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| 1 | Why do many women find it unacceptable if a man has paid for sex in the past, but are fine with a man who has slept with hundreds of women through regular dating?I mean hundreds of sexual partners through regular dating would be impossible to accomplish. But I would date a man who'd had dozens of sexual partners, because he can just get tested for STIs and it means he gave pleasure to and had fun with a lot of people, which I don't think is a bad thing. It's like saying "I played frisbee with dozens of people"--like, you gotta make sure that guy doesn't have some kind of frisbee compulsion, but if he doesn't, well, frisbee's a good thing! If he were to s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/26 06:51 PM |
| 5 | Women here keep doubting (or feigning ignorance) about the acceptability of virulent misandry in mainstream feminism, so here's a feminist YouTuber/Substacker/Podcaster who advocates forced vasectomies for young boysThe government can't forcibly impregnate women, because the government doesn't have a penis, but governments can and do make child marriage legal (it is in the U.S.) make marital rape legal, and prevent women from holding jobs through which they can support themselves without getting married. That said, I guess forcing boys to have their tubes tied is more parallel to forcing girls to give birth, which does happen happen in the U.S.; since both men and women can be raped, the hypothetical mass r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/26 06:09 PM |
| 7 | Women here keep doubting (or feigning ignorance) about the acceptability of virulent misandry in mainstream feminism, so here's a feminist YouTuber/Substacker/Podcaster who advocates forced vasectomies for young boysI think you might have just r/AteTheOnion on this one. Happens to the best of us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/26 05:36 PM |
| 13 | Women here keep doubting (or feigning ignorance) about the acceptability of virulent misandry in mainstream feminism, so here's a feminist YouTuber/Substacker/Podcaster who advocates forced vasectomies for young boysRight, that would be similar in some ways and different in others. Would "A Modest Proposal" mean the same thing if it were written in Irish and proposed that Anglo landlords and lawmakers sell their babies to the Irish poor? Of course not, namely because what the Irish poor thought the Anglo upper-class should do with their children was completely irrelevant to the real world, other than, I guess, Anglos getting their hands on it and feeling hurt. It's a satire about the relative positions of p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/26 05:13 PM |
| 6 | If you need to build or raise her interest she doesn’t like youAgree, completely, but also if she doesn't KNOW you she's not going to like you. So, like, fancy dinners or gifts or "princess treatment" aren't going to make her like you--nothing is going to MAKE her like you--but going on a few dates with her and showing her what a person might potentially like about you is going to help her decide if she likes you or not. If she's only willing to get to know you over a $50 meal, maybe YOU don't like HER. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/26 04:33 PM |
| 15 | Women here keep doubting (or feigning ignorance) about the acceptability of virulent misandry in mainstream feminism, so here's a feminist YouTuber/Substacker/Podcaster who advocates forced vasectomies for young boysMan this is a SATIRICAL video. The point of the video is that women's reproductive autonomy and ability to have or not have children is constantly being legislated and re-legislated, and what if we talked about men's reproductive organs and reproductive autonomy that way? Like, the irony of saying "Has men's freedom gone too far?" is that, like, by what mechanism would forcing young men to get their tubes tied possibly occur? The people in charge of laws and government policy are overwhelmingly … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/26 04:26 PM |
| – | What would happen If science someday proved or suggested that housewives were healthier and lived longer than women who go to work and are finantially independent?Even if I were healthier, I wouldn't be HAPPIER. It's not psychologically pleasant to have your entire life dependent on the whims of one person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/26 01:49 AM |
| 1 | It's your fault if you can't find someone by "following the script"This is dumb. Most people date and get married because they want someone to hang out and have sex with. What else can you be guided with besides lust or "that spark?" Most people who can't find romance are those who are a) not fun for most people to hang out with, b) not sexually attractive to most people, or c) do not have much access to single people of the opposite sex (or not, if they're gay) wherein they can prove that they are fun to hang out with and sexually attractive. Being financially… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/26 05:50 PM |
| 6 | Question for blue pill: how come it's not considered "rape culture" when people complain that manosphere people have "issues" because they can't get laid?One of many things that can kill babies but not adults | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/26 06:03 PM |
| 4 | Hiw many first Dates do you think a avarage men has?none at ALL. I would have bias if he said he'd never had a gf, but not if he hadn't had a certain amount of dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/26 05:24 PM |
| 4 | Hiw many first Dates do you think a avarage men has?I have no idea. I'm a pretty nice-looking woman, and I haven't been on a date in at least a year. I imagine this depends first and foremost on how many women a guy is friends with, then charming and good-looking he is, then how much he chooses to ask out women and which women he chooses to ask out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/26 05:22 PM |
| 1 | How will we convince the next generation to have kids, even though almost none of us want to have any?That's not a catastrophe, man. Nobody will die if Japan and Poland have 20% more immigrants in the year 2060. The Japanese and Polish will not perish from the earth. They'll just have to...see more immigrants? A catastrophe would be ecological collapse and mass death. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 09:13 PM |
| 0 | How will we convince the next generation to have kids, even though almost none of us want to have any?There's nothing to suggest that rich countries will face societal and economic collapse if they start having fewer babies. That's never happened. The opposite has happened, actually, in China etc. I'm not saying there will be no dampening effect on economies, though again this has never happened, but nobody's going to stop splitting atoms or whatever, and it's certainly not comparable to the dampening effect of farmland turning to desert, fish populations being decimated, etc. I don't see what p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 05:32 PM |
| 7 | How will we convince the next generation to have kids, even though almost none of us want to have any?This is my pretty controversial take: We don't. The earth cannot support an infinite number of humans. Yes, it sucks that birthrate declines will make it hard to support the elderly, but this is really the ideal scenario: until very recently, the only stabilizing force on human populations, when they bumped up against limited resources, was starvation and death. We've made many scientific and technological advances--the cultivation of the potato and the Haber–Bosch process come to mind--that hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Women, why do you protect criminals so much?Every religion in the world says that killing is wrong, and that mercy, humility, and forgiveness are virtues. That's the logic for some. For others, it's the fact that wrongful convictions are pretty common, and they reason that though some people may deserve to die, a government that cannot reliably determine who those people are shouldn't have the power to kill them. What's your logic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 09:50 PM |
| 0 | I don’t agree with any of the pills but blue pill advice is far worse than red pillWhat blue pill advice? The "blue pill" is just people who aren't part of the niche online subculture TRP. The makers of Hollywood romcoms are blue pill, yes, but so are Mormon fundamentalists and lesbian separatists and the Amish and the president of the United States, and I can tell you they would all give you pretty different dating advice. I'm blue pill, but I don't think that self improvement and getting sexy and cool is like...bad advice. I think it's great advice. That said, I think TRP al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 07:26 PM |
| – | Some men never have a triumph arcI was also severely underweight at one point, and I can tell you that the gym cannot increase your biomass. The only thing that can increase your biomass is...biomass, from animals and plants, and a lot of it. If you're already underweight, exercise will actually make you smaller and LESS muscular, because your body just has access to even fewer calories. So it just kind of...eats itself. What worked for me was to drink more calorically dense beverages with meals (like juice) and increase my car… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 10:58 PM |
| 0 | Real relationships cannot replace escorting.I don't think there's anything morally wrong with hiring an (independent, non-coerced) escort. Seems perfectly neutral to me, and also categorically none of my business. I do think that men who believe that hiring an escort is of some benefit to some people are also obligated to treat escorts with respect, even though it's considered a "dirty job" by many, for the same reason that people who hire housecleaners and benefit from garbage collectors owe them respect, rather than more stigma. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/26 03:43 PM |
| 0 | Dating for Women is Not Like Looking for Clean Water in a Swamp; Rather, it is Like Looking for Healthy Food in a Grocery StoreWe know why "Junk foods" like cookies and chips are pleasurable (they are very calorically dense and have lots of sugar and sodium) and we know why eating too many of those things is bad (eating too many calories, sugar, and sodium causes health problems). There is absolutely no evidence that the things that make a man pleasurable to date/sleep with--good looks, cool personality, good tongue coordination--make them a bad or unhealthy partner. Facial symmetry doesn't cause domestic abuse like sod… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/26 07:08 PM |
| 2 | This "treat me like a human" thing that women repeat is something men could say too.And they should! It's good to treat everyone as individuals with interiority and dignity. It's not like grievances can only belong to either men or women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 04:06 PM |
| 24 | As a man, Why am I not allowed to argue with women?I have never told someone say that men shouldn't argue with women, and I have only ever heard "never argue with a woman" from sexist men. It seems like you are hearing it from sexist women. Either way, it's wrong. That said--and I don't know if this is relevant to your situation--little girls are taught that it is very rude to shout, curse, glare, and scowl at people, while little boys tend to be given more leeway in terms of physical expressions of anger. Women thus tend to find it more rude wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 07:34 PM |
| 3 | For those of you who complain about men who complain about not getting sex in relationships, saying that they should just seek hookups instead, would you be fine with those men complaining about their lack of access to hookups? If not, what is the right way for a man to complain about a lack of sex?Everybody has the right to complain. Men can complain about not having enough sex in relationships or hookups, women can complain about men complaining, and men can complain about women complaining about men complaining (as you are doing here.) I am personally offended by complaining that implies that I am naturally inferior to men, should obey men, and should be held to different standards than men. I am not offended by your complaint, but I do have a minor complaint about it. So. What is the c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 07:18 PM |
| – | Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you?Nothing wrong with the term. I like how you draw the parallel between "dancing monkey" and "piece of meat." Sometimes you really do feel like you are degrading yourself by performing something stupid for someone way more powerful than yourself. That said, sometimes people say that certain useful and effective dating strategies are ALWAYS dancing monkey strategies, like, say, reading up on the interests of someone you like or being polite, friendly, and engaged or doing a hobby or whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/26 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man.I don't think it's the ONLY way. Certainly some women settle for relationships with men they find less physically attractive, maybe even a large portion of women, but not MOST women. I would have hooked up with my long-term (now-ex) boyfriend in a heartbeat, if I wasn't afraid that doing so would make him not want to date me. The same is true of my bestie, who wanted to hook up with her husband but didn't for the same reason. Women are told over and over, from a very young age, that if you make … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 03:30 PM |
| 0 | What would you change about online dating?How is it possible that you still aren't happy with the current dating app landscape? Didn't you basically create it? We didn't create it. Men created it. Most dating apps were created by men (bumble being the exception). And most women are not happy with these apps, as evidenced by the fact that fewer of us use them. In my opinion, dating apps, which were designed by and used mostly by men, are fundamentally less compatible with the (significantly less visual) way women/anyone with less testost… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 12:57 AM |
| – | What are some hobbies that are an immediate turn-off for you and where do you draw the line between a hobby being acceptable or unattractive?Keeping pet tarantulas. I don't think it reflects badly on a person, but I am personally incapable of experiencing arousal in the presence of a big spider. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 06:32 PM |
| 2 | Do you genuinely expect your partner to lay down their life for you if push came to shove?I would have laid down my life for my partner when I was in a committed, loving, years-long relationship. I would also lay down my life for my parents or my sister. That said, I wouldn't want my partner to give me the only space on the Titanic raft, obviously, since...why do *I* get it? I'd flip a coin or something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Regarding Cold Approaches, location doesn’t matter much tbh.I think it's less about location as such and more about whether or not you are making a nuisance of yourself. In any context--romantic, professional, friendly--if your first impression on someone involves interrupting or preventing them from doing something they want to do, it is less likely to be successful. If I am at the gym and I'm listening to my audiobook and running on the elliptical, and someone (even a friend) tries to talk to me, that interaction is colored by my annoyance. However, if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/25 08:00 PM |
| 1 | The "men aren't really natural protecters" is just a lame gotcha argument."And also she is ignoring the fact that every time a woman is in danger. And men are around. Men usually step up." This has never, once, happened to me. I have never been protected by a man. I have never seen this happen, nor have I ever heard of this happening, nor have I ever expected it to happen. If I am afraid for my safety, I usually look to see if there are women around, not men. Which, by the way, does not happen in response to "mentally ill people on the trains," because I live in a pla… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 06:28 PM |
| 7 | On gender issues, progressives have already won. Staying in fight mode is now counterproductiveAside from abortion, there is no broad-based push to undo feminism’s core victories. Well, but many feminists, including myself, consider early term abortion access an important cornerstone of women's equality. In my mind, women and girls being forced to give birth, especially in cases of rape, severe damage to the health of the mother, and fetal inviability, is a violation of women's rights. Now, I recognize that some people have religious beliefs that involve not interfering with reproduction … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 06:38 PM |
| – | Current dating is unfair for men because of woman have rid themselves of the responsibility that comes with the privileges they have, while men still have to still take on the responsibilities of theirsThis is ahistorical. First, until very recently, the "female gender role" had a consistently large casualty rate due to the dangers of childbearing. Women risked their lives every time they had children. It was not physically safer than the "male gender role." Also, "being sexually selective of men" was never a traditional gender role. In societies where women are allowed less agency overall, they are also allowed less agency over their spouses. Additionally, in most pre-industrial societies, a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 07:34 PM |
| -2 | You cannot fix problems which do not exist.That just isn't true. The pay gap is smallest for people under the age of 30, but it still exists--in men's favor--in the United States. https://www.forbes.com/advisor/business/average-salary-by-age/ https://www.eeoc.gov/federal-sector/reports/impact-age-gender-pay-gap-federal-sector | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:19 AM |
| 6 | You cannot fix problems which do not exist.The first links are to the study you already linked, which explicitly says that in only a small number of places do women under 30 out-earn men. The only other linked article--the last link--is to an article entitled "Gender pay gap in U.S. has narrowed slightly over 2 decades," which doesn't say anything about the UK at all. I mean this respectfully and in good faith: all of the hard data, collected by the government, shows that women of all ages in the United States make less money than men do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:11 AM |
| 6 | You cannot fix problems which do not exist.Well, so your first source says that, in a very small number of places, young women are out-earning men. In the vast majority of places, young men out earn young women. They did not analyze the data by job position. (I don't think AOL.com is a reliable source of data) Besides that, I don't think unlimited parental leave is good or feasible either. But if your (or the op-ed in your OP's) argument is "men make more money because in heterosexual relationships women are the ones who CHOOSE to stay h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 11:17 PM |
| 5 | You cannot fix problems which do not exist.Well, I agree. Nobody should be citing data from 2004 when more recent data is available. The reality is that for women between 20-30, they out earn men in the same fields That's not the case in the US, at least: https://www.forbes.com/advisor/business/average-salary-by-age/ https://www.eeoc.gov/federal-sector/reports/impact-age-gender-pay-gap-federal-sector As for parental leave: so should nobody get parental leave? I don't think so. I think it is in our interest that people are able to have ch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 10:55 PM |
| 16 | You cannot fix problems which do not exist.I don't think they are. I think most articles about the pay gap cite the current data, which is publicly available and easy to find, and which shows that women are paid less for the same work in the same positions. Besides that, the opinion piece you linked talked about women taking more leave to raise children, and thus having less experience and being paid less. This is a perfect example of systemic sexism: when paternity leave is not offered or is insufficient, the female parent must be the o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 10:07 PM |
| 17 | You cannot fix problems which do not exist.The statistics for average pay per job by gender are tracked every year by the governments of most countries. In the US, that data is public. You can find it on the website of the US Bureau of Labor Statistics: https://www.bls.gov/opub/ted/2024/womens-earnings-were-83-6-percent-of-mens-in-2023.htm Nobody has to rely on blog posts or anything from 2004 for this kind of information. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 09:29 PM |
| – | The stats on growing ideological divide between men and women shows men's ideals have relatively remained the same yet women are increasingly becoming radical, yet all the discussion is about "young men being radicalized"... exposes a clear agenda pushed by societyNobody likes to be under somebody's thumb. Nobody likes to be treated as a subordinate, an object, or an idiot, or to have to work for free. Everybody likes to be respected and treated fairly and equally. That's the "agenda." You seem to have the very common attitude that you should have servants who you can make do what you want and who will obey you and work for free, which, wouldn't that be nice. But it is incompatible with other people's wishes and freedoms. Sorry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 08:42 PM |
| -2 | Why don’t women like passport bros?I think gender equality is good. Passport bros tend to think it is bad. I think equality (like honesty, fidelity, and flexibility) in relationships is good. Passport bros tend to think it is bad. I disagree with passport bros, just like I disagree with conservative catholics or NRA members. They have foundational beliefs that I do not believe in. I don't "hate" any of them, but I think they are wrong, and will say so on internet debate forums. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 06:21 PM |
| 1 | What's the Blue Pill? And what's give you the feeling you are right?No! Redpillers point to women being naturally hypergamous as the root cause of dating app woes. I think that the problem is that dating apps are constructed according to how men feel attraction (very visual and immediate) and are taught to view relationships (a girlfriend being seen as, on the whole, preferable to no girlfriend, regardless of personality). This results in men way outnumbering women on dating apps, which in turn results in the women who ARE on dating apps a) "owning the market"/h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/25 08:40 PM |
| 5 | If a guy friend had a crush on you, but you rejected him but wanted to stay friends with him; but later you got a new bf, would you be considerate of your friends feelings?I am bisexual. I am attracted to most of my friends. I've confessed feelings and been rejected, painfully. I have a crush on one of them right now. This kind of thing is unavoidable if you are going to have friendships with the gender to whom you are attracted, which for me is everyone. That said, I would feel even more hurt and totally humiliated if my friend started treating me differently, hid their partner from me, didn't introduce us, or factored my feefees into their decision as to whether… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 07:38 PM |
| 24 | What's the Blue Pill? And what's give you the feeling you are right?The blue pill is just kind of a jokey term for not believing in the red pill. Like, you know, if the red pill is "average women can't and don't love average guys, even if they marry them," I'll take the other pill. So, the moment I realized I was "blue pill" was when I realized the red pill was wrong. Which was pretty soon after I encountered it. TRP makes a lot of claims about women's internal thoughts and motivations that, being a woman who regularly talks to other women about their internal t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 05:23 PM |
| – | Women's "being seen as a body" problem is NOT about men's behaviour.You mean the fake illness where the uterus supposedly causes women to be "crazy"? Come on, man. That's just sexist. And needlessly hostile to a person making a reasonable point in a neutral way. "Do YoU HaVE StuPID WOmaN DisEASE?" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 08:57 PM |
| 60 | Women don't respect or desire actual freedom outside the domain of "sexual liberation".Sorry, you think "the most hierarchical, rule saturated, permission seeking occupations humanity has ever engineered, jobs whose very structure is designed to pulverize individual agency into a fine, obedient paste." are "HR, marketing, nonprofit management, academic administration"? Nonprofit management? Academic administration? Not, say, the army? The police? The clergy? The jobs you mentioned are among the LEAST strict and hierarchical jobs. They don't have uniforms. They don't have strict hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 01:21 AM |
| 9 | What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences?Every boss I've ever had is a man, even in industries where the average lay employee is female. The CEOs of every company I've ever worked for have been men. Every school principal and college dean I've ever had has been a man. My representatives in government are all men. The police who enforce the laws made by those representatives are mostly men too. Men decide where I can go and what I can do most of the time. Men control the vast majority of money and resources in my country and worldwide. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/25 08:27 PM |
| 4 | Do you think its possible for a man to significantly improve the percentage of women he tries that will have a relationship or have sex with him aside from changing what women he tries?Certainly. There is basically no shortage of things a person can do to make themselves look better, if they have infinite time and money: braces, tooth whitening, hair plugs, hair dying, tanning booths, intense exercise, plastic surgery etc, but of course most people don't have infinite time and money (and many of those things are bad for you.) It's a balance. Most guys I've met could significantly improve their chances if they invest in dressing well (meaning stylishly, appropriately, and authe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/25 08:10 PM |
| -1 | Why demand emotional numbness from men and then complain when we go cold?Well, you know what all those women who are criticizing men are doing? Expressing THEIR emotions. Now, you might not think their emotions are nice or appropriate. They might not be. Because the very fact that someone is expressing emotions doesn't make those emotions, or the way they're expressed, above criticism or even conversation. Personally, sometimes I feel like there is a double standard where men's emotions are supposed to be treated with more delicacy and reverence than women's emotions… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 06:06 PM |
| 5 | FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narrativesSure. But being a sex worker is already way more stigmatized than being a client of a sex worker. So much so that sex workers are denied the basic rights and protections granted to other workers, their jobs are incredibly dangerous, and they are often exploited and underpaid. In fact, most clients of sex workers and consumers of sex work themselves believe that sex workers are "below them" simply by right of doing the very service they appreciate and pay for. So, by the way, do the vast majority… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 03:28 PM |
| – | if you plan on becoming mothers at some point do you intend on making sure you only give birth to girls?Well, I do not personally believe that boys do or will have a much tougher time than girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/25 07:25 PM |
| – | if you plan on becoming mothers at some point do you intend on making sure you only give birth to girls?No? I'm explaining why I would have children. The point of "people who are miserable at one point in their life can be happy and successful later" has been proven by MY life already--that's why I believe it. That's why I want to have children, even if that means they will suffer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/25 07:17 PM |
| – | if you plan on becoming mothers at some point do you intend on making sure you only give birth to girls?No. There is always a chance one's child will be miserable. If I have a daughter, she is more likely to be raped or abused. If I have a son, he is more likely to become addicted, commit suicide, or be imprisoned. Or suffer mentally the way many of the men on this sub seem to be suffering. I will still love him or her. I've been extremely miserable in my life too, and I am still glad to have been born. I was an anorexic adolescent and a suicidal alcoholic as a young adult. I thought that I could … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/25 07:08 PM |
| 11 | How polarized you are in gender wars? How often do you support "male side" in arguments?Well, but that wasn't my chosen example at all. My example was the argument, which I have seen, that the time (which is money) and money that women spend conforming to gender roles in order to appeal to their partner when dating (shaving, waxing, makeup, highlights, blowouts, manicures and pedicures) is roughly equivalent to the money men spend conforming to gender roles in order to appeal to their partner when dating (paying for the dates). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Men being the ones to initiate is not a failure of feminismI shave my armpits and legs. That is a gender role I perform (men don't have to do it!) because otherwise my chances of finding a partner would be less good. Do I think that it's fair for men to expect me to do something just because of my gender? Of course not! Do I think it is hypocritical for men to prefer dating women with shaved legs and armpits AND YET still object to the draft? No. That would be silly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 08:03 PM |
| 30 | How polarized you are in gender wars? How often do you support "male side" in arguments?All the time. My go-to IRL response to women friends wanting men to pay for dates on principle or things like that is "Well, I don't want us to be doing things just because of gender," to which they usually will agree that, yeah, that's fair. I openly disagree with women and feminists on this sub all the time. Feminism is huge--it's just the movement for women's equality, which means that lots of people will have ideas on how to reach that goal that lots of other people think are terrible. That … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Men being the ones to initiate is not a failure of feminismI mean, I think it is good to challenge gender roles, because it sets a precedent that makes it easier for other people to do the same. Personally, I ask out all people I am genuinely interested in, compatible with, and think I have a chance with. I never think "this guy would be a good match, but HE has to ask me out because he's the man." I think everyone should do it like this. Now, lots of men choose to play a "numbers game," going on dating apps where men are hugely overrepresented and aski… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 07:06 PM |
| – | What particular thing do you think would make the dating world a lot easier if men understood better?Little girls are raised with the notion that it is very rude to try to "win" or "dominate" conversations or interactions, to be "bossy," to fail to "know their place," to smell bad, look "unkempt," make others feel awkward in conversation, and brag. Little boys are not taught these rules of etiquette as stringently--at least for themselves. This causes many men who consider themselves to be polite to actually come off as rude to women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 11:22 PM |
| – | Women's repulsion of weakness, while more subtle, is as "shitty" as men's objectifying tendencies.I feel like the logical conclusion of "it is bad when I think too many sexual thoughts about women" is usually arrived at by A) having empathy and a moral compass and B) overlooking power as a factor. There's this idea that the very notion of men being systemically favored in positions of authority is something that induces guilt in boys and men, but IMO the opposite is true. Like, I read the book that this quote is from: The Robber Bride by Margaret Atwood. The issue with male fantasies she, or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 09:32 PM |
| 7 | Women's repulsion of weakness, while more subtle, is as "shitty" as men's objectifying tendencies.Never in my life have I sexually harassed or manipulated a woman but sometimes I feel bad for the whole objectification stuff and I reflect about it, myself, my own desires can feel melancholic with that in mind, and having to learn how to be in peace despite that is... a thing. I mean...I don't think that having sexual thoughts in their own heads is something men need to feel bad about at all. It's fine. If you're "objectifying" someone in your own brain, and not actually treating them as an ob… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 01:14 AM |
| – | Why so many men suddenly became undesirable?Dating apps. It's hard for a lot of women to desire men they can't hear, smell, or interact with. Most men aren't desirable to most women as just a still image and a couple of words, so women aren't as motivated by animal lust to go after them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/25 07:12 PM |
| 11 | Andrew Wilson's Force Doctrine: Men have a monopoly on force. Thus, the patriarchy will always exist, because women must ALWAYS appeal to men for their rights.Safe surrender laws apply to both genders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/25 04:34 AM |
| 15 | Andrew Wilson's Force Doctrine: Men have a monopoly on force. Thus, the patriarchy will always exist, because women must ALWAYS appeal to men for their rights.It doesn't TAKE good will not to murder rape and enslave people or threaten them with violence. No good will necessary. It takes an absence of moral evil, which can be expected of everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/25 04:01 AM |
| 8 | Andrew Wilson's Force Doctrine: Men have a monopoly on force. Thus, the patriarchy will always exist, because women must ALWAYS appeal to men for their rights.Right. Just like if he refuses to pay taxes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/25 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Andrew Wilson's Force Doctrine: Men have a monopoly on force. Thus, the patriarchy will always exist, because women must ALWAYS appeal to men for their rights.Right, because a population being physically smaller on average, in our modern era, doesn't put them at much of a disadvantage if they have equal access to political and financial power. Which women don't. Because of systemic sexism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/25 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Andrew Wilson's Force Doctrine: Men have a monopoly on force. Thus, the patriarchy will always exist, because women must ALWAYS appeal to men for their rights.That's why the Chinese are dependent on Russia for the enforcement of their rights. Russians are bigger! Oh, what's that? Guns? Bombs? Money? What are those? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/25 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Would you date a bi man?Yes, yes, yes. I don't see how having had sex with a man in the past (or touched a penis, or thought about penises, or whatever) could possibly impact someone's attractiveness now. What, is he contaminated? Is there some kind of gay residue? Please. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 10:39 PM |
| 5 | why do so many men look down on sex workers (escorts, prostitutes, onlyfans model, sugarbabies etc ) but at the same time also consume their services/content?For the same reason many people eat burgers but look down on the people who make them, rely on garbage collection but mock garbage collectors, get pedicures but have contempt for pedicurists, eat at restaurants but are rude to waiters. They want to live in a world with burgers, clean streets, pedicures, and waitstaff, but they don't think that makes the people who provide those things are worthy of respect. In fact, they believe that the people who give them the services they use and enjoy are b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 10:09 PM |
| 1 | You wouldn’t be so confident if you were your brotherMy cousin looks just like me. Like me, he's short (we are both 2 inches below average), has a fairly nice face (it's the same face, pretty much), is good at talking and has a sense of style but is poor, unambitious, and anxious. We have similar personalities, backgrounds, skills, and flaws. And his love life is great. He has a wonderful gf who loves him to death. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 09:57 PM |
| – | The only way to successfully flirt is to be physically attractiveThis is how I would explain it, if you want to know. Flirting itself (that is, subtly indicating interest in someone so as to maintain plausible deniability and avoid awkwardness if they aren't interested OR if they haven't decided whether they are interested yet and need more time) is one of those skills that can't really be mastered by following a series of instructions, like drawing a circle, aiming a gun, flipping a pancake, or getting children to respect you. But there ARE workarounds that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 09:25 PM |
| – | Help me understand the "not girlfriend material" phenomenonhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madonna–whore_complex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 06:43 PM |
| 3 | You’re not him; play the long game or be aloneI guess hanging out with young single women does mean that a guy has nothing better to do with his time. Who would find hanging out with young women enjoyable? This is why the demand for girlfriends is so low btw. A woman you hang out with? No thanks! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 06:41 PM |
| 15 | For men, it isn't truly about sex.In my early 20s, I felt exactly the same way about having friends. I’d become an alcoholic in late high school, which is a disorder that makes a person unreliable, unpleasant, and in my case, agoraphobic, so I lost all my friends and couldn’t make more. Movies, TV shows, social media, and regular conversations have it that women without friends are pathological; that there is something seriously and irreparably wrong with them; that they simply cannot and should not exist. I felt tortured by thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/25 08:53 PM |
| 1 | The idea that older men dating younger women are losers - is a woman's revenge fantasy."Loser" is not an objective diagnosis. Different people find different things lame and uncool. Like many women, I find it lame and uncool when a person is constantly socializing with or dating people way younger than them, or is always the "big fish in a small pond" because that seems like arrested development. You might find it cool and not lame at all because to you it indicates having outcompeted other men. Fine. In fact, I bet we disagree about the lameness or coolness of at least one other … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/25 08:17 PM |
| 8 | Women lie on men all the time and nothing happens to themThe system is flawed, cops are all different and have varying levels of biases, some people can afford good lawyers and some can't, etc. Some people police departments consider important enough to expedite their rape kits, others are not considered important enough to even test theirs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/25 07:51 PM |
| 17 | Women lie on men all the time and nothing happens to themThis is true. It's also true that men rape women all the time and lie about THAT, and nothing happens to them. I know several women who have been violently raped who did not report the crime because they couldn't afford the time, resources and legal defense to be believed. Usually the person with the more money, power, and influence gets away with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/25 07:10 PM |
| 6 | Other than the obvious "sex" aspect, why do men hit on you / approach you trying to get to know you?In high school and into my early 20s I had a bf who was better looking and more popular than me. He started liking me after I made a couple jokes that really tickled him. He told me later it was my sense of humor, fearlessness (I didn’t really believe I could die until I turned 25) and patience that made him like me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 04:03 AM |
| 22 | I'm questioning something I learned from the red pill. It's about red flags.My sister. She’s a lesbian. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 11:56 PM |
| 0 | Women Keep Changing the Meaning of Psychology Terms to Avoid Self-ReflectionTextbook goomba fallacy from Mr. Logic over here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 09:52 PM |
| 21 | Women Keep Changing the Meaning of Psychology Terms to Avoid Self-ReflectionRespectfully, "saying things that aren't true (by your estimation)" is not what gaslighting means either. That is incorrect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 09:28 PM |
| 10 | Women Keep Changing the Meaning of Psychology Terms to Avoid Self-ReflectionI agree the pop psychology saturation in our culture is dissolving common sense, logic, and social relationships. People love to diagnose each other with Bad Person Disorder (a scientific, permanent, and objective disease!). That said, this isn't just something women do. I mean, hell, I've seen more talk about (and misuse of) "gaslighting" from men than from women. And both men and women have been redefining "abuse" to mean any instance of interpersonal meanness. "Nagging" is abuse. Cheating is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 09:19 PM |
| 1 | What do you want to do about women's sexualization in media?Nothing wrong with sexy women in movies or video games, or with men finding them sexy. Also nothing wrong with observing that men way outnumber women in positions of power in media (directors, producers, etc), so what men find sexy tends to be over represented in media, which is less fun for female audiences. This doesn’t mean that, like, it’s a huge deal and the source of women’s oppression, OR that individual dudes watching television are responsible or to blame or are being blamed, unless tho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 07:19 PM |
| 7 | Bisexuality should be considered a privilege rather than a handicapRight. Bisexuality is great except for the homophobia. Bisexuals certainly don’t think their sexuality is a “handicap,” they just don’t like that people discriminate against them. And they do, even in liberal countries. Bisexual men are often subjected to the same stereotypes as gay men (oversexed, overly libidinous, having STDs, not masculine etc) by both (homophobic) straight men, who find them icky, and (homophobic) straight women, who also find them icky. Where I am, it’s easier to be a bi w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 11:50 PM |
| 6 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Agree 👍 other people use “objectification” wrong too. OP is providing a completely false definition of objectification, so he’s definitely got it wrong. OP said “when a man feels a “sense of ownership” over his partner, he simply doesn’t want them to cheat on him. I’m saying, if that’s the case, why describe not wanting your partner to cheat as “ownership?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 10:05 PM |
| 10 | Why are you blue piller?The Blue Pill is just a jokey term for not being into TRP. Like, if we have to choose the red pill or the blue pill, and the red pill is “women don’t really love men below an 8 even if they marry them” well, I’ll take the other one. Because I think the red pill is incorrect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:53 PM |
| 7 | People who obsess about men "objectifying women" or "feeling a sense of ownership" over them are overexaggerating things on a semantic level.Not what the word objectify means. Then why use the word “ownership” to describe not wanting your partner to cheat on you? I agree that obsessing over semantics is bad, but you can go too far in the other direction if you completely disregard what words mean. And IMO that’s what this post is doing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 09:40 PM |
| -7 | Men should embrace “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn”Yep. Women are people. You can’t own or control them. They are never “yours,” and there’s nothing wrong with that. If that’s what it means to be “cucked,” so is every man on earth, even the ones deluding themselves otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 10:38 PM |
| 0 | Feminists will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to justify why men should adhere to gender roles.No?? Please explain. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Feminists will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to justify why men should adhere to gender roles.In no way did I say that people who are dumb and hypocritical, including those who are in ragebait videos, are not feminists. In fact, I referred to them as feminists explicitly. IDK how you managed to read "you are being fed videos of dumb and hypocritical feminists" and think "this woman is telling me that feminists can't be dumb and hypocritical!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:00 AM |
| 27 | Feminists will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to justify why men should adhere to gender roles.Feminism is the century-long movement for women’s social and political equality. You are being fed videos of dumb and hypocritical feminists, like “She Only Wants EQUALITY When It BENEFITS Her?! (HEATED Debate)” because TikTok and YouTube have rage-engagement algorithms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 01:16 AM |
| 22 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenIMO little boys aren't taught manners as stringently as little girls, to their detriment. From table manners to personal hygiene to appropriate small talk, manners aren't just like...frivolous rules, they're guidelines on how to avoid making your presence unpleasant. They're especially useful for people who don't have a great intuitive sense of what the other person will find appropriate or inappropriate at any given time. How was I to know that bringing up sex on the first date wasn't what she … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:28 PM |
| 25 | Women should stop acting like a personality detectors and being morally superiorBy "detect" do you mean "hear?" Like, I broke it off with a dude recently because I "detected" (heard with my ears) him using a lot of TRP terminology and saying that he would never marry a woman who wanted to keep her own name/hyphenate names. I also "detected" (again with my ears) his friends referring to him slutshaming his ex. I therefore inferred that he was probably a little sexist. Sure, I can't smell misogyny on someone who is genuinely committed to keeping their views secret, but how of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:00 PM |
| 2 | The biggest critics/haters of women are other womenBoth men and women slutshame women. And they shouldn't! Personally, I've seen significantly more slutshaming from men (the women I know and see online have much less negative views on women who have lots of sex, sex workers, porn actresses, strippers, and bestie going to the club in a see-thru dress) but ik that might not be the same everywhere. There's a big difference between slutshaming and, like...all other criticism. Women are just regular people. Sometimes they are worthy of criticism. Cri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 06:19 PM |
| 12 | To both men and women: Tell me your requirements for a partnerJokes on you I like soyboys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 03:48 AM |
| 13 | To both men and women: Tell me your requirements for a partnerRequirements: physically attractive to me (nice face, thick arms, over 5'4) pleasurable to talk to for long periods of time. Not too awkward, not "strong and silent." funny and thinks I'm funny. Shared values (liberal politics, gender equality, NOT type A) Wants marriage and kids Sexually compatible (I'm kinky) Is interested in and knows about the things I'm interested in (movies, books, history, pop culture) no more than 5 years older or younger than me Preferences: Nice hair Bisexual (I'm bise… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 10:55 PM |
| 1 | What do women like about going out on a date?Hanging out with someone who is fun to talk to. If they're not fun to talk to, I don't like the date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 08:00 PM |
| 2 | What's your ideal world ?No "texting phase." I hate texting and I'm bad at it. Phone calls only. Everyone on earth has a very egalitarian mindset and does not expect gender roles. They all want me, specifically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 06:19 PM |
| – | The only one who is following patriarchy are women not men and it has devastating effects on datingThere are millions of people on the internet telling jokes about people of the opposite sex being ugly. TikTok is showing you the ugly men jokes because it wants to farm you for rage-engagement. TikTok shows me ugly women jokes (with millions of likes) because it wants to ragebait me. The expectation that men make more money is a double standard. Women who want their boyfriends to make more money than them are upholding gender roles and patriarchy. This is not the only way--or even the most impa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Is there less of a worry of the provider being exploited when it comes to femdom sex-work?Yep. This isn't a philosophical or theoretical question, really, it's a demographic one. And the truth is that professional dom(me)s are more likely to "own" and conduct their own business and decide personally which clients to take on, so any given professional femdom you encounter is less likely to be working for an exploitative third party than a non-femdom sex worker. Plus, femdoms get paid more on average, so their wages themselves are less exploitative. This doesn't mean that the nature of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 04:35 PM |
| 9 | If you became the opposite gender, what would you want to look like, what sort of life career and relationships would you pursue?Lol no not at all. My 10/10 guy is Ryan Gosling. But I figure that even if a minority of people are into The Mountain, that number is greater than the number of people who look like The Mountain, so my odds for sex (with both men and women) would still be pretty good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 03:51 AM |
| 1 | How likely would a man with these standards be to find a partner?He can definitely find someone educated, career ambitions, progressive and non-religious, tall, and non-traditional in terms of gender roles if he lives in a progressive enough area. I know a lot of women who fit these criteria, but the majority of them want families and most prefer to date someone closer to their age, so I think if the no kids thing is important to him, he might have to sacrifice age or height. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 03:47 AM |
| 6 | If you became the opposite gender, what would you want to look like, what sort of life career and relationships would you pursue?ENORMOUS. Like The Mountain. 6'9 and 450 pounds. I don't need to be super hot; I want to be able to do anything with my body and experience life where the majority of people are not able to physically harm me even if they want to. Same as my career now. I'd do my strongman stuff on the side. I would have a lot more casual sex, probably, because people would think I was super cool for having it and because I wouldn't have to worry about violence (nobody can do shit to me because I am The Mountain… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 03:34 AM |
| 2 | Most Low Status men (ugly, autistic, short,etc..) rejected by society and by women become alcoholics (some hide it well, others not so muhc) and create problems for everyone else involved. And it seems that no one wants to adress this issue. It's society's fault this is a systematic issue, CMVWell, but my objection is that OP's doing that by saying things that simply are not factually true. It isn't true that most low status (unattractive, short, autistic) men become alcoholics. Nor is it true that most alcoholics are unattractive, short, or autistic. In fact, there is no significant or meaningful correlation between low status as OP defines it and alcoholism.* If being an uncool, unhot straight guy that fewer women want was a significant driver of alcoholism, such a thing would be r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 02:59 AM |
| – | The Mizkif situation proves why non verbal consent is BS.Wholeheartedly agree. My friend recently had a guy tell her it “threw him off” when she said “can I kiss you?” And broke it off with her presumably at least in part for that reason. Everyone wants to live in a world full of mind readers, but we don’t, and people need to take responsibility for checking for consent AND for not being, like, so porn/erotica-brained that they think checking for consent is awkward by definition.* Creating a culture where “consent is sexy” was a big goal of feminism i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 11:51 PM |
| – | Some men never have a sexual primeShe didn't make that comparison, though. She made the comparison between SEX and reading a book (and swimming in the ocean etc). And yes, I absolutely think that was in good faith, because I don't think sex is the greatest pleasure the world has to offer either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 09:38 PM |
| – | Some men never have a sexual primeThis is a debate sub. Responding to an opinion, like “sex is the greatest pleasure of the world has to offer,” with a counter argument, like “sex is not the best pleasure the world has to offer” isn’t kicking someone when they’re down. It’s debate. This commenter isn’t even being mean. “Geez!” Is not a sadistic or nasty thing to say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Maybe you are the Fox?Okay 👍 Foxes can’t get grapes. Grapes can’t get foxes. Maybe this is because foxes and grapes aren’t socializing together enough and are instead spending their time in gender-segregated online bubbles that feed them algorithmic ragebait about either grapes or foxes, respectively. Hopefully they can realize that they are not so different nor in such different positions and work together to solve this problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 05:27 PM |
| 8 | Women seem to date above their league. Does it typically workout for them?Wym? I’m saying that status ISNT the only reason people reject each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Would u be able to date an attractive women if u were a Male??5’7, 15% richer (in my country women only make 15% less than men). I have pretty good social skills. I would date me. This describes practically all my male first cousins around my age, 2/4 of whom have gfs, so I think my chances would be decent. Plus literally 100% of the trans guys I know have hot gfs, and those mfs are short, so I think having full knowledge of my past (including my knowledge of how to socialize with women) would be a huge advantage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 07:28 PM |
| 4 | Most Low Status men (ugly, autistic, short,etc..) rejected by society and by women become alcoholics (some hide it well, others not so muhc) and create problems for everyone else involved. And it seems that no one wants to adress this issue. It's society's fault this is a systematic issue, CMVI’m am an alcoholic (now sober 5 years). I go to AA regularly and hang out with other alcoholics. I can tell you that the average height of alcoholics in my area is not shorter than the average height of non-alcoholics. Nor is the population of alcoholics where I live significantly more socially awkward. Alcoholism is terrible for your health, so most recently-sober alcoholics are less attractive than most non-alcoholics, but after about 3 years, this ceases to be the case entirely. A cursory lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 07:14 PM |
| 41 | Women seem to date above their league. Does it typically workout for them?It’s really hard to be in a relationship if NEITHER person has their own place. I have my own place now, and the last two guys I’ve dated lived at home, which was completely fine by me because they could just come here. It would be less fine by me if I was also living at home*, because then where would we hang out? I think it’s a common red pill misconception that the only reason someone would romantically reject another person is because they think that person is “below them” in some way, and w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 05:47 PM |
| 5 | Most women are too timid to find the right guy they'd actually love and respectI think you forgot about birds | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 11:09 PM |
| 4 | The DoorDash incident proves feminism rightI mean, I would say for the same reason you shouldn’t post revenge porn of someone who posted revenge porn of you. Like, I think you shouldn’t just post people’s naked bodies online on principle. I see where she might have been coming from, because you can’t actually see his genitals, but she should’ve censored it anyway IMO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 10:04 PM |
| 1 | The DoorDash incident proves feminism rightTo be clear I think he was flashing her deliberately. I don’t think most people DO fall asleep with their dicks out right in front of an open door in 59 degree weather some 20 minutes after hiring someone to come to said front door. Like, most people masturbating right in front of their front door in late October would close the door first. It’s cold out! The door is within his line of sight! Did enter his house, pull his pants waayy down, begin masturbating, see his neighbors houses and feel th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 09:55 PM |
| 8 | The DoorDash incident proves feminism rightIt is late October. It was 59 degrees outside where he was. He has no reason for the door to be wide open and his pants to be off directly in front of the door. This seems like intentional indecent exposure. Also, the video doesn’t show her going into his house, just filming from outside. She should not have posted a video of her (probable) flasher flashing her on TikTok, even though the video did not show his butt or genitals. This is because a) there is a chance he might be an alcoholic or an … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Sexual inclusivity and sex being a solution to sexlessness is not THAT big of a far-fetched idea.As a woman who has not done gangbangs specifically but is in the BDSM scene and has gone to sex clubs, I think that free love environments like BDSM clubs etc can be and are definitely healing to sexually stunted men. The club I go to requires an RSVP via fetlife and to see your ID, but they don’t turn people away based on appearance or gender ratio or whatever (for some events. Some are more exclusive). This means that strange and/or funny-looking and/or older people are often at events as well… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/25 03:50 PM |
| 0 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?I don’t know you, so I have no idea. Do you hang with women who have casual sex? Most casual sex women have is with people they already know and like. Do you go to events at dungeons/sex clubs? You can find them on fetlife, and in my experience they have people of every age, shape, and level of beauty. Or do you view the free love hippie sluts freaks and orgyists with contempt, and so don’t hang out with them? If so, fine, but no free love and orgies for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 07:01 AM |
| 0 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?TRP says that if a woman doesn’t have casual sex with you and instead wants to date you, she finds you less attractive. I don’t think that is true. Both men and women refrain from having casual sex really quickly in a relationship they want to become a long-term romance. Sex too soon can make things awkward and messy and way too high pressure and make the other person leave. Women are told that men won’t see them as “girlfriend material” if they put out right away. The same is often true of men.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:33 AM |
| 13 | Performative males are more attractive to women, at the expense of their own dignityThis whole “performative male” panic is reminding me of the “fake gamer girl” panic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 01:22 AM |
| 38 | Performative males are more attractive to women, at the expense of their own dignityIt's not one sided if she also accepts you getting fat, accepts your "body count," and fetches shit for you. It's not one-sided if she also dresses in a way intended to attract you, reads books that you like, and tries new things that you like. I have read at least 6 books, watched probably like 20 movies, gotten into Trappist beer, naval history, and sudoku because people I was interested in were interested in those things. I also look forward to getting old and fat with somebody. I don't think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 12:48 AM |
| 0 | Would you be more comfortable in a world where strict social and gender norms, roles, and hierarchies exist over a world where there’s more freedom from gender roles for all people?Right. And I’m saying that men choosing to do more “asking out, facing rejection, planning, pursuing constantly, leading the interaction” than women isn’t them being expected to perform the male gender role very strictly by women. It’s them choosing to do something that women DON’T want or expect, because it helps their chances of getting A Girlfriend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Would you be more comfortable in a world where strict social and gender norms, roles, and hierarchies exist over a world where there’s more freedom from gender roles for all people?"The man is expected to perform the male gender role very strictly (asking out, face rejection, planning, pursuing constantly, leading the interaction)." This just isn't true, at least where I live in the US. I mean, if I wanted to improve the chances that ANYONE would date me, I could also use my freedom to ask out strangers the street or people who haven't shown me clear interest. I could "constantly pursue" people with whom I have to initiate and take the lead on all interactions and plans. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?Consent is NECESSARY for ethical sex. You can't have ethical sex without consent. Is that what you mean by "paramount?" Because that doesn't mean that not being rape is SUFFICIENT to make something ethical, or that there are no other unethical ways to behave that aren't raping someone. Cheating is an example. Exploitation is another. If you pay a homeless man $40 to punch him in the face, or if you pay a migrant worker $2.00 an hour to work 14 hour shifts in a mine, or you pay prisoners to fight… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 07:40 PM |
| 6 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?Basic Bob should find a woman who he enjoys spending time with; who views him as an equal and who he views as an equal in return; who is kind to him, trusts him, and does not play power games; and then he should trust that woman. If she goes on to treat Bob poorly, the fault isn't with Bob, because human beings need to trust each other in order to love each other in the first place. It's not Bob's responsibility not to be betrayed or harmed. It's not his responsibility not to be mugged or murder… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 10:21 PM |
| 2 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?Off-topic question I’m genuinely curious about: I wanted to lose my virginity because of the stigma against not having sex with anyone. But isn’t paying a sex worker to take your virginity even more stigmatized? So why do it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 08:36 PM |
| 13 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?I don't think that the exchange of money automatically negates consent in and of itself. People consent to sex for lots of reasons--why should money be the only illegitimate one? If you and I had a conversation in which we agreed to have sex if you gave me money, we had sex, and you paid me the agreed-upon sum, there would be nothing ethically wrong with that whatsoever. I am a low-salary pink-collar office worker. For me, that sum would have to be $500,000. This is because being sexually penetr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 06:40 PM |
| 10 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?I gotta disagree with this. Rape is a violation of consent—if two people consent to have sex, it is not rape by definition. People choose to have sex for all kinds of reasons besides, like, animal lust. I’ve had sex that I didn’t want to have because I wanted to please my partner. The first time I had sex, it was scary, awkward, and unpleasant, but I chose to do so because I wanted to lose my virginity. Were those particularly healthy choices on my part? Maybe not. But they were my choices, and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 05:45 PM |
| 32 | Q4W: What lie that a man tells you to get into a relationship/into your pants, would be seen as the biggest betrayal?The biggest betrayal? “I’m not your cousin” “I’ve never murdered anyone” “I’m HIV-negative” “I’m not married.” I have an acquaintance who got engaged to a guy and then found that he was a pedophile—his laptop had child pornography on it—and had to call the FBI on him, so that would be a big one for me too. Idk how anything to do with “body count” could possibly be considered a bigger betrayal than these. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 04:09 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do you think most men are just not good enough/worthy of dating/marriage in the modern world?And female taxpayers fund the welfare of men? Hello?? In the US where I live, only 1.6% more women use welfare programs than men (source). This does not account for the massive amounts of taxpayer money spent on the policing, trying, and imprisoning of violent criminals, the vast majority of whom are male. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 11:47 PM |
| 2 | If you are someone who thinks it's bad that society objectifies women bodies. Then you should be consistent with this opinion in most contexts.I think you may have misunderstood some terminology. "Objectification" means treating someone like an object. An object is a thing, not a person with feelings, intentions, and agency. An object is also a part of a sentence: if I say "John hugged Jeremy," John is the subject, because he is doing things, and Jeremy is the object, because he is the person to whom things are done. If you objectify me, you are treating me not like a person who can sometimes have sex, but a thing itself to whom sex is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 09:15 PM |
| 5 | What hints do you give your partners that you wish they’d notice more over verbal communication?IK its a stereotype that men don't pick up on these nonverbal cues and women do, but in both of my long-term cohabiting relationships (one with a man and one with a woman) my partners were usually better than me at picking up on those kinds of things. My ex gf had the same complaint with me and the dishes. I didn't really have an equivalent. I have other good qualities, but I think she was just genuinely more conscientious than me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 03:42 AM |
| 35 | Most women aren’t good enough for relationships for most menOk 👍 Don’t date them then. If most women don’t meet your standards, and you think the juice ain’t worth the squeeze, that’s your decision to make. How lucky that you live in a time and place where you and I and everyone can make that choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 02:19 AM |
| 6 | what is ideal frequency of sex in a week or month? how do you want your man to love you beyond sex?Once a week Like a best friend, an equal, and a partner in crime | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 11:52 PM |
| 20 | Q4W: Do you think most men are just not good enough/worthy of dating/marriage in the modern world?It's not about "worthy." The fact that I do not attempt to befriend the majority of people doesn't mean I think they're not worthy of companionship. Likewise, the fact that I don't look for a romantic relationship with most men doesn't mean I think that most men aren't worthy of romantic relationships. Most people just aren't all that compatible with most people. Now, there are some people who lots of people want to befriend, and some people who nobody seems to want to befriend, and it's not bec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 11:30 PM |
| – | Why do so many women say their low sex drive in marriage was due to lack of emotional attunement & burden of household chores, yet immediately start enjoying CASUAL SEX after divorce with men they share no emotional connection or household chores with?Because their casual hookup isn’t shirking their responsibilities? It’s not that doing chores is a turn-ON, it’s that having to do somebody else’s dirty dishes, laundry, and share of cleaning and childcare is a turn-OFF. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 06:17 PM |
| 8 | Would you live friendless forever or without the chance to romantic relationships forever?B. I’m not aromantic/asexual. But I have lived both of these scenarios—there was I time when I had no friends but a loving partner, and I was pretty miserable. I was constantly terrified that she would break up with me, because I had nobody else. Even the good parts of the relationship became stressful. I now have friends but no partner am much happier, even though I am sometimes lonely and sexually frustrated. Edit: also, just having the chance of finding a romantic partner doesn’t mean I’m gua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 06:09 PM |
| 12 | If society continues to act silly when it comes to gender dynamics between men and women. Then online dating apps should be the only valid place to form relationships.Sounds like you have a preference, man. You prefer a dating medium where men significantly outnumber women but there are no social ambiguities to navigate. That doesn't mean that dating apps are the only valid place for dating, just because you prefer them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 02:34 AM |
| 2 | Male and female dating hedonistically negatively effects both sides and it's hypocritical to think one is better than the otherI don't think anyone should be evasive or deceptive. But like...say, for variety, that I am a man dating multiple women, one of whom for 2 months, because I like a diversity of pussy or because I'm still deciding between them or whatever. If she hasn't brought up commitment, I think it would be reasonable for me to assume that she is doing the exact same thing as me. I also think it's kind of antisocial and leads to unnecessary confusion to just assume that people have become your boyfriend/girl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 02:30 AM |
| 14 | Male and female dating hedonistically negatively effects both sides and it's hypocritical to think one is better than the otherAre people assuming that 4 dates makes a committed relationship? This was certainly not the case for my grandparents or my parents, who went on dates with multiple people until they decided to "go steady." Where I live on the US east coast, the idea that having dinner a couple times makes you boyfriend and girlfriend is a weird recent internet phenomenon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 12:59 AM |
| 13 | The “Innocent Privilege” Women Have Enjoyed for decades Is Fading As Technology EvolvesFunny how the increasing trend of men and women being held to the same standards under the law and interpersonally happens to coincide with increasing gender equality. Probably has nothing to do with the century-long gender equality movement, though. You know what must have killed gender-based moral asymmetry? The iPhone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 11:33 PM |
| 3 | Conditional loveI think you may have genuinely misunderstood me, here. I'm not saying that I have a "rule" that I stick to on principle where I only go on dates with people who are attractive in the face, share my interests, and meet the condition for my specific sexual fetish for word choice. I am saying that, so far, the only people I have been attracted to and really enjoyed one-on-one time with have had all of those traits, and I do not go on dates with people who I do not enjoy going on dates with. My love… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 11:19 PM |
| 8 | Conditional loveMy parents love each other pretty unconditionally. They have spent every day together for almost 40 years, and if my mom was disfigured in an accident, or my dad got dementia, their love might change but it would not dissolve or erode. But true, deep love like that takes time to build, and they would not--could not--have felt the way they do now immediately upon meeting each other, or after spending one or two or even five years together. Love is built when two people enjoy each other's company … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Women are just as upset being friend-zoned as men are.100% agree that women get just as upset about being friendzoned as men. They act mad and weird when you reject their advances just like men. And, yeah, sometimes they cannot bear to see or maintain a relationship with the person who rejected them. Men get just as upset about losing important friendships as women. They also act mad and weird if a female friend they don't want to date suddenly takes it upon herself to declare her feelings and then rejects their friendship altogether. "Emotional ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 06:42 PM |
| 15 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.I don’t think male sexuality is demonized. I think female sexuality is demonized. There are a lot of men (and, I’ll just say, far fewer women) who think that having sex is okay or good for men but somehow taints women. They think that sex is empowering for men and degrading for women. Although many (most, where I live) people no longer think like this, this norm still dictates how comfortable men and women feel about their sexual desires and the sexual desires of others. Now, more men happen to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 07:48 PM |
| – | Why do women expect traditionalism in relationships?Some women are thoughtless, hypocritical, and self-interested. They don’t want to be treated as inferior or denied rights, but they want free stuff. That’s why. Some men are too. They don’t want to be responsible for making all the money, but they want someone to cook, clean, and do the majority of childcare for them. 🤷♀️ People just kind of suck sometimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 05:27 PM |
| 10 | Why do women take offense from men asking about their past?I don't care about "asking about my past" in a general way. But sometimes the implication of that question is that women should not have sex, or casual sex, or as much sex as men, and that it's more ok and even cool for men to have sex. This is a double standard. It's sexist. I take offense to the idea that some pleasurable experiences are fine for my partner to partake in but bad for me. I would also take offense if he asked how much cake I ate only if his question implied that men can eat as m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/25 07:54 PM |
| 1 | A woman ‘struggling to find a good man’ should not be a common issue.I don’t think so! People who are really passionate about ballroom dancing for its own sake aren’t learning it at a weekly beginners class in adulthood. From my experience, a lot of the women who go to ceramics classes or whatever do so explicitly to meet people. I mean, it’s annoying to be in a hobby group where someone clearly doesn’t give a shit about the hobby, and it’s annoying to join a social group where someone clearly doesn’t give a shit about making friends. But that doesn’t mean your R… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/25 05:00 PM |
| 1 | A woman ‘struggling to find a good man’ should not be a common issue.They do? I’m a bi woman in lesbian social circles, which tend to be pretty feminist, and I have never heard such a thing. Did you hear feminists trashing men who even think of finding a date at ballroom dancing class etc in real life? Or perhaps as a result of a ragebait algorithm? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/25 03:28 PM |
| 10 | A woman ‘struggling to find a good man’ should not be a common issue.I mean, in my experience, the men who vent about not being able to find any girl usually have only tried to find girls in the ways that men prefer but women do not, like on dating apps or asking out randoms on the street. There are fewer women on dating apps because women don't like dating apps as much. The women who are on dating apps get a lot of matches because there are fewer women on dating apps. A lot of dudes on here might not know this, but the same is true--in the opposite direction--of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/25 02:03 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men frequently lose in life if they are too empathetic towards women and female issuesActually, when women see misogynistic content and respond to it by proposing that the that the solution is to "actively attack and antagonize [men] politically and socially-women will be able to boost their mood and self-esteem by doing so" and that "so-called [male] rape and sexual assault victims will use their alleged incidents to promote false allegations. Fortunately, women are wising up to this emotional blackmail" they are also told to get off the internet, touch grass, and stop being fuc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/25 12:35 AM |
| 22 | Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"?"I hate men who seek relationships just because they lack the looks and charm to get sex in an honest way" This joker is quoting the evil women in his imagination as proof. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/25 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Do you think not using recreational drugs and alcohol can be a barrier to pursuing recreational sex?I'm in AA. The guys I know in AA have more dates/casual sex than average because they're part of a large mixed-gender social group where they can actually meet people. I don't think it's about recreational drug use, I think it's about appearing regularly in mixed-gender social settings, most of which involve alcohol but some of which do not. And of not projecting "I am an uptight square," which takes some effort if you're not drinking/using drugs but which is very possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Do you think not using recreational drugs and alcohol can be a barrier to pursuing recreational sex?Yep! IMO sober guys in AA actually have more dates/casual sex just because they're in a large mixed-gender social group where they can actually meet people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Whať do u think of Arranged marriages¿I would not do one. My parents don't know more about me or my preferences than I do, and having four extra people (two sets of parents) involved in the courtship process seems like a too many cooks situation. What other people do is none of my business. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 04:49 PM |
| 3 | The reason women aren’t engaging with men is not fear of violenceA lot of the discussion of modern dating on this sub, it seems, is really about dating apps, which just don't appeal to as many women as a courtship medium (hence why there are far fewer women on them than men). Men's desire tends to be more immediate and visual, whereas most women's attraction requires not only seeing but also smelling, hearing, and interacting to "activate." Dating complete strangers with no connection to anyone in your life is, in fact, more dangerous if you are a heterosexua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 04:35 PM |
| 2 | The reason women aren’t engaging with men is not fear of violenceThank you for sharing this--it is so insightful and well-written, especially what you said about rape as a crime of power meaning that crimes require power over the victim, which helped me understand what "rape isn't about sex, it's about power" really means. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 03:58 PM |
| 5 | Women keep men in a double bind - they act repulsed by men's horniness, and treat it like it's an advantage for men at the same time.Men do swipe right on more women on dating apps than vice versa. Women have to vet partners more carefully than men because they are the sex that is easier to rape, murder, and beat the shit out of, so a higher percentage (though still a small minority) of men rape, murder, and beat the shit out of their female partners. This in no way implies that the majority of men are assholes on dating apps. No goalposts are being moved because those things are completely unrelated. This quote from an imagi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/25 07:23 PM |
| 4 | The avg guy should decenter women or work hard to not be avgWell, I think the point of life is to act morally and help others. And I think that the fact that the vast majority of people with political power are men means that women (as a group) do not have as much political power as men (as a group), just like the fact that most of the world's wealth is held by men means that women (as a group) do not have as much wealth as men (as a group). That doesn't mean that, in many countries, men aren't SUFFERING more than women. So, while women do have a set of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 04:38 AM |
| 11 | The avg guy should decenter women or work hard to not be avgHow does decentering women mean that you can't be their friends or vote in their interests? That's more of a lesbian separatist way of doing things ("boycotting" an entire gender) rather than how the "decenter men" crowd does it. I think I've decentered men, but that just means that they don't have special--or central--status in my life, not that they can't be in my life at all. I have male friends, and I help them out. I love my dad. I vote against the death penalty (which affects mostly men) a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 04:03 AM |
| 6 | How do you prefer to be asked for consent to make out?All of this sounds great and would work on me (I am a personal fan of sober verbal consent, though no shade on those who aren't). That said, I don't usually make out after the first encounter unless im WAY horny, and im pretty sexually liberated, so I'd advise dudes not to get their hopes up in terms of making out with a woman hours after meeting her. As a bi woman, if I'm interested in a girl, I also don't usually move to kissing if I just meet her casually upon first encounter unless she's mad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 03:49 AM |
| 4 | Do you think there are sexualized outfits women can wear in real life, and if yes, what?Yes. It’s not that I don’t know which outfits are and aren’t sexy to men (or to women who are attracted to women, like me). But I don’t see why women shouldn’t be able to wear those outfits. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being sexually attractive or inducing sexual attraction. I think men’s and women’s clothing should be judged by the same standards. And I am genuinely curious why some men have a problem with women wearing clothes that they find sexy—I certainly don’t mind it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/25 10:46 PM |
| 4 | People who don't like the fish analogy, are these ones better?All these analogies are fun and cute and I like them, but, personally, I don’t think the problem with the fish analogy is that it’s offensive. I think it’s just bad advice. You should ask both the fisherman AND the fish, because they both have useful information. Obviously only asking women what they like won’t give you a full picture of how to get there, but that doesn’t mean their perspective should be completely discarded. They know what kind of experience they want, they just don’t know what… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/25 10:01 PM |
| 39 | Q4W: Would you rather be the king's mistress or a peasant's wife?When and where are you talking about here? Is the peasant a serf or a free laborer? I want a life in which I am 1) free, safe, and not subject to physical deprivations and 2) in a loving marriage. If marrying the peasant means that conditions 1 AND 2 are met, I'll go with that one; if marrying the peasant means that I won't have access to safe drinking water, varied and nutritious food, or adequate space and privacy to avoid being infected with parasites, I'll choose the king. I imagine this is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 04:51 AM |
| 1 | Personality genuinely matters as much (if not more) than any other traitI work in academic publishing. I'm not anti-science. The legitimacy of evolutionary psychology is controversial in academia, but even scholars who think it has merit don't deny that it's speculative. This is because, for every species, a good chunk of traits evolved not because they were beneficial in any way but because they were associated with other beneficial traits or due to random genetic drift. So the fact that a trait (like preferring men who are decent and sociable instead of smelly boo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 04:13 AM |
| 2 | Personality genuinely matters as much (if not more) than any other traitThe thing about evolutionary psychology is that it is speculative by nature--it's not really good evidence of anything, because it's impossible to prove. Better evidence is just...if you look at an environment in which men and women have regular social contact, like a high school, a college, a music subculture in a small city, or a large enough church. Most people have gone to high school, so I'll use that as an example: in my high school, the boys who were good-looking AND socially adept got th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 02:43 AM |
| 15 | It IS society's fault that many neurodivergent men are unable to find a partnerYeah, my very liberal college was way more accepting of people doing autistic/neurodivergent things (not making eye contact, unusual body movements, etc) than my high school or my other, less liberal college. I think cultural norms can absolutely shift so that certain behaviors, like not making eye contact, interrupting, infodumping, or just "acting weird" are seen as elements of a disability/neurotype that should be accepted rather than just...doing something wrong that should be punished. Like… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 02:31 AM |
| 2 | Would it be better for more men to drop out of society?Huh. Well, that's not the stance of most feminists I know, but feminists can have dumb ideas too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/25 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Would it be better for more men to drop out of society?A) I am of the belief that people can decide whether or not they do terrible things, like rape, pillage, enact genocide and/or reaganomics etc. Men don't suck. Just because, compared to women, a higher proportion of men do the things that REALLY suck the worst, like rape, murder, and child molestation, doesn't mean that you, man reading this, sucks. It just means that society and/or biology make it easier for men to do those things, so more of them are able to do them. If you haven't, you don't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/25 10:05 PM |
| – | Patriarchy didn't start off with men wanting to be evil and oppressed women.OP, I agree with you that patriarchy does not come from a bunch of men deciding to be evil, but your historical analysis is driving me nuts. The whole reason men controlled resources in the first place was because we were expected to be used as effectively livestock for labor so that we could provide resources to women, because women were (and still are) seen as the only legitimate parents and are above the kinds of things men had to do to actually get those resources. The man labors to get the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/25 09:12 PM |
| – | The Dating Issues Men Face Will Be The Same Issues The Women On Here's Future Son's Will Face."60% of Men ages 18-29 haven't had sex in an entire year." I haven't had sex in the last year. Most of my friends haven't had sex in a year. Of the (liberal, urban) women between the ages of 18-29 I know well enough to know when they have sex, 2/7, or 28% of them have had sex within the last year. You're telling me that 40% of young men are getting laid every year?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/25 07:24 PM |
| 3 | What age is it weird to have never been on a date before?Where I live, most people have gone on at least one date by the age of 25. That doesn’t mean that if someone hasn’t, they are judged harshly or it’s assumed that they never will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 12:31 AM |
| 4 | Why do women go to bar to pick up men for sex when they can easily meet from online dating?I don’t know how a guy acts if I meet him online. I just know what he looks like. This isn’t helpful to me at all—unless someone is REALLY, exceptionally sexy, visual stimulus isn’t enough to make me feel any kind of lust or attraction. This is the case for a lot of women. Even if someone looks like a young Brad Pitt or whatever, I can assume that he is probably going to choose someone who looks like a young Angelina Jolie. If he’s in my inbox (or whatever, I’m not on the apps) I can assume he j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 12:06 AM |
| 7 | CMV: Struggling men should focus on making life unfair for others, especially political and social enemiesNo. Literally not at all. I was born and raised in an urban area that a lot of people consider dangerous and I have never once vetted my potential dates by how well they could defend me against another man, a wild animal, or anything else. Like most people, I find muscles visually attractive. Not because they are useful if we ever encountered a hostile opponent or a charging warthog, but because physical fitness made my distant ancestors more likely to survive long enough to reproduce. Which is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:58 PM |
| 5 | There actually are government mandated solutions to datingGreat idea The thing about giving tax breaks to the coupled is that it would mean that single people would have to pay more taxes. I don’t think this policy would do much to incentivize people who CAN, without help, get in relationships to do so (after all, cohabitation already saves a lot of money, and saving money isn’t usually worth entering a relationship you wouldn’t otherwise), and I think it would do unfair harm to and further embitter those who can’t find relationships. Great in theory. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:41 PM |
| 35 | CMV: Struggling men should focus on making life unfair for others, especially political and social enemiesRight! I have never been "physically protected" by a man, nor do I expect it. I doubt most men on here have ever "physically protected" a woman. I have no idea what it means to "verbally protect" someone--like, defend them if they're being gossiped about or something? OP, please shed some light | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 09:04 PM |
| 22 | It’s not creepy for men to want to sleep with or date their friendsCompletely agree. It’s a mystery to me why people (men and women) advise men to seek relationships with random women they don’t know rather than getting to know them first. I think maybe some of the people who say this (mostly women, but some men) are confused about the difference between picking hobbies/befriending women because doing so is a good way to find love and PRETENDING to pick up a hobby/be friends with a woman that you actually do not enjoy. People start doing things to get laid that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 05:42 PM |
| 2 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?I will! I actually do not believe that cheating "just happens," or happens by accident. Nobody just puts themselves in a situation in which they could cheat, and *POOF* the cheating has somehow occurred. Cheating is a decision. Which is a good thing, because--due to the fact that most men would have casual sex with most women--women are in situations where cheating is possible all day every day. I do think that this is an opinion--that cheating is, at the end of the day, a choice on the part of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/25 01:57 AM |
| 1 | Every woman beater I've ever met was almost constantly in relationships"Abusers are never forever alone virgins." Right. By definition. You can only beat your wife if you can get a wife. You can only beat multiple women if you can attract multiple women. This doesn't mean that a "forever alone virgin" is less (or more, for that matter) likely to beat a woman if he were to date/marry one. "Every drunk driver I've ever met had his license" True. "Therefore the idea that you can lose your license for drunk driving is pure fantasy" False. "But why do I see people drunk… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 08:31 PM |
| 15 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Geez. And I thought women had high standards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:18 PM |
| 46 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?A) Your girlfriend’s not single, but her friends probably are. If you’re a single woman who IS looking for romance, you can’t just go to the bars by yourself—you need a group of friends to go with you. Those friends will not always be single. If not being single meant that they couldn’t go, the whole system would collapse: there would be no single women in the places that encourage courtship, which, in this current coupling crisis, isn’t a good thing. B) Dancing is fun. Drinking is fun. Just bec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 03:49 PM |
| 35 | Men have it harder in dating than women doThis is 100% my experience as a bi woman. Trying to get a girlfriend is harder, trying to get a boyfriend is scarier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/25 10:33 PM |
| 3 | Why should men in developing nations support excessive women rights?Because men and women are intellectually and morally equal, so treating women unequally is wrong. I mean, I also think that TRP is simply incorrect in assigning blame for the "80/20" phenomenon to women's innate biology instead of dating apps, that when men and women socialize in large groups IRL, like high school or college in the States, people wind up paired with appropriate matches in terms of looks, status etc, and "female hypergamy" isn't really a thing. And that dating apps and "cold appr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/25 07:41 PM |
| 19 | Women are just as creepy as men they just get away with it.Three things: 1. You’re right, “creepy” is kind of gendered. That sucks. 2. “Creepy,” means scary. Definitionally, if you say someone is acting creepy, you’re saying that they are acting not only inappropriately but in a way that induces fear. Women tend to induce less fear in men when they act inappropriately, because they are physically smaller and it is very difficult for them to rape and murder most men. 3. Because feeling frightened, spooked and creeped out is an instinct that comes from th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/25 02:12 AM |
| -1 | If a good personality is not about morality but about sociability, then why are unsuccessful men automatically classified as misogynists?They're not 🤷♀️. Men on incel subreddits are automatically classified as misogynists. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 10:16 PM |
| 3 | I think women are worst in bed then men areHypocritical indeed for me to share this opinion when other women have said something else! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 08:10 PM |
| 13 | I think women are worst in bed then men areStraight women, definitely. I think this comes from a culture of slut-shaming and rigid gender roles, where women are kind of supposed to be bad at/inexperienced at sex. A lot of them think of sex as something a man does *to* them, rather than something both partners are doing together (a lot of men think this too). IME lesbians know how to do it tho. They're spelunking at 1pm pubes in their teeth pussy on their forehead 10 fingers and 15 vibrators ready to go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 06:49 PM |
| 6 | How many dates do you think you need to know a person.It doesn’t take long to know how someone looks, obviously, but it takes a while to get to know their personality and character. Like hanging out 20 times at least. This is why I don’t like dating from a point of complete unfamiliarity, though I do do it. Yes. Attractive people are definitely perceived more positively. And, anecdotally, I know fat people who have a much harder time getting jobs (that don’t require hotness or skinniness) than skinny people with the same qualifications. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/25 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Why do straight women say dating women would be “easier”? Even though it's notHave I ever worked with women? Yes. I am a bisexual woman in lesbian social circles who has worked in education. I am actually going to assume that I have spent more time with women than you, strange man on incel subreddit. And I can tell you that this has not been my experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/25 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Why do straight women say dating women would be “easier”? Even though it's notYes! I've seen the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/25 12:29 AM |
| 7 | Women do not fall for "manipulation" as much as they want to think they doThe sentiment of "it is an injustice that men who are irresponsible risk-takers, generally rebellious, drug users/addicts, and have contempt for rules "get sex" when nice buttoned-up autistic guys don't" only makes sense if you assume that women aren't also irresponsible risk-takers, generally rebellious, drug users/addicts, and have contempt for rules in about equal numbers. And guess what? Those women are the women who are amenable to being "cold approached," who are on dating apps and in bars… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/25 08:11 PM |
| 2 | Examining “domestic terrorism” through the lens of masculinity and conservative-mindedness. There seems to be an observable parallel.Wait, what makes you better in a mathematically provable kind of way? Crazy thing to just drop without elaborating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/25 07:40 PM |
| 4 | Why do straight women say dating women would be “easier”? Even though it's notCause they tend to move faster in relationships than gay men; cause gay marriages don’t have the kind of institutional cultural support straight marriages do (e.g. families who would pressure a woman to stay with a husband might be more inclined to suggest she leave a wife); cause gay men in long-term relationships tend to be more accepting of non-monogamy; cause lesbians have their own culture and set of norms that’s based, in part, on their struggle to be free of men and marriage, so divorce i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/25 07:24 PM |
| 3 | If you women can despise/hate men but still date & have sex with them, because "sexuality isn't a choice", why do you question men's heterosexuality when they despise/hate women?"If you women can despise/hate men..." I don't. "Why would you question men's heterosexuality when they despise/hate women?" I don't. A small minority of women do the former, and an even smaller contingent of gen-z internet memers and twitter jokesters do the latter. This isn't a "you women" post. You're going to have to take this logical inconsistency up with the women who are actually making "misogynists are gay" jokes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/25 06:58 PM |
| 12 | How many are looking for a financially equal relationship?First date, no. I like going Dutch. Wedding expenses should come from our pooled finances. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/25 09:48 PM |
| 21 | How many are looking for a financially equal relationship?I am. My preference is for a partner who makes about as much as I do and splits chores evenly. I want an equal relationship--meaning we both have equal decision-making power etc--and I would prefer a guy about my age for that reason, but an age gap of a few years doesn't mean anything if it's unrelated to power imbalance. Mentioning a financially equal relationship would not make me flee--proposing a financially unequal relationship would. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/25 08:13 PM |
| 12 | Why do the avg women dont want the bottom 80% of men?There is no data that shows that "women who rate 80% of men as below avg be it in looks, charisma, wealth etc." If you mean the OkCupid data, it suggests that women who were on OkCupid rated the majority of STILL PICTURES of men as below average, which would make sense--we know that a lot of women's attraction is related to natural charisma, and, to a lesser extent, social proof and (some types of) status. I know that personally, I have a hard time feeling attraction to just a still image of a g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/25 06:41 PM |
| 3 | When did the narrative shift from "it's your personality and misogyny that keeping you single" to "ofc women love attractive men, are you a stupid shut in!!" ?The thing about blue pill is that it refers to everyone who isn’t part of a single niche online subculture. That’s a lot of different opinions about dating. The people who created all the media for little boys wherein the beautiful princess is a reward for you doing the right things AND the feminists who critiqued that media are both blue pill. Your parents are blue pill. Lesbian separatists are blue pill. It’s true that the narrative that you can “earn” a woman’s attraction by just performing a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 08:36 PM |
| 10 | Why are modern women against the idea of submitting to their man, but all for the idea of submitting to their boss?Because I only have to obey my boss for 40 hours a week, rather than 24-7, and only regarding work matters. I get to spend more of my life not under anybody's thumb. Duh. Why would I rather my boss live with me? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 09:47 PM |
| 27 | Why do women wait until the middle of the night to look for sex? Wtf? I'm tired man, I got stuff to do during the day. I want to go sleep.pussy is a nocturnal animal. that's why they call it that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 07:05 PM |
| 4 | What do you all think the dating prerequisites are?She has to find you a) physically attractive, b) fun to spend time with, and c) not gross. Different women have different standards for these things, but, as a population, those standards tend to overlap quite a bit. In my experience, autistic and neurodivergent people tend to find b) the most difficult, especially when it comes to topics of conversation--I know autistic people who I love spending time with because we both share the same nerdy hobby, so talking to them about that hobby is AWESOM… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Why do women give bad advice to men?I mean, I think this is just a weird cultural difference with how men and women are raised. I truly would never imagine that someone with visible acne would not know what salicylic acid is--that's the top thing that comes up if you google "I have acne what do I do" and the top ingredient in acne products. So--and I'm really asking here with no judgement--if most men don't know what salicylic acid is, where is the information breakdown happening? Do they not know they have it, or what it's called… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 06:34 PM |
| 4 | Not trying to be misogynistic or incelly but why do women get into relationships if at all?For me? Romantic love! I love my friends, but the way I feel about them is different--for example, I don't usually find them "cute" the way I find a romantic partner. Plus sex with strangers just isn't very fulfilling for many women anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Compared to women blaming men, how much of men blaming women do you consider "normal"?A misperception, I think. Men generally having higher libidos makes women the “more desired gender” for sex, certainly, but not necessarily for all the things that women desire for ourselves: connection, love, and respect. But none of that has to do with our complaints about dating, which are not about how men “generally are” but how specific men act. Stalking, harassment, physical and sexual threats, trying to control what we wear and where we go, not taking no for an answer, putting their hand… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 03:36 PM |
| 4 | Why do women give bad advice to men?Here’s the real reason, at least in my experience: Women are raised to be constantly aware of everything wrong with us physically, all the possible ways that we could address them, and the necessity of doing so. For example, I also have dry facial skin, and would look better if it weren’t so. Unfortunately, I also have a skin condition where I break out in a rash if I put literally anything on my skin, lotion included. I have tried most lotions and seen 3 dermatologists about this condition, one… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 02:53 PM |
| 9 | In the context of relationships with them, it's important to recognize men are more likely to react with violence when under stressAs a feminist, I object to "be sure to prepare in advance when your man is dealing with increased stress and be ready to keep yourself safe," on behalf of both men and women, because even though men are statistically more violent than women as a population, that doesn't that most of them are wifebeaters. The majority of men would never beat their wives/girlfriends no matter how much stress they're under--if you feel the need to take active steps to keep yourself safe from your partner, you shoul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 01:54 AM |
| 5 | Women; do you consider a man a hypocrite if he does not want to date Bonnie Blue?People can date who they want. That wouldn’t make him a hypocrite necessarily. But if a guy likes porn but think it’s bad for women to make porn, he’s a hypocrite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/25 01:49 AM |
| 0 | Women, would you be friends with an active sex worker?Yes? Why is this a question. Anyone who would say otherwise is an asshole IMO | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/25 01:44 AM |
| 2 | What have been negative outcomes for society from feminism in your eyes?So, I think there have been bad and wrong-headed movements that call themselves feminist, and are in the sense that they are made up of people who are (at least purportedly) trying to get gender equality, they've just misidentified how to go about it. Terf-ism is one example in my mind. I think that's bad for society. I do not think that gender equality itself has had negative outcomes on society as a whole, because society is 50% women. So, like, women being free to date and marry as they want … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 09:57 PM |
| 1 | If it was down to just the two of them, who would you pick and Why?Twin A. Teenage sex is in itself a rule-breaking, risky, hedonistic, and boundary-pushing behavior, like teenage drinking and teenage smoking cigarettes and teenage staying-out-later-than-mom-and-dad-want. The girls who like to do the things Twin A likes to do are going to be the girls who have sex. The girls who care a lot about being responsible, doing everything right, and following rules will prefer Twin B, and they aren't going to be having teen sex. Because having teen sex is against most … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 09:30 PM |
| 22 | What would you tell a young male relative who just discovered how lopsided dating apps are and thinks it's unfair?I'd tell him that more men use dating apps than women, so the women who are on those apps get way more matches. And that dating apps are a scam that want to take his money and his data in exchange for making him feel bad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 04:09 PM |
| 5 | Women only use natural selection to attack men forgetting it consequences won't be decent for themNeither! Duh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/25 05:12 PM |
| 13 | The standards of what is considered cheating today makes monogamous relationships and marriages not worth itI find this post really interesting because I’ve had a similar experience to OP but in the opposite direction—the definition of the word “cheating” I was raised with meant having sex outside of a relationship, “an affair” was when you did that regularly, and other things, like texting your ex or going out to bars, were putting yourself AT RISK of cheating, rather than cheating itself. Being on the internet and seeing talk about “emotional affairs” and “porn is cheating” and “is he cheating on yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/25 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Do you agree with Iliza Schlesinger's take on hateful undesirable saying that it's "natural selection"?“The mass shunning of men whose worst crime is having a bad attitude” you mean…having a bad attitude toward those men? How is that different? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/25 12:50 AM |
| -1 | Do you agree with Iliza Schlesinger's take on hateful undesirable saying that it's "natural selection"?She would not, because she is, in fact, making a very pointed and didactic JOKE about natural selection regarding men not having sex. She isn’t making that same joke about men dying, so I do not think she would make that joke about women dying either. She isn’t saying, about male suicide and deaths of despair, “you failed to adapt. you deserve it. you failed to adapt to modern society by choosing to kill yourself, you deserve to die,” because that would be a horrible thing to say about people fu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Women gaslight men cause they are afraid of themI do not think most women assume that women could not also run state departments. YOU might think that, but most women, I think, believe that the fact that state departments have more men than women in them is a combination of women being artificially barred from running state departments and women not wanting to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Women gaslight men who date younger due to intrasexual competition.Ok I genuinely think I worded this wrong. I’m not try to defend that commenter—I think it’s completely absurd to say a 41 year old shouldn’t be with a 29 year old. But I think it is unlikely that she was PRETENDING to have that weird and wrong opinion in order to gaslight men. Like, some women are genuinely wrong-headed about feminism, and have opinions—like “a 29 year old is a little baby compared to a 41 year old” or “trans women are bad and out to getcha” or “body-shaming men is fine because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 03:52 PM |
| 0 | Women gaslight men who date younger due to intrasexual competition.Or perhaps women say things that are weird and wrong not because they're deceiving you on purpose, but because they literally think things that are weird and wrong. Like, just literally being possessed of the impulse to go "Ick! That relationship seems yucky to me, so it is probably bad, and I am going to write a comment about it." Women (and men) have all sorts of crazy ideas. Most of the time they aren't like...lying about them for some goal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 03:44 AM |
| – | Where do you people find ugly guys ?OP forgot to check the clock tower. Rookie mistake. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Women frame their own toxic behaviors as harmless while condemning men’sI'm asking you this because I genuinely want to know the answer: what do you think politics is about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 07:10 PM |
| – | Expecting autistic men to mask and upgrade their entire lives, especially dating, while not even giving them a chance or ever trying to approach them is hypocritical and illiberal.There's a lot of ablism toward autistic people, and I'm sure--and I'm sorry--that you've experienced it. IMO since in a lot of places where there are more autistic people (like my nerdy hobby groups*), there's a lot more acceptance of things like hand-flapping and stimming, I do think society can (and should) change and become more accepting of autistic people unmasking and doing things that literally don't hurt anyone but are just a little odd. I'm not autistic, but I am disabled. I have long c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 07:03 PM |
| 6 | Dating is prostitution.She is paying you the “time price” (hanging out w u) and the “exclusivity price” (getting married to u) not to mention the “attention price” (paying attention when you talk) in exchange for sexual access to u. Welcome to your life as a prostitute 😔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 05:03 PM |
| 7 | Women do not like sex (not as men understand sex)I mean…I could make the same post: Men Do Not Like Sex (Not as Women Understand It). Men and women have different sex hormones and different plumbing. That doesn’t mean if you marry a woman she will never want to have sex with you and will cheat on you. She will just probably (not always!) have a lower, less visual libido than you, that shuts off if she’s under stress or recently had a baby, and her genitals will be more finicky to make cum. She will be more inclined to have sex less often but f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Women frame their own toxic behaviors as harmless while condemning men’sIdk what you’re talking about. I’m talking about men who want their real girlfriends, in real life, to serve and obey them like a maid. Not in a pretend BDSM scene. That’s not what saying someone wants a “bang maid” refers to. And this—wanting your girlfriend to be disempowered in real life—is worse than wanting your real girlfriend to have more power than you in real life, because in real life, having less power is worse than having more power. Whether or not this involves the “psychology of au… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 01:32 AM |
| 9 | Women frame their own toxic behaviors as harmless while condemning men’sI just…don’t know how to explain to you that, in real life, not having power is worse than having it. If empowerment and disempowerment are interchangeable and equally good, what do you think politics is about? What do you think all liberation movements are about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 12:15 AM |
| 20 | Women frame their own toxic behaviors as harmless while condemning men’sNone of these are "male toxic behaviors"--they're behaviors that are equally toxic, or nontoxic, regardless of who does them. Women watch porn. I watch porn. I don't think it's gross or "cheating," but I can admit that the romance novel industry does not have the same kind of abuses the porn industry has. I also eat bacon instead of tofu bacon, but I don't pretend to have the moral high ground there, either. Women also victim-blame. And it also makes them assholes, because anyone who responds to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/25 08:11 PM |
| 1 | If you were a man what would be red flags in women you might want to date?-jealous -controlling -negs -rigid ideas about gender roles -believes I am her inferior in some way -anger issues (road rage is a big no for me) -armchair diagnoses all her exes with personality disorders/psychological problems(sometimes people have bad exes. “My ex cheated on me”—okay, that’s a real fact, and I’m sorry. “My ex was a narcissist”—but what did they do?) -wants to go through my phone (I have porn on there, Jeanine) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Women want to be sexy, but hate the men who sexualize themYes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 06:13 PM |
| – | What do you think about millions of women & feminists on social media who are pushing the narrative that men struggle in dating ONLY due to horrible character, lack of empathy, kindness & EQ; never due to looks?“Millions?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 01:19 AM |
| 11 | Women pursuing charismatic men with unhinged behaviour isn't hypergamy, that's a misunderstanding.I guess this sometimes happens? But I don't think it accounts for the entire phenomenon of women staying with men who treat them badly. Most of the time, women stay with men who treat them badly for the same reason men stay with women who treat them badly--they're in love with them; they have poor self-esteem, they think one else will love them; they're dependent on their partner for resources; their partner has isolated them from friends and family, and leaving would mean homelessness; they're … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 03:49 PM |
| 4 | What opinion do you see other women commonly openly share, that you don’t agree with?Men shouldn't be more responsible for paying for dates and/or making the first move than women Small penis is superior Don't "trust your gut." Your gut is stupid. All it knows is stereotypes from TV, be racist, flinch at ugliness, avoid outgroup, and lie. The female chest isn't more inherently sexual than the male chest. Both are sexy, both are sensitive, but your boobs aren't sexual organs any more than his pecs. Whip that shit out, girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 03:22 PM |
| 8 | Would you have hooked up with all your past boyfriends?Yes. 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 02:36 PM |
| – | What is the motive behind telling men to be kind and it will improve their dating chances?This boggles my mind. Why don’t I tell men, “you’re too ugly?” Because that’s not nice. It’s not actionable, so it’s not advice. If someone who is too odd-looking to be attractive to most women wants to know how he can improve his slim chances, I’ll tell him to dress nice and not be an asshole, because those things literally do improve his chances. Obviously. Obviously! Women aren’t trying to conceal the fact that attraction requires you to be attractive—they’ve been told that since birth. Why w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 02:14 AM |
| – | What is the motive behind telling men to be kind and it will improve their dating chances?You couldn’t think, well, women can’t ‘nice’ their way into making me find them hot, so I probably can’t do the same for them? Hello? Why would this not also apply to 50% of the population? You don’t need TV or movies to come to this conclusion—just the basic assumption that girls and women are people like you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 01:57 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: How much money does a man need in order for it to factor into your attraction towards them? Is there a number that would overcome and “physical” issues for you?None, and no. Even if he doesn’t make any money, if he’s down to be a SAHD, that’s cool too. Now, if he has an exceptionally cool and prestigious job, like a human rights lawyer that has saved hundreds of lives or a famous author of my favorite book, that might INCREASE my attraction to him. But money itself doesn’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 11:52 PM |
| 2 | On OLD women definitely privilege the "alpha male" type of guyThe thing about dating apps, and still photographs in general, is that you can't really KNOW someone's personality based on how they look. "Kind-looking" isn't a thing. When I talk about not wanting to date an "alpha male," I mean I am not interested in being in a relationship with someone who behaves a certain way--plays power games rather than treating me as a friend and equal--rather than looks a certain way or has certain hobbies. A lot of tall, extroverted, outdoorsy guys play power games; … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 04:28 PM |
| 0 | Cheating is equally immoral no matter who does it, BUT men stand to suffer more when cheated onIf she punched him with 50 pounds of force, and he punched with 150 pounds of force, they haven't done the same act at all. He punched her harder. If he punched her back with 50 pounds of force, which he could also have done, then they would have done the same act. "As hard as she/he possibly can" has never been relevant to any kind of crime or violence. Are you assuming that they each don't know how hard they can punch? Are you assuming that she believed that she could fracture his skill with h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 09:31 PM |
| 0 | Cheating is equally immoral no matter who does it, BUT men stand to suffer more when cheated onIn the case of domestic violence, like in all other violence, the severity of the violence is considered according to...the severity of the violence. If you hit another man and break his jaw, you are held liable for breaking his jaw. If he hits you without breaking your jaw, he is not equally liable, whether or not you might conjecture that he had been trying to hit you harder than he did but was too weak. You two haven't done the same wrong act--you've broken his jaw, and he's grazed yours. The… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 06:19 PM |
| 7 | How should average men pursue casual sex according to women?With an attitude of realism, good sportsmanship, and humor. Like you said, fewer women are interested in casual sex than men. So there are going to be a lot of perfectly ordinary men with nothing “wrong” with them who want casual sex but won’t have it. You’ll probably be one of them. It doesn’t mean anything bad about you. And you might get lucky if you spend enough time with especially horny and sexually liberated women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 01:24 AM |
| 18 | How should average men pursue casual sex according to women?Here you go: the fact that people experience attraction based on looks, that far fewer women want casual sex than men, and that therefore a lot of perfectly ordinary men with nothing “wrong” with them will not have casual sex, is common sense. I wasn’t aware needed to be said or “admitted” by anyone. Online communities such as TRP often frame things that are not conspiracies through a conspiratorial lens, and I think this is one of them. Women aren’t hiding any of this information from you on pu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 12:56 AM |
| 4 | "You bring up the bad boys/Chad theme - just because you want to be bad and have sex!" - no, it's about the simple concept of justiceYou can consider whatever you want to consider, man. But the term “reward” sort of implies that her love was given to you, by her or by God, as a result of your obedience to a just set of moral rules, rather than being a spontaneous, non-rule-governed reaction. You can do things to improve your chances of such a reaction occurring, and you can apply any word to any concept in the world, but “reward” doesn’t seem right to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 04:10 PM |
| 4 | "You bring up the bad boys/Chad theme - just because you want to be bad and have sex!" - no, it's about the simple concept of justiceSure, everyone understands the concept of justice. But it’s a matter of opinion as to whether sex/romance is a just reward for doing nice things. At least 50% of people in the world (women*) do not share your opinion, even though they also get “friendzoned” in favor of hotter people all the time, and I would say a majority of men do not share this opinion either. *with some exceptions, of course, in the infinite diversity of human behavior | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 03:32 PM |
| 6 | Before lamenting that you aren't getting hookups you should make sure that you are indeed hookup material.I'm not autistic, but I am nerdy. Nerd cultures, especially those with a lot of autistic people*, tend to be very sex-segregated. There are lots of autistic women to be found in female nerd cultures, who, like me, are into writing fanfiction and historical costuming. They, like me, wish their male equivalents were into these same hobbies or at least shared a cultural vocabulary. Alas, those male equivalents are oceans away on the internet, gaming, reading manga, and reconstructing battles in min… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 10:15 PM |
| 4 | Women, would you agree to do sex scenes/nudity in movies if you were a famous actress, and would that answer change if you had a boyfriend/husband?Yes. That's exactly what I'm saying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 10:03 PM |
| 0 | Nice guys are given contradictory advice that keeps them in a loop and never answers their predicamentSure. But it's not a conspiracy. If this is the loop you're stuck in--you make friends with women (but none of them want you as a romantic prospect), none of them want you as a romantic prospect (so they don't want you to approach them as such), they just want to be friends (because they don't want you as a romantic prospect)--it sounds like you're following this advice with women who don't want you as a romantic prospect. Dating advice usually only works if you try it with someone in your leagu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 08:30 PM |
| 6 | Women, would you agree to do sex scenes/nudity in movies if you were a famous actress, and would that answer change if you had a boyfriend/husband?Yes. I would also take a role that shows me lying to people, committing crimes, slipping and falling on my ass, farting, flossing my teeth, vomiting, etc, even though those are not things I would want people to see in any other context. Because in the context of *acting* in a *movie* those things are not embarrassing. OP, why do you say that if you were a woman, you wouldn't do a sex scene in a movie? Would you do it as a man? Do you think that women's naked bodies are somehow more humiliating t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 06:04 PM |
| 1 | If you could date the perfect synthetic companion, more attractive than any human, would you choose that over a human partner? (Hetero relationship)Who’s we? I don’t only think to care about my partner’s subjective experience insofar as it can serve me—when I’ve been in love, my partner’s subjective experience was my obsession. I wanted to understand their mind, their underlying beliefs and philosophies about the world, and the way they experience things—do they experience a moment of exquisite intellectual satisfaction when they hear or tell a good joke, as my ex girlfriend did? Knowing her unique subjective experiences, and how they diffe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 03:41 PM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as an "invalid" or "shallow" reason not to date someone, every single dating preference is valid.I agree—not my business! I have never said to someone, “so, I’ve only seen you with skinny chicks/sexually inactive women/white guys/straight men/tall men—please explain.” But, you know, if they explicitly ask me my opinion on their preference, or post on a debate sub that their preference against fat chicks/sexually active women/south Asian guys/bi men/short men is valid BECAUSE those people are are gross/bad/undatable, I will indeed participate in the debate. Not because I think that people sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 02:59 PM |
| 2 | How can men be desirable to women under late-stage capitalism?I don’t want a provider, nor do a lot of women I know. I have a low-salary white collar job, and I’ve dated broke guys and rich guys alike. My preference would be for a man who makes about the same as me, but that’s like my preference for a man who is a good dancer or has curly hair—I consider it a bonus, not a requirement. The thing about evolutionary psychology is that it is, by definition, speculative. We have no way of knowing whether women’s desire for rich men is biological or cultural. Be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 04:18 PM |
| 7 | There is no such thing as "platonic cuddling" between a straight guy and a womanSo, people on this sub are preoccupied with making hard and fast rules about human relationships and behavior, which then makes them kind of lose their mind when there exist exceptions to those rules. It is, I would say, very rare for straight men and straight women to “platonically cuddle.”I would find such behavior unusual. But that doesn’t mean that a straight man and a straight woman cuddling is, by definition, not platonic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Sexual frustration seems to have very different meanings depending on whether it’s men or women talking about itOk mr. egalitarian | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 02:32 PM |
| 1 | I don’t think it’s a man job to protect his girlHell yeah! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 01:15 AM |
| 2 | If you could date the perfect synthetic companion, more attractive than any human, would you choose that over a human partner? (Hetero relationship)No. I want a partner with an internal life, who I can relate to and who can relate to me. The joy of being in love is thinking and learning about another person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 10:33 PM |
| 12 | Sexual frustration seems to have very different meanings depending on whether it’s men or women talking about itSame condition, same meaning. When men say they have no partner available to them, they mean also mean that there is no partner available to them with whom they would have satisfying, enjoyable sex. It’s just that men are easier to sexually satisfy and harder to rape and kill, so their standards can afford to be lower. I can’t read the mind of every woman, but I also find masturbation less satisfying than a partner, and experience sexual frustration for that reason. I just know that if I downloa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 10:28 PM |
| – | I don’t think it’s a man job to protect his girlHell yeah! I think partners should protect and support each other when and how they can, according to their needs and abilities, not gender roles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 10:11 PM |
| – | What’s the difference between a friendly touch vs a flirty touch?No, she shouldn’t do that, especially if it makes u uncomfortable. Sorry that happened, man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 05:41 PM |
| – | What’s the difference between a friendly touch vs a flirty touch?The way I determine friendly vs flirty touch (I also date/court/sleep w/ women) is to compare it with the way the woman touching me touches her platonic friends: if she's also grabbing her bestie by the waist, kissing her on the cheek, etc it's probably just how she interacts, and even if I think the way she interacts is kind of taking it too far, and making it weird and awkward to be a gay woman, I give her grace and write it off as a well-intentioned faux pas of sorts. If she's touching me in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 05:28 PM |
| -1 | Men committing majority of violent crimes consumes more tax payer money that single momsTakes 2 people to make a baby. If a child in a single-income household needs government support to make up for the missing income, it's not the parent contributing money and labor to the child who's draining tax dollars. If a child in a single-parent household has less parental time and attention, and develops problems because of that, it's not the parent giving time and attention draining tax dollars. To say that "single mothers" are the ones responsible consuming tax payer money is silly--that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 04:25 PM |
| 7 | There are more genuine blindside divorces than many women want to admitWhy not go to a male couples councilor? Genuinely asking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 03:47 PM |
| 10 | I don’t see any good reason why men and women, regardless of how they look, can’t have meaningful, lasting friendships with one another. Also, having friendships with different genders can be a very good thing.As of right now, I have had three friends (two male, one female) tell me they had feelings for me; I did not have feelings for them, which I told them, gently, and we remained friends after a brief period of awkwardness. I have one male friend who I am attracted to currently. He has a girlfriend, and I don't ever plan on making a move. It's not that hard to be friends with someone you're attracted to, or have a friend who is attracted to you and to whom you are not attracted, in my experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 12:53 AM |
| 1 | Women’s sexual preferences are seen as valid while men’s sexual preferences are notYou're saying that men evolved to want to dominate their partners, control them, be superior to them, and boss them around. I'm saying that it doesn't really matter where those instincts come from, or who they belong to--they are more worthy of criticism and examination that instincts to do things that are universally nice and harmless. We have all evolved desires for power over other people, as well as desires to uplift them and treat them as equals. Those desires shouldn't be treated as equiva… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Is sex a need? Depends on how you define needThe first article, entitled “Women should have this much sex every week to avoid early death, according to science” is clickbait. The second article isn’t about how much sex a person has at all—it says that sexual INTEREST, as in libido or sexual desire, is positively correlated with longevity. Are people on this sub are just dropping links hoping people don’t click on them? What’s up with that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Women’s sexual preferences are seen as valid while men’s sexual preferences are notLions hunt alone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Women’s sexual preferences are seen as valid while men’s sexual preferences are notI already commented on this post once about the terrible sources it uses, but by god I've got another thing to say. OP's saying that a man who says he wants a submissive partner should be viewed the same way as a woman saying she wants a dominant partner, but those things aren't equivalent--and it has nothing to do with gender. If a woman expressed a preference for a partner they could boss around, I would judge her too. If she told me she wanted a man who had never slept with another woman, so … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Women’s sexual preferences are seen as valid while men’s sexual preferences are notDo you mean Buss's review of his own book? Or a real study you're going to link? I hope it's the latter, but I believe you (and him) on that point either way--that in most dominant cultures, men have more of a preference for virginity than women do. Because you are a stranger on the internet, and because it seems very improbable, I don't believe that that quote is referring to any kind of hardwired preference among humans--or within any species--for purity vs promiscuity. If you show me evidence… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 06:10 PM |
| 19 | Women’s sexual preferences are seen as valid while men’s sexual preferences are notThese sources are terrible! The first is a study of the customers of Indonesian prostitutes, which found that those customers pay more for sex with women who have been in the business less long. This is obviously not a representative sample. The second article is a review of a book published in 1995, republished in 2016, by the author of that book. And it says explicitly that differences in desire for purity vs promiscuity are cultural: "Men more than women prioritize physical attractiveness and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 04:42 PM |
| 4 | Mens Gender role is inalienable economicThis includes pre-history! Before agriculture, most people were hunter-gatherers, with men and women equally responsible for obtaining resources. In hunter gatherer societies, the gatherers (women*) usually provide at least as much food by calories and volume as the hunters (men*), and often more, but both roles are necessary for survival. Neither one is the "provider." *most of the time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Women cant complain when men dont care for them"Data after data shows that men who have the most success in dating are usually more misogynstic no matter the age groups" what data? Please provide the data. If you think it's wrong to criminalize early-stage abortions, I don't think you should vote on that issue because you're a man and it's women having the abortions and its your chivalric duty to protect them because they are pure of heart. You should do it for the same reason a woman should also do it: it's easy, and it's right. I also thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Women link a mans romantic invisibility with a moral or character flawThe thing about assuming that all women are lying by default is that, when it comes to understanding women's thoughts and opinions, you have removed your only source of direct information. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Mens Gender role is inalienable economicI'm also using that definition of economic. Extracting resources from the land was the full-time job of both men and women for much of human history. Medieval serfs, for example, didn't leave their wives at home to...putter around, both men and women worked the fields and cared for livestock. In most hunter-gatherer societies, women provide the majority of calories, with men providing a minority of calories, though both roles are equally essential and time-consuming. For most people who have eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Mens Gender role is inalienable economicSo, your post, titled, "Men's Gender Role is Inalienable Economic" opens with "I believe that the man's absolute gender role no matter what century we are in has always been economic." I'm saying that isn't true, that what you've framed as an inalienable part of manhood is actually kind of a recent invention, and is in fact extremely alienable from men's gender role. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Women link a mans romantic invisibility with a moral or character flawSo I have never heard the "men who can't find partners are probably incels who hate women" thing outside of niche corners of the internet. To be clear, it is a sentiment that exists, and I think it is a mean, bad, and stupid one--obviously, the main impediments to dating suffered by most people have to do with appearance, charisma, or opportunity, neither of which is a character flaw or anyone's fault. But this sentiment does not occur to the vast majority of women. Most women--and most people--… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 03:30 PM |
| 5 | Mens Gender role is inalienable economicThe majority of people, throughout the majority of human history, were subsistence farmers. Both men and women did the same work, though "side-work" differed. Both contributed equally to the economic status of the household. The 200-ish years between the Industrial Revolution and, say, the 1990s, in which men were expected to be the primary providers of resources, is a tiny blip in the history of our species. This isn't to say there haven't always been gender roles, or that societies of subsiste… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 03:14 PM |
| – | Why are women who talk about 'decentering men' still using male owned businesses?I don't think that men...shouldn't make money? Just because they are men. That would be an insane and shitty policy to have. I'm not going to boycott 50% of the population because of something they can't help, obviously. That doesn't mean I think men should be CENTRAL or the MOST important thing in my life. "Decentering men" usually means not giving men, male approval, and male romantic pursuit extra priority and prominence. Like, whether or not I am single, who I'm partnered with, if men think … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Why don’t you approach men as a form of empowerment?I think the word "approach" is too broad here. If you're asking why I, as a feminist, don't go up to strangers on the street and ask them out, it's because I don't think that's a good way of doing things. I have never, and will never, agree to a date with someone I've never met who I've only ever seen. I think that first building a solid platonic rapport, so that we know we get along and like each other, then introducing the possibility of a romantic connection through flirting, and when both pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/25 11:07 PM |
| 21 | Men's strong impersonal attraction to women is more than just wanting sex.There is a universal human drive to protect and help those less able than us. If I'm the strongest person in a group of people, I carry the most. I stand for the old and pregnant on the bus. If it's hot out, and I'm more heat-resistant, I give my big hairy male friend my water. If I'm with kids, I put myself between them and danger. This is usually called "manners" or "considerateness" or "altruism," except when men do it, and then it's called "chivalry." I don't buy it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/25 10:13 PM |
| 0 | The hate on passport bros just proves that alot of women just dont want some men to be happyIf it is harder for one partner to do something, they are not equally free to do it. Divorce, pissing each other off, whatever. If I'm poor, and a speeding ticket will mean I can't pay rent, and my friend is rich and friends with the police, you might say we're both free to speed, but you wouldn't say we are both both EQUALLY free to speed. Nobody is saying that people from developing countries are incapable of or too stupid to get a divorce. Nobody is saying that relationships between someone f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/25 09:47 PM |
| 3 | Women, what would your opinion be of an older woman who told you that she was attracted to young men?I wouldn't think anything of it--most women don't stop being attracted to twinks when they get older. Have you heard Gen Xers talk about Legolas? Now, if she said she was ONLY into young men, I would think she was a little stunted. If she were in a healthy, equal relationship with a man younger than her, I would think "well, I guess even the stunted can make someone happy. good for them." If she married her pool boy or intern or a young man who depended on her for cash, I would think that reflec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/25 07:37 PM |
| 6 | The hate on passport bros just proves that alot of women just dont want some men to be happySo I think severe inequality of power in relationships is...bad. I think that if someone seeks out relationships in which they have a lot of power over their spouse, that reflects badly on him or her. Not every "passport bro" (or, for that matter, "passport sis") is looking for or enters a relationship with a sharply uneven power dynamic, but since "passporting" is one of the best ways to get a spouse who can be treated as a subordinate or an employee and is less free to fight with, leave, or di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/25 04:49 PM |
| 3 | There really isn't a correct way to approach womenAs a woman who dates other women: the best way to get a date is to ask out someone who ALREADY wants to date you. This is true of women you know and women you don’t—the most effective strategy is seduction first, then proposition. If seduction fails, you don’t move on to the next phase and hope it succeeds—it won’t—you have to move on to the next woman. Dating apps have it backwards: you have to ask someone out and THEN seduce them. This order of operations seems to agree more with men’s sexual/… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menBy status, do you mean money? The patriarchy never denied women status. Think Jane Austin: Noblewomen with high social connections, charisma, high-value skills (painting, playing piano) etc had high status, while men and women of lower birth, unmarried parents, fewer friends and connections, etc were of lower status. Just because women’s property rights were restricted doesn’t mean she didn’t have status. Also think high school (maybe even the movie Clueless, adapted from a Jane Austin novel abo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Don’t Underestimate Good Hygiene.Some women prefer cologne, others don’t. This usually varies by country and region. Personally, a NICE, SUBTLE cologne makes me way more attracted to a man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 04:00 PM |
| 9 | Don’t Underestimate Good Hygiene.Yep. One reason I hate dating apps is that you can’t SMELL the person you’re swiping on, and smell is a big part of how I experience lust. And the opposite is true too, ESPECIALLY regarding bad breath—if I smell it, it 100% kills my attraction (though temporarily). This also goes for women, who have bad breath only a little less often than men (I’m bisexual, and date both). Floss, people! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menI am a progressive woman. I don’t think that people with disabilities and facial differences should be discriminated against under the law or in public life—that doesn’t mean I am equally likely to be sexually attracted to people with limb differences or Treacher-Collins. I don’t think that makes me a hypocrite. Everyone is sexually attracted to beauty and status. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/25 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Women can't be victims of the male gaze, and also don't care about male validation at same time.“Are you truly doing it for yourself and other women, ignoring male approval entirely? Or are you affected by a male-created system that pressures you to attract men?” The second one. Duh. This isn’t a gotcha, it’s a very well-known and common feminist idea. The fact that, for women, being perceived as sexually attractive to men has advantages well beyond attracting men (like in one’s job, for instance) is a prime example of patriarchy. The fact that I am perceived as unprofessional at my job if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/25 04:02 PM |
| – | Dating in your 20s is impossible if you want true loveTwo things: first, a lot of women don’t expect their partners to buy them jewelry and bouquets of flowers, “lead” (I’d hate that), be emotionally inexpressive, etc. I don’t want those things, nor most of my friends and acquaintances. Maybe we live in different places with different cultural expectations (I’m on the east coast of the US), but where I live, there is no shortage of liberal women who aren’t too into gender roles. Second, though, is that I don’t think it’s hypocritical for women to w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/25 02:31 PM |
| 5 | Most alpha/sigma grindset guys or dating coaches are really just normie/attractive men subconsciously preying on the undesirableAgree with you, man. It’s fucked up. There’s a whole industry preying on men’s insecurities and desire to be desirable, including pick up artists and alpha male podcasters and testosterone supplement grifters and plastic surgeons etc. Personally, I’m suspicious of any type of “self-improvement” method sold to me by someone who stands to make money off it. You’re telling me i NEED to get my asshole waxed? You’re telling me men won’t like me if I don’t—sorry, that I won’t feel feminine and empower… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/25 04:41 PM |
| 17 | The fixation on “purity” in women is often rooted in male insecurity, not morality.What lies? What are their lies? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/25 12:29 AM |
| – | How would you want to be told that your married partner is sleeping around?Not deliberately cruelly or in public. Other than that, there’s no way of telling me that would soften the blow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Liberal/leftist women are the biggest hypocrites“Free market capitalism” refers to an economic system. If you talk about the “dating market,” you’re using a metaphor—sometimes a useful one—to describe something that is not, in fact, a system of economics. While the way romantic love is distributed in a population resembles capitalism in SOME ways—like that it is unequal and influenced by dynamics of supply and demand—they aren’t really equivalent. This metaphor is equally applicable to other chosen human relationships, by the way. The “friend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 07:38 PM |
| 3 | Would you date a man who has full custody of his kids?I want to be a mom. If the kids are young enough to see me as their mother, and I can adopt them, I don't care whether they carry my genes--I'd be happy. If the kids are a little bit older, view me as more of a stepmom, and don't want to be adopted, that would be more of an impediment. In that case, a man having having full custody of his kids would be like him living far away, or having a disability that requires extra care, or being unable to earn money--things that, though no fault of his, wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 03:33 PM |
| 3 | Ladies! I’m just genuinely curious on why you don’t care if your man lusts over other women?Lust is a feeling. People have a right to their own feelings. Plus, the vast majority of people, including me, don't stop feeling lust for other people when they fall in love. Why would I get upset at someone for something we both do that neither of us can help? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 03:09 PM |
| 8 | Women aren't into men and that's a good thingA minority are single. It’s true that a minority of women are not interested in relationships with men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/25 06:14 PM |
| 6 | Women using oppression as power and a shield from accountabilityWhere’s the link tho? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/25 05:39 PM |
| 5 | Women using oppression as power and a shield from accountabilityIf this is a response to a sexual assault victim, that’s indeed very bad. What video is this comment under? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/25 05:25 PM |
| 3 | (CMV) As a man, pursuing bisexual women is the only serious choice if you're interested in dismantling patriarchy in your relationshipDating a closeted queer person who is trying to figure out their sexuality is waaay different from dating an out bisexual. Very different situations there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 09:03 PM |
| 19 | (CMV) As a man, pursuing bisexual women is the only serious choice if you're interested in dismantling patriarchy in your relationshipAyyyyy as a bisexual woman I think you're onto something. Because I've dated both men and women long-term, I am able to say to myself, "would I expect this of a female partner?" If the answer is no, I wouldn't expect it of a man. Straight women don't have that kind of reference point. Plus, we've also had to court women ourselves. I tend to prefer bisexual men for the same reason--they tend to be more open-minded about gender roles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 08:53 PM |
| – | Men's social role is limited by society's preference for "masculine" traitsHere we go. 1. Source? I do not know any "average" woman who thinks she can easily get love. Messaged on a dating app? yes. By a man who is willing to be in a long term relationship with *a woman* and is willing to give her a try? Yes. But the number of straight men I know who have had women be *in love* with them and the number of straight women I know who have had men be *in love* with them is pretty much equal. And now, everyone is isolated from each other, and both men and women are having t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Typical dating advice for men vs typical dating advice for women shows who is really more entitledEntitlement to what? The advice "never tolerate a man who does this" and "never settle" don't imply that if you do those things, you'll get a boyfriend. The goal of that advice is to AVOID a bad man, not snag a good one. The more explicit, general version of this type of advice is what a lot of girls, myself included, are taught in childhood: "no man is better than a bad man." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 06:17 PM |
| 2 | Withholding sex entirely can be a mechanism of dominance and control by a more powerful partnerIf someone says, "no," their word is the last. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Withholding sex entirely can be a mechanism of dominance and control by a more powerful partnerIt's not interesting at all. Checking for consent isn't some arbitrary ritual--both parties have equal responsibility to make sure their partner is, you know, consenting. If, as usually happens during heterosexual sex, you have one much stronger person physically on top of and penetrating a much weaker person, the stronger person must take into account the fact that the weaker person can't just...stop or leave. So the stronger person has to ask. If, as sometimes happens during heterosexual sex, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Withholding sex entirely can be a mechanism of dominance and control by a more powerful partner"The decisive and final word of consent is for the woman" no it absolutely is not. Sex is an activity that requires consent equally from both parties. If the woman wants to have sex with her male partner, but he doesn't want to have sex, they can't have sex. If a man wants to have sex with his female partner, but she doesn't want to have sex, they can't have sex. They both have the same complete veto power. Otherwise, it's rape. Just because it is much easier for a man to rape a woman than vice … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 05:33 PM |
| 11 | Men's social role is limited by society's preference for "masculine" traitsI mean…okay, as a woman, I’m just not sure that women are biologically less motivated to be attractive to the other sex than men are. You know? Like, I can’t say this on this sub without a bunch of blowback, but I’m lonely too. Women want men too. That’s why we’re, you know, dying from BBLs and getting venom injected into our faces and whatnot. I personally know women who stayed with boyfriends and husbands who beat the everloving shit out of them on a regular basis, because they thought no othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 10:41 PM |
| 3 | Do you think it's ok for men to be with women they're not attracted to because they can't do better?I don’t think it’s anyone’s business why two people are together. Like, lying is bad. Exploiting people is bad. But a respectful, equal partnership can exist for many different reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 03:34 PM |
| 1 | The lie regarding nice guysAgree! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/25 08:00 PM |
| 3 | “Women should take accountability more” until it inconveniences men.I think you might be confused about what we mean by red flags. A red flag is a sign that someone might be abusive, like believing in an ideology that says women should be subservient. An “ick” is something that you personally find distasteful, like tattoos associated with working class ethnic whites in the US. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/25 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Do (some) women realize what going after masculine men means?Men who are very big on their own rigid gender roles are probably going to also be big on gender roles for me, which is why I don’t date them. Men who are super ambitious and corporate are usually too into money, which is why I don’t date them. Men who are aggressive are…aggressive, which is why I don’t date them. OP, I thought these were going to be the type of “masculine men” you would cite, so I had my upvote ready. But men who are…Tall? Energetic? They can’t…empathize? Why would that be the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 08:37 PM |
| 35 | The lie regarding nice guysSo THAT’S where you’re getting this analogy. But what a solipsistic viewpoint. Alice kicking Bob in the balls is an unprovoked, unnecessary act of agression. But once Bob asks Alice out, if Alice is not romantically interested in Bob, she kind of has to tell him that—the alternative would be called “leading him on,” or, ad absurdum, entering a fake relationship wherein she only pretends to like Bob. So Bob, upon asking Alice out, has put her in a situation where she HAS to hurt him in some way—i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 07:36 PM |
| 7 | Individualism is overpushed and it hurts the dating scene too.What men are being forced to hire women they don’t want to hire? I am genuinely asking here. In the US, Im familiar with the Civil Rights Amendment that prohibits discrimination against equally qualified candidates based solely on race, religion, sex, and national origin. I’ve never heard of any instance of men (or anyone else) being forced to hire a woman they don’t want to hire. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 10:09 PM |
| – | The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamyLook. I was immediately and fervently against the Tea app, I think gossip is mean and people have a right to privacy. But I think some of you all are not understanding what a tiny minority of women have used that app. It being in the "top charts" of the App Store means that it is a "top ranked app*," which doesn't mean it's one of the top downloaded apps. The app Wingstop (Wings for Delivery or Carryout) is number 7 on this list. Do we think Wingstop is the seventh most downloaded app worldwide?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Responsive desire is not sincere and is completely transactional, unlike spontaneous desire.OP, where are you getting this information about responsive desire being a reaction to a person's action and not the person themselves? I've heard the first part, but I've never encountered the last part. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Responsive desire is not sincere and is completely transactional, unlike spontaneous desire.Why is reactive attraction "reaction to an irritant?" If my mom gives me a hug, I feel comfort. If my friend cracks a dumb joke, I laugh. If someone to whom I am attracted kisses my neck, I feel arousal. Those positive feelings aren't at all detached from the way I feel about the person causing. Nor are they less real because they are responses to actions. I don't love my mom less because her hugging me makes me feel more comforted than her just existing in my line of sight. It seems like some o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Women expect men to deconstruct male gender norms, but aren't willing to break away from normative femininity themselvesWomen aren't born with the predilection to naturally put on lipstick and dresses. Nor are men born with the predilection to naturally cut their hair short and wear pants. Nobody's criticizing men for their short hair, low monotone voices, and pants any more than they are women for their long hair, high expressive voices, and dresses. Why? Because that shit doesn't matter that much. It's nobody's business. Just as women are expected to be brave, self-reliant, and assertive when appropriate, men a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/25 07:41 PM |
| 8 | What makes a guy boring?The same thing that makes a coworker or acquaintance boring--spending time with them is not interesting or engaging TO ME. This can happen for two reasons: (most common) very little overlap in areas of interest and knowledge. Personally, I'm very interested in culture, movies, art, and literature. I don't care for "adventures"--if a guy is a professional paraglider or what have you, that means nothing to me. I've gone on a lot of dates with guys in STEM fields who are too busy with their traveli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/25 06:36 PM |
| 8 | Reddit women are a minority the basic "normie" girl is pretty darn patriarchalYeah, yeah. Everyone outside of your subculture is a sheep with no capacity for introspection. Tale as old as time, man. I hang with a lot of “normie” women, and none of them consider a skincare routine a turn-off at ALL. But even if they did, having preferences for traditionally feminine/masculine personal grooming isn’t THAT patriarchal. It’s like a guy getting the “ick” from women not shaving their legs and putting on makeup. Like, not great. Definitely a double standard. Not something Im ali… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 04:55 PM |
| 2 | How would you feel about a guy that gave you a fake name?I’d feel weird about it at first, or if I found out on my own, but if he told me, “hey, I’ve been stalked before so I’m extremely cautious about giving out any personal information. My real name is ___” it wouldn’t bother me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 03:40 PM |
| – | Incel? Try Tumblr!You get it!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 02:35 AM |
| 17 | Are most men misogynistic or are most men not misogynistic?I don’t think the majority of men in the US are misogynists in that they believe that women are naturally inferior and subservient. Now, that doesn’t mean they don’t sometimes do or say things that are sexist, but I think most of them believe in equality and their hearts are in the right place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 02:33 AM |
| 50 | Thoughts on the “Tea” app?Horrible and dystopian. I had no idea this was a thing until this very minute, when I looked it up. The tagline is “keeping women safe,” but if that’s really what it’s for, why are people allowed to post things that have nothing to do with safety? And, for that matter, why is it called “tea?” Tea is gossip. You would never say “here’s the tea on Jonathan: he drugged and assaulted me.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Women, how would you feel about a guy who told you he is inexperienced and wants to take things slow?I have a (female) bestie who had a real kink for that. I have another who is herself inexperienced, and would find it a relief to hear that her partner is too. Neither is the case for me—I am a non-religious extroverted egalitarian feminist and a city girl without that particular fetish—but even I don’t consider sexual inexperience a turn-off in and of itself.* If a man I was dating said “I’m really inexperienced, can we take it slow,” his honesty would endear him to me, and I would be touched t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 03:14 PM |
| – | What are the signs a woman is only into a guy for his looks?Literally I think this is an underreported red flag. If you see a beautiful adonis who is always whitewater rafting with his girlfriend she is using him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/25 12:18 AM |
| – | What are the signs a woman is only into a guy for his looks?No I mean that literally. Rock climbing or skydiving or tennis or video games or snowboarding or dancing. Things that do not require you to talk and would be fun with the most boring person in the world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 08:38 PM |
| 0 | Average guys are expected to abide different rules when it comes to datingRight. Because what you’re calling “rules” are actually strategies. People who are naturally gifted at something don’t have to use as many strategies to do it. Average person: calculates a tip in their head “sir, I don’t think you meant to tip me 80 cents” Math genius: calculates a tip in their head “thanks for the tip” This doesn’t mean that average people are expected to abide by different rules when it comes to tipping. The rules are the same. If they want to get it right, though, they might … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 08:07 PM |
| 3 | What are the signs a woman is only into a guy for his looks?Dang, you're right. I should've said "SHE'S bored." Shit can be awkward and boring for all kinds of reasons | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Why are you still single?Actually, that guy was the least conventionally handsome of them all, though I did meet him online HAHA no it is not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 08:05 PM |
| 2 | Alot of men struggle with dating because theyre selfish and dont want to be empathetic.What is with people expecting their partner to be constantly texting them? I've seen both men and women talk about how they think their partner to be available at all hours by phone, which I personally think is nuts. And to suspect them of cheating if they aren't? Completely nuts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 07:46 PM |
| 30 | What are the signs a woman is only into a guy for his looks?From my experience as both a woman and a bisexual dater of women: She doesn't seem to like talking to you all that much. If you're not having sex, she's showing you off. If she's not showing you off, you're doing some kind of highly engaging activity together. If you're not doing some kind of activity together, it's awkward and boring. You--your experiences, your tendencies, the way you experience the world--are just not very interesting to her. She doesn't really want to know about them. She's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Why are you still single?I am open to being partnered. Recently, in order: kind of a dead fish as a conversational partner. Moved away and ghosted me. Didn't read books OR watch movies OR listen to music. Nothing--he broke it off. Already had a girlfriend, wanted two. I liked him but I was too busy to maintain the relationship at the time. Sexist. Yes. Kinky. This narrows my pool by a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Men are discouraged from approaching women they don’t know as well as discouraged from asking out women they do know.The thing about reddit that's so wild and misleading is that people from every place and generation are here. So, like, in my cultural context and social sphere, I can tell you that this advice isn't misapplied at all. I have personally had two male friends who I was not interested in tell me they had feelings for me (well, one wrote a poem), I let each of them down gently, and we remained friends. I don't think it's normal or appropriate for grown people to blow up a friendship because their fr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/25 08:10 PM |
| 3 | Women withholding sex is the same as men judging you for your pastNope! The gender-flipped equivalent of men judging women for their number of sexual partners is women judging men for their number of sexual partners. Man, come on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Women should approach moreYeah but like...I would never go out with someone who cold-approached ME, either. I just don't think it works. I've never seen or heard of a real relationship that started with one person just...walking up to a total stranger. Have you? I think my energy would be better-spent on the equally grueling method of showing up at a co-ed activity every week for several years, so that I develop an ADDITIONAL social sphere (thereby not risking the only one I have) that will eventually lead to dates with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Women should approach moreThe thing is, while I’m totally into egalitarianism in dating, I have absolutely zero personal interest in going on a date with a man I know nothing about. Because then I would have to blow out my hair, shave my legs, put on makeup, spend money, and use up one of my precious days off on someone who, chances are, will not share my hobbies, interests, values, goals etc. And then I’ll never see him again! Cold approaching AND it’s equivalent on dating apps is such an unpleasant and inefficient way … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 03:41 PM |
| 8 | How much interest and attention do you think the average woman receives?Yeah, I would consider myself an above-average-looking woman, and I have been “cold approached”—as in, a man I don’t know says “girl you look good” and I say “thanks! you do too” and he says “do you have a boyfriend?”—exactly once. I never considered actually dating him, because I didn’t know one thing about him so the chances of us being compatible were slim, but I was flattered, not offended. Now, dating apps are a different story—I’m completely flooded there. If I had social media, that might… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Women definitely equate (involuntarily) single men with losersWell I mean...I was saying that my left-wing egalitarian worldview precludes me from judging anyone based on "body count" or job success, not that it precludes me from judging based on anything at all. Women who don't care if you're a virgin or a NEET can still think you are politically wrong-headed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Women definitely equate (involuntarily) single men with losersI’m genuinely having trouble deciphering this comment. How will you be judged? In the opposite way to what? Also, I don’t think “gender roles” is, like, some kind of woke buzzword—I see a lot of men and women of all “pills”use it on this sub to describe the expectations that are place on men (like bedding lots of women and making lots of money). Nobody said anything about gender expression. I was wary of using the word capitalism, but I didn’t know what other language I could use to describe val… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 08:25 PM |
| 3 | Lack of Romantic/Sexual Experience Stunts Social & Emotional Development in Young MenAgree! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 03:19 PM |
| 10 | Women definitely equate (involuntarily) single men with losersI don’t think of anyone as a loser, just like I don’t think of anyone as a heretic or a slut. Those are useless, meaningless nonsense categories to me because they represent beliefs that aren’t a part of my worldview. I don’t think it’s bad to say things that don’t conform with a religious orthodoxy, nor do I think it’s of any note, nor do I even keep track of who is or isn’t doing that. Likewise, I don’t think it’s bad not to conform to whatever orthodoxy says that it’s necessary and normal to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 03:17 PM |
| 9 | Lack of Romantic/Sexual Experience Stunts Social & Emotional Development in Young MenI feel like this comment illustrates a phenomenon I’ve seen a lot. Women rely on and are emotionally intimate with their friends more than men are. Venting about and listening to each others problems, helping each other out of physical and social scrapes, talking about feeling etc are not ‘couple behaviors’ to women—they’re what friends do. Women who do these things with their male friends aren’t treating them like a boyfriend, they’re treating them like a friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 06:48 PM |
| 4 | Unless in the context of an LTR, “Physical intimacy” is a word horny people use to pretend they’re romantic.I see a lot of posts like this—someone saying that people shouldn’t use a word because they imagine that the people who use that word all have the same duplicitous goal in mind. “Physical intimacy” is an extremely common and accepted term, and, like most terms, the people who use it are primarily using it to express their thoughts, not disguise them. Sex is intimate, but in a physical way. It’s not a misleading term. Everyone knows what it means. It’s fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Ideally, how much of your value do you think should come from sex?Okay. I want to be married for the rest of my life, which means, at some point, I will cease to be hot, and he will cease to have a working erection, and we will no longer have sex. If a “percentage” of my “value” to him is how sexy he finds me, that means he will value me less and less as I age. If, on the other hand, he enjoys my company 100% for the sake of that company—if he would want to be my friend, my roommate, etc even without the sex because he likes me—then I can hope that we will be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 08:09 PM |
| 4 | Men are discouraged from approaching women they don’t know as well as discouraged from asking out women they do know.Yeah, I mean…there are some opportunities outside one’s social group, obviously. I have one friend who did wind up going on a few dates with a guy she met for the first time at a bar, so it does happen. And I’ve only ever lived on the east coast of the US, so my experiences are limited to that environment. But every relationship I’m personally in contact with at this time has had both parties exist in the same social sphere for at least some time before they got together. Which, by the way, I th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Ideally, how much of your value do you think should come from sex?None. I want my partner to value me AND desire me, not value me BECAUSE they desire me, in part or in full. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 06:02 PM |
| 12 | Men are discouraged from approaching women they don’t know as well as discouraged from asking out women they do know.It is my opinion that men (and women) should absolutely ask out women (and men) they know. I’ve only ever dated people I was already friends or acquaintances with, and I have never and will never be interested in going out with an absolute stranger about whom I know nothing. Because what are the chances that we will share values, interests, cleanliness-level preferences, etc? Very slim. That said, of course, asking out a friend or acquaintance who is not already interested in you will not MAKE t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 05:55 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of a guy making you wait for sex?I mean, if I want to have sex earlier or more than my partner, I feel a little disappointed. Everybody would prefer to do things when, how, and how much they themselves want. It’s not a turn-off, though, because it doesn’t reflect negatively on my partner. It’s fine. I’m fine with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 04:31 PM |
| 2 | The market depicts your value, not youThis is not a feminist take. Just because a take may hurt redpillers’ feelings doesn’t make it feminist—in fact, feminists have fought long and hard to establish that a woman’s value shouldn’t be tied to a their appeal to the opposite sex. I get that when OP talks about “value,” they mean, implicitly, value in the dating market, but I think that should be made waaay more explicit—I don’t love a title, for example, that basically says “your value is all about who wants to fuck you.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 03:01 PM |
| 4 | For straight women who date bisexual men.I didn’t have to overcome anything! Imo people on this sub talk about the “stigma” against bi men among straight women like it’s this entirely new and different phenomenon, but we already have a word for it. It’s called homophobia. If you think, as many straight men and women do, that having sex with other men makes a man somehow tainted, unmasculine, overly libidinous and promiscuous, and carrying STIs, that’s what that is—whether or not you are in a position to date said men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 01:54 PM |
| 0 | "Every woman is unique in their taste in men" lol no they aren'tLots of women are unique in their aesthetic taste in men. I’ve seen some men post about how they feel undesired because they have a small penis, which is of course valid, but I personally have a strong aesthetic and sensational preference for small penises, so they’re my Jims. I’m into shorter chunky guys, and sexually submissive guys, though not as strongly. But my tastes in PERSONALITY are quite conventional: charisma and good social skills are a must. I think people have about as much control… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Do women look down if you have less wealth ?How much money a man has does not factor into my attraction at all, except that it would make me uncomfortable if he were way wealthier than me. Even for the purposes of family-building, I figure if he’s broke, he can stay home with the kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Men are angry about the current dating dynamics because they don't want to feel cucked.Women also want to feel desired. I think everyone’s ideal relationship is with someone who has only ever had eyes for them. I don’t see why men should be more angry about that than women are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Most people, regardless of political affiliation, believe men who date trans women are gay or bisexual.You definitely have point about the fact that someone liking x thing in porn doesn’t mean they’re into that thing IRL. I still think it means something that porn sites show that, as a general trend, sites that cater to people who want to masturbate to women have more demand for porn of trans women than sites that cater to people who want to masturbate to men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 06:24 PM |
| 0 | Most people, regardless of political affiliation, believe men who date trans women are gay or bisexual.I don’t think this at all, mostly because I personally know a straight guy who is dating a trans woman. A lot of people (including people in this thread) seem to treat “who is into which trans people?” as a philosophical question, rather than a demographic one, but that seems silly to me. Straight porn websites feature plenty of trans women, gay porn websites don’t. (Though they do feature trans men.) It seems to me like some (but not most) straight men are attracted to trans women, just like so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 03:01 PM |
| 1 | How would you react if you found out the man you were dating had a 'slut phase'?I’d be delighted. I’m an outgoing person with a high libido, and I don’t want a shy partner. I would say “good for you, man. I’ll peg you anytime.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 08:19 PM |
| 2 | Question for feminists: If paying for sex with prostitutes always non-consensual since that consent is bought with money, wouldn’t that make all paid labour also non-consensual since that labour is compensated with money?I am a card-carrying feminist, and I don’t think this at all. I think sex work is work, and consent is consent. To say sex workers can’t consent is patronizing. In my experience, women who identify as feminists are more likely to view sex work as work that should be legalized, regulated and unionized. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/25 02:05 PM |
| 7 | Q4Women: What have you learned that you didn’t know before since being subscribed to PPD?This is a little thing, but it really stuck with me: someone brought up the fact that a lot of women become offended when they are hit on by a man who is "below their level," because they are embarrassed to have been perceived as on a "lower level" than they think they are. And, yeah, a lot women really do that, and some are even rude about it. And that's not nice and should be called out. I'd never really thought about it before. Also, how fucked-up, insidious and awful the whole "small dick en… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Apparently women just magically turn “demisexusal” around average menLook, I can’t speak for all women, but my attraction isn’t all that complex. I can be attracted to a very handsome man immediately upon seeing him, because seeing takes no time at all. I can also be attracted to an ordinary-looking man for reasons such as humor, personality, intelligence, and charm, but that takes more time to perceive. If I have sex with some men before other men, it’s because those men possess a type of attractiveness that “kicks in” more quickly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/25 10:01 PM |
| 2 | How plausible is the type of man you want?He doesn’t have to initiate. I’m a feminist and I know what I want; I’ve initiated at least half of my romantic encounters. Rejection is hard to handle, and he doesn’t have to do it perfectly—I certainly don’t. He just has to avoid being an asshole to me, just like I have to avoid being an asshole to him. He is a leftist because he believes in real equality between races, sexes, and orientations. How did he come to this belief? Maybe he was raised in an urban area, like I was. Maybe he went to a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/25 09:30 PM |
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