Banhammer40000 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Girl who I slept with and have been dating seeing other guy in trip Communicate. It’s not “manly” to keep your feelings bottled up. That’s not healthy.	/r/seduction	05/09/24 05:48 PM
6	I fucked up the best opportunity I've ever had It’s easy to get intimidated by beautiful women and not know what to say, fumble the opening/delivery, especially at places unexpected like this. I get like that and I don’t do it to pick up people. Just to have a conversation or pay them genuine compliments Don’t beat yourself up over it. There will be other opportunities to show the world your charm.	/r/seduction	02/09/24 07:37 PM
0	Girl flakes but apologised and asked to reschedule. What to do? He’s never going to see her anyway, so might as well be honest, tell her what she did wrong so that she can be better.	/r/seduction	26/08/24 03:22 AM
5	Girl flakes but apologised and asked to reschedule. What to do? Just be honest dude. Tell her that you don’t appreciate her texting you 3 hours after the agreed time to reschedule, that it’s inconsiderate and rude. Tell her that you have no space in your life for someone who doesn’t value your time and theirs. Wish her the best of luck in finding a partner and bid her adieu.	/r/seduction	25/08/24 10:16 PM
2	Question for the O.G's and the Veterans: How do you integrate your authentic self into game? No relationship, romantic, platonic familial or otherwise, is not worth being in if they won’t let you be your authentic, genuine self. Seriously, fuck that. Who’s got the time? The thing is, the present you are a culmination of everything from your past. All your experiences, trauma, triumphs, abuse, all of them. You’re the amalgam of all the previous yous. However, your past doesn’t define who you are as of this moment. Sometimes our past trauma keeps you holding you back, keeps you from movin…	/r/seduction	25/08/24 01:14 PM
4	I’ve made the mistake of hiring a dating coach. In what areas do you feel like you need a coach? Edit: I’m no coach by any means. I just want to share some strategies I had implemented that has worked pretty well in my past and if that helps anyone, great. I’d never sell “a method”. That’s predatory and bogus, since attraction has to be built on individual’s strengths and weaknesses and there’s no blueprint that works for all. That’s stupid.	/r/seduction	25/08/24 12:50 PM
2	I've come to the conclusion some guys go out solely for the purpose of cockblocking. The thing that helped me is the notion of being outcome independent. Paying someone a compliment because you feel it, not to get with them. Then the approach is much more natural, much more genuine. Authenticity brings people out of their shell while remaining in their comfort zone. People can spot an affectation a mile away. Unless you’re a sociopath. Edit: My gf was kidding when she accused me of flirting. She knows that I can be a social butterfly, will talk to anyone. And that random people …	/r/seduction	24/08/24 11:31 PM
23	I've come to the conclusion some guys go out solely for the purpose of cockblocking. I think this phenomena is two faceted. I’m speaking from only my personal experience, so I don’t know if there’s anything to this or not. You be the judge. I don’t approach people with the intent of picking them up. I approach people with the intent of paying them a genuine compliment. Meaning my approach is rarely forced and always genuine, often making their day. The thing I’ve noticed about guys moving in on your space is that they generally fall under two categories. One is a genuine hater a…	/r/seduction	24/08/24 04:07 PM
20	I want to understand psychology behind girls being drawn to guys who do art It’s not always about “being alpha”. It’s about being comfortable in your skin. Confidence, much like class, is something that you exude. If you try to be something, by definition, you’re not. It could be that your friend just has the artist’s sensibility, the ability to recognize and capture beauty. He’s less concerned about how he is and more concerned with the world around him. I don’t know if this is the case or not, as you’ve given me little information, but from what I’ve gathered and the …	/r/seduction	23/08/24 06:41 AM
1	Any guys here who can explain why they don't approach? Approach anxiety is a real thing. However it can be managed, negated by being outcome independent.	/r/seduction	22/08/24 03:57 PM
65	What should I say to an older woman when she said she worried that I am too young? I’m old enough to know What I’m doing. What I want. Not to let a good thing go. It’s about being assertive, genuine and seemingly spontaneous. Be forward with what you want. Older ladies are the bees knees. They know what they want and will get it. Vaya con dios amigo.	/r/seduction	22/08/24 05:31 AM
5	How to flirt my teacher It’s difficult to manipulate the clear imbalance in the power dynamic towards your favor, not that it’s impossible. As a general rule, I wouldn’t do it. At least not until you’re done with the class and have intention of going back. Remember, she’s paid to be nice and civil to her students. Don’t mistake that as anything other than professional courtesy.	/r/seduction	21/08/24 04:34 AM
3	Lots of female friends, no play. First, I want you to know that I wasn’t accusing you have having bad intentions or anything like that. So I apologize if I came off like that. Second, things happen, feelings change. You can originally befriend someone and end up falling for them as you get to know them better. That’s happened to me before and that was one of the better, healthier relationships I had been in because we started off as friends. And should you break up, you guys can go back to being friends again, if you value the …	/r/seduction	18/08/24 08:43 PM
-2	Lots of female friends, no play. Making friends with people with ulterior motive of sleeping with them is disingenuous and dishonest. You should stop that. You’re getting shut down because you initially gave off friendship vibes then you turned it around into something else later. It can be viewed as underhanded and creepy. If you’re genuinely interested in someone, lead with that. Tell her that you think she’s pretty and would love to get to know her better, or whatever line you use. But make your intent clear. Don’t try to be…	/r/seduction	18/08/24 08:21 PM
4	Why is it that the answer to a man's inceldom is, 99.9999% of the time, to "just work on yourself bro," even if its for the next 50 years, "just work on yourself bro?" Nothing worth having comes easy. If it comes easy, you take it for granted. If you want to attract people, become a person worthy of attraction. This don’t necessarily mean work out. It could also mean study, become an expert on a specific field. Be better. There’s no other answer. Be better than you are now. That’s it.	/r/seduction	09/08/24 01:50 AM
2	Kiss rejection follow up Omg this post is so incredibly high school romance make your heart thump out of your chest into your throat cute I could just explode in hearts! 💕 💓💗💞 Dude, you’re doing fine. It’s all just a part of the push and pull. Give 3 then take 2 away. It’s the oldest dance in the book. If you like the girl, hang out with her again. Know what you’re worth and if she treats you accordingly, great. If she doesn’t appreciate the time spent with you, you have to evaluate the quality of time spent with her as…	/r/seduction	16/07/24 03:51 PM
77	Why good looking men STEAL YOUR girls “Pretty privilege” is a real thing. It warps their weltanschauung. A lot of them honestly believe that if your cat breaks down on the side of the road, people will miraculously appear to help them out. Whether it’s a flat tire or a full blown out transmission, “angels disguised as humans” appear out of nowhere to save/help them. In their world, people say hello to each other, everybody smiles at everybody and they experience the entire world through rose colored glasses, where the waiters are ex…	/r/seduction	06/07/24 03:03 PM
1	I failed a shit test and I'm worried it's a wrap... No matter how perfect you think she is, there’s some dude out there that’s totally sick of her shit. Don’t put her on a pedestal. Don’t chase her. Have her chase you. This is what attraction is all about. Be the person worthy of the chase.	/r/seduction	06/07/24 01:58 AM
1	Has anyone ever read a romance novel as research? “Research” So…. Not a fan of the genre? lol Edit: if I’m not mistaken, a lot of those are written by men so check your sources? Edit#2: As others have pointed out, they are works of fiction. You’re about as likely as to get insights to women out of those books as you have of figuring out the mentality of men reading Dean Koontz or Robert Ludlum.	/r/seduction	05/07/24 06:56 AM
3	Game is just finesse “The Game”(ugh I detest PUA lingo. It’s not a game. It’s your life.) is just an extension of the inter personal power dynamics between people that we engage in on a daily basis as social creatures. You don’t just seduce your potential chamber mates but you seduce your investors, business partners, mother in laws, cops, waiters, etc. it’s just that the end goal is different. (Though if you wanna get your mother in law to bed, I don’t judge nor kink shame) It’s the recognition of these power dynam…	/r/seduction	04/07/24 04:00 PM
10	How to be happy alone To be alone is a state of being. To be lonely is a state of mind. Work that out first. The point is not to chase women, but attract them. That means to be a person worthy of attraction. There are many paths to this, but they all require work. In short, be better	/r/seduction	01/07/24 11:36 AM
2	Relationship and come to a disastrous point. What to do? She just used you as an emotional support person until she found her person closer to her. It sucks but chalk it up as a learning experience that will make you a better person in the future and move on.	/r/seduction	01/07/24 10:36 AM
1	How do I stop liking someone? No matter how great or perfect you think some girl is, there’s some dude out there that’s totally sick of her shit.	/r/seduction	30/06/24 06:51 PM
1	How to make a move on a friend who’s had a glow up? Look friend. Just like guys complain about being relegated to the “friend zone”, girls are sometimes placed in the “fuck zone”. That’s when guys befriend a girl with the disingenuous motivation to hoping they can hook up. When the guy reveals his feelings and is not reciprocated by the girl, the guy will often stop being friends with them. This happens because the guy obviously places value in her as a sexual object and when his advances are rebuffed, he takes it as an ego death and a rejection …	/r/seduction	20/06/24 07:07 PM
2	Do men really have different physical preferences in women they would date? Not all women are visually driven. There are sapiosexuals out there as well. I’m not what you would consider conventionally handsome. I’m terribly near sighted. Like almost blind without my glasses which are pretty damn thick, also have a slight underbite. I do have a pretty good word game. A silver tongue, a cunning linguist, if you will. Look. Every time you interact with another person, there’s a manipulation of power dynamics at play. You don’t just seduce women you want to sleep with, but y…	/r/seduction	18/06/24 03:11 AM
5	Do men really have different physical preferences in women they would date? Again, wrong. Stop reducing people to generalizations. I’m a 5’9” Asian dude and I’ve bedded many beautiful women of all shapes colors sizes in various ethnic groups and economic status. “All women want X, I’m not/I don’t have X. Therefore I can’t get women.” Is an absolutely stupid and retarded take. If you want to attract women, become the person worthy of attraction. Again, be better.	/r/seduction	18/06/24 02:43 AM
1	Do men really have different physical preferences in women they would date? What the actual fuck? You’re plain wrong. The fact that there are emo girls, goth girls, preppy and hippy flower child girls show that you’re wrong. What you find “beautiful” might be monolithic, but don’t reduce people down to “they’re all X.” That’s a stupid take and frankly offensive. Be better	/r/seduction	18/06/24 02:28 AM
1	Do men really have different physical preferences in women they would date? People aren’t monoliths. Standard of beauty is something that changes from time to time. And even within what a certain culture deems “beautiful”, there will be outliers who find others aspects beautiful. Elongated necks in African tribes, foot binding in China are extreme examples, but corsets, high heels, spray tan and tanning beds, tattoos, piercings, and other body modifications are done in the name of beauty. Men/women want X. I don’t have X. Therefore I can’t find a partner is a stupid tak…	/r/seduction	18/06/24 02:04 AM
-1	What advice, quote, lesson or move made you level up the most in life/game? I sent you a PM/chat that addresses some of your concerns. We can continue the conversation there if you want.	/r/seduction	08/06/24 08:04 PM
138	What advice, quote, lesson or move made you level up the most in life/game? “No matter how pretty, perfect you think a girl is, there’s some dude out there that’s totally sick of her shit.” Keeps me from putting women on pedestals knowing that they frown when they push out turds just like the rest of us.	/r/seduction	08/06/24 03:14 PM
1	I Always Assume All Women Find me Hideous Ever hear the phrase, “you get back what you put out into the universe.”? You know there are many different paths to attraction and seduction, right? Seduction is but a very small slice of a greater pie that is the recognition and manipulation of power dynamics between two people. You don’t just seduce the people you want to sleep with. You also seduce business partners, investors, strangers. You seduce waiters to get better tables, you seduce the police to get a lighter ticket. When any two peo…	/r/seduction	08/06/24 01:14 AM
1	Post hookup I would say instead of chasing, be the object worthy of chase. Attract instead of pursuit. It’s all a part of the push and pull. Leave her be for a few, push and pull others, work on your cold approach, day game, whatever. If she reaches out, cool. If not, move on.	/r/seduction	17/03/24 09:17 PM
1	Is pulling hot girls at an older age something to be happy/excited about it? DM;HS. Isn’t that what this subreddit is all about?	/r/seduction	17/03/24 09:08 PM
2	Dating does not work black/ethnic men in the U.S. As an Asian man, I have bedded many beautiful women of all shapes and colors. It’s not about race and stop going over to passport bros subreddit. What you’re forgetting I think, is that every single person has their own agencies, interests, likes and dislikes. Seduction essentially is a play in power dynamics between two people. The fun part is finding out their individualities with such her pushes and pulls. A silver tongue is helpful of course because once you capture their minds, it’s easy to…	/r/seduction	18/01/24 01:34 AM
6	Girls are so comfortable and easily open up to guys with gay energy. And some girls are scared or cautious around guys with masculine energy. Is this true? Oh yeah. Clearly there’s a difference between a guy who’s in touch with his emotions and “one of the girls”. You also have to make a distinction between someone who is just easy to approach and who seem “non threatening” as a tool for manipulation. I think some people have it naturally, some work at it. I never had trouble relating to women because I had an older sister growing up. Not only did that make me more comfortable around women, my sister was also a confidant that I could talk to who le…	/r/seduction	28/08/22 02:45 AM
28	Girls are so comfortable and easily open up to guys with gay energy. And some girls are scared or cautious around guys with masculine energy. Is this true? Just looking at the language you’re using here, I can tell that you have some preconceived notions and prejudices with being in touch with your emotions. There’s nothing wrong with being in touch with your feelings my guy. Your “confusion” at women opening up to guys who are approachable is not a mystery at all. Maybe consider your use of words like “bitch boy energy” and (yea… but apparently he’s straight) and see why someone wouldn’t find that as you leaking hostility towards some types of peo…	/r/seduction	28/08/22 02:06 AM
1	is your goal one woman or multiple? Haram in the streets but halal in the sheets.	/r/seduction	12/08/22 02:12 PM
4	How am I supposed to get more experience with sex and relationships when nobody will give me a chance? If it’s just “the experience” you seek, and not a genuine connection with a partner, why not go the escort route? Or do you consider sex work to be “beneath” you? Or the argument, “why should I pay for it while others get it for free?” Never mind the fact that we all “pay for it” one way or another, if you want to take a purely mercantile/mercenary approach to it. But to further that perspective, you hire an electrician when you need the house rewired, right? No value judgments or kink shame her…	/r/seduction	12/08/22 02:05 PM
5	What does it mean when a girl says she likes men with an attitude? Confidence, sense of humor, light teasing and playful banter. It’s all about the push and pull. Give two, pull one back.	/r/seduction	28/07/22 08:21 AM
1	“What is it bout’ men?” -Amy Winehouse Simply put, you could be mature for your age. People in their twenties are literally just out of their teenage years. People expect you to act like adults as soon as you turn eighteen but you’re still just a kid. As you get older, your tastes and preferences change. They have to. Some people never grow up. That’s why ladies in the office gossip like they’re high school girls and old creeps perv after young girls. I used to make jokes about driving really slow past high schools “to be safe” when …	/r/seduction	17/07/22 06:57 AM
23	How do I lose my virginity to a milf or an experienced woman? First step is to stop fetishizing “older women” as “cougars”, someone with “more sexual experience” (though anything more than 0 would be true in this particular case) and approach them as women, as somebody you’re attracted to. Don’t get too hung up on “scoring” with women. Get hung up on genuinely having fun instead. Don’t think about how it would look, or the optics of some such behavior and find something that you can just throw your head back and laugh at. Women will gravity towards you hav…	/r/seduction	14/07/22 07:54 AM
6	Met a cutie who flirts with me, but she’s married… Well if you’re just two ships passing in the night… STILL DON’T. But then again… NO. Still… NO	/r/seduction	07/07/22 02:32 PM
12	Met a cutie who flirts with me, but she’s married… OP Just because there’s a goalie doesn’t mean you can’t score. Also, a ring doesn’t plug up a hole. Now that I got those jokes out of the way, in all seriousness: DON’T DO IT. JUST. DON’T. She’s probably bored and you’re her entertainment. Talk with her, hone your craft, with on your people skills. Consider it a rehearsal. But don’t move in on her. If she comes on to you, know that she’ll betray you the same way.	/r/seduction	07/07/22 02:15 PM
1	What to say when a girl says she likes your hair? Pantene pro-v	/r/seduction	05/07/22 09:00 PM
7	What's a good response for when you're chatting up an older woman..... I mean wordsmithing in general. There’s no “magic spell” that works for everyone. Read a lot of everything. Enrich your own life so that you can help enrich others. Find shared interests, be excited about them. Take delight and savor the shared experiences. Be honest with them. See them more than what they want to be seen as. See them as they are. Imperfections and all. In the name of decency, she’ll draw her curtains, but never quite closing them completely. While it might be both of your desir…	/r/seduction	04/07/22 10:54 PM
7	What's a good response for when you're chatting up an older woman..... Just smile and say, “shut up, you are not.” Because that’s the banter she’s expecting. But if you are in a conversation with more depth/quieter area, or you happen to be chatty (or is reflecting her talkative energy, which is a positive sign especially coupled with a lot of eye contact), you can wax philosophical about the passing nature of physical beauty and how inner beauty like sense of humor, kindness, sophistication endures and only gets more refined with time. Add something in about aging…	/r/seduction	04/07/22 07:21 PM
-1	Girl I'm seeing told me shes been with tons of dudes with huge cocks. The combination of our past experiences make us who we are, but it does not define us. It’s entirely possible that we learn from my mistakes and grow. This is what makes us human. OP, it’s up to you to decide whether this person is worth putting the time, attention and your whole self into creating something with. Don’t half ass it. It would be a shame if you lost out on something great just because of your hang ups.	/r/seduction	29/06/22 11:12 PM
2	How to be confident when dick size crushes self-esteem? I always knock out out of the park at the job interview. It’s when I start working on the job, that’s when the disappointment starts. You got them in bed, so some parts of your game is working. I would say put a lot of emphasis on foreplay, manual & oral stimulation, etc. Get them off before you hop on for your two pumps and you’re spent. Nobody’s dick is gonna be bigger than your arm if that’s what it takes. It’s not about the size of the equipment but the joy and connection you share with anot…	/r/seduction	15/09/21 12:06 AM
4	Friend used me for sex to rebound. Caught feelings but she got back with her ex. Any advice to get over her. The only meaningful advice that I can give you is the only one that's ever helped me and here it is: No matter how hot, great and awesome you think some girl is, there's some guy out there that's totally sick of her shit. Take this pearl of wisdom and do what you will. I hope it helps you as much as it helped me.	/r/seduction	26/10/19 05:42 PM
1	At 23, I've just been handed my first breakup. I fucked up alot and I'm still in the shock stage. Can you guys recommend some things to me? Thanks. Glad you thought it as poignant as I did. Frank Herbert was a brilliant man in many ways. If you haven't yet, you should definitely give "Dune" a read. Though a lot of people hated the movie adaptation by David Lynch (how you can hate a movie that has Patrick Stewart holding a pug and shooting a machine gun is beyond me. Plus the movie has Sting playing one of the villains!) I even like the movie. The book is almost always better than the movie of course and this one is no exception. If …	/r/seduction	14/04/14 07:17 PM
3	At 23, I've just been handed my first breakup. I fucked up alot and I'm still in the shock stage. Can you guys recommend some things to me? Dude, I'm sorry that you're going through this. It's something that happens to every one of us. Sadly, what no one ever says or tells you will make you get over it faster. Your friends, people here (including myself) will tell you all kinds of helpful things. Logically, reasonably, intellectually, what they say make sense. Emotionally or in your heart however, things aren't as easy or definite as the way your brain sees it, amirite? Therein lies the rub. Some people will tell you "Don't be sad t…	/r/seduction	14/04/14 06:35 PM
2	An Incredibly Powerful Technique to Get Any Girl To Follow You Around a Room Agreed. "Inner game" is more than just some shtick about "getting the girl". It's really more about self-cultivation. Not just as a PUA (not that I am or anything like that. I just like to lurk & peruse this subreddit once in a while) material, but as an overall self-improvement type of thing. It's funny, I don't want to sound like one of those people who hover around the self-help section at a bookstore or anything like that, but I see a lot of good strategies and advice for general self improv…	/r/seduction	16/05/13 01:02 PM
2	How the Stoics Got Laid: 5 Lessons on Meeting Women From Stoic Philosophy I think it's rather simplistic to reduce stoicism as a "guide" to attract women, which the author of the article mentions in the beginning. I think the point he was getting at was that Stoicism is a good way to groom oneself, (or at least familiarize oneself with at least at a rudimentary level) and attraction will happen. Stoicism can be seen as something of a mental state, or a "way of being", not dissimilar to the "Tao", or the "path". Two good introduction to stoicism are The Encheiridion (T…	/r/seduction	05/04/12 03:55 PM