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women + law it's like giving a chimp a machine gun
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 12:03 AM
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whoa yea my ex did the same thing. For 2 whole weeks a working cardiologist earning 500k a year kept emailing and texting me she wanted me to take one screw driver out of my toolset because its marital property
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 12:02 AM
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most of it can be settled out of court. The court is just a way for your lawyers to run up costs doing nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 04:32 AM
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problem is women don't know how to love anyone but themselves. So you're setting him up for a fool's errand
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 03:15 AM
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promise yourself you won't get married again
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 03:06 AM
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courts are medieval institutions with unchecked power. Try your best to stay clear of them.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 03:05 AM
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This geneation of women are terrible with kids because it involves having to put someone else first.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 03:02 AM
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the divorce rate is going down because marriage rate is going down and the man is too broke to get a profitable divorce percentage is going up. women are the most conniving pieces of shit when it comes to divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 03:00 AM
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look up female covert narcissist and narcissistic abuse on youtube Lise Leblanc and richard Grannon are my go to. It's wild listening to them matter of factly narrate my life for the past 8 yrs
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 02:51 AM
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what young men? that's just a fantasy. I have never in my life thought of smashing some washed up 35+ woman when I was 20. Has the thought crossed my head? yea.. but to waste actual time and resources seemed pointless
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 07:01 PM
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that's 90% of women these days. it's like bizarre revenge fantasy because their moms got treated like shit and they take it out on whichever fool they browbeat into marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 06:59 PM
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it also helps that they get to rob you of your savings when they divorce. women get paid to divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 06:57 PM
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She has exhausted all her attempts to salvage it. She has gotten no reassurance of a solid commitment to fixing the relationship. this is a goddamn lie. my ex's attempt to salvage was coming down while I was doing all the chores and then getting pissed off I wasn't also initiating the conversation or offering her backrubs. "Like OMG how can he not think of finding new ways to serve me this blessed day. OUT WITH HIM!!!" It also helped she was finally finished with her medical degree and fellowshi…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 06:56 PM
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Men are loyal to the institution of marriage, society etc. women are only loyal to themselves giving selfish people equal power to dissolve an institution they don't care for will lead to the current outcomes. Surrogacy businesses need to spin up a bit more and women need to be fully commoditized the way they want to be. Get a job, pay for a year to have some incubator spawn your child. take the kid and build your future. Crush women out of the workforce by forcing them to compete relentlessly i…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 06:37 PM
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marriage is dead. plan accordingly and let other men know to avoid making the same mistake. At the very least we can drive divorce lawyers out of business.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 06:33 PM
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this is a lie, only the man takes a hit.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 02:03 AM
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why read books? What we need is legal reform not ways to passively accept women screwing us over.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 06:32 PM
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do not get married again you're too old to play the odds with the shitty women that are on their third or fourth rodeo.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 06:27 PM
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according to my existing lawyer a judge is unlikely to award spousal support to someone making close to 180k. But yea i'll setup a few more 500$ appointments I guess to consult on my case.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 02:42 PM
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you can't ever please an NPD spouse. They will just keep whining and acting like they're a martyr. my ex left me because her dad threw a tantrum about not being able to mooch off me for a few more years. No more mooching family was a big red line for her.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 07:15 PM
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yep
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 02:01 PM
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Florida
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 02:01 PM
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I say this because in one paragraph you say that you weren’t “hoping for a payoff” and on the next paragraph you say she was playing a “long con”. yes I did say this I don't see what your confusion is. she left you just before she was about to make an attending’s salary. No! I make 180k a which for my actual requirements out of life was perfectly fine. I had no need of her medical career or cardiology career. I asked her to take time after having the baby to raise a child instead of rushing into…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 10:27 PM
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I don't understand why you're characterizing this as hoping for payoff later. I'm totally fine with her moving on with the career and sending me zero alimony I just don't understand this horseshit about giving her my savings during the long con as well. Why do YOU think that's ok?
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 04:45 AM
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What's more at issue is her putting aside 300k a year and grinding me into dust supporting her through her entirely optional fellowship There are several cases in apellate rulings in my state, where the court attributes the income the doctor would have earned as a general physician during the course of the fellowship when considering the doctor's responsibility of support. The cases involve doctors who go into fellowship and file for divorce and try to claim they only have a current salary of 60…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 04:20 AM
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According to some therapists that zombie like state and confusion is a sign of complex c-PTSD
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/25 01:26 AM
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the two attorneys i spoke to claimed I don't qualify due to my income. I just want her to leave alone what she didn't earn. it... just .. sucks
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 07:29 PM
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>What does your future look like? uncertain and tiring
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 02:40 AM
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that's most of it, yeah I just don't understand how it became like this. It's the only contract that is not disclosed and can be changed at will by a third party (the state) and the contracts are not even versioned. like you could enter marriage when X.Y.Z protections are in place and boom they pass a law and the contract provisions are unilaterally changed for everyone it's absolutely nuts that men get married with these rules, especially when you look at this graph and see that the majority of…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 02:28 AM
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how the fuck do we change this crap ? this can't go on. https://youtu.be/DsEc95h7Vjs?t=78
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 02:11 AM
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no i mean warning men in general by creating some law that forces men to read a declaration about what they're signing over when applying for a marriage certificate
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 08:53 PM
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My problem is that I don't know how to support him as he's caught in the middle. He can't say much yet and the woman is a manipulator who demands total adoration and devotion. Textbook Narcissist. Within the last few weeks he's come back saying things like 'going to mama's house makes me cranky' and he suddenly started reacting profoundly to a word in her language that people use to threaten corporal punishment.(like crying and shrinking in fear) He also stopped running to her during pick ups bu…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 08:50 PM
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yea 50-50 is pretty nice, but the first few weeks were rough when I was still getting used to being alone in a townhouse without him giggling around the corner and demanding my attention. if the legal crap would just end it would reduce my mental strain. I'm sick of generating paperwork for the lawyers or constantly trying to justify a request for unequal distribution in my head and imagining what nonsense she's drumming up on her end. If i could just focus on work and my son i'd take him 100% a…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 08:35 PM
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at this point giving other guys a heads up would make a little happier but not happy. Maybe some activism around forcing people to read a real legal contract document that establishes clearly what you're about to lose, when signing for a marriage certificate would be a step in the right direction. it's the only contract whose terms you only find out during the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 08:04 PM
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Amen! It wasn't just her. I helped both her siblings get better careers than the dead end ones they had selected. The whole family could have wallowed in the gutter of low expectations that they were in before we got married. Should have never helped them out.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 07:57 PM
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my entire past has been about saving up for a future where I can relax and be less stressed out about layoffs and give my children (now child) every opportunity I never had. I never upgraded vehicles clothes or lifestyle till I had to and I live frugally. How the fuck can I not focus on the past? That's like 20 yrs of work I'm just handing over to someone who did nothing for it other than get married and use me to further her career goals. More importantly what future is there in this economy? w…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 07:39 PM
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doesn't help but it was a definitely a long con. She hid assets and her family was suddenly flying to the UK and Dubai after a lifetime of never travelling. The problem is that the way the lawyer talks the court doesn't really care about a fair division.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 06:57 PM
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we're talking her 600k versus me:180k my lawyer is acting like 500/mo is going to make the taste of losing half a lifetime of my savings more palatable. Long long nights working before I even met this person. and she'll make what i'm losing every single year. It's ridiculous
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 06:32 PM
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I've gone through 2 attorneys and they both didn't like my chances of getting justice because she filed it at just the right time to show that she has less income. Basically the problem is I shouldn't have worked. I should have asked her to take out a loan to support the family while she left me at home to do childcare. That would have worked out in my favor. Unfortunately since I worked and did childcare and nearly lost my goddamn mind being so stressed out all the time the court can't put a co…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 06:29 PM
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she has 5 yrs of income as part of the residency and fellowship. It's just less than mine right now. But she's walking away out of the marriage with a 600k salary job that according to my lawyer i have no claim on... despite supporting her 3 yrs of her not working to train to go from 300k as a regular doctor -> 600k as a specialist. it's just awful. if she doesn't like me just take the car I bought her the little she contributed to the marriage after expenses and leave, why take my retirement to…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 06:22 PM
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I don't care about the finances more than it will carry me through a layoff or a job drought. the unfairness is mostly about her building a 600k career she can take out of the marriage without owing me alimony but I owe her assets from my excess savings after defraying her educational costs. Like seriously wtf? who is coming up with these unacceptably stupid rules?
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 04:11 PM
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sounds great in theory but continually restarting it with a 7000 minimum retainer sucks. with the laws the way they are I have no idea how divorced men haven't shown up at the ballot box to end this travesty.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 04:07 PM
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I had a house before I got married and she was never on the title, but since she lived in it it's marital property and subject to division. The system is ridiculous, especially when party so egregiously used the other one.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 03:32 PM
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A society grows great when men toil to plant trees in whose shade they know they shall never sit old proverb The short term thinking and lack of this basic altruism is why women initiate so many divorces and then rely on pharmaceuticals, mindless consumerism and whining to deal with the consequences of their own actions.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/25 03:42 PM
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The best way to put it is, like i'm a sheep and I somehow married a wolf in sheep's clothing and I kept trying to convince myself that this "sheep" was just having a bad day for years till now I understand "OMFG it's a WOLF and it will only be happy when it literally eats me alive" at this point for me the state is like: "Well she's hungry and she already got a taste, so we'll give her one of your legs to keep the peace" in your case going to the farmer and pointing out wolf before she starts ch…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 12:58 AM
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My ex constantly brings my son back for custody exchange with diaper rash, and vomiting fever, insufficient sleep, crying etc. On the way back after I work through those issues, he's happy healthy with no issues. On text she acts like the reason he's crying when I pick him up from her place is because he doesn't like me not because she's a totally useless self obsessed cunt when taking care of him. He never cries with me unless he accidentally pees himself during games as he's still being toilet…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 12:51 AM
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Marriage is a conjob society conned us into. It's going to cost but can you really picture yourself being treated like shit for your last 40 yrs just to avoid paying like 400k I dunno. My thinking is that I'm going to regret all of it on my deathbed, but which would I regret more?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 12:46 AM
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it took me 4 months to wrap my head around someone who would make 600k (like 5x my income) a year after med school/fellowship taking 300k of my assets and retirement savings because she was going to school while I did literally everything include work (but it's joint income and assets dotchaknow but careers derived from education aren't). It's going to be quite a bit to cope when it happens but first movers fare slightly better. So start meeting with lawyers and build an exit plan. You don't hav…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 12:38 AM
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my thinking on the issue is you kept your vows by not initiating the divorce and putting up with a horrible person "till death do you part" The fact that her promises are worthless is a HER problem. I'm in the same boat first year out she took a significant chunk of my savings after I carried her for the training into a very high income career. The court system is rotten and it still stings BUT if my health, peace of mind, not walking on eggshells, etc for the rest of my life had a price tag thi…
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 04:35 PM
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it's not the steeper learning curve that's the issue, it's the societal expectation that men shouldn't be anywhere near kids that's driving men out of learning how to do these things. Men are practically gone in education for example. Society seems to think it behooves men to be out doing the hard, dirty and dangerous jobs women won't do and then somehow come back home with hard and calloused hands and apply diaper rash cream to a baby. We can do it but women are getting away with being the lazi…
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 04:33 PM
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yea but unless you plan on raising a child with zero social skills it's part of the necessary stuff one has to deal with as a single parent.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 01:30 PM
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Taking care of your own kids is one thing. Cleanup duty for other people's kids is still a bit of a scary thing for me
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 12:38 AM
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I'm referring to pretty much all the "modern" armies where combat effectiveness is less important than making sure the military funding gravy train is equally distributed to men and women.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 03:48 PM
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this is also why men are better warriors and have better team cohesion than mixed gender units being trialed in feminist armies.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 03:42 PM
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no men just can't imagine being the primary person teaching their kids to socialize because that's not how any of us were raised. We CAN do it, we just don't have any role models from when we were growing up. Dads used to teach their kids to do and build things Moms used to teach kids how to express and manage their emotions in a "safe space" It seems dads will have to do everything from here on in.. so bring on the artificial wombs and lets put women in their place (dead last)
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 03:38 PM
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slaves is the word you're looking for
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 03:30 PM
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how is it that with this much divorce that men are atomized with regards to working towards more equitable divorce laws. This shit is nuts.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 03:11 PM
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same reason that on average they're worse than male employees. Modern marriage is like a tiny corporation and modern women are its achilles heel. Zero self control or ability tough it out through a rough patch. They also seem totally unprepared to have a child despite wanting one because all their friends have one or two Since there's no protected time off or FMLA in marriage corp they just leave the company for the greener pastures of being a new employee at a diff marriage corp, before they al…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 02:58 PM
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This is bad advice. Narcs are usually psychotic with narcissistic rage, especially when they file for divorce. Document what you can, and if your state allows it record everything during handoffs
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 07:57 PM
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The court only cares that the state not be liable for your kids. So you can file with the court that there is a material change in life circumstance and spousal and child support agreements need to be re-evaluated. If she's willing to take it on, great. Just get it filed with the court
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 07:50 PM
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