BeautyBeaux Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
19	Blindsided divorce after our baby was born. A year later I’m still struggling with the lack of closure.		BeautyBeaux	/r/Divorce_Men	12/03/26 01:56 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	One of the strangest parts of this process is how normal you still have to look while your life is under pressure. In the 1 yr from my wife leaving unexpectedly to the divorce being finalized I think I’ve aged 5 years In the face. Not a bad thing though. More masculine and shredded in the best shape of my life	/r/Divorce_Men	11/04/26 12:54 AM
9	What hope is there in any LTR after Divorce revelations? My wife left 14 months ago. Divorce final for 2 months. Married for 2.5 yrs and minus normal new parent stresses of arguing, lack of sleep etc. Always thought we had a wonderful relationship. Came home from work one day and her and our 7 month old baby were gone. No abuse, no cheating, I was always loyal and loving. Ghosted me, my family etc. essentially haven’t spoken since she left. Told me “il never tell you why I left or why I left the way I did”. Going from that morning of laughing and “I l…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/26 11:50 AM
1	I've come to the realization that marriage and divorce are all about the woman in life and in courts. I like what he had to say that makes sense I’m going to give that a try. Thanks man I appreciate your help and chattin with me	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/26 02:14 AM
1	I've come to the realization that marriage and divorce are all about the woman in life and in courts. Sorry I must sound like a broken record at this point haha. My brain must just be trying to make some sort of sense to it by replaying over an over. Yeah it honestly does feel demonic at times it’s wild. I know someday il get to say my piece to her and her father and my family will have a chance eventually too. We’re not going anywhere and we’ll be at every soccer game, school play etc. they’ll know how we feel. They need to be told what they did was not ok. That’s not how you end a family and t…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/26 01:43 AM
1	I've come to the realization that marriage and divorce are all about the woman in life and in courts. She left 14 months ago. Still any communication is like an HR rep about our daughter. No explanation. Refusal to talk about any of it from the beginning g. To be with someone make a vow, create a family, have a home etc and to leave in silence without a single attempt at repair with a 7 month old baby. Is such a moral injustice idk how to get past it. The cruelty all around from her is mind blowing. Smiling and laughing saying I love you that morning to coming home to an empty house essentially …	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/26 01:10 AM
2	I've come to the realization that marriage and divorce are all about the woman in life and in courts. Shit I wish I had gotten that. I came home to an empty house divorce papers a week later. Never discussed a divorce once just gone. No conversation no counseling just poof took the baby and ran. Said “il never tell you why I left” beyond cruel	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/26 12:57 AM
2	I've come to the realization that marriage and divorce are all about the woman in life and in courts. I got screwed with that too. Only married 2 yrs. Increased in value 90k. Bs. Bought the home a few years before marriage. Plus my 401k increase over the 2 years had to cut her an 80k check. Unfair to say the least	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/26 12:55 AM
2	How to succeed in supervised visitation with 7 month old son Not sure about supervised visitation but just the fact you’re asking questions and wanting to do the best you can shows you’ll be fine. Bring those things. If you don’t use them fine no harm but try to go above and beyond. Bring books, toys etc. play and talk with him how you naturally would you’ll be all good	/r/Divorce_Men	20/03/26 04:54 PM
8	Doing everything right only gave me more pain and suffering. I hear you man. I did everything right too. Always wanted to be a husband and a father. It was my life’s goal. Would dream about family camping trips, the little moments, first steps together, sharing that all with someone I wanted to spend my life with. Got the house, got married, good job, always present, every decision I made was about being the best father and husband I could be. Came home to an empty house after work. Wife gone 7 month old daughter gone. Life ended in a moment. Divorce file…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/03/26 05:25 PM
5	3 years removed from divorce, it’s like the woman I knew died. I know the feel. Most of the time feels surreal almost like you’re watching someone else’s life and then you think holy shit this is my life. I’m 14 months from the day she left and 1 month since divorce has been finalized. We had a wonderful relationship up until a flip switched in her head the day our daughter was born. The person after that was an entirely different person. She left with our 7 month old and filed. I never got an explanation or even an attempt to fight for my marriage or new f…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/03/26 10:13 PM
2	Help please He should be entitled to any increase in value or equity from the date they got married though. I know I had to pay out even though I purchased the home before marriage and only my name was on it. Paid 260k appraised 350k had to give her 45k of that…. Absolute bs. Plus half my 401k gains from the date we were married to currently	/r/Divorce_Men	13/03/26 05:25 PM
3	Help please If the mortgage was paid while they were married he should be entitled to a portion. I owned my home before marriage and I had to pay her the half the value from purchase price to the appraisal number	/r/Divorce_Men	13/03/26 05:20 PM
1	Blindsided divorce after our baby was born. A year later I’m still struggling with the lack of closure. How am I supposed to “coparent” with someone who clearly has zero respect for my rights as a father and is 30 yrs old and has her own father driving her to every single exchange of her 2yr old daughter. The family dynamic on that side is so dysfunctional. Full of control and emotional immaturity and enmeshment	/r/Divorce_Men	13/03/26 03:14 PM
1	Blindsided divorce after our baby was born. A year later I’m still struggling with the lack of closure. Yep it’s truly unbelievable lol. She’s told me before I’m not allowed to talk to her too lmao. You can’t make this stuff up. She regressed to a 12yr old girl with her dad running her life it’s been wild to watch. My lawyer does multiple divorces every single day and he told me he’s never seen anything like it. Her zero explanation for the divorce, her bizarre demands etc. she wrote me a 6 page rule book for when I have our daughter when I first got her back. What she can eat, when to feed, what …	/r/Divorce_Men	13/03/26 03:11 PM
1	Blindsided divorce after our baby was born. A year later I’m still struggling with the lack of closure. Seems to be a common theme with lots of women. Lock it in and your time will be your time. Since my daughter is so young and not in school it’s a 2/2/3 schedule. Rotating 3 day weekends. I still have to deal with bs controlling crap but at this point ignore 95% she fought to use an app to communicate so I finally said fine even though texting is free and what most normal couples use. We went to mediation for the sole reason she refused to text to communicate and wanted an app with “tone meter” t…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/03/26 02:23 PM
1	Blindsided divorce after our baby was born. A year later I’m still struggling with the lack of closure. Honestly didn’t have to do much. Our daughter was only 7months old and was taken without warning. I wasn’t an absent father and drove an hr almost everyday just to see my daughter. Showed that I was fully involved and that equal placement was in her best interest. I documented everything. Lots of pictures, texts of effort, schedules, logged our days what we did what we ate etc but it never even came to that. She came up with a bogus narrative that I had a drinking problem (I’d have a 6 pack or 1…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/03/26 01:59 PM
0	Blindsided divorce after our baby was born. A year later I’m still struggling with the lack of closure. Was in the back of my head bc if she could do what she did than anything is possible. But before our daughter was born things were amazing. Zero issues. Worked together everyday and spent every moment together 24/7. Really don’t think we even spent an hour apart around the time she got pregnant. Daughter looks a lot like me too. It might be worth doing but that would be devastating if somehow she wasn’t mine idk what I would do	/r/Divorce_Men	12/03/26 07:08 PM
2	Blindsided divorce after our baby was born. A year later I’m still struggling with the lack of closure. I know that’s typically the case I just don’t see it in my scenario. We were together 24/7. I think I was replaced emotionally by her father. She always felt her dad loved her sister more than her and after the birth was her chance to get close to her dad since he came over to watch the baby a couple days a week. He encouraged the divorce. Packed up her stuff, drives her to every exchange, stepped in and said no to couples therapy etc. she lives at home now and is entirely dependent on her fathe…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/03/26 02:24 PM
6	Blindsided divorce after our baby was born. A year later I’m still struggling with the lack of closure. The look of shock on their faces when the judge immediately said 50/50. She wanted me to see my daughter Monday Tuesday from 4-7 and every other Saturday 10-3. Unbelievable. Makes me sick to my stomach. Ive wanted to be a dad my entire life and not to toot my horn but im a damn good one too. And they thought they could erase me. So shameful	/r/Divorce_Men	12/03/26 12:58 PM
2	Blindsided divorce after our baby was born. A year later I’m still struggling with the lack of closure. Thank you all so much for the responses. It really means a lot and it’s extremely helpful hearing from people who understand what this is like. I haven’t yet looked into the seven stages of grief and how they might apply to me, but I probably should. As far as cheating goes, I really don’t think that was the reason. Our relationship was perfect until our daughter was born. None of the issues started until after that. We were together constantly — we worked together and when we weren’t working we…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/03/26 11:45 AM