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I really like it
/r/seduction27/05/26 08:31 AM
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What you are not accounting for is the nature of people. We are not computers. People don't go "Oh a new data point, I will now align my future actions accordingly" when they learn they've been cheated on. “Most of us think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel, but we are actually feeling creatures that think.”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 01:38 PM
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I think they are saying that women would be more attracted to a broader selection of men if women's perceptions weren't so skewed by overconsumption of social media and other types of media in general. Their saying it's like a guy who watches increasingly extreme porn and becomes unable to get aroused without such extreme stimuli because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:47 PM
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It confused me for a second too until I noticed the title is in quotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:40 PM
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most guys commenting seem to not care if its not there Oof, yah I thought you just meant people using it in general online. I haven't happened to see people using that phrase in that way here BUT I do trust that there's plenty of it flying around in this maelstrom of disaffection.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 04:51 PM
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I tend to prefer "We teach people how to treat us by what we do or don't allow" but it's basically the same thing. It's not about absolving anyone of accountability. I'm sure there are abusive people who attempt to repurpose it like that or to make themselves feel better about being abusive but the popular and most common way it is used/recommended is as empowerment. It's about exercising your own agency being a far superior strategy than telling someone else what they should or shouldn't be doi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 10:38 PM
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I only skimmed but it seems like you are looking at networking in too limited a way. When you ask a woman in that group if she has any single friends she could introduce you to, the limit is not the people in that social group. She might have a cousin, or a cousins friend or all sorts of other permutations of relations she could introduce you to. Then if it doesn't work out with that person, and you haven't been a dick, they might be willing to introduce you to someone they know. You're thinking…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:55 PM
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Those aren't values. Cleanliness isn't a value?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 09:40 PM
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I was watching an interview with some guy who was in love with a girl where all they did sexually was make out because she didn't want to go any further till they were a little older. Something happened, they broke up, his heart got broken. The guy turned to 'game' and trying to dissect what he saw as the mechanics of 'love.' He said that after a bunch of research and trying things, he figured out a set of steps to get women to fall for him pretty reliably. He used the steps repeatedly, sleeping…
/r/seduction24/10/25 08:12 AM
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I think women need to come clean on this Lots of women do come clean on this. There are also lots of women who aren't attracted to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 05:11 AM
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Broadly, I'd say the internet. More specifically: porn, video games, social media I almost want to say economic shifts but I think that one is more of a cop-out. People are meeting more and more of their needs in less healthy ways that usually involve the internet. People are also emotionally taking on the troubles of others from around the world as if those troubles were their own. It's not healthy and also usually involves the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 08:27 PM
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I think people don't actually do much discernment as such. What they do is mostly subconsciously compare the potential partners they meet with what was modeled for them in their childhood. If healthy and caring was modeled, they feel comfortable and attracted to it. If unhealthy and abusive was modeled, they feel comfortable and attracted to it. I think a lot of guys often have thoughts like "Wow, she just keeps going for guys who are obviously assholes and then seems surprised at the outcome" b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 03:35 AM
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Some women really don't want men to respect their decisions or boundaries. It's so weird. Like... If that's the kind of guy you want, fine. Don't complain when he doesn't respect the decisions or boundaries you actually want him to respect though. That's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:50 AM
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What system would you suggest instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 09:28 PM
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Who the f is Colleen Hoover?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:46 AM
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poor confused women Why infantilize the women? From what I've seen, they are usually participating for their own benefit. They know the score.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 06:53 PM
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This seems like the most hilarious self blast via projection I've ever seen. I'm pretty sure this says more about how you view men than it says about how any men are viewing women. As a guy, it just feels off base from top to bottom.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 09:15 PM
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Well, I'm not asking you to socially conform to please others. I'm saying people would be more likely to engage with your dialogue if it was formatted in a manner that is more comfortable to read. If your goal is to debate and test out theories, it would be to your benefit if more people read what you write. If you don't agree that it would best suit your goals, that's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:09 AM
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If you would’ve read my post. People would probably be more likely to read your comments if you didn't format like you do. It's annoying and just makes them want to skip it. My evidence is myself who only read your first line.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:00 AM
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I'm guessing you want to be able to ask women what their sexual boundaries are and then work within and respect those boundaries. The problem is, neurotypical women don't work like this, at least not early on. Generally, different women have different boundaries and timelines that are shifting for various reasons which they can't or won't describe to you. I think the key to unlocking yourself from the prison you're trapping yourself in emotionally is to accept that they don't want to tell you, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:52 AM
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I don't think there's one overarching reason. The guys who specifically want virgins are usually religious, don't care about consent, don't respect boundaries, or have never been with a virgin. The ones who don't care about consent are going to coerce or basically just rape her, often involving alcohol or other drugs. From stories I've read and a few I've heard first hand it seems these girls usually end up blaming themselves for a long time before being able to admit to themselves what happened…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:26 AM
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You can insert whatever you value and appreciate in for expensive dates or sex. Whatever that thing is, I bet you'd feel a certain way if the guy gave more of it and sooner to his partners before you. That feeling you would have, that's what the person you responded to was talking about when they mentioned: what i don't want is a woman who has hooked up with a bunch of guys, had ons, fwb, etc. and now wants me to wait and put in a lot of extra effort because she had some come to jesus moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:16 PM
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I know what it feels like to care about someone, treat them well, give them whatever you can, and respect their boundaries, just to later find out those boundaries are not a thing for someone who treats them much worse. It feels so pathetic and awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 07:14 PM
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We can intellectualize it all we want, people are still going to feel a certain way about it. Let's say it's the guy and with his past girlfriends, for the first 5 meetups, he took them on expensive dates that he spent a lot of effort planning out. With you though, he just wants to hang out and have sex mostly at the beginning of the relationship because he has changed. You gonna be cool with that? How you would feel in that situation is basically how a guy would feel in the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 05:58 PM
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Women are the same I guess as I was upset at my ex who spent a lot of money on his ex gf, but being stingy with me because I showed myself as a good non gold digging girl who will love and fck him for love/for free. When his ex would demand money and gifts, and he conceded every time. I felt pretty trashy ngl. Won't be a nice girl ever again. It's so refreshing seeing you say this because I think most women would understand how guys feel when the situation is about something other than sex. If w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 05:41 PM
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Someone who is overly eager to please the person they are attracted to, where that eagerness comes from a place of weakness. ​ I asked them isn't a simp trying to get laid or a favor from the person they are after? It often looks different depending on whether it's a man or woman. The commonality is that they are trying to get the type of attention the person they are attracted to is not interested in giving them. So with men it's often giving attention/favors/emotional support while hoping to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:50 PM
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Some women want you to take what you want without consulting them first. That's just how it is. Is it problematic? Yes, but they still want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:26 PM
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You're talking about PIV and he's talking about getting his partner off in general. He's laughing because you're post kind of gives "Well if he can't get hard then there's nothing he can do to sexually please her" even if you didn't mean it to. I think he's also laughing because often guys who act like PIV is the only thing that matters are virgins or just clueless and ineffective at pleasing women sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 11:48 PM
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I don't think it's anyone duty but I think a case can be made for why it might benefit women to swipe right on some guys they are not immediately attracted to on dating apps. I've seen a good amount of posts from women who met partners they love IRL and said they would have never swiped right if they had first seen their partner on an app. I've never seen a guy say the same thing. Everyone's attraction can increase for another person with familiarity. I think there's actually research that shows…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:47 AM
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All this is telling me is that you've never had a partner who shows you love. I hope you do one day. It's pretty great. I don't think it's as rare as you imagine. There are some real issues with how men are allowed to show vulnerability and weakness though. I think a man breaking down emotionally in front of a woman for a reason she doesn't understand will often cause a loss of respect and sexual desire from her where that's not nearly as often the case in the reverse situation. It's like we are…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 08:01 PM
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I don't think it's nearly so simple to say relationships with one sex as the adorer/adoree is better. The temperaments and capabilities of both people needs to fit the role well. I also don't think this is the best relationship schema regardless of who's in which role. The adoree is usually the one with the power and power corrupting people is a real thing. You need someone capable of wielding that power responsibly and equitably. That's no small thing. I'm sure most people undoubtedly believe t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:23 PM
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Anecdotal So you have non-anecdotal evidence to support your claim that unattractive women are treated as celebrities? Or that overweight, ugly, below average in every sense of the word woman has more power on the dating market than a multimillionaire, top 5% man? I would love to see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:11 AM
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Oh, I mistakenly read your post as if it was a man pontificating about men wanting to have children. That was where my theory came from, my mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:09 PM
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We're gonna need you back here for when he criticizes women collectively promoting singleness as acceptable for men, so keep your calendar open.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:14 AM
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I think plenty of men want children. I also think there's probably still more women than men who want children. I don't have kids but as far as fulfilling life experiences go, I imagine it's usually right up there at the top. I wonder if you are more insecure about this issue than you're admitting to us and/or yourself. You probably wouldn't be here making this post otherwise. I'm not criticizing you for wanting or not wanting kids. I do think admitting to at least yourself that you might have s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:11 AM
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There's a really simple answer here for a lot of what you wrote: There's always going to be some people who have a problem with what you're doing and how you're doing it. There's also always going to be a smaller amount of people who will criticize you no matter what you do. That's it. The issue with very accomplished women, in my mind, is one of respect. Men seem to have an easier time respecting women with less education/career accomplishment. It's not nearly as big a factor in their sum total…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:53 PM
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I guess I hesitate to call it a choice when it's a biologically influenced preference like that. Like, is that little boy choosing to play with trucks instead of dolls? Sure, but there's also biology at play there. That doesn't mean I think we should be artificially inflating pay for jobs women might be more inclined toward though. It just means I recognize that women might be more naturally inclined toward jobs that pay less. That's fine, there are positives and negatives to being either gender…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:22 PM
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Because it's what I've seen in the real world. I've seen how many attractive women become eager to do anything a really attractive guy wants. How they will try to mold their personalities into what they think he desires while almost the only thing he does is call them when he wants to have sex. I've also seen how invisible women are on the other side of the spectrum. I think when a lot of guys are imagining the "fat ugly woman" they are actually imagining attractive women who got fat. I do think…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:10 PM
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Overweight, ugly, below average in every sense of the word woman has more power on the dating market than a multimillionaire, top 5% man Only unattractive men(in other words, the majority of men) are treated that way Unattractive women are treated as celebrities It's wild to me that you believe that. Have you been friends with a guy like that in real life? And a woman like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 03:54 AM
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Cool, I hope you find someone with compatible interests. It wasn't my intention to denigrate your hobbies so I'm sorry my question led to other people doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 03:47 AM
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When it's about pretty privilege, I think people are reacting to the imbalance between men and women of how many people have it. A small amount of men have pretty privilege while a considerable amount of women do. For me, I think male/female privileges, as a whole, balance out on a macro scale. The grass is greener effect comes into play here though and it's easy to conveniently undervalue one's own privilege while overvaluing other people's privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:51 PM
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So can the vast majority of men. I think people who say that kind of thing are mostly confusing being treated like a sex object with some men only wanting sex from them. These are not the same thing. Are there plenty of men who only want sex from a lot of women? Sure. Is there more than a tiny amount of men actually treating women as sex objects? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:40 PM
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"Women make rules for betas, and break rules for alphas" All this really means is that the more attracted someone is to another, the more they will give while receiving less. It's true for men and women both.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:15 PM
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If the attraction differential is large enough, the girlfriend experience is offered at a major discount. It's a harsh reality that can go both ways depending on which sex the simp is. It does look different in both cases though. If you are being clear about not wanting to commit, I don't blame you any more than I would blame a woman accepting favors from a guy she has rejected because he still thinks he has a chance. If you ever intentionally bread crumb then I would call it immoral. Accepting …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:07 PM
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Anyone quoting the 84c on every $1 statistic to make an argument is either ignorant or intentionally arguing in bad faith. Either way, they shouldn't be taken seriously. I wouldn't say it's mostly due to "women's choices." I would say that it's due almost entirely to factors that make sense to any reasonable person who learns about them. So much of the controversy is entirely due to bad actors taking advantage of people not being aware that the statistic doesn't even take into account things lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 07:45 PM
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What do you spend your free time doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 07:23 PM
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then the precedent has been set a long time ago. This is so important. Sometimes the guy only cares about himself. Sometimes the woman wanted to make the guy like her more so she pretended for a long time that she was happy when she wasn't and then gets bitter looking back about how much more he was getting from the sex when she never communicated at all. It reminds me of those stories that are supposed to be romantic about a guy pretending to like a certain dish his wife cooks for 50 years when…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:38 PM
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Maybe OP lives in a desert with no grass nearby to touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:55 PM
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It's like everything in life. You need the right balance. Healthy balanced things don't make for engaging reddit posts or get as much attention in general though lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 04:17 PM
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I guess I'm talking about what they are getting in the moment, not as a whole. In my mind, usually the friendzoned simp has a huge crush on the girl. So while he does want sex and physical intimacy, he also wants things like emotional intimacy, connection, and to feel appreciated by her. I think he is getting those feelings of emotional intimacy, connection, and feeling valued/appeciated right up until he's not anymore. Would he trade all that for just the sex and physical intimacy? Probably. Bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:13 PM
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I think it’s because it’s so dangerous now for kids. Is it? What's more dangerous now than 25-30 years ago?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 05:47 PM
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I think it's a mistake to see what he's getting as nothing. I'd bet it often involves a sense of feeling needed and a hopefulness they wouldn't otherwise have, at the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 03:37 PM
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There are plenty of female orbiters too, it just looks different. It's the fuck zone instead of the friend zone. They are giving the guy as much sex as he wants hoping he will pick them for commitment and it's never going to happen. I think in both cases it's hard for the orbiter to understand the other person's motives because they can't imagine themselves ever having those motives. I think it's also important to realize that the orbiters are not getting nothing. In both cases, the orbiter is g…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:47 AM
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Every guy with ED who doesn't want to give it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:53 AM
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This seems like a lot of effort spent to convince yourself that spending effort is pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:31 AM
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I think they just like how it feels that someone is willing to invest in them, for the most part. You're reasons make logical sense and maybe some of those things get extrapolated but I really don't think they are being as consciously calculating as you imagine. The real answer: It feels good.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:35 AM
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Are the romance scams he uses those hoes to run good? Does that somehow not count as him preying on lonely men?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:37 AM
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Tate makes/made $ off of simps too. He has literally bragged on video about making a fortune employing women who run romance scams on lonely men. It is the height of absurdity that lonely men turn to a guy for help who brags about scamming lonely men. Just think about that for a second. His brand is literally "scamming lonely men"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:28 AM
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"Back then"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:33 PM
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So you would say the same about a woman who is trying to get her husband to go to the doctor or quit smoking? She has no right to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 02:38 AM
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Is getting this girl who goes after married guys supposed to be a good thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:45 AM
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And out of the 10% it’s 3% men and 7% women getting alimony. Incorrect In 2010, ~400,000 people were receiving spousal support. 3% (~12,000) were men. 97% (~388,000) were women. I agree that few divorces get alimony. From the outside, it also seems fairly predictable which ones have a good chance of getting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 03:24 AM
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OP's understanding of the issue was flawed. He thought people were talking about dating foreign women living in the guy's country. When this stuff is discussed, it usually relates to men traveling to a foreign country and meeting a woman there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 02:14 AM
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And women pay it too Not many. According to 2010 Census records, of the 400,000 people receiving spousal support, only 3 percent were men. That figure is undoubtedly higher in 2024 but likely still a very small percent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 02:04 AM
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I thought they say "It's me, hi, I'm the problem, it's me." I guess they are the problem either way... poor swifties.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:51 AM
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As a guy, this is pretty much how I feel. If they are making consistent good-faith efforts toward healing and we can talk about it, I'd hang in there for a long time. If my partner was making no efforts and refused to talk to me about it for months, I'm pretty sure I would eat myself alive from the inside emotionally and mentally. I would end up deeply resenting them and hating myself for it. It'd be better for both of us to split sooner than later in that case.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 01:15 PM
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why haven’t more men simply just…given up? They have, and are. You even acknowledge that some of your friends are. It's increasing. This is reflected in population data. I think what you mean is: Why don't most guys feel the same way as so many guys online do. TBH, I think if we had allllll the data at hand, we would see an overwhelming correlation between guys who have given up and videogames/porn/internet usage. I also believe there is a causation loop within that correlation where videogames/…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 12:41 PM
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Women need to provide value too. Do women have a higher inherent value than men in the sexual marketplace? Yes Is that an advantage they have over men? Yes Do women have disadvantages that balance out this inherent value in the big picture? Yes If you only look at the advantages women have, it's always going to feel unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 12:23 PM
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someone who actually loves their partner will know to leave when it's necessary Oh, does this perhaps... come when they are consistently giving much more than they are getting? Or does it come from a magical love sense that these superior beings have developed? ​ Real love is unconditional but that doesn't mean putting up with abuse because real love also includes loving yourself. So it is conditional. It's conditional on your love for yourself not taking priority. If true love existed in the wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 11:42 AM
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So you would say that if a man truly loves a woman, he is not concerned if they never have sex again?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 11:20 AM
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I never said they can't go to another western country. My fault for assuming. It's still funny to imagine a Russian bot convincing frustrated young US men to vacate the country though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 08:51 PM
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I’m anrguing that it’s not possible for a woman to “hide the camera”. She can wear anll the baggy ugly clothes she wants, annd shitty men will still want to grope her. Of course, no matter what you do, bad things can still happen to you. I think we might have different definitions of victim blaming. To me, victim blaming is when I say that what happened is the victim's fault. Does your definition include anyone who makes suggestions of what someone can do to minimize risk in the future?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 08:45 PM
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When my Dad was visiting Paris, a group of guys tried to mug him for his camera that he had hanging down on a strap around his neck. Would they have tried to mug him if he didn't have an expensive camera hanging down from his neck? Probably not. Should he have to hide his camera? No, but he probably wouldn't do that again. Does not doing that again mean he will never be mugged in Paris? No, but chances are probably lower. It's about reducing the odds of something bad happening to yourself, not a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 08:14 PM
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When my Dad was visiting Paris, a group of guys tried to mug him for his camera that he had hanging down on a strap around his neck. Would they have tried to mug him if he didn't have an expensive camera hanging down from his neck? Probably not. Should he have to hide his camera? No, but he probably wouldn't do that again. Does not doing that again mean he will never be mugged in Paris? No, but chances are probably lower. In a perfect world, people wouldn't have to do all sorts of stuff. We don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 08:05 PM
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My outlook on life vastly improved when I opened my mind to all the options available to me. Kind of profound but you also have to be brave enough to make that move. The bravery bar is what I think will stop most people. Also wanted to comment how funny it is that you are "NotARussianBot" but are advocating for young men to flee their (presumably) western countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 07:17 PM
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I don't understand how the numbers work out here. If both groups don't often share the same hobbies, that goes both ways equally. For every woman who is into a male hobby, that's another person you could be sharing a hobby with. I think the issue might be that you are only considering things from a male perspective. Imagine you are a woman and almost no men are interested in female hobbies. Couldn't a woman say it's tougher for women because of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:20 PM
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Do men care about women they gain nothing by associating with? Do they care in some way women don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 08:42 PM
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Hunger
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 04:31 PM
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No, we wouldn't, as without aggressiveness there would be no aggressive people. Correct, there would be no people. Humans would have died out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 10:15 PM
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The one with women that amuses me is wanting a super confident, self assured guy and then being unhappy when they realize he doesn't care about what she thinks or wants. With men, the funniest is wanting a woman who really likes and is very giving sexually with them but not anyone before them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 10:11 PM
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Feminism should be trying to reverse this programming. Feminism is about empowering women by giving them all the perceived advantages a man might have but none of the disadvantages. What you suggest would give them less power, not more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:57 PM
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"People who left the study were actually miscoded as getting divorced." Wow. Thanks for letting me know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 04:32 PM
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This goes both ways gender wise. You often see the statistics about men leaving their wives who get really sick much more than women leaving a man who gets really sick. What you don't see shared as much is how much more likely women are to leave a man who loses his job versus the other way around. ​ a support actor in the grand movie of their lives. Yes, people are the main characters in their own lives. You included.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 02:41 AM
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My issue is that I bet you'd have an issue with a man victim blaming a woman for anything relating to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:13 AM
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So is victim blaming ok or do you just hate men?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:47 AM
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Better that than whatever brand of miserable you seem to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 10:56 PM
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but it does come with sacrifices for the side that used to benefit from the lack of it. It comes with sacrifices for both sides and neither side has completely come to terms with that. People act like a "patriarchal structure" is only advantages for men and disadvantages for women but it's not. It's a balance of different advantages and disadvantages. You don't get to just pick and choose which ones you want and which you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 05:50 PM
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half of all rape victims Be real. I don't believe you believe that. I honestly wouldn't trust any number above 10%. The rest though... yah. IMO the positives and negatives actually balance out between sexes. It seems like men are expected to care more about women's problems than the reverse though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 01:41 AM
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Babes, historically „no means no“ is pretty new…..see since when rape in marriage is illegal And this isn't even the case everywhere. In the most populous country (India) marital rape only exists if the wife is younger than 15. In the second most populous country (China) it doesn't exist at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:27 PM
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No, but that's a poor comparison. Slavery isn't voluntary and is unlikely to lead to better circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:03 AM
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You seem to be confused…..it’s not illegal I am confused about where legality entered this conversation. I thought we were talking right/wrong. other people are also allowed to have an opinion on this behavior. Of course. I was trying to point out though that we often forget about the women when judging these men. We judge the guy leveraging his economic circumstances to buy a woman but we conveniently do not factor in that him doing so might be a favorable option to the woman. I just think it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:59 PM
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So you would tell those women who see it as their best option available that they shouldn't pursue it? That they should remain in their poor circumstances instead? I feel like your viewpoint might be neglecting the fact that those women are capable of making their own adult choices. I would agree that it's 'icky' but if those women see it as preferable, who are we to say they are wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:49 PM
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they said they would feel “pathetic” going single. Because that's how they themselves view other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:57 PM
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Nah, people realized there was a ripe underserved market for the content and are cashing in. The pendulum swung too far toward the opposite and that created the demand. It's just swinging back now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 09:00 PM
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Reading this and your replies, you seem to not understand what a tradwife is. I think if you did, you would realize that “men who want a tradwife can’t afford one” and “a man has to be worth submitting to” actually make perfect sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 07:32 PM
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I'm surprised they havn't banned you for making 15+ posts in less than a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:34 AM
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I wouldn't do the things you say. I would however be very disappointed and re-evaluate the friendship just like I would the relationship. I also don't believe for a second that if a woman found out I planned and paid for elaborate vacations for my previous girlfriends but wouldn't do the same for her that she would just accept it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:34 PM
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I'm imagining this in a southern United States accent and it's fantastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:58 AM
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I would date a feminist but not a "have her cake and eat it too" feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 12:40 AM
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I think it's rather easy. Feed them, sex them, hug them, listen to them, let them know how special they are, spend time with them. Yeah, that's pretty much it. I feel seen just reading that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 12:22 AM
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Then women are surprised when they learn that men don't really have types I sure do. I think a lot of other men do too. I do think women sometimes overestimate the prevalence of some "types" though. Also, having a type doesn't mean I never find anyone outside it attractive, just much less frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 12:14 AM
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Escapes are a big cause of the problem IMO. Porn, videogames, internet in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 09:24 PM
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“Would you rather marry a woman or a bear?” Does the bear get "headaches" ? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:51 AM
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I just tried what u/TheGreatBeefSupreme said about chatgpt making jokes about women/men. You make a joke about women ChatGPT I'm sorry, but I can't comply with that request. Making jokes about specific groups of people, including women, can perpetuate stereotypes and contribute to an environment that's not inclusive or respectful. How about a different type of joke? You make a joke about men ChatGPT Sure, here's one: Why don't men need more than one bookmark? Because the sports section is always…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:30 AM
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Women here have attested when this topic has come up, which it has at least a few times, that dating the reject guy was always a mistake; he was if anything worse than Chad. A person who is attracted to toxic people is going to find them regardless of physical attraction level so maybe take their opinion with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 03:16 PM
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But many women already do that Well, yeah of course. Nobody is going to be able to give you an answer that applies to an entire gender. You already know that. Is your goal to convince some of the pillers here that women are not their enemy or bad or to get these guys to realize they are being ridiculous? Do you think this is an effective way to do that? To me it reads as too combative to accomplish that goal. I think what they need is positive examples that run counter to their narrative. How to…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:24 AM
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What should women do to "hold themselves accountable"? Stop entertaining men who cross boundaries repeatedly. Stop entertaining men who don't listen when told No.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:49 PM
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I've seen this twice now from you. You might want to reread what you've written.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:15 AM
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Who is advocating for women not to take precautions? The guys who want women to come over to their house on the first date? The guys trying to get women to consent to them not using a condom? Who are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 07:16 PM
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I think trying to give both sexes the same positives and negatives in the dating world is a pointless endeavor. It won't happen short of serious genetic modification. I do think it would be worthwhile to get people to realize that the positives and negatives balance out between sexes overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:59 PM
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Why do some men seem to refuse facts to remain miserable? Because if there is no hope then they don't need to put in any effort or push themselves into uncomfortable situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:17 PM
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I doubt any of the guys making posts about women disparaging passport bros are actually passport bros themselves. Passport bros are out in the world living life and I get more of a keyboard warrior vibe from the posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 10:57 PM
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The hottest thing for a lot of guys is getting their girl off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:06 AM
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Effort, ya know I think this is what it comes down to ultimately. It's much easier to assuage our egos by making excuses and attacking others than to expend the mental and physical effort it takes to change ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 05:00 PM
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Because you asked for numbers I very briefly went and looked for a few studies. There are a lot of them surrounding testosterone but it seems there are not any good ones that take into account things like safety fears, social stigma, etc. That's not surprising considering how difficult something like that is to measure and account for. Interestingly, I did find a study that seems to support what both of us is saying at the same time. Men who had relatively high testosterone, or high T, levels we…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 10:01 PM
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Sure, this accounts for some of it, but just some. There are other reasons that account for some more of it too. At the end of the day though most men are still hornier. We can acknowledge that, it's not a competition. It doesn't mean men good women bad or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:27 PM
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It doesn’t matter because the only thing that would change if women were hornier would be that they would have more sex with the men they’re already having sex with. It wouldn’t suddenly make them want to have sex with undesirable men🤣 I'd bet you're wrong. Let's consider hunger. The hungrier people are, the wider variety of things they will eat and the better all those things will taste. Your desire to make fun of OP might be clouding your thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:14 PM
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Tbh a lot of guys will perceive the guy who did inappropriate things without consent as an alpha Chad Rico Suave. Can you blame them? They have noticed that many women seem to give those guys a lot of attention despite them doing inappropriate things without consent. I think this gets into why younger guys sometimes believe women like assholes. It's not that the women actually like assholes, it's that those guys are desirable enough to get away with also being assholes. Those women will make exc…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:40 PM
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It's all balance. Women have much more inherent SMV from a young age but that inherent value also fades eventually. The balance is that men have more varied and effective options to increase their SMV than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:17 AM
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Unless you secretly record a full date and yourself approaching 10 women, people online you have never met will have a very limited ability to assess or help your situation. Nobody can see their own blindspots either so self-reporting isn't all that helpful either. The best thing you could probably do is make friends with a woman IRL who will be brutally honest with you about your SMV shortcomings. ​ Women just make it easy for guys they like. True. Everyone makes it easy for people they like. ​…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:42 AM
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what people need to understand is that they don't need an so for happiness or fulfillment. They should wake up and be happy. some can even prefer to be alone. We are social animals. We are not meant to be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 11:20 AM
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If you want a relationship with traditional gender roles then pay for everything. If you want a partner where both people more equally take on all the roles then don't. Just don't fall for the people who want to have their cake and eat it too because they will never be happy no matter what you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:34 PM
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Twox is basically the inverse of here except they don't allow pushback or disagreement so it's just a big circlejerk of hurt people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:24 PM
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However, I think if more men actually lived the experience of dating younger women and shared openly about what it was like, it would be clear to more men that it really does have its pros and cons Same with guys who idealize dating virgins. The reality of it is not what they imagine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:08 PM
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By far the best relationship I have had.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:35 PM
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In my country Argentina I'm very guilty of assuming you live in North America. My bad, sorry. I don't have the first clue how it is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 07:09 AM
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deadbeat dads that don't care about their children. When they do claim custody, they get it! This part is largely true though. People parrot that statistic about guys not getting custody nearly as much but don't understand how much of it is due to so many men literally not trying to get any custody. It's like the gender pay gap. Alone it seems like an appalling statistic. When you look into it though the reasons for most of it actually make a lot of sense. In both cases, the public perception of…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 05:07 AM
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Sooo whys that make someone entitled to someone elses money? If they chose to be lazy, hows that their ex's responsibility? Because in this sort of arrangement there are usually expectations of the person who stays home. Besides childcare, they usually are expected to do all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, and other things. So the person who works benefits from all this and often gives up career advancement and sometimes education in the process with the expectation that they will be able to co…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 03:43 AM
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OP I have to wonder if a guy has put all this in your head as his reasons for not marrying you. There are other purposes than you listed for getting married. A simple google search will tell you about them. Your first issue isn't accurate at all. Where you live, Australia has rules about pre-marital assets, I just checked. Your might be correct in the time time restriction but there are reasons that make sense for these things. One being that people often make hasty decisions and this isn't the …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 02:54 AM
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It's pretty confusing with the way she writes. So her mom told her that you have shown her true love and sacrifice and she thinks it's because you are a virgo. Is that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 04:44 PM
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Could be in a lot of different ways. Some women can't have any or more kids naturally because of health issues or age or other reasons. An artificial womb growing her eggs with her partner's or a donors sperm might be the difference between them having some/more kids or not. Some men can't have kids naturally because of sperm issues. Scientific advancements that could alter their sperm to be viable or just synthesize new sperm from their DNA might mean they have some kids. Some people can't affo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:21 AM
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I think we will fix it with technology like we fix so many of our problems. Whether that will turn out to be a net positive for humanity though is a whole other thing...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 07:38 PM
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Because it's hugely significant to your life and the relationship they might have with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 09:27 PM
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Steve Buscemi is a famous actor What about Sean Stephenson?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:14 AM
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Just tell her "If there's actually a patriarchy, you don't get to make those rules."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:09 PM
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People who play the victim card lack the most self awareness of them all. Also, ain't fun getting judged by a woman's sexual past these inspins, auto-relating and judging you prejudicially and neurotically based on other dudes she's been with 😩 Do you see what you did there?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 12:57 AM
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For those curious about 9-9-6 like I was: It derives its name from its requirement that employees work from 9:00 am to 9:00 pm, 6 days per week; i.e. 72 hours per week, 12 hours per day. A number of Mainland Chinese internet companies have adopted this system as their official work schedule. -Wikipedia
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 08:05 PM
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Simps. I'd bet you've seen men who lust after women they find very attractive. Willing to do whatever they think will make those women happy, and happy to do it. Recharacterizing any of the women's bad behavior into something more palatable when it might affect the image of her they have in their head. Basically all the points listed are just describing women simping for men. OP keeps saying "Player" in each example but you could insert "Attractive man" or "Man women are very attracted to" inste…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 09:38 PM
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This isn't so gendered. This is a simple human nature thing. The more someone wants what someone else has, the more they are willing to give. So I sort of agree with all of this but all of it is also true the other way around, or at least the equivalencies of it. I don't agree with how I feel you have framed it is a gendered thing, even though you never outright said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 07:59 PM
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That is a whole different level of self delusion Is it? If they can convince themselves that an OF girl cares about them, they can definitely be convinced that their AI relationship is special. Off the top of my head, you could probably convince them that because they customized everything about the girl, she is actually more unique than any of the OF girls. That unique AI girl will only ever be theirs, nobody elses. Besides, it's probably less about what those guys think and more about what the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 03:13 AM
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So basically she just had it out for him all along? Ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 10:39 AM
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It sounds like in that case he might have waited too long. If you and the girl catch each other looking/smiling twice, it's time to go over at that point or it might start to get creepy. If he really just smiled at her once or twice and that was the impetus for her chewing him out, then that's on her. Or he just looked really creepy to her from the get go. There is ALWAYS going to be at least a very small risk that the woman will react poorly. If the guy can't surmount the uncomfortable feeling …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 02:42 AM
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If she is in your peripheral vision and your mind is aware of her, it will signal to you when it notices her shifting. This is when you glance at her to see if she is looking at you. If she isn't and was just shifting in her seat or looking somewhere else, you just go back to where you were looking before. If she is looking at you, you make sure to smile. Then when you go to approach her later, make sure you are smiling on your way over and as you introduce yourself. Try to be genuinely smiling …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 07:42 PM
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Nobody is saying that smiling at you is a surefire sign she wants you to approach. Smiling at you is just the lowest bar for her maybe being interested and it depends on a few factors. If she smiles at you as you are introduced to her or as you pass each other, that doesn't mean much. If you two are across the room from each other and she locks eyes with you and gives you a big smile, that's a pretty good sign. Ya know, unless Chad Thundercawk is standing behind you. Better check.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 06:49 PM
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I'm guessing what you are getting at is the whole competing for status dynamic. Doesn't it go something like... women traditionally competed for status with their looks, so you doing all that stuff to make yourself look better makes you feel higher status. The corollary for men isn't looks though. It's competing for status through their endeavors like sports or their career and acquisition of currency/material goods. These things kind of overlap some though with smaller subsets of each sex prefe…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 05:07 PM
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I made a reply with copy/paste of the original posts if you are interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 02:04 AM
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MY OPINION: He reported her to his school for lying about being a virgin. This is way beyond the bounds of normal behavior so the responses are not surprising. RETRIEVED TEXTS BELOW FIRST: aita_for_reporting_a_girl_who_lied_to_me Fake account because my uni knows my real account. I am a 19M college student and I am somewhat inexperienced with relationships. I specifically asked for a woman who was still a virgin, and found someone who said she was. She was lying and I didn’t find out until after…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 01:59 AM
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I'd prefer it involved some sort of Tron Legacy bioshock dart This is way cooler than the furious typing sort of thing from movies that I liked to believe hacking was when much younger. Personally, I would feel much better about it if it occurred because some guy crawled through the vents and shot the BioShock dart through the vent grate at a computer in the server room. Like you said though, the outcome is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:55 AM
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I hate how we use the term "hacked" when the reality is usually that some administrator gave out their login info to a phishing email or something equally as simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:17 AM
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"Men are romantics posing as pragmatists. Women are pragmatists posing as romantics."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:20 PM
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The interview process is horrible and filters for good interviewers, not good workers. u/Baconator73 said "the skills to land a job" not the skills to do a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:15 PM
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Because most of them are not looking to change themselves or improve. They are looking to self soothe by blaming women for not wanting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 10:43 PM
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Most of the comments were shaming the guy for being insecure and she can do whatever she wants and that's so controlling of him! Saw the post. They were not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 08:42 PM
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It's like most of the posts here: A thinly veiled attempt to explain guys lack of success in dating by proving how bad/wrong women are for wanting what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 08:17 PM
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5 sure but not more. 0,1,2 are too small and 3 looks unnatural.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:38 AM
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4 all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:41 AM
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The difference is that you can create a virtual reality with the internet , porn, video games, and have a lot more instant gratification as a guy who "just exists" today than in 1980 so a lot more people are prone to get sucked into that lifestyle. This is how I see it too. People are comfortable enough to stay passive and largely unfulfilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 08:25 PM
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Sure. I can think of plenty good reasons to do it and none to not do it. As long as it is being shared back.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:46 PM
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I don't think "I'm yelling at you because women traumatized me in the past" is heard very often. Of course it's not. Because men often don't understand why they are yelling. Men don't even really grasp that they are angry a lot of times when they are. This was my original point: women pay the consequences even though men have no idea that their thoughts/actions are being influenced by their previous experiences. Men are not socialized to understand or be able to communicate their feelings like w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:31 PM
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short of becoming violent towards women. which they do. They also pay for it in anger/yelling/stonewalling/insults. Are they paying for it in the sex department? Not in the same ways. I would guess they pay for it more in roughness and coercion than in being withheld. But also probably in withholding too in the form of men not doing certain things they might want. They just don't suffer all the same consequences, but they do suffer other ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:11 PM
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It's sort of a flip flop. Most women have it easier but the least attractive have it harder than anyone. Most men have it harder but the most attractive have it easier than anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:45 PM
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Conversely, women sometimes fail at dating apps because they won't have sex with guys they wouldn't get into a relationship with and think men select the same way they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:42 PM
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This is one advantage men have IMO. Women might have an easier time attracting mates by default but there are more things a man can change to become more attractive than a woman can change.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:30 PM
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Most men who want to have side chicks, could never get them in the first place I do think there is a metric shit ton of guys who will never cheat simply because they never really have the opportunity. Of the guys who never cheat, I would guess at least half are simply never presented with a tempting opportunity. This probably accounts for why cheating rates for men/women come out to roughly the same. Women are less likely to cheat given the opportunity but they have WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:20 PM
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It's mostly one gender direction though. I don't think this is true at all. Women just understand and can vocalize better how they were hurt and how it has affected them. Men are not as in touch with their baggage and how it is affecting their thoughts/actions. That doesn't lessen its impact on women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:12 PM
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Using social pressure to curb/orient human behavior is an integral part of every society and for good reason. I agree that normalizing obesity is a big mistake and not in the best interest of anyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:52 PM
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The sooner you can see that you are not convincing women they are wrong/bad, just convincing yourself they are wrong/bad, the better off you will be. Convincing yourself that them not wanting you is because they are wrong/bad is a road to nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:34 PM
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If your 18 year old daughter came home with a 45 year old guy you would tell her this?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 07:42 PM
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I think most of these older guys believe they are being upfront and that they are not the problematic ones. This is sort of the nature of people. Just like most of the younger girls think their age-gap relationship is the exception. Abusers don't see themselves as abusers. It's always justified in their own mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 07:35 PM
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