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I admit that I'm very awkward in just starting up conversation in social settings without some "entryway" but I have always succeeded in good friendships with women (primarily where I work who then become quite close to me) over the years. It is that unease at the start that takes time. Once I get to know people, their likes and such, and how I relate to them, the conversation and ability to talk to them gets easier. Drudging through the beginnings can be a bit of a chore because we are often im…
/r/seduction20/05/18 04:48 AM
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And the right words, too, helps I reckon. Communication, accompanied by how you carry yourself, can work wonders. Or so I've been told considering I can't look women in the eyes or talk to them. Kidding.
/r/seduction20/05/18 04:44 AM
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Very gently.
/r/seduction19/10/17 12:57 AM
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But it isn't the end of the world, I don't think. He just has to find the girl that will be receptive to him. Sometimes it doesn't work out, but maybe eventually the stars will align.
/r/seduction17/10/17 09:35 PM
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Perhaps it wouldn't have been as special as you would have hoped and you have been spared a disappointment.
/r/seduction17/10/17 09:32 PM
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I guess when that hot girl does give you attention it can be quite a satisfying feeling. Because they all are used to it, so to be that guy that gets the return response must be ideal.
/r/seduction17/10/17 09:30 PM
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It is easy to read signs that aren't actually there or feel as if there were signs and that feeling of excitement emerges, urging the "ask out". Nothing quite as disappointing as finding that out the hard way.
/r/seduction17/10/17 09:28 PM
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I'd love that.
/r/seduction04/09/17 10:06 AM
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Those things sometimes correct themselves as you age into your twenties. You figure out the right girl for you beyond the sexual and the search results often in that person being found. It is the search, I guess, that can be a bit frustrating.
/r/seduction29/08/17 10:50 AM
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You are a regular Casanova, aren't you? You have to indicate to her that you are interested in a relationship. Fucking can be a strictly physical experience where two people are attracted to each other and want to capitalize on that accordingly. Then after that is out of your system, something more meaningful can arrive.
/r/seduction29/08/17 05:24 AM
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Being unpredictable, I guess, in the approach might work better. I guess the ladies already expect the boilerplate approach of "you are so hot". They might be wanting something more significant.
/r/seduction29/08/17 05:22 AM
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You could in text just glow to her about how worthwhile the experience was and how she's totally on your mind. I don't see that as a problem. If it has went poorly and ended on a rather awkward note, perhaps not the case. But it sounded like you two hit it off. I could see her just smile with that text coming on the phone.
/r/seduction21/08/17 10:04 PM
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They matter, plain and simple. I'd love to say that looks are a part but not the entire picture, but it is what opens the door. If you are attractive and then other attributes arise, it is all gravy. But surface attractiveness begins the conversation. It starts the dance.
/r/seduction21/08/17 10:00 PM
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She may like what she sees and you are off to the races.
/r/seduction21/08/17 09:58 PM
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I have a friend and we were talking about relationships, what she and I found attractive. She has been in a marriage that left her unfulfilled and just unhappy. Two kids involved, but a marriage that probably shouldn't have ever happened. She considers him a good man, a good father, but she just doesn't love him. She was working at the same company as me, even asked my opinion on if she should take a job at a clinic that would offer good pay and insurance. It would be working for a doctor and nu…
/r/seduction21/08/17 03:19 AM
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Period of indifference where you just don't feel a connection on a level beyond physical attraction, yet that isn't even enough after a while. You are looking for something that you haven't found. I hope you do find it whatever that it is.
/r/seduction21/08/17 03:07 AM
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Que Sera, Sera. If it is meant to be, she'll still show ya interest. Just ask her out again, you Know, using the typical, "Had a nice time, thought we hit it off, I felt a connection" banter as a "feeler" to see what she does. Let the chips fall where they may. Those guys hitting on her will do that.
/r/seduction21/08/17 03:00 AM
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Grab her like John Wayne does, by the shoulders, and just plant a big sloppy kiss on her. That'd do it. Or maybe it's "That'll be the day."
/r/seduction21/08/17 02:54 AM
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I was trying to imagine her reaction to that. haha.
/r/seduction19/08/17 08:42 PM
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Relax, maybe. Take a deep breath. Is there a girl you are currently talking to? Does she seem engaging to you and willing to go out with you from what you have gathered from the experience? Because if she did seem interested, that's a start.
/r/seduction19/08/17 08:35 PM
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Go for the coffee date if you liked her. Start there. If you two hit it off and the relationship builds and builds she might surprise you. I guess just don't expect her to drop her panties on date number one.
/r/seduction19/08/17 08:31 PM
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You're 25. Don't fret. Still quite young and sometimes relationships develop for folks a bit later than right away. You might be 30 and meet this amazing girl. You are older and perhaps have learned from the inactivity in your sex life. It might happen tomorrow for you. She could be down a sidewalk and you meet in an unanticipated fashion. and being in college, it is possible she'll be just in that next class. I guess I'm trying to give you encouragement. I wish I had had it when I was before 20…
/r/seduction19/08/17 08:29 PM
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Haha. I don't know. Some of the virgin guys just want their first time to be with that knock-it-out-of-the-park girl. Yes, perhaps unrealistic to expect to land that perfect woman [natch], but I guess they just want to make sure their first time is with a killer date.
/r/seduction19/08/17 02:34 AM
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Admittedly, I get all flustered and sheepish.
/r/seduction19/08/17 01:39 AM
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Yeah, when you offer a particular type of behavior at the start, seeming to invite constant chatter and then "slow it down", it might appear that he cares less.
/r/seduction19/08/17 01:37 AM
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I dunno, "hot", "average", it is all in the eye of the beholder. What I might consider hot, you might consider average and vice versa. But I see your point. Perhaps a girl appears "hot" if taken, but if you find her attractive, whether single or in a relationship, she's still attractive to you, right? I think I have just crapped the bed in my understanding of this thread. haha.
/r/seduction19/08/17 01:35 AM
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It can be easy to be intimidated by someone you consider superior, but that can really stifle you all throughout your life unless you snap out of it. Also you have to just be you and not try to measure up to this other guy. Regarding the ladies just fawning over him, folding into a fetal position, defeated and crestfallen will just hold you prisoner. Eventually, at some point, she'll be out there. She'll not be fawning over that guy but perhaps interested in you.
/r/seduction16/08/17 12:53 AM
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I would say it is time to ache a bit and sigh. These are instances that really suck because you go from euphoria to disappointment. The highest of highs to the lowest of lows. But know that others have been through it.
/r/seduction16/08/17 12:45 AM
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She did say something. That is at least a start.
/r/seduction15/08/17 09:19 PM
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Cool. So she responded! That's something, right?
/r/seduction15/08/17 08:26 PM
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That is 39 year old me as opposed to 19 year old me, though, haha. Too bad I didn't realize that a bit sooner.
/r/seduction14/08/17 10:06 PM
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That is a good point. I think in my experience, particularly when at lunch with friends that are female, that is especially true. Like when she wants my genuine opinion on something and I take a moment to contemplate it. I think women especially appreciate that because they see you are taking a topic important to them and giving it thought so that when you answer it is an investment in them.
/r/seduction14/08/17 09:32 PM
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Uh oh. I want you to succeed but, my friend, getting us to sub for you is perhaps the wrong road to take. Because eventually you'll be in a room or in a car or at a restaurant with her and r/seduction won't be there. Haha, unless you constantly look down at your cell...
/r/seduction14/08/17 09:22 PM
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Yep. I learned that later as I worked with women and got to know them. Women of all ages. The dead stops and silence and awkwardness subside and dialogue can go in many of directions. But when I was a kid, I was quite the conversation amateur.
/r/seduction14/08/17 09:19 PM
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You are in a bad spot. Oftentimes competing with vanity you lose. You want her to realize she's still beautiful and have went out of your way to keep this together, but once you put your all into it and she still isn't interested, it is a lost cause. How long do you chase before the truth sets in? And living in denial will just leave you aching for a prolonged time. So sorry, this situation just sucks.
/r/seduction14/08/17 09:18 PM
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Kind of like a dead stop. I experienced this a lot as a teenager. I would really beat myself up over it, too. And I felt bad for the girls because it put them in an awkward spot.
/r/seduction14/08/17 09:14 PM
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That is a lot of activity that would presume to indicate she was interested. Thing is she might have decided she wasn't interested after going through all that. The ole "second thoughts" reaction. It is peculiar behavior, though. You'd like to be able to access her mind and see what her intentions were/are.
/r/seduction13/08/17 07:03 PM
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I think unless she is of that personality that she wants to be sought after, then I see just messaging her over and over as overbearing to her. It might even turn her off. But she could very well like the pursuit. I just don't know her personally so I can't say.
/r/seduction13/08/17 06:56 PM
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If you want to appear desperate, continuing to message her is the ticket. If she later sends you a response, imagine the rush it will be. If she doesn't, and you know she has read your message to her, then perhaps it just wasn't meant to be.
/r/seduction13/08/17 06:45 PM
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I won't shout at you, haha. But if you are confident that the ladies would react to you, and want you to talk to them, it is a matter of just shooing away the psychological barrier blocking your from doing so. You aren't a joke, just nervous.
/r/seduction13/08/17 06:41 PM
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recognize, also, what didn't work the first time and try to avoid that.
/r/seduction13/08/17 06:37 PM
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Times are tough and she might be still living with her parents, too. That said, having the freedom of being in your own place and paying your own bills might reflect a sense of responsibility that she would react strongly to. If you are a cool guy and share a lot of things in common with her, though, that might still carry a lot of weight.
/r/seduction13/08/17 06:35 PM
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Hmmm, that's a good question. I kind of look at it this way. I have always seen the phrase used, "totally into you". It is a common phrase but one I consider accurate in a sense. Into you in that you share dialogue, connect, have good back-and-forth, are invested into each other, find common likes and interests. The conversation isn't one-sided. As time goes on she will realize that you value her because you have put forth the effort to get to know her, understand her, and I think there's eventu…
/r/seduction13/08/17 03:42 AM
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It can be weird. I do think eye contact is very important but there's a way to do it that isn't creepy. Going up to everyone you meet looking them right in the eyes can be a bit jarring. But when in conversation with someone, in a setting where you both are comfortable, it can prove quite valuable, I think. I have a friend who is a girl and we talk about anything and everything during lunches. We both share great eye contact and I have realized that was something I failed at when I was a teenage…
/r/seduction13/08/17 03:26 AM
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When you look her in the eyes and she has something to say, listen to her. Now you might say, "What if what she has to say isn't that important to you?" Try to find whatever you can in the conversation to invest in. Investing in her and just responding in a conversation about whatever might come up between you, I guess, is a start. If she can see that you are willing to put forth the effort to listen to her, not just see her as a body to lay, it might prove to her that you consider her worth som…
/r/seduction13/08/17 03:12 AM
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Even while working, if the moment feels right, go for it.
/r/seduction13/08/17 03:08 AM
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Somehow, someway, sometime.
/r/seduction13/08/17 03:06 AM
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I'm kind of on the side of being genuine instead of trying to be somebody you aren't. Because what good are you to her as a fake? Some girls might just like the you that is "warts and all". Yeah, overthinking it and trying to fashion your text so that it fits some type of criteria that you hope will attract someone probably will only make you even more uncomfortable than you already are. Because you are trying to behave as someone you are not.
/r/seduction13/08/17 03:02 AM
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It could be awkward if it is one-sided, but then again good results might come from full disclosure.
/r/seduction13/02/17 05:59 AM
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The same as others. This wasn't the time but now you have made it through the valley of indecision, all the more aware of where you were and are now. Good luck!
/r/seduction13/02/17 05:56 AM
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