| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 23 | Pro tip for distribution of assets. Do not let your lawyer and the judge screw you. Learn from my mistake. | BahamaDon | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/26 07:03 PM | |
| 17 | Transitioning - From Proctor & Gamble / Gillette, to... WHAT? | General | BahamaDon | /r/MensRights | 25/06/20 05:29 PM |
| 6 | Anyone had any luck getting permanant alimony from Florida being removed after the new law went into effect? I have been paying alomony since 2006. Please tell me it can end? | BahamaDon | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 09:23 PM |
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| 4 | ShatteredIf this is a no fault divorce state just put a wall up. If she can be penalized for cheating then save all the messages. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/26 07:03 PM |
| 9 | I knew this would be tough. But to see her immediately with another man…Friends divorced recently, and any time someone mentions any man at their work, or friends or anything she immediately pipes in, "IS HE SINGLE?" I think women are in love with the idea of being in love. Or more-so in love with the idea that they are "with" a man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/26 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Tell me how it was living with your soon to be ex through the divorce.Terrible. Judge finally had to order her to leave because she was disrupting the children’s education. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/26 02:43 PM |
| 7 | Wife just called me and screamed at me after getting my lawyer’s response to the equitable distribution. Just need to ventOnly discovery will settle this. Pro tip. When dividing retirement savings or anything that has shares instead of cash, make sure your part of the distribution is in shares and not dollars. I watched my retirement sink while the judge ordered to get xx amount of dollars instead of xx amount of shares and it took 6 months to settle everything and in that time the share value dropped 35% but my obligation of xx dollars did not. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/26 05:54 PM |
| 9 | ReconciliationSame. I agreed to try to start over. We went on a date and she had another “episode”, with her furious bitch attitude. I told her thanks for confirming I was making the right choice. Pro tip. Do not tell her that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 11:55 PM |
| 7 | Well this a new one, wife tried to hire someone to kill me.You won’t have to press charges for the solicitation of murder. The state will do it whether you are participating or not. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/26 07:35 PM |
| 3 | This was cheating by her, right?She knew you would be suspicious if she even hinted to you that she was going to do what she did, so she purposely lied because she knew it would cause trouble. Instead of being up front about it, and telling you beforehand (it was clearly planned) she kept the secret hoping you would not find out. She would actually never have even brought it up to you. She kept it from you on purpose. She lies. What else does she lie about? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/26 07:37 PM |
| 4 | Post Divorce and Sex?The blue pill might help. I’ve heard several post divorce guys say once or twice and that is all it took to get them out of a slump and back in the race. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/26 05:40 AM |
| 2 | My ex has her settlement money in a market.Ugh. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/26 08:37 PM |
| 6 | My ex has her settlement money in a market.Different people have different risk tolerances. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/26 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Upon initial separation, what was your (or your spouse's) approach to finding another place to live?Court ordered stbx to move the hell out because she was disrupting the children’s schooling. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/26 09:27 PM |
| 3 | How much life savings have you lost post divorce?I am already on for $240k including lawyer fees, 401k and retirement savings, and lifetime alimony. I expect that number will end at about half a million before it is all over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 02:50 PM |
| 13 | Told not to attend first Important event post DivorceNot a friend. Ghost immediately. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/26 10:29 PM |
| 4 | Wife agreed to work it out? Can I trust her to not change her mind?When someone tells you what they are feeling, believe them. She told you that she doesn’t love you anymore. It will not come back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/26 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Pro tip for distribution of assets. Do not let your lawyer and the judge screw you. Learn from my mistake.Oh so that’s just fine for the system working itself out? Some win and some lose, eh? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/26 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Pro tip for distribution of assets. Do not let your lawyer and the judge screw you. Learn from my mistake.I dont remember. It was many years ago. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/26 07:51 PM |
| 1 | What did getting divorced teach you?Well said. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/26 04:17 PM |
| 11 | What did getting divorced teach you?No matter whether you dumped her or she dumped you, divorce is a monumental stressor and you should never celebrate the destruction of family. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/26 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Finally got to the point where I never want to see or hear from her again.I finally had to just say it out loud. I never want to see or hear from you again! Poof…. She left me alone after that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/26 06:03 AM |
| 7 | What was the Craziest Moment In your Divorce Story?My moment of truth happened Right before I filed for divorce when I had to physically get in between my wife and daughter to stop stbxw from battering my daughter. I won the custody battle. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/26 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Filed taxes separately and claimed the kids, STBX is fumingI had this happen to me… ex filed for kids as dependents but I had custody. Talked to irs and they said to file the way I need to file and let them figure it out. She got audited and got in trouble. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/26 05:54 AM |
| 19 | Ex spreading false sexual rumoursFriend’s ex said something disparaging about his size, pencil-dick or something like that in a crowd of friends. He responded with, “you repeatedly glowed about it it as the perfect size to take it up the ass so you can suck it clean” | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/26 05:07 PM |
| 1 | My wife filedShe has been emotionally cheating on you and the guilt of being with you while she is carrying on with someone else is leading her to do it. She is either overtly emotionally cheating, or wants to see someone else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/26 03:08 PM |
| 7 | Let me be the bad exampleShe was “playing nice” so you would too, instead of you ghosting her and letting the lawyers take over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/26 10:26 PM |
| 5 | Wife is thinking of leaving. How do I avoid alimony?The only thing you can do is negotiate a deal with her prior to court. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/26 02:05 AM |
| 6 | The closest I’ve been to another human since my divorce.I usually just ask for the full pat down when going through TSA. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/26 06:35 PM |
| 3 | Posting this for a friend. Just over 2 years post divorce and his ex ended up exactly where he thought she would.You are a way better person than me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/26 04:27 PM |
| 7 | Need advice on a situationShe is testing you to see how pussywhipped you are. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/25 11:29 PM |
| 5 | Stuck in a precarious position...My ex did this first year without asking me. We had agreed to file jointly for the last time and I had accountant figure everything out. Sent her the forms and then nothing. For over a year I didn’t get any part of a return nothing. I just figured she kept the extra $1000. Fine. Next year I got mail from the IRS asking why I had not filed. I took my paperwork down to them and explaining and they sorted it out and said you will just have to file late as separately because she already filed separa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/25 04:43 PM |
| 6 | As a divorced man, what are the red flags before the marriage?She will turn out a LOT like her crazy ass psycho mother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/25 03:47 PM |
| 3 | Wife is and has been threating me with divorceYou need to talk to your family one on one, explain that you suspect she is spinning things to poison your family against you, which seems like it is working. Ask them to explain if they had some impressions that might be wrong and allow you to explain the reality instead of STBEX fantasies. Important- remind them to trust the person they have known their entire lives over someone else who seems to have an agenda. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/25 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Ex wants another chanceSo you had to slip in the “polyamorous”? Wtf does that even mean? Why is it relevant at all? Are you just bragging because you are having regular 4-somes with your kid in the other room? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/25 10:36 PM |
| 12 | Ex regrets separation/divorce, looking for advice.Ask her what her body count is since you’ve been separated. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/25 01:52 PM |
| 2 | False allegations of DVPolice were going to arrest me for DV. I asked what evidence they had that assume I did anything but they refused to answer. I asked them if they spoke to my 9yo son who was there the whole time. They had not. About 30 minutes later my son came out with a suitcase trailed by the 2 officers. Cops said, “we think we understand what’s going on”. And told me to go hang out elsewhere at least for the night. On drive away I asked my son What he told the cops. He said, “I don’t hear anything, and I did… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/25 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Expensive hobby after divorce?Find a scuba girl. Trust me | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/25 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Expensive hobby after divorce?Scuba | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/25 03:04 AM |
| 9 | Ashamed of my inability to get over what caused the divorce. I’ve become so cruel. I need to get this off my chest. I’m not a good person anymore.Part of the problem here is that you are deeply hurt and possibly humiliated at her infidelity. Try to realize that most women are just designed that way, and that you are one of literally hundreds of millions of married men the world over that have had their wives cheat. It feels so alone and like you are a pariah for having been cheated on. That is the humiliation. As soon as you realize that you have nothing to be ashamed of, and your friends know you are the victim in this it will settle dow… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/25 04:42 PM |
| 7 | ED out of nowhereA lot of men at a certain age experience a slump. A little pharmaceutical help gets you back in shape for one or two times and then you do t need it again. Never fear. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/25 06:03 PM |
| 5 | DivorcingDo you have a job? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/25 09:53 PM |
| 9 | Full Circle with Affair PartnerIt took plenty of long hard lonely time to decide to divorce. It was the right move. And it still is. Stay strong! | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/25 08:25 PM |
| 11 | Marital settlement finally signed! Can I buy a motorcycle without risk of splitting? Or should I wait Judge’s decree.Its not over till its over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/25 04:14 PM |
| 7 | STBXW wants us to spend future christmas' togetherI had Easter together with my wife and kids at a restaurant while divorce proceedings were happening. She had been on her best behavior for weeks up until then when she had another psycho event. I told her thanks for confirming that I made the right decision. Pro tip - don’t do that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/25 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Kids and phone passcodesThe reason your Ex does not want you to have the passcode is because there is information on it she wants you to NOT see. That is a red flag. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/25 11:00 PM |
| 6 | Where any of you able to keep your house?Judge kicked my crazy wife out of the house until it was sold because she was disrupting the development of the children by being crazy and violent toward me and specifically my daughter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/25 07:21 PM |
| 2 | It's Over!Florida divorce before the law changed. It does not apply retroactively. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/25 03:04 PM |
| 6 | It's Over!I have lifetime support. (Peeking over the fence to see all you lucky dudes). | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/25 08:25 PM |
| 5 | Ex-wife glow up…Cannot be higher than. 7 unless she is crazy about you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/25 08:37 PM |
| 5 | What was the final straw that led you to divorce?When I had to insert myself between my wife and daughter to stop wife from beating up daughter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/25 06:53 PM |
| 5 | What did you do with your wedding ring ?If you are ever about 30 yards off the sunshine skyway north end fishing pier on the southernmost tip, and about 30’-40’ underwater, that is where I chucked it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/25 11:38 PM |
| 3 | BS DV allegations90% of women will be of the mind to use false allegations of DV during a breakup because it gets the man in trouble immediately and there are never any consequences for the woman. It is bullshit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/25 12:34 PM |
| 2 | What are some life hack style advise for men who have just been divorced?Edit: also that big loud stereo with the vinyl record player you always wanted. Also also: the nice fishing rod and reel you saw at Bass pro. Also also: guns and ammo | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/25 04:38 PM |
| 7 | What are some life hack style advise for men who have just been divorced?Buy a smoker, and a home brew kit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/25 04:11 AM |
| 4 | Was served today, I am fumingLawyer is driving that. Forcing the women to demand everything so they eventually get more than what they had actually hoped for. Really disgusting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/25 04:02 PM |
| 3 | Question for those who have completed divorce...If you are scuba diving around the St. Pete side of the sunshine skyway bridge probably 20 yards out, you might find my white gold ex-wedding band. Man it felt good chucking that thing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/25 01:17 PM |
| 3 | What the fuck! I just inherited a little over 2.0MWhatever you do, never ever put in any account that has her name on it also or it will become community money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Ex is breaking order and writing off both kids on her tax returnEven though she is a psychotic bitch, my son's words... I didn't want to get her in any trouble. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 07:35 PM |
| 15 | Ex is breaking order and writing off both kids on her tax returnI had this happen. Went to the irs and asked what to do. They told me to file the way I am supposed to file, and the IRS would figure it out. She routinely gets audited now. Blames it on her political beliefs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/25 01:01 AM |
| 2 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceFlorida had permanent lifetime alimony at the time. I can apply for reduction or elimination when I freaking retire I think. I will have paid alimony for longer than the marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 03:29 PM |
| 5 | Advice on child support and alimony 7 years after divorceI’ve been paying alimony since 2007. It is indentured servitude at this point. I am forced to have income to pay HER. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 02:38 PM |
| 18 | Stbx wife told me our child was attacked by her bf's dog while she was at his houseJesus no. CPS will make it worse. Call your lawyer. Demand custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 09:09 PM |
| 6 | Ex-Wife didn't show up for our son's school Christmas party... AgainYou should be thankful that you get time alone with your son and not have to deal with her. Of course it is very sad for the son but it will make him closer to you in the long run. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/24 06:31 PM |
| 16 | Should I attend my STBXW surprise birthday party?Alcohol, a looming D, bunch of her friends. What could go wrong? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/24 05:42 AM |
| -1 | What’s a good passive-aggressive xmas gift for the STBX?One of those expensive battery powered tub scrubbers. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/24 01:30 AM |
| 7 | My Ex Wife has no shameMoney she needs to go out to fuck some other guy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/24 11:43 AM |
| 3 | Does ghosting your separated wife really work to bring her back?You are going to have to move on. If she wants to divorce, fine, but whatever you do, do't give in to whatever she wants as far as division of assets goes, get a freaking lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 10:23 PM |
| 5 | I know there is a hidden camera, what do I do?You can access the router, and identify every device by MAC or IP. or device name... anything you don;t know you can MAC address block. EDIT : If you find it/them... you can remove them from your wifi, yes. Perhaps they are wifi connected to your next door neighbor's wifi? Ugh... just thought of that. I would examine all the secret camera devices Available on Amazon or other websites to get a lay of the land... as to what kind of devices specifically to look for. If you don;t have time to get a … | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Decided to divorce after 19 yearsTry to work it out without court. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/24 03:12 AM |
| 3 | Does this pass the smell test?If you are giving up that much, the delay game, as u/techrmd3 mentioned, is in my opinion, your best bet, at least until you get an attorney involved. SOmeone's circumstances could change between now and finalization, and it could only perhaps serve to take money from you for no reason. Her circumstances could change that she is no longer even alive in a few months through accident or illness, or some other tragedy. If that happens, then you saved a ton of money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/24 06:05 PM |
| 10 | My wife is begging me now to stopt the divorce process!I let her reel me in without showing it. Went to Easter dinner with her and the kids. Everything was fine. Everyone on their best behavior. Even agreed to go out again just ourselves a week later and I was seriously rethinking my decision to leave. Then she completely psycho’d out. I explained that I was seriously thinking of calling off the D and thanked her for confirming I made the right decision. I accidentally escalated her psychosis. Pro tip : don’t do what I did. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/24 10:13 PM |
| 16 | My Wife Is In A ComaLord. Many prayers to you and your family. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/24 03:23 AM |
| 6 | (46). Hey all. Aside from cheating, when did you know you were done in the marriage?When I had to protect my daughter from her violent mother. Yes, I got child custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/24 02:18 PM |
| 3 | What advice would you give somebody considering a divorce? What do you wish you would have known?You people and your vaccines. I’ve had 4…FOUR coworkers die after the fucking Covid vax requirement, not from the Covid, but from vax complications, and a 5th that stroked out right next to me and has permanent physical damage from it. Needs a cane, can’t drive…. You won’t find many vax-hesitant here on Reddit OP. They deny what they see with their own eyes. Do whatever you need to do to save your kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/24 05:12 AM |
| 8 | What advice would you give somebody considering a divorce? What do you wish you would have known?How did the counseling go? Oh… you haven’t followed through? For fucks sake…. Go to counseling. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/24 05:06 AM |
| 3 | It's not going how she plannedWhat is in it for you to allow 50/50. See what she is willing to do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/24 04:51 AM |
| 3 | Ex-wife wants me to not dateYou have to eventually make the decision to divorce or not to divorce without any contributing factors. Just my opinion. The fact that she wants you to not date is an example of her wanting you to stay…perhaps. If there is any hope at all to get back together, whether she says to not date or otherwise, you probably shouldn’t anyway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/24 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Red HandedOh my! Pro-tips all in one post! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/24 10:00 PM |
| 3 | LOL, are they all this flighty and erratic?Fair, however I do have experience in OLD. lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 12:49 AM |
| 5 | LOL, are they all this flighty and erratic?If she needs a calendar invite to go on a date with you, she is not looking forward to it at all. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 12:36 AM |
| 6 | Update to her leavingWomen fight dirty. You have to expect that. They are getting all kinds of advice from their lawyer and their friends, “take him to the fucking cleaners!” They dont want to just win, they want you to lose, and be humiliated. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/24 12:32 AM |
| 8 | Men over 40 should NEVER get marriedYou know who your friends are when they try to legitimately try to talk you out of getting married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Is perpetual alimony a thing? If so, is it likely for marriages under 10 years with no kids? How long has your alimony payment been?Don’t get divorced in Florida before last year. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 05:54 AM |
| 3 | Is perpetual alimony a thing? If so, is it likely for marriages under 10 years with no kids? How long has your alimony payment been?Florida here. I’ve been paying since 2006. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/24 01:58 PM |
| 2 | Wife left meget your finances documented and all in order. Don;t let her drain all the bank accounts. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/24 04:39 AM |
| 4 | Alimony / Disability FraudOffer to split the joint account equally. Never say a dollar amount, you will get screwed. Counter the 1K per month for 5 years = 60K, see if she will take 30K lump sum. You will be happy if she goes for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/24 03:23 AM |
| 3 | I almost feel like during the separation, she completely managed to deconstruct our history and relationships to accommodate her decision to separate.“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ― Maya Angelou | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/24 10:19 PM |
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