| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 161 | I’ve been seeing a common theme on OLD profiles, guys writing “no drama.” I wondered why they keep putting this on their profile. | Bellaskywalker1 | /r/askFDS | 10/05/21 07:03 AM | |
| 34 | How do I nicely say I want to go on a dinner date? This guy just proposed an ice cream date? | Bellaskywalker1 | /r/askFDS | 29/04/21 07:15 PM | |
| 1 | Approved Commentator | Bellaskywalker1 | /r/askFDS | 20/04/21 12:14 AM | |
| 0 | Hey Queens, what are some OLD red flags? | Bellaskywalker1 | /r/askFDS | 23/05/21 05:29 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 20 | No. No thank you. Please don't. Don't give stalkers more toolsA lot of women will be wearing masks then | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 08:07 PM |
| 4 | "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft has a whole section describing the abuse tactics of softbois (Mr. Sensitive in the book)Very insightful! This book is Too Good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Let's play a Game!It’s a guilty pleasure show, but irl I would never tf go back to that time. Literally every character including the men have been sexually assaulted. Terrible time for women just terrible even the 60’s for Claire is pretty dumb time too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 11:06 PM |
| 3 | 😕Idk if a LVM POS tried that on me I think I’d say I only have enough for my meal and leave his ass there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:02 PM |
| 41 | To the ladies who say FDS is "hot girl strategy"I have a pretty face, double chins and am obese. I still get men trying to talk to me and without FDS principles I’d still be a pickmeisha taking any lvm attention. FDS made me realize my worth and I am making much better choices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 06:47 PM |
| 18 | Reminder: LVM will pick at absolutely anything to make you feel less than. See it for what it is.Love this! I used to say the same to my lvm ex. I said he needed a bra 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 01:46 AM |
| 13 | More young men are living at home, not participating in the workforce, and playing more video games. What a surprise! /sI see you met my BROTHERS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 01:07 AM |
| 11 | Shitty dudes will even neg your family membersInteresting reminds me of the time...my sisters husband made a comment about me and my sister told me. He told her “he liked her boobs better than mine”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 11:21 AM |
| 5 | Dating a woman and ignoring the men who want me has been the best dating decision I’ve ever made.I’ve been trying to meet a girl for years it’s really hard to meet women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 04:49 AM |
| 11 | Cruella has to be the most FDS thing Disney has ever madeI just watched it yesterday. I really love the fierceness of Cruella, all the fashion and revenge/ strategy plots. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:43 AM |
| 17 | What do you do when you remember your ex?I just read my list of shitty stuff they did to me, I started making the list in anticipation for the inevitable break up. Really helped me out. | /r/askFDS | 30/05/21 01:20 AM |
| 13 | Emotional abuse can be as destructive as physical abuse & everyone needs to know this.All abuse whether physical or emotional abuse contains mental and physiological abuse. Not all abuse is physical but all abuse is mental, emotional and psychological. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 02:24 PM |
| 20 | Yet another scene of Covid restrictions lifted and men GO FUCKING NUTS because starved of female attentionI’m getting to this point... I haven’t met a single decent man on old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:23 PM |
| 7 | Moving on from NVM ex and finding your inner strength..What helped me get over my narcissist ex to the point I dgaf about him anymore was... definitely the Lundy Bancroft book. And watching hours upon hours of YouTube videos about narcissist, Dana Morningstar and her whole thrive after abuse facebooks and videos. Also singing this song to the top of my lungs I don’t Care Anymore | /r/askFDS | 22/05/21 08:20 PM |
| 3 | A lot to unpack here....why on earth do some women deal with this absolute bullshit??Don’t fucking question your looks! Question the fucking relationship and judge him as a man of low value! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 08:34 PM |
| 1 | When will the breakup blues and anger subside?What helped me get over the trauma bonding from my narcissist ex was watching tons of YouTube videos about narcissist. I suggest Dana Morningstar and her thrive after abuse videos. She also has a podcast and live broadcast every week and you can ask her questions. I’ve got 2 of her books and she’s just awesome. She also has a great “Thrive after Abuse” Facebook group where thousands of women like you talk about their feelings and describe their abuse exactly what your saying. I highly suggest yo… | /r/askFDS | 17/05/21 06:39 PM |
| 18 | What's up with him?I was watching this Steve Harvey show clip, he basically says these guys have several women’s numbers and they send out many texts to see which girl responded. He compared it to laying out traps like a hunter and coming back hours or days later to see what he caught. They know that the odds are against them so they lay out many traps to see who will text them back. | /r/askFDS | 12/05/21 07:45 PM |
| 21 | Why are men on dating apps if they want nothing serious?Their hoping to find a pickme to use and discard | /r/askFDS | 11/05/21 12:31 AM |
| 40 | True crime and age gapsWow this is super fascinating. I love this. This is like an easy dating/life hack. I just looked up Drew Peterson. I don’t watch much true crime but I looked up Drew Peterson and all his victims were 9/ 30 years younger then him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:23 PM |
| 167 | "Division of labor imbalances in marriage are a form of spousal abuse...make him earn his right to stay married or divorce his ass."This is right on...it made me think of all the crying, stressful days I spent begging my lvm ex to help me clean up and clean after himself. And he would say I’ll do it later later. When I left him he begged for 4 years to get back together with me. Now I’m remembering his indifferent shrug, it makes me so fucking angry that I didn’t leave him sooner. I used to scream in frustration while he laid on the couch. I’d come from work at 1 am and he’d leave piles of rotting food on the floor. After 12… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 03:43 AM |
| 143 | Henry VIII's wives if they'd never met himAnne of Cleves 4th wife, made out like a bandit...he never slept with her because when they met she wasn’t impressed by him and he was offended. He then decided she was too ugly. So he gave her some castles and money and she was deemed the “Kings sister.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 01:48 AM |
| 9 | There is a steep and rapid decline in US birth rates. The media is placing the blame on the pandemic but I’m just over here like, “Have you seen these men out here lately?”It’s so sad that religion manipulates women this way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 12:00 AM |
| 5 | Cultivating female friendships?I’m in the same boat except my kids are a little younger. I moved across country and I don’t really have friends in my state. Just family. I’ve haven’t had a best friend in a decade or two and my last best friend was a jerk. I definitely need a circle of female friends that we hang out and do fun things together. | /r/askFDS | 06/05/21 04:37 PM |
| 17 | Remain friends with a man who didn't meet my standards?He’s playing the long game he’s hoping overtime you will develop feelings for him and all that stuff you said you will forget about it because you’ll be on love with him. | /r/askFDS | 06/05/21 03:19 AM |
| 9 | I absolutely can not stand this trend of woman thanking their male partners for "putting up with them" on social media.🙌🏽 I try to not let it happen once! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 08:41 PM |
| 3 | How do I respond to this? I'm intimidated by his lead.I’m so with you! Wtf they always want to rush you. I can’t stand that. It’s like did you ask me about my self at all or have a conversation with me yet, but I’m supposed to go fucking meet you. Every time I’ve ever went on a date without vetting I was disappointed within the first few minutes of meeting them. The guy that smelled like weed and didn’t have a car, the guy who had the worst dragon breath ever, the guy with wet hands and then got mad that I didn’t want to shake his hand. I want to t… | /r/askFDS | 05/05/21 06:32 PM |
| 1 | How do I nicely say I want to go on a dinner date? This guy just proposed an ice cream date?This is brilliant and SO TRUE...When my kids are good I take them out for ice cream. 😂😂😂 | /r/askFDS | 02/05/21 03:06 PM |
| 1 | How do I nicely say I want to go on a dinner date? This guy just proposed an ice cream date?This is really helpful I’m reading through all the comments too | /r/askFDS | 02/05/21 10:47 AM |
| 50 | Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted ToYep! I’m a big girl too and I used to work security at WTC in NYC with mostly men and they’d talk so disgusting,ogle and cat-call women walking by. I used to feel like shit. It was like I wasn’t even a woman. For me I find lots men look at big girls to do them sexual favors but not as a long term partner. They think big women are desperate and therefore would be happy to chill with them for mediocre sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 01:14 AM |
| 6 | How to deal with betrayal and being lied to by someone you loveIt will take some time to get over someone you loved, in the meantime invest in yourself and practice self care. Try some new hobby you’ve always wanted to try. Travel or whatever interests you. Keep yourself busy and enjoy your life! I was madly in love with my nvm ex narcissist and this advice helped me A TON!! Also huge make a list of all the shitty stuff he said and did during the relationship and read it whenever you miss him, it will piss you off. | /r/askFDS | 01/05/21 08:48 PM |
| 7 | How do I nicely say I want to go on a dinner date? This guy just proposed an ice cream date?Thank you I rejected the ice cream date. I need you Queens to teach me. I will block and delete. I’ve always wanted to be nice, but I’m learning they don’t care about being nice so why should I? | /r/askFDS | 30/04/21 03:55 PM |
| 6 | How do I nicely say I want to go on a dinner date? This guy just proposed an ice cream date?Hilarious, since I rejected the ice cream date he has left me on read since yesterday! 😂 | /r/askFDS | 30/04/21 03:50 PM |
| 3 | How do I nicely say I want to go on a dinner date? This guy just proposed an ice cream date?Wow I’ve had so many times where a guy promises me a dinner date and never comes through. I’m through with that bullshit. How much can a decent restaurant cost? If he’s that hung up on money he ate worth our time! | /r/askFDS | 30/04/21 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Health benefits of leaving a LVM and NVMNo more fear and sadness No more broken heart No more psychological mind games Less anger CONTROL OVER MY LIFE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 10:15 PM |
| 4 | What can I tell myself to steel myself against cat calling?This might be a dumb answer but walk around with big headphones and sunglasses. I’m also from New York but did not receive that much attention to get the harassment. I was followed once and cursed out twice. I just nodded to avoid a violent outburst, but I kept it moving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 11:09 PM |
| 459 | If you're a Brown Woman dating a White Man, survey his inner circle of close friends and family. If you are the only POC in his life, you are a source of entertainment and validation of his liberal views, not a partner.I was talking to a white guy once and he said “ I hear black girls are wild in bed” and then kept asking me for anal! Fuck you Im not ripping up my asshole for your sexual pleasure! I realized he just wanted to use me for sex. He was trying a “black girl” to see what he can get out if it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:52 PM |
| 13 | Nothing but truth was spoken.Lol reminds me of the time I was hit on by a cop at a kids camp festival at a park and I had to explain to him I was 11. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 08:27 PM |
| 74 | A little on the nose, don't you think?Lol reminds me of time, I was crossing the street and some guy was cat calling me and I didn’t respond and he preceded to insult my “fucked up” hairstyle. Thank you for revealing your true self within seconds = no time wasted on a lvm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:42 PM |
| 7 | Friendly reminder: we don’t have an expiration dateOmg Me too, I’m 40! Last year personally was a great year! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:38 AM |
| 5 | This is such a great argument for why “don’t bring up what happened in the past” is such bull. Men just wait for you to calm down so they can brush everything under the rug, and then do the exact same thing again. LVM truly do not care about their partners.We broke up 3 years ago. He was trying to form a friendship and when I brought up the terrible shit he did that caused the break-up he kept saying he wants to stay positive and doesn’t want to talk about the past stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 01:38 PM |
| 12 | This is such a great argument for why “don’t bring up what happened in the past” is such bull. Men just wait for you to calm down so they can brush everything under the rug, and then do the exact same thing again. LVM truly do not care about their partners.Damn this is my exact shit I’m going through right now!!!! They try to gaslight you. It wasn’t that bad get over it already. Fuck that!!! I need to see you actually be apologetic! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:21 AM |
| 3 | This is my worst fear. Hope she can take her kids and get the hell out ASAPI left my ex husband years ago. I’m having the most awesome time being single. Me and my kids do wtf we want and I will never live with a man again! They’re fucking slobs and won’t clean up after themselves. He caused us to get evicted twice and was so dirty we got roaches and mice. He always invited some stupid friend over and ate all the food. It’s so great having control over your home. I want my name on the mortgage/lease and no other names. Therefore he doesn’t have the upper hand. My siste… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 03:24 PM |
| 17 | Watching posts in other "women's subs" get removed makes me grateful for FDSI CONCUR! This time last year before I discovered FDS I cringe at the pickme I used to be and I’m so GLAD I found FDS. I feel so empowered and mentally strong. I check FDS everyday. So much I have learned and I learn each day! Seriously the posts here should be taught to every girl in school and I’m teaching my daughter the PG version of this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 11:13 PM |
| 18 | Isn’t it funny...Lol a guy on OLD once asked me what kinks do I have. I said I have a kink for being respected and having pleasant conversations. Wonder why I never heard from him again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:41 PM |
| 11 | He just ended things because I was making him wait for sexHahaha reminds of a lvm I was talking to earlier this year before I found Fds. He stopped talking to me because I didn’t want to try anal. Sorry I won’t let you rip my asshole up for your pleasure like the pornstars you jerk off to everyday! I should have known he was garbage, he kept saying women treated him so badly. Thank God I found Fds! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 12:23 AM |
| 9 | Roasting my past libfem pickme self 🤡I love this post! I am super militant now. I hate that pick me I used to be and I am angry with her for letting my narcissist LVM ex take so much advantage of me. I’m glad I left that piece of shit while he was at work. So hilarious him texting and crying. His tears don’t come close to all the tears I cried during the relationship and after I left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:10 PM |
| 22 | Why do men feel entitled to participate in spaces made for women?I hope if they are lurking at least, they learn how to treat women better. Not for manipulative gains but a genuine reprogramming of how women should be treated and hopefully level up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:43 PM |
| 6 | Crazy ex trope-do not fall for it queens.God this is so accurate! 🙌🏽 my sisters married to this lvm , and they are obsessed with talking about his ex wife. Meanwhile this lvm treats her like shit. I’m trying to tell my pick me sister that he’s the one with problem but she don’t wanna hear it. I guess Jodete 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 08:14 PM |
| 67 | Keep your friends safe! 🌸I’m curious and this is probably a naive question, but how are the guys like in Ireland? What’s the dating scene like in Ireland? I know men everywhere can be terrible, but I wonder how much of American culture contributes to American men acting the way they do as opposed to the men being naturally depraved or raised that way? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 02:36 PM |
| 167 | If a man tells you he won't put in effort, he won't.Wow reminds me of my ex-husband he used that excuse to never get me anything for Valentines Day and he even missed his first born son first birthday. Saying he didn’t celebrate birthdays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 03:40 AM |
| 16 | "He cheated on me and then cried about how life is hard" men: "wow you're abusive for not letting him speak about his feelings, thats why ur single".🏅🏅🏅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 10:49 PM |
| 14 | What a lowlife smhOmg can I just say this lady’s personality and mannerisms are awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:00 AM |
| 4 | What a lowlife smhHope you getting those survivor benefits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:53 AM |
| 5 | Now is not the time to be dating. Men are way more desperate and dependent than ever. Use this time to better yourself rather than attaching yourself to someone through desperation.Well said! Never thought of it this way but you’re so right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:18 AM |
| 4 | Women only have to worry about potentially ending up in a situation like numerous previous women who were beaten, raped and killed by the men they were dating, but yeah, men must have it worse... 🙄That is definitely something I worry about that’s why I started bringing my concealed carry with me. Just in case | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 02:53 PM |
| 2 | They want to be seen as providers and protectors, yet seem to dislike girls who are attracted to and needful of their money. What exactly do they want?I can’t stand when they say “Females” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 05:44 PM |
| 4 | Don’t do it sis.😂 So true I second that! I was dating a lvm that wanted to move in after 1 month😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 03:39 AM |
| 1 | For real thoughI demand a man makes me orgasm or I lose interest. Especially if he doesn’t give it his all and make it his priority to make me feel good | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:35 AM |
| 1 | Being a woman is worse than being a pedo/sWow that is such a good point! She hasn’t done nothing to no one but they drag her through the mud! If I were her I wouldn’t read any of that garbage and go on loving my life. It’s good they escaped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Being a woman is worse than being a pedo/sThere’s pics of him with underaged girl and he lied and said he never met her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 04:53 PM |
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