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| – | Why aren't marriages becoming more stable?I think it very much depends on your definition of sacrifice and whether it is mutual or not. There are times we put each other's needs before our own, but not to our own detriment. I do absolutely agree marriage should be all of these things, I was simply pointing out that trials and difficulty are unavoidable, and the level of each can be impacted by uncontrollable life events and stressors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 06:23 AM |
| – | Why aren't marriages becoming more stable?Compromise and caring about the needs of your partner doesn't equal misery. Marriage will have periods of trials and difficulty, but yes it does require conscientiousness and consistent communication. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 05:45 AM |
| 8 | Why aren't marriages becoming more stable?Because we live in a society with the mentality of "my needs are my top priority". Compromise is not a concept people want to engage in, nor is putting in the work instead of instant gratification. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 07:23 PM |
| 1 | is it normal to have her look better than you in a relationship ?Oh haha gotcha🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 08:01 PM |
| 1 | is it normal to have her look better than you in a relationship ?Except I hate shopping, don't wear name brand clothes (rarely buy new clothes period), could care less about shoes or purses, and don't wear makeup unless for an event or date night. We both work and our checks go into a joint account that bills are paid out of. We try to have one date night a month. So I guess that blows a hole in that, huh? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 02:53 AM |
| 4 | is it normal to have her look better than you in a relationship ?No disrespect, but these are very shallow evaluations of a relationship. My husband and I don't try to determine who married "up or down.". We built a relationship and life together because we love each other, not because one settled for a time and the other thought they couldn't do better. My husband accepts me for me and vice versa. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 01:29 AM |
| 7 | Gifting a massage and saying the therapist has to be a certain genderI prefer a female just because of my comfort level, as does my husband. It is not that either one of us are sexualizing it, its just a comfort thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Holding yourself to some unachievable standard of what it takes as a man to get laid is a recipe for disappointment and resentmentMen (and women) should strive to better themselves because they want to be better people, not because it might increase their sexual opportunities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 11:49 AM |
| 0 | No, women have not "left men behind and upped their standards", they have left themselves behind and there are few worthwhile modern day women to date long-termYes, I'm sure there is a small subset of people that are this shallow, but as a general rule successful relationships are not based on this in the least. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 11:44 AM |
| 1 | This is why women have become more choosy (from a woman’s perspective).How so? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Most women in relationships love talking about feelings, but only about their own feelings1) I commented with a link to an actual study. But here it us again just so it doesn't get lost in all the comments. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/2372732220984491 2) Have you considered the type of people you associate with? Yes there are horrible, narcissist, abusive people, both male and female. If we choose to believe people when they show us who they are, then we should be led to be far more selective about our social circles (and if single, dating pool.) This will lead to much s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/23 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Most women in relationships love talking about feelings, but only about their own feelingshttps://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/2372732220984491 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/23 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Most women in relationships love talking about feelings, but only about their own feelingsWhat studies? Are we talking about reputable peer reviewed scientific studies or surveys? How can you be truly intimate with someone if you hide who you really are? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/23 02:32 PM |
| 3 | Most women in relationships love talking about feelings, but only about their own feelingsI genuinely care about his feelings, and our relationship is much closer when we are both honest about how we feel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/23 02:26 PM |
| 4 | I’ve noticed a lot of you mistake comfort and security for attraction. Maybe you’ve only ever felt those things and don’t know what lust is yetYou do realize you can experience both in the same relationship right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 08:51 PM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?Dude its just getting sad at this point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 12:16 PM |
| 0 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?You can stop talking in circles. At least admit you have no valid rationale, you just choose to believe that concept. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 03:10 AM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?You do you. An statement with no rationale is not an opinion or belief. I literally said been here a few months, but you proved that I was right from the beginning. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 01:24 AM |
| 0 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?Ok cool so you have no rationale, only circular reasoning 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 12:05 AM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?Yes they talk about it constantly, but short of insecurity, jealousy, and double standards there isn't much substance. So feel free to share your "biological rationale"🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 10:32 PM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?A few months isn't new, and I've had many interactions on the sub. Doesn't take long to see the patterns. Idk maybe I just comprehend faster? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 09:50 PM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?Omg so childish. Ive been on the sub a few months | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Men dont care about body count if the woman is prettyWe don't have the same libido. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Men dont care about body count if the woman is prettyNo not greater than 50, but very significantly higher than his. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Men dont care about body count if the woman is prettyMy husband had a few one night stands, while my n-count is much higher. We have a successful faithful marriage....he didn't care what happened before him, only what happened with him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 05:50 PM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?So your best rationale is "you must be new so I won't explain it"? That sounds a lot like "this is what I choose to believe and don't have to come up with a logical reason for it." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 12:28 PM |
| 0 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?Feel free to back up your argument. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 11:07 AM |
| 2 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?How is it biology? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 02:00 AM |
| 2 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?So hypocrisy as I already said. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 01:20 AM |
| 2 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?Again I see read plenty about it, just find the concept intriguing. In fact, in doing so I have seen many men with a count of 20+ talking about how they find a woman with a count of say 5+ disgusting. But as you stated, we are measured by different standards, so you acknowledge the hypocrisy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 01:03 AM |
| 2 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?No not new, just don't understand the obsession. As a general rule it seems men want to have as many partners as they see fit, yet they expect woman to have a very low count. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 12:59 AM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?Why the obsession and double standard with n-count? A lot of people go through a wild phase and then completely change. Others have zero issue with monogamy. If you take the time to learn each other it will become the best sex regardless of the previous count. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 12:42 AM |
| – | “Low libido” litmus test.It is compromise because he still takes care of me when he isn't in the mood. Sex is not everything | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/23 02:53 PM |
| 6 | “Low libido” litmus test.We have sex 1-5 times a week, and both get off a minimum of once each time, so no I'm not sexually frustrated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 02:39 PM |
| 7 | “Low libido” litmus test.How did you come to the conclusion that I don't have a fullfilling sex life? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:38 PM |
| 10 | “Low libido” litmus test.Because I love my husband, and again different doesn't mean wrong! Why would I trade an amazing relationship for someone who simply wants sex more? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:32 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenMy point was that the cancers that have the highest rates of divorce are those that significantly alter a woman's appearance. Truthfully though its pretty shitty all the way around to make vows and then peace out when your spouse gets sick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 12:05 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenIt is interesting when you look at statistics: breast and colorectal cancer have some of the highest divorce rates. However studies also show that a woman diagnosed with cancer has a 20.8% risk of divorce, while a man diagnosed with cancer has a 2.9% risk of divorce. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:54 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenIf you are married, you made vows "through sickness and health." Would you give your child up if they had cancer? If not, why would you love and remain devoted to them, but not your spouse? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:43 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenMy mistake I read that wrong (haven't had my coffee yet lol), I thought you said I'm not a woman... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:38 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenActually I am. My husband and I both started out broke and worked our butts off to get where we are. The only jewelery I wear is a wedding ring set and small stud earrings. I don't buy name brand clothes, I don't buy purses, and the only expensive shoes I buy are running shoes. We live in an average size home and drive average vehicles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:36 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenTo each their own I guess. Money was never a determining factor for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:33 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenMaybe you are hanging out with the wrong women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:30 AM |
| 5 | “Low libido” litmus test.Clearly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:30 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenNot all women are attracted to money. Emotional attraction is attraction to a person's personality, intelligence, morals/beliefs, and goals. Such a meaningless term? Do you really base your relationships only on appearance? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:28 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenIf you are holding out for an ideal "perfect 10" you will either stay single or have failed relationships due to holding your partner to an unrealistic standard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:25 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenThe second part is in regards to partners leaving so frequently when a breast cancer patient either loses one or both breasts, even with reconstruction. They see the change in physical appearance as a reason to leave a long term relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:23 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control women1) I said the relationship (primarily marriage) failure rate, not the percentage of people who care about appearance. 2) Not basing your relationship choices solely on the level of attractiveness does not mean giving "no shits." Again attraction is subjective, and needs to be more than just physical. You can absolutely find your partner attractive, beautiful, etc without holding them to an unrealistic standard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 02:09 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenNo, I am saying that putting an overemphasis on looks doesn't lead to healthy, lasting relationships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 02:02 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenI apologize, I misunderstood what you meant, so thank you for clarifying. To my knowledge the statistics are still hovering around 50%. But a very good (but sad) illustration of what I was describing is the fact that preparing for their spouse or significant other leaving as part of patient education for women newly diagnosed with breast cancer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:56 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenWhich is fine (and no I am not low single digit). But will a relationship like you are describing last if a partners loses their attractiveness? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Many women are usersEnvironment you grew up in doesn't have to determine what kind of woman you are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:36 AM |
| 0 | CMV: Men use money to control womenOk? Not everyone is attracted to every model, because again subjective. Do you consider anyone beautiful who isnt "model level"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:34 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenBut minority doesn't mean wrong. Relationships would be far more successful if they were based on more than appearance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:33 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men use money to control womenI can honestly say I have never based a relationship on looks...lol even my husband was like "whoa" when he saw a couple exes, and not in a good way🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:29 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men use money to control womenBelieve it or not, not everyone bases everything on looks. Looks are very temporary....if that is the only thing holding the relationship together you won't make it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:26 AM |
| 0 | CMV: Men use money to control womenSo if you find a model attractive does that mean you can't find a "non model" beautiful? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:25 AM |
| 3 | An interesting observation about marriage I read on the askmen subredditWhile some of these can absolutely be true of both genders I will say a couple of things about it. 1) As a general one, one partner is by default the primary parent. 2) There are times where your children need you more than your spouse does, and therefore get more of your attention and energy. 3) Some men seriously care what women wear around the house? Or even running errands? My out of work "uniform" is either jeans and a sweatshirt, or workout clothes. I dress up if we go out, and he definite… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:25 AM |
| 17 | “Low libido” litmus test.Why do we always see someone who is different from us as needing fixing? My libido has always been higher than my husband's (and no his wasn't higher before me). We are no where even close to a dead bedroom, we just have different levels of desire.... I would much rather compromise so that we can meet each other's needs than try to convince him he is "broken." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:17 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Men use money to control womenBeauty is absolutely subjective | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Cuddling is more intimate than sex?No, but it definitely adds to the intimacy of the relationship! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:13 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Men use money to control womenOr everyone should date someone that they are attracted to physically and emotionally, instead of by their money or attraction "rating." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 01:11 AM |
| 2 | Do men really get better with age?Sorry but I'm not going to debate the ethical permissibility of an adult having sex with a child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 12:59 AM |
| 1 | Do men really get better with age?That is not even relevant today | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 11:20 PM |
| 2 | Being labeled as husband material is insult for most guysHusband material is loving, faithful, mature, mutual values, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 05:54 PM |
| 1 | You have to have an unfulfilling life if you go into a relationship NOT prioritising sexSo it stops being the number one priority after "x" amount of time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 05:47 PM |
| 2 | You have to have an unfulfilling life if you go into a relationship NOT prioritising sexSo if sex is your number one priority does that mean you leave if anything prevents her from having sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Do men really get better with age?As long as she knows you are only using her for sex it isn't abusive, I do agree with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 03:23 PM |
| 0 | Do men really get better with age?I'm saying I'm not going to debate with people who refuse to acknowledge they may be wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Do men really get better with age?Some men do find it so, but ultimately not my issue so I'm not gonna worry about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Do men really get better with age?Yall do you. In my 30s I view 18yo as kids but to each their own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Do men really get better with age?It is simple, lack of fully informed consent is wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Do men really get better with age?If both parties are 100% aware of what it is and that it is only about sex then no. A little creepy, yeah. Wrong, no. In that case I there is fully informed consent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 10:54 PM |
| 2 | Do men really get better with age?I was on the receiving end years ago. I thought he loved me because he lied his ass off and I was naive. So yes I chose to have sex with him because I didn't know he was preying on my nativity. Turns out he was fantasizing that I was his daughter every time. So please don't act like every case is completely innocent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Do men really get better with age?That is not what I am saying. We are talking about the barely college age, not someone who has 6 years of adult life experience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 10:48 PM |
| -1 | Do men really get better with age?Disapprove of dating, no. Disapprove of sex, no. Typically "college age" is considered 18-22 (as a generality) so yes when you are 8-12+ years older with nothing in common, its not cool. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 10:37 PM |
| -1 | Do men really get better with age?🤦♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 10:03 PM |
| -2 | Do men really get better with age?Deflection might make you feel better but you are still the guilty party. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 09:44 PM |
| 4 | Do men really get better with age?So you had no idea you had nothing in common with someone who was barely an adult? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 09:35 PM |
| 0 | Do men really get better with age?Nope | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Do men really get better with age?So you tell her you are only using her for sex at the outset? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 09:23 PM |
| 0 | Do men really get better with age?So you tell them point blank you want nothing from them other than sex, and if they could just leave you alone other than that that would be great? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 09:12 PM |
| 3 | Do men really get better with age?Yeah that isn't "dating" it is using naivety to get what you want sexually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 08:57 PM |
| -1 | Do men really get better with age?A variety of issues (usually with rejection, their relationship with their dad, etc), however the blame falls on the one with the maturity to know better yet chooses to prey on those who are naive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 08:45 PM |
| -5 | Do men really get better with age?Let's not discuss how repulsive it is to be in your 30s trying to "date" barely legal women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Why do women get attracted to masculine men, but hate those masculine traits when in a relationship?Just going by not mr nice guy and feelings hurt by your jokes. Being a kind person really isn't a gender based trait. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Why do women get attracted to masculine men, but hate those masculine traits when in a relationship?You can be masculine and not use it as an excuse to be an asshole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 03:05 PM |
| 0 | Can the difference between the female sex drive and the male sex drive be evidenced by the stark differences between gay male sexual patterns and lesbian sexual patterns?Perhaps as a generality, but some women have a higher drive then a lot of men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Have you experienced times in a relationship that was sexless? If so, why do you think this happened?Yes; recovery from illness/surgery and major life crisis/stressors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 12:54 PM |
| 2 | Dick sucking n-countYes there is "variety" out there, but being with the same partner (if you do it right) teaches you how to hone technique, and find multiple ways to bring them (and in turn, you) pleasure. A fling won't be able to please you in the same way as a long term partner, its just exciting because its new. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 12:45 PM |
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