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I think you bought into a fantasy that simply doesn’t work for most people. Nothing wrong with that, but neither should you be surprised when that fantasy is exposed for what it is. Human expectations and behavior don’t work that way. There are too many variables involved.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 04:16 PM
1

It seems you got married out of some sense of obligation because you “owed it to her” even though your relationship was always turbulent. You don’t mention your sex life with her before you married, but you’re obviously having sex if she’s pregnant. I’m not sure how or why you expected that marriage would change anything, to be honest. Resentment doesn’t go away over time. I don’t see a way forward since getting married wasn’t for love, but for some sense of obligation.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 12:51 PM
4

At the risk of sounding like an ass, I’m glad you found out the truth about “church community of faith” and how much of a fraud it is, but very sorry you experienced it in this manner. All the best to you for a brighter future.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 04:55 AM
1

Anytime, man 🧍‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 02:24 AM
3

Mistakes? The best part about mistakes is deciding whether you make them an anchor or a sail. (Don’t ask me who said this because I don’t know).
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 12:15 AM
3

On a personal note, exiting a relationship because of insane weight gain is a reasonable thing to do, assuming she didn’t see a problem or want to make changes. Trust me, the weight gain only gets worse.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 12:10 AM
2

That’s classic for calling the bully’s bluff! Well done, OP!
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/26 03:12 PM
4

The hyper sexual behavior and erratic behavior may be her entering a manic phase, among other things. There’s a term called “break up sex” and can be accompanied by mixed feelings and short term regret. You’ve realized the reality of the situation but it doesn’t sound like she’s fully processed the finality of what divorce means. You are NOT responsible for her suicidal ideation or action if it comes to that. Don’t allow her to drag you into that dynamic or drama. Good luck for a better future!
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 02:18 PM
3

There’s nothing for you to want to try and salvage. That ship sailed a LONG time ago. Good luck with the next chapters of your life!
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 09:34 AM
3

Ignore the request. Nothing good can come out of accepting the friend request from her boss. If he wants to talk with you, he can call or write. And I’d ignore that as well.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 01:14 AM
1

😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 01:24 AM
3

Learn to read the context of OP’s post. She was withholding sex as a weapon whether you like this characterization of her actions or not.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 06:20 PM
1

😢
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 03:03 PM
1

Glad you’re no longer her damn slave.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 03:01 PM
6

She used withholding sex as a weapon.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 02:58 PM
7

Experience with significant age gap dating and relationship—I was 52, she was 25 and just 4 years older than my son. She breathed life back into me and gave me confidence I could live again after a failed long term marriage. We parted romantic ways because both of us wanted to preserve our friendship which was the mature thing to do. I’m forever grateful and 15 years later we are still very good friends. I have to confess I did consult several online resources that covered “May-December relation…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 04:52 AM
4

I hate to say this, but she’s using you as a doormat and you’re enabling this behavior by not saying “no.” She doesn’t see anything wrong because it seems that over the years she’s been able to slowly increment her demands and you’ve said “yes.” It reminds me of the frog in a pan of water with the heat being slowly turned up over time. By the time the frog realizes he’s being boiled alive, it’s too late. Put your foot down and keep your sanity.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 02:35 PM
11

Your parents own the house? She gets NOTHING from this.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 04:35 AM
7

Bros before hoes!
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 01:28 PM
3

Um, I’m a guy but if you need some company, that sounds delicious 🤤 lol
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 05:14 AM
7

Forget it. There’s no anniversary of anything that day.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 05:12 AM
12

Cops are legally allowed to lie to you, and also don’t actually know the laws they’re supposed to be enforcing. Never forget that. Secondly, you have no authority to drop charges, only the DA can do that. Thirdly, don’t bail her out. Fourthly, her job is her responsibility to preserve, not yours. If she doesn’t face consequences for this, she’ll never Hearn anything. Face it, your marriage is over or it should be. You don’t need to deal with this kind of nonsense. Good luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 01:09 AM
2

Agree with running! Just finished Grandma’s Marathon in Duluth Minnesota!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 05:31 AM
2

You’re welcome to DM me if you have any questions. All the best to you in your journey.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 05:30 AM
1

I don’t mind at all. I checked out a few lodges relatively nearby to where I live and sent Facebook emails to the secretaries and made some inquiries. Got invited to dinner at the one I felt most comfortable with, talked and ate dinner with current Brothers (members) and after a few visits decided to ask to petition for membership. Went through the vetting process and then the degrees. I’m glad to have found a group of friendly guys that I enjoy spending time with.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 12:37 AM
3

OP, good to hear this kind of success story! Well done!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 05:06 PM
1

You didn’t ask for advice, OP so I won’t give it. However, I will share with you what I did to help alleviate loneliness. Some have already suggested the gym but that can be a lonely endeavor as well unless you go with a training partner. I decided to become a Freemason and have enjoyed brotherhood and belonging. I’m sure there are other fraternal options in your area. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 04:57 PM
3

Does your soon to be ex wife know that you know about the affair? That could make a difference for the timing if you’re going to spill to anyone. You could tell your ex and ju jitsu dude and let ‘em sweat it out, lol
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 06:34 PM
2

That’s fighting fire with fire if I’ve ever heard of that!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 11:45 PM
7

May that day of liberation come quickly for you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 11:43 PM
14

He doesn’t need to justify or explain his reasons to ANYONE.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 12:10 PM
5

Uncertainty, adult children’s hostility even though they know we’re very unhappy, health issues (cancer), messy asset division, insurance issues. At this stage in life-late 60s, it just doesn’t seem worth it. Plus, dating at my age? I’ve looked around and the prospects are very slim. No one takes good physical care of themselves any more.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 05:35 PM
4

What a nice story to read about!
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 09:58 PM
6

Wow! There’s an old saying about being able to choose your friends but not being able to choose your family. Your story drives this home, OP. Hoping things get better for you. It doesn’t sound like it could get any worse.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 05:19 PM
2

I’m not sure faith, loyalty or trust really existed in the 50s/60s. I think we’ve created the illusion that it did so we could say we missed it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 01:36 PM
1

Or die if we can’t/don’t adapt! Darwin was right!
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/26 02:45 PM
1

WOW!! That must have been one exquisite ring for $24k!
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 03:44 PM
2

Go man go!!!
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 12:17 PM
3

The experience so many of us have had in this process proves there’s no “calculus” to human behavior that will predict the decisions of what people will do when faced with problems—whether those problems are real or imaginary, or pivotal or small. Good luck to you, OP.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 05:06 AM
3

Holy cow!!!
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 11:11 PM
6

A solid NO for me.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 12:14 PM
4

I can’t imagine any degree is worth $400k, particularly if the degree is as worthless as a BFA in musical theater. Sorry, that would be a strict no-go for me.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 01:00 AM
2

This is what the brutal truth looks like.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 08:46 PM
1

You don’t know what you’re talking about. Many medical conditions benefit from the use of stimulant drugs-adhd isn’t the only one, and more meds are coming out that aren’t amphetamine based. The newer ones are the ones “big pharma” are encouraging, but the generic stuff that’s been on the market for decades is dirt cheap and managed by generic houses. Many of these folks would be very dysfunctional without this type of medication. I know because I’ve been prescribing them and seeing the benefits…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 05:08 PM
5

I hope you feel better with that off your chest, man. Good luck moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 01:10 PM
3

Amazing how that works. I just don’t get it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 04:14 PM
4

You’re making the “enemy” thing up, for reasons only you understand.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 04:08 PM
4

Yes, Reddit isn’t a democracy, and wasn’t set up to be one. The mods on the shear number of topics/subreddits are all volunteers and sponsor the groups, and in exchange for this they get to be arbitrary in application of the rules. It’s a trade off that people accept coming in.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 12:59 PM
10

That wasn’t his point-and stating women aren’t our enemies is a not so veiled attempt to gaslight the poor guy.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 12:54 PM
5

I’ve always been stunned by how people accept horrible things that happen to them as being god’s “will.” People-I’m sure with good intentions-told that to me and my wife when our daughter died three days after being born, with a terrible hospital course leading up to her death. God’s will? If that’s the case I want absolutely NOTHING to do with that god. Rant over, thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/26 06:41 PM
12

Don’t know why you’d be downvoted for wanting to stay away from churches (actually I do know but will keep that to myself). My reasoning for avoiding churches is that they are focused on having “faith” over reason which makes no sense to me—and hence I’d want to avoid romantic relationships with people who are of that unrealistic outlook on life.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/26 01:34 PM
1

I’m glad your nightmare is over. Best wishes going forward!!
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/26 05:25 AM
1

!!!! OMG that’s totally insane!
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 12:34 PM
2

I understand and am sympathetic to the way you’re feeling.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 10:15 PM
8

I guess I’ll be the bad guy here…there’s no point in confronting this guy. It won’t change things and doing so will make you look like a loser. You’re getting divorced, and this is a sure sign she’s moved on and simply going back to familiar territory. Since you’re getting divorced, with respect to that then yes, you’re overreacting. What did you expect, really? Your soon to be ex and her AP deserve each other.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 06:37 PM
1

Seriously???? Jeezus what a narcissist!
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 09:05 PM
1

How fat are we talking here? Fat repulses me…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 01:20 PM
3

You can’t logically take her problems and put them on your plate and expect not to choke. Vicarious redemption of someone else’s deep seated issues doesn’t work. Keep in mind you’re not going to win with a perspective that’s setting you up to lose.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/26 07:57 PM
2

Wow! I don’t believe in any type of literal hell, but you’ve convinced me people can try to make it seem like there is at least a figurative hell right here on the Earth. I’m wagering most men don’t have the staying power to achieve what you have done.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/26 03:31 PM
-1

Arguing with you? I’m telling you the truth and you think I’m arguing with you. Amazing.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 05:00 PM
0

No, it doesn’t. This man is already stressed to the maximum and you’re giving him a laundry list of extra tasks to complete. The religion advice is not helpful, since not everyone sees practical advice from such writings out of the bronze/iron ages and later.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 02:32 PM
3

Yup. The codependency term is a fancy psychological trick to allow people an escape valve from their responsibilities or owning their own mistakes entirely. It’s so easy—just dump half the responsibility onto someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 04:29 PM
1

And there we have the double standard against us on full display.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 02:29 PM
7

I think that stability is seriously undermined when there’s chaos swirling around the other parent.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 10:26 PM
2

It MIGHT be fun 🤩 but I’ve looked at the dating pool and see an ocean of train wrecks and badly damaged people that make me very uncomfortable. I don’t want to wind up being worse off to be honest.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 04:03 PM
1

You’re right—like I said earlier, subtlety isn’t going to work.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 03:29 AM
2

I’d be letting laundry and dishes pile up and hopefully force her to get off her ass and contribute to the household. And I’d be telling her to take a bath. Subtlety isn’t going to work in this case.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 12:42 AM
8

Yep. Dead BR for 20 years and finally got sick of being a housemate. Not even roommates because she gained a ton of weight and snored like a whale. OP, this just doesn’t get better. You can’t negotiate desire if it isn’t there.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 11:36 PM
3

There’s no way forward if she’s given you an ultimatum. She wants kids whether it’s with you or not—ie in that situation you’re ONLY a sperm donor. Having another child with her will only make things worse. Good luck navigating your way out—yes it’s difficult but staying in this marriage sounds like permanent hell.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 03:30 PM
2

DON’T have kids with her. Who will have to do the work of caring for him/her? Honestly, you know the answer to that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 08:42 PM
2

Yes, this is sometimes referred to as the “second sexual awakening!”
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 06:49 AM
1

She doesn’t have the right to move all that shit back into her one room. Take what you want out of there and let her sulk, snivel, bitch and moan about it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 06:56 PM
2

THIS^
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 06:53 PM
0

The problem with couples therapy is you can’t be counseled into being attracted to or love someone that you don’t.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 02:12 PM
3

Sounds like you handled that the best way possible! I hope that one day I can be as decent.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 11:04 PM
1

It seems to me that this marital relationship is finished. Even if by some wild chance she decides to come back, I think this will simply repeat itself somewhere down the line—it’s a matter of “when” and not “if.” Seek out legal counsel and get the best out of this that you can. Don’t become another “sleepless in Seattle” over this—alcohol and abusive personalities are running her show.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 04:19 PM
9

Glad to hear you’re not so numb that you’re able to feel emotions again—but honestly I don’t think I’ll ever understand the ghosting behavior from women that I’m seeing over and over again here with men recounting their experiences getting back into seeing women again. It’s leaving me totally stunned. Good luck to you in the future, OP.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 06:00 AM
3

One thing’s pretty clear here: she doesn’t deserve you and you’re never going to be appreciated for your work and sacrifices. I wish you well for a brighter future without this albatross around your neck.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/26 06:10 AM
2

If you’re pursuing for knowledge I can’t disagree with that but it appears your end goal in doing the doctoral level degree in philosophy was to teach at the highest university level. You can pursue learning philosophy by taking a few non degree courses without going “all the way.”
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 09:56 PM
1

If you’ve got that baccalaureate and master’s degree background, you’re wasting time and money doing philosophy at the doctorate level. You’d need to start from scratch.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 09:48 PM
2

😂 thanks for the follow up information!
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 02:05 AM
2

Interesting, I’ve never heard of a tungsten wedding band before—amazed what I learn on Reddit.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 08:14 PM
1

Yes, a lawyer can give you advice on these issues, but you don’t need a lawyer to open accounts in your name only. You probably already have a 401k or something like it in your own name. If your accounts are commingled, she’ll know about transfers. Sometimes your work can split your pay into different accounts, but she may ask why you’re seemingly not making as much. Depending on the type of lawyer you see, they’ll generally want to push toward divorce, rather than finding solutions. They would …
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 12:23 AM
1

Guilt? The core issue seems to be you don’t want to disappoint her and/or your family members, right? Same thing with me but for longer periods of time. Tomorrow sometimes never comes when it comes to being able to make changes in life’s trajectory. I hope you get what you want, but be aware that might mean getting over this “guilt” and starting over.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/26 02:30 AM
5

I hope you feel a bit better by getting this off your chest! Best to you as you navigate your freedom.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 05:59 AM
10

Wow. There’s probably no good time to hear your wife wants a divorce, but some times are clearly better than others. New Year’s Eve at nearly the stroke of midnight is NOT a good time for this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 07:05 PM
3

Depends on the church—which thankfully fewer and fewer people are taking seriously any more.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 05:07 AM
9

Your being far too generous to someone who considers you to be no more than a friend. She’s going to have a tough time of it? Too bad. Cut her off and free yourself from this leech.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/26 09:27 PM
2

I’ve been the only guy at regular yoga, 😂
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 03:35 AM
0

If the inheritance occurs after the divorce, it’s yours. If it occurs before, it’ll most likely be considered a combined marital asset.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 07:26 PM
0

That’s not true. If you’re a US citizen, they advise you that your information will be shared with the US government. The days of strict bank secrecy are gone in the Cayman Islands, Switzerland and Austria.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 07:25 PM
6

Sounds like there are 4 people really in pain and hurting badly right now. Good luck to all of you. I’m sure there’s a lot to process and adjust to.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 06:40 PM
3

She was a pharmacist. I don’t think her occupation made any difference.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 05:06 AM
9

Silence, ie no response may be appropriate.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 11:38 PM
1

I know. I was expressing my opinion on the post.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 06:38 AM
8

This is useless advice to this young man who is still hurting and understandably has mixed feelings about his biological father. He has done nothing that needs to be forgiven in this situation—and even if he did he may not share your opinion on how to accomplish that.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 03:46 AM
1

Sleepwalking is an excellent description of navigating mediocre or dead marriages. It’s probably the best term I’ve heard for this situation.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 04:12 PM
1

Keep that incredible puppy close to you! Best wishes for brighter days ahead. NGL, the road has many potholes and detours but it does get better.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 05:52 PM
4

Don’t too be hard on yourself. None of us are looking for signs that she’s done, especially with the trials and tribulations of three little kids on your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 06:51 PM
4

Over and over, dogs prove themselves to be a man’s best friends.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 04:22 PM
6

I hear you on this. I decided to wait until after the New Year because her side of the family (there really isn’t any my side left) was visiting until then. As an old Tom Petty song went—-“the waiting is the hardest part.” OP, best wishes for a better future ahead.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 05:00 AM
4

Well, that was rather dumb of her to do!
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 09:09 PM
3

I share the hoarder issues, which is one of the top things I mentioned to my attorney on the first consultation. He said that when I’m gone, she can stack shit up to the ceiling and I’ll never have to look at it again!
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 06:30 AM
3

It’s not “dumb.” It’s orientation and mindset that is curious enough to see what the new reality is without having to make a personal contact and faking genuine interest.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 06:27 AM
1

Thanks, appreciate the info.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 11:38 PM
1

So there’s hope, thanks for the affirmation. How did you meet these women if it’s not too bold to ask?
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 06:32 AM
1

I appreciate hearing this positivity—I like to travel as well, but going to great places was always a chore because of the soon to be ex and not enjoyable at all. I haven’t planned my next chapter but it’s good to hear a perspective of someone who’s been successful.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 02:48 AM
7

Jeez! Unbelievable! Glad you’re free of her!
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 06:12 AM
1

No you don’t or you wouldn’t be airing out your issues here to get ideas about what he’s thinking and why he’s acting the way he is.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 03:29 PM
2

Yes, “time” is a four letter word.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 02:34 PM
3

😂😂😂 you’ve got a great attitude! I’m dealing with the same issue, so I’m very sympathetic!
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 06:11 AM
3

Holy crap! That’s a whole cow!
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 12:36 AM
2

WOW! That’s starvation style weight loss. I’m hoping you’re in a better place now!
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 02:40 PM
1

Yes—in the scenario you’ve described, you can walk away if you’re being informed you’re being recorded you can choose to walk away.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/25 07:34 PM
1

Interesting point, with laws on consent varying depending on the state—those states with one party consent laws can be audio recorded in nonpublic setting as long as one party (presumably the recorder) consents. Two party state consent laws are generally constructed to determine what’s admissible in court more than anything else. As you were in your home, you can record anything you want unless it’s a situation where anyone can reasonably expect privacy; example: a visitor using the toilet.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/25 06:38 PM
6

Long relationship? 41 years married, together 43. My only regret is waiting so long with the delusion that someday, somehow the situation would be different, but it was obvious to everyone but me that wasn’t going to happen.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 12:01 AM
2

😂😂😂 love it!!
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 11:58 PM
1

My thoughts exactly!
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 09:29 AM
5

Why didn’t therapy “work?” Obviously I don’t really know either of you, but negotiation of any sort—and that’s really what “therapy” is—requires a desire on both parties to be committed to the process. You don’t want to hear this. but you can’t ignore the bottom line that if she was resisting this from start to finish, then you really aren’t compatible. If you’re honest about this and look back you’ll find PLENTY of indicators on this. All the very best to you. I hope you find what you’re lookin…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 06:25 AM
1

I hear you on that. It’s one thing to be “civil” to each other, but civility isn’t “friendship.” I’m stunned that people want to conflate those two things.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/25 03:41 PM
2

Or as my dad used to say, “take the long skinny dog Greyhound bus)!”
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 05:13 PM
1

Thanks for giving me some hope. I’m your age and I’m having a difficult time seeing a way forward.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 07:03 AM
1

😮😳😮
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 07:02 AM
1

NO. If you take her back, you’ll be her slave forever, and lose any dignity you have left.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 07:01 AM
1

Based on what you’ve told us, I’m going to be the bad guy here and say she IS a bad person. I hope you have a better and happier future ahead of you. The situation with this woman isn’t going to get better.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 05:44 PM
11

I think that’s called “settling” for something thinking that nothing better will ever happen to you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 10:00 PM
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