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Totally agree…I had friends who bragged about exploits. I was more into relationships and being more discerning with who I connected with The standard was established by your nightly exploits and I felt a lot of guys in our group chased because of peer pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:27 PM
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I feel this is true for older generations where women maintained household duties. Men worked and women cooked, etc. My ex was a good cook, but had a professional position as well, and we shared household duties, or hired out. I can take care of myself, cook, etc. I also have a social group that satiates my needs and became more communicative as I got older, which allows me to easily make new acquaintances . I date, but find baggage women have collected ( men do too), as a strong deterrent to lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:47 PM
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the topic
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:38 PM
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The best thing to show her is that you don’t give a shit. There, I made the connection for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:22 PM
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I’ve been in enough relationships to just know what happens. Breakups happen and I’ve learned to enjoy the moment and when it ends, I’ll be sad for a couple of days and put it behind me. I just allow myself a short period to mourn and then gone. This is one nice thing about getting older.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:09 PM
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Why can’t they corroborate what the Op is stating.? There are two sides to every debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 02:51 AM
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My ex was great when I had a long-term career at a Fortune 50 company. I needed a serious break with minimal financial consequences because of her work and my savings. She bagged a 20 year marriage because I took a year off and viciously (not physically) ended the marriage. She didn’t divorce until I forced it seven years after split. She was hanging on to see if she could find something better. I finished raising the kids and reestablished my career. I live in a great part of the country, make …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:44 PM
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by a woman who pooped in his bed….We judge women too much by their looks and not by their character.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:46 PM
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I’ve had a number of supposedly committed women just come up to me basically say let’s go. It also happened while I was married with kids. I couldn’t imagine what this would do to the husband, but especially that this woman was totally fucking up her kids for life. I may not represent all men , but I lost all respect for these women and would just walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:39 PM
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This is the reason count is important to some men. If sex is a commodity to a woman before marriage, what are the chances she will just go have sex with another man because marriage gets difficult, or some dude’s a total stud. Women tend to equate count with a virgin, which some men want. But I feel like most men want a woman who has had most of her sexual encounters in committed relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:30 PM
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This And then they want student loans forgiven and this will fall on debt for future generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:01 PM
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Based solely on marketability and demand. As you said, young women are more likely to cheat because of attractiveness. Men with assets, power, are more marketable than a standard 20 something male. These dynamics have always existed. The issue I have is gender bias. Many women justify cheating by saying the woman was just finding herself, or add some negative attribute of the man that caused her to cheat. For the man who cheats, he’s just a pig who destroyed his relationship/ family.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:18 PM
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I don’t mind tall women. It the build that personally bothers me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 07:00 PM
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At least we’re finally seeing the pendulum swinging the other way from all this woke BS. Excuse me, I’m now hearing woke doesn’t exist. Seems like a group made up a bunch of terminology where they don’t have to defend their position by just calling someone whatever. It makes dumb people think they are smart.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:04 PM
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How do you interpret what I stated as being called names? It’s how the system works for obtaining jobs and getting into colleges.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:47 PM
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I feel there is more of an impact for men constantly being berated as being misogynistic and systemically racist. They’re tired of being called privileged when colleges and companies say they meed to hire a female or minority only because of quotas. I have personally been told this when i was hiring in a very large company. It comes to more women than men attending college, and still the message is not changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:45 PM
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I think deep down your friend also appreciates the drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:24 PM
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I was shy in my 20’s. Fortunately, I joined social groups and my relationships came out of those groups. I also took jobs that required social interaction including presentations on front of large groups. I actually enjoyed presenting and this built on my social confidence. In. my thirties, I still experiences SA, but it became part of the process that I learned to expect. It got easier and now I just tell myself get over it and proceed with the engagement.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 04:30 PM
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Not sure about the reason, but check the trend in older women using anti depressants versus men. They are clearly depressed about something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 04:36 PM
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Used to frequent a downtown bar where all the female employees had flat butts. We thought it was because the owner’s wife did all the hiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:31 PM
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I’ve had married acquaintances who I knew prior to getting married, who cheated. Being married and having kids, I felt sick to my stomach for people I knew were married and serial cheaters, especially with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 03:16 PM
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I’ve had a number of exclusive relationships. Looking back, I tended to favor women who were between 5’6” to 5’9”. I had one short woman I dated who refused to sit at a hi top table at the bar. I also have a deep sofa and she wanted me to buy a new sofa because her feet didn’t reach the floor. I never really thought much about women’s height until I dated her. Also, I never bought a new couch and I like hi top tables, especially at sports bars so I can watch the various games.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:38 PM
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Seems that when women cheat, they support themselves with a haggle of friends who support her with examples of why it was the husbands fault. In general, men just blame the guy who cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 02:24 PM
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The subjects seem to get regurgitated and eventually become old.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:07 PM
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My ex said the same thing. She was 30 when we met and repeatedly stated that she had lived through her wild days and was done. Married, had kids and all was fine. She was a very involved Mom, had a successful career and was a loving wife. Long story shortened, kids became self sufficient and she got bored. She began cheating and went back to her old ways. We’ve been divorced over ten years and has tried to come back. Just as older women profess to give advice to younger women about dating older …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:29 PM
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I’m not concerned about N Count, but more to the character of the woman. I recently dated a woman and felt really good about her. She was very sexual and a lot of fun, so I assumed she had an active past. We were having drinks snd she told me about how she had dated a married guy who used to be her high school boyfriend. The relationship went from long term potential to pfuck buddies in an instant.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 06:25 PM
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I’m stealing your outer space comment…good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:33 PM
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I could never do a penis photo. One, I’m not sure of the purpose snd second, as a professional with a reputation, the potential exposure could be devastating. I’ll keep the erotic episodes in person.person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:16 AM
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Most women I’ve dated have established a pseudo time frame for sex. Things progress as you get to know each other and then one night, you know it and add a few extra drinks and it just happens. I find the anticipation adds to the rush when it does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:08 AM
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Nothing against lowering standards, but if it’s not working for you, maybe something needs to change. The majority here are not in high school anymore and things begin to sag, hair abandons you, etc. Some things can equalize your losses, like power, money, an interesting life to offer someone, and even surgery. But, we are all rolling down that hill.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 05:09 PM
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Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:26 AM
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A small percentage have physical issues. The rest is about cultural acceptance and lifestyle. I don’t berate it, but I can tell you what few people in my area are overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:15 AM
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Coming from Colorado, most people in the rural areas don’t have a high obesity issue because of our lifestyle. I am amazed at the number of people who visit from other parts of the country who are severely overweight. We have people in their 70’s biking over mountain passes and it’s culturally normal to see this type of activity. I don’t berate people’s circumstances, but I don’t understand it. If I gain an extra ten pounds in the winter, I physically and mentally feel like crap and quickly try …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 01:51 AM
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Also refreshing is I never hear of terms like the patriarchy, or the subjugation of women. BTW, she was in North America for a long time and understands western culture and english. She felt that many western women were overindulged and lacked decorum.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 07:40 PM
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I’m dating a Chinese college professor who has almost as much as me asset wise. Comparing her to American women in general, she is much more controlled in her emotions and she’s never pushy. She is strong willed, but is much more willing to negotiate and does not hold a grudge. She’s a tremendous air of relief to many of the Western women I’ve dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 07:05 PM
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Neither are men. If the woman decides to have the child, the man is forced to pay child support and at best have 50% visitation rights. In many cases, the woman doesn’t want the man around and uses the courts to limit visitation and just continues to accept his payments for 18 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:27 PM
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To me, women try to control power through sex. The more they can limit it and keep it from becoming a commodity, the more they have control over men. Keeping the younger woman out of their sexual territory helps keep control in their own dating pool. Note that sex in many cultures is fulfilling a bodily meed and not some mind control over an individual. Control in this case is redefining shame since it cannot be done by making it illegal. My take is if everyone is of legal age, it’s no one’s bus…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 03:41 PM
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From what I hear from a lot of married men, that goes away too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 06:03 PM
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That’s why I added other professional capabilities. Many timesI will hear he is running a business from home.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 07:26 PM
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Male executives want someone who will take care of the home issues and be presentable at functions. They will readily take someone below their social level in exchange for those two items. In general, female executives want someone of the same social status or better. This is difficult if there are kids involved. They’ll accept a house husband if there is some other professional capability involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:01 PM
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10% get alimony, but also the house if kids are involved and half the other assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:28 PM
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It doesn’t say file, the stat says starts. Big difference in filing paperwork versus saying I’m not happy and I want a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 08:55 PM
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To me, this is the crux of the issue. Men are more literal and less willing to commit. However, once they commit, they have a stronger sense the marriage is until death. With the statistics and in discussions I’ve had with women, they feel that they can just leave if they aren’t “happy.” Nothing right or wrong, just different sets of expectations that should be discussed before a marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:22 PM
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I agree But women will run because they feel they have more options at the moment because they typically have a better support system, friends, child support and alimony. Then many get older and realize that their weren’t truly as many options and they feel lonely, or that they exchanged one set of annoyances with another set.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:27 PM
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Experiences start with parents and in many cases the impact the divorce and impact of the divorce on the father since many boys relate to their future selves through their father’s current experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:35 PM
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I don’t agree with this thread, but 70% of divorces are started by women. Nowhere near 70% of 50% of men can be bad. Therefore the probability is the female is going to cut and run from the marriage. If I was really interested in finding out who and what the issues are, I would drill down yo the female population because of this stat. I’m not really interested and therefore don’t care to research beyond the summary statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:21 PM
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Sure they seek marriage, but first time marriages end overall at around 50% in divorce. Some places like Orange County, CA is 72%. Also, 70% of divorces are initiated by women. Let’s just say that if you were going to jump out of plane and there was a 50% chance the chute would not open, would you jump? This is the feeling many young men have today.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:39 AM
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eventuallywent back to work to skip sex
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 12:29 AM
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It’s like these people all drank from the same cool aid pitcher. I can say this all started around 30 years ago when I was in college. Some of the required stupid classes like Sociology where starting the indoctrination agenda. I just placed them in the category as a crazy one-off professor.
/r/MensRights06/09/22 08:48 PM
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Federal Biden Intervention
/r/MensRights06/09/22 06:25 PM
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These people can’t even respond with a sane disagreement. It’s all the catchphrase terms mansplaining, misogyny, etc and there’s not a valid argument in most cases. You are dealing with a brainwashed crowd and there can be no reasonable discourse. I like the term henpile. Thank you for that.
/r/MensRights06/09/22 06:23 PM
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Reference your comment above on men devaluing women. I’m just referencing women devaluing men with similar terms. I would also like to see your source research on the 80/20 rule. I’m not going to comment about every statement you’ve made as it would be tiring. I provided a point of view many men have who work hard and become successful. In addition, sex is innately transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:35 AM
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Then the incel, little penis and many other derogatory terms women may be using for undesirable men don’t exist . It’s only those misogynistic men who, or the most recent “”””istic term being used for men who mansplain bad things about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:03 AM
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As far as I can tell, she’s still with Jeff and women are waiting in line to expand the Mars population with Elon. I’m not referencing multi millionaires snd up in my previous statement. An affluent existence works just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:55 AM
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If woman weren’t so caught up on their looks and making themselves so unavailable to the general male population in their twenties and only to the top tiered bad ass men, maybe men would be more attracted to other qualities in women as they age. As it is today, looks become so important that many men continue to seek the young attractive female as the men gain status and wealth, and become more attractive to women. Contrary to what these men experienced the rejection in their twenties, the young…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:18 AM
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Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:27 AM
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Then she would be s hit with all the older ladies. We have “progressed” with the feminist movement, except young (over 18) pretty women still meed to be protected from manipulative men , in many feminists eyes because what power does a woman have with the general male population if sex is easily available. .
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:25 AM
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Being a virgin is not critical for me. More important to me is the woman’s history of cheating in a committed relationship and her moral compass. How much would she be willing to work on a relationship, and finally can we both find a compromise point on issues. For example, I had a relationship where the woman felt and I wasn’t contributing to cleaning. I offered to pay for a cleaning person and she rejected that. I read that as an issue of control and that became a negative signal to me. I also…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 07:11 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 03:48 AM
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Lied, went from a doting mother who wanted a sit down dinner every night, to eating cereal by herself. Before blaming me, I also cooked or we would order in. When I finally left, one son stayed in her city and lived with her. If he was out later (good kid and never got in trouble), she would put the dog outside in an area with a lot of coyotes, text him what she had done, and tell him he better come home to save the dog. He stayed there for college, by choice. She would text the same to me, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:58 AM
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I don’t feel men value fertility as much as women. I had my kids and proceeded with a vasectomy for various reasons. I also had many male friends who had vasectomies at a relatively young age.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:24 AM
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I know it’s hard and since it was a long relationship, I tried everything I could to help. It would have been easier for me if she had rented sn apartment and let me finish raising the kids. She had a strong career and she was able to function at work just fine for a few years at a time until she changed organizations. I know it’s different for different women, but I will never take that risk again. I date, but will never marry, or become strongly attached. It was literally a nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:17 AM
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Yes I was married 18 years and went into that phase. We divorced and I hold no grudge except she screwed up our kids who don’t trust women. She felt there was nothing wrong with her and she still is a very unhappy person. She tried various things and nothing worked. ED is in most cases cured by just s little blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:58 AM
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I live close to an area with a lot of wealthy people snd I’ve had more than a couple of young twenty year old ask me about what I’m worth. They are clearly looking for financial stability and not necessarily for love. I tend to think most women are smart and can make there own decisions and don’t need to be protected, so I have no issues as long as people are honest about their intentions. Some old rich guy is going to get some and both will meet their own needs. It’s very prevalent around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:35 AM
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And then we have women starting menopause in their 40’s and continuing for years. I’ve personally have been out with woman going through this and it’s a nightmare in many cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:25 AM
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If someone is of legal age, then I have no qualms about whatever type of relationship they engage, hay straight or whatever, it’s not your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:20 AM
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Depends on the region..,Orange county, CA is 72%
/r/MensRights01/09/22 08:53 PM
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I was married for 18 years before I saw the bitch I had married, then divorced. Some bad personalities are easy to spot, but for many, it’s not easy.
/r/MensRights01/09/22 08:33 PM
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Once I finished having kids, I phoned the doctor and was snipped. I was out having beers with friends that evening. I do know someone who’s married and had a vasectomy years ago. His wife is again pregnant, so not full proof and I’m not speculating on anything else.
/r/MensRights01/09/22 07:49 PM
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Every relationship I’ve been in has had a lot of sex, even when the relationship was coming to an end and from myself and my partner. There have been a few times where we both knew it was over, but kept the sex going. I found break up sex exciting.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 09:01 PM
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End game is idealistic to think all will be corrected. To me, the end game is to achieve what you want, but protect yourself as if you’re going into business. For example, I’ve been married snd had kids, so I have a vasectomy. If you decide to marry, have a prenup. If you get into a relationship, check the woman’s history on relationships and if she’s been through a number of relationships and is fickle, don’t get too emotionally attached. Be realistic for what exists today and still enjoy life.…
/r/MensRights31/08/22 08:11 PM
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I have a friend, decent looking, great career and assets. He has no problem meeting women and having sex. He mentioned many times where a woman is ready to have a go and she finds out what he has. She then isn’t that kind of girl and wants a relationship. He now keeps what he has private when he meets women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 07:12 PM
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Unlikely to find a virgin, but maybe someone who has only had sex in long-term relationships and considers it a special thing between two close people. Proof in that many women keep the low down on the number of partners they’ve had because they feel it devalues them for SMV.
/r/MensRights25/08/22 09:54 PM
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I was dating a woman recently, very pretty and attentive, but became bored with everything in her life. I was looking for a long-term relationship, but emotionally detached when I realized her persona. I stayed because it was fun snd the sex was good. After a couple of years, she just walked away and I easily just moved on. This is how I’ve come to treat relationships as I got older. Note that I was in. 20 year marriage, bit that is for another day.
/r/MensRights25/08/22 05:51 PM
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