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DISCUSSIONBeachdog1234/r/RedPillWomen10/08/25 02:37 PM
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Men need to contribute, provide and feel appreciated. Nothing more than having purpose and validation from the person they love.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/26 04:06 AM
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Not all, but a lot of that advice stems from feminists and mother’s that have been divorced. This particular advice is based on the premise that all marriage is doomed to fail and the woman needs to protect herself from this inevitable failure. The idea to stay single is meant for the woman to get educated, get a lucrative career and establish a wealth generating position so they have a fallback if and when they get married. Entering a marriage with a mindset of failure, combined with the furthe…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/25 03:58 PM
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Thank you. I think this is a really nice enhancement to my post. I think we should become husbands and wives as a choice to grow through interdependency. I think it’s especially important when you have a family. Sometimes parents feel like robots- dealing with children or having to work jobs less fulfilling, but necessary to provide for a family.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/25 03:14 AM
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I think it’s both. I think there’s men who aren’t necessarily looking for something serious, but end up finding it over time. I also think there’s men who are looking for something serious, find someone they like, then realize practical goals don’t align. Asking someone about their future and goals is not a big deal. All humans have the ability to envision some kind of future. Asking anyone where they see themselves in 5 or 10 years makes for interesting conversation IMO. It can also present sev…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/25 05:13 PM
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Yes, very simple advice and it’s two concepts. Understand and establish your boundaries. Boundaries are rules you impose on yourself, independent of any relationship. They are not specific to your fiancé. “I will not be in a relationship where……..” Learn to express yourself through your emotional needs and feelings. If he does something or wants to do something, simply tell him how that makes you feel. If he discounts your feelings or emotional needs or tells you should not feel a certain way, t…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/25 01:45 PM
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Be careful with any type of augmentation. If the augmentation gives you the confidence to “be who you are”, it can be very beneficial to your confidence and self esteem. If the expectation is for people to see and treat you differently, that is extremely unhealthy.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/25 05:08 PM
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Well, it depends. If a woman lived her entire life leveraging her looks at the expense of personality, intellect, passions, interests, etc. then the obvious answer is yes.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 03:49 AM
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Here’s my two cents. As a mother and wife, your number one goal is to make your house safe and secure for everyone- you, your kids and your husband. Now, here’s the challenge- The idea of slime, a family breakfast, and clutter are very warming to some people. All those things make the home feel alive and comforting. Not everyone is like that. Some people need order and structure to feel comfortable and safe. They can’t be at ease until the dishes are done or all the toys are picked up. He’s not …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/25 08:25 PM
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Control is a means to bolster self-confidence, which is a clear indication it is lacking.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/24 03:27 PM
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Big difference between control and leading. RP is all about the latter.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/24 02:26 PM
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Agreed 100% and with this SMBC approach, there’s even more issues with identity, heritage, etc. I suspect ops partner is an outstanding father. He knows the responsibility, time, effort and challenges required.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/24 08:52 PM
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Married 30 years……one wife, one marriage. Been commenting sporadically for over a year. Curious, what “rule” did I break?
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 03:38 AM
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Hate the term and what it implies. It’s all about effort. If he’s putting in the work, he’s into you. It’s that simple. A guy who has loads of free time isn’t putting effort by spending time with you. A guy who has little free time, who prioritizes time with you, is making an effort. Someone with loads of money, buying you an expensive dinner, doesn’t mean much to them. A guy who’s in med school who’s broke and cooks you dinner, is putting in effort.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 09:22 PM
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Tiger Woods Wife is laughing her ass off at this.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/24 03:45 AM
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The women who say promiscuity and body count don’t matter are all women who are or have been promiscuous with a high body count. The men who say promiscuity or body count doesn’t matter are not capable of having a relationship with a non-promiscuous or low body count woman. They forced to settle for their own inferiority. HVM value women waiting. They will be patient.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/24 07:59 PM
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Exclusivity needs to happen within a date or two. Big difference between commitment and exclusivity.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 10:26 PM
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Focus on the feelings. You already practice this to a large extent, every day. As an example, imagine you have a puppy and it urinates on the floor. You have this fleeting but intense sensation upon discovery. That’s emotion. As a result you may feel anger, you may feel frustration and defeated, you may even laugh and feel happy, you may feel sad. Regardless, when you take any of those feelings through a logical filter, you give yourself the opportunity to place in context- ie it’s just a puppy.…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 06:28 PM
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If you are a psychology student you should understand the difference between emotions and feelings. Every one of us experience the same emotional response to the same circumstances. That’s instinctual. However, we all differ with the resulting feelings. Feelings are how we are programmed to respond to emotions. Emotional maturity is the ability to sit in our emotions while we process feelings through a logic filter. Starts with learning to pause when we experience an emotional sensation.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 03:47 PM
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Based on your pictures, no way. You are very pretty and feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 03:27 PM
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Well, you may be attracted to guys that do not have the same long term interests or you do not fit their desired traits (for their long term interests).
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 02:54 AM
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If you are not committed to someone, let it ride. Attraction spectrum is attained through interaction. Learning who you are attracted to is largely as result of also learning who you are not attracted to- if that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 12:45 AM
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Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. Weird is a broad spectrum. Weird can be interesting or weird can be frightening. Dipping your fries in maple syrup is interesting. Truly believing that there are aliens inhabiting human bodies all around us is frightening. Dating is all about creating connection. Connection is made through vulnerability. Having quirks and sharing them invites your date to do the same. If you get asked on a dat…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 09:00 PM
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I agree with most everything, with two exceptions. The high school or college age thing is more predicated on getting a real job or career going. Some men get out of college/high school and are immediately gainfully employed so they “start looking” earlier. Some take a few years. The “practice wife” is real but it’s not always deceptive. These relationships can be real or genuine learning experiences. In my case, I dated someone serious and she was great and we were very connected but ultimately…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 01:51 AM
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👍
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/24 03:06 AM
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Yes you can accomplish getting someone to wait but it requires you to demonstrate an evolution of who you are and want to be. Ideally, you would be able to tell someone at 30 years old that your body count is still 13. Through the age of 26 you went through a period where you didn’t value yourself and relationships. Since then, you matured and now put more emphasis on the relationship itself.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 05:31 PM
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Need to understand why high body count matters. Three main reasons. First, having a high body count is a key indicator that the person has limited or no real relationship experience. By waiting, it forces couples to build a relationship before sex becomes a driving factor. Having failed, non-consummated relationships allows couples to learn about what hey contribute and want in a parter. It provides clarity and real relationship experience. Second, having a high body count prevents pair-bonding.…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 05:05 AM
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Understood. When I wrote “present yourself” it was meant that way. Dress and act in a way that portrays feminine traits. As a stupid example. Fishnets are sexy, yet not adorable. A sundress is sexy and adorable.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 02:08 PM
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Embrace feminine traits- Graceful, nurturing, intuitive, creative, cooperative, emotional, gentle and adaptable. Present yourself in a manner that represents those traits. It’s both sexy and adorable at the same time. Nothing says it has to be “either / or”
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 01:51 PM
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Shed the beta alpha thing. It’s silly. It’s about understanding attributes that make a man high value and then understanding if a particular man has those attributes. This requires dating and communication and observation. It’s learning. A HVM who’s interested in you will wait on sex. He’ll give you the chance to evaluate him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 10:37 PM
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Perfect response👆
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 05:06 PM
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Husbands need to feel needed. You, this baby, needs him. Make sure he understands this. In today’s society, we are taught husbands and wives don’t need each other. You hear it everyday. What you don’t hear is the sentence ever finished. You don’t need a man to survive. Nor does your child. Who want’s to just survive? You need a husband to thrive! He needs you! Reassure him this is just a phase. We al” get into lulls in life. They’re just phases.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 03:18 AM
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Well, there’s his timeline which seems to be established. Note he did not specifically mention “you” or “us”. Need to articulate your timeline to him. You own it. Tell him you want to be married before 30. So now you have two timelines.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/24 06:52 PM
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If you stop thinking of men as alphas or betas or sigmas or whatever, that would be a start. As a person who is much older, I can attest that the whole concept is flawed in that humans (unlike animals) have multiple life phases. HVM will transcend these phases and always be HVM. Point is, I’ve known more “alpha’s” in their 20’s who ended up 300 lbs and selling shoes in their 40’s. That guy who could have had any girl he wanted in his twenties couldn’t get laid in a brothel with $1,000 in his 40’…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/24 01:37 PM
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It’s not a negative. It simply means that “high attraction” at the onset of a relationship is a poor indicator of long term relationship success. When googling, search “attraction spectrum psychology”.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/24 02:25 PM
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Maybe do some research on “attraction spectrum”. Basically, high/immediate attraction is a very poor indicator of long term relationship success. Same with low/immediate attraction.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/24 01:06 PM
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Let’s start with the basics. You are here because you want to be a nurturing mother, and a dedicated and supportive wife as your priorities. In order to be successful, you desire a husband that provides and leads. It’s great you have a company. However, that company cannot be the means to provide for a family. The stress and burden will not allow you to flourish as a mother and wife, which are your priorities. Not saying you get out of business. It means you need a husband to be the primary prov…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/24 06:30 PM
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Red pill, at it’s core is all about accepting reality and truth, no matter how discerning that may be. Part of this truth and reality is understanding that some things simply can never be attained due to realities that can never be erased or reversed. Examples include high body count, wasting relationship building years focusing on career, etc. So when you think of these factions like “dark femininity” or “pink pill”, they are nothing but ideologies not rooted in truth and reality. It’s an infer…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/24 04:52 PM
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It’s just foreplay. Foreplay / arousal flows blood to the genitals. Just like he needs it to get an erection, you need it to secrete natural vaginal lubrication & expansion. Don’t be ashamed to explore your own body and privately learn what stimulates you. Trust me, he has.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/24 02:41 PM
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I was 26 when I met my wife. Engaged at 29, married at 30. She’s 2 years younger. Met through mutual friends. Don’t know anything about OLD. I think my generation was 100x more social though. Aids had everyone scared shitless though when it came to hook-ups. I think what helped me (and my wife) is that each had several long term relationships before we met- high school, college, etc. I personally think we learned a lot through these relationships. It wasn’t until I was 24 that I really started l…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 08:21 PM
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Wasn’t conveying how you should think. Was conveying how men think, based on how I think, and the men I associate with think. As someone else posted, Reddit is full of fake accounts and a lot to sift through. Even credible people offer opinions that are unsubstantiated opinion or not representative of a broader population. The salient point is to seek knowledge from the most credible source.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 12:22 PM
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Now that I can agree with…..
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 12:15 PM
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I come here for entertainment. Why not ask the type of men you aspire to get into a relationship with for advice? and ohh yes…….n count makes a huge difference if you are looking for a HVM…..
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 11:46 PM
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It’s not about you and your marketability. In fact, being 30 and childless is very appealing to a HV suitor. It’s more about your options being limited. Most guys in their 30s are married or divorced. Most who are divorced have kids. Many who have kids don’t want more. So if I am a guy that’s 33 or 34, single and interested in a family. I would be looking for you. Problem is, you are hard to find. For every one of you, there are 10 divorced, single moms throwing themselves at him.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 09:07 PM
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The advice to tell women to date multiple guys at the same time is horrible and irresponsible. Trust me, as an older guy who has delivered (in spades) what you aspire to attain, I can say that nothing is a bigger turn off than finding out you are part of dating rotation.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 08:32 PM
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It’s awkward because he cannot connect what he says to how you feel. Also, be wary. You telling him is likely for your benefit. You saying it to him does not generate the feelings you think it does. Typically, men want to feel valued and appreciated. Women want to feel desired and cherished. So I would tell him, “When I say I love you, I want you to know how much you mean to me and how much I appreciate you. When you tell me you love me, I feel cherished and desired by you”
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/24 03:11 PM
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A lock that can be opened by many keys is not a valuable lock. A lock that can be opened by one key is indeed valuable.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/24 03:17 AM
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Traditional or high value men don’t typically reveal or avail in their early 20’s. Most are readily identifiable between 25 or 30. Their mission is college/ education then establishing finances and career, then they become “interested” in serious relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 12:19 AM
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This is it. If you read nothing else it’s. This. Show appreciation. Never let it be your expectation. Not only appreciate the dinner, but him in general. Good stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 05:42 AM
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Need to be focused on 25-30 year olds who are “off to a good start”. I can speak from my personal experience and that of my two older sons (we recently had a conversation). HV guys who are 18-22 are focused on education. Sure they have a good time but these HV men are not looking for marriage material women. Not saying they are sleeping around either. The next 3-5 years they’re getting foundations set for their careers and finances. They are working entry level in their field. They’re not dreami…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 02:29 AM
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If you choose to meet people online just need to accept it’s a bit of a crap shoot. Hold your boundaries. My advice is to always do coffee with a hard stop, you communicate up front. If they are interested, they’ll jump through hoops to get a date and won’t waffle.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 02:24 AM
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Think of submission as you empowering him to do the things where he’s advantaged, such that you have the capacity to do the things where you’re advantaged. You used the word “softer”. Maybe consider “nurturing” instead. Means support and encouragement. It’s making him better with you , than he could ever be without you. The purest form of “red pill” is acknowledging men and women are different. It’s not about who’s superior or who’s in control. It’s about a couple tapping into each other’s compe…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 04:56 AM
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While he may have been jealous, I highly doubt it was resent……
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 03:37 AM
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Separate the moving in, quitting job, etc. for a second. That’s material vulnerability. Need to first be emotionally vulnerable. Have you fully disclosed all aspects of your childhood trauma to your partner? This is not only what happened, but how you feel? Need to understand his reaction and resulting behavior. If you disclose and he handles it right, you should feel safe and connected. Once you get to that point, your decision to move in or quit is less about risk and more about your personal …
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 04:58 PM
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She is self-conscious. Do you your job, cowboy. She’s the hottest thing on earth to you. Let her know it. Don’t be stupid and call-out her belly. She just needs to feel desired by you, in a big way.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 04:04 AM
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It’s all about teaching her empowerment through embracing her femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 01:09 PM
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This article, in itself, is an example of how an author can create a narrative around simple facts to convey a POV in manner that paints conjecture as credible or even factual. Bottom line is the guy was crazy. Traditional marriages work provided the couple are aligned on values, roles and responsibilities. Insert a lunatic, all bets are off. Article was simply an opportunity to blame RP thinking and access to RP thinking as the cause. Kids are also victims of the social programming. Hard to acc…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 12:55 PM
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My story. I moved to a large southern city from the northeast. My wife lived there. We met and started dating. Obviously was into her, but was thinking his would not go anywhere since I was very driven with my career. She seemed the same. Wasn’t sure I wanted that. I can’t remember how the conversation went, but she made it pretty clear she was going to be a SAHM. That’s when I went all-in. Once the youngest was school age, my wife became a teacher. Been doing it ever since. Married 25 years. So…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 12:18 AM
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It’s really about building connection through a thirst for seeking knowledge and understanding. It’s less about what you know and more about having and interest in learning what you can know from each other.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 05:23 AM
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All men are absolutely driven by sex. That’s how they are programmed. The guy she speaks of in this video has learned to operate this way because he’s been successful. Period. He is likely handsome, maybe well-off, fit, no-doubt confident. He stands out in the crowd. There are also men who are more introverted, don’t have game, can still be very successful, confident. They just don’t stand out. These guys are everywhere. They are just not noticed. Again, these guys all want sex. The guy in the v…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 01:56 PM
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Without a doubt, teaching. My wife was an engineer who went to a top 5 engineering school in the U.S. When our first was born, she refused to return to work. I had a great job and was surprised and also happy to hear that. She stayed at home until our youngest of three started school. Then she volunteered at the school. Soon after, got her certification and taught. She loved it. Summers off, home when the kids got home, got to pick teachers, etc. My kids are all in college now, she just got her …
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/23 06:37 AM
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State facts- we been dating for four months, you’ve been very gentlemanly, etc. Ask questions? Where do you feel, this is heading?
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 05:04 AM
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Good for you. I am so proud of how my children have grown into great adults. My wife supported me in my career to provide and she ran everything at home. I have no problem conceding to her as the head of the house. She did things I could never imagine juggling. She has an engineering degree from a top US university, and chose to be at home. When my kids were older, she then pursued her passion in teaching. That afforded her a life where she could be a SAHM- when the kids were in school so was sh…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 03:18 PM
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Ok so I am an older guy and I am not sure how I ended up here. By the grace of God my son and his wife went from being miserable to happy. They had two young children, both highly educated, pursuing demanding careers. The whole situation was a mess and as a father it was painful to see. I had nothing to offer, only that both were at their respective limits and my wife and I felt their marriage was in trouble. Every time we saw them it was tense, juggling work fighting over attending to the kids …
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 05:52 AM
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Red Pill, and the antithesis, Blue Pill come from the movie “The Matrix”. Taking the Red Pill means you prefer the truth, no matter how unsettling it may be. Taking the Blue Pill means you prefer ignorance as long as it means you are content. Simply put Red Pill men feel that “traditional feminism” pushed for gender equality and “modern feminism” is pushing for the oppression of men. Red Pill men are facing the reality that men are now being targeted. So Red Pill men is a counter movement to thi…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 05:59 PM
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Financial goals can be a part of it. Family, friends, career, hobbies, anything. What is his purpose and can you align and support him? Same with you. What do you want out of life and how can he support you in achieving that?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 03:03 AM
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When you are in an open relationship, you are a placeholder. That’s a fact. They are after more. Find a guy that’s accomplished, that wants to accomplish more. Determine if what they want out of life is aligned with what you want out of life. Determine if you can provide for that. Determine if they can provide for what you need.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/22 09:19 PM
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This is a great, great post. What we learned as a couple was to really understand what vacation meant to each if us. Now, everyone is different, but what I expressed to my wife was the following- I do not have a strong preference on what we specifically do. All I want is to 1)Get away. 2) Not think. 3) Relax. So ask him for these general needs first.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/22 09:00 PM
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