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Is what it is. Bullshit. It is what you make it. I travel a bit with work. It can be unpredictable. Thankfully I have this awesome device in my pocket that I use to find out about stuff going on in the town I happen to be in that is of interest to me. I also use it to summon a car and driver to take me there. You should get one. Example: I shoot. When I travel for work, strangely enough I do not take my rifle. But if there's a comp on at a range nearby, I've found that calling the RO in the week…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 01:29 AM
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So essentially, your business is job that underpays you for your efforts. Correct. This is hugely helpful. I need to get serious about #2. I've already started this month by removing all the inherent discounts I've been giving people on my work. Mental blockers I've uncovered: Who are you that you think you can charge that for that job? That was an easy task - don't charge for that (focus on the value to the client of the task, which was large) I'm still building the business and building reputa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 01:14 AM
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I have experience in a similar organisation with similar policies. My line manager agreed with me that I was being underpaid by $20-30k, but "HR won't review your salary unless you have a competing offer". I am no longer with that organisation. To summarise your position from above: You were hired 3 yrs ago with the promise of a level increase after a year of proving yourself. When the time came, you were told that you cannot have that which was previously promised. You were also told that they …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/22 02:11 AM
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re: partner - this is 100% aligned to my current thinking, so good to have someone independent confirm that approach is valid. re: mindset - this is the opportunity, isn't it? I like how you've worded it - given my mindset, this is the best approach. But is the better solution to change my mindset? We both know the answer to that. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/22 11:55 PM
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Great idea SorcererKing. I'm struggling with growing my business. Background: 5 years ago I left the corporate world to set up my own consulting business specialising in a niche area. Today we've got a number of good relationships and we do good, interesting work for clients that we get on well with. It pays me a wage, and I am my own boss. Goals: I want to grow the business so that it's not just "a job for me", but a going concern. I want to transition out of the "do it all" role and into the "…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 06:17 AM
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I'll add to what Horns has said. Do that, but also don't forget to Reset Every Day. There's a reason why it's #1 on Johney's list. This is something that I struggled with for a long time. Years. Then one day I decided to: 1) reset every day, and ACTUALLY stop keeping score (not just say I wasn't) 2) actually lead the relationship. That's why people will ask you "do you like your wife?". If you do, then reset your ass and be a fun, interesting person who wants his wife to join him on his adventur…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 01:46 AM
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What the fuck indeed. I'm no expert, but maybe you need to add some more dread while you're busy calculating how many kids she can pop out - bitches love that. I'm guessing this is another threekinds special, but I just can't resist.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 01:29 AM
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Not at all - I'd say you're completely right there. Tragedy has a way of cutting through all the bullshit (especially our own) and letting us see clearly. I didn't know your son, and I don't pretend to. But the way you speak about him leaves me in no doubt that you loved him very much, and that he was a very special person. In the examples you've given, my response would be "fuck 'em all", for the exact reasons that you've listed. If this is how these people have treated you, then they've made c…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 01:18 AM
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I'm sorry for your loss. As others have said, you're neck-deep in grief right now - of course you have no direction. Give yourself the time and space you need. Don't pressure yourself - don't pretend that "you should be over it by now" or some other bullshit. Grief takes us all on a different path - you will walk your path and it will take you where it takes you. I lost my son many years ago. I was completely useless for months. Even when I started to heal, I hated myself for starting to heal - …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 02:22 AM
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My main problem (as I see it) is that I'm not consistent with the lifting. I get busy with work, for instance, and I prioritise it over lifting. The busy periods come in spurts, so it can take me a while to get back into the lifting schedule. So then I need to deload, and the cycle repeats. Lack of discipline 100% - I'll own that. The diet is similar. I'll freely admit that I'm scared I'll get fat if I eat a lot. So I don't, which means I can't build muscle, which means I'm still at a 80lbs benc…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/20 04:34 AM
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OYS #17 Age: 41; married 15 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight: 95kg ; SQ: 60kg; OH 30kg; DL 85kg; BP 37.5kg; BR 37.5kg Shit to own: Lifting. Was going well through September, but then work took over and I dropped off my SL5x5 schedule. Took a vacation for the last 2 weeks and didn't do any strength work (lots of swimming/walking/etc though, so not a total loss). Still, I'm now 3 weeks since I picked up the barbell. Still have my goal of squatting 80kg and DL 120 before the EOY, so I've got to get my bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/20 07:07 AM
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OYS #16 Age: 41; married 15 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight: 95kg ; SQ: 60kg; OH 30kg; DL 85kg; BP 37.5kg; BR 37.5kg Shit to own: Lifting. I missed yesterday's workout this week. No good excuse. Will lift tonight and Saturday to get back on schedule. Grumpy bastard. I'm flat out with work, and it was my birthday. I was already shitty because instead of having the day off like I'd planned I was flat out all day (poor planning on my part, and not enforcing boundaries). Worked through till 6pm, then the…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/20 06:01 AM
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OYS #15 Age: 40; married 15 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight: 95kg ; SQ: 55kg; OH 22.5kg; DL 80kg; BP 35kg; BR 35kg ​ Took a break from MRP for a while as I was using it as a crutch instead of doing. Have some shit to own, but since I've been charting my own course things have been improving. Shit to own: I stopped lifting a couple of months back. Just no motivation plus busy at work. I wish I could say it was something/anything else, but the truth is I got lazy. Had a 2 month break all told. Have got…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/20 02:09 AM
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Fuckin' A man. There's nothing wrong with celebrating our wins. Sometimes the wins are little, but sometimes you get big ones like this. Congrats man - enjoy the exhaling. I'll raise a glass to you tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/20 01:44 AM
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Wanted to reply here to follow up, because you gave really good direction. I appreciate the time you have taken, and wanted to demonstrate that it didn't just disappear into thin air. re: lifts - the "why can't I squat more" search hit me square between the eyeballs. First returned result starts with "if you have APT, then you won't be engaging your abs and glutes in the squat". This is me to a T. I have bad APT from years of bad posture. My plan WAS "lift, and you'll strengthen the weak abs and…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 05:38 AM
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Your lifts are garbage and I've seen nothing but excuses for the past several months for them. 6 months ago you were lifting 90 pounds in squat and you're only up to 140ish? Noob gains alone should be pushing you close to or into the 200lbs. I agree. I hit the 70kg squat this morning, but it took everything I had to get through the 5x5. I realise I should be lifting a lot more than that by now but I'm not. I have been making excuses about it. ​ is it because you are failing the rep, as in you're…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/20 08:02 AM
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18% by the Aria scales. They seemed to line up pretty well to the caliper measurements when I was using the calipers (Jackson Pollock 7 site), so I've just been using the Aria scales since. I see a lot of people using the navy method - is that more or less accurate than calipers? IE, should I be using that as a better yardstick?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/20 07:47 AM
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Age: 40; married 15 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight: 95kg ; BF 18% (pull-a-number-out-my-ass method) SQ: 67.5; OH 30; DL 95; BP 42.5; BR 42.5 The bad: Training is now shut down, so no more of that. But that's OK - I can train at home, and a Kali fellow has been releasing a bunch of his videos on youtube for free. My plan is to do one or two sessions a week to keep my eye in. No BJJ though, of course. Work is looking bleak for the next 3 months. I spent the majority of last year pivoting my business t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 06:58 AM
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Age: 40; married 15 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight: 95kg ; SQ: 62.5; OH 25; DL 90; BP 40; BR 40 ​ The bad: Missed martial art's training last night due to a massively busy day (both social and work). Just wanted to sit home and spend time relaxing with the family. Should have gone. Adjacent to the above, I've felt shame at missing training because I was up early for a social activity. I feel like I had a commitment to training, and I skived off to spent time with my friends instead. Obviously I need…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 04:05 AM
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Horns, Thank you for writing this. It has come at a good time for me. ​ The question is, do you believe you are that man who is his own mental point of origin? Before reading this (multiple times), I'd have said "Most of the time, I believe I am". I can see now that I'm *STILL* stuck on validation. And I haven't broken my old self down anywhere near as much as I need to. ​ ... The tests become harder and you start to question your own progress**. “Doesn’t she think I’m an attractive man?** Can’t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/20 01:50 AM
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Age: 40; married 14 years; 1 kid The bad: Still no lifting. As with last time, waiting for the wound from the excision to heal properly. On the upside, the antibiotics did their job and it's progressing well again. Doesn't even look like it's be too bad a scar. Maybe another week, then I'll be able to get back into it. Really missing the lifting now. Got choked a lot last night at jits by one of the young guys. That's fine - that was what we were working on. But this kid goes 100mph at everythin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 01:25 AM
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OYS Time. ​ The Bad: Still no lifting. The skin cancer saga is continuing, so I've pulled back from lifting and martial arts till I can get it properly sorted. I'm just making it worse if I try. Long story short, it's now infected with staph. The antibiotics are working, so I've just got to pause everything else for another week or two and then I can get back into it properly. And find a new doctor. Bottled a shit test last night. Was being a faggot scrolling on my phone while wife was reading d…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/20 12:17 AM
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I mean, this is just good double-entry bookkeeping practice, really. Every time you put a debit in the Alpha category, you make sure you balance the ledger with a credit in the Beta column. Doesn't everyone do this? Isn't the whole point to be able to wheel out the scoreboard at a moment's notice?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 02:03 AM
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Straight into it today. The bad: Lifting: Still no more lifting. The skin cancer thing has turned into a saga, and I'm using this as an excuse to delay the lifting. Not completely unjustified - with my skin I've got to be REALLY careful with stitches. But it's still frustrating because I should be back into it by now. Also, I'm sure I could be doing some other exercise, which I'm not. Health: The skin cancer thing has turned into a saga. They didn't get it all the first time, so I had to go back…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 05:19 AM
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Gotcha. Agree 100%.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:22 AM
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Can you elaborate on this a bit please? I was using the phrase in the context of something like a MAP. Have I got the concept backwards here?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 03:56 AM
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It was a hell of a shock, I'll tell you that. You can intellectualise all you like. I had a RP plan. Everybody has a plan till they get hit.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 12:34 PM
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Overdue OYS. Have been avoiding it, because there's so much shit to own. Dumped it in last week's thread last night, but have moved it in here now. ​ The bad: Last OYS was late Nov. I mentioned that I was going really well with my lifting, and hitting PBs. Shortly after that, I simply just stopped. Haven't lifted since. I could give a bunch of excuses, but they don't mean shit. I was going to post here last week, but was embarrassed about the situation. I told myself "get back into it this week …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 12:48 AM
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"Life isn't something you just 'get through'." Perfectly timed reminder. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 12:28 AM
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Fuck, that's the understatement of the decade. And it's only just started.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:00 AM
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Someone called this about 3 months ago and staked $20 on it from memory. I thought it long odds at the time. Silly me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 04:59 AM
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Good suggestions all. Time to re-read SGM by the sounds of it. I didn't take much away from it the first time through, so I'll be interested to see how I interpret it now that I'm further along this journey. Good to know that you were in my shoes and have had a good turnaround - gives me good hope in the process. re: the stopping sex now - do you feel it's due to a shift to abundance? IE, when sex was infrequent, you needed to cum because you might not get another shot for however long (I find m…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/19 01:47 AM
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Age: 40; married 15 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight: 91kg ; SQ: 65; OH 35; DL 90; BP 45; BR 45 Health & Fitness Feeling good again after a rough few weeks Persistent back pain and headaches this month after regular massage went a bit too hard. I need to get better at resolving these (admittedly, once a year maybe) times quicker so I can get back to 100% capacity sooner. Lifting has been spotty this month for the above reason, plus a bit of work travel. That said, I'm now in PB territory each day for …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 12:37 AM
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Agreed. I carry my scars - they remind me of what I've done, of my failings, of where I've come from, and that I have been tested worse than this yet still I prevail. I do not need hope or faith, for I have evidence. What Temp_Shelter is getting at is right to a degree - you do not let your past control your future. But it does inform your future, and you ignore that at your peril. In the immortal words of Rafiki "Oh yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or lea…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 11:08 PM
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Great report as always. I take a lot from how you approach life. "Some things can never be replaced or repaired." This is something that is lost on the modern world. We're sold a fairytale from when we're young that everything/anything can be fixed. That the boy has one last shot to kiss the princess and make it all right. That you'll come out on top eventually. But life's not like that. There are some things that we do in this life that cannot be undone. And it's good to remember that. Strength…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 11:02 PM
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Me too. I had assumed that you'd been around here for a lot longer than that. Good work on the focus you bring. I enjoy reading your stuff HoA.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 10:57 PM
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Aside - I know a bloke who's sperm count went way up after he got snipped. Turned out he had two tubes from one testicle - they cut and tied one, and in doing so fixed the problem that he'd been unknowingly dealing with his whole life. They only figured it out months later when post-op tests were giving the "Wrong" numbers. I'm with hack3ge - I'm going to enjoy watching this unfold.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 10:54 PM
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I'll own that one. No idea how I ended up with 11 lbs. It's a 10kg bar. I work in kg but get the conversions wrong every now and then, despite using google. I'll stay in kg from now on - at least I'll be consistent.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 05:31 AM
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Thanks for the link. Makes sense. Personally, I'm always suss on "calculated" values. I'm sure it has it's place, but I think I'll just stick to what I know I can lift for what reps.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 05:27 AM
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Squatted 45# a side today. That's with a 11# bar though, so I've still got another 11 to go before I get to 132, which is what I assume your challenge was. I'll get there. I've been there before.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/19 01:21 AM
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Maybe I should get a cholera diagnosis. It'd make a lot of sense. I dunno man - I eat pretty well, not really any junk food or crap, but simply probably not enough. I've got protein powder that I have every day with milk for the extra calories. Just picked up some creatine to see if that helps. I've avoided it for years because, like you say, my lifts are not anywhere near where I should need it. But who knows? It was worth the $30 as an experiment. This and eating more are my two focus areas fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/19 01:20 AM
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Yup. 81 pounds this morning on the bench for 5x5. My max bench so far as been 100 pound, so I'm working back up to that. 80 lbs right now is OK - I can do the 5 sets fine. At 100 I was working. I work in kg, with a 10kg (standard, not olympic) bar. 50kg/110lbs is my short term bench goal - that's a 20kg/45lbs wheel each side.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/19 01:10 AM
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Good advice - I've become convinced that I must not be eating enough and that's half my trouble here. By next week I'll have a plan for you to address the diet. I would guarantee there's form issues as well. I'm working on identifying them myself and fixing as I notice. But there's certainly been no professional coaching here. Just the SL5x5 app and a home gym. Lifts are pathetic, but thanks for being diplomatic about it. I've never lifted previously, and I weight the most I ever have. But it's …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 05:55 AM
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You are correct. While the lifts may be terrible, you'd better believe they're a damn site better than they were this time last year. My current goals are to dead 260lbs and squat 170lbs. From there, we'll reset and go again.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 05:49 AM
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Fucking bastard has tight anal sphincter syndrome? Goddamn. Better than loose anal sphincter syndrome, by my reckoning. You've reminded me before that your boy out-lifts me. Dude must be built. Meanwhile, I'll continue to lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 05:46 AM
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I was at 45# a side before. I will get there again within a week. Or I'll die.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 05:44 AM
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Age: 40; married 14 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight:200 lbs; SQ: 100; OH 60; DL 150; BP 77; BR 70 Health & Fitness Feeling good. Missed two days of lifting due to a long weekend out of town, which has slowed progress somewhat. That said, moving in the right direction again and back in the groove. Head feels clear. Have been stretching my hips daily to fix my APT and to get deeper into squats before I round my back. Have added in basic bodyweight glute exercises to help with the APT as well. Reading: …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 06:14 AM
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Its not her bro. Its you. I know this. What I don't know is what I need to do myself, for myself, that will eventually help her come around. I don't know if Dread is the answer here, but I may also be kidding myself. Clarification - I don't know if "active dread" is the answer here, but I see that's not what you said. I'm still not convinced - any success I have in looking better/dressing better/ etc seems to demotivate her more. My concern is that the 10,000ft rope, instead of eventually pullin…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 11:23 PM
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Gold, as always. Too focused on AA to remember there's actually other responses. Tried it out - worked pretty well. Got her on the back foot, with her defending how she doesn't mean that, yadda yadda yadda. Could see the cogs were still spinning a couple of days later. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 11:16 PM
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Age: 40; married 14 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight:200 lbs; SQ: 95; OH 55; DL 130; BP 77; BR 70 Health & Fitness: Deloaded and got my ass back in the squat rack. Numbers are down, and my legs have been killing me, but man it feels good to be back. Have cut back on the beer this past week. I've been running low on sleep time, but sleep quality has been fantastic. The malaise that's had a hold of me for the last month is lifting/has lifted - I'm feeling good again. Reading: No reading currently. Socia…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 12:49 AM
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Age: 40; married 14 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight:200 lbs; SQ: 130; OH 75; DL 170; BP 110; BR 95 Health & Fitness: Haven't lifted for the past 2 weeks. That makes it a month since I last touch the iron. Not proud of that one, but it's taken a back seat this month. Will commit to 3 times a week this coming week, to get the habit started again. General health has been sub-optimal, and mental health hasn't been great. There's been a viral flu thing going around which I've had - lack of energy and no m…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/19 04:26 AM
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Solid gold. Great analogy. Can't wait for the other post you're working on.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 04:25 AM
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The answer is simplier than you think. Knowing what you want forever until the end of time is impossible. Life does not work that way. What do you want NOW? ​ "What career path do I want to select now and pursue for the rest of my days, that will be just as fulfilling and embody me with joy every day when I'm 80?" vs "What career interests me now, plays to my strengths, gets me into a spot where I think I want to be, and lets me keep learning and stepping up? One that moves me into a better spot…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 04:22 AM
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Age: 40; married 14 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight:200 lbs; SQ: 130; OH 75; DL 170; BP 110; BR 95 Health & Fitness: Have slacked of with the lifting. Usual story - I was going well, but then had to work away for a few days. A day after we returned, we had friends staying with us and I got lazy. Numbers have been heading in the right direction, and every day was a PR on every lift. I'm going to have to deload now and pay the price for being a lazy bastard. Reading: I've finished WISNIFG, but I suspec…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 03:14 AM
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Will do. I suspect I'm rounding my back too much at the bottom, so I'm going to start working on hip flexibility to hopefully improve that. In the meantime, I'll get someone to check me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 02:17 AM
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Age: 39; married 14 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; Weight:195 lbs; SQ: 115; OH 65; DL 150; BP 95; BR 95 Health & Fitness: SL5x5 3 times a week. Weight is increasing, and I'm now lifting PB's in everything except bench press. Squat has become HARD. Under 110lbs, I was working, but it was OK. 1:30 rests between sets, could complete with decent form, etc. As soon as I hit 110, it because REAL difficult. 115 today, and I struggled. 3:00 rest between sets, form wasn't great, it felt HEAVY. Completed the 5x5 tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/19 01:15 AM
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Age: 39; married 14 years; 1 kid; 6’6”; 165 lbs; SQ: 95; OH 55; DL 130; BP 80; BR 70; Currently reading: WISNIFG Health & Fitness: Have continued with the SL5x5 3 times a week. Lifts are improving, and I'm steadily improving my form on all which is letting me continue to build. Massage therapist is happy with how my posture is improving and flexability increases. Reading: Continuing with WISNIFG. Loving it. Have skipped a couple of my allocated reading nights - will lock these in for the coming …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 05:14 AM
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I don't really like you either from your post. That's probably good, otherwise I'd be tempted to invite you along instead. ​ You set up a covert contract and then were butthurt she didn't want to spend time with you. I'd be pissed off if someone just assumed they could spend my time as well. No covert contracts. I hadn't sprung a completely-planned, booked and ready-to-go trip. This was overt from the get-go. It all started with a "Hey - this is what I'm doing - I think it'd be nice for you to c…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/19 12:14 AM
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My feeling is that this is spot on for my situation as well. I think it was just a lack of trust issue, coupled with her pre-existing anxiety. I misread how disruptive this would potentially be to her, and her brain kinda broke. Also, the "let's see what he's got" part was definitely in there. It was timely - I'd actually read this a couple of days before: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/cdca0q/power_phrases_and_brevity/ Things started calming down after I got out of my own fuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/19 12:01 AM
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I get where you're coming from. And I respect that you've been through this, which is useful. I will take whatever free information and indicators I can get - even if they're not good news. However I'm not completely sure my situation came from the same place. Initially that's what I thought too - the thought of spending a weekend with just the two of us was so ridiculous to her that she couldn't comprehend going. I know, AWALT, but I know my wife and this wasn't a typical response. I think she …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/19 11:55 PM
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+1 to u\Art_Martin and \u\Rogue68486 . Think about this before dismissing it. It's a subtle but important distinction. I too am prone to looking at what people are doing 10 miles down the road and trying to apply it myself, when in reality their context is different to mine. Work on yourself. Fix yourself. You recognise that you're broken and you've been lied to - that's good. Your priority is to sort that out. ONCE you have done that, you will be in a place where you can put her needs first. Bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 01:35 AM
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Good feedback - thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 01:20 AM
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​ Age Height Weight BF 39 6'6 195 lbs ~17% Married 15 yrs, 1 kid ​ Bench Dead Squat OHP Barbell row 70 lbs 120 lbs 75 lbs 50 lbs 65 lbs ​ Health & Fitness: Lifting on a regular 3x a week schedule since last OYS, after rightly being called out for avoiding doing the work. Have deloaded on a bunch of lifts to focus on form. Didn't realise how much my hip flexability (or lack thereof) was rounding my back in squats until I videoed myself. Have started on hip flexibility exercises, and focusing heav…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 07:28 AM
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Great. Now I've watched that. 5 minutes of my life I'll never get back. Thanks a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 05:21 AM
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Glad I missed it all then.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 05:19 AM
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Why is this? Did I miss something about the 21 Convention? Thanks to \u\weakandsensitive for updating the wiki. It's a great resource.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/19 03:51 AM
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Bad phrasing on my part, but you understand what I mean. Using a perceived authority figure to provide an independent third-party perspective that reinforces what I had been saying as a way to demonstrate accuracy. . Agree that it's not a long term thing, but since one of the big challenges at the moment is "that's just your opinion", I figured this was a good way to start countering that and (hopefully) begin to demonstrate that my opinion is worthy of being trusted. Agree on the authentic and …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 01:44 AM
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They didn't tell me any details, just that "everything came back great - nothing even remotely low". I'll ring the surgery and see if they can send the actual results to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 01:38 AM
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Thanks for the feedback re: the nail video. That's a good way of explaining it. So the point is "men and women think differently. There's nothing you can do about it. It won't make sense to you. Accept it and deal with it". Also - I'll read anything by J10, so thanks for the link. ​ re: Doctor stuff, it's an appeal to authority on my part. I know the more alpha approach is to say "this is what we're doing because I said so", but that wouldn't work right now. We've already had arguments/tests ove…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 12:25 AM
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Point taken. Deleted a bunch of whinging about why it's not about me being afraid of doing the work, just that I haven't done the work. The simple fact that I haven't been lifting does indicate that, regardless of what I may think, it's simply not a high priority for me. Thanks for pointing that out. Time to own that shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 12:00 AM
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Yeah - had the Doc run a full bloodwork profile on me, including T levels, after it was suggested to me here in a previous OYS. Diabetes test, red cell count, cholesterol - the works and jerks. Everything came back fine - "middle of the road" on all counts. Apparently I'm super-fucking-healthy. I still suspect the T levels though, simply because as you say - my symptoms all line up. Doctors in this country are super gun-shy about anything to do with testosterone since the government authority be…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 11:58 PM
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Whyyyyyyy? With lifts that low you should be spending 100% of your gym time getting sweet sweet noob gainz. Agreed, but I was out for the week and didn't have the opportunity to lift. Made sure I walked everywhere to at least get exercise in. Optimal? Probably not. Better than catching a cab everywhere? Sure. ​ Do you commute? Look into audiobooks. No commute here. I find if I listen to audio books while I'm doing something else (working, etc), I take none of it in and end up having to re-read i…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 03:03 AM
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Good for him/her. We've covered the lifting thing here before. I don't know why I can't put on muscle like seemingly everyone else, but I've decided not to worry about it and just focus on doing the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 02:48 AM
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​ Age Height Weight BF 39 6'6 195 lbs ~17% Married 15 yrs, 1 kid ​ Bench Dead Squat OHP Barbell row 95 lbs 140 lbs 95 lbs 45 lbs 75 lbs ​ Health & Fitness: Out of town last week, and have come down with the flu (again), so I haven't improved my lifts this week. Have got in a bunch of cardio though. Have put a lot of focus on fixing my stance and gait (turns out, I don't know how to walk). Still researching whether it's worth putting more time and effort into the testosterone investigations after…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 05:45 AM
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Interesting - thanks for sharing. I believe I'm building up a milk protein intolerance, so what you've described isn't out of the ballpark. ​ Sucks that you had to go through that - people who haven't had a proper migraine can't really comprehend how hard it hits you physically. To go through that for months on end would have been tough.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 10:08 PM
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​ Age Height Weight BF 39 6'6 195 lbs ~17% Married 15 yrs, 1 kid ​ Bench Dead Squat OHP Barbell row 95 lbs 140 lbs 95 lbs 45 lbs 75 lbs ​ Health & Fitness: Have been struggling with migraines and back/neck problems, which has had an attendant knock on to my lifting (that is, I haven't been doing it). Have got back on the bus the past two weeks though, and already making back ground. 3 times a week - so far, so good. Videoed myself and identified that I'm rounding my back at the bottom of squats …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 05:31 AM
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This is a very honest report Red, and it asks the only simple, hard question that really matters - "what do you want?". ​ I've followed your time here since the beginning. Happy to admit that I had big odds on you being some sort of manic-depressive nutjob that was on a fast train to self-destruction. Happy to admit that I had you pegged completely wrong. You ARE a nutjob though, in the sense that you're willing to take the action and make the decisions that "normal" people agonise over and flip…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 10:47 PM
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You referenced Jackten in your post. I think he was on a similar vein as you when he posted this comment here that I've only recently read. Great link. Have spent 10 mins reading through it and the links that come off it. Thanks for sharing that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 11:41 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to write up a great post. Insight, and very well written. You've succeeded in your goal of humanising "the man" at the end of all this. ​ Lesson: So I know in myself, that things that I thought were out of my reach before I've achieved. I've seen it. And I can see in myself now both the feelings that "Well it seems like most/all things are within my reach if I simply do what is required" AND "There's no way I could do that" at the same time. How can both thoughts exist…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 11:27 PM
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Play your Nice Card every morning. Great post - thanks for the link. I hadn't read it before. Love the analogy of the little cat. Key piece there is that the little cat never doubted the outcome - never thought "I think I'm wasting my time here". Just kept going with what it wanted to do. ​ "You're right, I'm not hard.....I wonder why that is? Oh well...." (gets out of bed to go do something else) I'm with you on the first half, but you lose me on the last. I get that this is common advice, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 04:55 AM
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Interesting insight. I'll need to read over it a bit more, but I like how you've framed the "lead by example. instead of affirming her, stretch her". I can see this is where (like some of the other posters) I've been falling down - I've been letting my ego get in the way and shutting down instead of continuing to invite her along with me. ​ I did enjoy your gravitational centres post, even if the graph did make my brain hurt. You laid out the different transition phases well. That's another blin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 03:14 AM
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You weight 200 kbs? There's a big difference between 200lbs and 200kgs. Which one is it? My mistake - 200lbs / 90kg. I work in kg, but translate everything to lbs for this audience. ​ The goal isn't to be attractive to her. The goal is to be attractive. True, but the realisation is still a bitch, isn't it? You're right of course. ​ My philosophy is if you don't want to do it, then don't. Good point. ​ Thanks for the clarification - the points you raise are simply but powerful.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 10:18 PM
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​ Age Height Weight BF 39 6'6 200lbs (still) ~18% (still) Married 15 yrs, 1 kid ​ Bench Dead Squat OHP Barbell row 80lbs 120lbs 75lbs 55 lbs 80 lbs ​ Health & Fitness: Took a break from lifting for a month due to misc health problems, so my stats suck again after another deload. That said, they're about the same as Feb's numbers but I'm hitting the reps easily this run up. Honestly I'm not back into my desired cadence 100% either - I've managed 2 days a week, but I struggle to hit the 3x a week …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 04:46 AM
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fact of the matter is you just have to commit to it. i'm busy as fuck, and travel a lot. i almost never miss lifting. Agreed. It's the first thing that goes when work gets busy, and I need to set it as a priority. ​ stretching, chiro, and yoga is the best I've got a regular massage appointment with a very large man who enjoys hurting me, and a raft of stretches that I do to loosen things up. I've done chiro in the past and didn't get good results. Tried a couple of different practitioners, but e…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:55 AM
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No such luck - I lift in kg, but converted them all to lbs for the audience here. Numbers are correct. As you say, I've got a long way to go here, which is why I've flagged it as a commitment for the next 6 months. I want to lock in the 3x a week, schedule it in my calendar and embed the habit.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/19 07:36 AM
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Lifts are shitty, no doubt. Deloads were due to work schedule - I find myself extremely busy at times for client project deadlines or work travel, etc. Sometimes life just takes over and I need to focus on the business side, and then I can get back to lifting. That's a priority call on my part which I'll own. In one instance, I had about 3 weeks away due to a combination of things. But the time I got back, I figured I'd follow the recommended deload schedule (and check my ego) which took a whole…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/19 07:31 AM
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Been about 6 months I guess since my last OYS. I've been checking in and reading, but it takes too much out of my day to post on a weekly basis. I generally do an internal review, but like to jot my thoughts down on paper every so often so that I can look back at previous posts for context. ​ Stats: Age: 39 Height: 6'6 Weight: 200lbs BF: NFI - Aria says around 18% Married 15 years, 1 kid ​ Lifts: Bench: 92 lbs Dead: 125lbs Squat: 82lbs OHP: 48lbs Barbell row: 70lbs ​ Reading: Currently working t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 06:18 AM
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Was about to tag MCT in this, and see he's already replied. OP - listen to his advice. ​ Your wife is my wife. And she WAS MCT's wife, from what he's shared. He's turned his situation around. I'm learning from him and slowly changing myself. You can too.
/r/askMRP12/11/18 12:22 AM
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Thanks for the comment - it's received in the spirit you intended. If your daughter is around that the majority of the time, she is going to pick it up. Agreed. We've spoken about this, but I suspect the wife is too emotional at times to realise how she's behaving. I address it when I see it happening, but I'm not there 100% of the time. Or your wife could always be negative and looking at how things can go wrong This is very much in play as well. I love my wife, but she does have major anxiety …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 06:19 AM
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Look - no excuses - it's probably because I'm half-assing it. I'm working out at home by myself with minimal equipment. That said, I do go through periods where I am working out a solid 3 or 4 days a week, for an hour+ each day, for 6 months at a time. I make sure I plan the days so I have recovery. I get enough sleep. I drink my protein powder and eat well. I focus on form. And I get stronger. Slightly. I can creep up by adding an extra rep, or going up a fractional plate. And so I get discoura…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 06:13 AM
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You're right, of course. The gym thing - I dunno. Clearly I'm missing big pieces here. I need to hire a trainer, but can't afford it + a gym membership right now. Maybe I'm just making excuses. I know the lifts are weak af, but it's taken me ages (2 years? maybe more?) to even work up to where I am now. And knowing that makes it even worse - makes me question whether any of it is worth it. I know the theory, I just suck at putting it into practice for some reason. I'm never going to be Mr Olympi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 04:47 AM
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OYS 2 Stats 38 y/o, 197 cm, 87kg, 15.5% BF (Aria scales) SQ 20kg, BP 50kg. No progress on lifts recently - simply haven't carved out the time for it. Not much motivation for it, to be honest. Need to get back into a 3 day / week routine and just grind it out for a while. Haven't done an OYS for a while, and lost the password for the original account and comments, so starting from scratch with this account. Reading Stalled. Half way through MAP, but finding it eye-bleedingly boring. Frame: Have b…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 12:58 AM
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After avoiding it for 6 years, I went to the dentist to fix my fucked-up grill. Overall a good report, but a couple of fillings to sort out first. Then we're going to look at whitening and some basic cosmetic work to the front couple of teeth. I'd always brushed it off with "yeah, I have terrible teeth", but I can see now that it's one of the first things people notice. Thanks to 60DoD for the push. New mindset - don't tolerate things about yourself that you KNOW are unattractive, and that you c…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 02:10 AM
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I do need to get stronger. Case in point last night, working some BJJ sweeps. I struggled against the bigger opponents, where the smaller-but-stronger guys could get the force on they needed. re: dtf - yes and no. No to two days in a row - "too sore", "too tired". When pressured, will usually go through with it and I believe she enjoys it when it's happening, just no motivation to get there. Not enthusiastic, but not unengaged/starfish either. That stopped after I stopped accepting it - amazing …
/r/askMRP30/05/18 02:00 AM
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Thanks for the advice and context man. Remember, those AA comments are for you! Not her. It’s not designed “to work” on her. Get out that mindset. It’s for you dude- so you don’t fall into DEERing and justifying your manhood and it’s also a FOG technique. This is something I'd missed previously. Thinking about it, I guess I've been expecting that I'll make some smart-ass comment and her attitude will change instantly and she'll giggle and think I'm suddenly awesome and irresistible. I need to ch…
/r/askMRP28/05/18 11:25 PM
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OP - this is gold. Long time lurker, but this is just want I needed to hear. Stay in the fight - it takes time. Mr Chad Thundercock - I really struggle with the "you always want sex" and "normal people don't want sex as much as you do", etc. I've given up trying to DEER, and generally just respond like "Yes, I do! Hard not to with you walking around with that ass", or "good thing neither of us is normal then, eh?". But I feel it's not really working. Advise from your experience in the best way t…
/r/askMRP28/05/18 06:49 AM
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