BeanBagSize Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
86	Friends with Men? Gay or asexual. Beyond that, there are corner case very specific autistic individuals, but it's easier to find a unicorn. Unless something seriously changes psychologically, culturally, and historically, guys irl are a terrible idea. You can make better friends with a tarantula. It sucks, but once the sex drive is involved suddenly all other possible positives go right out the window. Too many rape cases are from "friends".	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/02/22 12:52 AM
124	This. Is. Horrifying. Husband thinks it’s okay her sister was physically abused and went to the hospital by her boyfriend. Wife hasn’t mentioned leaving him in either post (that I’ve seen) RED. FUCKING. FLAG. Lady needs to bail ASAP. That flag has serious alarm bells attached	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/02/22 02:59 AM
7	How police officers cheat and vetting strategies to get the truth. Oh, I'm not in a gun happy country and I always have something I can use as a weapon, so I don't have quite the depth of fear others may (justifiably) have. But yeah, shit be Cray yo. I really do feel for women in such countries. Sorry, I'll stop with the terrible slang.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/22 11:25 PM
23	How police officers cheat and vetting strategies to get the truth. That's a pretty light way to put it. I've heard bits of wannabe good cops effectively being chased out of the state entirely and gunpoint threats to them and their families. Just no. Not affiliating with a glorified gang.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/22 10:57 PM
126	How police officers cheat and vetting strategies to get the truth. Dating a cop... In America... Yeah that's a no from me dawg. You got a death wish? With my attitude and politics I'd be shot on or after the first date haha	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/22 05:38 PM
2	When being a pornsick pickme trying to fulfill an unasked for male fantasy goes wrong ... reading the title, I literally can't imagine it going well. Goes as expected I think.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/22 08:09 AM
347	Something icky to laugh about tonight. We were talking about planting grass for our cats and ofc he had to make it gross and awkward. My intuition was telling me from the start he was weird, but societal gaslighting told me to give him a chance merely bc he was giving me attention 🤷‍♀️. Blocked. Is... Is this what passes for "comedy" now? Dude, WTF.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/02/22 04:53 AM
41	I mean, who cares if he sucks in bed. He still hit, right? 🤡 I agree that Twitter fella's an absolute bloody clown, just, she makes me cringe so hard. I expect that kind of vitriol out of a guys mouth	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/22 11:42 PM
55	Why do so many men have bad breath? Lack of dental care and excessive alcohol. Experienced men and women with the issue, and yeah not nice. I'd love those to be more equal though at "very few" but guys just... Don't care about their teeth really? Sad	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/22 03:24 PM
18	Shower thought: Society literally had to coin the term ‘gentleman’ in order to accentuate behaviors that show a minimal level of consideration and respect towards women. Also, it indirectly shows that the vast majority of ‘other’ men don’t care about such values. Gentleman doesn't come from gentle. it comes from Gentilz or generosus, meaning noble or wealthy.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/02/22 01:11 AM
43	Shower thought: Society literally had to coin the term ‘gentleman’ in order to accentuate behaviors that show a minimal level of consideration and respect towards women. Also, it indirectly shows that the vast majority of ‘other’ men don’t care about such values. It's accurate etemology wise. by defenition, a gentleman isn't HV, they just have money to burn and the social standing for people to ignore their shitty behaviour.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/02/22 01:08 AM
5	Shower thought: Society literally had to coin the term ‘gentleman’ in order to accentuate behaviors that show a minimal level of consideration and respect towards women. Also, it indirectly shows that the vast majority of ‘other’ men don’t care about such values. Close, french Gentilz, or of noble birth. Basically a "gentleman" is a man with money and standing; nothing else matters to the etemology of the original word	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/02/22 01:05 AM
43	"Male - Female friendships" study... Doesn't seem accurate 🤔 Sounds about right. A one night stand or a "fuck buddy" isn't exactly romantic or caring or anything, and doesn't exactly require attraction on the guys part. It's like asking "do you have a romantic attraction to your Fleshlight?" The information ommited, whether on accident or on purpose, is super important for total context. Doesn't matter had sex right? Excuse me as I stop my eyeballs from rolling off a bridge	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/02/22 02:19 PM
12	A Dude leads her on for 2.5 months leeching her emotionally daily saying he wants to take things slow. Of course the advice is to communicate and talk to him honestly. "communicate" well yeah. She wants one thing, he wants another, talk about how its affecting each other, if he refuses to fix the hurtful behaviour, that it. you're done. full stop. nada. you've done the talky talky, youve made the issues and wants known, if he still refuses he can suck that thing he's so proud hes got. Communication is just that, and if he refuses to communicate, leave him. It's sickening to me how many people say they want to communicate when they consistently refuse to do so;…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/02/22 05:13 AM
97	Dirty Talk in the Sheets: Yay or Nay? To me what you're describing isn't dirty talk, it's abuse. I love some good filth, but there's a difference between sexuality and sexual abuse. If that's the only experience you've had with dirty talk, my heart goes out to you and I'm sorry you've experienced such trash. Done properly, it's quite empowering and encouraging. Done poorly though... Tldr it's total shit and red flags.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/02/22 11:52 PM
67	“Pussy is Not Charity” T-shirt If I were looking to knock some teeth out I'd wear it. Otherwise not so much. It means a lot and it's good to have reminders, but it's a target.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/01/22 10:58 PM
54	Thinking of dropping my LVF friend because of her cheating Drop. Forward all info to the gf. Who knows, you might even get a better friend out of it, but either way far healthier for you to not put up with it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/22 07:14 PM
109	Women who dated covert narcissists, did their narcissism get "worse" over time? If someone appears to be a narcissist, no matter who they are, that flag is so dark red it's gone black. Unless you are a psychologist and they are paying you as a professional for mental help in your work setting, simply do not associate, dating or otherwise. It will destroy you, even if you're just an occasional acquaintance let alone thinking of intimacy. It's literally healthier long term to sit on a cactus. I have done both (cactus was an accident before anyone says anything, thank you much…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/22 07:21 AM
192	The absolute bare minimum, and an automatic dealbreaker. NEVER, no matter the circumstance. Do not ever let a man think that it is justifiable to try to physically intimidate you. There exists not a single excuse for violent behaviour. It will always escalate. Abuse is abuse. Do not tolerate.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/01/22 01:34 PM
2	You might've seen the article on men creating AI girlfriends and verbally abusing them. I was curious after that news came out and decided to download Replika (where these incidents occured). This is the program that they were abusing. If OP said anything to indicate she was unsure of dealing with ai or the replika program, the program will reflect that. If she indicated at any point she want to be more self confident or mistrustful of the tech, the program will reflect that. It will also make sure to try keep the individual engaged, and keep coming back. I don't know what the marketing is now, but replika used to be advertised as a self help/ therapeutic application. It can be very exploitative. If it means engagement and the…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/01/22 10:36 PM
12	You might've seen the article on men creating AI girlfriends and verbally abusing them. I was curious after that news came out and decided to download Replika (where these incidents occured). This is the program that they were abusing. Oh I know this one: fembots sell better. Men will be men, and women will usually want a friend or peer. Both of these have a female disposition massively outsell male ones. What makes this so bad is that when it comes to life saving instruction, female voiced programs are ignored far more often than male ones because "I know better, she doesn't know what she's talking about". This has in the past led to people dying. "She" is a robot or program, it has all the information known to humanity avail…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/01/22 10:24 PM
130	You might've seen the article on men creating AI girlfriends and verbally abusing them. I was curious after that news came out and decided to download Replika (where these incidents occured). This is the program that they were abusing. Oh, replika lol I haven't seen that spyware in a hot minute. Looks like it's gotten a lot better though, if it truly starts down the ai path I'm both terrified and ecstatic. I do absolutely see why people are worried about men's behaviour towards it now though. It's a self reflective program, so feed positivity in, get positivity out. Feed negativity in, get negativity out. It encourages whatever behaviour you feed into it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/01/22 02:11 AM
81	“AITA For Buying My Fiancée A Lab-Grown Diamond And Refusing To Exchange It For A Natural Stone?” What does FDS think? Disclaimer: Article is pretty old, but found it on my feed. Comments are saying that he should leave her…😩 Diamond companies limit the supply, which raises price due to demand, and put out a lot of nasty slander on lab grown which can effectively be printed on demand. Personally I'm happy with a different gemstone without childrens blood all over it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/01/22 10:03 AM
30	Vetting strategy for the near future- how does he treat his AI? If they're a fan of tech and abuse it, red flag 🚩 That being said, I personally am not a fan of modern "ai" and it's behaviour, so that's often something I turn away from in a potential partner. There is currently no such thing as true AI, and the more you learn about tech the likely you are to be wary of it. "But if they're wary of it/don't like it, why have it?" Good question: we don't have a choice is the answer. If you have an iPhone or pixel, all your conversations are recorded, with many S…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/01/22 09:10 PM
84	Liberal feminism at its best Let me write an article here: Here's how to send a nude safely! DON'T -beanbagsize, author of the above article	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/01/22 01:37 AM
79	Found a pic of the average scrote lurking our sub imo this is more of an insult to uncle fester. The book would certainly help them though, if they could be bothered to read something to learn instead of to attack.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/01/22 10:12 AM
13	A perfect example of how casual the violence against women is in the gaming community They often don't care or think it's all a joke, whether it's actully a joke or not. Some will absolutely go ballistic, but if experience has taught me anything is they'll usually escalate the "joke" or play off it. couple examples are 1. a threat of a kick in the privates if they didn't shut up (teenage gamer girl, you already know the common sexist lingo) had one of the guys mocking sound out dance of the sugarplum fairies from the nutcracker, and 2. (this one was banter) "careful what your say…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/01/22 10:32 AM
37	A guy in a FB video who may or may not be a doctor just said that one of the 3 main signs a girl has autism is that she doesn't want hugs and kisses and- Excuse me? doesn't want hugs and kisses? Dear doctor dickweed, can you explain me then please? Actually don't, you're an idiot. On the spectrum and love hugs/kisses. Young children, not just girls, boys too, on the spectrum more often than not shrink away or do not respond to physical contact. This is not a definite point. This may or may not change as they grow older but thats very much person to person as you do growing up. Are you gonna say that trauma is a new form of autism too doctor? Ho…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/01/22 12:30 PM
117	Apparently not wanting to be assaulted in the bedroom is "vanilla". No thank you. Younger me was with a woman who tried to choke me in the bedroom. Didn't go well for her, but it still bothers me that if she'd been a guy I'dve had a snowballs chance in hell getting out of that. If feeling safe and secure is vanilla, then that's the ice-cream I'm gonna order.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/01/22 04:32 PM
39	The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 44 - Billie Eilish & How The Media Groomed A Generation of Girls That double standard is literally older than christ. Our bodies have been sexualised and objectified in one way or another in the entirety of written history. Men have not had this experience. If changing that is a hill you're okay dying on, go for it sis, but there are bigger and more important hills to deal with.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/01/22 01:33 PM
4	Angry right now This is the kind of post that needs to be seen and recognised as the sad reality we live in	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/21 07:46 AM