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| 3 | Who is she?I agree with you and I’m really sorry that you are going through this. All I can say is it’s really hard to find someone who has good morals and integrity these days. I to have gone through incredible things and never cheated although by todays standards probably would have been excused. I believe people pay heavily for their mistakes and she has made a very grave mistake. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/25 12:10 PM |
| 2 | Who is she?But there’s a reason she came back different and I was wondering if you supported her the way she needed during that time ?? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/25 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Who is she?Death triggered something ugly, I don’t understand it . Curious if you supported her the way she needed during that time? I’m not condoning what she has done that’s messed up in my opinion. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/25 11:12 AM |
| 2 | Who is she?She’s a complete insane idiot. Wait till real reality sets in . It’s truly not that easy to fine a good guy . First thoughts: borderline personality, disorder, bipolar, attachment issues 🤷♀️. Girls got problems if this is the whole truth you are telling us. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/25 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Why are women always so quick to advocate divorce?Don’t forget to add all the porn and porn addicts using social media as well. It’s become an epidemic. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/25 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Healing Isn't About Self Care1000% true !!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/25 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Mid-20s Love Revisited: Can We Rebuild After Infidelity and Divorce?Borderline and bipolar along with attachment issues i think could be a possibility i suppose . I didn’t get 1 ounce of attention from my ex for 20+ years and i still never cheated or stepped out of line . It s a BS excuse. I’m insecure, rejected, neglected etc . I still never cheated . My ex is nothing to look at I’m the attractive one in the group and I still never cheated. I have had plenty of opportunities to cheat and never have. I have 4 therapists been checked out by a psychologist as well… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/25 11:42 AM |
| 4 | Should I marry her again?Bad idea all around. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 03:43 AM |
| 2 | Mid-20s Love Revisited: Can We Rebuild After Infidelity and Divorce?You deserve so much better. Although i haven’t dated yet I’m going through a divorce the generation of women doing these things are disgusting to me and shocking. If it’s any constellation and I don’t wanna come across as rude, but I want you to know that I am in my 50s attractive 112 pounds soaking wet. I have no issues getting attention from men whatsoever. My friends are the exact same way and none of us are like this so you will have the capacity to find a woman who has that type of moral an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/25 01:00 PM |
| 11 | Mid-20s Love Revisited: Can We Rebuild After Infidelity and Divorce?Don’t do it. Especially speaking as a woman . Something is seriously wrong with her to do this to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/25 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Say goodbye 👋 cheating wifeJustice will 100% prevail it always does. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/25 03:21 AM |
| 10 | Say goodbye 👋 cheating wifeI believe no one gets away with this kind of betrayal no one. Wishing you all the best!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/25 05:48 PM |
| -8 | Modern dating IS polygamyI’m a woman . I’ve heard the same however haven’t started dating yet. I to am a Christian and refuse to sleep with anyone. We are out there. My suggestion get out in the real world and approach a woman be a man a real man. These apps have made men lazy . | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/25 02:14 AM |
| 5 | Not attracted to women my own age…I’m a 55 year old woman I’m finding old men less attractive than women generally speaking. To me you’re in a great position. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/25 01:35 PM |
| 2 | KARMA! Is it real?Wait for it !!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 06:32 PM |
| 2 | KARMA! Is it real?I don’t believe in Karma and I as well was told it doesn’t work in the way we think. I believe I. god he says vengeance is mine in 2 areas of the biblical text. I know for every thing I’ve done in life I had a hard lesson learned and same for everyone else . | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Don't forget... Men!Absolutely 100%. What I am saying is people that do do this something is mentally wrong with them | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 12:21 AM |
| 3 | Don't forget... Men!Never cheated in my life I am a women. That’s how you know someone is mentally stable and healthy they don’t do shitty things to people……… I had reason to cheat however never did not even tempted . That’s how you know someone is mentally healthy and stable once again…….. apply this to every shitty behavior women show you. Those that do this are super broken . | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Divorced Army SoldierChild support is based on your gross income. There are child support calculators on line . Based on $54,000. That you make per year according to what you’ve stated ($4500 per month) you will be paying around $1500. For bother kinds . If I remember correctly, you said you live in California . This is based on seeing the kids 45% of the time . | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/25 03:49 AM |
| 3 | Has anyone else dealt with a destroyed sex drive even though they are happily with another partner?Ok best of luck | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 04:28 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone else dealt with a destroyed sex drive even though they are happily with another partner?Ok I would encourage you to get your hormones and especially thyroid checked out. With thyroid you as a man will have severally decreased libido. As well if there’s a thyroid problem it will affect testosterone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 02:50 PM |
| 9 | Has anyone else dealt with a destroyed sex drive even though they are happily with another partner?Check your thyroid and testosterone level levels. Another suggestion quit porn | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 04:11 AM |
| 6 | Gentlemen, I have a dating question.So where’s the red flag??? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/25 02:54 AM |
| -3 | How many wives admitted they regret the divorce?There’s a reason why I said dm me . I don’t want to expose and shame people | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/25 07:21 PM |
| -2 | How many wives admitted they regret the divorce?Message me if you want to hear the truth thoughts I have about this . I don’t regret it ask me why in dm | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/25 03:50 PM |
| 1 | She wants space, but my heart can't take it anymore.Focus on repairing yourself. Your friends are correct. If you give her a gift do not text or call her . | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/25 08:55 PM |
| 0 | She wants space, but my heart can't take it anymore.Don’t give up. Please show her you are really trying to correct the mistakes you’ve made but seeking out therapy. Send her a gift tell her how sorry you are and you’re committed to working on the relationship and your self . If that’s you who just DMed me than I’ll respond later I’m going to work. She’s probably sleeping over her friends house or going for coffees or at her parents etc. Don’t listen to alll these guys there’s a small percentage of women who actually do the nasty . Even my ex thi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/25 08:24 PM |
| 2 | She wants space, but my heart can't take it anymore.It means she’s been hurt enough to completely revisit the idea of being married . I recognize you have admitted to doing things you shouldn’t have maybe see a therapist to work through that. As some have suggested “new dick” not always the case . I left and no new dick in fact I wish I had one hot kind with all the qualities I want and a dick but no. I went ice cold too and still am . But no new dick . I could have dick but I don’t want any old dick and I most certainly don’t want someone else’s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/25 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Repost from InfidelityI see you are a Christian if you need extra prayers you may PM me. Praying for you brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/25 12:47 AM |
| 4 | Repost from InfidelityMy God !!!!! This is 1000% nothing to do with you whatsoever. Her behaviour is a display of mentally unstable possibly pathological almost certain pathological. My guess is some sort of cluster B personality disorder or BP. Regardless I’m rooting for you, you and your kids don’t deserve this. I want to recommend that you do some therapy for betrayal trauma it’s a real thing and the kids as well. It most definitely helps to understand for 1 it’s not you and 2 how to move forward in a positive way… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/25 11:57 PM |
| 8 | Who is she?Listen there’s a price to pay for doing nasty things to people. No matter what you do there’s always a price. From an outsiders perspective looking in she’s with a total looser that #1, #2 the kids if they know what’s going on aren’t going to want a relationship with her and #3 life has a way of balancing it self out and people do pay for the hurt and pain they’ve caused . | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/25 08:14 PM |
| 30 | Who is she?She’s going to get screwed over big time…….. wait for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/25 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Lets say you have rock solid proof that your wife cheated with a married man. Do you tell the wife of the AP or keep silent to maintain the peace for the sake of your kids?Things to consider: Do you owe her alimony/child support? If so will this information affect or increase your payments?? Will this information affect the amount of alimony/support after divorce is completed? People are telling you too drop the bomb after divorce but this could still affect the alimony/child support payments. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/25 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Is she entitled to back child support?In my state they are entitled to retroactive child support and alimony however you could charge for half the mortgage, house insurance and property tax. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/25 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Hot Bedroom Toxic RelationshipThere’s a lot of unanswered questions here so hard to say what’s going on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/25 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Hot Bedroom Toxic RelationshipIs she high iqed?? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/25 08:05 PM |
| 2 | Hot Bedroom Toxic RelationshipOnly other mental illness that it could be is bipolar disorder. How do you know it’s not borderline? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/25 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Hot Bedroom Toxic RelationshipSounds like borderline personality disorder. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/25 04:27 PM |
| 0 | Reason for divorceThat’s what happened to me and my marriage. They truly don’t understand how this addiction affects self esteem and relationships. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/25 01:41 PM |
| 1 | A Guy I Work With…..I am a monogamous person by nature. It’s not hard for me to remain faithful. However i wonder if it’s worth it to be honest. My case is complex . | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 01:22 PM |
| 1 | A Guy I Work With…..Simply put because he deserves it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 08:56 PM |
| 1 | A Guy I Work With…..Question for you?? You are stating women cheat more is that what you are claiming?? Because that’s my understanding inferring what OP wrote and you mentioned statically…… I am aware of those other reasons you mentioned and yes i agree with that part . | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 10:32 PM |
| 0 | A Guy I Work With…..Can you cite your source, please? Curious to see. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 10:03 PM |
| 1 | A Guy I Work With…..I can see that and thank you. I don’t really care about the down votes its reasoning is obvious. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 06:16 PM |
| 4 | A Guy I Work With…..I’m not breaking any rules. I thought my comment would offer hope to those who have been betrayed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 02:20 PM |
| -7 | A Guy I Work With…..The sub you posted says divorced men . Perhaps it was a mistake? My comment reverence is related to op’s post and therefore wouldn’t make sense to post it in the divorced sub group. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 01:45 PM |
| 0 | A Guy I Work With…..No where in the rules does it say you must have a penis. I would suggest you go back and read the rules . This post however is breaking a rule. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 01:34 PM |
| -10 | A Guy I Work With…..What rule did I break ?? | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 01:22 PM |
| -30 | A Guy I Work With…..This isn’t true. I asked for a divorce and I don’t have another man but I can certainly tell you I wish I did. In case you are wondering if I can even get a man and the answer is yes I’m hit on daily . Believe me when I tell you I wish there was another man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 12:47 PM |
| 4 | I’m thinking of making a dating profile, brutally honest like how the women do.The turn on here …..The only person I will ever chase is Jesus Christ. I love it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/24 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Why are you angry ?I will be for sure and in terms of beauty I’m aging very gracefully unlike my ex. Then there’s always surgeries which I’m not into at 55. I’m finding men age worse than women. I am horrified at the physical appearance of men around my age. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/24 05:07 PM |
| 4 | Why are you angry ?Not in my case!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/24 05:08 AM |
| 6 | If you ever get lonely and just want to interact with some peopleReally!! That’s fascinating. I like this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/24 02:12 PM |
| 1 | How to justify it to her?I would encourage you to see a CSAT therapist as well for betrayal trauma. It’s a real thing and it’s really painful to be rejected in this manner just so you know heads up this intimacy anorexia if that’s what you relate to is an addiction. Please see Cal. There’s no shame in it just because you’re a man OK and I wish you all the best. I sincerely do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/24 11:20 PM |
| 1 | How to justify it to her?Look up, intimacy anorexia I’m not sure if you relate, but it sounds like that to me. Personally, I wouldn’t get into any details. I would just tell her straight out we’re getting divorced you’re making plans, but we’re getting divorced. Stay on course and I wish you all the best. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/24 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Sudden separationI’m a woman here . Don’t want to say much here but if you wanted to message me that’s fine . Same situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/24 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Can’t sleepTake melatonin. Don’t listen to the directions too much I’ve been taking 5 x 5mg per night for the last 30 years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/24 08:20 PM |
| 2 | How Do You Cope? (2 Years Out)I’m positive you’re a great guy lovable and good looking. Surround yourself with people who love you. Try another dating app. I know so many women who would love to be with a guy like you. Please take care of yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/24 03:06 AM |
| 2 | Finding potential evidence that..It’s a distraction. She’s doing the exact opposite of what any therapist/counsellor would advise. People need to properly grieve in order to move past the pain of divorce, there’s an actual process. She’s idiotic if she thinks these actions will move her forward with another man. My 2 cents: it’s truly not that simple to find “the one” or someone your truly compatible With in every regard. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/24 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Deep grief has passed but….I agree 100%. I would never rate myself that high. I’m merely stating what many have told me. For the purposes of this post , because you can’t see me and as a way to encourage this man I repeated what I’ve been told. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/24 01:06 PM |
| 2 | Deep grief has passed but….lol 😂 yup just like that….. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/24 04:13 AM |
| 2 | Deep grief has passed but….Can’t be true. Myself and all my friends are 9/10 and have all the redeeming qualities necessary for a normal healthy relationship. You are discouraged but I’m here to let you know we are out there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/24 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Peace vs loneliness.If you have a good support system lean on them. I recommend therapy, friends, family and hobbies. Lean on people who love you. It’s hard to find a decent person who you have chemistry with so good luck to your ex wife . It’s just not that simple. Regardless your ex is an asshole. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/24 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Dark placeDeal with the addictions ….. Don’t ignore/deny or refuse help. Denial is the biggest obstacle in addiction. Best of luck to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/24 03:09 PM |
| 1 | What did I do??You need a forensic accountant. They are fantastic at detecting deceit and hidden funds. It sounds like you don’t have a choice but to get one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/10/24 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Just Ride It OutDo you Love the girl friend ?? Do you Love her as much as your ex wife ?? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/24 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Took a woman out for supper for the first time since the split and I'm all messed up.Amen 🇨🇦 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/24 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Took a woman out for supper for the first time since the split and I'm all messed up.I’m Canadian as well . | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/24 10:46 PM |
| 2 | Took a woman out for supper for the first time since the split and I'm all messed up.Oh man she will come back if she’s a cluster B . Stay away. I wish you the very best. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/24 10:45 PM |
| 3 | Took a woman out for supper for the first time since the split and I'm all messed up.Omg stay away. I studied psychology for many years and I’m telling you she sounds like a cluster bee personality disorder person probably a borderline. They are very dangerous. Just stay clear from this girl. Don’t answer her calls. Tell her you’re dating somebody if she calls you cause I think she might return. Just know that you’re just discouraged. I understand how you feel but I’m telling you so many women out there would wanna snatch you right up. You sound like a really decent man . I only… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/24 09:33 PM |
| 9 | Took a woman out for supper for the first time since the split and I'm all messed up.This chick is messed up stay far far away from her. It’s absolutely not normal and her family dynamics play role in this. She probably has an avoidant personality type as well. You want to stay clear those types. I believe you’re feeling this way because you’re discouraged that it seems like there’s no good women out there. I as well believe that her morals and values donut lineup with yours and that’s why you feel the way you feel. It’s really discouragement . Trust me when I tell you there are… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/24 09:27 PM |
| 3 | ED? Performance Anxiety?? Wtf!?!That’s awesome keep it up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/24 01:37 AM |
| 2 | ED? Performance Anxiety?? Wtf!?!That’s fantastic I’m so happy for you. Did you go to therapy?? There’s nothing better than the real thing in my opinion. Congratulations on your recovery. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/24 01:24 AM |
| 2 | ED? Performance Anxiety?? Wtf!?!Absolutely brother I know all about it. A thief that comes to lie steel and destroy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/24 01:12 AM |
| 3 | ED? Performance Anxiety?? Wtf!?!Porn is bad news. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/24 01:01 AM |
| 1 | ED? Performance Anxiety?? Wtf!?!Merely for the purposes of education. Not everyone knows the affects. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 09:23 PM |
| 3 | ED? Performance Anxiety?? Wtf!?!Yes absolutely. People don’t realize how this truly affects relationships and sex. It’s a real thing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 08:10 PM |
| 3 | ED? Performance Anxiety?? Wtf!?!Moodiness, irritability, no motivation, depression, anxiety, dead bedroom, no confidence, PIED, lying , cheating, blaming, gaslighting, manipulation, escalation. Pretty crap to have those effects. I’m not being rude because OP has pretty crappy situation on his hands and I sincerely feel for him. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 07:51 PM |
| 3 | ED? Performance Anxiety?? Wtf!?!Better not to use at all has very harmful effects in multiple areas of life . | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Reasons for separating leading to the gif D.Horrible situation. Look into something called intimacy anorexia not sure if you relate but it’s a thing. Sometimes the issues are deeper. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 03:37 PM |
| 10 | ED? Performance Anxiety?? Wtf!?!It’s the porn. That shit fucks your life up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 03:31 PM |
| 2 | After mediation in WA (no-fault state): 56% and $3,700 per month to herMore like offering encouragement. Here’s the 🎤 if you can offer something positive. Have a great day ahead!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/24 02:39 PM |
| -6 | After mediation in WA (no-fault state): 56% and $3,700 per month to herI’m a woman snooping this thread because I just want some insight on how you men operate, hope you don’t mind . Firstly, I want to say I’m so sorry that this happened to you. I just want to give you some perspective on high-quality women and my circle of friends and acquaintances and we’re all successful. Good looking never known anybody to do this business except for people that are really terribly broken and come from horrible families , thought I’d just let you know that there are good women … | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/24 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Dating Culture in the U.S. is Broken; Seeking Honest OpinionsYour welcome. I would suggest anywhere in the real world and be authentic, bold and approach women. I was recently approached 2x at the grocery store last week. I politely declined because I’m only 3 months separated and don’t want to drag someone else down. I need to heal but at the same time feel the pressure of my age . Meeting people through other people, lounges are a big thing here, gym , activities. I recommend that you make the time. I don’t have a lot of time either however, I try and m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/24 11:54 AM |
| 3 | Dating Culture in the U.S. is Broken; Seeking Honest OpinionsI’m a recently separated 54 year old woman. I think the dating app is the problem. I’m dreading just the thought of it and tbh I have at least 10 single beautiful, successful women that I know who are friends of mine who are having a hard time with these apps . You are meeting one section of the population who are superficial and shallow . I am myself very beautiful, very thin 115lbs 5’5 and I’m looking for my soulmate with depth , deep conversation and a truly genuine, honest person I too was c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/24 11:35 AM |
| 3 | Getting back with ex wife after a dirvorceIt really depends on the reason you divorced in the first place and if there’s a solid solution to your problems along with the way you communicate with each other. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/24 05:30 AM |
| 4 | In the military and ex wife is at it againI wouldn’t bother although you haven’t mentioned if she actually posted your name in that YouTube comment so wondering how this is really affecting your character? These cases are difficult to win because you have to prove that’s she’s really affected your business, work, socially etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/24 12:59 PM |
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