BeFroody Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
105	I don’t know what to do anymore.	mental health	BeFroody	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/02/24 07:14 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	How do you explain to some people who maybe don’t understand misandry or the harms it causes, that it’s different to “heterophobia” or “anti-white racism”? As a white person, that is terribly, laughably false. Check your facts. I’m not saying white people don’t die from police violence. Innocent people of colour are far more likely to be victims of violence and injustice committed by officers of the law than innocent white people. FAR more likely. Idk what rag you get your news from.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/02/24 07:55 PM
1	How do you explain to some people who maybe don’t understand misandry or the harms it causes, that it’s different to “heterophobia” or “anti-white racism”? Wasn’t the point of the question. The WLM movement is wholly unnecessary as a response to BLM, because it’s not white lives being threatened by police violence. Misandry is different, because it has a valid and extensively documented basis in the real world.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/02/24 03:43 PM
2	How do you explain to some people who maybe don’t understand misandry or the harms it causes, that it’s different to “heterophobia” or “anti-white racism”? The difference between misandry and White Lives Matter is that White Lives Matter doesn’t have a basis in reality. POC need their movement, because it’s their lives actually at stake. WLM proponents just wanted to make it about themselves, too, for not a single good reason. In the case of misandry, our personal experiences are more than enough basis for the belief that it exists. There’s no shortage of documentation of misandry, or of women refusing to take accountability for it. I believe in mi…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/02/24 03:37 PM
10	We shouldn't mock nor invalidate sexually abused men and boys - don't forget about them. Doing much better, thank you! Just want to endorse talking more about things that really need to get talked about more.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/02/24 05:01 AM
36	We shouldn't mock nor invalidate sexually abused men and boys - don't forget about them. I’m a male victim of SA and got told it didn’t count as a kid. Took 7 years for me to feel like I could tell anyone about it again. 100% behind this post, and I appreciate it.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/02/24 12:08 AM
7	Saw one of these in my apartment Hope you took it down tbh. It specifies he was drunk, so it’s especially tone-deaf.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	20/02/24 09:22 PM
1	I don’t know what to do anymore. I know it can be a real killer. Take care of yourself! ♾️	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	20/02/24 02:58 PM
3	What double standards do men face? If men could just be who they are and have that be enough, the way it already is for western women, it’d be a much better world to live in.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	20/02/24 06:16 AM
7	What double standards do men face? I would love to bring only myself to the table, believe me. And this post isn’t about all women, I should clarify. It’s an unfortunate reality, though, that much of the dating pool is like this. I’m not saying that women should bring more to the table, or that men should bring less. I’m saying either or. It just needs to be equalised, because being in a relationship with very many women these days, as a man, has seriously diminishing returns. It’s not about what’s brought to the table by either …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	20/02/24 05:59 AM
18	What double standards do men face? It all comes down to this: we live in a society where children undergo gendered learning from a young age. Men are taught what’s expected OF them FOR women. They’re taught how they should treat women, but NOT how they should expect to be treated. Women are taught what to expect FROM men, without being taught how to treat them. The standards of western women in dating are astronomically high these days. High such that if I as a man had standards like that, not only would I never get a date, but I…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/02/24 07:26 PM
-5	Medium Article Against Circumcision And again, you’re entitled to feel that way. I’m just wary of articles that are dripping with bias.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/02/24 01:01 AM
1	Circumcision is a term used to normalize genital mutilation. Ummm… no. It’s not. I need my hand to function normally. It’s absolutely ridiculous to suggest it’s the same thing. Why argue if you don’t have a coherent argument to make?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/02/24 01:00 AM
-7	Medium Article Against Circumcision I respect your opinion, but you’re also using language that paints a picture very different from the reality of it. Language that intentionally and unapologetically blows the procedure way out of proportion with respect to its harm. It’s absurd to talk about it like female circumcision, for which there actually is no reason, and it’s absurd to take such a hard stance while pretending to speak for all men. I actually quite like being circumcised. You’re allowed to make your point, but calm down, …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/02/24 12:56 AM
2	I don’t know what to do anymore. Well, my gf is on a several month long trip overseas, so I’m taking all my time for me for now. She is showing great progress in terms of the way she communicates with me, with the help of therapy. But anyway, that book actually sounds like something I could really benefit from reading. She needs to respect boundaries, but I need to enforce them, too. Thanks for the recommendation!	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/02/24 07:05 AM
2	I don’t know what to do anymore. Yeah, that’s where I’m at right now. My gf is going to be out of the country for several months, so right now, I’m focusing on learning to take care of myself better, and she’s doing really well. She’s in therapy, and she’s able to pick out and recognise her toxic behaviours. I’m cautiously optimistic. (:	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/02/24 12:12 AM
15	I don’t know what to do anymore. I know the post painted a picture of a life, but I really just wanted to vent my frustrations about being a man when they’re not treated like having much worth in the broader context of gender issues. I’m doing a lot better at the moment than I have in a long while. I have a special brand of autistic hyper-empathy that leads me to want to help others at almost any cost to myself, but my gf and I are spending some time in different countries, so I’ve spent the past couple of months learning how t…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/02/24 12:36 AM
13	I don’t know what to do anymore. Thanks for the positivity. I’m in a place right now where I’m taking space from my partner and learning to care for myself again. It’s not that I think life is so terrible, necessarily. Just that there’s no good reason men should suffer like this, let alone be expected to grin and bear it, on behalf of women, and for the fact that they’re men. Suffering is absolutely a prerequisite for happiness, but some kinds of suffering more so than others. Some kinds of suffering are positive, necessary, an…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/02/24 11:22 PM
1	Should we care about men for their own sake? even when they don't? Men want to be cared about. They absolutely do. The idea of “think about what it’d do to the people who depend on you” approaches a consequence of the problem as the problem itself. The problem itself is that more than ever, men want to die. That’s the issue. Those are the stakes. If I die, people might suffer. But that does absolutely nothing to address my crisis. It boils down to being told to toughen up because I’m a man, and that’s what men do, like we’re told throughout our entire lives.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/02/24 06:21 PM
1	Circumcision is a term used to normalize genital mutilation. “Female circumcision” is absurd and abhorrent. It comes with no benefit to women. Male circumcision is a (usually) medical procedure with well documented long-term benefits. Most notably, it substantially lowers the risk of skin and urinary tract infections. It’s factually untrue that it’s the same for males as for females.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/02/24 06:09 PM
5	Why do people believe that presumption of innocence shouldn't be a thing? As a man who’s been falsely accused of SA, a man who NOBODY took at his word, a man almost EVERY WOMAN IN HIS LIFE villainised, and a man who had to CHANGE HIS NAME to escape that hell, fuck this opinion. (:	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/02/24 06:03 PM
1	Guys Opinion about this last statement? We’ll stop talking about it when it gets meaningfully addressed. The difference is that all those other topics, they are all subjects of discourse.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/02/24 05:50 PM