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1	Prenup gotchas(NY edition) Yeah, she should have one. It's probably not absolutely necessary for you both to be repped unless you want to do something like waive any future alimony, but it's definitely a good idea and a best practice.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/03/25 05:01 AM
2	Women and their Disgust for Prenups The irony being, she's getting exactly the same amount of financial security whether she signs a prenup or not, provided she stays married. The financial security she's worried about missing out on is what she'd get if the marriage ends. She'll then accuse the guy of having "one foot out the door" already, neglecting the salient fact that the guy is the one who actually proposed to her. If he wanted to be single, he wouldn't have done that, and all he cared about was his money, the last thing he…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/25 04:06 AM
1	Women and their Disgust for Prenups Child support and child custody can't be negotiated in a prenup.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/25 03:54 AM
2	Women and their Disgust for Prenups Could be lots of things. Just being impossible to live with, financial infidelity, sexual infidelity, family abandonment, etc. If the marriage is over, somebody's gotta pay the filing fee. Even if the wife doesn't want to divorce either, filing for divorce might be the only thing to get the husband to shape up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/25 01:51 AM
2	Women and their Disgust for Prenups Who actually benefits from having a prenup (and to what extent) depends on what's negotiated into it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/25 12:37 AM
1	Women and their Disgust for Prenups Also I'm pretty sure prenups still have to generally follow your state's guidelines on marital asset division upon divorce. Not really. That's the point of the prenup. If two people getting a divorce in a community property state agree in advance to divide their assets 70/30, the state's not going to step in and force them to divide their assets 50/50. It's only when divorcing couples can't agree on who should get what that the courts get involved.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/25 12:33 AM
3	Women and their Disgust for Prenups Often, the person who initiates the divorce has not much to do with who wants to end the marriage, or who is to blame for things being at that point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/25 11:43 PM
1	Women and their Disgust for Prenups "Lemme tell you a funny Sean Connery story. One time, I stole food from catering."	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/25 11:30 PM
2	Women and their Disgust for Prenups Prenups can absolutely be written to protect assets acquired during a marriage. And also to protect from separate debts accrued by either party. Presumptively, it's worth it for all couples who are getting married. Even if you believe all marital assets should be divided 50/50 in a divorce, a prenup can set out which 50 goes to which person, which helps keeps the actual legal process from becoming an ugly rock fight where only the lawyers come out ahead.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/25 11:13 PM
3	Women and their Disgust for Prenups He's from round the way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/25 11:09 PM
2	Women and their Disgust for Prenups The idea that prenups routinely get thrown out in divorce court is a myth. The opposite is true, and when prenups are set aside, it's usually not because they were signed under supposed duress (which has to be proven, in any case - you don't get a prenup thrown out just by asserting you were under duress). It's fine if you don't want to get married, but what you think you know about prenups is wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/25 11:09 PM
10	Women and their Disgust for Prenups It's not pointless - the state's prenup treats just about everything as shared. A prenup negotiated between two people can be written to protect certain marital assets, even those yet to be acquired. And even if you think marital assets should be split 50/50, a prenup can lay out in advance which 50 goes to which person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/25 08:02 PM
8	How do women manipulate men into not getting a prenup? Correct, in theory. But assets that are supposed to be separate property can be transmuted into joint marital property pretty easily, often unintentionally. And you don't realize it until years later when you're in divorce court. Like say you get a cash inheritance from your parents. You put it in a bank account that's got only your name on it. That's separate property. But then, for some reason, you transfer money from a bank account containing joint assets into this separate account. You've no…	/r/MensRights	10/07/24 05:31 PM
8	How do women manipulate men into not getting a prenup? Ironically, child support and custody are two of the very few things that a prenup can't address.	/r/MensRights	10/07/24 05:11 PM
22	How do women manipulate men into not getting a prenup? We don't need one because we don't have any assets between us.	/r/MensRights	10/07/24 07:16 AM
2	Are you for or against prenups? You have it backwards. An upheld prenup that protects certain assets acquired during marriage decreases the extent to which a judge can bend the result to provide to the woman. Assuming your prenup stands up in court, you'll most definitely make out better than if didn't have one at all. In addition, you'll spend less in lawyer fees.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/24 08:09 PM
2	Are you for or against prenups? I would assume a lawyer, acting in accordance with their client's wishes and best interest, will attempt to challenge a prenup no matter how it's written. It matters not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/24 07:47 PM
2	Are you for or against prenups? Prenups can be written to protect assets acquired during marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/24 07:23 PM
2	Are you for or against prenups? If you acquire assets during your marriage, it’s only fair that your spouse get part of that. I would agree with you. But the questions are, how big a part, and which part? A prenup can help you determine those answers in advance. For example, it's common to suggest that marital assets should be divided 50/50 in any case. That's fine - but who gets what 50 is the question that's never addressed in advance. It's left to get sorted out in a potentially contentious divorce proceeding years later, w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/24 06:43 PM
2	Are you for or against prenups? And for people who have no intention of acquiring any assets during their marriage. Basically, if your goal is to stay broke forever, you can skip the prenup.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/24 06:13 PM
1	Are you for or against prenups? You can negotiate out alimony in a prenup, though not child support.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/24 06:11 PM
3	Are you for or against prenups? It may not make your ex-wife rich, but a contentious divorce can easily make your lawyer rich. And that's arguably reason enough to get one - to put guardrails on an inherently unpredictable process.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/24 06:08 PM
5	My unbridled opinion on marriage ...and I don't want to hear nothing about prenups they can be contested. Just get a prenup.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/24 08:02 PM
1	Will I have to pay alimony? Divorced after 4 years together The only thing I can remember hearing is that in California, for marriages less than 10 years, alimony is paid for half the length of the duration of the marriage. Over ten years, then alimony can be paid for an indefinite period (as determined by the judge). If you and your soon-to-be-ex are still friendly enough to make a deal, I would think it's possible you could negotiate an upfront payment in lieu of monthly alimony. But my assumption is that this payment would have to be pretty sizable, o…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 04:21 AM
4	Getting divorced A lawyer would give you a definitive answer, but I suspect the answer to your question is no. Or if you do, not for very long. Your wife's sleeping around and your own personal difficulties aren't likely to make much difference.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/05/24 07:16 AM
0	Protecting Men in Marriage - Prenups? Prenups can be deemed void on a whim because it wasn't timely, or financial disclose was inaccurate, or it wasn't fair to both parties, or a ton of other reasons, despite being a document signed and agreed by both parties. By definition, these reasons you cited mean the prenup wasn't voided "on a whim." Any competent lawyer will tell you the 3-4 most common reasons that prenups are set aside - and avoiding these trip wires isn't that difficult.	/r/MensRights	07/05/24 09:37 PM
6	Protecting Men in Marriage - Prenups? Most of the time they do. You'll often hear otherwise from the manosphere's peanut gallery, but rarely will you hear a first person account of "We both hired lawyers, negotiated and signed it months in advance, crossed every 't' and dotted every 'i', but then when we got divorced, the judge threw it out with no explanation." If anything, it's a 2nd or 3rd person account that's suspiciously light on details. Or else it's a blanket statement of their general inefficacy. Selection bias is probably …	/r/MensRights	07/05/24 03:39 AM