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Become_Pneuma/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 05:22 PM
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Don’t overthink it. Have fun.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 05:58 PM
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👆🏻
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 02:56 PM
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Tale as old as time, amigo.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 09:20 PM
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Brother in Christ please consult a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 04:18 AM
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This is my exact situation with my 14 yr old daughter. Psychiatrist also recommends not forcing anything. I coached her softball teams for years, never missed an appointment/recital/conference, volunteered in her classrooms, daddy/daughter dates, and more. In my case, I suspect some pseudo-parental alienation issues. I know for a fact my ex makes consistent negative, underhanded comments about me. My daughter is mostly on her phone in her room when at mom’s house. Her grades are also slipping. M…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 08:57 PM
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Was also married 13 years. Two young daughters. Divorced 2 years now. Based on my situation my recommendation is to suck it up and either continue working to repair the relationship or stick it out until your daughters are grown. The divorce wrecked my daughters and the financial fallout is brutal. Countless other 2nd and 3rd order effects. I don’t say this lightly either. I know very well what you are going through. Wish you all the best.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 04:07 AM
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You can’t get a match even with the ugliest single moms on the apps?
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 06:54 PM
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Dang man that sucks. Keep at it. Find a good barber and fix the mane. Maybe try growing a beard. Really not bragging but I have unlimited likes on the apps. Admittedly, the fact that I am 6’2” probably helps a ton. Not much our short kings can do about that. I’m decent to good looking but certainly not a model. Also, women can smell the desperation. Maybe work on your confidence a bit. Be assertive and a gentleman. The girls I go on dates with describe the average guy on the apps, which is where…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 06:53 PM
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This is the way
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 05:11 PM
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Bro- you gotta get in the gym. Get some nice clothes and spend some $$$ on a good haircut. It takes effort but most guys are too lazy to improve themselves. Trust me when I say the bar is low.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 04:03 PM
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Jolie is the exact type of person to do this. The kids seem like spoiled, entitled brats. Not surprising given they grew up without a male in the picture.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 09:52 AM
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Take your ex’s age and deduct 10 from that number. The resulting value will be the age target of the lucky gal you will date to forget about your ex. Works 100% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 12:38 AM
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Same. DB for 3 years for me. Got laid the day my divorce was finalized. Being starved of intimacy and human touch for years was brutal. I’ve definitely made up for lost time.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 02:32 PM
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Not when pensions and 401k’s are involved. He needs a QDRO to separate his retirement for years married vs not married. Getting half a pension for 9 years vs 30 years is a big difference v
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/26 04:58 PM
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King. I love it. Have put it to good use making up for lost time after a decade of dead bedroom.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 03:33 PM
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Children of divorce have higher rates of teen pregnancy, incarceration, substance abuse, divorcing themselves, lower lifetime earnings, and a ton of other negative effects.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 08:17 AM
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Was a rough day for my family as well. Little did we know things would get much worse after the divorce. Divorce should be illegal in cases where young children are involved (assuming no abuse).
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 08:15 AM
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Another classic case. Social media has created a false illusion that anything less than a 100% perfect and exciting marriage is grounds for blowing up a family. Women have zero loyalty and accountability anymore. Self-absorbed and entitled. Perpetual victimhood. Keep your heads on a swivel out there boys.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 04:49 PM
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Another classic case. Sorry man it sucks. Get a lawyer and spend all your free time with friends and in the gym. HIGHLY recommend getting a younger gal to have fun with to make up for lost time if you know what I mean.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 03:56 AM
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If you don’t want kids/family then absolutely hell no do not get married. You have zero reason to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 12:01 AM
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Yup she is setting the stage that she cheated because you drove her to. Your wife sounds like a bitch. Exactly like my ex and same situation. Divorce devastated my daughters of similar age to your kids. No advice. It’s a fucked up situation.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 01:54 AM
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I had a friend invite me to church after my divorce (married 13 years). Took my young daughters even though we never went before. We were all hurting so figured what could it hurt and daughters wanted to check it out. Turns out they loved it and it kinda became our thing. Did I tell my ex? Fuck no. Why? Because fuck her and she doesn’t get to control me anymore. Good and decent families/people attend church and the message is generally a positive one. Personally, it kinda hyped me up for the com…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 01:46 AM
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Fuck her. Forget about her. Get on trt and get in the gym. Next, use your new found attention from women to snatch up a better looking/younger gal that will make you instantly forget about the ex.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 09:53 PM
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Hell ya man. Also, I recommend hopping on trt. The benefits are too many to list.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 04:21 PM
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Sucks man. Start caring about yourself. Hit the gym and find a new hobby. Eat healthy, get sun, and walk everywhere. Find a younger gal to spend time with. You alone determine how this turns out. Make the rest of your life count.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 04:09 AM
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I second this. I do an annual hunting trip with the boys and it’s amazing. I come back from living in harsh elements for a week, smell like a campfire, covered in blood, and meat in the cooler. Just as us men were intended to live. Refreshes me until the next hunt. Highly recommend.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 03:40 PM
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I agree. I’ll never forget all the countless hours on the field I spent with my daughters.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 09:26 PM
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This is an important question and one I wish I pondered more prior to my failed 13 year marriage. I wish I had an older, experienced male sit me down and help me question things more before getting married. Divorce with young children is one of the worst things a family can go through. Comparable to a serious form of non-fatal cancer. Here is what I learned from my own experience. Learn how your partner argues and handles conflict resolution. This is important. In my case, my ex is 1000% incapab…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 05:26 PM
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You’ll be in a worse financial position if you divorce. Also, I don’t recommend divorcing with children. I’ll get downvoted for saying that but a hill I will die on. Good luck man. You are in a lose/lose situation.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 12:04 AM
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👆🏻
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 04:35 PM
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She is on her “healing journey”.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 05:41 PM
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Another classic case. Sorry brother. The woman that you married is dead and no longer exists. The sooner you can completely forget about her the better. Get in the gym and on trt and re-masculate yourself. I know it sounds cliche but it works.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 05:40 PM
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Another classic case. The comments in this thread are terrifying. Keep your heads on a swivel, gents.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 05:38 PM
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Agree, once she is checked out there is nothing you can do to remedy the situation. Best to improve yourself physically and mentally to help you weather the shitstorm that is the divorce process.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:48 PM
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This man out here sharing secrets only obtained by years, possibly decades, of experience. Women will never admit it but this is all accurate. I learned all this too late and am now divorced. Learn to control your emotions and always stay calm. Be the rock for your family. Make sure they know you will always have shit under control. If you have kids you need to get your house in order.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:00 AM
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Sounds pretty standard my man. Sucks you have to go through it though and wish you the best.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 11:10 PM
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Not even remotely close to the craziest. Actually, sounds a lot less crazy than 90% of divorce cases.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 07:13 AM
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Listen to this man. Control only what you are able to control. Ask to meet the new boyfriend and make your presence known. You are involved and watching. Assert your dominance and role as their father. Make it clear there will be consequences if he harms your children in any way.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 04:09 PM
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Get a DNA test for the children. Being that you have young children my recommendation is to do everything possible to save the marriage. You’re in the thick of it now but certainly salvageable if you put in the time and effort. Hit the gym and lift to exhaustion. Be a good dad and present for the kids. Hopefully she is just in a postpartum and grief rut and will eventually snap out of it. Be the man of the house and do everything possible to get your house in order. Your kids are depending on yo…
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 05:31 PM
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No. Admittedly, I have some advantages such as being tall, in shape, and have a high salary. These things get them in the door pretty easily, and I can filter out the walking red flags at that point. It’s all about opportunity. Prioritize getting in shape and improving your station in life. Be confident.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 01:50 PM
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Nevermind, just read your profile and wow. Hope you get the help you need lady.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 01:18 AM
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Another classic case. Best of luck to you and your children having to deal with this selfish, vile woman for years to come.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 12:02 AM
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You can’t get a divorce man
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 02:28 PM
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While I have improved every facet of my life since the lows during my divorce, I still have to live with the fact I am now missing 50% of my kids lives. This has been truly devastating for me and not sure how to get over it. My rage fuels me though and I will keep pressing forward.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/25 07:56 PM
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Sure. Example “I cheated on my husband but it’s his fault because he didn’t make me feel seen”. Then proceeds to talk about her “healing journey” to anyone who will listen. But it can also be very minor things where she obviously messed something up, but she won’t own it and deflect blame to some completely irrelevant. Example: she burns dinner because she was distracted by instagram turns into “my husband do anything to help me”. Meanwhile he’s outside changing the oil on her car.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/25 07:14 PM
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Mid-40’s here and divorced 1 year. 2 children ages 9 & 13. Here’s how I see it: after not getting laid during the last few years of my marriage I jumped right back on the horse once the divorce was finalized. Started dating a beautiful gal 10 years younger. She is the complete opposite of my ex in every way. I’ve noticed these younger girls aren’t as infected with entitlement and lack of accountability like women my age. More data is needed but this is my initial observation. Doubt i’ll ever get…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 04:39 PM
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Go to the gym and lift heavy to exhaustion, and get yourself a girlfriend 10 years younger. I promise that if you do these things you will be ok. Head up, brother… go live your life however you see fit. You are free now.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 04:13 AM
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Go to the gym and workout till exhaustion
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/25 02:55 AM
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Man let bro use his hate as fire. Let him cook.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 03:12 PM
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I hear that. OP’s situation mirrors my own almost exactly. My daughters see I have become a much better man, which was mainly born out of necessity to make things easier on them and to keep myself sane. Divorce is hard on everyone. For me it was a wake up call to get my shit together. I hope my ex does the same for the sake of our girls.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 09:14 PM
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Many such cases
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 05:24 AM
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Well said, brother. I am about a year out. Having my family blown up and being steamrolled by my ex was by far the worst thing I have ever gone through. The dust is still settling but getting better day by day. I miss my daughters when I don’t have them, and I feel terrible their lives were impacted so severely. We have 2 paths to choose from: 1. Have a perpetual pity party and sit around feeling sorry for ourselves or 2. Get busy picking up the pieces and carve out a new life that is fulfilling…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:17 PM
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I’ve interviewed tons of engineers for my job and have been able to isolate certain characteristics that foreshadow competence. When interviewing lawyers I was looking for similar traits. Didn’t care about what school they went to or cost. Someone with experience in your jurisdiction helps. Especially if they have a relationship and/or rapport with the judges. This is the most impactful factor in my opinion. I just scheduled consultations with several lawyers until I found one that checked the b…
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 10:28 PM
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Have zero expectations. Focus on self improvement while seeing what’s out there. If an amazing woman comes along then just roll with it. In my situation, my ex cut off sex years before we divorced. Wasted many of my prime years in a sexless marriage. I definitely made up for lost time, which was great and helped me restore confidence. Realized there are countless women that appreciate what I have to offer. Found one that is seemingly perfect so rolling with that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 06:03 PM
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Another classic case. Girls trips are frequently the catalyst that gets them to act. “Know your worth girl” and other bullshit fed to them is all it takes. There is no getting her back at this point. Your children are the primary victims. Sorry man.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 05:31 PM
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Keep fighting and pushing on. Be consistent in the gym and healthy diet. Get your testosterone levels checked and get on trt if needed. The process of divorce is brutal, but things get drastically better once finalized and you are settled into your new living arrangement. Get laid. Do what you have to do to just keep going. There is no other option.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 05:53 PM
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I HIGHLY disagree with this. Let me explain. “Do the work” and “meet in the middle” is all a facade. Once a woman starts individual therapy the relationship is over. I am a former therapist. There is a certain type of individual who becomes a therapist, which is not like me at all (masculine white guy). I left the field altogether because it’s entirely bullshit. Therapists actually receive VERY little training in how to do therapy. Additionally, most therapists are bitter single women, lesbian b…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 03:53 PM
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Another classic case. I went through something similar. It’s over man. The woman you married no longer exists. Get a good lawyer. Expensive but worth it. Continue being a good father and demonstrate what a good leader looks like. Hit the gym daily with no exceptions, and surround yourself with those that care about you. The process of divorce is terrible but improves very rapidly once finalized and you are settled in your new living arrangement. Try and get to that point. Good luck man.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 03:44 PM
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Man you need a lawyer. Worth the money.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 04:59 AM
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This is solid advice. Divorce is absolutely brutal on kids that age, so I would try and salvage if you can. She’s probably identified your potential replacement and having an emotional affair at minimum. Just something to be aware of. It is very difficult to impossible to reel in an unhappy wife back from the brink but it is possible in rare cases. All you can do at this point is focus on yourself and kids. Gym everyday is highly recommended.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 06:47 PM
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Another classic case. Listen brother and listen good. The sooner you realize she is gone and not coming back the better. Your high school sweetheart is dead and no longer exists. You don’t realize it but be VERY thankful you didn’t have kids with her. Now the cliche but 100% effective advice: get in the gym everyday, eat healthy, surround yourself with those who love you, and generally focus on yourself with the intent of self-improvement and finding what makes you happy. Good luck, sir.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 06:19 PM
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This is top tier advice. OP listen to this man. I could’ve folded easily but instead embraced my role as the stable, unmovable rock for my daughters. They needed that more than ever.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 07:05 PM
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Worst day of my life telling my daughters. No way to sugarcoat it for them. Their lives will he upended and changed forever. They did not take it well. Hope things went better for you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 07:00 PM
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This is the only correct path to take. Deleted my ex from my life completely, aside from kid handoffs/discussions, and I give exactly zero fucks as to what she is up to.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/25 05:09 PM
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No same. She gets every weds and Thursday. Then every other fri-sun. Works out to each of us getting 7 days out of every 2 weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 10:09 PM
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Ya fuck this. I have the kids every monday and Tuesday. Every other Friday-Sunday. Do that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 09:44 PM
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Yes. This behavior is very normal for women with daddy issues. As far as I can tell there is nothing that can be done to mitigate the problem. I’ve just accepted it as a part of life I have to deal with.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 04:15 PM
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Good lord this scared the shit out of me. I guess a good reminder of why I should continue to save my receipts. Resonate with the “I hope I never have to use it but…” comment. My ex has been pretty reasonable so far, minus making minor inflammatory/false comments to our daughters. Who knows how she could escalate in the future. Thanks for the great comment, sir.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 10:13 PM
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Another classic case. Having gone through something similar, my recommendation is to forget about this access and move on. Forget about her completely and focus on improving yourself and healing from the death of your family. Take care of your kids and be there for them. They are the true victims in all this. She knows what she did and will suffer a lifetime of guilt. You want her to be in a good headspace so she can be a good mom to your kids, so no need to rub her face in the wake of bullshit …
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 10:04 PM
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I don’t see one comment in this entire thread that assumes you didn’t have a lawyer. I saw one comment asking if you did.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 11:05 PM
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While you are correct that judges decide your fate, they 100% prefer it when everyone is lawyered up. The judges and lawyers know each other well after working together daily. Good lawyers pick up on small nuances of how certain judges handle things which can greatly work in your favor. This dynamic makes it 100% worth it to get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 10:02 PM
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Legend. I was on this same path for my kids until my now ex-wife bailed. It’s been fun making up for lost time. My kids will also be left everything when that time comes.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 09:55 PM
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Your father did the honorable thing by sticking it out for the kids. If the parents generally get along somewhat decent, an intact household is ALWAYS 1000% better than 2 households. Your mom probably cut him off sexually for years, and he did a good job of keeping his girlfriend secret. Glad he was able to find balance and die a happy man. I’ve been in a years long sexless marriage and it is brutal. Never cheated but don’t blame your dad at all.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 08:10 PM
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Well said. I couldn’t care less about what my ex is up to or what she thinks about me. Focus all of my energy on my kids, and surrounding myself with those who are supportive and bring me peace. I’ve wasted too many years already.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 07:42 PM
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Not sure why the downvotes. This guy is clearly a piece of work hellbent on destroying his family and ruining his kids lives. Hopefully mom gets full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 01:57 PM
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Watching my children struggle just makes me fucking hate my ex so much more. I agree. Totally not their fault. They are innocent victims of my ex’s decision to blow up the family. I also feel like I owe them due to my failure to keep the family together. I spoil them, give them 100% of my attention when they are with me, and generally just try and make life as easy as possible for them. I feel so bad for them.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 03:46 PM
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Middle aged women nuking families when there is no abuse or cheating is a real problem. Not sure what the root cause is, but I suspect they are egged on by their retarded friends (“know your worth girl!), fucked up societal pressures to “live your best life” (as seen on instagram), sense of entitlement and selfishness, and/or this generation of women growing up constantly being told they are special. Losing my family and missing out on 50% of my kids lives almost threw me over the edge. Things h…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 04:34 PM
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Damn. Sorry man. Right now you need to stay focused. Put all of your effort into securing custody of your son. Get a good lawyer and document every attempt to see your child. Focus on self improvement in diet, gym, and sleep. Lean on those who care about you. This will help you stay mentally and physically strong for the battle you are facing. It sucks man but please do not sit around and mope about it. Don’t play the victim. This won’t help you. Fight like your life depends on it. Good luck bro…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 04:20 PM
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I’m referring to the phenomenon of middle aged women blowing up their families for seemingly selfish reasons. It’s a major problem that needs to be studied. The children are the primary victims. For me, the unbearable part was the loss of my family. I feel/felt so bad for my children.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 04:15 PM
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Another classic case. Sorry brother.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 03:34 PM
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The process of divorce is one of the worst things someone can go through. It was pretty traumatic for me. Mainly the thought of losing my family including 50% of my time with my young daughters was unbearable. I felt/feel so bad for them. Felt like I failed as a father even though it was mom who blew up the family for no reason. Things improved significantly once the divorce was finalized and we were settled into our new living arrangement. Try and get to that point. Surround yourself with those…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 05:09 PM
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Another classic case. Sorry bro. Some good advice already given which I recommend you follow.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 05:20 PM
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She’s not working out for you homeboy. Forget about her. Get in the gym and find a younger girlfriend that likes to fuck. I’ve been dating a gal 10 years younger than me for 8 months, and we have fucked more than my entire 13 year marriage. Highly recommend you go find yourself one of these.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 02:16 PM
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I had pussy thrown in my face my entire dead bedroom marriage. I did the honorable thing and did not cheat even tho my ex withheld. This is a shitty copout and only for those with zero morals.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 04:40 PM
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Probably a true statement. I moved on pretty quickly from my ex who blew up the family. Regardless, I still want the best for her and for her to he happy. Mainly because we share custody and I want her to be in a healthy state for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 04:25 PM
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Another classic case.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 01:02 AM
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Another classic case. Sorry man. These women blowing up their families are truly vile human beings. Just continue to be a good dad and be present for them.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 12:53 AM
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🙋 another narcissist reporting for duty. My ex tried to pull that shit on me.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 10:03 PM
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It’s an interesting phenomenon. Happened to me and many others I know. I believe heavy research is warranted to identify the root cause and corrective actions.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/25 06:13 PM
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Holy shit this is exactly what happened to my ex. Sad she blew up the family over some false narrative she developed in her mind over time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 08:16 AM
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Shows like Sex and the City ruined an entire generation of women.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 07:16 PM
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Another classic case. The sooner you accept the fact your marriage is over the better. Your wife as you know her has crossed the bridge and there is no coming back. The process of divorce is very traumatic. Losing your family and watching your children suffer is very difficult. However, once the divorce is finalized and you are settled in to your new living arrangements things improve drastically. Focus on getting to that finish line. Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 05:33 PM
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Sage advice. OP listen to this man.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 01:36 PM
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A classic case. A divorce is not warranted because you hurt her feelings a few times. She is probably having an emotional and/or physical affair. There is likely nothing you can do at this point except prepare for divorce. Contact an attorney. Sorry this is happening to you. Wives in their mid-30s to mid-40’s are blowing up their families for no apparent reason at an alarming rate.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 01:34 PM
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Therapy isn’t for me. I see no point in rehashing old traumas and dwelling on things. What worked for me was the gym. I did heavyweights and cardio to extreme exhaustion. This is a cure for depression and anxiety. It sucks while doing it but I would force myself to the gym. Not going was not an option. Side effects of feeling/looking much better and getting a new girlfriend a decade younger that treats me like a king. My recommendation is to spend counseling time in the gym instead. Lift heavy a…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/25 04:59 PM
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Same with me. 3 years of rejections and zero sex took a significant toll on me. Was in a very dark place. Recently divorced and making up for lost time.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/25 04:52 PM
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Yup. They always move the goalposts. I went without sex for 3 years. Finally divorced recently and making up for lost time. It has been amazing.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/25 04:50 PM
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I think he is bringing one perspective, and imo it is worth hearing.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 06:14 PM
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This is what I did and can confirm it works. Hit the gym, focus on the kids, reconnect with old friends, go to church, etc. Also, getting a girlfriend 10 years younger and treats me like a king helped massively. Recommend avoiding therapy. Doesn’t help to sit there and dwell on your problems. Like OP said, man the fuck up and move on. Most therapists don’t have legitimate education and training, and get in to the field because they are fucked up themselves. Good luck brothers.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 06:12 PM
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Thankfully the ex has a great salary and it was a clean split. She bought me out of our home which had a fuck load of equity. No child support or alimony in either direction. We had zero debt. Life is good. I realize I got lucky in this regard and many on this sub got taken to the cleaners.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 02:03 PM
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I don’t care
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 01:59 PM
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My ex-wife withheld sex from me for 3 years and ultimately blew up the family. 2 young kids were the primary victims of her selfishness. Once the divorce settled I focused on self improvement. Hit the gym religiously, focused on the kiddos, and spent time with friends. Also started going to church with the kids. Hopped on the apps and discovered that I was in high demand. Now dating a nice gal 11 years younger and she treats me like a king. She is 1000 x hotter than my ex. Definitely making up f…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 03:08 AM
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My honest opinion would be to stop going to therapy and use that time to hit the gym. Force yourself to do intense exercise daily. You will feel 1000% better and develop confidence. This is where I would start along with eating healthy. Good luck man.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/25 04:18 AM
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Interesting
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/25 10:14 PM
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Disagree… should say “which do you think would suck less for the kids?”
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 02:13 PM
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Although life has been exponentially better for me post-divorce, I can see it has been very difficult for my youngish children. My wife left me so I had no say in the matter, but if given the choice I would stay so the kids can have a stable 2-parent home. Also, seeing them 50% less is pretty devastating. My advice is to make the ultimate sacrifice and stay for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 02:12 PM
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A classic case. Forget about her and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 01:55 PM
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Threw mine in the trash where it belongs.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 03:53 AM
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I have some theories on this. I’m convinced an entire generation of women were raised to have a victim mindset. This coupled with social media influences taught them they deserve nothing less than a perfect husband. The grass is greener as they say. They are selfish and entitled, and have zero problem blowing up their families. The kids are the primary victims of this phenomenon. I am raising my daughters to have personal accountability, and high morals and ethics. Family is everything. It takes…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 07:04 PM
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She will be in for a rude awakening. As for you, hire a lawyer asap. The gym will be a mandatory part of your day now. Work on yourself. The process of divorce is horrible. However, once it is over and you are settled in a new place, I think you will discover it is the best thing to ever happen to you. Your wife, however, is living in fantasy land and reality will smack her firmly in the face. Good luck, bro.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/25 05:42 PM
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Sorry man. I don’t miss my ex per se, however I do miss my family. I feel so bad for my young daughters who were the main victims in all of this. I’ve come to realize my ex, who pushed the divorce, has some serious issues and there was nothing I could do to salvage the marriage/family. Divorce final 6 months ago and I’m still grieving the death of my family and the future I had envisioned. Also have a younger girlfriend who treats me like a king, but I still get depressed when sitting in my hous…
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 06:16 PM
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Had zero intimacy the last few years of my marriage. Now making up for lost time. We’ve only got one life and I intend to make the most of it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 03:38 AM
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Got myself a girlfriend that is 11 years younger than me, 10x hotter than my ex, and wants to fuck daily. Highly recommend.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 02:21 AM
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Started dating a gal prior to my divorce being finalized. Wife filed in april and I moved out in July when I started dating. Been with the same woman since August and have zero regrets. She is 100% the complete opposite of my ex in every way possible. In a good way. My recommendation is to take things slow. I’m on high alert about the possibility of being burned again. I say date privately and enjoy the intimacy until the divorce is final. Once final all bets are off. We only have one short life…
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 08:27 PM
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My ex was a “walk away wife”. I think you are on to something with the “grass is greener” grifting sewing circles on social media. Additionally, their pathetic friend groups help them rationalize blowing up their families.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 05:13 AM
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Great post that reflects my experience exactly. Life is great without that albatross around my neck.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 04:39 PM
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This is my exact experience and timeline. Gym and socializing more with friends did wonders. Dating an awesome gal 10 years younger. Stay the course lads. It gets a lot better once the divorce is final and the dust has settled.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 04:38 PM
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Don’t overthink things. Just roll with it and let things develop organically.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 12:21 AM
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Welcome to the club. Forget she exists. Move on. Get in the gym and find a younger, hotter girl who appreciates you. These actions cured 100% of what ailed me post divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 06:26 PM
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This is correct. Additionally, the honorable thing to do here is giving your kids an intact 2 parent household. Unquestionably, this is better for the kids than being shuffled back and forth between houses. Figure it out for them. This may mean you do not get laid for a decade plus, but their well being should b the priority.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/25 09:08 PM
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Setting up a new place with 2 kids was a lot of work. Not mentioned enough in these threads.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 03:41 AM
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Very similar situation myself. “Peaceful” is a very accurate way to describe life once the dust settles post divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 03:38 AM
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You did the honorable thing staying for your children. No matter how you spin it, having both parents under one roof and not shuttling back and forth between houses is usually best for the kids. Now that they are grown? Just get out and start living your life. Get in the gym and enjoy your hobbies. Nothing you can do to please your wife at this point. Her opinion of you is fixed. Good luck buddy. The process of divorce is horrible. Not going to lie. Once the dust settles and you are in your own …
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 03:35 AM
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My ex weaponized touch/intimacy because she knew I craved it. My new girlfriend won’t stop touching me. Getting divorced was the best thing that’s ever happened to me on many fronts.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 03:32 AM
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A classic case
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 06:42 AM
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This
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 08:17 PM
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Many such cases of this exact scenario. Women blowing up families because they are bored and their emotions are not soothed 100% of the time. There is a systemic issue with women aged 30-45 destroying families for made up and selfish reasons. My advice is to play it cool. Do not confront your wife with whatever you found. Speak with the most competent attorney you can afford. Prepare for battle in complete silence. She will 100% try to make herself appear the victim, and that you are to blame fo…
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/24 06:47 PM
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Divorce final in April and dude already moved in with your kids? Jesus. Guessing they were having an affair long before your divorce. I hope my ex moves on. She can direct her negative energy towards him instead of the kids and I. Recently found out her sister tried to set her up with her boyfriends brother before we even decided to get divorced. Reinforced my decision to cut her out of my life. Feel bad for your kids, bro. He won’t be the last bloke they’re introduced to.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/24 03:01 AM
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Same
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 08:07 PM
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My ex is a vile human. Want nothing to do with her. Life is 1000% better without her in it so that’s how it will be.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 07:02 AM
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Please don’t listen to people here who say divorce is better for children. It is definitely not and is the ultimate selfish move. People just say it is to make themselves feel better and rationalize their selfish decision. Wait until your kids are grown and then re-evaluate. You’ll be glad you didn’t give up 50% of your time with your kids while young. You can never get that time back.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 03:29 PM
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Sorry brother. Hear this story way too much. Similar scenario for me with divorce finalized a few months ago. Here’s how it played out for me. I chose to stay for the kids. Did MC and tried to make things work. She ultimately filed for divorce. Not going to lie but going through the process of divorce is terrible. Seeing my kids 50% less is even worse. However, things improved drastically for me after the divorce was finalized. Didn’t realize how much my cheating, nagging ex was suffocating me u…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 02:46 AM
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Can’t shake the feeling I failed my young daughters. Even though it was my ex who blew up our family.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 03:17 AM
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Quite the opposite actually
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 02:47 AM
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This is the best answer
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 03:38 AM
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Jesus christ dude. You must liquidate your savings, retirement funds, etc and hire the best team of lawyers you can afford. She took the gloves off. Your only option is to fight back with everything you have. I have no doubt these are fabricated stories, but you must fight them nonetheless. She is out to destroy your life to cover for her affair. Wish you the best of luck man. This is the worst of situations.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 12:54 PM
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Disgusting. So tired of hearing stories like this. Sorry brother.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 03:14 AM
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Hey brother now is the time to see what your made of. Your ex is dead as is the life you thought you were building together. The sooner you accept this the better. The best thing you can do for your children is to pick up the pieces and build back a better life. Show them how to overcome adversity. Spend less time in therapy dwelling on your problems and more time in the gym getting healthy. Impossible to be depressed if you work out to exhaustion and are healthy.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 03:07 AM
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I concur with everything stated here.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 02:54 AM
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Been great for me. Ex cut off sex for years before divorce though. Making up for lost time with girls 15 years younger and very willing. Highly recommend, personally.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 02:53 AM
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This is the best answer here. To add, it is just not a good time to buy now anyway. Renting now after ex bought me out of our home. Same exact house next door is for sale. Mortgage payment would be almost 2x what I’m paying in rent (assuming 20% down and current rates). Please do not buy a house or condo right now. If ever.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 02:50 AM
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She doesn’t need to agree to 50/50 custody. This is the standard and there is nothing she can do about it. Fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 03:55 PM
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Bro I say this with all due respect. Forget about her. Do not contact her. She left you emotionally years ago. She wants nothing to do with you. Contacting her will just make it worse and you will look pathetic. Just move on.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 09:30 PM
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The woman that you married is dead, as is the life you thought you were building together. The sooner you can accept this the better. Forget about her and build a better life for yourself. I can’t stress enough the importance of eating healthy and a vigorous workout routine. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 06:33 PM
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That’s tough man. Sounds like you are doing all you can. Just continue to show up like you are. Can’t imagine how difficult divorce is on kids. They don’t have the capacity to fully process things and understand what’s happened. Change isn’t easy at that age. I have a 12 year old daughter. I try to plan fun outings where we can include her friends. Giving her more autonomy. She’ll warm up to the new place eventually.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 11:10 PM
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Be careful out there brothers
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 10:34 PM
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Similar situation for me brother. A few months ahead of you. Wife left for similar bs reasons. It’s cliche to say but hit the gym and lift heavy weights to exhaustion. This will seriously solve all your problems. Your wife is gone and not coming back. The woman you married is dead, as is the life you thought you were building together. The sooner you accept this the better. Forget about her and move on with your life. Take solace in the fact that there is a zero % chance things will work out wit…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 09:07 PM
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They r all using the same playbook.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 08:47 PM
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They’re all using the same script. Very sad and predictable.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 04:56 AM
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Tale as old as time. Sad. The good news is that it’s almost 100% certainty it will not work out well for her. Recently divorced under similar circumstances myself. Looking forward to the reveal of who my ex had lined up as my replacement. Only a matter of time.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 03:49 AM
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Who’s gonna tell him?
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 03:44 AM
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This is how women avoid accountability for their contributions to the marriage failing. They will find anything and everything to blame on you, and talk to their friends about these things so as to appear the victim. She is already gone bro. Let her go. Not going to lie, the divorce process sucks. Once things settle tho it will b one of the best things that ever happens to you. Good luck, sir.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 07:10 PM
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Welcome to the club. Focus on yourself and kids. Eat healthy and exercise. Just keep going brother.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 08:13 PM
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Yes. Aside from seeing my kids 50% less everything else is a massive W. Have an inner peace I haven’t felt in years. No daily nagging and rejection of sex. Really became obvious how terrible of a person my ex is and that I am better off without her. It really is unbelievable how much my life has improved without that noose around my neck.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 04:11 AM
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I can attest to this. Gym and started dating a girl 15 year’s younger than me. Don’t care if I’m a walking cliche.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 09:51 PM
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This thread and replies is just depressing. Insane to me how commonplace it is for women to blow up families. This is a major problem/phenomenon that warrants academic studies. My observation is that this generation of women feels entitled to be happy and soothed 100% of the time. They have a victim mentality. They tell their friends all the ways in which their husbands r coming up short (mostly exaggerated), and their friends blindly console them and tell them to “know your worth” and “you can …
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 04:28 PM
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This is standard.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 05:34 PM
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She 100% has someone on standby. May not have cheated but someone is giving her attention on FB, insta, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 04:20 PM
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I don’t care what my ex thinks about me. She is a ghost to me. Just focus on yourself bro. Hit the gym and get a younger gf. I’m telling you this solves everything.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 11:43 PM
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Welcome to the club, bro. Follow these steps exactly: 1. Go to gym and get jacked 2. Get a younger, better looking girlfriend. This will solve your problems. Few are man enough to actually do it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 07:41 PM
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Exactly this. Just emerging from this exact phase now. Moved into the new home a month ago and divorce recently finalized. The past 3 months have been an absolute living hell on top of coming to terms with seeing my kids 50% less and making sure they are ok. Just started being able to sleep again the last few nights. The silent battles I’ve been fighting during this time should be discussed more amongst men. Lucky I didn’t have a heart attack.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 07:05 PM
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Go to the gym and get a younger, prettier girlfriend. Problem solved.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 12:02 AM
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This is it exactly. Most women are crazy, have zero accountability, and will talk negatively about their ex. Everyone knows this and they see right through it. Bro needs to forget about her an move on.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 02:30 AM
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Never trust a woman who says she is married to a narcissist.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 04:56 AM
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A classic case. Welcome to the club. Forget about the whore. Work on yourself and be happy.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 04:55 AM
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My stbxw is like a gnat. Constantly buzzing around commenting her disapproval of things and chiming in on my method to complete simple tasks. It’s never ending. Looking forward to finally having some peace.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 08:40 AM
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A lot. But worth every penny not having that albatross around my neck. I can finally breathe again.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 01:50 AM
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Poor relationship with father, high body count, sense of victimhood, sense of entitlement… too many to list. To my detriment I ignored them all. Chalking it up to lessons learned that I will apply to my new relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 10:59 PM
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I agree. It’s mostly women blowing up families to go live their best life. Not sure what the antidote is.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 04:48 AM
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I’m hopeful for the next generation of young women. So many dads like myself with young daughters that are sick of this shit. We are raising our daughters right. Instilling morals, respect, loyalty, and that men and women are complimentary and not adversarial. The majority of women currently aged 25-50 are irretrievably broken. They were told their entire lives they are the victim, were told sexual promiscuity is empowering, and that the patriarchy is the enemy. They have a sense of entitlement.…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 03:51 AM
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She had this guy lined up well before your divorce. Sorry man but this is the classic case. She has revealed who she really is. Very similar to my situation. She is gone bro and you need to move on. You are in love only with the idea of her and your family all being together. That dream is dead. The sooner you can make peace with that the better. There are good women out there to be had. Go find one.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 03:42 AM
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Get laid. Been years. Effectively zero intimacy for almost a decade. No bj since our honeymoon 13 years ago. Been crushing on a girl at my gym who asked for my digits a couple years back. Told her thanks but I’m married. Wanted to set a good example for my daughters. We still talk and give each other looks. Gonna smash the day I sign the decree.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 09:50 PM
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Same. Waiting for divorce to finalize before I start dating though. Counting down the days. I think I am in for a massive upgrade.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 05:02 AM
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Forget about bro. She is gone. Who cares what she is doing. Go to the gym. Get laid. Focus on yourself
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 04:00 PM
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Oh man lol gonna have to check out that youtube. My post wall stbxw will surely be on there. She blew up the family but at least she gets to live her best life!
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 11:26 PM
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Ya looking forward to the upgrade myself. While I have become way more fit as I’ve aged, my stbxw has aged like milk. I get hit on all the time by younger, prettier, and smarter girls now that I’m older and established. The gym has been a godsend. I haven’t been laid in years thanks to my dried up ex, and I honestly can’t fathom that I’m about to be free to fuck who/when I want.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 06:39 AM
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This is correct. Looking forward to seeing who my stbxw has lined up as my replacement. I know deep down my life will be improved significantly without her in it. The hardest part is watching my young kids struggle. My plan is to be there for them 100% and give them extra love. As for me, my stock has increased significantly since I’ve been married, and the quality of women interested in me has increased in kind. I am focusing on the gym and filtering through women to spend time with. Basically …
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 06:37 PM
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This is my situation and had to dig into the nuances of the statistics you mentioned to better understand. We r the only couple in our circle that is divorced. It’s actually pretty rare for couples our age, with our children’s ages, our income, and location to be divorced. One thing I noticed is that it is the woman who almost always files. Not clear to me why that is but I can speculate based on my situation. The few divorces like mine that I’m aware of, the women had absent or dysfunctional re…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 09:23 PM
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These women need to be soothed 100% of the time. If not, this is grounds for them to blow up a family.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 03:27 PM
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I like when they say this and out themselves. Let’s me know to run away… and fast.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 03:24 PM
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Forget about motivation. Motivation is fleeting. What you need is discipline. Don’t give yourself the option to not go to the gym or eat healthy. Just do it. Force yourself to through one week. Then another. It will compound. Understand that at times you will not be motivated. It is these times you need to force yourself to just go to the gym.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 05:39 PM
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My wife is the same. Hate to break it to you but your wife has already found your replacement. Forget about her. Go fuck other girls. Hit the gym. Not all women are like ours… go find a good one.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 03:22 PM
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This is the answer.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 08:43 PM
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Similar situation with the wife preparing to file. She stopped having sex and checked out years ago. I’ve had time to process the death of the marriage over a very long period of time and feel ready to date. I’ve learned a lot during the marriage and feel better equipped to select a good partner. Older, wiser, and more patient. I say go for it if you can keep it under wraps from your kid. Life is short. I know first hand how lonely and cold a dead marriage can be. Good luck my man. Please update…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 04:20 AM
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This is just disgusting. These women have no loyalty if they are not soothed 100% of the time. She blew up her family for selfish reasons. What a horrible person.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 08:19 PM
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The longer things drag out the crazier the shit they will conjure up in their heads. They must have the narrative on their side even if it is completely made up. It’s like a drug. No accountability whatsoever.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 09:36 PM
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This is the classic scenario. Really nothing to be done once the flip switches. Glad you made it through my man.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 09:32 PM
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Gym. Specifically in the free weight area. Many very high quality women to be found there.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 05:04 PM
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Hell ya brother. Be careful not to fall back into a trap with the wrong woman again. Hopefully you’ve learned what characteristics to look out for.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 03:37 PM
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Agree.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 06:14 AM
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Agree, difficult to impossible to recover with these “fault finding” women. They’ve made up their mind and no going back. I suspect these women have a strong tendency for cluster B personality disorders. I’ve observed they have a sense of entitlement thats needs to be appeased at all times.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 06:13 AM
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Love the attitude man. Congrats!
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 04:14 AM
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Fuck man
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 01:55 AM
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They gym is actually more of a mental exercise for me vs physically. I don’t fuck around and hit it hard too. Marriage counseling was also somewhat helpful, even though my wife was basically using it to justify and further entrench her positions. I went in with an open mind and have identified some areas with mental frameworks and communication that I can improve in future relationships. Ultimately realized there is nothing I could have done to save my current marriage that is about to end. This…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 06:04 PM
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Thank you, sir. I stayed for so long because of the kids. I guess this extended period of purgatory allowed me to grieve the ending of my marriage over a long period of time. The wellbeing of our children is of utmost importance to both of us. I feel like I have failed them. This is the most difficult part. They deserve better and it kills me I couldn’t save the marriage despite my best attempts. They will get extra love and attention. My wife is keeping the house and I’ve planned to include the…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 02:29 AM
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Kids are still young. Stayed so they could have some stability. However, I’ve learned that the quality of woman I can now get would be a far better role model for them than my soon to be ex. All the women on her side of the family are horrifyingly toxic and all divorced. My daughters deserve better.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 06:15 PM
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Thanks man. Probably the correct advice.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 02:31 AM
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I mean I’ve basically been single and working on myself for years now.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 10:48 PM
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I’ve basically been single for years now. Stayed for the kids. A lot of self-introspection during that time. Not sure what I have to heal from. My marriage has been dead for years. I flirt with women often and I suspect I will have zero issues finding one to fuck. I’m just not a pay for sex guy.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 10:45 PM
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No fault state. We are still in the same house. Obviously, I’d be running the risk of her not being happy about me dating. I just can’t imagine her forcing me into celibacy for another several months if she is unwilling to provide intimacy. Truly sadistic if that is the case.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 06:14 PM
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Thanks for the info. I’ve basically been single for years now since she cut me off. Separate bedrooms and all. This has allowed me the opportunity to focus on myself. I’m a gym rat and do things I enjoy like coaching my kids sports teams. Zero chance I get involved with anyone that resembles my ex in any way, shape, or form. With age comes wisdom and I’ve identified certain red flags that are non-negotiable for me. We did do 2 years of counseling which was helpful and I learned some tools I can …
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 06:10 PM
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In a similar situation. Sucks man. The well being of my kids is my number 1 priority. There is no good outcome for you. I wish you the best.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 04:17 AM
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Just a heads up but she will start looking for things to make you the “bad guy” that pushed her to cheat. She will create embellished stories to share with her friends and family to paint you as the asshole. This gives her a mental out for her cheating so she can justify her shitty behavior and make herself the victim. This is the female cheating 101 playbook. Oh and she will accuse you of being a narcissist. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 08:32 PM
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I’m conflicted about this because I want my kid’s riding in a safe vehicle, which I know her car would not be if left to her own devices.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 05:23 PM
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10 more years until the kids are out of the house. Or until the wife snaps out of it. Taking it day by day. I’ve made my peace with it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 11:58 PM
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Yes, unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 03:29 AM
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Glad to see I’m not the only one. I don’t have any answers. I’ve tried in vain to become a better person/husband. Set a good example of a strong father for my daughters. I made the personal decision to not cheat. Gym helps a bit. Good luck brothers. I know how absolutely shitty the situation is.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 05:24 PM
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These single moms are more of the same problems. Don’t get trapped again!
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 07:54 PM
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Any amount of sex would b more than I am getting now.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 07:52 PM
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Tell me more…
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 07:51 PM
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Sorry bro. Your wife is a whore. Move on. Get in the gym and focus on yourself. Sounds like the instagram “know your worth” culture got ahold of your wife. She’s already fucked other dudes. Go find yourself a real woman.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 09:23 PM
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Jesus fucking christ. This is my worst nightmare. These women are monsters. Absolute monsters. Sorry you have to through this brother.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 03:36 AM
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Well said. There are many of us in this situation. I don’t want to turn the discussion to bashing the fairer sex, but I am starting to suspect there is something fundamentally wrong with this generation of women. No loyalty or respect. I suspect it has to do with instagram/kardasian culture, entitlement born from modern feminism (ie “know your worth girl”), and other contributing factors. Girls with weak fathers or dads not being around likely plays a huge role. No right answer on how we should …
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 07:51 PM
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Not to be harsh but you need to get your life together man. What she is doing now is irrelevant. Focus on yourself. All your problems can be solved in the gym. Seriously. Get jacked. This will work for improving confidence, self esteem, physical and mental health, job performance, etc. The benefits are too many to list here. Start eating healthy and lift heavy weights at the gym. Really push yourself to exhaustion. Don’t allow yourself to make excuses. Just do it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 06:05 PM
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I get losing the material possessions but man losing half your time with the kids has to sting.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 02:37 AM
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Let me guess… she called you a narcissist too? Willing to bet my life on it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 03:10 AM
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Man you got head? I haven’t had a bj in a decade. Married 12 years. Still married and haven’t been laid in a year. Waiting 9 more years until the kids are in college then I’m out. Good luck man. So many of us in these fucked up situations.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 03:09 AM
4

Same here but not divorced. I’ve decided I can stomach the nagging and no sex until the kids are in college. I’m no slouch either. Over 6 feet, jacked, high income, and get hit on by 20 yr olds. 9 more years to go. So many of us out there it’s crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 02:57 AM
15

The “you know your worth” harpies are of the lowest form. Modern women are broken.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 02:53 AM
4

Spot on. Good luck, bro.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 02:52 AM
2

Also, the term “trauma” has been diluted to the point it is a meaningless claim. Every divorcing woman was married to a narcissist and has trauma. I’m glad they are all claiming this. My eyes roll back so hard when I hear this shit and most are catching on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 05:15 AM
2

If I had to do it all over again I would only consider SAHM with strong feminine energy. An observation that I have made: the best/happiest wives start having their own career and switch to SAHM during child rearing years. A huge bonus if they have a great relationship with their strong, slightly conservative father.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 09:55 PM
1

So true.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 02:39 AM
3

Jesus
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/22 05:15 PM
1

Facts.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/21 05:56 AM
1

I hate to say it man but the child may not be yours.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/20 08:42 PM
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