Balancedbetween55 Archive

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2	Has anyone actually changed their life around in their 30's? Yes! You can completely turn things around man! I'm 29 years old. I was in a similar scenario to the one you describe for the last 3 YEARS of my life. 6 months ago I turned it around completely. I too had no friends, I hung out with no one I was anti-social and going deeper into a pit of depression and self hate. I would drive around the neighborhood for hours simply because I had nothing to do. I would eat fast food alone in my room then pass out watching TV. Isolation was driving me quiet lite…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/19 10:09 PM
32	Something RP and BP should agree on; childfree is the way to go. Lol ironically, reading this thread, it looks like one thing RP , BP and PP can agree on is that having kids can be a great fulfillment in life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/19 04:33 PM
1	Q4RP: Is Bill Burr just attacking and shaming men in this video? Fine I'll bite. If I grant your premise: If I even grant you that men experience this and then are hurt by other men who call them out for acting weak. I'll even go ahead and for the sake of argument grant and that this type of shaming frequently happens. I still wouldn't call that toxic masculinity. Here is where your premise is wrong. Who said you should go through life not feeling bad or get made fun of ever? Who said that would even be good for you? It is not bad to hurt other peoples feelin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/19 10:27 PM
3	Q4RP: Is Bill Burr just attacking and shaming men in this video? It’s a joke he’s saying stuff he thinks is funny and it is funny . Can’t give this an analysis as if it were some kind of lecture or speech it is performance. Especially within the context of if being bill burr who said it. Hes not making a message or trying to say something . He’s trying to make people laugh not shame not attack. You conceptualize comedians ever as attacking groups that they make jokes about ?? Can I ask how old you are? You seem to have bought into using the kind of language t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/19 08:40 PM
10	CMV: Being afraid of rape accusation or being #Metoo'd, is ridiculous compared to the fear of being raped or assaulted. This is the type of well thought out and intelligent comment that I come to the purple pill for. You accurately pinned down what OP was trying to do and gave an answer that helps bring people away from extreme types of thought.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/19 02:28 AM
1	are red and blue akin to the duality of our nature? If this is a topic you're interested in learning about then Robert Sapolsky goes into great detail on the science of human nature and what he believes to be true. Are we monogamous or polymers animals? He's a professor at Stanford University a whole series of his lectures are on YouTube I think you might find it interesting and eye opening on this topic. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWZAL64E0DI	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/18 06:13 PM
1	Most TRPer's relationships end due to lack of communication, egos, and/or fear of abandonment NOT hypergamy/polygamy I heard an interesting argument that more or better communication does not predict for relationship success. That it's actually respect for one another that predicts relationship success. I think some of TRP philosophy if you follow it as a man will help you respect yourself and get more respect which creates a healthier relationship. The 2nd part of the puzzle I think is making sure you develop respect for your woman as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/18 05:26 PM
3	How important is it for a guy to relate to you and your interests? Do you like when he's "one of the girls"? Yes I have considered it and I'm not ready to rule it out as the cause yet. Not sure what you're up to this weekend but if you're free maybe we can go out and you can give me your assessment about if I'm on the spectrum?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 04:07 AM
1	How important is it for a guy to relate to you and your interests? Do you like when he's "one of the girls"? Outwardly masculine guys often get shunned. I used to avoid conflict at all costs. I've started standing up for myself instead of going straight to backing down. This is just my anecdotal evidence so take it or leave it. When I go out when I visit friends back home , if some guy is rude to me , my friends or even a girl that I'm with, and I stand up for myself or that person. It makes people uncomfortable. It's like everyone is terrified of reasonable conflict. I'm not talking about me being agg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/18 01:43 AM
0	Raising my son made me question what female empowerment is doing to boys agreed I've worked in marketing for some of the biggest technology companies in Silicon Valley. I see a huge huge gap between what these technologies claim to be able to do in our advertisements and what they can actually do. Not to say it isn't incredible what they can actually do. It's a symptom I think of the researchers wanting to get more funding for their projects and the marketing department needing to out sell their competition. I'm guilty of the over hyping of these technologies myself …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/18 05:46 PM
1	The Boy Crisis She claims she is happier alone that with the wrong person , so yes it's entirely possible you're correct on that point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/18 07:00 PM
3	The Boy Crisis I wonder if it's really what they wanted like if thats what there goal is or it's the unintended consequence ?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/18 08:06 PM
7	The Boy Crisis The even more tragic part is that she has zero cats or dogs. She lives in a small tiny studio apartment (it's a very nice studio apartment but it's tiny) It makes me sick to think about how lonely and empty her life has become. When I think about my grandparents (her parents) they are still together they own a big home , they have the whole family over for get togethers...it's like what happened to the generation before me??? What happened to my parents generation that they all decided to blow u…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/18 04:02 PM
6	The Boy Crisis Funny you mention controlling GF's I had a string of controlling women in my life it's a deep pattern in me to date horrible manipulative women. I have to imagine if you don't have a strong male and a strong female influence in a household you're going to give your kids some kind of complex where they seek out destructive people to be in relationships with. The thing I'm trying to explain to my sister now is exactly what you're talking about. I try to tell her that if she spends her 20's dating …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/18 03:55 PM
20	The Boy Crisis It's like my mom had some fantasy that leaving my dad was going to give her freedom and independence but really it had the opposite effect. She thinks it gave her those things but the evidence is clear that it didnt. It tore the family apart and now she's in her 60's with no one to hang out with and nothing to do with her life. It also decreases the amount the family gets together. Even though that shit fucked stuff up for me, It's tragic it breaks my heart to see that she has nothing to do and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/18 02:21 AM
6	The Boy Crisis It's a good question that I don't have a good answer for. Seems like making it tougher for people to get divorced so that they potentially stay in marriages that they hate isn't a great solution either. If I had to guess as to a realistic solution I would say it'll take people returning to some forth of faith and there being more of a social stigma against it instead of a difficulty under the law? I don't know honestly. If people could articulate and educate everyone on why the institution of ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/18 01:20 AM
7	The Boy Crisis I remember it was really frowned upon by my extended family members and the local community at church etc. It wasn't spoken about openly there was more stigma even then in 2003 than there is now I think but I see your point yes. In the US I thought no fault divorce wasn't allowed until the late 90s in some states like the one I lived in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/18 01:17 AM
46	The Boy Crisis My parents got divorced when I was about 10 years old. This was back around 2003. Divorce was just starting to become more acceptable socially and under the law (correct me if I'm wrong) They asked me to choose if I wanted to live with my dad or my mom. This question alone was pretty damn traumatic for a kid to have to choose. My dad reluctantly suggested I should probably be with my mother at the house that she was getting from him that they'd lived in for 20 years together. Now here is my poin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/18 12:09 AM
1	CMV: The true reason reason why hookup culture exists is because women want it that way I wish I had a good answer for this my best guess based on no data and all conjecture would be that women don't want to live in a place like Silicon Valley which doesn't have a great social , night life scene and is filled with way more men than women in all the tech companies. Tech companies pull all the talent here not the fashion and art industry like NYC.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/18 05:31 PM
6	CMV: The true reason reason why hookup culture exists is because women want it that way Spend one weekend in Silicon Valley where I am and you'll have 3 or 4 proposals from Google tech millionaires. Back when I was in NYC it was easy for me as a man to get by as a shallow asshole because the hook up culture was in my favor. You know that saying about Karma, I guess its true. The good thing for me personally though is it has forced me to actually work on my character and my values in order to compete here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/18 01:10 AM
10	CMV: The true reason reason why hookup culture exists is because women want it that way I've got a personal anecdote along these lines. When I lived in New York City any night I went out there was a very good chance a girl would sleep with me. If I was even a little funny and showed interest I had no problem finding a woman. This amount of options made it easy for me to stay immature through most of my 20's going from one girl to the next never commiting. Then I took a job in Silicon Valley and holy s**t the game different. Because there are so many men here and so many of them are…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/18 08:36 PM
10	CMV: The true reason reason why hookup culture exists is because women want it that way Women do out number men in certain cities. It's an important distinction. New York City has a lot more single women than Silicon Valley. The dating cultures in the two places are polar opposite because of this in my opinion. Where as in NYC you have a hook up culture, in Silicon Valley you have a few women holding out for the top men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/18 08:27 PM