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Money can pay your medical bills. You’ll be much more happier when you’re healthier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 12:50 AM
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He's selective about the women he 'respects'. He treats Melanie Wilkes with unfailing courtesy and politeness while negging and verbally insulting Scarlett in the same breath He saw Melanie as Madonna and Scarlett as a whore. He even said he wanted her but that he’s not a type for marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:22 PM
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My ex tried to pull DARVO on me, because he felt bad about himself……for me saying he’s not giving me basic respect. He pulled out articles about abuse and tried to make it seem that I’m abusing him by being upset with my “perception” of disrespect. That Uno reverse card didn’t work on me! He also treated his parents with 0 respect and they just let it fly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:44 AM
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Demand HV treatment because you want it. That’s it. You don’t owe them anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:28 PM
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It’s so common even Einstein had a similar list for his wife, Mileva Marić. He also wanted to shag his first cousin and later married her, while cheating on Mileva. Here’s the list: CONDITIONS A. You will make sure: 1. that my clothes and laundry are kept in good order; 2. that I will receive my three meals regularly in my room; 3. that my bedroom and study are kept neat, and especially that my desk is left for my use only. B. You will renounce all personal relations with me insofar as they are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:11 AM
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When I was abused I tended to think "oh if I was a 10/10 dreamgirl he wouldn't be treating me this way." Men are at their best behaviour to get into 10/10’s pants. After that? They either leave or show their true face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:19 PM
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A violent and bad behaved kid was put to sit between me and my friend. I really hated it, why are our school lives forced to be worse? He wouldn’t study and wanted to copy my answers and I said no. He asked again and I stayed firm with my no. Then he told me how much he wants to punch me and break my glasses. I even reported to the teacher that he keeps copying the answers and our teacher said he knows. 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:07 PM
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I’ve had a guy throwing himself at me to do things I didn’t ask for and which I have planned out on my own anyways. I was at a really low point because of outside circumstances, but I knew vulnerable people are an easy prey. I solved those life problems on my own and he was so bitter that I didn’t ask him for his help. And no, that was not his way of trying to get close to me, because he outright told me he didn’t want a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:29 PM
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Hilarious the hell isn’t majorly filled with rapists, murderers, warmongers, or even rich people as Jesus said they hardly get the kingdom of God, but with women……who hurt their husband’s ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:12 PM
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Put the thesis down. Legendary. I consider making a pin board and this looks like a perfect quote to pin on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:15 AM
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I was just going to post this in men blaming women for everything thread. I had guys accusing me that I seduced them because….I was nice to them like I would be towards any friend, I’d listen to their problems, offer them some advice, make them some coffee……..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:42 PM
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I do not want to give her more. Rejoice! He won’t be giving her hunger pains anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:00 PM
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WHAT, he’s 37? He looks 27!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:05 PM
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I remember this exchange every time I touch-up my unnatural hair colour. 😂 👻👻👻 Stay away from me or I’ll sting you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 09:12 PM
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But they will never ask to see your true body hair. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 09:04 PM
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Manipulation and gaslighting put into one package. A present shipped right from the sewers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 09:59 AM
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There’s something this sub has taught many of us and broken the chains of our upbringing - that it’s alright not to have a partner. For we are not alone, but free. We can finally choose without fear of being alone, and look! Many women chose not to date at all until they see someone they find worthy. And even if they don’t find that person, they will be happy on their own.If a man who seems valuable on first look crosses path with us, we will have the necessary tools to judge him. Im surprised O…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:04 AM
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Bible is ruthless when it comes to immorality. One of my favourite quotes is: “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thorns, or figs from thistles? In the same way, every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:14 PM
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I feel like this is thinly veiled promotion for her OF account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:51 PM
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Such beautiful ring and nails, I love themmmmm!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:40 PM
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I like all pics of my friends and I call them beautiful and compliment them daily. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ What kind of unbelievably exhausting tasks does he do daily for him to consider that to be a chore?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:36 PM
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I used to tell kids my favourite colour was blue, because pink was considered the peak femininity and thus inferior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:44 PM
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As I child, I loved traditionally girly things, but I was relentlessly bullied for it and sexual harassment started as we were 12. I chopped off my hair and started dressing in boy clothes to protect myself. However, boys, and later teens, would mock me because I now wasn’t attractive to them. Good, I laughed at them, as I continued watching and doing girly things in private. It was in my 20s that I felt the courage to express my femininity outwardly too :)! Yay pink, skirts, dresses, flowers, c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:40 PM
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My ex would say I look better without makeup but would then comment on why I don’t spend as much time to get ready to go out with him as I do for my friends. 😂 But he was also complaining I spend too much time getting ready to go out with him. Like, boy, what do you want? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:46 PM
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Ok, but could his balls be featured in a sci-fi novel in a form of grotesque, shriveled, abandoned planet overgrown in weeds? Does his penis resemble that sand monster? Does the look of his pubes make you drier than dunes from Dune? All legitimate questions for a guy to consider before stating his “preference“ for a woman to remove her natural bacterial shield.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:14 AM
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Even after being in the relationship with Eldritch horrors, we will be gaslit to believe that it was our fault and we should have tolerated more or found a way for him to change his ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 08:52 AM
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The serial killers also start with fantasies in their heads until one day they see an opportunity to act out on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:37 PM
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I totally misunderstood this meme and I thought that her being hormonal meant that she wants a lot of sex and that would lead to her husband not finishing preparing their lunch. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:48 PM
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My aunt said she didn’t believe my mom about my dad‘s behaviour towards her, but now that she hears the same complaints from me, she realized my mother never exaggerated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:58 AM
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So true, my ex was reasonably fit, but a lot of the times he looked like he came out of a jungle - unkept hair, oversized wrinkled clothes, horrible beard, ripped underwear, bitten nails...he would get mad if I pointed anything out of these, but of course he fixed these things when he got a more stable job. The next guy I was attracted to is chubby, but he dresses well, has a nice haircut, and generally looks normal and decent. But then again, it’s not hard to look better than a jungle creature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:53 AM
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Worrying there’s no hygiene on that list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:43 PM
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Yes, it’s extremely infuriating to read the advices in books, magazines and online that are all about women having to adjust to how men feel and why they run away. Like, huh?? Do men sweat about losing you when they run away? No? Do they go online all worried that they ignored their gf too much and how she might feel? Boy, bye. It‘s better to be alone than with a coward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:00 PM
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My ex would say I’m being abusive for getting angry at his unacceptable behaviour and then he presented me with tons of communication articles, which I actually studied and used. Then, in no matter which good or healthy way I’d present my “issues” he wouldn’t change. I’d ask him like wait, you said the problem is communication, why wont you consider a single thing I’m saying? And he’d be like well, just because you communicated doesn’t mean I’ll do it. I threw away that boy into the depths of he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:01 AM
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For the future reference, see how a guy acts when you pull away from him a bit and he’s not getting what he wants. Also ask yourself what he gains from being mega nice to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:44 PM
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He's got an Emotional Harem, and you're part of it. NOT EVER, BB! Recently I’ve come into contact with a guy who latches onto women for emotional support. But not any women! The ones who have feelings for him (but he’s not attracted to) whom he rejects and says let’s just be friends and then forms an emotional bond with, akin to a relationship. Yet doesn’t want a relationship at all, but wants the opposite sex to support him. He tried to prod me but when he realized he’s developing feelings for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:27 PM
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Recently I’ve met up with a guy from my old school. We’ve never been friends, but we knew each other and have a same social circle. He proceeded to dump all his emotional traumas onto me, talking for hours about them. I cut his later date proposal like I’m a Greek hero slaying a 7 headed viper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:08 PM
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He’s a heavy manipulator and your friend fell right into his trap. The scumbag is already breaking her friendships and independence. Protect yourself, but be aware your friend is falling into an abusive relationship. Consider sending her Lundy Bancroft’s pdf book, emergency numbers and abuser checklist, then write you care about her, but it’s ultimately her choice what she does with information given. And then go to a therapist to process this heartbreak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:42 PM
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Why is this guy even stringing her along if he hates her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:34 PM
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My entire life I just felt indifferent to men and marriage. Men would call me a lesbian and ask “what about the needs, don’t you have any???”. Yeah sure, but not in my loins. I don’t even care to date or find someone. I always went with the principle that if I like someone, I’ll see what happens. I‘m not looking for marriage, that’s something my parents used to want from me. If anything, I’m looking for passion and fire. But not the fire that men provide that will make you burn yourself on them.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:09 PM
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Yes, it looks like something puas recommended to start a conversation too - hey my name is actually....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:15 AM
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Recently, I learned my best friend was raped as a child. In my friend circle, I learned about the family secrets of brothers raping sisters. I was sexually assaulted as an early teen. It leaves a deep scar, that is covered by veil of shame put upon a victim by the society and protecting the rapists and abusers as so not to tarnish his reputation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:26 PM
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My grandfather didn’t allow my grandmother to visit her mother because he thought the advices she was getting were poorly reflecting upon him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:55 AM
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Few of my friends, some of them who are in a relationship, consider me as a good partner, some of them said they want a boyfriend like me and two of my friends have separately jokingly offered to give birth to a child and for both of us to partner up and raise the kids. All of them are tired of men. Even though I am a girl, some of my friends consider me their boyfriend and fantasize how it would be if I was born as a male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:08 PM
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This is what happened to Britney Spears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:14 PM
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I went through the exact same thing. But I was also expected never to show negative emotions towards him. I shouldn’t be angry or sad at him, otherwise I’m abusing him. Constructive critique put in a nice way of how he hurt me? I’m an abuser for lowering his self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:46 AM
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I’ve had a friend who complained that after 5 years, he’s getting rejected for the same reasons like before. He complained that he thought he did some work but it’s still the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 10:02 AM
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My ex got mad at me for not liking his ripped underwear. Almost all of them were ripped. To think I was thankful he stopped wearing ripped old shirts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:53 AM
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It takes a lot to override what she has been taught by the society about men and relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:25 AM
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Happened to me too. I was an abuser for even bringing up the problems, because I’m lowering his self esteem for doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 06:24 AM
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Raised by a pack of clowns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 09:06 PM
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He didn’t learn from his mistakes, or go to the therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:45 AM
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100,000 women who won’t accept nests!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:27 AM
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Unlike those women who can’t get a man, I love video games. #girlboss ​ 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:28 PM
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I would actually love to debate him and disappear for a week and then come with 200 studies + interviews from local people.My ex couldn’t stand it, he would boastfully claim something is right and look down upon me like I’m some uneducated pleb while he knows everything, and I’d pull out studies and highlight important sentences while precisely sorting the details. He would have a breakdown, say I’m impossible to argue with and stop talking to me, LMAO!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:18 PM
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Three minutes if you’re lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:36 PM
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So many shitty keys that give me 0 orgasms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:28 PM
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Absolutely, absolutely, amazing and beautiful. You have so much talent, keep singing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:29 AM
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I used to think like that, but I learned with time it’s really not about the looks. The celebrities get worshipped for their looks and personality comes second unless they voice some feminist opinions or read a feminist book, then all hell breaks loose. In one to one relationship, beauty is something you get used to, and how you treat each other is what keeps the relationship stable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:18 AM
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In my case, they were shocked but didn’t do anything, other than his mom telling me I deserve better. However, they call me their daughter and communicate with me regularly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:43 PM
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I told his parents. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:19 AM
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My ex had a mental breakdown when I told my friends about things he was doing. 😂 He blamed me and called me abusive for doing so. I later found out he was writing half truths on reddit about me, that would make him look like a victim. I went into comments and people called him out, he would defend himself that it doesn’t really matter if the facts are changed a little. So I wrote what he did to me, he once again had a mental breakdown and broke up with me. 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:17 AM
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He has a discord account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:18 PM
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“Goodness, such high standards, messaging only 100s! I unfortunately cannot even find 5s on this site, so far. :(“
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 08:12 PM
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I spat on my screen from laughter, this is some legendary stuff of psychoanalysis through plants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:55 PM
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I forgot the ending and you bringing it up made me realize what a horrible destiny Jane had. No doctors on a deserted island, either. And that reminds me how Ariel sacrificed everything as well to be a teen mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 11:41 AM
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My ex stopped putting both effort and sex in and would just masturbate daily to his fantasies. I was the whiny one for wanting sex, LMAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 08:12 AM
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I was annoyed by all the romances and I just wanted to see girls doing stuff without having a romantic interest. The only guy who I think is ok for now is Tarzan, but the emories of the movie are a bit fuzzy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:22 PM
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Make friends with his friends/brothers and ask them to tell him. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:44 PM
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What, why? How did he react? It sounds wonderful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:46 AM
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This seems too specific to be a real profile. It looks like she found something on his phone and broke up with him. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:31 PM
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I understand it felt like a futile effort, I do hope karma comes to bite him in the ass. Honestly he sounds like a psychopath more than a narc, they are ruled by shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:07 PM
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Wtf?! Did you call the police? Hopefully he’s rotting in jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:47 PM
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Why don’t you like his nest?!?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:13 PM
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Yes!!! Had this happen to me too! Or “you don’t appreciate me, why are you with me if you see me in such a negative light?”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:11 PM
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Would literally get same reaction and exact same words from my narc. 😂 He’d ghost me if I had a problem with him and call me abusive, but at the same time he’d have a mental breakdown and call me abusive for wanting to discuss things he did which hurt me. The other strategy is me being a witch and lowering his self esteem for telling him the problems I’ve had with him. If he had a problem, it was fine for him to confront me at 4am! No nice language which he demanded of me, no good time to bring …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:08 PM
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I had otome games on my phone which names were something like Virgin boy, my first boyfriend, my pure boyfriend, 1000 boyfriends....My ex was assblasted. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:37 PM
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My ex was sour about me finding it hilarious that pewdiepie was dancing half naked to some funny song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:28 PM
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My mother used to tell me it’s better to be alone than in a bad relationship and I see now that she was so right. My dad on the other hand, looks down upon unmarried women and says it’s better to marry, have kids and then divorce than to be single. Which is kinda what he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:23 AM
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Experiment with rats hooked to receive pleasure when pressing a button resulted in those rats devoting their entire existence to pressing that button. They wouldn’t even eat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:10 AM
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The world needs a Swedish model - asking the guy if she said yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 09:39 PM
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My therapist taught me to remain firm and repeat my words in situations like these. Whatever they throw at you, deflect it with what you said earlier, don’t get into a loop of defending yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 09:23 PM
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Conversation between me and my ex: “Omgggg, I absolutely love this small romantic card, so you think you could buy it and write something sweet for me? I’d love it! 🥺” ”Now that I know you want it, it ruins the factor of a surprise!!!” And then he postpones it, leaves it ambiguous and gets annoyed if I ask him what’s going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:02 PM
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S a m e !!! I was abusive for every little thing! Sending a smiley after an ironic statement? Abuse! Saying the pinnacle of support, “its going to be alright.” over and over doesn‘t make me feel better? Abuse!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:44 PM
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Katie, the bearded man with a stinky, unwashed penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 09:44 PM
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The oldest males, except for the alpha, were consistently avoided by many estrous females, both young and old. In response to female reluctance, males behaved violently, however, this was not effective, because other more dominant males came to rescue the female. Looks like even the male chimps rage when they get rejected. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:33 PM
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Translation: She's going to the studio with the man she loves to record a song about another woman. Does she not realize how cucked this makes her look? I’m ascending. 😂😂😂😂😂 The whole song seems like an incel fantasy. A girl whose only quality is a nice face ignores the protagonist boy. He ends up successful years after and she ends up alone and a single mother, the worst punishment!!! He also finally gets a gf, but gets off on the thought of his highschool crush seeing him thrive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 10:58 PM
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This happened to me, except replace being called crazy with abusive. He would avoid discussions, to the point I was really going crazy and he would grow resentful because he wouldn’t bring up his issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:36 PM
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O...m...g...Imagine if your friend told you that. I’m seeing a dude who is apologizing to his imaginary friend for dating me! He does need therapy for a long time, but I’d also suggest you finding a good therapist to process your trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:34 PM
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“Sure, we can share our favourite moments of 90s Indiana Jones pixel art games as we play them at the same time on ScummVM emulator on WinXP, sounds fun?“
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:19 PM
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Lmao, he shared the cake with his friends and not you? God, this is worse than I imagined, an enabling echo chambers of guys who find it normal to enable his imagination instead of telling him to go get some therapy. In a way, he wasn’t comparing you to his waifu, but to an image of his ”perfect“ girl in his head. What’s worse, he didn’t project this image onto you, like it usually happens, but onto an imaginary friend, what waifus basically are. What an absolute ass, proud of you for leaving!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:59 AM
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“Non-monogamous”. Exactly which ladies are lining up to have a piece of this guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:24 AM
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🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:20 AM
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In reality, he’s spending all that money on himself. His waifu is a projection of his own desires onto an imaginary being, one which does not have their own wants and needs. Kinda like a narcissist and a false self, except this false self is made out of his desires. Who’s gonna keep all those letters, re-read them and admire how he put so many emotions into it and how he’s a perfect bf? Who is going to eat those Valentine chocolates? Who is going to admire his own effort without danger of being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:17 AM
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I was always, since I was a little girl, a “girly girl”. I was bullied for it and later sexually harassed, to the point I chopped off my hair and dressed in boyish clothes my entire teens. Now in my 20s I have embraced who I always was - an extremely feminine lady. I have finally grown enough self confidence to tell people off and I see the pandering for male hobbies for what it is. I used to think there was something wrong with me for not being ”one of the guys.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 10:57 AM
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Before the official breakup, my ex and I weren’t talking and his mom sent me a picture of him and her sitting at a restaurant. She had a smile on her face but he looked absolutely miserable. Half grimace half attempted smile. But then again, he would say I brought happiness into his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:30 AM
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Haha he was. I figured it out early, but I liked to deny it when he showed his good sides and would feel guilty. I once laughed in shock because he raised his voice at me in the middle of McDonald’s and he labeled me as an abuser for it, LMAO!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:12 PM
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Yes, I suspected he was a narcissist since we started dating, but later I was more and more sure. Thankfully therapist pointed some things out even before I told her my suspicions that he’s a narc. The accusations of being an abuser were thrown on regular basis, but questioning it would get me called abuser more and more. Grey rock would get me labeled as an abuser too. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:06 PM
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I tried this and my ex would refuse to answer the questions and call me abusive for not just accepting his point of view and later use that as a reason not to discuss problems in the relationship at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:51 PM
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I used to do this too and my ex would get emotional breakdown as to why I’m ruining a smiley for him. Ladies, this literally happened. I’d ask him sweetly what he means and he’d reply that I’m being mean because he senses sarcasm and would turn a whole conversation about how he can’t stop crying because I’m ruining a smiley face for him by adding it after the question or statement he didn’t like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:47 PM
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My ex admitted things he did were intentional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:40 PM
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“She laughed when I asked her out on a date after calling girls who rejected me a bunch of sluts, this is a hate crime!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:35 PM
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My ex would spew statistics of how men are more oppressed because of false rape accusations. When he spoke it was like Google reader reading posts off of Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:42 PM
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Don’t date redditors or 4channers. Don’t date the dwellers of the depths of discord servers. No Minecrafters or Robloxers either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:39 PM
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Yeah, there’s something definitely off about how his hart sank when he saw that she got engaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:55 PM
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7) Don’t get ill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 01:45 PM
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I don’t want to be a part of the man made cycle - I want out of it. I want to be free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 09:44 PM
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I had this happen to me. Him: makes a promise. A lot of time passes and he’s making other plans for himself, I ask him numerous times throughout the months what’s happening to the very important promise and he keeps wiggling out. Me: You have let me down for the Xth time. I cannot risk my mental and emotional health anymore. If you cannot keep promises, I refuse to be in the relationship anymore. I wish you well. Him: ABUSER!!! You‘re lowering my self esteem by calling me a letdown!! I am depres…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:22 PM
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And the crazy/psycho behaviour is: hey, we’ve been dating for 8 months, I think it would be nice to text each other good morning and goodnight, and I would appreciate if you stopped using tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:08 PM
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I feel the same, it hurts a lot. But you will save yourself by not enabling them. By allowing them back in your life without them realizing what they have done, nothing will change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 11:24 PM
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I cant help but to feel pity and sorry for them. Too much of an empath. The emotions form and won’t stop forming in my chest. It’s a weird feeling. However, I can control my actions and not react upon my emotions. It helps a lot when you study behavioral patterns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 11:20 PM
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Are they analyzing their dicks? About time to break free!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:43 AM
4

I had a similar experience. His mom told me that my ex was showing so many improvements since he started dating me and that his family was surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:40 AM
34

My ex’s own mom told me I deserve better, LMAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 09:55 PM
1

I understand this way of thinking and it’s also something that would raise a few eyebrows in this side of the world. Generally we are a collectivist society and society is involved into the lives of individuals, relationships included. So, both shaming and praising is shared with the others. Families are also included into the judgment of the SO. If you keep things to yourself, people would either think someone in the relationship is abusive or that you’re stuck up. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:15 PM
9

The music seems more comedic to me. Fitting for a man that is her husband - an absolute joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:55 AM
7

Is airing dirty laundry (if this video can even be called like that) a faux pass in America?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:52 AM
3

My friend is in that situation. 😞 She moved in with him after like 2 months of dating and he’s already looking for an engagement ring. He was alone for a long time and since he’s in his mid 30s, he’s looking to settle down and my friend is pressured by her mother not to end up alone. My friend is apparently super happy with him, but even she said things seems to be moving too fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:20 AM
9

“The spark” - lots of fights and an unstable relationship with a girl that needs a therapist and not a bf who uses her downfalls as a way to make himself feel alive in his boring, empty life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:05 AM
2

Replace it with mother issues and you got my ex. Owwww!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:03 PM
2

My ex would claim he didn’t say something but then I’d pull out screenshots and he would try to wiggle out by claiming what person does and thinks are two different things, LMAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:57 PM
8

I’d confront mine about being a dick and he’d shatter into millions of pieces and call me abusive for lowering his self esteem. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:53 PM
15

Same! I was shocked to find out a man had so much insight and didn’t hide behind ”not all men!!!!”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 11:50 AM
38

My ex was crazy about me when I wasn’t really into him. 🤣 Only when I got attached did the things shift and he started manipulating by threatening to break up over every little thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 11:42 AM
14

Was looking for the “You” comparison, it’s like her bf is right out of the series.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:20 PM
20

Over here it’s 14, but men don’t date much outside their age group, from what I know. It’s when they get middle aged they get crazy and want a 25 year old with a look attached to the local celebrities. 🤣 Older women (60+) are considered attractive too and are often represented as such in the movies. It’s such a clash of the cultures when I see American men fangirling about teens. Is it related to the porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:49 PM
13

Exactly. The lows are low and the highs are high and if you don’t see it, others will. The girls are not worth the ridicule because they don’t feel like they deserve better, and again, if you don’t have the capacity to support your friend, recommend them a therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:35 PM
14

Recommend them to go to a therapist. If they are stuck in a cycle of abuse, it could be tremendously hard to get out of a relationship, especially if their self worth was eroded by their bf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:30 PM
22

They aren’t even visual when it comes to themselves. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:04 PM
5

Holy shit girl, have we dated the same man? I would ask for flowers or cute romantic cards and he would get angry, blame me or say now that he knows I expect it, he won’t do it. Yet I would treat him with hand made surprises. Same thing as your bf, I’m ungrateful, blah blah blah, if I wanted a flower on women’s day which is a highly celebrated day over here, I’d have to give him something on men’s day. 🙄 Silent treatment when he feels bad about his actions towards me. Look up covert narcissism, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:37 PM
16

Ooooh girl, you should see what bafoonery my ex did. Not only did he twist stories about me, he also would switch to alternative accounts to fight the people who sniffed through his bs despite the twists and lies he posted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:37 AM
32

Notice how these guys twist the titles so it seems their gf is irrational.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:32 AM
2

I’ll talk to my therapist about it too. Their father is absent a lot so it could be the same thing. She babies both of her adult sons and they struggle with relationships, yet my ex had a huge need for a mother and tried to turn me into one for himself. But the point of this is that no women could tolerate my ex except his mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:59 PM
12

My ex set a boundary of not talking about relationship problems. 😂 He was never ready to talk, no matter which approach I had. Then he‘d be a selfish ass and if I had emotional reaction to it and piled up things, I’d be an abuser. Absolute lmao. Lundy described this sort of behaviour in his book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:20 AM
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My ex would complain I don’t compliment him, all while acting similar to the picture above and communicating with me like I’m some casual buddy in a discord dank meme server.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 10:56 AM
11

His mom raised him that way and works in covert ways for both of her sons to stay with her well into their adulthood. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Ex even has to share the same bed as her. They all need therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 10:49 AM
3

Wow check out the comments in the sub it was posted. The men are trying to tear her down. So much hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:08 PM
23

My blood was boiling at that comment. You can bet he was gonna text her tomorrow like nothing happened and if she dared to be upset, he’d dump her and cry how he had a demanding angry ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:53 PM
9

I met up with my high school class 5 years after the graduation. Girls would act normal to me but guys could barely recognize me and would suddenly ask to add me on Facebook. 🙄 They would ignore, bully or sneer at me when I was dressing more like a boy in teen years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:23 PM
39

This sub helped me get rid of toxic friends as well. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 10:50 PM
12

I told my ex’s parent what bad things he did to me but they just shrugged it off as that’s how he is, they didn’t hold him accountable, but his mom did tell me I need someone better. If I did such emotionless things like him, it would be in no way acceptable to my family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 10:47 PM
24

My soul is leaving my body from laughter! 😂 What a high commitment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 12:52 PM
9

Change calls her arguments unsound with calling her an abuser and you got my ex! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 12:49 PM
34

Same! I would be called a lesbian by classmates and my mother for not really having an interest in the relationships. The classmates were especially annoying with homophobic remarks. And that was at university! It was men who assumed I was homosexual for saying I’m not in a relationship and not interested in seeking one. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 12:47 PM
9

Oh wow, I’d get almost the exact same messages. Then he couldn’t take 5 minutes of his time to talk about me being scared of cancer. (Turns out it was cancer ¯\_(ツ)_/¯) Got mad at me for being upset and tried to blame me, lmfao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 10:47 PM
11

I used to tell my ex nobody had so many problems with me as much as he did. He regarded highly my good qualities, though. It’s when I wanted to be treated normally, not like a premium, that he’d break down. Basics of the relationship were impossible for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:40 PM
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He didn’t even draw her hair. 😂 She looks like one of those faceless anime bases. Seems like he drew a present for himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 12:09 PM
4

Go ahead! We all had learning experiences and it’s so useful for everyone here to know the red flags and what to avoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 12:20 PM
3

Masterfully written! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:57 PM
19

This is something that puts all of her emotions in a check mate position. Anger? He’d call her crazy. Expressing sadness? He doesn’t see why she’s upset. The best method is the gray rock. “Oh that’s nice, enjoy the game.“ Then wait for quarantine to end and move out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:20 PM
4

Yeah, that’s one of the first things I’ve noticed. You can bet her bf demands her to be responsible for her actions, but when he does something terrible, it’s, of course, her fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:16 PM
1

I found this in a recommended article on my phone, of all things, and I knew it belonged here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:11 PM
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She forgot to buy one of the ingredients and he refused to make a dinner because of it. 🙄 The poor girl even tried to find a recipe that could work out, but he refused to budge. This is some serious immaturity that should have stopped at the age of 8, coupled with sadistic abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:41 PM
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In some of the comments I’ve seen, people are outraged she wants to work on how they communicate. This ain’t a communication issue, sis! I was outraged how much self blame is in that original post alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:36 PM
55

You can create various clothing designs, do infrastructure, cross-breed flowers, make your own path designs, terraform....it’s a small project that takes a lot of time and creativity, it’s like someone destroying your digital art or pixel art drawing, or virtual 3D model you were working hard on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:32 PM
3

OP, your ex is a narc. Classic, classic narc behaviour. Discard at the worst possible time, lack of empathy and bullying you at your low and seeking for a new supply right away. Textbook example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:09 AM
55

Preach! 🙌 My ex was uncomfortable with my male belly dancers. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:44 AM
13

I read years ago interpretation of turning the other cheek - turn another face to them, treat them differently. It helped me immensely. Remember, Jesus wasn’t a pushover, he was assertive and wise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:49 PM
29

Same! My ex was wonderful then turned for the worse, giving the crumbs of how he once was, thus trapping me in a circle of blame and awards. He was outraged when I was leaving, saying how I seem to be expecting him to do better if he wants to keep me. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:33 PM
2

I had the same experience, taking empathy for someone who had none for others. He even said he was googling why he’s like that. Therapy helps a lot to heal and understanding the ways of sociopaths and how to defend yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:23 AM
4

Wtf? What kind of 0 empathy is that? Does he have some sort of emotional and social setback? Please accept my condolences for your nephew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:37 PM
24

You can get in horrible life situation and he’ll get upset at you for asking support, cry because you catching him in lie is lowering his self esteem and call you an abuser because he feels guilty of all the bad things he’s done to you. Then break up each time there’s a serious life situation going on for you and find a way to blame none other than you. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 01:42 PM
4

“That’s fine honey, now get used to your life without me. :)”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:41 AM
12

Right to the bullseye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:31 PM
15

I would tell my ex exactly what I wanted and he’d reply that now he won’t get it for me because I’m now expecting it, lmao. To think I was carefully listening and giving him thoughtful handmade gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:27 PM
36

Something to look out for: abusers setting up “boundaries“ that clash or are intended to break yours. I was in that cycle until therapy. The guy I was dating put up his boundary of not wanting to discuss problems in the relationship, or rather whenever I’d bring it up, he’d pull out his trap card of boundary and want to discuss it later. When I asked when, he would not know, and expected me to shower him with love. If I had too many problems piled up and explode, I’m an abuser. If I put up a bou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:13 AM
8

I seem to attract narcs as well. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ They, to my surprise, mention some common things - how much they like my caring and nurturing side. Of course, they don’t give that care back. My cover narc was addicted to it and demanded more and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:34 PM
38

My ex, before he met me, thought a girl wanted to be his girlfriend because she complimented his hair! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 10:46 AM
1

The same thing happened to me and I’m thankful for therapy and my friends. I was physically abused and told him about it. As he kept accusing me of abuse more and more, he would say how, if he wasn’t stronger than me, he’d be worried that I’d beat him up. Then he switched how he’s worried I’ll hit him, even though he knows I wouldn’t wish upon anyone to get hit. What a shitbag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:42 PM
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Yeah, I’d call him out in his double standards a lot. He’d start to break down and say I’m emotionally abusive and can’t communicate because I divert his issues to myself. I’m like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. Sure dude, sure, it was acceptable few weeks ago for you to do it, said it’s NBD and stopped talking to me when I insisted that we discuss it, but you have a mental crash if I do it. Then he’d call me abusive again and say how he wants to break up, or just stops talking to me again. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 03:03 PM
6

Oh yes, female best fried, forgot to mention because I thought it was a given. Ex and I exchanged a lot of selfies because we were LDR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:52 PM
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Both my ex and best friend would send me pictures of themselves for me to judge if they look alright at the given moment, the selfies, if the angles are right....I’d say they look beautiful and I’d genuinely mean it and think that way. They would comment how I think that way because I love them/ see them through the love goggles. 😂😂 But love is what makes a person beautiful. You know those comments how people break up with each other and then wonder how they could even think their ex was pretty?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:42 AM
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From words like these, I’m so absolutely thankful for my top notch hygiene father who set a high standard to look out for, which is unfortunate that the hygiene is not a given. I often had to remind my ex to take some basic care of himself and he’d get mad. Unfortunately, my self esteem was low and I thought I just needed to say things in a nicer way to make him understand. Other people commented how he’s messy and given that my hygiene is impeccable, I should have nothing to do with him, among …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:05 PM
3

Sad how even the exaggerated parody is everyday reality for a lot of us. Thankfully, we are all on our way of bettering our lives and here to support each other through the hard times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:40 PM
14

Is this guy aware chemotherapy alters your body functions and makes you hyper sensitive to smell and taste? You can take a whiff of your favourite laundry detergent smell on your clothes and the next moment running to the bathroom to throw up. But of course, why would he care to look that up, or even ask online? Hell, why not ask the oncologist? Why not look up or ask her how to take care of her better? But no, it has to be BOOOHOOO this cancer patient who is going through hell shattered my frag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 12:10 PM
23

This is common in abusive relationships, to find excuses for the perpetrator, but honestly I think part of it is how women are raised and gaslighted to believe they are overreacting to everything. You will notice how common it is in the relationship subs for women to ask if they're overreacting. “Our relationship is fine except he sets my hair on fire when I upset him, is this normal?? I know I’m hard to deal with, sometimes I ask him to clean after himself, he says he’s tired from applying all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 03:10 PM
7

Take notes, ladies. This is how men divert attention from issues and it will reflect in your relationships. In this case we either have either an immature, internet raised boy, or an abuser/manipulator who uses covert aggressive tactics. Maybe we even have both in one! In case we’re dealing with a case of dark triad personality, blocking is one of their favourite ways to escape responsibility. But I honestly think we're dealing with some immature teenager whose brain is fried by the pornography.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 02:58 PM
20

This is how men excuse other abusers too. ”But he’s so good to our colleagues! He brings us coffee every morning and offers to help our families when we need it! No way he raped his wife, she must be making that up to divorce him and take his hard earned money!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:55 PM
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What an absolute asshole! He should have been deeply apologizing to you for making you miss/be late at an important presentation. Lol at he forgives you, what at big ego he has.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 02:03 PM
13

Sis, he KNOWS what he does hurts you. YES! Girls, do not believe for a second he’s clueless. Mine even told me he does before breaking it off. It happened exactly how it’s written here. ​ Many of us used calm words, polite notes, texts, cards, and heartfelt letters to express our feelings when they did something to hurt us. So many hours spent into thinking of the right words and time to bring it up, yet if that moment was reached (him not getting annoyed), things would rarely change, in most of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:51 PM
6

It seems more like her husband found the thread and is pretending to give advice from ”guy’s perspective”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:34 PM
22

I had a similar experience. Few major surgeries and chemo at a younger age than her. My LVM broke up with me and blamed me for everything. ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯ Honestly, I’m more amused than anything, it’s such a predictable behaviour. Your true friends and family will bask you in love and it will be easier to spot that how he’s acting is not normal. Watch out for the telling signs - is he with you during the hard times in your life or is he avoiding them until you’re fine again? Is he there to support y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:46 PM
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I’m glad we all have each other here. I didn’t realize there’s a pattern to this kind of behavior and they’re unfortunately lurking behind the mask of normal people. If I can give any advice, it’s to see what your mother thinks about him. She considered mine low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:16 PM
23

Spot on. My covert narc loved this tactic the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:18 PM
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I’d tell him silent treatment is abusive, but he would react by being annoyed for calling him abusive. Then he would twist it and call me an abuser for lowering his self esteem and telling him ”terrible things” about him - like silent treatment and stonewalling are abusive and I won’t tolerate it anymore. Then he’d ask for me to apologize for insinuating I’ll break up with him. WHAT A MESS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:30 PM
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I’d go out with my friends, to exercise or go shopping. Can you believe he was upset that when he asked what I was doing, I told him about the nice time I was having during the silent treatment of his?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:25 PM
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Wow, really needed this in the past. My ex would give me silent treatments and either a) pop up and pretend nothing has happened, rolling his eyes if I address the issue, or blaming me for his silent treatment, orrr b) wait some time for me to reach out, then break up when I don’t do anything. Again, blaming me for everything, lmao!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:24 PM
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FDS is not your advertising ground. Stop it. It‘s so transparent you’re spamming almost every thread with your book promotion. Even if I ever wanted to read the books, now I hate them and won’t even google them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:40 AM
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I’m so glad to hear about the positive examples and maturity about everything. It helps me realize the behaviour of the guy I was seeing wasn’t normal. If I said that he doesn’t seem to care or is not serious, he’d say how I’m hurting him by making assumptions about him, would argue about it and/or disappear and stop talking to me and later blame me for it. God forbid I explained by saying my friends and family are doing this for me, then he’d say I’m emotionally abusing him by comparing him to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:22 PM
6

Because they know they can just dump the kids onto the mother/his mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:33 PM
10

'There's always a room for you at my house, unless you have a squabble. If he hits you, maybe you shouldn't make him mad' w t f?! So you‘re free to come visit me, your parent, unless you’re a victim of a domestic abuse? So messed up! Can you imagine shunning your own child over some man who came into her life? Other than that, I’m laughing at these! I heard some of them too, tho all of it sounds like it could be said by a person from 1920s, lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:19 PM
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Wow, this is common in narcissists? Mine started taking my little jokes and sayings early on. Someone online once thought I was him because he was expressing himself to others in a way that he sponged off of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:05 PM
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Don’t question your judgment, you were love bombed, manipulations are hard to spot when they’re pulling strings of your heart once you’re already hooked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:37 PM
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