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Those are poor analogies. People can engage in things that are pleasureable without necessarily becoming addicted or having them negatively impact their life, and there's such things as risk mitigation and moderation. For example, you can have junk food every once in a while without becoming overweight and suffering health consequences. You can bet on a sporting event every occasionally without racking up debt or throwing away huge amounts of money. You can watch porn (or Netflix, or play video …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 05:13 PM
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Yes, I would consider a webpage that looks like it was designed in the 90s with a single chart, and barely any info about where the data came from, a shady website. Would you cite that in an academic paper? Hopefully not if you wanted a decent grade. (Gonna apologize in advance for the stats lecture, but I'm a math education major and I fucking love statistics and topics concerning research methods.) I would like to draw your attention to the authors' notes on the limitations of their study (bol…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 04:11 AM
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Not arguing, but you guys should pin moratoriums so users know what's a moratorium and what's not
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 02:54 AM
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If a woman has many sexual partners, it means she has low to no self control. That's an interesting take. Have you considered that some women just really like sex, and intentionally have casual sex because it feels good? Is that different, in your opinion, from a man having casual sex because it feels good? No. 3 was just something on my mind as I was reading through those subs- like, "Do these men know that people lie about their body count? How can they make that a requirement for relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 02:47 AM
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Oh. I was just asking in general, not pointedly. But I appreciate your reply nonetheless
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 02:42 AM
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While I thoroughly appreciate the honesty and diversity of responses I've gotten to these questions, I'm really glad I'm getting some like this one. What keeps me lurking in those subs is something akin to a train-wreck- sometimes I'm just so darkly fascinated by the bitterness and obvious pain expressed there. It's just nice to see some people still have hope and love in their lives. Thank you for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 02:40 AM
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It's not that I don't believe that that's the general statistical trend, it's just that a) that's a really shady website and I have no idea who collected that data, how it was collected, or whom it was collected from, nor does it offer any sort of regression analysis with other influential factors and b) I would be very interested, likewise, in similar data about the number of partners men have vs. their likelihood of cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 02:31 AM
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Interesting. Thanks for your contribution. Have you ever met a woman who was tired of casual sex, was looking for a serious LTR, and wasn't angry or blameful towards men?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 12:59 AM
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I think the issue here is that you view casual sex as women being used by men, instead of people mutually engaging in intercourse with each other. It's fine if you don't want sex with people who have had lots of partners if it skeeves you out, but the fact that you refer to women as "used personal fleshlights" is very telling. That'd be like a woman asking, "Why would I want a man that other women used as their personal dildo for x amount of time?" It's unnecessarily dehumanizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 12:50 AM
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Do you think that the way society treats/responds to promiscuous women encourages lying about sexual history?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 12:44 AM
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I think that's a very healthy and wholesome attitude
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 12:37 AM
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I mean, the low divorce rates in the past were because women legit couldn't leave their husbands without becoming destitute. I don't think that was a good thing. I certainly don't think the modern day system where women can just financially fuck their husbands over on a whim and take the children is a good thing either, but at least the divorce rates aren't being quite as skewed in the downward direction. The numbers today are more accurately indicative of a) marital dissatisfaction, and b) a mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 12:34 AM
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Thanks for your reply. We call "the right person" unicorns for a reason. I think "the right person" is sort of a unicorn thing for everyone, even though there are those that disagree. That's why most marriages don't last forever. People aren't vetting as carefully as they need to, so even if they're willing to put the work into building a strong, healthy relationship, it's like trying to build a house on a broken foundation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 12:20 AM
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I suppose. I always feared rejection for being honest about my numbers, and thankful when partners didn't ask (But also a little concerned that they didn't ask, you know?)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 12:06 AM
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Yeah, but I bet that kind of sucked for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 11:58 PM
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A woman who has had a lot of partners is not necessarily “falling apart” or somehow in worse physical condition, the way an object that literally, repeatedly gets used is. Any person of any gender with a high n count is more likely to have STDS, but there is such thing as testing and preventative measures, and the person is still the same person after each encounter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 11:57 PM
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I mean, if you’re looking at life like a video game, the only person you have control over is your own character. You can take care of your body and emotions and “level up” in life before you decide to engage in romantic and/or sexual relationships with other players. Also, if you’re playing a game in which the rules are not explicitly stated, you’ll tend to look for general trends to help you out or get ahead. They’re not hard and fast rules, and you definitely shouldn’t behave as if they are, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 11:52 PM
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”She’ll appreciate one guy in a half dozen more than one guy in three dozen.” I recognize that I’m probably an exception to the rule, but as someone who’s (a little regrettably, considering the circumstances) had a LOT of sexual partners, I have to disagree. Sex with my husband when we first started dating was the only sex I’ve ever experienced that made me feel like I didn’t need or want anyone else. I like knowing he is genuinely top tier in bed out of a more-than-adequate and representative-o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 11:41 PM
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This is what confuses me about people who only want to date/marry virgins. That’s like commissioning a person who’s never held a pencil in their life to draw you from scratch
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 11:31 PM
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Things like “work on yourself first and foremost,” “focus on things you can control, not others’ behavior,” and nun/monk mode, which is essentially “don’t get into relationships until you’re really ready for them.” Very practical and non-gender-specific advice. There are also very gendered ideas and generalizations that I don’t think are inherently negative or disrespectful, like effective ways to communicate with men that women often don’t find intuitive, that a majority of women are looking fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 11:27 PM
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Interesting. Do you see promiscuity as more of a character trait or a behavior? “For how long do you think she can keep her façade?” Honestly, forever is certainly a possibility. Just as an example, when I was 18, I moved to a big city full of strangers, and accumulated... well, let’s just say a rather extreme n count for not-so-healthy reasons. Later on, I moved away, and eliminated contacted with everybody I met there besides my husband (who is fully aware of my n count.) However, if I hadn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 11:16 PM
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I agree with your last paragraph. But the reality is that politics and gender relations (and beliefs held about both) are deeply divisive nowadays. You could be the most fair, kind, and respectful egalitarian there is in terms of how you treat others, but expressing too radical of a view (or even an ideal for just yourself and your own life) can cause you to lose friends quickly, or even be misconstrued into something defamatory. It’s definitely sad that people have to be careful, but they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 11:02 PM
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Fascinating. If it’s not too personal/explicit of a question, what do you think are indicators that a woman has a high n count if she hasn’t outright disclosed that information?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 10:57 PM
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Red pill ideas (even the concepts that are definitively not sexist and generally useful) can be hard to listen to without taking personal offense and can get you socially ostracized if you talk about them to the wrong group of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 10:53 PM
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Weirdly enough, this sub helped me to enjoy chores and domestic responsibilities. Before I hated cleaning, and I wasn’t really that neat of a person, which is difficult when your husband has OCD and gets stressed out by messes. Now, I see it as “homemaking” instead of “housework.” I enjoy creating a clean, warm, and stress-free environment not just for myself, but for my husband to come home to. He works so hard to provide for our family, and that’s the least I can do for him. He is so appreciat…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 12:00 AM
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Making healthy meals for yourself and exercising doesn’t have to take up a ton of time. You could try meal prepping your meals for the week (or what I typically do is cook for four days at a time, that way the food doesn’t get too un-fresh in the fridge), and doing a more intense workout like HIIT to save time. Or, if you’re into running, cycling, swimming, etc, do it faster and for less time, or if it’s lifting weights, just go heavier and fewer reps/exercises. It doesn’t have to be every day, …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 11:31 PM
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I would suggest finding out what turns you on early on in the marriage, and let your husband know so that he can use that when he wants sex. Maybe you’ll like to be kissed and caressed and held close, and that’ll get you going and be something he can do. Some women on this sub read erotica before their husbands get home so that they’re in the mood. Maybe you’ll like spending time on self care stuff (a bubble bath, shave, doing your makeup and hair up, or whatever makes you feel beautiful and sex…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 11:21 PM
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Good for you; it sounds like it suits you and you’re happy. (Not sarcasm) I technically stay home (I do drive for DoorDash but that’s only to help pay for school expenses, and it’s a whenever-I-want thing), but I certainly do not watch TV all day. My husband works and provides financially, and I do all the cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, yard work, and I will be caring for our daughter once she arrives, in addition to taking college classes and being a reservist in the military. Ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 04:29 AM
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But do you have a good retirement plan? Are your other significant debts paid off? Investments? Enough money left over for vacations, toys you want, and/or to be a single income household? If your house was significantly damaged by a hurricane, could you afford to fix it? These are things I would consider when evaluating the value of a potential partner. I think around 250,000 a year is usually the level where most of the answers to those questions are “yes.”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 03:37 AM
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I’ve learned a lot from the relationships that I knew weren’t going to last, mostly what I liked/needed and what I didn’t like and what sorts of things were red flags. I think that’s a valuable thing for most people who have a couple or several relationships before marriage. I also have a lot of fond memories from past relationships that I definitely don’t regret making. But, at some point, I think people just get tired of the chase and doing the work to get to know someone new time and time aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 02:45 AM
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Income was a big thing for me when I was dating around. I wouldn’t say I’m shallow for it, as there were plenty of men that weren’t financially well-established that I felt attracted to; I just never let myself develop feelings for or go on dates with men unless they were well-off financially. I settled down with a lawyer who I am very much in love with for a myriad of other reasons besides economic status, but I’d be lying if I said I’m not grateful every day for the kind of lifestyle he can gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 02:16 AM
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I don’t think anyone is 100% feminine or 100% masculine, 100% of the time. RP theory just says that there are traits that are inherently appealing and more natural to most men, and traits that are appealing natural to most women. There’s always people who deviate from that, and you don’t have to categorize every trait, characteristic, interest, or behavior as either “masculine” or “feminine” if you don’t want to. Typically the “feminine” traits, according to RP theory, that resonate most with me…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 11:49 PM
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They’re 13 and 14, but I’ll definitely try those things when my coming daughter becomes a toddler. Thanks
/r/RedPillWives19/01/21 07:18 PM
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If it makes you or him feel any better, I was with my husband for 5 years before we got married, and the only reason we did so was so he could get on my military benefits. We already lived like a married couple, and nothing changed after that. We didn’t have a big wedding (or really so much a “wedding” at all); we just bought a little cake and stuck a wedding topper on it, got a couple flowers from the grocery store, acquired the rubber rings that military couples tend to wear, he put on a suit …
/r/RedPillWives08/01/21 01:23 AM
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BMI is not a perfect indicator of health, nor is it an indicator of every aspect of health. But it is a good guideline of where your weight should fall to minimize the health risks associated with being under or over weight. Obviously you should assess if you have a healthy body composition (that you have enough functional muscle mass to take care of yourself as you age and do the things you like, and not an excessive amount of body fat), but these things are not easily and as certainly calculat…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 05:14 PM
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I personally think the whole “women go downhill after age 25” sentiment is a little bit damaging, and shouldn’t be focused on if you’re a woman. Obviously you can’t go back in time; only continue to look after your self and continue to improve where you can. Just don’t worry about your age. I wouldn’t recommend dating anyone more than 2 years younger than you, and if possible, focus on men in their 30s and up. They are less likely to be immature and rude about your virginity and more likely to h…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 04:40 PM
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Nobody wants their partner to gain weight; that’s a perfectly valid feeling. Can you adjust you schedule so both of you can go to the gym together, or at least at the same time? Are there physically active activities you guys like doing together? What are each of your diets like? Are there ways you can support and encourage him to eat less/more healthfully? (For example, helping him to meal plan and prep, going out to eat less, not buying as much junk food if you’re the one responsible for groce…
/r/RedPillWives18/12/20 05:15 PM
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I would just say sweetly, “They’re gifts, honey...The children are really excited for you to enjoy them. With these (insert accessories), we can...” (And maybe hold onto the receipts.)Explaining the use of the accessories also draws the focus away from the cost and onto the benefits of having them. I was always taught to act grateful for gifts, even if I didn’t like them for whatever reason, because it’s important for the gift giver, who spent their time and money on it, to feel like they did a …
/r/RedPillWives18/12/20 04:51 PM
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Right, that too. Just as a thought experiment, if someone handed someone else their credit card and told them “You can buy whatever you want with this, provided it’s not drugs, sex, or anything explicitly illegal. Have fun,” and that person goes and buys themself the things they want, is it disrespectful to the owner of the credit card?
/r/askTRP18/12/20 12:09 AM
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Oh yes. I bawl my eyes out every night over the fact that I’m loved, well-provided for, and capable of allowing my partner all the freedom I am comfortable with. Woe is me
/r/askTRP17/12/20 11:57 PM
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Should he feel the need to sleep with someone younger, he has permission to do so, as long as they’re clean, sane, and not an ex. I am not a jealous or stingy person, and I don’t feel the need to keep his sexual talents to myself. I do,however, intend to stay healthy and very fit late into adulthood, and to continue to tend to his sexual needs as long as I am able to. I do not fear replacement, as our relationship is based on more than just sex
/r/askTRP17/12/20 11:29 PM
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You can always apologize to that first boyfriend; nothing wrong with clearing your conscience. Just make it clear that you’re not interested in anything else beyond the apology... As for making female friends, I feel your pain as I struggle with that too, especially when we’re all isolated from the pandemic. Here’s hoping someone will help both of us out by volunteering their wisdom! But in the mean time, keep a close watch on your relationship with your ex to make sure it doesn’t develop into s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/20 06:25 PM
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I’m sure you have plenty of experience with failed relationships; however, “It’s not your place, nor your concern” would have sufficed. Typically where somebody deposits their semen doesn’t come up in polite conversation. Plenty of others have elucidated similar ideas without resorting to crassness.
/r/askTRP17/12/20 11:56 AM
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Nice lol
/r/askTRP17/12/20 01:56 AM
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Thanks for your thoughtful reply. I’ll run some of your ideas by him and see what he thinks, and I agree- it’s way too easy for things to get nasty, both at home in front of the kids and in court. We are trying so hard to provide a calm home environment and an example of what a healthy relationship looks like for these poor girls, you know?
/r/askTRP16/12/20 11:52 PM
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Thanks. I guess the hypergamous nature of women and our desire for security above all else- those two things seem rather contradictory, don’t they? How can someone be secure and satisfied in a relationship if they’re always looking for the next best thing? One thing I loved discovering for myself on the women’s side was that femininity is what brings out masculinity, and vice versa. I don’t know if it works for everybody, necessarily, but going back to more traditional gender roles has worked wo…
/r/askTRP16/12/20 11:48 PM
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Those are solid ideas. Hoping once the vaccines are distributed and the pandemic is over, we can find more activities to do outside of the house. One would also think “I’m pregnant and can’t take care of Step Daughter’s small pets when she’s not here without risking birth defects from bacteria” would be enough of a deterrent for Ex Wife, but no...
/r/askTRP16/12/20 11:38 PM
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Yeah.. I’ve lurked in the men’s side of TRP a lot before settling over in the women’s subs, and it’s revealed to me a lot of truths about my gender and the way we respond to things. (Likewise for men on the women’s side.) I thought this would be a good group to ask.
/r/askTRP16/12/20 07:36 PM
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I think older men are wonderful. They’re usually more mature, know what they want, don’t play any games, have their lives in order, are experienced in bed... and they appreciate you more. My husband is uh, much older than me, and yeah, we did get a lot of judgement from my family at first, and often from the people We work with still, but it doesn’t bother us much anymore. We’re just happy together. My family said that since we’ve been together, I’ve been much more stable, and his friends said t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 02:42 PM
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The problem is that you were going to the gym for a man instead of yourself. If he motivated you, that’s fine, but at the core of it, exercise is about taking care of YOU and your body. It’s supposed to be a deeply personal and meaningful thing for each individual. Don’t let your self-care be sabotaged by some stranger with wandering eyes. Instead, go back to the gym (or whatever form of exercise you find enjoyable, effective, and satisfying) and push yourself like you were before. Get the body …
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 02:09 PM
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There are always ways to be new and interesting to your partner. The best thing about sex is how versatile it is, and how many things can be turn ons. You could suggest experimenting, or just strive to learn new techniques and see if he likes them. You could try roleplaying, costumes or new lingerie, changing up the location of the act, the time of day, etc. (as long as you’re both comfortable with it.) In my opinion, your partner is lucky to have someone who is so concerned with pleasing him. T…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 03:28 AM
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An easy thing I’ve started doing is that whenever I use the last of a food item (or notice containers/packaging in the recycling bin/trash that indicate an item has run out), I immediately jot it down on a little notepad that’s stuck to the fridge. Other than that, I just check the pantry and fridge before I leave to see if anything’s running low or obviously missing from its usual spot, and make sure I either have the ingredients I need for cooking meals for the week or that the missing ones en…
/r/RedPillWives11/12/20 02:38 AM
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His OCD is a mental illness that just happened to him, for which he is going to therapy and is constantly attempting to control. (It’s the same way with me and my periodic depressive episodes. I do my best to prevent them, and he still loves and supports me through them.) It’s not my “problem,” but my duty as his wife to make him happy and his life as easy and enjoyable as possible. If a clean, organized house makes him happy, then that’s what I strive to give him.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/20 02:05 AM
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My husband and I keep our finances separate, but he pays for almost everything (the house, utilities, groceries, phone bill, car insurance, TV subscriptions, meals out, vacations, etc.) because he can. I don’t make much money at all, and what little I do make goes into paying down credit cards and student loans. I budget and pay for things I want (but don’t need), gifts, gas for my car, personal app subscriptions, and occasionally groceries for the household if I’m doing well. If there’s somethi…
/r/RedPillWives08/12/20 06:35 PM
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I'm just saying that many, many things in life that might seem black and white are not really so. People have convictions about lots of things- racism, feminism, religion, reproductive rights, politics, medical practices... It doesn't mean that you didn't previously hold a belief to be an absolute truth if something comes along that rocks your worldview and changes your mind. It's entirely possible to say, "I believe this to be true, but I understand there is nuance to the situation, and that ot…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 10:38 PM
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You can have very strong convictions that you believe whole-heartedly, but still come upon information and experiences that change the way you understand reality. In the example of whether or not to have sex before marriage, there are generally two main reasons why people choose not to: 1) They believe it is immoral, shameful, or sinful. 2) They believe it is in one's best interest to only ever have one sexual partner, and often view virginity as a gift to be given to/shared with one's spouse. P…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 09:39 PM
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I’m gonna start out by saying that I am the one with poor mental health in my relationship. My husband has his issues, but he is medicated and therapy’ed, whereas I am not (pregnant now and planning to breastfeed, so I can’t start meds even if I wanted to, and as my issues are mainly biological, talk therapy has never helped me, personally, all that much) and therefore he handles episodes much better than I do. When I get into my funks, I usually resort to TV, fiction books, or heavy social medi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 06:09 PM
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Is that a jab at you, suggesting that you don’t express your feelings, or am I reading too far into it? Persistent anger is never a positive characteristic. When people are angry, their blood pressure rises, they often don’t think rationally and logically (as men are meant to), and they send that angry, chaotic, tense energy into their interactions and whatever environment they’re angry in. It’s not a healthy thing. “Expressing one’s emotions” in a healthy, productive way entails being self-awar…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 10:47 PM
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That’s fair. Sounds like you’re doing your part...Is he seeing somebody for anger management? Therapy really helped my husband with dealing with his stress and anger; he’s become a whole new man over the years
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 08:52 PM
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People get into moods, sometimes; it’s a fact of life. Can you encourage your partner to come to bed earlier, and ensure that the bedroom is ideal for sleeping (clean, made up bedding, cool but not cold room temp, completely dark, no electronics going except for maybe a humidifier, silent unless white noise is preferred, etc)? If he’s well rested, he’s less likely to wake up cranky, and you’ll benefit from improved sleep quality as well. Can you do nice things for him in the morning to make waki…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 08:24 PM
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I just think it’s super confusing, and it’s often hard to tell what the heck your body is doing unless you’re getting regular blood tests and ultrasounds or whatever, like at a fertility clinic. It took me forever to conceive, and I frequented a lot of TTC forums filled with women confused about whether or not they were ovulating. Some people’s temps are all over the place for one reason or another, LH tests generally have to be taken 2x a day for accuracy and are affected by your hydration leve…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 07:12 PM
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Like I said, nothing is 100%. I believe the stats say something like, the pull-out method works 60-70% of the time, condoms (used correctly) about 95% of the the time, and natural family planning is highly variable, but still better than nothing. If you combine those things, you can get pretty close to 100%, but not all the way there, and there’s a very small chance that even if those things fail and you take Plan B (again, for emergency use only), it could fail to prevent implantation from happ…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 02:52 PM
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Infertility can happen to anyone, at any age, and it’s honestly heartbreaking. I’ll tell you my story, and hopefully the ending with leave you feeling more reassured. I’ve had PCOS since puberty, and ended up with one ovary after a massive cyst killed one of them off and it had to be surgically removed. NBD, the doctors said; you’ll still be able to have children with the one remaining. Fast forward, and I’m 22, married and ready to start trying, but my periods are either absent, or come every o…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 02:32 PM
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Self defense lessons are a good idea, but it should never be your first response to use what you’ve learned in them. Running and getting help first are always your safest options, both physically and legally. Using physical force for protection should always be a last resort, and weapons like pepper spray and handguns (after extensive safety training) are optimal when your opponent is bigger and stronger than you. Developing confidence to stand up for yourself in a strictly verbal confrontation …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 02:03 PM
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Using a condom from the get-go correctly as well as having the dude pull out before ejaculation is very effective. However, it does put a lot of responsibility on the guy, and you have to trust him not to stealth you (“slip” out of the condom or break it on purpose) and to pull out. Natural family planning (sex only on safe days) is effective only if your cycles are super regular and your ovulation/menstruation symptoms are extremely clear, and even then, a small change could happen and cause yo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 01:47 PM
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When I started cleaning more and dressing up daily and generally being more attentive and house-wifey, my husband asked what changed. I told him I had found a “woman’s group” on reddit that was inspirational, but he was curious and just asked questions until I told him all about it. We don’t talk about it often, but every once in a while it comes up in conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 06:51 PM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 02:24 PM
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Okay, that’s fair. But it’s sort of like dressing up when you go out and you get guys flirting with you that you’re not one bit interested in. Like, it feels nice to be looked at, but not as nice to be approached.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 02:16 PM
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I asked him about it and he says he doesn’t care. There are times when he’s even encouraged it (“put on something sexy and come to the bar we’re at” for example.) He knows he’s the only one I want and that I don’t flirt back. He’s very secure. His friends wouldn’t try anything that would upset him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 02:10 PM
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It’s more just dressing kind of sluttier. Like yesterday I wore a pencil skirt with a lacy button-up top and a comfy bra , but when he said they were coming over, I put on a push-up bra and undid a button or two. (I asked hubs if it was “too much” and he said no.) My everyday outfits are more pretty/classy, and the racier things for my husbands viewing are like, full sets of matching lingerie and costumes and such. He’s the one that gets to see me naked at the end of the day, you know? I do thin…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 01:59 PM
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I honestly don’t feel jealousy unless it’s in regards to my husband’s ex wife. We have a semi-open relationship to other women, although he rarely seems interested in getting with anyone else unless I’m also involved. I think if he came home talking about a younger, prettier, better-cooking woman, it would be highly motivating to me to cook better and manage my body/looks. I know someday I’m not gonna be young, and that I’ll have wrinkles and crepey skin and more stretch marks after this child, …
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 01:43 PM
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That’s great advice; thank you
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 03:28 AM
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Thanks for the link; I’m def going to check that out. I would really like to behave like that around my husband all the time; it’s something I’m working on. I do dress up just for him often as well (daily nice clothing and hair and makeup did even when just staying at home, and racier things when we get alone time.)I do think the extra motivation when there are others around hints at hypergamy, as you said.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 03:27 AM
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Written porn never hurt anyone. Read away
/r/RedPillWives27/11/20 03:28 PM
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If you focus on wealthy, career-established men, typically a little older, then it’s more likely that he’ll be interested in settling down and comfortable with supporting you and your potential family while you SAH. It’s a lot more difficult to live on one partner’s income when they’re younger and just getting started in their career (or worse, working a low-paying, dead end job). The values/ideas about family of older men are typically more traditional as well.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 06:59 PM
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I don’t ever see this as a scenario that would really happen irl. You don’t have to settle with a person you’re not attracted to. People will tell you that it’s harder to find LTRs as you get older, and that’s true, but it’s certainly not impossible to the point where you have a time limit for deciding who to marry
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 06:52 PM
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Do you feel like this man will leave you if you two don’t marry eventually? What makes marriage so important to you? I have been with my husband for nearly 6 years, and neither of us entered the relationship wanting to get married. The only reason we ended up doing so was because he left his first job to focus on his private practice and needed replacement health insurance, and now he and his daughters are on my military plan. We didn’t have a wedding, just eloped and went on a little trip after…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 04:26 PM
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Excellent response. OP, if there’s any one response you should listen to, it’s this one.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 05:04 PM
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It may help to focus on building healthy habits instead of relying on willpower. You sound like you know what produces weight loss (CICO), but at some point weight management should require little effort or conscious thought. Find exercise that you genuinely love to do, and schedule it into your week. Set regular times for it, and if possible to do so safely, do it with other people. In terms of diet, you can try making small changes until they’re effortless, and then moving onto other changes. …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 03:22 PM
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The men on the red pill side would call that “spinning plates.” Don’t be a plate; be a priority.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 03:07 PM
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If you’re not attracted to him for multiple reasons, maybe it would be best to look for someone else? I always say, statistically speaking, we probably all have more than one “soul mate” out there. My personal experience is that if the relationship goes well, it’s easier to ignore small innate unattractive characteristics. For example, my husband is only slightly taller than me, and that bothered me at first, but now I barely think about it. (He is also quite muscular and thick, and I feel safe …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 03:04 PM
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I certainly don’t think those things replace a long term relationship, but I do think they would help with loneliness. And the vast majority of people have a sex drive; I don’t think casual sex, done safely with relatively few partners, is really that big of a deal. If your relatively low body count is something over which a potential romantic partner loses interest in you, you probably wouldn’t want to end up with them anyway. I know that’s not the most red pilled thing to say, but red pill the…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 02:53 PM
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I am pregnant currently and dealing with a rapidly emerging baby bump. I had been living in PJs and dumpy athleisure wear for a while until I recently came across some advice that suggested to always dress nicely, even when just lounging at home. I have been sorting through my clothing and focusing on loose/flowy pieces, dresses and tops with umpire waists, and pants and jumpers made of nice-looking but stretchy material with an accommodating cut. So far I have not bought maternity clothes, and …
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 10:01 PM
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Sorry everyone is downvoting your comments so much. Having an new RP outlook on life doesn’t mean you shouldn’t seek happiness for yourself, or that you always have to move slowly. You seem like a person who is honest with herself and works hard; a key aspect of RP theory is assessing what your part in a relationship is and where your faults lie first, and I don’t think you’ve failed to do that in your first marriage, and I doubt you will in this relationship either. Don’t let anyone else instil…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 09:47 PM
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I do think people get lonely and crave romance and intimacy, but if you don’t find anyone you’re happy to settle down with, what’s a person to do? You can always surround yourself with emotionally nourishing, platonic relationships in addition to all the things Tiszens mentioned. And just have casual sex occasionally.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 09:22 PM
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I’m definitely a minority here, but I love that kind of stuff. I’m bisexual, so it’s usually hubs and I checking out women together lol... it’s also nice to see what he likes and get some ideas, you know? (Oh, he likes that style/cut of bikini/lingerie, or maybe I should cut a little weight or do more cardio to look more like that chick, for example.) I don’t really ever feel jealousy. We also have a semi-open relationship, where we are both allowed to sleep with other women; although he rarely …
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 09:15 PM
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