BNDR77 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
9	How do you deal with the house??		BNDR77	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/25 11:48 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Divorce Finalized – Ex Won’t Refinance as Ordered, Wants Me to Initiate Assumption Instead. I looked into having my STBXW assume our mortgage to keep the rate. It can be done, but to the tune of about $15,000. To remove my name of some paperwork = $15k. What a scam.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/25 12:17 AM
2	How do you deal with the house?? I did check and our mortgage is eligible for her to assume it. But we will need either legal separation or a divorce to be final or else the application will likely be denied. If it gets approved, the estimated closing costs are $14,000. I believe she would qualify, but that's a hefty price tag for a bunch of paperwork. She would keep the terms of the current mortgage, but she would then need to come up with the buyout portion some other way.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/07/25 12:36 AM
2	How do you deal with the house?? I honestly don't know how much is in her retirement or 401k, but I know mine don't have anywhere close to that number. I believe she can afford to stay even if she refinanced, but I'll need to compel her to actually sit down and work the math with a professional. Of course, I can fathom why she would want to stay in this huge house alone.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/07/25 12:26 AM
5	How do you deal with the house?? Yes, I agreed to some of them and I know it makes a terrible person, but I don't want them. They make me irrationally angry every single day. I will never have another pet.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/07/25 12:24 AM
2	How do you deal with the house?? Our rate is currently 2.375%. 😭	/r/Divorce_Men	15/07/25 12:08 AM
2	How do you deal with the house?? I do not want it. It has 4 bedrooms, 2.5 baths and a huge yard. I do not want to mow or shovel or fix anything for a while.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/07/25 12:06 AM
1	How do you deal with the house?? I don't really want to 'force' her to do anything if I can avoid it. I know everyone says this, but I want this to be as amicable as possible. As it is, I barely have enough money to do this. I don't want to go super into debt. I'm getting a small inheritance soon, but I would really like the money from the house as soon as possible. I'm trying to give her as little reason to drag this out as possible.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/07/25 12:03 AM
3	How would you navigate divorce today knowing what you know? Get a lawyer. Oregon is an equitable distribution state. An attorney will help you figure out what the state would likely determine as 'fair'. Don't just make up some number yourself and offer it.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/07/25 10:59 AM
3	X post Divorce: Dealing with lifestyle changes Personally, I'm looking forward to renting for a bit. No lawn care, no snow shoveling, no throwing thousands at repairs. We refinanced during covid and got a 2.5% rate (maybe less??), so I know she's going to fight me on a buyout or selling because she won't get anywhere near that on a new mortgage. But she won't be able to rent unless she gets rid of a few of the 5 animals I'm leaving with her. This will be our biggest sticking point, but she makes double my salary so... Either way, she'll be f…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/06/25 10:52 PM
2	Once married, never again. I thought I'd never find someone to marry, so I think I clung to the first woman that expressed interest in being with me long-term. There were already red flags when we started dating, but I ignored them. 12 years later, I'm just a roommate that helps to manage the house and pets. Therapist asked her what she enjoyed about being with me. She rattled off a few things and he says, "That sounds like friendship to me." Yep. We don't have to be married or living together to do those things and if we…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/25 02:41 PM