Barsoomisreal Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Wife cheated, when should I file for divorce The sooner you start, the sooner you will be free. And the sooner you are free, the sooner you will find out you are carrying a weight on your shoulders you never knew you were bearing, and the happiness and freedom that follows will make your life so much better. Do it. Today.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/07/26 12:20 PM
19	Ex wants to meet up Imagine going to your fridge, grabbing some expired milk and taking a swig. You immediately retch, as the clumpy, rancid curdled chunks of disease ridden dairy hits your throat. Still gagging, you put the lid back on and put it back in the fridge, saying "Well, it might taste better next time". That is exactly what you are contemplating doing right now. You say you are in a good headspace. She senses this, and is now determined to destroy it. Do not even ENTERTAIN the thought of meeting up with …	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/26 06:46 PM
20	Wife started calling me "weak" and talking about divorce after I had a rough couple of days this week She is cheating, and you ruined her plans that night by calling out of work. Seen it before, will see it again.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/12/25 12:48 PM
20	Wife suggesting we won’t make it as a married couple. All because of Trump. Willing to destroy not only her life, but yours and the kids as well because she can't scream hateful things in your family's face? And she thinks TRUMP is the problem?	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/24 05:42 PM
30	Female judges I went alone with an attorney in front of the female judge (my ex did not want to attend) and informed her that my ex and I AGREED to no child support/alimony. The judge looked at me in pure disgust. "You cannot make that call" she said "we have a formula we use and the fact you made agreements mean nothing to me. You will pay, Mr. barsoom, and that is the law!" I then informed her that my EX made DOUBLE what I did, and the kids were going to be with me 80% of the time. "Oh" the judge replied. "…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/23 08:12 PM
18	Days from making final decision after 30 years of marriage You do not even realize the weight you carry. The constant harping, the snide remarks, the snarky glances... all this adds up and you do not even realize it. My divorce was not easy... but when it was over, and I stepped back and drew my first breath knowing that I was not going home to being yelled at, demeaned and ridiculed for no reason, it was as if I was reborn. The weight I did not even know I was carrying was simply.... gone. Poof. Gone. And let me tell you... there is no feeling in the w…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/07/22 11:34 AM
12	can a judge really force you to pay child support if you both agreed none is needed? Yes. In my divorce, at the hearing (my wife did not attend) I explained we agreed on no child support, alimony etc. the female judge started to scold me and say "You are not able to just decide not to pay child support, there are laws in place and they must be followed!' I then explained she made MORE than me, and she would be paying me. The judge then called me a "good man" and there was no child support due. Kinda ticked me off that if I made more, I would have to pay but since she made more, …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/01/21 12:40 PM
2	Stbx is a straight 10.... When you get older or mature more, you will realize that TRUE attraction is not physical, but emotional. What you call attraction now will be just a pale shadow to what you will feel with a woman that you truly love, even if she has a few extra pounds.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/05/20 01:49 PM
12	Had to end it with the GF can she build equity on my mortgage. When she said that I would have said "Can I claim your kid on my taxes?" and watched her reaction. When they think of money over the relationship, it is not a relationship worth saving. It hurts, I know, but you did the right thing.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/02/20 12:35 PM
1	I'm just here First you need to stop blaming your wife for your weakness. Second, If you want your old family back, you need to beg her for another chance, and a thing that will help her see that you have grown emotionally is to STOP BLAMING HER FOR YOUR WEAKNESS. Good luck, and take freaking responsibility for your own actions.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/20 04:38 PM
1	I'm the awful other woman and got kicked to the curb What a sanctimonious pile of pure drivel. You compare yourself to a lioness? really? I think a Hyena would be a better representation of a woman knowingly chasing after a married man. You go on this whole "Woe is me, Feel bad for poor little me!" when in reality you got exactly what you were cultivating. You reap what you sow. How did you think this would end? With you and him riding off into the sunset? In the future, please learn from this experience and realize that EVERY man that cheats pain…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/02/20 02:35 PM
4	Why her? The double standards for men and women in situations like this are staggering. The women, who could be 100% at fault cry a few crocodile tears, sniffle a bit about how horrible you were to do this to her, and BAM! Everyone falls for the sob story. You can fight back and let people know that NO! SHE is the one stepping out on YOU, but that can make you just look petty. Best advice? Smile, hold your head high and if asked why, reply "Until you have lived through what I have had to endure, do not j…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/02/20 05:07 PM
33	Did anyone here divorce over a sexless marriage? This is not a marriage, this is indentured servitude. You do not owe her what remains of your life anymore than she does not owe you sex. Without hesitation, if I was told "face it, our sex life is over" the very next words out of my mouth would be "face it, our marriage is over". Protect yourself. Get a lawyer, Get a new life and most of all, get happy again. When the new day dawns without her overbearing shadow snuffing out your dreams, the weight lifted off your shoulders is almost impossible…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/12/19 08:12 PM
8	Wife moved out If she is going for full custody, and she broke into your apartment, I would be worried she planted something IN there rather than taking something OUT. An anonymous call to the police later saying you are selling drugs to kids and that you "Hide the drugs in the middle couch cushion" , where surprise surprise there are drugs will be hard to explain away. I would report the break in, voice your suspicions and insist the police dust the window. Better safe than sorry. Oh, and check your middle co…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/10/19 02:45 PM