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DebateBeMoreKinky/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:02 AM
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Of course! Everyone has a dynamic or desires that are important to them. The issue is the content doesn’t make that distinction. It’s “if he doesn’t provide than you’re not his dream girl” or “50 50 men aren’t real men”, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:56 PM
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It depends on the location and lifestyle requirements. Where we are, having a 2 bedroom apartment, a car, and still saving requires at least two top 15% incomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:00 PM
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To be clear: He’s successful His wife does not want or need him to provide
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:29 PM
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I love this and would completely agree! There are good behaviors associated with both and avoiding them because of the expectations you preceive for your gender is harmful
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:18 PM
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The moment you say that a de facto gender role is an absolute for a successful partnership
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:12 PM
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Honestly, your position was bad faith, but I brought it upon myself by writing it. It's a colloquialism. That's why I edited, as it had nothing to do with my core point and my edit conveys the same intended meaning. And yes, saying that women should stay at home and be provided for like helpless girls is definitely a right-wing position.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:09 PM
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I'm glad you were able to pull yourself out of it!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:06 PM
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It kinda strikes to the heart of epistemology though: how do we know what is true? The thing that's difficult with any sort of gender discourse is when someone make declarative statements about their gender. It's very difficult for someone to say a prioi that the person is incorrect as they don't truly understand their gendered experience. This guy is a mega feminist and always has been, and has had to learn about the right way to approach feminism from women. When women go online claiming this …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:03 PM
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And honestly, I'm not sure if it's stupidity (he isn't stupid). People with high openness to experience are far more likely to listen to new viewpoints and accidentally integrate them. When they corrospond with an internal insecurity, that's how this happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:56 PM
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I expected people to make victim blaming statements telling him to just "get off social media" (which is true), but I'm not sure I fully expected how negatively my core position would be received.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:52 PM
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100%. Most of the discourse has been around social media radicalizing men, but it definitely is targeting their insecurities in ways we don't yet fully understand or appreciate. You can see this with the absolutely huge increase in steroid use over the past decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:52 PM
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If a woman said something like "You need to dress sexy at all times to keep your man, and you don't love him if you don't," then yes, I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:24 AM
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I was probably too inflammatory. Edited as I definitely wasn't going to slap anyone! And yes, I would consider that misogynistic. The idea that women are helpless, unwilling or unable to take care of themselves, and need a parental figure to look after them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:21 AM
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Ah yeah, of course. I thought you were referring to the OP. I'd agree, whenever someone is insecure because of content they see online, you have to approach it with empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:09 AM
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People definitely self harm with content. It's so easy to find content that validates your insecurities, and it's difficult to escape once you land in that hole.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:00 AM
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>And since we can't change algorithms You're unfortunately right. I spent several years working on this problem. Then, governments started to push back on "shadow banning", and Tik Tok and Twitter fully leaned into engaging radicalizing content. I had to leave for my own mental health. The problem is that education doesn't seem to be working. The only thing that works at scale is voices speaking out about emergent harmful trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:57 AM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:51 AM
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We need more overt kink content! I'm not even going to mention the tradwife content about choosing a day collar ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:51 AM
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If I understand you, I think we agree? Where I'm coming from is another emergent social pressure that is potentially harmful to most functioning relationships. Seeing historically right-wing talking points becoming wrapped up in a feminist coating is new to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:41 AM
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That's what I had to communicate to him. 500k likes means 8,141,500,000 people did not engage with it. But, to anyone with any innate insecurity about this, I can absolutely understand that when you do find a seemingly large community that perfectly validates your insecurity, it can be quite distressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:37 AM
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It's completely valid to have this type of dynamic, and I am close to people who actively seek this and have a very successful "provider relationship". I work in the kink education space, so it can go a lot further than that! However, it's not the de facto norm, and those without this dynamic are far more common, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:34 AM
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I think we'd agree on that :) I have absolutely nothing against men who want to provide, and women who want to be provided for. Beyond that, while I'm mixed on Findom, I know it's also valid for many people. Choice matters! My issue is with those claiming men who don't provide are less of a man, and that their partners aren't "their dream girl"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:31 AM
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I completely agree! I used to work in social media safety, and it's clear that Tik Tok doesn't do anything at all to suppress harmful content. However, this trend doesn't appear to be niche or fringe. I had never seen this before, but the volume of content and its engagement was overwhelming.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:23 AM
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> everyone the innate impulses You're making a strong assumption that everyone has the same innate impulses. Biological determinism is not aligned with the huge variance in human behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:17 AM
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> And maybe your friends wife think's he's less of a man because he's basing his self worth on a trend on tiktok and not real life. That's not adult like so its inherently non manly. Social media trends shape society in aggregate. If someone ends up deep into an algorithmic hole, it can easily warp their worldview.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:15 AM
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Fair! Edited to say people. However, I did trawl through the comments to see the reactions, and it does appear to be a lot of women who were being radicalized by this content.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:10 AM
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