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2	What’s one (or more) piece of advice you’d give to young people when it comes to dating? Congrats on being attractive. I envy you. But I max at a 5 tops. I’ll be LUCKY to settle with a 3 in a LTR.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/22 10:57 PM
1	Most guys struggle with the dating problems and admitting it's hardship's because it is actually the most achievable goal. or you can make it an uber ultra-nightmare by going after people who don't like you back. The problem is, unless you are at least average, that’s everyone. Even unattractive women will not touch unattractive men with a ten foot pole, because some average looking guy can give her a dick appointment off of tinder in 10 minutes. It truly is completely over for a good amount of us. I wish it weren’t true.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/22 10:51 PM
1	Most guys struggle with the dating problems and admitting it's hardship's because it is actually the most achievable goal. I didn’t believe dating was hard out of nowhere. I bought the blue pill “just be confident and put yourself out there and you’ll find the one” line for a decade. Now I’m in my late 20’s, have had little success and it really feels like it’s fucking over. I’m still going to improve myself and looksmax as much as possible, but it’s depressing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/22 10:50 PM
1	Most guys struggle with the dating problems and admitting it's hardship's because it is actually the most achievable goal. Lol, not even. I just want to go on some dates with women in my attractiveness range, or even a bit lower. It’s been impossible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/22 10:48 PM
1	Most guys struggle with the dating problems and admitting it's hardship's because it is actually the most achievable goal. Most unsuccessful young men are late bloomers. I hope you’re right as a 27 year old with little to no dating success. It’s starting to really depress me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/22 10:46 PM
2	What’s one (or more) piece of advice you’d give to young people when it comes to dating? That’s a nice thought, and I’m working on improving. But a part of me still wonders if two years from now when I’m (hopefully) more fit, have more money and more self confidence, I will still have no luck because my genetics aren’t geared towards what most women are attracted to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/22 10:36 PM
1	What is an average guy? Dating apps are your selection bias. Dating apps are not for you. Dating apps are not the only avenue to meet women. Your sample size of dating apps (where men outnumber women by a lot) is not a true representation of anything. Step outside dating apps. Tbf, I have. I genuinely don’t feel like I have ever had a woman (at least outwardly) attracted to me in real life situations, bar two. Any attempts at flirting or asking girls out have landed with a thud. And again, this isn’t me chasing 7+ for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/22 06:31 AM
1	What is an average guy? Easy. Actually evaluate your sample size What do you mean by this? I’ve swiped right on countless thousands of women on dating apps, and over the last 8 or so years I’ve used them, matched maybe 30-40. I’m not saying my conclusion is the only conclusion. It’s just one that I’ve been hyper focusing on lately (I think mainly because I’ve started losing weight and taking care of my appearance more). Like, I’m almost half scared to lose weight and get fit and then attract women. It’s just going to v…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/22 06:19 AM
1	Women how does your sexual attraction work? Interesting. Is there no, "neutral" setting? Like, you don't find them attractive, but you also don't find them attractive? I know I don't attract women, but it's disheartening to think that they think I'm hideous because of that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/22 05:40 AM
1	What is an average guy? suicide fuel	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/22 05:07 AM
1	What is an average guy? Look, I'm trying really fucking hard to not take the black pill here, so throw me a life line. “OKAY FINE! Yes looks matters most for men that want to get laid and fuck multiple 7+/10 women on a regular basis (only using Tinder) Gosh! That’s obviously what I meant by my initial statement!” I just....this is crazy to me. I have zero interest in fucking multiple women that are 7+ on Tinder. I'm looking for someone in my looks range or below for a LTR, and have had zero success. I'm below average (…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/22 05:04 AM
2	Women how does your sexual attraction work? Would you say you still have to find them at least somewhat attractive at first, though?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/22 04:46 AM
8	Most men who don't have "success" with women are a-social. Lack of social skills is a far bigger hindrance than the aspect of looks. Can you carry on a pleasant conversation with someone you don’t want anything from? I can absolutely do this. It's necessary for my job. I often get feedback that I am easy to speak to and very personable. And I've had zero success with women, outside of a few dates and a few kisses. I really, really wish what you were saying was true. But fuck man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/22 04:29 AM
1	Most men who don't have "success" with women are a-social. Lack of social skills is a far bigger hindrance than the aspect of looks. People assume you are an asshole/creep when you're ugly, that's the issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/22 04:27 AM
1	Most men who don't have "success" with women are a-social. Lack of social skills is a far bigger hindrance than the aspect of looks. You’re right, but being social awkward and good looking < being average or even slightly below average with great social skills I really wish I could believe this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/22 04:22 AM