is just pointless. If you just want to vent to relieve stress and tension, I understand. I think that this whole situation would be resolved today, if men and women really felt like this, hey, we have each others backs, I'm here for you, im rooting for you, and would like to see you win at life, and I appreciate you etc. This at…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:40 PM
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This advice is directed toward feminist and / or blue pill women. We can do things like stop trying to fix men or their issues, find solace in feminist communities, or in real life. People, both genders, need to stop dictating to strangers what social norms or societal rules we are required to follow. I am trying to get a vexxed.org account. It's a new online feminist space for feminists. This is life. I have my own issues to deal with, plus the challenges of the high cost of living, societal is…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:24 PM
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To be honest, I'd rather be in the bestie camp and in the friendzone. I feel like if it really happened, and a lady was actually interested or into me, I'd probably sort of shut down or not know what to do. There's all this internal pressure to keep a woman interested and happy.. To me, it seems like too much work, and she might not appreciate what I bring to the table, so it's just easier and better for me to be single. In general, I prefer my own company, so it's easier for me to do this than …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:56 PM
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Does a woman treating a man like one of the girls necessarily mean they'd never consider him for a relationship, though? It's good to want to be on good terms with a woman, whether or not she wants a relationship with you. I just wonder if there are innate differences between men and women in terms of neuroplasticity or emotional intelligence and biology, which is why we have so widely different views or expectations regarding certain things. I can understand if your are friend-zoned all the tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:39 PM
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That's a good thing. That means they like and trust you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 06:32 PM
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I think there's women who just wouldn't have kids, no matter what. Not everyone's suited to motherhood or would like motherhood But i think the type that are on the fence about motherhood and are open to the idea, might actually do it, if cost of living wasn't so high.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:40 AM
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Thanks for the suggestions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 12:30 AM
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I definitely think choosing the father of your kids is probably one of the most important decisions you can make. You're choosing the genes of your future child essentially. So much of one's personality, temperament, and even the chances of having healthy offspring are determined by genes. I heard the saying men want kids like a child wants a puppy. I remember wanting a puppy as a kid, knowing I'd absolutely dislike all I'd have to do to take care of one. The responsibility of it. Also, I really…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 12:29 AM
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I feel like a lot of career women choose to be childfree, because to them, its like they prefer to keep working but they dont want to spend years out of the workforce, de-skill and have no easy way to reenter the workforce with years long gap in work history and being older etc. It's a shame because these women are ambitious, responsible, and driven go getters. This is a group of women who we should help out more. Like, if a highly educated career woman decides, hey, I want to have a kid now. Ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 10:37 PM
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I'm ignorant about this. How does capitalism support and uphold patriarchy? Are their online resources or books you can recommend?? My understanding of patriarchy is still sort of new and generalized. I want to know more about the finer details etc. I know the basics.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 10:25 PM
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Before the feminist movement supposedly destroyed the nuclear family, how would widows or women who's husband's died or left them survive?? Women get careers because they don't want to financially rely on men who could be flakey or not dependable. Real life isn't a fairy tale, like Cinderella.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 10:17 PM
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"Destroyed the nuclear family." So women gained greater rights, freedoms, independence, and power within society with the feminist movement, etc. I think this is all a good thing. Lower birthrates are just a by-product. I don't think the destruction of the nuclear family was the intention or main goal. The goal was equal rights and equality between men and women. Although there were feminists like Shulamith Firestone who really did think the family needed to be abolished. If you really want wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 10:11 PM
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But not to the point of men being rapey or predatory, I would hope!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 02:39 PM
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I see your point here. People say all the time, just shoot your shot and hope it works out, but sometimes it's more complicated than that. I'll give you an example. I was on an lgbt forum, where a person asked, when a beautiful woman comes along, what do you do. Do you approach her, or do you not sweat it and just go about your day. I replied, "There has to be signs she is into other women if I'm going to approach her. When it comes to beautiful women, typically I'll try not to make eye contact,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 10:41 AM
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I had a real pushy guy who kind of saw my no's as an invitation or excuse to try to break down my boundaries and pressure me into saying yes. I read an article on psychology today afterward about how the type of men who sexually harrass you, the psychology behind why they do that, is to establish dominance over you. The mindset and whole goal of the person is one of trying to dominate the other person. It was eerie reading those words. Thank God I don't have to deal with this individual anymore.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 10:34 PM
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I've read the replies on here to my original thread. I'm getting that society and a lot of people $hit on men who are not successful at dating and relationships, and feel like society shames them for just complaining about a not so ideal situation. I can see their point of view. When someone goes out their way to tear down those who are less fortunate and weren't dealt the right cards in life. I do believe that it's okay to do whatever you need to do to get your sexual frustrations out, as long …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 10:22 PM
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That sucks. I have been on here and seen the comments on different threads by different users . I was originally kind of coming from a mindset of well I'm a feminist im ready to do battle with those raging misogynists on ppd and fight the good fight. now that ive actually been on this sub, I've seen a lot of reasonable takes and opinions being shared on here. Some of best and most in-depth comments and replies were by men.. For me, I'm kind of a social hermit, so I'm out of the loop in some ways…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 06:55 PM
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Also, if an ugly person wants kids, they can go to a sperm bank and get the best genes for their future offspring or adopt. I think people think that people should judge others on their objective qualities or merits, but attraction doesn't always work out like that. people will judge you for all sorts of reasons. Working on your self-esteem, confidence, style, and anything that can bring out your positive side and bring out your best qualities. It's unhelpful to look at others as a source for va…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 06:15 PM
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I'm thinking about the whole pills 💊 as a concept. Red pill, purple pill. They try to sell these pills as a solution, and magically, the problems will just all go away if we're red pilled or whatever else. Now, I'm thinking how can we help average to below average men, to not go the way of the incels or become radicalized extremists. They need to come up with a concept that can unite us, not drive us further into despair, self-hatred, and division. I remember back in the day, you do you and I'll…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 05:57 PM
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I totally agree. I think the only realistic solutions are 1) be up to par and meet a particular woman's standards, 2) acceptance of your situation, and 3) focus on other, meaningful pursuits I think hard-core incels are just turned on by the thought of having an unwilling partner. Or getting her to give in, the thought dominating and coercing someone else feels good to them. I'm not saying every ppd-er is this way. But I'm saying some men won't be satisfied unless a woman is doing exactly what h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 05:00 PM
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Im wondering, what should we do about it. When a person isn't successful in the personal or private arena. We already know what the problem is. what can be considered a successful outcome for these people who are lonely and can't get a date or relationship. I'm just trying to ask questions to poke our minds a bit. To brainstorm.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:22 PM
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All very true. I know im an outlier. I don't know what the answer or solution might be for these people who are in this kind of difficult situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:14 PM
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Gotcha. Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:07 PM
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I'm single and planning to be celibate. Idk why society is set up this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:06 PM
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I feel like we crave success in dating careers and relationships because it is rewarding. It feels good, you get a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment, etc. Im not sure where I'm going with this, but I don't have a particularly remarkable life. I have hobbies and pets and a local park to go to if I get get bored. I get frustrated with myself a lot because I feel i overthink things and get mentally stressed as a result. I feel like I need to mentally decompress a lot of the time. Exercise and l…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:05 PM
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Believe in something transcendent or in something greater than yourself. For example, I'll take this as a sign that this is not meant for me Thinking there's some greater force at play is helpful for me. It may not be for everyone, though. The universe is, for me, rooting for me to win in life The universe is supportive of me and is ultimately a benevolent place Having something positive to hold onto helps me. Even if it's only a positive, reassuring thought in my mind. If I can get through the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:53 PM
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Im thinking, what if you end up getting what you want, but you figure out you now don't want it, you wanted the idea of what it was in your head. Or you do get it, but don't hang on to it. Of course, only in a figurative sense. There's the grass is greener syndrome a lot of people have, taking things for granted etc. Things aren't static, things change over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:46 PM
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I believe you. I think it's sort of badass this kind of attitude certain women have. To be honest, I think that relationships don't even have to be based on romance. I would honestly prefer some sort of platonic partnership for myself. The person has to be good to me and willing to show me through action what a capable and stable person is like. In every area, like employment, financial, emotional, and mental, etc. I don't think transactional relationships are always a bad thing. You give me thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 02:20 PM
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Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 02:01 PM
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You know, it's like I'm having random thoughts popping up in my head, and it feels like they're trying to lead me to the direction of a greater truth. Lol. I just kinda posted what thoughts were coming into my mind, just recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 01:59 PM
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Yeah, I'm no scientist or expert, I admit. But I think biology can, at the very least, partly explain why people behave the way they do. I think that harmful societal norms and messaging are obviously learned from society, but I wonder what's the trigger that makes certain men decide to become sexual predators and commit crimes. Is there a tipping point for these men? Or are they born broken, psychologically. I guess we can all speculate, but we'll never know. Because we don't know or truly unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 01:56 PM
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I think there should be a questionnaire being done or a survey so we can see the attitudes of the ppd men and women on here. Question 1) I'm a woman who is discreet about things and keeps her business private. How do you perceive her or react to her? A she's a cold hearted bitch B I respect her attitude and will give her, her needed space All I can say is you know me well if you picked B. I think it's our jobs to know the type of people we are dealing with. Especially when it comes to interperso…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 01:20 PM
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I think the whole men are from Mars, and women are from Venus meant that men think, react, and respond to things differently than women. In my mind duh there are real differences between the sexes. Men perceive women differently than how women perceive men. This is just my speculation, but I think men think in terms of utility. How they can utilize a woman and benefit from her. Whether that's emotional labor, sexual satisfaction, etc. They think in terms of functionality and the usefulness of a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 01:09 PM
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I think maybe we seem standoffish and sort of dismissive. They should not take it personally because it's a safety thing for a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:40 PM
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I don't know if that's true. I'm fat, and people prefer pretty and skinny white girls. I think it's just I cope well with not having anyone. There is no real feeling that I'm being deprived of what I truly want in life. I'm just okay with not having a partner. Edit: there's a certain type of man that could be drawn to someone like me. I feel like it's a niche type of thing. In my Facebook dms, it's usually middle-aged white dudes in the military who are messaging me. I'm not attracted to them. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:23 PM
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I feel like I'd be more lenient for women. Simply because I feel like oh they are so cute, and the women are wonderful effect. I have to really think about this. If she has any big red flags, that's definitely a deal breaker for me. Promiscuous, being mean for no reason towards other women, angry or overly hostile temperament, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:19 PM
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I totally agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:12 PM
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I am a feminist, I see being independent as being empowering and necessary in a society where you've got to work in order to eat and to live. I don't have any values that are similar to red pill women's or handmaidens values I disagree with religious women. Religions are a lie, and religion brainwashes people and contributes to our collective oppression Male-centered female behavior. kissing the ass of men, not holding them accountable, or making excuses for them. I disagree with such behavior. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:11 PM
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Thank you! You explained the situation succinctly. I agree with this. You worded this better than I could. I think hypocrisy by either males or females is a turn-off and off-putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:32 AM
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As a masculine woman myself, i think I sort of get the masc. privilege thing. Sometimes, I feel like I come on to strongly in my masculine energy and presentation, like I'll never be a proper or typical woman. I also feel like being masculine and, in my masculine energy, comes easily and naturally for me. I know femmes present themselves in their authenticity as well. Like I always thought femme women are way better looking, but I sort of looked down on femininity. I had this sort of weird thoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 02:13 AM
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I love this post!! I agree. What works for you may not work for me, and vice versa. I think I'd prefer a situation where the other person is similar to me. I know some people think opposites attract or prefer a partner who complements them. A potential partner would have to meet my minimum requirements at the very least though
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:43 AM
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I'm sure some people do that too.... that's kind of why I don't date.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:38 AM
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Thanks for sharing your experiences. I believe you. I've seen how pretty petite and feminine women have been treated. I have a decent amount of Facebook friends who were mostly classmates or acquaintances of mine. So I know what's going on in peoples lives. I think being a hot and young woman makes you vulnerable in a sense. I was told that men have a desire to possess and conquer. Being invisible has its advantages and disadvantages imo.I know one woman who had to leave an abusive relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 11:48 PM
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I thought your post was a good take. Not everything has to be a cutthroat competition or a rat race. Maybe there should be support groups or more group outtings with a mixed group of men and women, then connections can build and things could come about organically for people. More events within a city or community, and more ways to meet new people. We could make society or build societies that are conducive to that. Also, maybe clubs, like art clubs, fitness clubs, anime clubs, but in real life.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 11:27 PM
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This makes sense and you've explained things well. Thank you. It's a perspective I had considered before.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 11:04 PM
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Your point about weakness and relationship with power really stuck out to me. I agree, I think there's men who think that a woman being self-sufficient and independent are not worthy or are not relationship material. Yet they also resent goldiggers and bash them. I don't have a large social circle, but I've heard from both men and women on here, at least, that women prefer strong men. I think they mean dominant men, someone who takes charge. Do you think perhaps that people are just too codepend…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 10:54 PM
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Platonic relationships and friendships between men and women should be normalized. I feel like there's mismatched expectations between what men want and what women want. It's much better to be upfront about your desires and be clear about what you want or don't want in a relationship. Don't let anyone disrespect your boundaries. I'm thinking for example, the friend zone. Guy and girl are friends, but the guy wants something more and the woman doesn't. I'm sure there are other examples. The reali…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 10:44 PM
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Im kind of following the replies on here, and i just wanted to say, I don't mind if an unattractive man wants to be with that 10/10 supermodel. But I think he should have maturity and be gracious about things. You may not be everyones cup of tea, whether in terms of looks or whatever else. I like the type of person who can wish others well regardless and just go about their day. To be honest, I am starting to wonder if the men on here even like women at all. What I'm noticing is that men on this…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 08:42 PM
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I wonder if we could improve things for both sexes by just normalizing platonic relationships or male and female friendships. Maybe it's a cultural thing. Like in the US, I guess the cultural mindset or framework is that women shouldn't approach men first or accept favors or gifts from men, because the assumption is men will expect sexual favors or it means youre interested in them when you're not I heard in Japan it's a little different. I heard misogyny is bad in East Asian societies, especial…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 05:32 PM
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Let's talk about the moving of the goal posts. First, it's that men are just lonely, and we need to address the male loneliness crisis. Next, it's women aren't having enough babies. And we need to save our society and culture from extinction. And there's that whole thing about how it's bad that men can't get any women to be with them how these men will die as virgins. See, this whole thing is suspicious. I think the powers that be, know what they're doing. It's no coincidence that red pill was c…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 05:14 PM
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This is the way I feel, too. I think it's mostly a lack of emotional maturity. If you are not up to par, I won't lower my standards for you. This pisses a lot of men off. I don't even think being single is a bad thing. There are trade offs. Like yeah, maybe I'll never have emotional intimacy or find my soulmate, but at least I can live my life how I want to without always thinking about someone else's needs. We women and men can really thrive in life if we just embrace the freedom that comes wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 05:07 PM
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This is the only real solution here. People have to find a way to cope better or just be happy with themselves and their lives. Nobody is obligated to come in and rescue you. I have my own life, and I have a right to focus on myself. At this point in time, I can only afford to worry about myself and not so much about others, or else I'd literally sink. I have enough of my own problems. That doesn't mean we shouldn't talk about this issue. if you can't be happy on your own, then what is the fix? …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:51 PM
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This whole thing, this whole sub, has really got me thinking. We have all these expectations of who we'd want in a partner and our own expectations for ourselves, etc. Our own unmet desires and our own hopes and dreams for the future. It's so complex and complicated! It complicates everything, too, because another person may not feel the same way as you. I truly believe in alignment. A person has got to be headed to where I'm going if it's going to work out for me. We are going somewhere to the …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:27 PM
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I'll try to expound on this a bit. Having a certain sense of pride as a man can take you far in life. I'm not talking about arrogant or mean jerks, but the type that genuinely carries himself from a place of love. The type that loves himself because he knows who he is as a person. I feel this way about my own self. We know ourselves as good, decent human beings with genuine hearts. We see our own human potential and the potential of people around us. There's also something called theory of mind.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:12 PM
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I'm a big believer in LOA. I feel like there's something greater than ourselves at play. We need to reframe things a bit, i feel like. What if that woman you pursued, who rejected you, or who didn't show any interest, what if she just isn't meant for you? What if we're meant to follow whatever life path is best for us. Maybe that doesn't include that particular woman or suitor. I like to think that in the end, things work out the way it's supposed to. Trust the process and the Universe, as silly…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:55 PM
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Ooh I like this one. This type of man you're describing is definitely high value. The type that's so sure of himself and has a strong sense of self worth, that nothing can shake him. I think that way of being is beautiful. I think it comes from knowing who you truly are as a person. Or just being confident of your intentions and morals. I like that a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:40 PM
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High emotional intelligence and is considerate of others, is financially stable, and has a history of steady employment, down to earth, etc. Isn't lazy when it comes to basic hygiene. I don't really care about his style or how he dresses, but some thought should go into how he decides to put himself forward and approach people. How he approaches or reacts to different life situations. It's one thing to be assertive when necessary or to be helpful. It's another thing to be disagreeable all the ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:35 PM
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Thanks for the clarification. I agree with the point you just made here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 02:45 AM
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I think this is probably the only way we can live in true harmony with each other. I'm living a pretty peaceful life. I won't lie, I have been romanticizing companionship lately, but it wouldn't be practical for me to actually get into a real relationship with someone for different reasons. I know im an outlier, but maybe people like me are just not built for relationships. Low libido, lack of interest and energy in doing the whole dating thing. I'm a homebody who likes cats and video games, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 11:26 PM
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I think where you are at in your life, your level of financial stability /security, and history of regular employment can often times be a reflection of your internal drive, sense of conscientiousness, level of maturity, and shows me what you prioritize in life etc. I've heard from other women how struggle love really sucks, particularly when you bring a kid into the mix. Life is hard. I don't expect someone to be a multimillionaire, but they need to be at least at my socioeconomic level. I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 06:47 PM
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There's also the trust factor. It's hard for me to open up with others but especially with men, letting people get to know the real me and get close to me. I think it would be different if I had close male friends. All my good friends were either all girls or women. I also lack experience interacting with the opposite sex, besides my dad and brother, whom I'm close to. We talk about literally everything, regularly over the phone. I've been thinking of putting myself out there in the community or…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 06:03 PM
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I'm glad you posted this. I was thinking about masculinity vs. femininity and really pondering and thinking about this. I don't care whether a man is feminine or a woman is masculine. I think some of us are old souls who realize that not everyone has to fit into society's parameters for what is considered normal or acceptable. I've heard arguments from men who say things like, no high quality man wants a masculine woman. Masculine energy and mannerisms in women are a turn-off for men etc. And th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 05:50 PM
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I can't invalidate what you have personally experienced. But I'm sure there are plenty of down to earth nice girls out there. I think the idea of hypergamy is actually overstated. There's always going to be that type of woman who has a grab the bag, spend his money but save yours mentality. I also think everything is so artificial nowadays. Women and men are encouraged to get plastic surgery or hide their true selves in order to appeal to others when it comes to dating. I find it shallow and ina…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 05:35 PM
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Well, I was always a painfully shy, introverted girl. I was always the loner, the social outcast in school. I preferred it this way, because I didn't find socializing with others to come naturally, but I had a few genuine friends. I grew up in a small town in Alaska, and while I did get compliments at times from boys, i didn't get asked out or anything like that. But I liked those boys at the school I went to growing up,, I always admired how they seemed so laid back and chill, and how they just…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 03:17 PM
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This is a good discussion and good topic. I am big believer in things tend to happen as it should, so if things don't work out between two people, of if a person doesn't reciprocate how you feel towards them, maybe it's just not meant for you. Maybe there's someone better out there for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:26 PM
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There's the looks threshold and then add on the type of man you're attracted to. If I had to choose between an average man with good character or a really good-looking man who had personality or character deficits and other issues, I'd definitely settle for the average man. Especially if I was looking to start a family. You can't fix or change a person's character or true nature. And the hot guy with $hitty character is going to cause you more problems down the road. Not worth the headache or ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:21 PM
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Biology has a lot to do with everything and has a larger influence than nurture. There are complaints about women being too picky or having too high of standards, but it's logical that women pick the best mate possible for the purpose of procreation. It's not that women all want millionaires or billionaires, or the hottest Chad, but perhaps someone financially stable, no addictions or debt problems, high emotional intelligence and good character. That would be my criteria, if I wanted a serious …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:09 PM
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I agree with you. But the type of mentality you're addressing and criticizing, men with that mentality care more about what they want even if it comes at the expense of another human beings wellbeing or freedom. They don't care. I've been single all my life, never dated, and I think I'm pretty normal, so all these arguments I see on purplepilldebate seem weird to me. No one owes you anything except basic consideration and / or respect. You're not owed sex or relationships. I think I found one po…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 01:53 PM
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I totally agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 05:56 PM
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Another unpopular opinion I have is that many women lack a strong self-preservation instinct. There's many women who support conservative ideology until it bites them in the @ss, like Lauren Southern, for example. I also side eye women, who are sexist and male aligned in their outlook and who are anti feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 05:44 PM
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My unpopular opinion is that there's nothing wrong with being a masculine woman.i myself am a masculine woman, wlw and feminist. I don't get the whole woman should embrace their divine feminine, and what the femininity gurus are pushing. I think woman should just embrace their true, authentic selves. I honestly am proud and happy with who I am. I think a lot of what's being pushed right now is very silly. The whole tradfem/tradwives trend is something I cannot relate with. I am a celibate, singl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 05:39 PM
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Oh no, I didn't mean that, sorry. I'm agreeing with the OP.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/23 11:40 PM
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It's my writing style, I meant to refer to red pillers in general, the way they try to manipulate women, by lying, and basically by being scammers, the way they want to use women, I think it's very selfish and abusive of these RP men. Sorry for the confusion..
/r/ExRedPill25/12/23 11:34 PM
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I think coercive control, is abusive
/r/ExRedPill25/12/23 11:16 PM
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I think that anytime you want to change other persons core self ie manipulate them to your advantage, you are being abusive and assholish. Like cmon. Let people be themselves.
/r/ExRedPill20/12/23 12:59 AM
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I totally feel this way. I'm a tomboy bi woman who exudes masculine energy. I couldn't imagine being submissive to anyone, I couldn't put my entire livelihood in someone else's hands. Independence is a must for me. But I like the way I am, it's not a big deal for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:31 PM
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