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BenJ_ABCs/r/seduction03/03/12 01:18 AM
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Good points. Both methods work. I don't want to argue or bring a counter because I don't think it would be helpful to the thread. Either way someone chooses, they win.
/r/seduction24/12/12 11:22 PM
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It does fizzle, but it's good to do non-sexual things with these girls in a "non-date" type of hangout. Bring her along with all of your buddies and introduce her to all of your social circle friends. Go hang out at the beach or shoot some guns! Maybe even grab happy hour drinks together, this will extend the FWB relationship a little more. JUST MAKE SURE that you guys aren't hanging out 1 on 1 EXCEPT for sex. I've had 2 girls in a strictly FWB relationship for over a year, and we set the ground…
/r/seduction21/12/12 09:38 PM
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Pretty much spot on. When you're constantly meeting new girls, you aren't just expanding your horizons, but you're making yourself a higher value individual because these girls are constantly seeing you surrounded by other women. While fuckbuddies are nice, I reserve that spot for your typical Hollywood broke chicks, or girls with low self esteem. The good girls that are relationship material? Well, I turn em into something else :)
/r/seduction21/12/12 09:36 PM
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Hello gentlemen! Ben J here - JT Tran's coach. Here's proof: http://imgur.com/mHI2v Appreciate the upvotes guys! Here's my 2 cents: Don't get mad because of pop up ads. Is it really worth it to get angry over that? Friends with Benefits - absolute blast. Gets a bit of a handful to rotate between several however... There's another blog article on our site that pertains to managing multiple relationships that's also pretty popular. I have personally been managing several girls for quite some time,…
/r/seduction14/12/12 07:15 PM
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She calls you babe, goes out of her way to be helpful, all that stuff is good, then again, she's you're co-worker. Just remember to leave work at work and seduction on your own time. I'm even hesitant on hitting on girls at my own office (one is super cute...) Disclaimer over! Pull the trigger dude! Take her out to lunch, a casual "just lunch." Talk to her, see if you guys are meshing well. Remember to give value, be the fun guy who is a blast to be around and makes others be comfortable around …
/r/seduction12/09/12 08:56 PM
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If you want to play the nice guy: "What's wrong man? There's no need for hostilities." - This is a socially acceptable way of calling him out. This works pretty well. What I like to do is what is called B.I.T Amogging Befriend - Befriend the guy, be nice to him. Whenever I approach a mixed set, I always introduce myself to the guy first. Most of the time, you win over the guy, he doesn't become a problem. I use the line, "How do you all know each other?" to determine the relationship between the…
/r/seduction12/09/12 08:37 PM
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Check out the ABCs of Attraction blog. I'm a coach for the company, so throw me a PM via Reddit if you need help :) Quick thing - don't use anything from the game. All that stuff is outdated and mainstream. Don't use it. You will get called out, and it just doesn't work. The face of seduction has changed quite a bit from when the book was released, so steer clear. Just remember, it's great to read up on stuff, but if you don't take action and do something about it, it won't mean a damn thing. Re…
/r/seduction10/09/12 05:40 PM
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My favorite: Me: Do you have a cell phone? Her: Yeah Me: Let me see it. Put in number, call myself, save contact. "Now you've got to find what I put it as." Sometimes I go "Hot Ben" or "Asian Stud" or "Ben Booty Call"
/r/seduction07/09/11 10:39 PM
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Be energetic in your voice. "Hey it's Ben! I just thought of an awesome idea. Want to go on an adventure? Hit me up! ######"
/r/seduction24/08/11 10:23 AM
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hahaha Black girls are fun! I've noticed that black girls are very sexual in nature, so don't be afraid to kino, hug, hold hands, and get physical quickly. You can physically and sexually escalate, but keep in mind that before that even happens, KNOW that she's attracted to you by using sexual compliance tests. Tell her to kiss you on the cheek, hold her hand, give her a long hug. IOI's are something that black girls especially give out just because their nature is highly physical and sexual. If…
/r/seduction24/08/11 03:28 AM
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This differs QUITE A BIT from social circle game because in social circle game, you can't be fucking a girl and ALL of her friends. They'll view you as a sexual predator. The difference is that with building a social circle, you would actually create the social circle by just building comfort and being viewed as the cool guy who hangs out with girls. The guy that's really chill and fun to be around. Something guys don't understand about girls is that they LOVE to play cupid. They love to hook up…
/r/seduction24/08/11 03:15 AM
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Physical game immediately starts right off the bat when you open her. We use a technique called a kino turn that is extremely effective http://www.abcsofattraction.com/blog/to-everything-there-is-a-season-kino-turn-kino-turn/ I go from general kino to sexual kino by starting at the shoulder and working my way down to the hands. The same way works with a kiss close, you work from the cheek and make your way to the mouth. The easiest way to kiss close is to run sexual compliance tests on her. I us…
/r/seduction24/08/11 03:06 AM
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The unique challenge is the stereotype that asian men are not sexual creatures. We're in the media as the nerd, the mafia guy, the kung fu killer, or small dick comedic relief. In response to this, I recommend : A- Going direct B- Being fun, interesting, lovable, and energetic C- Giving value rather than taking it D- Using great body language, vocal tonality, and most importantly, E- HAVE FUN! My personal thought leaders in seduction have been Mystery, Asian Playboy, and Style. I learned a ton o…
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:57 AM
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I'm a music aficionado. I studied music in college and have a deep love for electronic and house music. Whenever I go into the club early in the night, I let myself go, close my eyes and listen to the beautiful thumpin' tunes for a while. I also do some warm up sets. It takes around 3 to get me warmed up and ready to go. That helps, along with a red bull and vodka :)
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:46 AM
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You're welcome! ;)
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:43 AM
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Best way to get a girl investing into the conversation? Pump up buying temperature so that she's thinking emotionally instead of logically. Bantering is my favorite way of making this happen and it's usually a sure fire way of getting her and myself pumped up and into state. I use buying temp spikes like high fives, secret handshake, or picking her up after twirling her (APB caveman spin!), which works super well. Other ways I do it are telling funny stories about me moving a piano while in coll…
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:42 AM
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Dude, that was fucking awesome!
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:33 AM
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That's a great question! I like talking about breakthroughs :) The biggest one is probably when I got over my AA finally when I started out. I made it a point to burn through 20 sets a night and purposely get rejected. When the next night came, I saw NONE of the people that rejected me, so it really did feel like a "Game." The next one was kiss closing. I was at Vertigo Sky in Chicago with a few wings and I ended up getting a wonderful kiss close with a girl after building up a ton of comfort, u…
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:32 AM
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Favorite opener: "You are fucking BEAUTIFUL, I had to come over and say hello. What's your name? I'm Ben Favorite rapport question: "Would you say you're ambitious? That's cool, I like being with ambitious people because it give me drive in my life and story about my future ambitions Line to number close: Let's get (seed 2nd date) sometime, Give me your number. -OR- let me see your phone punch in numbers now you need to find what I put my number down as smirk! First Text: Hey it's Ben. Save this…
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:27 AM
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Questions mode is bad, as you know. I would advise staying away from that mode immediately. What you'll need to do is give value. I can see why you're frustrated because you're in China and are not a native-speaker. The best advice I can give you is to make yourself presentable with body language. When I was in Thailand, it wasn't really about what I was saying, it was more of how I made the other person feel with not just words, but eye contact, body language, facial expressions, and more. If y…
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:23 AM
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I've never really hit a wall with building attraction, but I do notice that some girls are just not attracted to Asian guys. Even though this happens, I give value by saying, Once you go Asian, you never go caucasian! Once you go yellow, HELLO! This gets their buying temperature up and gets them laughing. I can then easily build attraction through storytelling, dancing, and doing other things. I'm a sucker for blondes and brunettes. The occassional black girl every now and then is fun. I like to…
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:16 AM
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Great question Raigon! It's a double edged sword going direct, if it works then you can immediately go into comfort. If it doesn't, then it's a sinking ship! The best thing to do in this situation is say it with a big smile on your face, look her straight in the eye, and give her just a little general kino. It's pretty hit or miss, but don't get discouraged with direct game because the major setback is more rejections. It's a higher risk, but a higher reward
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:08 AM
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As an Asian male, the most difficult part is the stereotype of Asian men not being sexual creatures. This may sound like a huge hump to get over, but it's actually easily conquered by one thing: Direct game. Like Asian Playboy says, there's no good Asian PUA that has no mastery in direct game. I remember several times when I was out in the field that I was getting put in the friend zone immediately when I went indirect. Now that I open with the line, "You're fucking beautiful/gorgeous/stunning" …
/r/seduction24/08/11 02:04 AM
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Just start using social circle game. In social circle game, it's not about getting laid immediately, you want to start making friends, being friendly and meeting new people. Don't worry about gaming girls or using openers, negs, or that stuff. Just focus on giving value by sharing interesting stories, adventures, short anecdotes, etc. The more value you give in a social circle setting, the more people will want to hang around you, invite you out, and all that good stuff.
/r/seduction24/08/11 01:59 AM
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I will also be there to answer your questions. I have worked with Gareth several times and am a coach for ABCs of Attraction. I'm also Asian too. Jump on and I'll be happy to answer your questions!
/r/seduction24/08/11 01:13 AM
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Looking forward to meeting and talking to everyone. Thanks TofuTofu!
/r/seduction23/08/11 01:06 AM
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I'm a busy guy and don't really lurk on Reddit or Seddit that much. I was happy to work with taroadun at his bootcamp and just wanted to congratulate him on finishing the bootcamp.
/r/seduction10/08/11 08:48 PM
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Hey taroadun, it was my pleasure to help you out and hang with you all at the bootcamp! I really enjoyed that last night, especially when you totally AMOG'd those huge white guys! JT and I were laughing about that the entire night! We're glad that you came to the bootcamp, and we're more glad to be an intergral part in changing your life. Our mission is to give you the tools to become socially intelligent. We stand by our mission 100%, and we're glad you enjoyed what we offered you. Till next ti…
/r/seduction10/08/11 06:51 AM
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