Bad_day_today Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
19	What do you think of this: Debunking the war on men	Ask Red Pill	Bad_day_today	/r/TheRedPill	19/12/13 05:43 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	Hey RP Women! My friend asked: What value can women add to a man's life? Provide good genes for his children, then help raise them to be people we're both proud of Be his partner throughout life's challenges and successes. We're on the same team. Help him look good in front of his friends and colleagues Help him feel good about himself Cooking, cleaning, and all the other domestic things are fine (though I fully support hiring someone to do those things too). But, the real value of a relationship is the long-term bond you build as a family and as a couple.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/13 10:06 PM
5	What are your thoughts on this, "I wish I hadn't opted out" article? I'm not sure where the idea that I'm unhappy came from. I have a great marriage, two awesome kids and a pretty nice life all around. We just disagree about what RPW is about. To me, RPW is about the same thing TRP is. It's just women understanding themselves the same way the TRP guys are. We obviously have different things to understand about what we're attracted to and how we handle things, but I certainly wouldn't call our traits faults. They aren't bad or inferior, they just are. Being self a…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/12/13 12:33 AM
8	How should an Alpha respond to to more complementary things, and non-shit test remarks. e.g. ' You make me feel so special' I feel like I've replied with 'thank you' too much and want to say something with a bit more substance. I'm glad. I do my best.	/r/TheRedPill	21/12/13 12:15 AM
4	What are your thoughts on this, "I wish I hadn't opted out" article? Hahahaha. TRP isn't about worshipping men and pretending they do no wrong. We all know that isn't true. It's about understanding what you're attracted to and the dynamic that makes you happy. It's laughable to pretend to know what went wrong in a decades old relationship you've heard 3 sentences about. But, the point is that women shouldn't base their lives on short-term situations (like having young kids who aren't in school) without a really good backup plan.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/12/13 12:05 AM
2	What are your thoughts on this, "I wish I hadn't opted out" article? Mostly, it's financial stability. I have a job that pays well and if I ever needed to, I could support myself and my children with my paycheck alone (it wouldn't be easy, but I could). Besides that, I have my own retirement savings and we both have good life insurance plans. It's not something we think about every day or anything, but I feel more secure knowing that if something unexpected happened, my family would probably be ok.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/13 10:17 PM
4	What are your thoughts on this, "I wish I hadn't opted out" article? Actually I don't think my SO is anything like my Dad. Not at all. We trust each other as much as people can. But, I would still never be so short-sighted to assume that the way things are now is the way they will always be. That's just irresponsible. Planning for the future isn't RP or not RP, it's just smart.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/13 09:16 PM
5	What are your thoughts on this, "I wish I hadn't opted out" article? You can keep that line of thought going backwards all day. Maybe she turned him out of the bedroom because he was a bad husband. The point is that you can't control what other people in your life do, but you can control your reaction. Nothing excuses cheating. When you're unhappy in a marriage, you either fix it or leave. He tried to get away with doing neither and screwed up several lives in the process.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/13 07:00 PM
2	Can women empathize? An anecdote of how TRP misuses anecdotes Yeah, I think it's the word "empathy" that's throwing me off. It seems like these discussions are more about attraction than empathy. Whether or not women empathize doesn't have much to do with whether or not they are still attracted to a man expressing himself in negative ways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/13 07:42 PM
4	Can women empathize? An anecdote of how TRP misuses anecdotes Absolutely. Being emotionally unhealthy is probably a better way to say it than weakness. Weakness is just a word that I thought would resonate better in this sub. I also think you're right that it's not the emotions themselves that are a weakness, it's the way people express them. If a person uses anger and blame to express frustration, they're not only emotionally unhealthy, but also unattractive in general. Communicating issues in a healthy way is something I think most people appreciate and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/13 07:34 PM
3	Can women empathize? An anecdote of how TRP misuses anecdotes Sure. I don't have studies to back it up, but my theory is that anger, lack of accountability, fear, and even sadness seem a lot like weaknesses. No one is attracted to weakness. Don't get me wrong - a few episodes of any of those negative emotions won't change someone's opinion of you. Everyone has their moments and your wife isn't going to leave you because you cry at a funeral or you get really mad when something goes wrong at work. But if you regularly get angry, scared, or blame others for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/13 07:10 PM
9	Can women empathize? An anecdote of how TRP misuses anecdotes The problem seems to be a misunderstanding about empathy. Of course women can empathize. A lot of studies show they are better at empathizing than men. This issue isn't about empathy at all. It's about women not being attracted to men going through difficult times. Women are just fine at empathizing. It's likely they understand the issue and feel terrible for the person going through the problem. They just aren't attracted to that person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/13 06:52 PM
2	What do you think of this: Debunking the war on men This seemed relevant here: While equality is not a simple equation wherein one group loses as another gains, it is true that as women make political, economic and social advances, many men see their own long-standing presumptions of power and dominance challenged. The things to which they believe they were entitled — whether those are jobs, college admissions spots or traditionally all-male social and professional networks — now have more people competing for them. Heterosexual men can no longer…	/r/TheRedPill	19/12/13 05:50 PM
17	How do you handle uninvited flirting from men towards your girlfriend in an alpha fashion? This is the best approach. Obvious aggression comes across as unattractive and weak, but this one makes it clear you noticed but aren't threatened.	/r/TheRedPill	19/12/13 04:24 PM
1	How does TBP feel about TRP's "pedestalization-of-women" stance? Absolutely. I've been pedestalized in relationships, and I won't deny that it's nice to be treated that way. But, I've always ended up less attracted to the guy in the end. I want a partner, not a servant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/13 04:15 PM
2	What are your thoughts on this, "I wish I hadn't opted out" article? That's one of the reasons I would never even consider being a stay-at-home mom. I saw this happen to my mother when she and my Dad divorced after 25 years of marriage. In my parents' case, he cheated on her, so it wasn't that she instigated a divorce for no reason. But, she ended up in a much worse position for supporting him in his career and raising children while he was at work. I was in college when it happened, but my lesson was: no matter how much you love and trust someone, you still have…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/12/13 04:01 PM
13	Should girls go to college to get their MRS degrees? I don't think it is at all. When you base your life on your value to men, you'll become someone who seeks attention from them at every point. To me, THAT is the opposite of what TRP wants. Those are the type of women who will seek out inappropriate relationships and validation from men when the newness wears off with their husbands. I haven't seen anything about TRP that says a woman should define herself by her husband. Marrying young, taking care of yourself, being attracted to a man who leads…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/13 07:19 PM
31	Should girls go to college to get their MRS degrees? I'd be disappointed in my daughter if she put meeting a husband above improving herself as a priority in life. Women who make marriage their main goal in life are usually insecure and looking for external validation to feel good about themselves. Women who are confident and have interests outside of meeting men typically make smarter choices in life - including who to marry.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/13 04:23 PM
2	What do you do when women intentionally wait hours before writing something back? This comes across as passive aggressive. She'll quickly notice your timing is based on her timing and you'll seem overly sensitive.	/r/TheRedPill	17/12/13 07:08 PM
4	I've realized that Feminism isn't about preventing the rape and abuse of women, it's about preventing female boredom. It's just not true that all women have always had options. And I'd argue that birth control contributed helped us with gaining more options more than even the automobile.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/13 05:19 PM
8	I've realized that Feminism isn't about preventing the rape and abuse of women, it's about preventing female boredom. I think it's dishonest to pretend that there hasn't been a huge improvement in women's rights over the last 50 years. Sure, some women succeeded even before those changes. My own grandmother went to college in the 40s. But, let's not pretend that was normal or that most women had the means and opportunities to succeed. I know this board dislikes feminism, but I think it's a little overzealous and uninformed. Modern feminism is a lot different than early feminism. Lots of women, even RP women, ar…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/13 03:52 PM
5	Norwegian woman puts up post-birth selfie. Fat feminists go crazy. I like this lady (she's gorgeous!) but I thought the "What's your excuse?" one was kind of annoying. Mostly because I don't have an excuse. I am healthy and thin and take care of myself just as well as she does. The assumption that everyone else is making excuses and she's somehow unique just rubbed me the wrong way.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/12/13 07:02 PM
1	Feminizing the schools, universities, workplace. I'm not sure which parts of today's working environment you have problems with, but there are a lot of highly competitive industries out there: sales, finance, politics, entertainment, etc. Naturally, both men and women would like to work in environments that suit their personalities. Who wouldn't? But no one is going to change the culture of the entire workplace or education system just because you think it would feel good for you. You've got to prove the value of that level of "hostility" and …	/r/TheRedPill	11/12/13 06:56 PM
4	I've realized that Feminism isn't about preventing the rape and abuse of women, it's about preventing female boredom. Meh. That's quite a conspiracy theory. While there were women who were outliers (and absolutely deserve recognition!), options weren't something everyone could access. Feminism has a lot of purposes, and I won't pretend to understand all of them. But destroying the nuclear family? That's just crazy talk.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/13 06:51 PM
9	I've realized that Feminism isn't about preventing the rape and abuse of women, it's about preventing female boredom. I actually don't think it was ever about preventing boredom as much as it was about finding fulfillment. Some women, maybe a lot of them, are not fulfilled as housewives. The first waves of feminism were about giving women other options. And even if those are not options you want to take advantage of, millions of women are glad that they have them. Other women want to make sure they don't lose the option to be a housewife, because they find it very fulfilling. Real equality should mean that choi…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/13 04:33 PM
2	Do You Foresee A Male Sexual Liberation Movement in the Future? To be honest, I wouldn't trust another person with that responsibility, regardless of sex. It's so important, that the only person I trust is myself.	/r/TheRedPill	10/12/13 04:22 PM
5	Biological viability of fathering a child at an advanced age http://www.nytimes.com/2012/08/23/health/fathers-age-is-linked-to-risk-of-autism-and-schizophrenia.html The risk of chromosomal abnormalities, like Down syndrome, increases for older mothers, but when it comes to some complex developmental and psychiatric problems, the lion’s share of the genetic risk originates in the sperm, not the egg, the study found.	/r/TheRedPill	09/12/13 09:19 PM
3	How to proceed with LDR Most self-respecting women wouldn't be okay with you sleeping with other women no matter how high value you think you are. But, a woman who wasn't loyal enough to you to stay faithful when you were right in front of her isn't going to be loyal to you when you've admitted to being with other people. Honestly, I think your proposal is pretty terrible and misinterprets what TRP is about. But, there's no need to get into that here because besides that, this woman doesn't seem like someone who will b…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/12/13 09:14 PM
-1	Do You Foresee A Male Sexual Liberation Movement in the Future? I actually haven't heard any argument against it from women. Every time it comes in conversation, it seems to be popular. Although we wouldn't trust men to keep up with it and would probably continue to take our birth control at the same time. Being pregnant when you don't want to be is a bigger problem for women than it is for men.	/r/TheRedPill	09/12/13 09:07 PM
-1	A woman’s success damages a male partner’s ego, says a new study (i.e., Female success =/ increased boners) Well, the title of the article mentioned men's egos being damaged. And I didn't see anything in the article about shame or manipulation. If I had, I'd totally agree with you. No one should be threatened or made to feel inadequate in a relationship. My point is that it if a woman's success alone makes a man feel inadequate, he's a pretty weak man. Obviously if there are other factors, it's a different story. Those other factors just aren't part of this specific article and the discussion around i…	/r/TheRedPill	06/11/13 02:28 AM
2	Beta's girlfriend said she won't take his last name, he is a bit upset. Men and women come from all around to shame him. If he said "I won't marry you then" she might be okay with that. You'd get a lot of sympathy from your friends and would have an awesome story for the rest of your life. "My boyfriend refused to marry me if I didn't take his name, so I didn't. Take that, asshole!" People would probably even tell her that she dodged a bullet and that was a red flag for abuse down the line. It seems like one of those things you just have to agree on because compromise either way won't work. If he wants it and she …	/r/TheRedPill	05/11/13 10:38 PM
-4	A woman’s success damages a male partner’s ego, says a new study (i.e., Female success =/ increased boners) To be fair, it is pretty weak to complain about a woman being more successful. It's fine not to be attracted to them. You can't control that. But to have your ego bruised because of someone else's success seems the opposite of what TRP is about. Alpha males should be secure enough that they aren't affected by other people's success or failures, no matter their sex.	/r/TheRedPill	05/11/13 10:30 PM