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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	How do you deal with fake ignorance shit tests?		Bartko11	/r/askTRP	30/03/21 05:44 PM

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7	The uncomfortable truth in the dating realm: women have to be, men have to become. Most people aren't aware of exactly how many super unattractive traits these super high earners have This is true for men as well though	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/21 03:17 AM
2	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. I don't think the blow up is so much related to the friendzone, nice guy, whatever and more dependent on the maturity of the male. When I was going through this stuff in high school, I never exploded on the girls. Never. I knew it wasn't their fault. That if I obtained anything by being mean it wouldn't mean anything. That I didn't want relationships built on that sort of thing. These were my friends, I didn't want to hurt them or make them feel bad. In private it was stressful though. Someone y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 03:26 PM
1	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. You're right. But I don't really know what critics of the men in these scenarios expect. For whatever reason the guy thinks one of their friends is hot, and wants a romantic relationship with them. If there is no chemistry coming from the woman, they hide their feelings as to not damage the friendship. They hope that with time the chemistry will develop much like theirs did. AND usually it does not. If they hide it to preserve the friendship, people call them nice guys, liars, etc. If they admit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 03:03 PM
2	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. You're right, but I think modern public school and tv really conveniences young men to not believe what people tell you. For the first 8 years of your education in the US, you hear essentially "if you want something, just try really hard and you will get it. Just don't give up and you'll get it" Work hard, get the As. Work hard, earn the money for the first car. Etc. And for the most part that works. It can even work with freinds to some degree. If you're not a garbage person, you can usually ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 02:50 PM
2	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. I think you're on the right line of thinking. The game has changed, and it has changed fast. If I were to do things over, I'd just gotten jacked, got an easy job with low hours, and traveled. Women just don't care about providers. I make around six figures and women just don't care. They date men like men dated women in the 80s. They want someone fit, in nice fitted clothes, that is funny and wants to travel to far away places to look at pretty buildings and eat food with. If you fit that descri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 02:45 PM
2	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. Are you effectively saying that your close female friends don’t do anything to help you out? I've had one. Usually women use "just friends" as a way to soften rejection and make seeing them out in public less awkward. it doesn't actually mean they want to connect in any meaningful way or help you, like move or fix your car.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 03:27 AM
4	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. Unfortunately a good portion of those male friends are not really their friends, they are just pretending to be friends to wait for their chance to make a move. I think this is overstated. Its like women don't believe men can love. I have had real friendship with all the women I've dated or have wanted to date. i have had friendship with every woman I've loved. IMO women who frame it this way are projecting. They need for there to be some sort of dirty pervy secret plot so they can absolve thems…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 03:24 AM
2	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. I've always wondered what women think about how so many of their best male friends are single and stay single. Like they don't find their male friend attractive. And no one dates him. Does it ever register that a lot of people find him ugly and he feels alone and ugly?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 03:19 AM
3	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. Because it doesn’t exist to women. It exists for women. Its just a pissy way to say someone doesn't want to date. Women end up as only friends to guys they fancy all the time. Maybe talk to your really fat or really ugly friends a bit more? Every woman I've known that is 300+ lbs has had a freindzone story. Women that say it doesn't exist are 1. attractive enough they've never dealt with getting the "just friends" talk and 2. deflecting responsibility for making someone feel bad for turning them…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 03:13 AM
2	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. Okay then don’t be her friends nothing wrong with that. But being her friend hoping something more will come of it What should they do? Just walk up and ask if she wants some dick? What do you think the odds are on that working out?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 03:08 AM
3	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. Most men have had a woman say at one point "i would have dated you, but I don't want to ruin the friendship we have now" So they become conscious on building a strong friendship first, if they think it could kill their chances for a strong romantic relationship later.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 03:04 AM
1	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. Are men doing all the “emotional tamponning” of friendships with women? I doubt that. They probably don't do all of it, but men with a romantic interest probably do it the best. Which might be the unspoken reason some young women go through a male only friend phase. She might have previously had toxic or crappy female friends, and now she has a couple male friends that will do anything with her, and listen to all her problems, and protect her and buy her gifts. Its like she woke up one day and s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 02:50 AM
2	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. IMO a big contributor is that young men know nothing about dating or romance. Nothing. I didn't know crap in my teens and early twenties. Other guys didn't know. No one told us. Women might think dads are passing on the knowledge or something, but its not happening. All these guys are stumbling through it and the slightest bit of kindness is read like a green light. I'm a lot better now. But it was a lot of trial and error. And what I do know doesn't even apply to all women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 02:43 AM
6	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. Oh you're right. Oh you are so right. There has been a lot written on it. It is a big part of what is wrong with modern men. Society has essentially made women gatekeepers for large sections of how men determine their own value. They provide the sex which is a marker for male attractiveness. They provide the emotional labor that is a marker of the value of the ego, the concept of self. Other men will not provide these things. So you end up with scenarios where if a guy is rejected, for him it fe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 02:32 AM
3	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. in line with popular disney trope. yeeep The guy thinks they will be a romantic couple by the end of the movie. The girl thinks she now has her funny sidekick for adventures.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 02:17 AM
4	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. They share feelings with their friends and their friends absorb them. What you're talking about is emotional labor. Women will do emotional labor for anyone. Men will only really do it for romantic partners. Really smart men will do some for male friends, but still only do the heaviest lifting for a romantic partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 02:07 AM
1	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. Being friend-zoned isn't "true friendship." depends on the woman. Yes, most women don't really mean it. But I do have one out of 10 "friends" that did mean it and she is a wonderful person and we're still friends after 15 years. But yeah, a lot of women say it in the hopes that things wont be weird in public. They aren't going to like come pick you up if you get a flat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 02:05 AM
1	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. If you're being honest, then the issue is that men and women do not communicate the same ways with freinds of their same gender. A man might only use one type of conversation with romantic interest that he would not do for most of his male friends or planatic female friends, while a woman might talk that way with anyone. But that does beg a question, how do women make it into adulthood without realizing men do not talk to their friends likes women do? How do they not see special treatment for wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 01:52 AM
1	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. If you're being honest, then the issue is that men and women do not communicate the same ways with freinds of their same gender. A man might only use one type of conversation with romantic interest that he would not do for most of his male friends or planatic female friends, while a woman might talk that way with anyone. But that does beg a question, how do women make it into adulthood without realizing men do not talk to their friends likes women do? How do they not see special treatment for wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 01:52 AM
2	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. Some women are really only turned on in the early stages of a relationship when there is some mystery to a man. If a man tries to be a friend first, she gets to know him and the mystery fades. BUT women are not a monolith, so not all of them are like that. BUT most men have gotten the speech "I'd dated you when we met, but I think its better if we are just friends now" so they kind of get a why bother attitude.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 01:36 AM
3	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. This is a very important skill for women in the workplace. People have a habit of dumping a lot of really skilled women at work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 01:33 AM
1	CMV: “Being an emotional tampon” is inherent to true friendship. It is usually teen boys and early 20 somethings that use that word. I feel like there is a lot of OTHER stuff going on that cause its usage. A scenario I see is ,that for whatever reason, a woman surrounds herself with male friends. She likes all the attention she gets from them. She gets much more it from them than from her female friends. There are usually two or three that give her tons of attention and listen to everything she has to say, unlike most of her other male friends and even her fe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/21 01:31 AM
0	Q4M: Can you post examples of photos of an average guy? I think it comes down to women not using the word "average" in a mathematical way. When they say average, they mean he doesn't stand out. He disappears in the crowd. Neither ugly or super hot. He is at the middle of their attraction bell curve, with men getting hotter as they move to the right. They do not mean average as in all men. They mean base level for them to find them attractive. They're not even factoring in ugly men. They probably ignore those. Men on the other hand are just doing a me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/21 02:44 AM
1	Hollywood Pushes Male Actors to the Brink of Organ Failure for Shirtless Pics Steroid use by tender users is also on the increase.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/21 06:11 AM
1	Are attractive guys actually less creepy? Depends on how you define creepy. If we're talking about showing a lack of confidence or awkwardness, then it is rare in attractive people. They have already had a lot of positive confirmation from people, so they are relaxed when talking to people. They know they are likely to be well received. The only exception would be someone sheltered. Like an attractive person that lives on a farm visiting a city. And that would probably just be read as being spacey or dumb, not creepy. NOW if we mean act…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/21 08:13 AM
1	Why do so many men lust after the "goth" aesthetic/lifestyle? I think you're making a bigger deal of it than the men. Men rarely lust after lifestyles and personalities. Take uniform fetishes. A woman lusting after a guy in uniform might be lusting after the strength and protection and lifestyle of that job. The strength that culture tells us a military or policeman is suppose to have. Show a woman in uniform to a guy and its straight up that the pants lift her butt and the shirt pushes her tits up. Thats it. It might sound horrible, but one good thing abo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/21 07:51 PM
2	Do stats show that women more difficult to have as Long term partners than men? I agree. Most women I know have had an experience like this with at least 1 or 2 men by the age of 30. I think there are a lot of undiagnosed dark triad men (and some women) out there. And as an aside, almost all of the men have hid it from their better male friends. Every now and then they'll make a little joke to see if their friends are also hip with treating women like this and then keep their mouth shut if they don't get the reaction they want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/21 06:53 PM
4	CMV: Unattractive men are already socially relegated to mostly/all male social circles, further inhibiting their sexual behavior Sounds like he is cold approaching women in the friend group, girl feels icky, and the more popular guys have to take him aside and tell him he's being creepy. People don't talk about body language enough when giving advice to guys that don't get a lot of dates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/21 09:38 PM
1	CMV: Unattractive men are already socially relegated to mostly/all male social circles, further inhibiting their sexual behavior I feel like this advice is usually given by people that don't understand their natural assets and the part of body language to people with fewer natural assets and also don't understand body language. Much like a really hot girl giving dating advice to someone that is very ordinary. Some people are really clueless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/21 09:36 PM
2	Do stats show that women more difficult to have as Long term partners than men? I have a feeling we're talking about two different age groups of women. I'm talking about women that divorce in their mid to late 20s, and 30s. I bet more women divorce out of boredom in their late 30s all the way up to their 50s. I think that circles back to people not understanding love, not understanding infatuation. The woman was in love with being in love. She loved that thrill. Then that fades away and you are left with just the person. If you or both of you don't really care about each ot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/21 09:03 PM
2	Do stats show that women more difficult to have as Long term partners than men? Who knows. There is a lot of debate around this. So many theories. But imo, I wouldn't say they choose assholes, I would say they ignore it because they think he is hot. Much like a man will ignore that his gf is a bitch if she is really hot.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/21 08:58 PM
4	Do stats show that women more difficult to have as Long term partners than men? IMO, people just suck. And women are bad at getting what they want out of relationships. When a relationship starts, people tend to be infatuated. You might call it the honey moon stage. During this period, women are very agreeable. So there is is very little challenge to how horrible the man is. Everyone has had a friend on one side of that. Either you know a guy that is the asshole, or the girl putting up with the asshole, and you just shake your head on why she puts up with it. Eventually the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/21 08:33 PM
1	Is sugar-daddying worth it? " You don't really have fun and exciting girls. It's all very genteel, conventional, news-reading, documentary-watching crowd, everybody loves worrying about something. " I'd take this. Most of the women I know just talk about other people and their idea of a fun weekend is driving far away to eat somewhere new and talk about those same people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/21 08:29 PM
2	CMV: Cat ladies and older male bachelors are often not who people think It has been my experience that most Wives and party girls are the same person. A plethora of the married women at church that went to college, were not virgins when they married and many of them have a hidden past. I can think of more than a handful that I saw at parties doing drugs and going to back rooms with men that now post generic church memes on social media. I always wonder how much their husbands know about their past. On holidays they post paid for professional photos, me full well kno…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/21 05:30 AM
1	Is Hitting The Wall at 30 a American Phenomena? It is a needless product like any other and some people like the heat against their skin when going to tanning booths. I think they could probably get the same effect by just blowing hot air down the chamber, but it is what it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/21 07:57 PM
1	Is Hitting The Wall at 30 a American Phenomena? Well, not all americans. That is personally my favorite look for adults, male or female.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/21 07:54 PM
1	Study: Having an attractive partner makes no difference in a woman’s reported relationship satisfaction Here is a million dollar question, "Does female satisfaction in a relationship impact the length of the relationship equally for attractive and unattractive partners?" Does their satisfaction really matter? I'm not asking if they should suffer, or if you personally think they should suffer. I think we all know women that stay in relationships well past the point of being unhappy. You see it play out in divorces all the time. The woman has been unhappy for years and she doesn't consider leaving u…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/21 08:26 PM
2	Study: Having an attractive partner makes no difference in a woman’s reported relationship satisfaction I agree with this. And I think most men would too if they really thought about their experiences with other men. I was talking about this a few days ago with a friend. About how men can usually tell in a seconds or minutes if a man loves a woman. It very well could take the woman months or years to figure it out, but other men know, and they know it fast. And yet the men we observe not loving their SO, will just stay in the relationship forever. They'll cheat with new people they have fallen in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/21 08:01 PM
1	How do you deal with fake ignorance shit tests? It has probably happened and you didn't realize it. I see a calmer form of it at work a lot. Like it happens in meetings all the time. You'll get some guy asking really dumb questions just to dominate the room. or look smart. It can really backfire though. Half of the people directly under you will think you're dumb if you keep ask a lot of questions about things the entire group knows. But you'll look smart to people outside your department.	/r/askTRP	30/03/21 09:33 PM
1	How do you deal with fake ignorance shit tests? This reminds me of two guys I know that really are not worth arguing with on anything. If you ever get one over on them, they pull this move. They just say something wacky and fly away or leave the conversation for a mew minutes. Its like trying to nail slime to a wall. The amazing thing is it really works with a lot of people. Everyone is just ok with it. It is pretty good advice. And sometimes I use it socially. But I'm not sure how to do it at work.	/r/askTRP	30/03/21 09:31 PM