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No, I wouldn't. I'd be doing the same thing I'm doing right now. However, if I did sleep with a lot of women I certainly wouldn't care when people judged me for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 04:00 PM
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They're completely normal and possible. I'm still friends with my ex and have a couple of close online female friends. I think every friendship is different and gender doesn't have to influence it. It's obviously easier to stay close platonic friends over the internet but I'm absolutely sure nothing would change about those friendships if they were irl. I've been friends with women irl before too and that went fine. I wouldn't care about my partner's opposite sex friends and how they hung out as…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 08:33 PM
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If you really care about someone satisfying them is something you should want. That can mean having sex even when you're not necessarily that in the mood. However, I don't think that means having sex when you really don't want to. It's more like "I'm feeling neutral, she's horny; guess we'll have sex". That happened a few times in my last relationship. Whenever I really didn't want to have sex I told her though and expected her to respect that. Similarly, I'd respect it if my partner didn't want…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 06:24 PM
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This place has had no impact on how I lean or what I think of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 11:13 AM
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I don’t have a set age. Having children is dependent on whether I end up in a good serious relationship and that’s not a given. My ideal would be 4 kids (could be adopted, step-kids or foster kids) by 45.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 08:19 PM
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I’m dating them in the present so that’s what matters to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 08:16 PM
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There is no set meaning, you have to decide on one yourself. Or just exist without one, a perfectly valid way to live as well. It's probably how most of us go through most of our days. When I personally have an existensial fit I usually try to remember that there are people who believe that their lives are better off with me in it and who would experience pain and grief if I died. That's usually enough to keep myself from wanting to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/19 11:29 AM
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Being in love and wanting a family make me want to commit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 06:52 AM
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Falling in love is basically just a lot of thinking about and caring for someone. A need to be close to them. It's got more to do with personality than looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/19 04:12 PM
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Sure. If you're reading this Lia Lor, you're totally free to hit me up any time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/19 04:29 PM
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Sex is seen as a reward by some men. They experience it as such. But there is nothing innate that makes sex a reward. I’d argue that most women and also a lot of men, especially those that have sex regularly, do not see having sex as rewarding behaviour. It’s weird to chastise women for “rewarding” men when they don’t see it as such. And, this kinda goes back to what I was saying about sex being seen differently for men and women, men never see them having sex with someone as rewarding that pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 02:57 PM
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No. She can’t be that great if my family dislikes her that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 07:47 AM
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Nah, it’d be a bummer but there are still ways for us to become parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 07:45 AM
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Sex is not a reward, it’s an activity often engaged in on the basis of mutual attraction. Not on the basis of moral fibre. Now you could say that any kind of positive time spend with someone like that is being an enabler but the sad truth is that a lot of -isms are still accepted and normalized. But I’ve been on this subreddit long enough to know that most people here don’t really care about -isms of any kind. That’s just a front. The real issue here is that sex is seen as something taken from w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 07:44 AM
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I wouldn't be the same person I am now had I been born a woman. My whole life would have been different in ways I can't even predict. Would I have ended up happier? Maybe, being happier than I am now is a pretty low bar to clear. I can't say I wish that I'd been born a woman tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 11:04 AM
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That sounds like a made up story but lets assume it’s real. There are plenty of people that I find sexist, racist, etc. and that I’d still sleep with. How is this difficult to understand? Men fuck women they complain about and find crazy all the damn time. The dick/pussy wants what the dick/pussy wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 01:44 PM
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I don’t currently engage in those activities. Right now I’m not actively looking for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 09:58 AM
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I'm very insecure, I can live with my partner being very insecure. I don't like people that constantly ask for validation however and I wouldn't want to date someone that doesn't trust me. Thinking you're ugly is fine, just believe and accept that I do find you hot. ​
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 09:50 AM
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A female friend is just that, a friend. I don't have different "standards" for them, hell I don't even think in terms of standards when it comes to friends. It's just someone I enjoy spending time with. And how is it "cucking"? Do the guys "cuck" their female friends too by dating or sleeping with other women? Do gay men cuck their platonic male friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 02:36 PM
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The people dating decide what cheating is. Personally, I'd consider anything sexual cheating (so that includes sexting and such) but I wouldn't consider emotional closeness cheating unless it was somehow interfering with my SO's feelings for me. There is no difference when men or women cheat. I don't associate it with any kind of value. Well, I guess cheating has to do with the amount of opportunities a person is confronted with so in that sense it gets harder to not cheat the more desirable you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 02:31 PM
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Sadly, my reading has fallen off a bit but I primarily read fiction with the occasional academic work on historical/cultural/social issues. Sometimes I read non-fiction about other academic/scientific topics. If I read political works they are usually leftist. Bluepill with feminist views.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 10:52 AM
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Why do you think it bears a lot of truth? Sex-positivity and support of sex work can also be found among female feminists. Same goes for BDSM kinks. And there are some male feminists who do not think those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 10:32 AM
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I know lonely single women without any kind of romantic relationships. They are not hard to find online bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 11:21 AM
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Sure, there’s nothing wrong with having a lot of partners. Sounds like fun as long as it is consensual and not paid for.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 07:52 AM
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If you have a hard time telling how they feel why not just ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 09:47 AM
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I don’t get the “teach how to have sex” stuff. Sex ain’t rocket science and besides, you have to communicate the things you personally enjoy anyway when you’re with a new partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 10:44 PM
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Love works in mysterious ways yo. Just on the face of it, it does sound fucked up tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:35 AM
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The one sexually-attracted to me. She’d cease to be an option when her looks prevent me from lusting for her but I can lust pretty easily. In no scenario would I pick someone I cannot lust over or someone just into my wealth. I’d rather be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:32 AM
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Unaware of her sexuality? That doesn’t sound good. I was an older virgin not too long ago so that by itself is not a problem for me. We’d have to be sexually compatible though and I’m not sure how I’d be compatible with someone unaware of their sexuality. Likewise, I have no problem with someone with a high n-count but a lifestyle of partying every week doesn’t sound compatible with my introverted ass. Their age and n-count wouldn’t play a role in who I’d prefer at all. Oh and I’m 26
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 09:10 AM
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I genuinely don't get this. The problem would be sex feeling like a chore for my partner. Who gives a fuck what they did in the past, I want to be satisfied with what they do in the present. It's like some of you feel like you can only criticize someone if their behaviour was different in the past, with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 12:21 AM
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I can scarcely imagine something more painful than finding out you were lied to about being the biological father of your children. That's why I can't really say with any certainty what I'd do in that situation. However, I hope that if I had spent any time raising these children I would still be there for them and would continue to be their dad. Because ultimately that's what counts. I raised them so I'm their dad, no matter what. I wouldn't want the hurt of their mother's betrayal to fall on th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 07:56 PM
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If a woman doesn't want you the problem is no one because someone not liking someone else isn't a problem at all, it's just life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 10:59 AM
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As someone who struggles with mental health himself, I'd never rule someone out because they have a mental illness or personality disorder. It would all depend on how well we'd get along, to what degree her behaviour is negatively influenced and how willing she is to work on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 12:17 PM
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Clingy is someone lacking object permanence but for love and affection. Insecurity makes someone more prone to clingy behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 02:44 PM
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Some of the red pilled guys here seem pretty happy. Someone like iulicelac is predisposed to defeatism and self-loathing so they demoralize themselves with the "statistics" and descriptions of female behaviour the red pill provides. If it wasn't for the red pill, he'd find some other place with information that he could use to hurt himself with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 07:53 PM
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I think it’s less about the red pill and more about the person reading it. Someone might go there and think “see, women are all brainless bitches so I should learn how to pump-and-dump them all”. Or someone might go “no woman will ever truly want me because I’m not in the top 20% so I give up”. Hell, someone might even be attracted to the whole captain/first-mate bullshit and the “women, and therefore my potential partner, are children” and be more likely to look for a relationship. In the end i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 02:01 PM
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Cheating does not always have to be unforgivable or relationship-ending. If she’s unhappy I’d rather she divorce me tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/18 04:57 PM
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Those two threads have nothing to do with each other. An older man asking inappropriate questions of a young female customer and getting reprimanded for it has nothing to do with single men lacking physical affection in their lives. Those men most likely lack affection because their friends and family don't "do" hugs or other physically intimate signs of affection. I know what that's like and I understand why some people might dislike it. However, it does not mean that woman want us dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 09:26 PM
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They're talking about benevolently sexist men, not the type of sexist men this sub would regard as most attractive i.e. aggressive "alpha" males. In fact, the beliefs they describe as making these men more attractive sound an awful lot like the beliefs of the people TRP likes to make fun of, like pedestalizing women. Also, isn't the typical accusation that male feminists are just feminists because they're trying to get laid? Now we should stop being feminist so... we can get laid? How would that…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 04:35 PM
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She's afraid that the man isn't interested enough to stick around after sex and wants to make sure he's actually really into her so she doesn't get hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 01:46 PM
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I don't think it's very likely that a man will go on multiple dates over the course of several months just because he's that desperate to have sex. And if he's not the type to bail after sex would it even matter if he "doesn't have other options"? If he's fun enough to hang out with one-on-one for several months it seems stupid to care whether he's got other options or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 01:45 PM
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Only have sex after a few months of dating. If the man is willing to wait that long you’ll know that sex isn’t his first priority and that he’s really into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 10:33 AM
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N-count does not factor into my decision at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 07:21 AM
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I've never thought of relationships, romantic or otherwise, in a transactional way like that. For romantic relationships, the best a woman "can do for me" is to be someone I'm in love with I guess. And love me back of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 07:19 PM
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I watch the same thing but with women so it'd be hypocritical of me to judge my girl over it. Besides, I honestly wouldn't care about any porn preference and I'd expect my gf not to care either. I told my ex what kind of porn I watch and she didn't seem bothered by it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 12:56 AM
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Looking good feels good, even when there's no one around to see you. Of course, when there are other people around to notice you looking good it's even better.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 08:37 PM
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I don’t consider having outspoken political beliefs to be the same as being judgmental. Vocally disagreeing with people that support family-separation, curtailing abortion rights or banning gay marriage, and finding those views immoral is not the same as judging someone for their christianity or traditional lifestyle for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 10:27 PM
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Not married and undecided on whether I want to. What I do know, however, is that I want to be with women who get horny over me. Now I understand that attraction and sex drive waxes and wanes in a long-term relationship. That's okay but it doesn't have to mean the lower points are filled with reluctant/unwanted sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 06:51 PM
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Yeah, this used to be a widespread way of thinking. Never heard of the phrase "lie back and think of England"? Or hell, the fact that marital rape wasn't a thing in the past. I wouldn't find any satisfaction in it. If we're not both into it I don't want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 08:34 PM
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I'm not sure about my preferences because I've got a habit of downplaying my own desires or even acting like I don't have any. But I think I like intelligent and outspoken women. The women I've been most attractive too have been women with very outspoken opinions, who were very assertive but who were also kind and didn't judge much. I'm not sure where that comes from, I guess that's just the type of person I like and admire in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 08:28 PM
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Sexually, being submissive means getting pleasure out of pleasing someone, doing what they want you to do. And to be obedient. Outside of the bedroom, I guess it'd mean a woman who generally obeys her partner and serves him. I don't think either has to be because of insecurity or a lack of own opinions. It's just a way of enjoying sex and/or a mindset. Personally, I'm not looking for either kind of submissiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 06:07 PM
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The same people would probably call spanking someone as inherently dominant even though that is done solely for the partner's pleasure as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 01:41 PM
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that's why I used the word inherently. Any sexual act can be submissive or dominant, it's not about the act but the way it is done.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 09:44 AM
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I don’t get how it’s supposedly an inherently submissive act. Women aren’t exactly in control when you’re down there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 09:16 AM
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I’m a pleaser at heart so I probably would do it again if asked but I really didn’t enjoy hitting my ex in the face. Honestly, anything that’s about me having to hurt the person I’m with is not my cup of tea.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 08:09 AM
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Give up porn, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 04:08 PM
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Duh, why the fuck wouldn’t I?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 09:41 AM
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What makes you not good looking in your opinion? Small things like clothes and hair can already make a big difference in how you look so start there. Pick clothes and a hairstyle that you think look good. Maybe look up some famous dudes for inspiration. Being overweight isn't a death sentence when it comes to being attractive but regular exercise and a good diet is both good for your health and will make you lose weight so it's probably a good next step. Most importantly, go out and be more soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 06:21 PM
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Everyone who has any interest in a serious relationship already is looking for that special someone. I don't think that really counts as a strategy. So I do think it's better to work on being confident. Work on believing in yourself, taking yourself and your needs seriously, and taking pride in yourself. Once you've got that you can go date around like the "Chads" and see if you find someone you really like and want a serious relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 01:01 PM
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Male, My dealbreakers are being rightwing/conservative and being too religious. Oh and not wanting kids, I guess, if we're talking serious marriage-minded relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 11:08 PM
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32 out of 36. I knew I had to be above average at something.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 04:53 PM
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I have zero money or status and I still got a girlfriend. You don't know enough people if you don't know any examples disproving this dumbass idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 03:26 PM
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I assume you'd know your fiance/girlfriend well enough to not judge her purely based on studies about a correlation between promiscuity and divorce rates. In fact, I think that once you're at the stage where you're discussing sexual past you probably know enough other, more important things about the person to judge them on. And yes, virgin shaming is mostly aimed at men and therefore sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 06:05 PM
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I disagree with your stance but congrats on not being sexist at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 05:29 PM
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Does this also go for men, or just for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 05:26 PM
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So I take it that in your own judgment casual sex is to be avoided so as to not damage your ability to be a good parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 01:28 PM
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You say you've been dumped for your past. Does that mean you won't make for a good parent now? Do you lack moral standards? Also, cheating is not the same as having casual sex. Cheating means actively hurting someone you ostensibly love, casual sex doesn't hurt anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 01:27 PM
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Slutty daughter. An incel is by definition unhappy with his situation. A slutty daughter can be perfectly happy with herself and that's all I'd want for my child.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 12:00 AM
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Why would having orgies and a lot of consensual casual sex mean someone can't be a good spouse or parent? This kind of judgment of the past is almost always done exclusively towards women so I do think it is sexist. I've never heard people call into question the parental abilities of male musicians, politicians and actors purely because they've had a lot of sex. Would DiCaprio make for a bad dad because he liked sleeping with hot models? What about Clinton or Clooney?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:59 PM
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I just got out of my first relationship and it has made me realize that I'm not really a relationship-type right now. That doesn't mean I want to sleep around a lot but right now, I'd probably prefer it over another relationship. Anyway, you can always change your mind and go from casual sex to a relationship or vice-versa. It's not like you need to make a decision right now, just do what feels comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 01:29 PM
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Everything I thought I missed out on, whether it was sex, parties, drugs, alcohol or relationships, turned out to not nearly be as special as I thought it was. You can do the things you feel like you missed out on now and decide for yourself whether it was ever worth being angry/resentful about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 01:34 PM
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I haven't found a way to really improve myself yet. Like, I once lost a huge amount of weight and went from overweight to underweight in a year or so but it was driven by intense self-hatred and besides the number on the scale/the size of my clothes nothing really changed for the better. I'm in therapy now but it is still too early to say if it's going to help. Perhaps the one thing that has kind of helped has been gaining more self-awareness and accepting myself more and through that learning t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 06:22 PM
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I was intimidated by dating and relationships in general but I wasn't really intimidated by anything specific about a woman/women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 06:18 PM
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I think a positive self-image is important in general but I know from experience that it isn't a requirement. Wanting to work on your self-image before you date isn't a terrible idea but it too often becomes an excuse not to try at all. You can do both at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 02:32 PM
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Are you seriously trying to use Seinfeld to make a point... ​ It doesn't even work cause this is how George gets the date in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 02:29 PM
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Lots of women want a man that desires them. By flirting and asking a woman out you can see if she is interested back. Besides, making a move can also mean acting on the obvious hints of a woman interested in you. I’ve had women lose interest because I was too afraid to go for a kiss or take them up on their obvious attempts at setting up a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 12:31 PM
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Isn’t it obvious what “nice guys” are doing wrong? They don’t make a move/tell the woman they are interested in that they like her. What they should be doing differently is ask the women they are attracted to out instead of avoiding the risk of rejection and secretly pining for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 09:30 AM
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Depends on the girl now, don’t it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 06:18 AM
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> In blue pill mindset, you think she will stay loyal to you forever. No one thinks this. "Blue pill" basically just means understanding and accepting that women are as human as we are and just as capable of staying loyal. You know how often I check out attractive women when I'm with my girlfriend? All the fucking time dude. It doesn't mean anything. It doesn't even mean they are more attractive than my girlfriend. All it means is that I'm a normal straight dude with two working eyes. If my girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 12:29 PM
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None of those things you talk about are necessary. Getting a relationship doesn’t have to be much work at all. Whether it is something you want is for you as an individual to decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 08:18 AM
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You aren’t still single because you are of low value, unattractive or whatever else that voice tells you. It’s because you’ve only tried with 2 girls. You need to show interest in more girls. Easiest way to do this is to socialize more and actually meet more girls. More importantly, socializing more and getting out there will probably help you like yourself more in general. Try to figure what things besides lack of romantic success are making you unhappy and try to make some changes. Don’t tell …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 07:31 AM
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I think in both cases it's just people too afraid to go for what they want and risk rejection. Nothing malicious about it and people that complain about either are dumbasses who've fallen for a stupid internet meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 07:17 PM
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Most incels are incel because they literally do not interact with women in a non-professional context. Going further than an online dating account with no bio and three sad badly lit bedroom selfies is too much effort for them. They should actually try before the question of settling comes up. I took the comments about low value to heart when I was still single because they confirmed what I thought of myself. Turns out all I had to do was say yes to a single date to find someone interested in me…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 01:32 PM
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First of all, that oft touted 17:1 ratio describes a time when men controlled who married. Second of all, if I can get laid so can literally almost every other guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 10:31 AM
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I think there are more opportunities to isolate yourself and live an asocial life and the people doing that are going online to for some reason blame others for the fact that they’re alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 10:27 AM
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Women can't be incel because men can't be either. "Inceldom" is not a thing. The only reason self-described incels are single is that they refuse to meet and show interest in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 07:03 AM
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It is a self-confidence thing but is is framed around masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 04:16 PM
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Maybe. None else seems to think I’m not masculine. A lot of people think I am confident, assertive and masculine. The problem is how I personally never feel masculine enough or like I’m an imposter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 02:40 PM
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All masculinity does is ruin my life. Despite holding very progressive and feminist views I have internalized a very traditional view of masculinity from a very young age and I basically always feel like I fall short. So all masculinity does is make me feel like I'm not good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 12:10 PM
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BTW The peasant is forced to work and stay on the land of the lord out of fear of violence that is as much the result as a cause for the feudal system. The slave is captured and robbed of his/her freedom by the slave-owner and forced to work for the sole benefit of the owner out of fear for the legal and physical (deadly) violence the owner wields. The taxpayer is forced to pay their share and submit to rules not of their making because of the protection the state provides and its monopoly on vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 01:55 PM
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I'm the one ranting? You spouted completely irrelevant stats without sourcing and then described a completely unequal relationship as if it was the blueprint for any heterosexual pairing. I take more than I give because I receive more oral sex than I give, I go to her house but don't let her into mine, I don't use my phone around her while she lets me watch hers, I've met her friends while she hasn't met mine, I do not keep her warm or keep her fed. My mom has always done her part in paying for …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 12:24 PM
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The way you frame male providing is simply wrong. You are trying to turn a male demand into a female one. How many men out there do you think are willing to sacrifice their careers or their home to support their wives'? Do you think men like Trump end up with young lazy housewives because that's the only thing they could get? That is the dynamic these men want. One of the reasons Japanese women give for avoiding marriage is that marrying will force them to give up their careers and become housew…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 12:17 PM
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As someone in a relationship with someone that is very busy and where neither of us has a place of their own, it has its positives and negatives. You get more time for yourself, which I like, but you also need to text a lot, which I dislike. And seeing each other in person less also means less sex which is a pretty big negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 10:16 AM
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History is relevant because women are getting blamed for the way things are when it was men who enforced that way of being. Cultures/societies don't change on a dime and we are talking about rights that have only really been established since the 19th and 20th century. You guys are ascribing patriarchal thinking to women's natural ability to love. It's simply wrong. Feminists are the ones complaining about financial inequality in marriage, traditionalist men are the ones trying to keep it. So I …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 10:11 AM
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Yes. I always think it's cool when someone does gender-nonconforming stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 07:27 AM
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Women have had to fight men for the right to have a job, own property, go to school, among other things. Your post makes it sound as if men were forced into a position where providing for your wife is the norm. Men were the ones who enforced that system, women were the ones have tried to change it. ​ As for number 3... Do you really believe that? That's a meaningless romantic notion if I ever saw one. Love does not have to be blind or stupid. In fact, ideally, it should be neither. There are men…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 07:03 AM
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This is completely absurd. Your girlfriend/exes did nothing in the relationship? Like, this is so out of touch with reality as to be laughable. The only reason more men have historically provided for women materially is because male-dominated societies wanted it to be that way. The one who is provided for is powerless and dependent on the provider. It’s why some women have fought against that way of thinking throughout history. And yeah, some women have come to belief in that patriarchcal system…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/18 06:29 AM
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What does any of this have to do with how men love women? In what way do you love a girlfriend that she cannot reciprocate?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 11:39 PM
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How do men love women?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 10:47 PM
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I used to be terrible about making moves. Too afraid. Now I’m not afraid anymore but I have a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 10:34 PM
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Don’t know what to tell you. Me and my friends were never taught that women were more than human and so none of us were surprised to find that women were in fact flawed human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 10:25 PM
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Convince you that they are different from what? Human beings? I was never taught that women were more than human and neither were my friends so it’s no surprise that things like loyalty are hard for them. It is hard for me and my male friends as well. I would never expect more from someone than I expect from myself and I know I can’t guarantee attraction to last forever or undying loyalty. As for those other fears, the ones about the need dominance or the disgust towards weakness, more interacti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 10:23 PM
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I think those “unmet expectations” you name are actually just unfounded fears from men who haven’t interacted much with women. I had a lot of the same fears (women won’t be loyal, will string me along/betabux me instead of have sex with me, will be turned off by my weaknesses and vulnerabilities, only want dominant men, etc). Interacting with more women and actually dating helped me see how stupid those fears are. So these are not expectations build up by movies/society that lead to disappointme…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 12:32 PM
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Heavily depends on the person. I’m a late bloomer suffering from arrested development so I do fine around people in their early-twenties. Other people will probably relate more to middle-aged people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 05:43 AM
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I’d flirt back but never actually ask her out. So I’d drag it out until she lost interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 05:40 AM
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My most recent date was the date that lead to my current relationship and essentially my first ever real date. We got set up by a mutual friend and went go-karting. Afterwards, we went for drinks downtown and I got so shit-faced I puked in front of her. Apparently, we also made out before that. I walked her to her home, got thrown off a bus on the way back and ended up sleeping outside on a bench. Despite all that she enjoyed herself and we had a second, less puke-y, date a few days after.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/18 07:19 AM
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B). I could use more friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 12:58 PM
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I admitted to having depression and taking medication on a date. I told her that going out like this and having fun with her also helped and it actually turned her on. So yeah, being vulnerable (i.e. the opposite of toxically masculine) can actually be sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 03:05 PM
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I tend to project my lack of self-worth onto women as a collective but in actuality, the opinions of individual women have little to no effect on my sense of self-worth. My lack of self-worth is entirely my own doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 02:55 PM
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