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| 702 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago. | B-80 | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 08:42 AM | |
| 7 | I posted this on /r/loseit, but I got a few PMs that said I should X-Post | B-80 | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 06:03 AM |
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| 0 | Being Persistent After RejectionI don't really know what you are asking, should you keep hitting on her? That's up to you man. If you are really down with this girl, there's nothing wrong with not ridding yourself of her. You're right, you have nothing to lose, but be aware of the dangers of falling into oneitis. Other than that, just make sure you're not obnoxious about it. You should make it clear that you're interested, but it can't be the centerpiece of every interaction or you'll come off as completely obsessed. If this i… | /r/seduction | 03/03/13 01:19 PM |
| 1 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.Just being involved in a conversation with someone random will give them some value, however small. Think about the last time you got in to a good conversation with a stranger. I know for me, it always brightens up my day to be reminded that there are other good people out there that I don't even know. If you guys manage to find some common ground, e.g. you like the same band, then you can use that will also give them some value through the fact that their subjective taste in something has been … | /r/seduction | 30/08/12 05:06 PM |
| 1 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.You are so over-thinking this. What do you do when "the convo comes to a dead end" with your male friends? You sit quietly for a little while. Get out of your head and none of this shit will feel awkward. | /r/seduction | 29/08/12 05:39 AM |
| 2 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.Fucking really important for me. Why the fuck would I want to hang around a chick I didn't connect with? | /r/seduction | 29/08/12 05:24 AM |
| 3 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.I disagree with a feverish ferver. Have a good day madam. | /r/seduction | 29/08/12 04:37 AM |
| 2 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.I know a lot of girls who say this. It's hard for you to understand what you like and don't like, what works on you and what doesn't. It's not creepy at all to touch a girls arm or something if you do it right. Open your mind, every single piece of pick up advice ever will include a piece about kino, it works. | /r/seduction | 29/08/12 04:01 AM |
| 7 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.If I told you what I would say to a girl at the bus stop, it probably wouldn't work for you. I am not acting. If you try to study what someone else would say to a girl and repeat, you'd a faking and even if you managed to do well with girls, which you wouldn't, it wouldn't be you. That's not what you want. You want to go and find girls that want to spend time with you because you're an interesting guy, with your own thoughts, opinions, and experiences to share with them. Now, that said. Telling … | /r/seduction | 29/08/12 12:43 AM |
| 2 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.No problem dude, happy to know I helped. Thanks for the kind words. | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 10:31 PM |
| 1 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.Think of it this way, cool is a synonym for confident. Everyone likes a cool guy right? | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 07:18 PM |
| 2 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.Basically, yes to both. You don't have to pretend you are "hot as fuck," but you should definitely pretend that your looks are not hurting you. In time, after you've approached enough women, you will see that they are not, and you will naturally start believing that. All you can do is be the best you that you can be. Obviously, some people will be more turned off to your flaw than others. But everyone has some physical flaws (I am short for instance, and a tad pudgy). Some percentage of girls ca… | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 07:14 PM |
| 20 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.I think this is some of the best advice I've ever given, but I can't seem to get people to read it... Thanks for the kind words though. Good luck out there. | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 06:25 PM |
| 1 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.I think this is a very good balancing post to the original. I wanted to write that post in a certain tone and wrote it late at night, but I agree with almost all the caveats you wrote here. | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 05:18 PM |
| 1 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.I was 22 when I lost my virginity, you're not that far behind me. You should go out tonight and try to talk to girls. I didn't mean that you shouldn't ever talk to girls if you aren't confident. Plenty of guys with low self-esteem get with women. And all of us have insecurities. As lifebeckons mentioned, nothing helps confidence like positive reenforcement. All of these bullets were directed at a guy who was upset because he didn't understand why girls don't like him/why he can't get a girlfrien… | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 05:11 PM |
| 1 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.Everybody has to start somewhere, if you aren't comfortable talking to women there's no way you can hit on them. Talking to store clerks and stuff is a good step, it's practice, but it's not the real thing. What I meant by that bullet was that you shouldn't be upset at the lack of girls you are getting while your only approaches are chatting up a store clerk. | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 05:07 PM |
| 5 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.Good point. I just always felt like this community didn't focus on the fact that the "rules" were training wheels that eventually need to come off. | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 02:27 PM |
| 120 | 5 things I would have told myself 3 years ago.This is from the link: Just keep approaching, and it helps to be direct at first, because it should always feel good to give someone a compliment on their looks, regardless of whether or not they are into you sexually. They are just people, don't you want a girl to come up to you and call you beautiful? They will feel the same way. Put yourself out there and get shot down enough times that it doesn't phase you anymore. That's the first step. Thanks for the real talk. Wise words. Any advice on ho… | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 02:25 PM |
| 9 | [FR] Grocery Store # Close"How you look doesn't matter" is what you tell beginners so they'll actually put themselves out there. How you look does matter... It matters to you if a girl looks good right, they are people just like you... That doesn't mean you shouldn't approach a girl if you want to talk to her because you think you don't look good, you have to play through life with the hand your dealt. It's just about making the best with what you got, and that means that you can't go around all day worrying about not be… | /r/seduction | 05/06/12 02:53 AM |
| 2 | Putting arms around girls.Just do it when you are both laughing or something, like you put your arm around her waist and give her a squeeze in a moment where if she was a guy friend you'd give him a high five. It comes off a lot more natural that way, then just leave your arm there and she probably won't even notice it happened until it's you've been sitting there like that for a little bit. You need to get comfortable sitting with a girl with your arm around her though, it's a huge IOI if she lets you do it and it's an … | /r/seduction | 31/05/12 11:44 PM |
| 3 | Ladies/gentlemen of seddit: I'm a woman who would like your advice on how to get asked out more.I disagree. If you speak of love in terms of an emotion, it is not some special magic from pixies. There have been studies that infer that it's a physical addiction to another person, just like you can be addicted to crack, alcohol, or heroin. On the other hand, if you mean that it is a situation that has to be proved with years of commitment, then I agree, but that would be a given for any new relationship. tl;dr just because someone is inexperienced, doesn't mean they don't "love" | /r/seduction | 07/03/12 02:18 AM |
| 3 | Where do I invite/take girls from school? Is it better to ask a girl to dinner, a bar or to a group event?My 2 cents: the fact that you are thinking about it that hard is a problem. digital_rain's response is kind of in the right direction, but I think he's going too far with the "its all about you" thing, and midnight_toker22 has just the opposite problem. You're in college. Nearly all of the chicks you're going out with just want to have fun with you and use you to get off sexually if you escalate correctly. Don't even think about going out with a girl as a date. My biggest problem a year or two a… | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 09:46 AM |
| 4 | Seriously relevant, X-Post form BestOfIs there some sort of awesome singing blowjob I don't know about?! | /r/seduction | 30/01/12 11:25 AM |
| 15 | Talking to women at gyms: how is this NOT creepy?I came here to say this. How have you been a member of this community for any time at all if you still worry about "being creepy." Do you know what "creepy" is? It's a bad game to physical attraction ratio. You will never be "creepy" if you know how to talk to women. That said, I can understand some women being turned off to being hit on at the gym for the very reasons you said, but the worse case scenario is getting blown out. If that's still a problem, then you need to focus on dealing with yo… | /r/seduction | 26/01/12 08:56 PM |
| 3 | How can you meet the girls in your classes?I wish I didn't drink coffee, because that's honestly a pretty sick line if you ask me. | /r/seduction | 09/01/12 10:58 AM |
| 3 | You texted a girl when you were drunk and it was just bad. How do you recover?Is "I love you" a hurtful thing to say? Cause that's normally what happens to me when I drunk text. | /r/seduction | 02/01/12 02:09 AM |
| 2 | You texted a girl when you were drunk and it was just bad. How do you recover?Don't mention it until the next time you see her, then laugh it off hard. The point is to not be embarrassed. Disney movies will tell you the manly thing to do is apologize and take responsibility. Unfortunately, in real life, all that does is make you come across as weak. The key is to make it look like you were in control of the situation. Don't think of it like "you got more drunk than you wanted and fucked up by texting her." It was new years eve and you wanted to get as sloppy as you could.… | /r/seduction | 01/01/12 09:00 PM |
| 11 | AFC problems... I've been there. (crosspost from f7u12)This is dangerous advice, because it leaves you open to lose a chance. Basically, don't wait too long. If you see them a lot, you will have a much lower chance of anything actually working out. Also, they might accept a date because they would feel awkward saying no to someone they interact with that often... that's a situation no one wants to be in. For someone like a cashier, you have almost no time for classic "gaming." You pretty much just have to hope she is in the mood to meet someone; thi… | /r/seduction | 14/12/11 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Girls: You'll text me for days but not agree to a date? Really?The theory is to not get hung up on one girl in the first place. It's not about "let me exhaust my chances with A and then move to B." It's "let's see what A, B, C, D, and E are doing tonight" and then picking and choosing who to hang out with. Most people won't agree with me on this point, but I think you should keep asking as long as you want to keep asking and you aren't getting oneitis. If/when she says no, she said no... Think about it, after 3 no's...well, it's not like she was going to ca… | /r/seduction | 07/12/11 11:26 AM |
| 7 | Q&A with the ladies of seddit (requested in another post)I guess the idea behind the reply was the right one, but I just proofread that and it was not "eloquent;" haha. Regardless, thank you, I'll try and give some insight on my thought process... As far as discussion, the best piece of advice is to be meticulous in your use of absolute language. You will come across as very weak if you only ever "think" this or "believe" that. Unfortunately, it is rare for someone to change their viewpoint to align with someone they feel is weak. However, it is also … | /r/seduction | 05/12/11 04:18 AM |
| 2 | How do you cope with jealousy?Easier said than done buddy, but you need to forget about that. If you use other people's opinion of you as a metric for happiness, you'll die a sad mess. Read up on some of the "inner game" stuff; that's the first step for you. Basically it's a catch-22. You need to be happy with (or attracted to) yourself before you can attract others. However, people are often unhappy because others are not attracted to them. The only way around this is to take others out of your equation of happiness and sel… | /r/seduction | 04/12/11 11:57 PM |
| 20 | Q&A with the ladies of seddit (requested in another post)"Hello madam. I know we've never spoken, but my lord you are so smart..." That being said, I've never had much success complimenting girls on their intellect. On the rare occasion I meet someone that strikingly smart they always respond way better to physical compliments because they are sexually driven; I don't want to fuck your brain. Girls say they want a guy who "doesn't just want sex," and I don't mean to call people out, but I think most women who say that are somewhat out of touch with wh… | /r/seduction | 04/12/11 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Being tooo friendly and "nice". I could really use some insight.Still game them... If you get freindzoned, well, there you go, you got your wish. If you manage to pull it off, even better. If you want your girl friends to be DHVs they still need to respect you. A lot of PUT is about that. Also, maybe it's because you are a rapist? | /r/seduction | 13/11/11 05:06 AM |
| 3 | Being tooo friendly and "nice". I could really use some insight.I don't know why you are using the word nice here, I think your problem is being timid, shy, and over analyzing things (not to say you aren't nice). There is really no "cure" for this, it's a personality trait. I bet you're a pretty smart guy because that comes with the over analysis. Use that as a strength instead of a negative. No one can tell you how to stop being you, and you shouldn't want to change who you are. Better yourself, sure, but your personality isn't inherently worse than that of… | /r/seduction | 12/11/11 06:15 AM |
| 0 | Mindhacks for Outcome DependenceNo offense (really), but you're insane... Here is a smiley face emoticon to show my non-aggressiveness, :) | /r/seduction | 12/11/11 05:59 AM |
| 8 | Why are guys needy?Step 1: Ask "why am I not perfect?" Step 2: Make a list of those reasons(and since the season is nearing, check it twice). Step 3: Come up with the solution to every problem on the list. e.g. Fat? Go to the gym. Job sucks? Go back to school. Don't like your friends? Move or join an organization. etc... Step 4: Execute solutions immediately. Do not think about the task, just start. You are now confidant. | /r/seduction | 11/11/11 11:14 PM |
| 1 | One-itis Creeping Back Into My LifeIts cool you have a thing for someone, I know a lot of people in the PU community will say that you should never have any feelings for a girl before you've slept or at least hooked up with her, but you can't help your emotions, that's what makes them emotions. What you can do, is let it flow through you. The worst thing you can do in this case is to start to chase this girl and put her on a higher plateau than yourself. I'm just saying dont let that you're into her effect how you act around her.… | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 01:18 AM |
| 1 | On losing vs. never having the ability to attract womenI tell myself mentally (in my big boy voice): "some day you will have to die". I've heard a lot of this kind of shit before, but I really really like that line. | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Dealing with girls who never take initiative.What I've seen work with these ladies are cocky funny insulting type of behavior. The "I don't give a shit" type of mentality. Confidant, funny, flirtatious, and not needy. Pretty sure that works with like every girl. | /r/seduction | 13/07/11 10:51 PM |
| 6 | How to approach girl in class?Never wait a full session for something like this. Talk to girls the moment you think you're interested, seriously, this is how you end up looking like an AFC. now, I think you are over-thinking the fuck out of this. Just ask her to chill for whatever and be on game when you isolate. | /r/seduction | 29/06/11 02:07 AM |
| 2 | How long did it take you, before you got true success?1) Stop comparing yourself to others, it gets you nowhere. Be the best you you can be, and be damn happy about it. There will always be some other guy to be jealous of, put that shit out of your head. 2) I never said HV women don't end up at bars, but their density is far lower, and they are normally drunk and with a group of other drunk lower-value women which makes it all the harder to tell (I personally can't stand most women I meet at bars). But about the numbers, that's great, but maybe sto… | /r/seduction | 17/06/11 08:53 PM |
| 6 | How long did it take you, before you got true success?1)After all this time you still lack confidence. You need to embrace your funny fat computer nerd. I understand it's been a while and rejections are hard, but you're clearly doing something wrong. My guess is you're looking for HV girls at a bar... Have you tried opening in a library, at the supermarket, etc...? You may be lying to yourself about what you want from women. You act like you just want to F-close in one night, but when you had a chance, you didn't. Instead you made excuses about loo… | /r/seduction | 17/06/11 04:13 PM |
| 0 | Did something last night I never thought I could do. Guys, this shit works. [FR-1]Yeah if anyone goes to a party and there is a 9 eye fucking them from across the room, I think they could make it work. I don't mean to insult you, but seriously, I don't think this has much useful info in it other than: "if you don't go out, nothing will happen", which is still good advice mind you. I really don't know about the "I wonder what you'd do if I kissed you" stuff. That is really garbage if you ask me. Just do it, if she pushes you away, who the fuck cares... move along. That girl wa… | /r/seduction | 01/05/11 10:23 PM |
| 4 | Looking for an easy way to improve your game? Try this...Depends on the girl. In general, the most attractive girls don't get turned off by game like this. They know they are attractive, and a guy who is direct with them without pussyfooting around isn't a bad thing. I mean at this point, it's not even game, you're being completely honest, you wanted to talk to the best looking girl, it's her to you, and so here you are. Now I am not saying she will always eat out of your palm, but she'll normally give you a shot. The only thing about opening with som… | /r/seduction | 01/05/11 01:31 AM |
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