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I am dating a guy with anxiety. Allso have anxiety disorder myself (and a few others) I actually can't fathom dating a neurotypical person because they won't understand the struggles. I would assume it's like that for most of the people with mental health issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:36 PM
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Overly pomiscuous behaviour and inability to set standards for partners ARE self-destructive behaviours though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:21 PM
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That's so wholesome 🤍✨
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 09:54 PM
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Yes. Came to that conclusion 10 years into marriage with an autistic guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 09:40 PM
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Yes, and they should stop doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 09:37 PM
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To be fair, it sounds like he might have another condition on top of autism, maybe "borderline personality disorder"? As far as I know, that kind of sensitivity is not always a part of the package. My ex-husband had Asperger's and if anything - he was overwhelmingly insensitive to most of the things (including me haha)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 09:30 PM
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There is something so fascinatingly homoerotic about guys worshipping dudes like Tate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:49 PM
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Omg...eeeewww...thanks for the heads up - I really don't need to watch this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:44 PM
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They like being considered inferior? Possibly the ones who have been indoctrinated to think that's natural state of things or God's will and have little opportunity to excercise their agency in society anyways? Though, of course, that would be an attempt to label that as "privilege" or "being chosen" rather than "inferiority". I know the story from my mom, took me over thirty years to unlearn it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 03:58 PM
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Omg hahah, this was such a bizarre comment that popcorn bucket dropped out of my hands. Impatiently waiting to see where that train of thought would take us ⊙﹏⊙
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 03:32 PM
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Abrahamic religions have pretty unanimous views on women, their desirable/undesirable behaviours and their place in family/society. Sure, it's possible to make it work, but that would require too much mental gymnastics to ignore the obvious that I personally wouldn't be able to perform.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:36 PM
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So supposedly he has "muslim" values and he evaluates people according to those? Curious: is it ok for you to be have sex and/or call him a friend knowing he probably considers you inferior?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:21 PM
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I agree. By the time I moved on I was on the track out for a 2,5 years (a total of 11). The breakup was the end of the process, not the beginning of it. And yeah, I started dating immediately after.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 09:51 AM
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It's called internalised mysoginy - aka women assessing women as men would. It takes a while to drop that acquired view if you grew up with that framework, but it's doable: none of my friends ever do any of judging women for behaviours/looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 09:37 AM
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My ex was a SAHD and then worked parttime when his daughters were at school because his wife had a much better paying corporate career and he really loved kids and has a very special connection with them. I fell for him because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 07:54 PM
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Lol. Tbf, to a lot of people he looks like a deluded narcissistic POS.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 07:30 PM
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Not all. Most of them are, indeed, reasons being: low EQ, higher number of people on the spectrum, male gender socialization and lack of effort to learn how to do better. I have never seen "a social butterfly" of a man do bad in dating regardless the looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:41 PM
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111% of the RP/BP incels would end up in divorce because they are socially incompetent/psychopathic blobs if they ever managed to get married. Those numbers just show that women are better off on their own than being married to the likes of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 01:20 PM
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It's much easier to give someone a piece of bread or kind attention than your own body for someone to use to get off. And no, I don't expect you to have enough empathy to grasp it because you obviously don't owe me one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:54 AM
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Sure, it's fine to want sex while also being able to grasp that nobody owns having sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 03:16 PM
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It's the words that he used to describe her. Ugh. But really just shows that RPers possess degrading views of women and are undateable and unfuckable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:36 AM
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I am 40 and thank God my standards are waaaaay higher than when I was 20 or 30. Coincidentally (or not), my satisfaction with my relationships has gone up, as well. The OP is hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 06:02 PM
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He was genuinely super interested in this woman only to start shitposting about her when it turned out she wasn't? The OP is so loveable 🔥🔥🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:52 PM
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Can confirm. I immediately fell for the guy who had squeaky clean sheets, shining bathroom and kindly offered me full breakfast in the morning, still no regrets! 🤍
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:54 PM
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Love your your nickname 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:15 PM
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No shit, duh. On behalf of women and kids I am praying you are hopelessly sexless ✨
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 12:36 PM
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And that women will miraculously get rich off their pennies. Unbelievable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:08 AM
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Not any sex. Choosing to have unsafe sex is an automatic consent to parenthood if it happens to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:04 AM
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How about fckn stealthing though? I had guys do that to me and my blood is boiling with rage. The last one said " no worries, you give birth to the baby and I am willing to adopt and raise it" this shit is fcked.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:00 AM
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Preach!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 02:54 AM
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Lo. I can't please stahp.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 02:51 AM
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So what? Never heard of the term "mother's little helper" to housewives in the 50's?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:13 PM
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I agree. Was married for 10 years and also have had plenty of therapy attempting to fix unfixable relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:12 PM
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Wha? I can totally blame people for wanting to do morally dubious behaviour when it comes to getting laid. It's not like your kids are starving ffs. I also abhore any other immoral behaviours for the sake of "success". Are they given a pass or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 12:41 PM
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Deal? There is a great way: someone is acting up - walk away, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 07:42 PM
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TIL I got a proof my short arms are a turn-off 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 10:31 PM
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US talking? I had a boss in my ex's job who would get up at 15.40 and say "hey, guys, the meeting is over - I gotta go pick up my kids at 4". Nobody blinked an eye. High-tech, fyi.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:45 PM
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Damn. This so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:19 PM
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Wow, damn...makes me thankful for being below average. And even I get catcalled and have some drunk slimeball hitting on me from time to time. And then, of course, all the "fun stuff" from older men when you are growing up: those pervs give zero fucks if you are a 3 or a 9 or human at all - they are just power tripping.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:05 AM
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You can also pee yourself, I think that should work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 11:59 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 11:56 PM
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I will answer on behalf of my mom. She really wanted a child and thought she could pull it off (not so sure about that, but here I am and made it to 40 lol). To be fair, my dad and her were married, albeit for a short time, but he was flaky all along. He departed when I was four and lived literally next door while trying to avoid seeing me more often than once a year: accidentally running into him in the streets or on OT was somewhat awkward and traumatising.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 11:53 PM
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In pre-covid NL the number of users was 2 mln (out of total 17 mln). I haven't seen the recent numbers though, I would assume they increased somewhat during pandemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 11:37 PM
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This is spectacular, thank you ✨
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 11:32 PM
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Me, too. Hopeless haha...so awful that it actually feels good! 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 12:24 AM
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Amen to this
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:02 PM
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Ah thanks for the idea, I am now thinking about my friends' husbands and 90% are literally "yuck" to me on so many levels. "Hive mind" my ass 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:38 PM
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Wha? What is this awkward attempt at shitting on women? Aren't you tripping over yourself while simultaneously saying that it's more difficult for women, but you want your wife to have "an easy job" of working at preschool? "facepalm" And I have plenty of (actively involved) dads in my surroundings, they would be thrilled to learn that "it's nothing" because it seems like they are unaware and struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:59 PM
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Preschool? Jesus, this level of delusion! That work's hell lol. I worked with those ankle-biters for a couple of years and have a kid - pretty much any work in my books is easier than that. I am in awe there are still teachers willing to deal with that for shit pay (where I live). There are even a couple of dudes at our preschool, I am amazed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:41 PM
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Date someone on the spectrum or no one at all. Also, go into therapy with your partner. Source - was married to an Aspie, it was a big mistaketo think I could handle it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:06 PM
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Fckbuddy or casual dating - I don't care about your values as long as you know how to fuck consensually. When it comes to relationships/marriage/friendships - lefties only.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:55 PM
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Ouch. Fraternity maga. That only gets better lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:25 PM
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Nah. We just know how to check 'dem out without staring.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:18 PM
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I totally select guys on the basis of asses lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:17 PM
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Ah damn... that's refreshing, isn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:40 PM
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This.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 05:55 PM
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Lol. I can't. Women choose careers and THAT'S WHY dating life sucks for them? What if they choose careers exactly because they DON'T WANT to depend on men and life is much more rewarding than of trying to date and appease to some dude with your "morals"?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 05:50 PM
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He wants you to value (aka fetishize) his virginity as much as some men do and is frustrated it doesn't sell🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:06 PM
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You are right. I was an idiot for thinking better of men, thanks for rubbing it into my face. I didn't realize most are dishonest POS and that's entirely my fault. And that's why I have no desire to engage - I guess now I have learned my lessons, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 11:34 PM
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I feel like there should be a service akin to "borrow a girlfriend/boyfriend" in China. I even saw a documentary on it recently. Start-up idea, anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 10:47 PM
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Haha. You have no idea how many coupled people with kids dreaming about possibility of doing something on their own. I still enjoy going to cafes, movies and parks by myself and give zero fucks. I now have a fwb who has three kids (geez) and me - he does that, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 10:44 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 10:27 PM
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If they became mysoginistic because they were not handed out sex? Eeehhmmm...that's a long discussion that doesn't belong here. Can you keep your goalposts where they are please. All I am saying is that someone is unattractive (and moreover- bitter mysoginist on top of that) I totally don't expect them to be better sex partners than hot guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:54 PM
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Sigh..and? That's a widespread opinion among men INCLUDING less attractive guys. In fact, I find them to be more mysoginistic and bitter on average than attractive ones (and this attitude is not going to make sex any fun)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:43 PM
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What I saw on TRP/incel subs/forums about sex is always incredibly ignorant and often downright rapey.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:28 PM
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When I say "vetting" I observe how they react to those subjects being brought up in conversations. You are right, it doesn't seem to do the trick though. E.g I say that communication and consent are important to me in sex (way before any physical contact) and they enthusiastically agree, but don't act on it - what am I supposed to do? Give out actual sex ed sheets and then do a written test? Nah, it's not worth it. If my experience is that I can't rely on whatever men are saying to me, I am not …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:22 PM
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Guys had no trouble telling me all kinds of things about themselves and still being disrespectful. And here in NL soft drug use is a non-issue btw haha. I used to be much more trusting, empathetic and open, but my dating experiences taught me to be not that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 08:14 PM
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I have gotten pretty harsh at vetting and it was all good up until the "action". And I always bring up consent and safety right away and I live in a liberal city and go for educated middle class dudes. I have had guys who seemed to be completely pro-fem and liberal would still manage to do some unexpected stunts in bed. Including a university professor who had been my friend for years and is teaching some "critical thinking" course in a very liberal school. I went for him thinking he surely know…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 07:52 PM
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Yeah, so much this. I tried casual after divorce and geez, no, thanks, chances of running into someone who knows what he is doing, where clit is and willing to hear feedback - it absolutely is not worth it. The last one who resorted to duracell-bunny jackhammering and tried to choke me said: "Why are you telling me how you like it? I am naturally awesome" "sad cringe" The only way to do casual in a satisfactory manner is FWB arrangement with someone who has proved his aptitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 06:43 PM
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Exactly. I can't use hormonal contraception (health reasons) and bring up condom every time before the act. EVERY guy is totally on board with that /s PS. One of those POS said: well, sorry, I stealthed you, but if you are going to get pregnant - I am willing to adopt it and raise it... Awwww (actually, not)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 04:07 PM
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Yeah, but then comes the second part: and then parents exploit them and try to manage every aspect of their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 03:39 PM
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Oh damn. I dated a guy like that. He was on the short(ish), but was was handsome, funny, incredibly smart, respectful and chivalrous. I feel like that guy got me what TRP would call "alpha-widowed" (oh the irony).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 03:33 PM
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True. I showed the picture of the gigachad (that model) to my gals and everyone was like "eeeeww".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 01:32 PM
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Now that was hilarious.Hygiene is not improvement, it's basic maintenance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 08:06 PM
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I already commented earlier. I am using social media to do the background check to see what kind of guy that is in attempt to ensure my safety. Also, I ask them to show their ID if I am heading to their place the first time and send the addresses to my friend (and don't hide it). I bring all of this up in the conversation before the first date - if somebody doesn't like it, I accept and move on. Early in my dating there was a guy who fussed a bit when I mentioned it "I am not like other guys bla…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:27 PM
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I bet most of the dudes here who are condemning women for doing that are going the ones who are going to be pointing their fingers at the women when shit happens to her in dating situation "What were you thinking? Didn't you know who you are dealing with? All women are stupid, irresponsible and are sexually attracted to shitty men! Waaah!"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:43 PM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:18 PM
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You can choose to remain private as much as you want, sure. I wouldn't judge you for that. You do you. However, my safety is my responsibility and I need to have more information, besides what you are feeding to me and if I don't have any source of that - it's a no. So please don't judge me for my trying to protect my wellbeing. That includes saving myself from having to hear "wtf was she thinking - she didn't even know him" in case some shit happens. PS Once I freaked out and outright banned so…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:09 PM
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You are right, many of the attitudes come from our primary relationships. However, those can change, too. I have my own reasons for not trusting women and actively seeking validation from men (hi, mom and dad!) Those were later cemented by social constructs. It's possible to revisit those ways if they no longer serve you and choose to act otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 04:34 PM
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I feel like you are contradicting yourself. Because men are taught, men can unlearn and learn the new ways. These patterns are not cut in stone -cultural paradigms change and so do human behaviours. I grew up being taught that my value is determined by how much I am liked by men and that I have no inherent worth otherwise. Lots of therapy, investing in my friendships and learning not to rely on the partner to feel worthy and happy- I am in a much better place (also in terms of relationships)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 04:25 PM
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TLDR "Don't be a pussy, bruh, embrace your lonesome angst!" This has been around forever and so far, judging by the state of men's mental health, hasn't done "bruhs" a lot of good. Time to try a new approach for a change?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 04:05 PM
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I love and appreciate my friends and I am straight! Though tbh the fact that women around me are on average so much more empathetic and supportive sometimes makes me wish I could change my sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:55 PM
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I assume that men need to learn not blindly accept those metrics. That will benefit them and will also change the way they relate to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:44 PM
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I assume that men need to learn not blindly accept those metrics. That will benefit them and will also change the way they relate to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:44 PM
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I used to dig compliments from men and disregard anything from women. Now that I am 40 - it's the other way around even (though I get more compliments from men now than I did in my 20s).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:31 PM
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Absolutely!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:27 PM
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Yes. Transaction as in "I make you feel good - you make me feel good" Love, support and care are also (emotional) transactions. Transactions are the foundation of the relationships, why bother being involved in it otherwise They are best if it's mutual, reciprocal and voluntary.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:27 PM
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I don't have a problem, thanks for asking 💕 No, they can't, can they? Lol. Expecting a subservience from their partner, literally buying them out and whining about how local women suck makes them sufficiently creepy and low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:17 PM
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Ouch. That's fucked :/
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:09 PM
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LOL this is great
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:08 PM
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Why wouldn't they have height preferences that align with non-immigrant population? This country is still predominantly monoethnic, unlike the US. Many women here are tall af, too. A lot of Dutch guys actually prefer taller women, too (I read an article about why they turned to be the tallest nation in the world within a relatively short span), so I am not in their pool, either (with 5.1). Doesn't bother me a bit. As for Dutch men who have wives from the third-world country - yikes. But you see …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:04 PM
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Yes, but you will probably pass by a couple hundred which will still put them in top 10%.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 11:43 AM
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So these guys are: she is average. Also, these guys: I am average, all my looksmatches are stuck up and have unrealistic expectations, I am doomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 11:39 AM
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Is it a trolling attempt? I will kindly answer anyways, even though it feels a bit silly. The whole point of purple debate is to to debate RP/BP stance, so it's both for these guys AND bluepillers, nopillers, greenpillers etc. That's why there are arguement for and against in every thread. Though I get the impression that since most BP/RP subs are shutdown the influx of guys with this ideas is turning this sub nto mostly an echochamber.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 11:34 AM
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Shhhh.... don't say that to RP people, it is highly unsettling for them to have their views countered 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 11:12 AM
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That's why you should try and hear other people than RP/BP
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:59 AM
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Good technique is super rare in general, I met like two guys who had something a lot more than regular shuffling to demonstrate. Also, with a big dick I imagine there isn't sufficient room for maneuver 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:52 AM
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Technique is much MUCH more important than size.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:49 PM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:47 PM
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I am talking about my own experience. I am not answering the question you didn't ask. But I understand where you come from, I have been stuck in the relationships with no chemistry because that was my reasoning, as well. Not doing it again even if my only other option is to remain single.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:38 PM
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I can usually register chemistry when we kiss. Sometimes it's like kissing a dead fish and sometimes it makes you want to turn inside out. There have been times when I felt attracted to someone sufficiently and ta-dam - dead fish effect. But if it's a big yes - there is no doubt. I feel like it correlated with high inhibition/low inhibition in some ways. Some people feel like they are suppressing/controlling themselves so much that the mammalian instincts are not even able to kick in when it's t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:25 PM
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It doesn't grow from my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:02 PM
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If that's your experience makes sense to mention in on the profile to avoid someone who is hung up on it. I mentioned my bra size just in case someone was looking for something else (bigger) haha
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:55 PM
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Sigh. Yes, but sad sub locals will always find a more convenient explanation instead of the most logical one. Like a menacing Chad with a big dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 06:50 PM
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Same. We had two therapy attempts, as well. It was bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 06:42 PM
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Meh, sure, you can ignore what women tell you and lean on some hazy theories instead. And if I wear something conventionally "sexually appealing" I do it for the specific person in mind - not to elicit lewd comments out of random creeps out there. But of course you'll ignore what me and other women have been saying so you act like assholes and then run around and whine when women are not very welcoming. It's very entertaining to observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:59 PM
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Why does narrative matter? Either way she is not into you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 11:25 AM
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The men who complain about how awful women are on this sub won't do well in Northern Europe. It's the stronghold of feminism haha. It's also terrifyingly full of chads, the majority of men here are good-looking (damn) and well-adjusted, so I don't even know how one can assume they can easily jump into the dating market. Also read on the local forums that Dutch girls are not into dating foreigners e.g. (have no first-hand experience with it for obvious reasons)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 11:24 AM
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You will need to reference your source. I haven't seen those on female-dominated subs and I am an active female redditor.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:55 AM
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I can understand how feeling full is pleasant. But cervix orgasms? It's rare. Most women don't like their cervix smashed because it's painful, ouch.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:40 AM
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Nah. I had a guy with a really big dick, somewhere at the very bottom of my rating. Knowing how to use it and other skills are more important. And chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:35 AM
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But you know for sure 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:10 AM
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Lol. You are defeated by big dicks, don't even.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:09 AM
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Lol. One of my partners is spewing RP tropes sometimes which is somewhat unsettling. The only reason why I keep returning is good oral skills, too good to leave behindll
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:38 AM
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Wow lucky you. I was taught to shut up and look up to men and that I had no other value than servicing and pleasing them. The only time I got to visit my dad in his apartment (after divorce we would meet outside - until he disappeared completely) he forced me to wash the entire floor - on my fours. Well, because that's the way to raise a girl. I shit you not. Upd. Gotta love the downvoting 😜🤞
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:15 AM
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I think men who get to interact with actual females on a regular basis will get to see that women are humans who can be shitty and not so shitty and even nice. Also, need for idealisation (and accompanying hatred) and black-n-white views in general bare a sign of immature psyche that is not able to reflect the whole spectrum of experience. Also, traditional female gender upbringing and socialization tend to favour submissiveness, conflict avoidance, prioritising "being nice".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:02 AM
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Oops typo
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:54 AM
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Again. Men should start treating men who failed at dating nicely. Paradigm shift should come from men learning to support beach other.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:44 AM
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It does. And I am really concerned BP/RP folk will get hit back badly when it comes around.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:40 AM
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If women were happier they would be struggling to go back. But I expect common trope in response - you will say that they wouldn't know. Which will render further discussion meaningless, as usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:37 AM
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Just because one wants to play it out in the bedroom (or in their head), doesn't mean she would necessarily want the same dynamics in the rest of her relationships. It's a way to engage some parts of psyche, but not the totality of it, e.g. one can be a sub sexually and a CEO of a large company - that kind of combo is actually quite common from what I read.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:33 AM
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Incentivize solidarity over competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:57 AM
3

There are quite a few cases of people starting to gain weight after having experienced sexual abuse. It serves as unconscious protection mechanism of some sort.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:52 AM
0

Women on average tend to experience less loneliness because they tend to invest effort into creating and maintaining communal bonds. Not because they get lewd comments from a random thirsty guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:49 AM
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I know, right? How about they start respecting us just for having dicks in our pants and provide their vaginas for getting them wet right now? Or else! incels will rise up and force you back into caves "wah"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:45 AM
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Lol. Mental gymnastics levels are fascinating. Summary "We are going to treat you like shit just the way we treat each other. The only reason for us not to behave like shit is pussy" I mean you can't beat the logic 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:37 AM
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Women can compliment each other without it having to be sexual. In fact women don't need sexual validation from anyone except for their partners. Cmon guys, I know this will eventually sink in, we are going to keep trying to get the message across 🤞
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:28 AM
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Lol. I got close to zero compliments through 10 years of my married life. And if I wanted one my husband would say that "I was fishing for validation". That's not uncommon in LTRs, most men are emotionally stunted. Needless to say I am no longer married.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:11 AM
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I was groped (under skirt and shirt) on the bus when I was 12. Unwanted sexual attention is never about your attractiveness, it's about powertripping.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:05 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:02 AM
1

Woman wearing whatever clothes is not a call for your attention. Mind your business, walk off.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:00 AM
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I think it's "asshole conspiracy". Some assholes get to appear virtuous protecting women from others while simultaneously approving and validating each other's asshole behaviours. That's how "strong men" get to seem useful in this "cold harsh world".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:57 AM
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Good god. As you are an ugly loser, but not for the reasons you think. You are warped.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:49 AM
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They also think "nice ass" is a compliment, duh. Honestly, I don't even remember getting actual compliments from men - usually it's some lewd remark. Women are capable of noticing a person though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:46 AM
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Lol. The kind of meltdown you are having all over this sub? I see 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:42 AM
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You are sick. No we can distinguish being approached by a creep vs a rape attempt.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:39 AM
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I don't think he registers, no "rolleyes"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:34 AM
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Yes, yes, that patriarchal bloodbath of Afghanistan.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:33 AM
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Love this one. So you are being a white knight and fighting against some men who is doing shit to your woman that you think is justified? I can't even, it's so brilliant. I rejoiced. Sometimes I entertain the idea ome part of male population engages in a stupid conspiracy plot of this sort to make themselves seem useful 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:32 AM
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Omg yes this
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:24 AM
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Better way to excercise solidarity and support for yourself - men-to-men. Unlike women, you know. Premise of feminism is that woman's value is not defined by men. I think you can and should come up with similar ideology. Or something much much better (since feminism is so blatantly awful 😜)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 08:03 PM
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Dudes, go ahead and make a better one pahleaze 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 05:41 PM
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Low inhibition. Found in people with mental disorders (cptsd, adhd, bipolar etc.) They will may use sex as self-treatment (makes the feel better for a short while), develop sex-addiction and us it as a gateway to connection (because they also have attachment trauma and know no better how to form relationships with people) Source: many years of therapy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:41 PM
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I am boringly average and I haven't registered any perks so far. What were they supposed to be? Where do I claim them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:10 PM
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You are not wrong, that's his point. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:05 PM
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Men can do the right thing because, you know, it's the right thing to do. Moral values, ethics. They don't need women to learn what it takes to be a good human. Seriously though, I find this pattern of thinking so bizarre. You can figure out, guys "patting on the back"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:01 PM
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Why would you care what women say? Grow up FFS. Go do things that are right for you, don't expect women's approval and validation 😑 Men are shitting on women's display of solidarity and support all the time, yet it's not a reason to stop, it looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:57 PM
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If someone is applying this fantasm to real humans - it's their problem. Same goes for expectation of "divine masculine" from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:51 PM
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You are a kind person 💕 Buy you are right, if I ever tried to explain something that was very personal and painful someone would try hard to tear you down. It sucks. I don't think being vulnerable brings much value unless you know the person at the other end is going to make an effort to hear and understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:38 PM
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Whoa. Because women are fucking whoever they want we are going to unleash our fury on them. Wtf, this sub is petrifying and hilarious simultaneously, it makes addictive reading.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:26 PM
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You think women would be willing to go back to traditional gender roles? What's so attractive about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:07 PM
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I agree men need to learn to support and validate each other. Except there is no external entity that doesn't allow them or should encourage them - it's completely up to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:00 PM
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I am sure a lot of people don't mind the notion of monogamy, but don't like the possibility of being stuck in the relationship with the person they don't enjoy being with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:54 PM
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Some ex-RP/BP should turn into a shrink and examine the dynamic, write a book, make public statements, set up some therapy or peer support network. Obviously, these guys are just caught in the cycle of relational trauma and the only way out is to experience healthy(ish) social connections (no, it doesn't have to be women, men can emotionally support other men just fine and emotional intellect level necessary for that is something that can be developed)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:47 PM
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I think they are just happier alone than in shitty relationships. It's all relative. I am in a much better place for having divorced. Do I still want a relationship eventually? Only if it adds to my well-being, what's the point otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 11:00 AM
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those things start at an early age and less to plethora of mental illness and body image problems and food disorders, and no, those kiddos are not whores, you sick fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 10:39 AM
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BS. I don't know anyone who'd think otherwise. You guys must be living in a parallel dreary universe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 10:36 AM
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It's called "internalised male gaze", so yes, a lot of women would assess themselves from some stereotypical male attraction perspective because that's the feedback she has been getting all her life. Like moms would make their young (not even teenage) daughters go on a diet because "chubby is unattractive" (I have heard those stories a lot and it's damaging af in the long run).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 03:14 PM
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Don't, it's none of your business?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:58 PM
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Meh. I always split. Don't go on dates with girls who don't offer to do so, if they expect it to be otherwise - it's their problem and you can just walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:27 PM
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You are blue collar worker and want a high value woman with a career? So you want to marry up and of they don't want to marry down it's because they have "low opinion about men"? The reason is probably they want to marry me someone in the same socioeconomic tier.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:12 PM
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No, you are so wrong lol. Where do I start even? Feminists talk about certain kind of objectification, go do your feminism 101 reading comprehension instead of spewing utter nonsense "facepalm"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 12:12 PM
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No, you don't get it. Nobody is going to look down on him, unless he behaves like as ass to his own offspring. I have no problem dating dads otherwise because being a good father is a big virtue in my eyes. And I have no problem with guys having been pegged, either. Your logic is fucked lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 12:10 PM
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Alimony as lasting damage? Wtf. I would only date a guy who has kids if I knew he is taking good care of them. If someone starts complaining about alimony I know to stay the fuck away from the dude (and I know many women would feel the same).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:41 PM
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Lol. I know. They tried to make us understand and we just won't get it, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:31 PM
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Asperger's, to be specific. Yes, we went to family therapy for over two years (with the shrink who specialises in autism) and he had personal therapy. I am very understanding of his struggles and supportive. He is well aware which of his behaviours lead to our struggles, but it didn't lead to any changes. And I myself have been in personal therapy long enough to understand that if I don't see them then it's time for me to walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 06:28 PM
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So you are saying that you have pursued women who gave you nothing emotionally because of how someone out there may determine your value? I got some interesting insight, thanks. If that has been your dating motivation no wonder the experience has sucked, maybe you need to reconsider what and why you personally are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 06:05 PM
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Yes, I appreciate that you made the effort to read and comprehend my response /s I understand why you guys don't get it, it's because you choose not to hear what you are being told.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 05:28 PM
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If you feel like you are entertaining someone while the other side is not engaged why even? Just drop it. I drop guys who can't pull off a decent conversation all the time. I can have an entertaining conversation and empathise with a brick wall, seriously, it's zero effort on my side, but I don't automatically extend my effort to someone who doesn't do it to me. The difference is that I am not going to say that it's unimportant and has no value in the relationship just because someone didn't rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 05:12 PM
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I see. I think it's just easier for empathetic people with higher emotional intelligence to be good conversationalists and seem engaging and interested. And empathy and high EQ also is what makes it possible to build connection within relationship. So there is a correlation there. For me relationship is not about the person's interests and hobbies and looks, but about his desire and ability to build that space between us where both of us would feel valued, supported and cared for. I can't possib…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 04:31 PM
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What's yours? And how is talking, spending time, doing small acts of care, supporting and being emotionally involved a "narrow definition of relationship"? I don't know why else I'd need to have a person around, whatever the gender or relation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 03:52 PM
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They wrongly attribute it to inherent lack of attraction towards beta, instead of actually examining how their own behaviours can contribute to how relationships develop (or rather deteriorate): "she left me/stopped fucking me because I am no Chad" I didn't leave my husband because he was no Chad, I liked him silly and dorky just fine. Unfortunately, he is also a bit autistic and he kept treating me like a piece of furniture and I couldn't take it anymore, so I quit. I am happier now than when I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:59 PM
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No. It's about how bitter you make it sound. Sure, a lot of people are and resentful because of failed relationships, including me. But I still want to find someone I can genuinely connect to and care for and spend time with and have learned how to stop engaging the ones who don't value it or can't offer me the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:51 PM
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Yes, I do. I find it amusing that RP folk tend to interpret them as mind games that evil manipulative women start playing in the relationships once they settle. The same goes for "sex withholding". No, it's not a manipulation, it means the person who withdraws is unhappy. Ideally, one can talk about their needs with the partner. But that takes courage and vulnerability to express and attention and empathy to hear, i.e. emotional intelligence from both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:34 PM
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Yes, it sounds like a butthurt rant lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:08 PM
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If I started spending less time with the person and paying less attention it just means the relationship is deteriorating and I am less interested in doing all those things. Perfectly logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:59 PM
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Then you don't have to worry about how to build foundation of human relationship, I still don't get why the whining though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:38 PM
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EQ is not directly correlated with introversion. If you are not willing to engage/relate/bond with a person, then it's fair to assume that relationships are not for you because why? Just because you want your dick serviced?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:24 PM
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If you go by "engaging a human as a human" is exhausting then don't be surprised you run into someone who is equally unenthusiastic about making an effort to engage. That's only fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:01 PM
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Lol. You did something you didn't like to women who didn't like it either? Communication might go a long way, you know. I had a guy lick my toes out of the blue, ugh, gross haha. why not ask instead of making assumptions?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:35 PM
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What a load of bullcrap spoken on behalf of ALL WOMEN lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:29 PM
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BJs are a common expectation from women, whereas with guys going down it's hit or miss. I am not complaining now but it's because I currently live in an egalitarian country lol, but a guy giving oral was a treasured rarity when I was dating in my 20s. I knew guys who considered it demeaning to their status, ugh. So it's not female-centric scenario, quite the opposite: sex has been so much about male pleasure than female until recently. Not everyone knows how to deliver good oral sex, but I still…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:14 PM
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The kind of sexual objectification that they complain about is when you cannot see OTHER parts of humans besides them being a sexual object. Sure, I want sex and want to be wanted, but I also need intimacy, connection, emotional bond, doing fun non-sexual things together in a relationship. It's the same thing with attraction to looks, sure, it's part of the general attraction, but not all of it. RP folk seems borderline psychopathic because they are missing so much of the nuance, makes me wonder…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:00 PM
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I do it as a woman all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 11:50 AM
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Nobody shames anyone for wanting/thinking sex. It's the predatory behaviours that get disapproval. Of you are not able to differentiate between the two then you are a part of the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 11:48 AM
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Recently I read that t-levels are higher in women who have sex often which in turn makes them pursue sex. So it's a loop.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 11:43 AM
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Interestingly, I landed in the literal chadland after moving several countries. I still freak out a bit when I get to date handsome guys, they were never on my radar because my home country was (and still is) a land of beautiful ultrafeminine women very much invested in their looks and competitive (and conceited and entitled men lol) Upd. It's also a staceyland. Which was unnerving initially. Now I kind of think that the abundance of gorgeous men/women is desensitizing for everyone (both very go…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 11:08 AM
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Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 02:34 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 02:29 PM
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Nothing beats a bunch of insecure folk whining about "dual mating strategy", I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:38 AM
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Because it sounded immature and insecure af. Sure, everyone has those feelings. But plenty of feelings are to be taken to the shrink office and be dealt with, not be used as a basis to overturn your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:34 AM
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My ex had hot girlfriends and active social life when he was younger, while my dating life sucked. So what? Am I supposed to be bitter and resentful?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:31 AM
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Omg haha. What a ridiculous prick.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:26 AM
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Lol no, it explains fairly well why one can expect "same" things from one gender or the other, duh. It's not a couple of shitty experiences, it is a much bigger societal pattern. If you choose to ignore - go ahead, don't expect others to do that. And nobody but yourself can challenge it by choosing to behave differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 07:58 AM
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Where would the assumption that she only talks to one person come from? I don't expect the guys I match to only talk to me, why would anyone? Lol. It's not naive, it's plain old stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:39 PM
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Yeah, how loud and aggressive are those? Anyways,t hat's not what I asked, but the fact that instead of answering my question you used it as a chance to point fingers back at women speaks for itself. Sigh.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:25 PM
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That last sentence - you nailed it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:38 PM
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Sure, it's totally fine to speak for yourself, your history and your own personal preferences. Not everyone is you, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:19 PM
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Sure it can go sideways. Like anything where human emotions are involved. Doesn't mean one shouldn't be clear and upfront about initial intentions though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 05:06 PM
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No they can't lol. They so busy trying to bash women from either side that they don't notice how they are contradicting themselves at every step.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:54 PM
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Ah ok. So them doing things that are not ok lets you approve of other things that are equally not ok. Totally makes sense "slow clap"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:46 PM
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Lol thanks for enlightening me on what ALL guys want and think, poor you, it must have been shitty. And no, not everybody is after LTR, FWB and casual dating are working schemes for some men and women and they intentionally pursue it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:29 PM
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Let me guide you through it, since you seem to be missing some nuance: some people on dating market are after ONS, some are into casual dating, some are into LTR. Sure, all of it can start with a date and a fuck. But if the guy just wants to casually fuck around while a girl wants an LTR and intentionally misleads her - that's douchey af.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:55 PM
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Thank you and blessings ✨
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:33 PM
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No. A lot of people are explicitly dating for LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:30 PM
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How am I to distinguish between LTR prospect and pump&dump situation in dating? Will you enlighten me so that I don't miss the signs? Because I personally make sure to communicate my expectations and preferences in advance and don't expect anyone to figure it out by my behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:29 PM
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It's not about martyring. It's about complaining about other people being shit when you deserve no better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:18 PM
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I don't support women who lie and manipulate. It's not ok. So why is it ok for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:16 PM
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You didn't have to write the last sentence, it was obvious lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:52 PM
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Looks like it's a bunch of us, we shall unite haha
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:45 PM
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How do you deal with all the bros who say that they are just after pussy and women are stupid and inherently worthless otherwise? You can't blame women for assuming that a lot of men subscribe to these ideas and being guarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:15 PM
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Disagree. There is definitely a difference in male gender socialization and female gender socialization (aka certain expectations with which men/women are brought up). It's up to a person to search inside oneself and see what that upbringing has suppressed and what it has brought forward. As a girl I was expected not to speak up, to always look pretty, to be meek, not to act too smart or too intense. So according to my mom I failed big time in being a "woman" lol: she put so much pressure on me …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 01:57 PM
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The first, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 01:12 PM
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I know the feeling. Do you consider yourself an empath? I know I am and it's a gift and a curse. I really had to work on my boundaries to make sure I don't automatically extend it to everyone, but random overspills happen less often now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 12:39 PM
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I have had the love-bombing experience that turned into "cold-hot" draining relationship dynamics, so I am on the fence about someone immediately going crazy about me. On the other hand, if someone is taking too slow to engage I lose my interest pretty quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:33 AM
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Knowing how to get someone off ruins the surprise? Wow lol ok
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:15 AM
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It's not about inceldom, it's about psychopathic ideology that RP is. I don't mind incels, but I mind the views that some of them subscribe to and push around, eeeek. I feel sorry for them, too, though, it doesn't mean I am going to actively engage, my sense of self-preservation won't let me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 10:48 AM
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Lol, you don't say 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:53 AM
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I never did, neither did my friends. Lol. Isn't this post about misconceptions about the other gender? Well, there it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:43 AM
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That's entirely your preferred transaction. To imply its everyone's and expect accordingly is plain old dumb. You are welcome to stick to your preferences otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:37 AM
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Did he specify that his deal beforehand? I doubt lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:20 PM
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Never get into relationship unless you specifically specified that it's almost entirely about sex for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:19 PM
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LMAO No, not at all, you are right. I have no clue why all these guys are complaining here about not being able to procure one 😬🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:13 PM
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Well, sure, your call: just make it clear beforehand and then see what kind of women will agree and what kind of requirements they will set forth in exchange. Just don't start whineposting about how women are so vile and how the relationships with them are so transactional then haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 10:34 PM
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No. Emotional connection and mutual support are the foundation of relationship, sex is a part of it, but not the totality. If I want sex without any connection imperative I will go for a dildo instead of a human and I suggest all the RP guys just stick (in)to their flashlights, that's better for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:31 PM
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Loooool. That's it - this vow is totally not about commitment and support, it's about putting out (when you are sick, weak or on your deathbed).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 08:41 PM
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While I am not denying the fact that some people play mind games and I find it to be fairly entertaining to observe, I am also saying that a fairly large subset of population chooses not to. It's my choice and my expectation from my partner. I'd rather be alone than deal with this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 08:17 PM
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Omg lol. Ok, so you expect a full-grown adult to have no idea what she wants? I mean I can imagine a person being like that due to learning disability and developmental trauma, but from developmental psychology (and personal "authority/alpha" parenting experience) I know that saying "no" to other people and exploring/stating healthy boundaries is a process that starts around the age of two and is completed at adolescence. Heck, if anyone's willing to guide a virtual kid like that through life wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:57 PM
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Proper Dom/sub dynamics fall within BDSM domain, so it's ALL about consent and communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:24 PM
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I apologize if I misconstrued. I am addressing the common RP sentiment which arises from the same context. Don't let my mistake it derail you from the main point I made though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:18 PM
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I would be disappointed, of course. Having a kid is a joint venture, therefore it's shared risks (informed risks preferably). If at a certain point my libido plummets (for any reason, really, not just childbearing), my expectation is that he will empathise and suck it up. And it goes both ways, of course, what if my partner had major sickness - would I have the right to impose myself on him? Not of course, that's ridiculous. I think redpillers and all such guys are so sex-depraved, lonely and au…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:11 PM
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Wtf. Having desires/existence is compared sexually imposing yourself on someone? Ouch, those are some grotesque boundary issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:08 PM
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Last paragraph - NO, that's soooo fucked. Is this theoretical or are you in a relationship in which you can pull this off?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:05 PM
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Omg yes this. Thanks for spreading word of wisdom on this sub 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:59 PM
2

Oh pahleaze. Just never marry full stop
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:52 PM
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No. If a man wants non-stop sex he better be childfree. Kids are always going to be in the way, one or another (postpartum depression, sleeplessness, tiredness, increased amount of chores and concerns, just physically unable to find enough alone time for a fuck)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:48 PM
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Nah. It's the other way around. I find it messmerizing that someone considers their insecurities so important that instead of dealing with them they can go as far as demanding compliance from all women out there. Also, the idea that a virgin gf will make one happy with that level of insecurity is bs, it will play out in some other ways, so nothing will (I have witnessed that myself) And I am not a secure person by any means, I just know not to demand all men there to stop fucking and be delivere…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:34 PM
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Well, sure. It's mostly a congregation of insecure RP/BP folk who can't stand the idea of a girl having fucked someone hotter and then "settling".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:20 PM
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You are not wrong. Nobody is entitled to anything. Sex and relationships should be absolutely voluntary to engage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:12 PM
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Meh. My ex-husband had incredibly hot ex-girlfriends before me, so what? There is always someone better out there, your sense of inferiority and insecurity will find something to leech on. Upd. He is a dork and an oddball, too, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:06 PM
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I want my relationship to be egalitarian, safe and easy to communicate through, so thanks, but no, thanks, I am not playing these games, it's mind-boggling. If someone finds that entertaining they are welcome to find a party to engage. But I also assume that then the men who will do so will eventually come to RP forums crying about how women like "playing games" lol. And I am fine with my partner being vulnerable within reasonable boundaries, but the same goes for any person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:48 PM
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First of all, I would never stick around someone who would constantly be saying mean and sarcastic things to me. Secondly, if someone thought I was shittesting by "saying "hold my bag" or "trying food out of their plate" I would be seriously weirded out. Why would anyone in their right mind do that to the person they are interested in? Compliance or dominance in dating? I want connection and mutual care, not some power game. And if I can feel that, silly joke here and there is ok. So if you don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 01:40 PM
2

Omg lol. This is so autistic haha
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:05 AM
3

Bi guy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:40 AM
1

I married my ex because he was the first person I could easily have a nerdy talk. Men in my experience generally can't stand nerdy smart women, though it's gotten better since I moved to the western European capital.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 02:30 PM
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20 - 40
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 12:29 PM
1

So much lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 12:20 PM
2

Thanks, likewise 🌺
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 03:05 PM
3

It's ok, no worries. I am better off being alone and being occasionally entertained by someone young and enthusiastic rather than being in a relationship with someone who is like your mate anyways, so it's only fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:52 PM
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Attractive enough doesn't imply you need to be a chad or chadlite, that's the nuance that RP is missing. Also, my ex-husband wasn't my type at all, he is a total oddball and there was zero initial attraction, but he was so sweet and kind that I totally fell for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:22 PM
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That's what I thought, too, when I started dating after divorce because women hear that story about "the wall" all the time - you think RP is breaking some news here? It's mutually good though - since I am THAT old and undoable for them they automatically filter themselves out so I don't even encounter those haha
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:15 PM
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No, I won't go for someone ugly, but I also am not going to go for someone who is 9-10 out of 10 (very good-looking people seem to be able to get by in their life without having to develop some interpersonal skills because of pretty-pass). So looks are not completely unimportant, you are right, but that's also not "looks come first". Character,. disposition and compatibility come first. If the person is also handsome, that's a nice bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:05 PM
1

For fucking or relationship? For fucking dumb uninspiring Chad with will do. For relationship I would go for someone emotionally intelligent, with good sense of humour and shared values. From my experience of being in LTR looks are not important.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 01:01 PM
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The problem is corruption and misallocation of funding. Surprisingly (not) countries with better social infrastructure are less corrupt and rank higher in well-being. But sure, if it makes you happier to exercise your "lonewolfness" without caring for anyone else you are welcome to go to countries where it (social infrastructure) doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 12:37 PM
1

I am ultimately selfish to want to live in a nice safe place where people are generally taken care and act accordingly. I am in NL right now and I moved here from India (where social infrastructure and safety net are nonexistent and income disparity is huge). Also, lived in other places around the world, including the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 12:06 PM
1

Libertarian much? It's generally beneficial for everyone in the society that kids are taken care of and receive education so they grow into well-adjusted adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 11:34 AM
1

Sure. This social safety net should be destroyed so that men can keep enjoying being abusive alphas in their families.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 11:23 AM
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Good story, but no. I have much better dating life now than I did in my 20s. I am almost 40 for reference. And a lot of women remain single because they prefer to be alone than in shitty relationships catering entitled pricks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 11:18 AM
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Interesting point. I always knew what "a man needs" and how to cater to anyone's needs and be amiable, it's just female gender socialization at work in more patriarchal parts of the world. So I have spent the last ten years figuring out what I personally need and want, that's far more difficult to learn and practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 11:14 AM
1

So that desperate measure is helping resolve the problem? Very logical (not). But if in a lot of western countries it it viewed as antisocial and threatening, so if a man still does it that's hardly getting him any bonus points.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:40 AM
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In the end for both genders it's about finding balance between your weak and your strong. I dislike men who are unable to be vulnerable, and don't get along with women who play weak and submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:52 AM
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Well, I understand. But all things considered I would prefer sexually entitled Chad to a sexually entitled bitter socially awkward redpiller (men would also make similar choices, so that's not gender-specific)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:42 AM
1

Ah thanks for the context. It kinda makes me wonder how guys who don't fit into inherently macho culture are doing in terms of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:26 AM
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Ahah. You think it's narcissistic because someone should be feeling flattered by being threatened and intimidated? That's hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:20 AM
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Why the best-looking men would risk appear intimidating to get sex if according to TRP they get laid with no trouble? It's because it's not about female attention, it's pure power tripping. Also happens a lot when it's a group of men, then they feel even braver encouraging each other to act out, eeeeek.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:14 AM
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Getting a smile by catcalling? Lol wtf. Do I assume it's the same men who complain about women being bitter bitches who don't want to be approached at all in the end?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:09 AM
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I think it's more about enjoying a power move. And in fact, for a lot of men sex seems also to be about power rather than intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:05 AM
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So much this. None of the women in my family could walk away from the guy in previous generations, even now in my extended family I see them putting up with being physically assaulted. I feel like I am the first one to actually have and exercise the choice to find what's right for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:00 AM
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Yes! I am looking into this subs to see what kind of men I need to vet and avoid since I started dating because I have been so bad at it. It's amazingly helpful haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 10:51 AM
3

Lol. Good shrink material there, take my upvote 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 10:12 AM
2

Are these mutually incompatible? From my experience the guys who don't want to put any effort are the exact same guys who are sex-obsessed and entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 10:10 AM
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Lol. So you are intending to casually fuck 45 women and you are complaining that it is exhausting and toxic? There are so many layers of wtf to this 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 10:07 AM
2

Bullshit. I am an average 40 year old woman. I can''t even count the number of times I have been physically assaulted (starting as a teenager)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 03:51 PM
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Well, duh. Because the idea of what kind of investment is needed on behalf of men has changed with technological progress, contraception and freedoms that women got out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 09:45 AM
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My kid was waking up about a dozen times a night for the first 4 years. That's on top of all the other childcare routine. Even if we had sex in those four years I wouldn't remember, that period is a blank spot on my brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:36 PM
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I grew up into a fairly patriarchal society (by western standards). I was taught to look up to men because they are men, keep my mouth shut, be sweet and kind (because that's what women are supposed to be like). It took me while to unlearn those automatic behaviours. Now I don't have to practice those just because someone expects that from a woman but still insists on treating me like shit. I am kind and empathetic and caring to people who know how to reciprocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:20 PM
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you can continue keeping your head in the sand if you find it convenient lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:00 PM
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Lol, thanks. This was a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:50 AM
2

When I lowered my lower age limit for matches on tinder I suddenly got hit by a lot of younger (ten or more years younger) chadlike guys. I am almost 40 and fairly average. The interesting thing is I actually wasn't popular or had good dating perspectives or great sexual life when I was under 30, so go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:47 AM
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I will tell you a little secret: men have too long oppressed female sexuality, so
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:33 AM
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Nothing new, it's called cycle of trauma for a reason. I was treated like shit by my dad, so it took me a lot of effort to unlearn it and start respecting myself (and a lot of money I spent on shrinks) Because in the depths of psyche there is this neural connection between being treated like garbage and love.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:46 PM
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Yes, that's exactly why women should want to start going back into their cages. Or else. Meh, society has always made women responsible for men acting this way or that. Maybe it's time to grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:39 PM
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Wow, impressed by your mental gymnastics skills. Humanity needs less menial workforce not because of feminism, but because of technological progress. And no, neocons don't need feminists, lolwhat? They need people to be oppressed for them to thrive so they very much would prefer men to be menial underpaid uneducated workers and women to be unpaid household labour with even fewer rights (and that's exactly their voter base, too, because of the talent of humans to engage in mental exercises akin t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:26 PM
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Good one. You forgot the quintessential "shallow and narcissistic" part though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 12:11 PM
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Multiples without foreplay...lol, yes, right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 10:16 AM
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Well hi there, now you came across one. For a long time I thought I was highly unattractive, now I think I am fine, though not everyone's cup of tea. I am probably 5 out of 10, but also funny, chill, kind and good at flirting (and eventually sex). I know plenty of women who have bad self-esteem issues (including ones that I'd consider 7/8 out of 10) - it is sad, reallly :(
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 10:02 AM
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Relationships don't need to start with crazy, passionate or worshipping. I'd in fact try to avoid someone who tends to fall head over heels, that's creepy af. Relationships grow gradually with time if both of the parties are willing to invest into them, they don't happen instantaneously.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 11:54 PM
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Omg "cringe" Maybe instead of saying "no" politely she should have run off screaming. And no, you are not playing a victim card here, not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 10:45 AM
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Obviously, I was talking about males in general, just like you were.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 10:00 PM
1

So you have no desire to form intimate relationships with other men and then go and blame women for loneliness? Makes so much sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:03 PM
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This!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:01 PM
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Mostly because men give no fucks and have no clue about what it's like to be a female, so in the end it is all mutual.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 07:32 PM
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Whoa whoa. I was dating a guy who had been a stay-at-home parent for his daughters (his choice) and I found that to be sexy af, because I have a kid myself and I know what it's like.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 08:01 PM
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