BasilGreenEyes Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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74	I was told by a female colleague that at first sight I’m totally unapproachable Having a b*tch rest face it's marvelous if you are aware of it and you are a bit conscious of your body. If you are comfortable with the people around you or with any man your smiles would be extremely powerful and would change easily how people see you. That coupled with the resting face, can have everyone on their toes, trying to not displease you. Embrace it and use it to your advantage.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/03/22 12:58 PM
120	“Men are simple creatures” They are able, but have fooled the whole world into thinking that anger is not an emotion, and women are the "emotional" ones.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/03/22 11:35 AM
23	on beauty standards and wanting to opt out, way way out About the toxic positivity, my understanding is that putting emphasis on "everybody is beautiful" is the patriarchal way of changing the narrative, that was originally "everybody is worthy". We all know that there is a beauty standard that is ingrained in what it means being human, but recently is when not being in that canon, specially for women, has been truly oppressing. We know bullying has existed since the dawn of time, but it is now when people are ending their lives because of it. This i…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/02/22 05:12 PM
144	Men will literally p1ss anywhere in public and are less demonised than women breastfeeding in public. There was a case that went to court recently in my country that years ago, some men (they don't know who exactly), put in some public streets cameras just before some big days of party. The cameras recorded women peeing in public (and almost certainly more men doing the same) and those videos were uploaded on porn sites without having the face blurred or anything. The women depicted were fighting the porn sites to have the videos removed, but most of the sites told them that without a court mand…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/02/22 12:16 AM
350	PIED confirmed “Pornography can have positive effects on a person’s sexual development and self-acceptance, but in some it can become problematic,” he explained. “But telling everybody that they should stop watching porn because it causes ED is totally wrong. Only a minority will experience some negative effects. Pornography is the most used masturbation aid, and masturbation has a positive effect on wellbeing.” Right, smoking produces really good relaxation and fun and not all would develop lung cancer, so sa…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/01/22 05:07 PM
68	What are the most ridiculous pick-me opinions you had before reaching the age of reason? I was never a hard pick-me but I find myself still having sexists intrusive thoughts now and then. Like for example, less than a month ago a 16 year old girl was brutally beaten and r*ped while she was going to the tube, walking through a industrial zone. One of the first things that passed through my mind was: doesn't she know that it's dangerous to walk alone in those parts of the city? And while it's still true, a woman should avoid to walk alone in those areas, I was unconsciously dumping pa…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/11/21 10:53 PM
71	Futurama: A Cautionary Tale About an LVM From what I remember that episode is a huge nod to the sitcom married with children. Even the same voice actors made the chapter. And Alcazar is Al, like in the original series. And the hairdo of LeeLa is the same the wife used to wears. But yes, in the end is a tale of how a LVM can lie and get a woman, but keeping her is another story.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/07/21 04:37 PM
2	Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark. But she signed the contract that specifically said that she had 3 days to have a true love first kiss ( from Eric) or she will belong to Ursula. So no, Eric is not a side quest. It's the main reason she did it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/05/21 05:37 PM
8	Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark. It's an interesting approach, but I still don't think "the haters are wrong". Yes, all her impulsiveness and proactive actions makes her a more believable character. Of course. She is one of the first princesses with a defined personality and most of the things she does are logical in her frame of mind. But I think we are not discussing here the flaws of her character or personality. She is a good construction, but ultimately teaches women the absolute worst things. Pretty>ability to speak. Anot…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/05/21 03:49 PM
3	Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark. Yeah, I thought the same thing. Another thing is that I am older than the Disney film xD, but hey...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/05/21 03:32 PM
2	Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark. Oh, I've read the synopsis of the book and it's quite interesting. Although I don't concur with the analysis of Bluebeard, it's based on a true story ( more or less). The man who was the companion of Joan of Arc, when she was dead, spent his life seducing women and killing them for their money. So yes, a real cautionary tale.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/05/21 03:30 PM
9	Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark. Yeah, I understand what you said. And I agree in some aspects. For example the boy who cried wolf, it's a valid story with a valid teaching. Little red riding hood, teaches you to be vigilant specially between men, valid story. The fisherman and his wife, the value of humility, valid story. But my point is that stories specially catered to women are often a bit shitt* in their teachings. Like I wrote before all those are be a good wife, your most valuable asset is being pretty and submissive and…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 11:45 PM
28	Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark. Yes, but that doesn't mean that I am on board with those teachings. I mean I totally understand them in those times, but , normally for women, the message is cr*p. Rapunzel: forget your youth and when you get pregnant you will lose all and will have to stick with your husband through horrible times. Beauty and the Beast: hey, your husband is ugly ( literally a beast, because he doesn't change back) and you were forced to marry him but at least he doesn't hit you. It could be worse. Sleeping beau…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 10:45 PM
13	Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark. That's because fairytales are not for children. At least they weren't until the XVIII / XIX century or so.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 10:20 PM
32	Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark. I think the pied Piper was from the Grimm Brothers, but yes, nearly all of old stories are not " happy". Like Andersen's the red shoes, and the little match girl, and the tin soldier, and one with an ill boy an a pot of flowers...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 09:38 PM
91	Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark. And yes, Disney lies all the time. Research Rapunzel or sleeping beauty, for example.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 09:09 PM
335	Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark. Well, the little mermaid is a story written by Hans Christian Andersen. And it's about the absolute pickmeisha. Just so you know the mermaid is in love with the prince without speaking with him and changes her voice (!!!) for legs so she can have a chance to win his heart. Every single step she took was like walking through knives, but she smiled and bore it for him. And then he picks someone else. And instead of taking the chance to become a mermaid again by killing him in his wedding night. Sh…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 09:07 PM
12	Female friendships and misogynistic propaganda (Part 2) But, from my understanding, I think there is a dissonance in definitions. A part of the sub is understanding gossiping as talking ( maliciously) about a romantic partner or acquaintance. But I think the OP is more leaning towards the definition of talking about people in general. Their relationship, their family, friends, works, hobbies, etc. But not necessarily maliciously. You can talk with your friends about some acquaintance, their goals, their problems, their success, etc and it's not a bad…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 06:23 PM
3	Gaming = Violence? About the addiction to games, other members have expressed their experience better than I would. If you have an alloted time and don't abuse and affect your "real life" I don't think there is a problem. Regarding the question of the violence derived or not from the games, I firmly believe that if you are a balanced person it doesn't matter. I tend to compare to horror films, for example. I love them, and I love serial killer films or TV series. Does that mean that I am going to start killing peo…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/04/21 09:50 PM
11	Female Strength: How Women Have Been Lied To About Their Capabilities. Buy an alarm keychain. They are super cheap and, when you pull the handle, it sounds pretty loud. You can carry them in your purse or hand. I read a study that was based on answers from rapists and muggers and the all said that if the victim shouted loud enough or there was a sound like a car alarm they ran away. Sooooo carry your own alarm.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/04/21 12:57 AM
25	Female Strength: How Women Have Been Lied To About Their Capabilities. Just remember when they tried to ban hatpins because women used them to protect themselves from abusers and predators in public transport. The hat pin peril is one of my favourite things	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/04/21 12:53 AM
10	Female Strength: How Women Have Been Lied To About Their Capabilities. Although I agree with you that men in general are stronger than women ( firstly because they are bigger normally), I posted a study in another comment about how women in a training equal to men see more results than men ( comparatively speaking) in strength and endurance ( not in bursts of energy). The room for improvement in a woman is greater than in a man ( maybe because they have their base line already "naturally" trained (encouragement in sports and athletic lifestyle)). Men will be strong…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/04/21 12:48 AM
14	Female Strength: How Women Have Been Lied To About Their Capabilities. This wasn't the study I saw back in the day, but it has almost the same conclusions: women gain strength and endurance faster than men. Difference between men and women in strength training	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/04/21 12:06 AM
11	Pickme narcissistic mother and LVM brother fatshames me T.W. eating disorder. My experience of recovering. There is a recent post talking about strong women. Please read it. Men (and society) fear strong women because they don't need them. Please keep getting stronger and pursuing the best life you can.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/04/21 11:51 PM
19	Female Strength: How Women Have Been Lied To About Their Capabilities. A long time ago I read an article about this topic. I can't locate it or produce right now, but at the time it struck me as true. It said that in a similar extreme situation of training, like military training or sports, women grew their strength exponentially more compared to men. I'm going to explain it the best I can: if a woman before training could lift 100, after the training, she could lift 200, but if a man started at 100 at the end of the training, he could lift 140. It's not that women…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/04/21 11:44 PM
23	If it Hasn't Sunk In Yet, Men and Women Cannot Be Friends I have proven that in my life. I had a group of friends ( mostly males) and every single one of them that I considered "friends" wanted to date me. ( And I am talking about 5 or 6 of them). And a brother of one of my female friends wanted too. I now don't speak to any one of them. So much for their friendship. On the other hand I still have girlfriends from high school. And that is a loooong time ago. A lot more than half my life. And going strong. Don't waste your time and commitment with men. …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/04/21 11:04 PM
24	Male anger & female self-preservation We said that before, and we will say it until you do it: Leave him!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/04/21 04:14 PM
4	Young girls are brainwashed into thinking age gap relationships are “hot” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/21 12:31 AM
76	If having standards is brutal and ruthless then I only wish I was more brutal and ruthless You have made One of the bravest choices I have ever seen. Hugs from a complete stranger and all my hopes of happiness for your future. Be strong.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/21 12:23 AM
19	The false equivalency of pornography for men and romantic comedies for women You are not being judged, we are jealous honestly. And inspired. I know what I am going to do this Sunday...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/04/21 08:53 AM
4	BEAUTY - Do you think it is worth it for women to pursue it? My personal experience is if it makes you happy, go for it. I love makeup I put makeup almost every day. I like playing with the colours in my eyes and mouth (I think one of the most trivial things that I miss is painting my lips a different colour every day). And I don't do it for any men. Not even my bf. He can't tell apart old gold, copper or dark olive FFS. To say more I always look for makeup in my friends and compliment them if they are killing it. But I don't really care about my clothes.…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/04/21 11:14 PM
32	Weekly FDS Chat / Check-in The only thing that I would have stressed out is that girls don't want bad boys or nice guy ™. Girls and women want to be respected and appreciated. If he doesn't respect the girl he likes he shouldn't be even try it. I think that bringing the focus of his dehumanisation of women is his problems. But good luck to you. You will be facing a lot of negative influence surrounding him everyday. PS. I think the great antiporn feminist Gail Dines has a web with content for teachers, parents and childre…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/04/21 04:12 PM
16	Mother of X, Daughter of Y, Girlfriend of Z But cougar implies that the woman is actively looking for a younger man to have sex with. A silver fox does not have that implication. He is just an attractive older man. Both definition for women imply sex, one as a "receiver of that sex" and the other as a "hunter", but not as an individual without ties to another male.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/04/21 01:58 PM
63	Mother of X, Daughter of Y, Girlfriend of Z I've always thought that even the name society uses to designate older men and women is extremely sexist and is applicable to this reflection. If an older men is considered sexually desirable it is said that he is a silver fox, but for a woman they say that she is a MILF. A Mother ( because she turns herself into a mother in relation to her children) that I (the man objectifying the lady) would Like ( his desires) to F***. Every part of that statement dehumanises the woman. She is only the produ…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/04/21 01:03 AM
27	Hypocrisy of men: Women are not allowed to kink-shame, but they are allowed to boundary shame women?! And you are 25 and he 36... Please for your children... LEAVE HIM	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/04/21 10:21 PM
1	Never let a man deny you privacy or determine what is best for your mental health. From all your posts: leave him, please leave him. He is a liar, rapist and abusive man. You need someone who respects you. Leave him. He's still even married to another woman. LEAVE HIM!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/04/21 10:19 PM
42	Hypocrisy of men: Women are not allowed to kink-shame, but they are allowed to boundary shame women?! Of what I can gather from previous posts you: 1. Are disrespected and dismissed in your ADHD. He has robbed you of a safe space and is harrasing you and dismissing your condition saying is only laziness. 2. He is still married to another woman and has not followed his own "divorce". 4. He did make you believe that you were in a common law marriage when he knew it wasn't true. 3. You have 2 children with him and I bet he doesn't help or take care of them. 4. He apparently rapes you frecuentjy and…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/04/21 10:14 PM
14	VOX recruiting on reddit for more libfem bullshit. Tell us how you split the bill 🤡🤡🤡 Also bonus for age gaps, poly, and throuples! 🤡🤡🤡 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/04/21 10:03 PM
23	What is the best tool for protection? And more importantly (and totally legal) there are some keychains with a loud alarm that starts screeching when you pull a loop. They are pretty inexpensive 2/5€ and you can have them in a bunch of colours. I recommend putting them in the bag or bagpack you are wearing, in the zipper. In interviews with rapists and muggers they say that if the victim screams or fights hard they normally leave for fear of being caught. I really think that a loud alarm will put out the ardors of the casual rapist.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/03/21 09:42 PM
141	What a disgusting way to think! 😣 (Opinion on women cutting their hair short) And not only the women who leave abusive relationships. For me at least, and a lot of media reflects that as well, cutting your hair automatically changes your mood, your appearance and your confidence. It feels like the first step of a new life or a chapter in your life. You are a different woman, one that he hasn't touched or treated bad. It's an affirmation of your freedom and your own control of your body. And men don't like that. It's all well when you change for them, but not for yourself.…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/03/21 11:17 PM
19	My mom called me picky and said I should be more "realistic" The vibes I am getting from your mother is that if she were your age she would have been a true HVW. But being born in a time when she didn't feel she had a choice maybe is making her resentful. Like when you think of your younger self that didn't want to wear more revealing clothes because you thought you were fat. She is projecting her situation in you because if you present her with another option, the one that a woman needs no man to live her fullest life, she might need she has chosen wrong…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/03/21 12:03 AM
20	My ex cheated; tried warning the girl but realized she’s a pickme Think that, when she leaves him, she will remember your act of kindness and it could be the first step in her way out of the pickmeisha attitude. She will remember that a woman tried to take care of her even when all she has heard is that only the approval of men matter, and maybe next time she will be the helping hand to another woman. This time it did not work, but with your actions you have planted a seed that may become a beautiful flower.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/21 11:52 PM
2	Emma: "Men don't like girls who argue!" Totally correct, but in this special case the novel in which is based this series was written by an English woman in the beginning of the 19th century. If you weren't married you were a girl, or, if you were +30, an old maid. Of course that kind of talk nowadays is patronising and disgusting and still very much prevalent in this misogynistic society.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/21 08:26 PM
2	Emma: "Men don't like girls who argue!" I think the most important thing is what the OP posted in the title. Men (LVM) don't like girls who argue (the use of the word girls is because if you weren't married in the begging of the 19 th century you were a "girl" or an old maid). In this case (and the whole novel) is that Mr Knightly does argue with Emma all the time and loves her for it. Like he implied in the segment is that he does like intelligent argumentative women. And that is the prevalent sign of a HVM, like wanting compliant an…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/21 08:18 PM
1	Emma: "Men don't like girls who argue!" I don't understand it like that. I. The scene Mr Knightly is telling Emma (a rich, privileged young woman) that she is wrong with her opinion and the manipulation she has made of her friend. And he is right. He is angry first because what she did could meant that her friend would end up in a bad marriage or destitute ( she is poor, with no family nor education) and in those times a woman had limited means to support herself. Second because he knows the farmer loves Harriet and she loves him in r…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/21 06:09 PM